 but okay here we are coming up right now coming from Texas Steve Maeda El Topo three years he spoke in here this is his third year and he's always got exactly yeah he's got quite a following thanks guys I'll pay you afterwards very good and doesn't need yeah exactly well then it's a little bit fucked up this year but doesn't need much of an introduction but give it up for him he's going to speak for an hour it's always great so here Steve El Topo yes hey thank you thank you um Peter I want this to be as interactive as possible because nobody ever people aren't interacting enough and I wish they would so let's keep that mic somewhere where we can put it and if somebody can like help pass it around maybe that's you be usually standing back and all the stuff so look there's a lot of stuff first off for the 21 convention I love this convention it's organic it's an experience it's all the stuff where we can we can exchange ideas and it's a community and man this it gets better and better every year whereas we have speakers on health nutrition you know business stuff and of course women and everybody has all this you know amazing women advice unfortunately you would think in three years I'd get more time but I get less time this year I only get an hour so check this out alright you're cutting into my time dream okay so check this out first off you can find my stuff at this amazing site which every marketer will tell you is a horrible you know website and there's a dot and there's a calm but look that's it you can find all about me and I would definitely say go there get on the email list all that fun stuff and because the majority of all the stuff the experience of working with me is not going to be this hour here or whatever you're seeing online and all that fun stuff but what I wanted to do is I wanted to talk about a few things I gave a layer talk last night and I was like I didn't know how to start off the layer talk because coming here I was talking to a lot of my friends in Austin there's a lot of guys in the community and the community is just like so saturated and can get so kind of like fucked up at times that that's what I wanted to talk about so first off how many guys are like brand new to this like brand new in the sense of we got two under six months oh we got a few more Greg yep you know so under six months cool and then how many guys have been in it for like a year how many guys have been in it more than that god damn all right so most of the people have actually been in been in this for like more than a year which is pretty cool but we see the pickup community oh man I need like a napkin or something or my shirt huh you guys want to see me whatever whatever tough crowd we'll use the hands right Peter Murphy that's a cue for me to for you to get you know right oh shit all right have Steve look stupid on stage.com there you go okay but see so what I want to do is actually I want to talk about what defines the pu fuck dude have Steve look really stupid the Pua and slash seduction community all right so what are some of the things that that might define this and I'll help you you start off what would make a pickup guy good you California oh wait I guess you first fake it till you make it and what what did you have to say oh good fake it till you make it see I'm writing kind of like text language what else do we got balls risk balls integrity all right nobody else what are some what are some techniques that go into let's look at this because part of this is part of my problem with the pickup community is that it is it has no definition to it and yet it has now become defined by the marketing you guys have been in this thing for over two years you guys know about the emails and like you're gonna fuck 10s in one night or whatever so stuff like that what is it like we'll say dominance touching Jesus touching Kino routines escalating well well dancing was that you Greg I got some great video of this guy I want to see that in the bathroom later all right I will say dancing huh that wasn't really my angle here but nonetheless okay so look all of this and this is for like pickup artist stuff it's like how to be cool you know how to better yourself you know improve all that fun stuff in it and sadly a lot of it is about the quick fix right and then when we get into to the seduction industry when we're learning about sex when we're learning about how to be better with women and all that sort of stuff we're gonna learn about like orgasms and we're gonna learn about like quick sex and we're gonna like when I first came to the community first of when I first came to the community when I spoke here well it was a little bit after that but when I spoke here probably like in 2008 it was like man the opener was still kind of like jealous girlfriend was getting a little bit saturated and now the opener is like man you're adorable I just had to come talk to you which is getting a little bit saturated yet nobody really does the stuff after that which is important but when I first came here to be a pickup artist when I first came to the community to be a pickup artist I had to actually you know what was it like you know go on a day two and fuck a chick if I did that that means that means I was a pooh and then it became like you know and then then I was in Dallas right and so in Dallas we came up with the term SNL because it didn't exist in 2007 an SNL did not exist until CJ coined it because it was called a fool's mate and then it was the same at lay and then you had to get sex like within four hours then you had to get sex within 20 minutes then you had to get sex like you if you're not a fucking pickup artist if you are did you fuck the chick in the bathroom of the club man fuck you dude you got no like you want on one three dates with her and you didn't fucking dominate her pussy man Jesus all right I took her to fucking Mecca when they're walking around the thing and then I fucking sodomized her and said that's a fucking pickup artist and she said I worship your dick I worship and she got on to it and that's what that's what game is guys you want that I'll give you the techniques and that's the problem it's because this this all that we define ourselves by it has no definition everybody sits there and says you want to be a better man everybody says you want to be somebody that that can live a life which is full and that can be complete you know when you signed up for those email lists and you're typing on it and whatever it was with me it was like Thunder Cat and David D'Angelo and you know Swing Cat and those fools you know and I'm writing on there and they're like man you could get any woman I wanted I wanted that power but really what was happening was like dude I was lonely I wanted to connect with a woman I wanted all those things and somehow because also I'm pretty fucking crazy right you know my my end goal got distorted by all this interference right in here check this out all these things are actually good things but defined or not defined they're going to rely purely on the action all right so let's take a look just really quickly if we're a man if we are looking at the actions of what a PUA does a seducer somebody somebody you know who's good with women so those actions would be what you know they're going to be people let's do some techniques you know we'll say some nags that's great you know nags can be great we'll say you know qualifiers what else what else we got FTC baby that's not the federal trade commission that's false time constraint all right what else touching cold reads oh yeah oh man I haven't heard that one a long time but that's a good one that's a good one I'll put touching there future event projections all right FEP don't mistake of that with EFT guys all right what else we got what else we got this yeah you laugh or leans all right tap that out in the bathroom you and me later with Greg all right so because that's where really that's the best place to tap anything but all right so what else good with women seduction seducer PUA's what are some of the actions come on there's more of them there's owning the club you know I heard I hear guys say all the time like the key to attraction you know what women are gonna find attraction is if you walk in the club and everybody fucking knows you man let me tell you something I I fucking drove out here my cars like popping out of gear and all this crazy so there's nothing special about my shit right but at the same time the reason why I wear all these like on the mattresses because my friends are on this company you want to cut the line at like the best clubs in the world I'll have to do is call them and they will have me cut the line with 16 guys or whatever and it happens many times happens in Vegas all that fun stuff but that don't mean shit that doesn't mean anything because look when I do that I am defining myself by my actions yeah some chicks give me attention but they don't fucking like me so check this out the pickup community the seduction community now and what I mean by that is like you know all those guys selling you sex and all those guys selling you techniques all this stuff it is defined by its marketing it's defined by its act it's it's actions and when we have a solid definition which we forget many times is to maybe be better with women maybe connect with people maybe actually to experience with people all right one more framing when I gave layer talks around the country quite a bit which I should probably do more of framing was what everybody wanted to know about and let's do sexual framing right sexual framing all right so when we define ourselves purely by those actions were left to be defined by this and how many guys out there we go out there we went out there last night we're all bragging about it or whoever's bragging about it all that shit and you know probably not nobody got laid who gives a fuck but the thing was is what you hear everybody talking about it was like oh man I dominated that chick I dominated that set da da da da da and it's not the experience oh my god man I had frame control I was frame controlling the woman you know a frame control means and that's great you know I think frame control is a great tool but when that becomes my God or that becomes my definition what is it it means I'm a I'm fucking afraid to experience with somebody right and what this was all about and what this really should be all about hopefully should be all about is experiencing with somebody and maybe having a sexual connection in those things and building that sexual confidence and having that and being proud to be you if you live by this what's the outcome man if you live by what are the true roads and it's not anybody's fault who's teaching this stuff it's the mechanism that we put it in we put it in the level of you know routines hey here's a customized map here's here's well nobody's offering a customized map but but here's here's here's a structured map for you to do these things if you master this technique if you master this technique if you master touching if you mask their escalation you will be good with women and that's not true man that puts you in a template of evolving towards something where you cannot be proud of yourself and when you're not proud of yourself you don't get results because the mechanism doesn't work you think there's something wrong with you and that leads to shame and how many fucking people out here how many people out here like have seen somebody get all pissed off and become a hater of the community man that shit happens I mean that's fucking that should be everybody I mean I was talking to a man who wasn't the other day and they were talking about pu hate pu a hate which you can find all sorts of great stuff about me on there right but and I encourage you add some more because I have a life you know hopefully but but the thing is is that site it's like how did that start how did that start because these guys were sold a fucking false expectation of what they could do come on I mean I'm being amogged by this guy I want my money back now but they're being sold a false expectation on you know what they can get you're gonna get 10s you're gonna own the club you're gonna finally be able to be cool you're gonna finally be able to to fuck a chick and she can have other boyfriends but she's gonna be thinking about you well they're Dick center and all that stuff and you know what that stuff that stuff's like you know great and all but without connection that becomes something completely completely alien right and what we need to be defined by or hopefully be defined by is this fun stuff if we can be sexual and if we can connect and if we look through a filter of these things when we start listing out those topics of let's say teasing nagging qualifying and you guys can fill them in you know framing all that stuff it stops being such look at that man it's fucking slick dude it starts being it stops being such a manipulative thing and it stops being something where we can actually you know you know it's not about value it's not about the economics of it it's not about selling somebody sure you having a hard time seeing over there and what needs to happen is this needs to come from who you are right and there needs to be a sense of pride in it so what I want to do in doing all of this I want you guys to have an interactive experience because everybody always loves when I start pulling routines and customizing stuff out of my ass and all the fun stuff and what I want to do is actually talk to you guys about shit that you may think might be wrong with you might be good about you might be you know something that you're afraid to bring up something that you're curious to bring up you know with women and those sorts of things I want to bring up I want to actually talk about that stuff and workshop with you guys via the microphone so first what we're going to do before I show you this immaculately amazing method and process I want you to start saying let's we'll go with some good qualities good things go with some bad things bad things things you're afraid of and things that you're we'll say curious all right so what I mean by this some of you guys came to the layer talk what I mean is good things about yourself then what I want is things that you might think are bad or things you're ashamed of or those types of things things they might think are DLVs low value right and then I want to I want you to also give me some things that you might be afraid of you might be curious about and you will see them put through the Steve El Topo mixed master and fire out gold to you right if only there was like a porn trick that I could do that was that good but whatever all right so let's check this out Peter's walking around with a microphone and everybody passed it around like it's you know some sort of party favorite a bachelor party and this is like such a tough always with the 21 convention I know Jesus Christ fucking splashes as it hits the ground all right so who here wants to start off in this who good qualities bad qualities nobody X X it's X I'll go with a bad sometimes I get in my head I get really quiet and I just okay so we can say quiet yeah quiet and I'll even say introverted sure well whatever introverted that will stand for introverted then mr. van oh I thought you all right go ahead bad is comparing myself to others and do their results we'll just say comparing because I ran out of room all right what else we got and they can be anything you can do good things to good things to mr. Tallahassee what's up I can be very overconfident at times all right and that could I'm gonna put that in both so we'll say confident and then we'll say overconfident okay good well endowed well endowed all right we'll say we'll say afraid that'll put fear I'm afraid of that for the tapping experience we're having later all right so nobody's got nobody's got anything so some but I'll keep firing them out because I want you guys to be interactive some good things might be like you know being social right I might be being sexual what are some other good things come on party people kinds having fun fun all right help me fill in this bad thing lack of experience apathetic toward others apathetic apathetic creepy here we go here we go all right I ran out of room so let's go with curious curious about women what are we curious towards women probably everybody was saying last night you know what do women really sexually think so sexual perspective you guys got it all figured out what's that how women view men how old how women view okay all right how women view men how to make squirt my girls give mixed signals mixed signals that's a good one why buying temperature so fickle I had no idea what why buying temperature so fickle what the fuck did he just say all I hear it with Greg all I hear is raspiness and I know it's gonna be something like haha this is gonna be funny all right nobody on this side this side's like a limp dick showing up to the fuckfest you're the guy on the college fuckfest video that's standing off in the background going it's a good site good site Alex what they're passionate about okay cool and then let's go into things we're afraid of we're all afraid of Greg's cock but oh wait what do you got no afraid of failure yes I like afraid of failure I'm not sure if I can take all of that dick all right but I'll digest that shit social reputation yes yes okay we got to have more you sir working really hard not going anywhere with it working really hard so hard work without result yeah keep him coming not being happy not be all yes okay so we're gonna stop here now check this out we have all these qualities and maybe we should here this this technology here we have with multicolored markers so we can actually see you know the little topics and all that shit we have the blue marker so these are these are like four things that we could talk about all of these things have to do with us now when we look at this when we look at confidence being social being sexual being kind being fun being quiet and introverted comparing yourself to others being overly confident lack of experience being awkward being apathetic being creepy being curious about somebody sexually perspective sexual perspectives how women view men how to make a woman's squirt mixed mixed signals you know passions well endowed failure social reputation hard work all that stuff not being happy look at this it's going in blue because it's so important I forgot to write it right but not being happy all those things right those are all parts of us now how many people think that you could actually be socially attractive and sexually attractive by being able to show those things within like the first five minutes of talking to somebody yes yes I haven't heard from you sir Peter Murphy run run run um so what's how would you see it what's the question again well you see you guys think that you could have this show this to a woman in the first five minutes socially and sexually confident in the first yes no to be socially and sexually confident while showing these things while showing what everything one of them one from each I don't know why I got the mic I don't even know what the question is that's why maybe maybe I'm not clear enough but but but check this out my whole point is is that we can right and how we do that is kind of opposite from what everybody was always telling us what everybody was always telling us it's like hey look you know follow follow my routines be me you know your life kind of sucks and doesn't have these results so do what I do or be a natural which being a natural these days is some sort of like you know fucking masturbation frenzy circle jerk whatever and like to dominate dominate that woman that woman that woman's with a guy that one's with a guy go go and put your arm around her take away from the guy man that's what a natural doesn't say oh fuck man I know plenty of guys that are good with women but it has like nothing to do with with any of that shit you know and that's the problem man the pickup industry following all this other stuff is telling you to ignore this telling to ignore what truly interests you and actually telling you to follow something else and when you follow something else you are defined by those actions and then you stop wanting to appreciate women you stop wanting to you know connect with a woman you stop wanting to be sexual with a woman like look I love I love Dan Rose I love the sex God method all the stuff that the other day he's sitting here telling us this is this is a funny story and I was Jeff was telling me to bring these up but this is one of them is that the a couple days before I came here I was I was with this chick and I hooked up with her hooked up with her once before she has all these issues and all stuff and I'm not saying and by all means I'm no stallion but I was with that chick I slept with her for two hours right and she did not have an orgasm and I will tell you this I'd say I'm not I'm no Greg I'm no libido there but I'm pretty good at making that shit happen and the thing is if I were a pickup artist right if I were putting myself through that filter of being a PUA what would that mean that would mean I failed that would mean I failed because what I didn't make her come because I didn't make her I didn't dominate her or whatever you know what I will tell you this leaving that experience when I hit the road she felt like a woman she felt sexual she felt comfortable and you know what she has some issues and if I can give her that gift that's great but why the fuck would I define myself by that bullshit why would I put the value if you're putting yourself with a value of like a girl who you can make make common 10 seconds or whatever or a girl you have sex with for two months in order to do that who the fuck cares man because that value is the experience and what we're told and again it's not what he's telling you is is is a bad thing it's the method of which people are telling you things within this community because it's the market you it's to sell you it's to to get you to buy into whatever beliefs that it's going to change your life and what changes your life is being human being able to experience and being able to connect with people being able to have a human conversation with somebody that's what we're doing it all for and we forget right all right so back to all this stuff after that tirade I'll get to the bathroom one in a second but so the good things we can obviously show so give me a give me a raise of somebody's hands who wants a routine made for them this guy mr. California sorry Peter sorry but in any case what we're going to do and I'll give you the little technique and all that fun stuff for this afterwards and there's a whole bunch but where is it that you like to what do you want do you want an opener do you want something you can bring up do you want something I would say probably a comfort probably can then like a mid game okay so mid game all right cool as you guys may or may not know I've had this thing called the red stack forever and it's like kind of the only customized thing out there and I don't know why all right so which of these things of these categories do you relate with the most or would you want to know mid game about I would say so pick one for me you're saying sure okay so for good I would say social social and bad I was probably say awkward all right for afraid probably social reputation and failure okay and for curious or those again a sexual perspective how women view men how to make a woman's court make signals and passion probably how women view men how women view men yeah okay so what we got is we got this one we got this one we got this one we got this one and in mid game so what we want to do mid game wise is a lot of that has to do with storytelling and this actually fits for this what all like we've all heard of the term qualification right qualification just means to assert yourself and see if somebody accepts it all right that's it all right it doesn't mean that you need to get somebody compliant with it if somebody's compliant with it that's great you know if you're like escalating on somebody you know and you're making the moves and she's like escalating back and grabs your dick you're like hey that's good but if you're escalating on her and she's still there in front of you that's her accepting it so she's not complaining so what we want to do is we want to fit this in a template of qualification and what this is going to do is show you I'm going to give a couple demos of how to customize this stuff so you could you could be talking to somebody first off if you're in in a level of comfort tech tactically you should be isolated you should be somewhere where they're just in front of you and you're just talking to them her friends can be around or you could be like you know in some cave somewhere or whatever I don't know what your deal is but cave would be good and we have separate techniques for that you guys are slow crap always at the 21 convention so anyway what we want to do is we want to say hey you know this is really weird I really I've had like a good time talking to you but you know at the same time I'm a really social guy but at the same time I can be totally awkward all right so we're gonna bring it up in the first sentence and in that first sentence we're gonna show a little bit of intent right we say hey you know what I'm a really I'm a really you're cool chick I really like you and I'm really social but I'm also really awkward that's like kind of a weird dynamic because at the same time a lot of people see me from my social side but they don't want to see the inside of me or the stuff which really makes me work and I think women are kind of that way but you know what here's the thing women are so all over the place like I never get it like how the hell do women view men so what was your first impression of me so you're gonna qualify ask based on that and then you're gonna go into she should probably won't be able to give you a thorough answer she'll say like oh you're tall cuz dude you motherfucking are tall this guy's like 611 or some shit but but anyway so you say so what was my first what was your first impression of me and she'll say oh you were funny or you were tall you're gonna now man see that's not what I mean see what I value with myself is like how people really see me not just the social side of me but also that reputation that I build not just the social reputation but that side of me that's that's entirely there because when you can look at my awkward side and when you can look at my social side and have fun with that then you can have the complete me and then you can slip into all the sort of stuff like for instance we're talking right now but dude I don't want to be I don't want to be talking to the false you I don't want to be talking to the you that's afraid I and you know I'm not saying anything here but if we were if we were getting physical if we were making out if we were you know engaging in some sort of physical thing I wouldn't be wanted I wouldn't want to be engaging with the fear I wouldn't want to be engaging with the facade I wouldn't want to be engaging with any sort of nervous or nervousness or your reactions so let me ask you now what was your first impression of me all right so what's happening there and for you guys who came to layer talk on I'll write this down in a second there's a process which is happening you guys probably just thought those were words and Steve was saying some like crazy shit which is true but I'm actually qualifying I'm grounding I'm qualifying again and then I'm fitting a definition to it or framing it all right who else who else want something you're welcome you're welcome Venezuela just on the part of how to make women's court how would you open it okay so let's say in comfort and it is an opener is attraction or in comfort or seduction seduction we have to get like Erica you're the only one sorry not breast milk the vagina squirt right okay but yeah opening opening opening okay so if you wanted to open with something like that if you want to open and be sexual check this out all right when people hear a lot of my stuff in field I'll like say all sorts of sexually funny stuff that's not sexual all right that's like being sexual and being funny but sexual is actually like connecting and interacting and hopefully we'll have time to talk about that but in fact let's just fucking put that in an opener all right so mr. Venezuela walks up to the women and he says in bar club daytime what daytime daytime all right and all you motherfucking all you motherfucking goddamn queer bitches look I love homosexual people because they have more balls than puas right and they will talk about sex instantly right and you can learn something from them probably a lot probably how to make a woman's squirt which doesn't make sense but they got answers that but whatever the thing is they will always talk about sex and everybody who thinks you can't talk to a woman about sex in the daytime you are a fool you are a fool and you do not understand well you will learn to understand women how about that but if you went up to a woman you said hey look and you could even use me as an example you could say hey look I went to this conference and it was like these guys talking about stuff and they're talking about women and I really want to know this because there's a difference between sex and sexuality you know what I mean all right and they will know what you mean I dare you to ask but I say it all the time I'll say there's a difference between sex and sexuality you know what I mean right and so check this out you know how like man you're gonna get totally embarrassed or whatever but like you're an open-minded girl right right and they'll say yes oh your judgmental I can't tell you and they'll say yes yes yes yes no I'm open-minded I won't mind tell me all right you know how like guys you know guys are like all alpha and stuff and they're always acting like they're cool and they're always like talking about their dicks but they're really insecure about their dicks and like the thing was is that guys don't realize is that women think the same stuff about sex and that parlays right into sex and sexuality right because women define themselves by how they're portrayed sexually you know as like an object or whatever like Lady Gaga or something on TV but at the same time like to truly know what a good sexual experience is like would you be comfortable enough to say that I know you're a total stranger do you know what that is because like to me a good sexual experience is they always say like for instance every woman can like squirt or some shit which I don't know if that's true I don't I don't know I don't know if that's true but like if you ever been comfortable enough to let yourself go in front of a man in that way and I'll tell you what man I'll tell you this if you come out and field with me but you know that's kind of limited at this point but if you come out you will see me talk about this shit endlessly with women but that's that's kind of an elongated opener but nonetheless and you could even say this you could say you know what I'm really curious about some because these guys are talking about women and sex and all this sort of stuff but they were talking and this could be right in the beginning they were talking and don't get all embarrassed they were talking about women's squirting is that like a myth or is that real because what I think it is is that's where guys mix up sex and sexuality sex to guys it's like the act right and it's not the emotion and it's not all the other stuff behind it but I think to be sexual like any woman could squirt or feel comfortable and do you think that and she I mean she'll get afraid she'll get like why are you asking me this is so weird but if you have like a good enough ability to tease to qualify and pretty much just those you'll be able to get out of it but the problem is through the filtration of the pickup community when I when I say shit like that oh Steve's being sexual and like I can't tell you how many guys would be like hey hey bitch how's your pussy yeah dude I mean like no dude I saw Steve talk to this girl in fact I did a layer talk in Orlando and I was talking to the waitress and I left with the waitress and everybody was like oh my god and Steve was talking about like making babies with her and like how a woman's pussy juice with different ethnicity types oh man I'm gonna fucking dude pussy juice black woman Indian woman I know all about you woman and then you know they get slapped in the face of some shit but see the thing is is my motive is to connect to them I'll say that stuff and and I really want to know and at first it might be a little bit of a joke but a lot of times I'm really fucking serious about it all right keep going one more person and I'll get it I'll get into the method of this how am I doing on time thanks thanks man nobody else come on on this side all right oh okay let's say so social is good bad I'd say lack experience okay afraid social reputation and curious the women viewing men all right so these are actually in you know in the obviously like 20 20-year-old wait how old are you 20 okay so these are actually like really really really really big things and even lack of experience is a big thing you know social that's great that's great I diminish the good stuff but so check this out lack of experience people think because they have lack of experience women won't find them attractive and what you need to do and all this stuff is when you start interacting with women because the experience right it's not the fucking doing the routines and the tricks and gaining power and like you know dominating these bitches or whatever it's the experience of talking to the women that's what's gonna change your beliefs right that's what's gonna change it and I'll go off in a little bit of a tangent here there's three people that have influenced my life as a seducer pickup artist whatever you want to call it that would be number one the California Pimp all right you might not know about him but he's a guy who would seduce chicks on camera and all that stuff number two would be Jason Savage and number three Captain Jack all those people are motherfucking seducers there's nothing showy about any of those guys and I will tell you this all of those guys do stuff which is really fucking dominant really great what all the pickup guys do right all of them you know they'll be like they'll be like you know what man fucking woman's doing that Jesus Christ shut up man they're always gonna be blabber they'll say shit like that that might be chauvinistic right but never never do those guys think ever that they do not appreciate women their end goal is to appreciate that woman straight up all right whereas the pickup guy is like my end goal is to out nager you know my end goal is to go into a fucking strip club and get a nag war with a stripper you know it's like the fuck is wrong with you people but that that was the method at one point and maybe still for some people but lack of experience man you know how you're gonna get 30 minutes all right you know how you're going to get when I see three fingers in a hole I don't know what the fuck that means but but lack of experience that's something that that fucks with people you know how many guys here can relate with that all right all right cool so that is an awesome thing let me tell you that is attractive to women that is that is sexually attractive to women you know you bring that and I would encourage all of you to use this as an opener this weekend in the daytime because you're all afraid to be all sexual in the daytime right or at night time whatever but if you actually said you said hey you know what I was I've always been like a social person but I really wanted to ask you or let's say you're in a bookstore right let's say you're talking to a waitress let's say you're you're in downtown town Orlando I don't really condone people running down people and passing them and then waiting say hey I wanted to ask something but whatever go up and talk to somebody if you want to talk to them if they're attracted to you and women will like that if you get the right mentality on stuff but I would encourage you to say hey you know excuse really weird question it's gonna take like one minute but sorry this may be is Fuji here this might be an opinion opener but whatever so Fuji's a great guy amazing amazing speaker so you can say hey you know what it's a really quick questions like one minute but I really want to know this and I'm kind of like trying to figure this out for myself I've always been a social person but not with women and I want to know can somebody who has lack of experience with dating people be somebody that is attractive right and so she's gonna give you this what's gonna happen right she's gonna give you some weird answer she's got well I don't I mean I don't I don't have time yeah I guess you know she's gonna give an answer which doesn't have much thought right so that's your initial qualifier was that one there right then she gives you some you know superficial answer what can you expect from people you're not trying to you know that's a problem with people in their openers like I'm gonna say this opener and then it's gonna be on she's gonna want to fuck me I'm gonna be cool I'm gonna own the club because I got this opener right but she's gonna give some some form of answer some form of answer and then you're gonna give a grounding story of what that means based on you right based on you so you can be proud of yourself right these are not routines which are cultivating chain here so what we're gonna say is we're gonna say see I never really like had a lot of experiences women but I've always wondered like how women view men and that's the age-old question because when guys wonder how women view men they start doing all this crazy shit about their social reputation they start doing all this stupid stuff and you know buying Rogaine and getting a silver shirt and you know whatever else and you know we're gonna buy a Bentley because man that's gonna be that's gonna be it man that's gonna get you that's gonna get you ass right and so let me ask you again somebody who doesn't have like a lot of experience with women you know can that be attractive I really want to know and then she may think about it she may not even answer but she thinks about it because she's invested in your story and she started to think about it and then all you have to do is put a definition on that which could be like you know what dude you're an awesome person I want to talk to you more let me ask you something let me ask you something about yourself and we're gonna cycle the qualification pattern so let's get into this huh let's get into the pattern that makes this all work which hopefully you guys will be a little bit more interactive on maybe maybe not but we'll go back to the black marker we're gonna do something quite simple here we're gonna do qualify we're gonna do grounds we're gonna qualify and then we're gonna do frame or define right now quite simple qualification some way to assert yourself you can ask a question you can step closer to somebody you can grab them yank him around do all this crazy body language stuff you can do you know whatever you assert yourself you assert yourself you see if they accept it then you ground yourself grounding means this it means well hey we'll say assert all right grounding means that you either give your story you give someone else's story and you can give your perspective this is the same frame and define just means you define the situation and let me tell you there's no magic to this unless you go for connection this will get you shit if you are not going with the intent of connection so all I'm doing with all that stuff you guys get the you guys get the get up what's what's a negative thing that you guys want to know about what's a belief that you guys are worried about man everybody's like fucking stale urine Jesus Christ you know what that does with mosquitoes all right nobody nobody Jared what about five-foot Asians and that sounds like what five-foot Asians being five foot Asian and not being attractive all right so if you want to do that I'm gonna blow through this one quick because I want to get to something with a little bit more depth a little bit more depth but if you were to actually say hey what's the deal do you think height likes an attractive thing and women will say yes or you could say what is attractive what is attractive when you go in and I do this when I open all the time and say what is attractive and here's here's actually what they'll say they'll say humor they'll say good teeth height smile positive energy all that sort of shit all right and then I'm gonna go into my story actually I go to someone else's story and I'll say you know what see because my friend Darren he's five foot four correction right I'm in the Mohawk all this other stuff he's he's five foot four he's an Asian dude and everybody says that is such an unattractive thing but the problem is with like today's society and all that sort of stuff is that we have a checklist of things like you probably have a checklist of all the things you're attracted to right but at the same time what you actually connect with and what you actually cultivate attraction with because the connection in chemistry with people it has nothing to do with those things like yes no maybe so and she kind of flails around wondering so I'm gonna say so let me ask you what do you find is like really attractive about somebody really what are they attractive about and if they give me a shit answer then I walk away because truly I'll get into the crux qualification a second but if they give me an answer that I somewhat like that may even be them thinking about it going like man that's a good question like I think I know what you're talking about but I'll say you know what that's awesome we should talk more you are totally a girl that has you know whatever sort of quality I notice or want to feel about her more all right so that would be that process there what else all right so we'll save it for the edit all right so what he answered actually was or what he asked was asking if he was not buff he was not if he was too skinny something like that what's interesting here's what's interesting is this guy is so tall like all the all of us short guys who are pickup guys in fact me and Jared were like dude you're too tall and we're like puny standing next to you like fuck you man just stand somewhere and look cool and you'll get the don't worry about your techniques right so anyway but he brought that up but at the same time you know being tall could also probably make you feel out of place can make you feel too skinny can make you feel that like man you're not that guy that short and compact and like have all the like muscles and is all alpha and whatever you know there's everybody's gonna have a certain insecurity hence all women will also have an insecurity that you can relate with so which would be a perfect parlay to your perspective all right so if you say hey let me ask you something do you think what's your perspective what's your opinion on skinny guys all right simply is that we're gonna state the problem or whatever your belief is there you say and she'll give you something like you know skinny guys I don't know you know I guess they swim good or something like that all right she'll get it she's not gonna give you the greatest answer and if she does that's great you know you want to have that connection but your ground is gonna be based on and I would go for this perspective I would say you know what see some guys always wish they were tall and I was really I'm really tall guy but I was always worried about stuff like being too skinny not being dominant enough or whatever but you know what you're a really like I don't mean anything crazy by this but you're like a very attractive girl and I bet you that you probably think a lot of those things that a lot of girls think are attractive or a lot of guys think are attractive you don't think of them in the same way and I bet you probably wish people just didn't see you for those things and they saw you for other things just like me like I'm a really social person and I I could be kind of like awkward at times too I wish people fell in love with that so let me ask you something like what to you is the most attractive part of somebody you know and that could be your second qualified you see what I'm saying though base it off of you you base it off of you you interact with a woman that's how you change your beliefs you don't fucking change your beliefs by going out and approaching a thousand sets man you become a bitch to a fucking I don't know weird pickup culture doing that shit right but when you start when you start actually shaping your beliefs by your interactions with women and experiences with women that changes things now what's interesting there I'm gonna erase the connection part right what's interesting here is I want to define something a little everybody's always talking about being sexual and all that shit here's the thing to turn something sexual all you need to do is have interest and show intent and then that needs to go into choice and so what I started to do with this dude's last thing was I said I showed some interest showed some intent hey you're a hot chick you know you're a good-looking girl but but you know it's not about that here's a little bit more about me I'm awkward I'm social I wish people noticed these other things I bet you like wished you were noticed for these other things too but like hey let me what do you think about that it's giving a choice all right everybody thinks that pickup is about control right it's about how do I master the fucking stage of all that stuff the difference between pickup in seduction is this is that in seduction somebody will show intent they will show their purpose show what they want right we have to gain some finesse of doing that we can't just go like hey you know this is right here you want this yeah you know maybe somebody could be a little bit more creative than me and come up with something good but but and I would pay money for that I'm just putting that out there next marketing thing whip out your dick and women will want it learn how sign up for my email list you get seven free videos with this but but to be sexual all that is so what's a moment last night or in some recent time let's go with this side of the room in some recent time where you guys had interaction with a woman and it flattened out no it didn't happen man you guys all either didn't go out or you were just immaculate immaculate with women DC one time recently like it started out really slow I wasn't key knowing it was just a lot of distance and the conversation just went nowhere okay and I want to say there's no there's not like magic tricks to everything you get better at it but when things are fading out when things are starting to slow down when a girl actually denies you your job is not to do some sort of trick it's to learn how to show yourself more it's learn how to do that and the key to that is and like you said you weren't key knowing you weren't touching right well touching is a way of showing interest but there's a way of showing intent through touching which you can watch my body language videos my friend Jeff was saying he wanted me to demo some of the stuff on on stage which maybe if we have time but oh yeah hold on hold on guys you put the microphone to the phone now but but what we want to do is we want to show intent and have the choice if you did one thing that would help you it may not work 100% in this situation but if you were talking to her and things were fizzling out and you said you know what you're you're an awesome check I barely know you're making me kind of nervous and like all this sort of stuff but fuck man like if I said you were hot like would you be cool with that and what's happening there think about this yeah that can be a line and you can practice it all right that shit it works man it works but the reason why it works is because there's a choice right there is an option for her to take if you say like dude you know what you know there was that line if you're learning to SNL you'd be like well we could have sex but we you know maybe not but like I'm gonna try and fuck you anyway but it's cool you know all that was like all the pickup guys started doing that right they were like no man I'm gonna try and fuck I'm so gonna but it's cool you know the reason why that works is because offering a choice and it's if you talk to anybody that is good with women if you see them interact it's not like they're being like all alpha and fucking owning the room and all that shit and sitting a certain way and all this crazy stuff it is I guarantee you that one of the characteristics is because you can go like you know it you're hot but it's cool I can talk to you god man if I just had one to if you let me have an opportunity but whatever man I'm gonna sit here and listen to your stuff and you can come to my house and I may try and do something but it's all you because I want to experience you I want to experience and every girl if you look at what triggers LMR like what Orleans was talking about it's like what other people think of a man it is it it's judgment you know it's how people view them it's it's fear of you know there's some safety issues there whoops watch this there's some safety issues there there's like there's there's all these these there's actually not all these few specific things that keep women from allowing themselves to be sexual and feel sexual with you and so when you can actually put that in part of your ways to communicate with them you can have a sexual experience with them or you can be you know cold-hearted dude and just fuck them sometimes people need to do that all right so people still want to go through this stuff you guys don't seem too hip and keen on the customization stuff huh only a little bit all right let's go to some body language stuff but for body language Erica you want it you want to you want to do this oh yeah oh yeah baby look at that I like I like I like how I like your tough geez man I hope you're tough enough I hope I'm tough enough cheese got any sanitizer back there gonna need to shower after this I always like I always like Erica's dress cuz where's this from is this from like a stripper store all right so check this out when we when when you get all right I'm doing this workshop it's this total immersion thing it means we're all in field and all that stuff when we actually went out last night just because one of the guys has to leave Sunday so we got an extra day it was really fucking badass thing but the one thing that I was telling these guys to do was I want to see how you can be sexual and how we're gonna be sexual in the in the first whatever moment we have to be because the more we're not there's all sorts of weird theory in it but look it's already sexual it's already is when we're doing all these tricks and we're trying to fit into the peer group we're getting away getting in the way of that sexuality and the ways we're gonna do that is through body language all right and so it's good for you guys to see and we'll see if she I can already feel it I'm not even fucking doing anything but that's that's a compliment right but but oh yeah yeah give her the microphone give her the microphone she's always got to have something phallic in her hand you know come on but it doesn't just shoot anything out white but but we can change that right where's Greg when we need him okay so but check this out check this out she's gonna she's gonna there he is great can you fluff yourself for a little bit I'll call you up when necessary but so check it out space being being spaced in a certain way or certain angles and certain spatial relevance distance that we have between somebody is going to convey sexuality all right now so check this out Erica has a centerline did you drink or something all right okay so but she has a centerline and when we get into a centerline like if I go face-to-face it's gonna it's gonna be kind of so so with her it's gonna be like a little bit too intense if I'm talking to her now if you guys see I know you're gonna look at my ass and not her but but if I'm here and this is centerline right so it's like I'm face-to-face with her you can only kind of get so close you know I don't know what the distance is but three dicks links or if you're libido one penis length and if you're Erica the lips compensate for some distance too but I thought just joking um no but anyway so check this out see she keeps going away man it's the STDs aren't in activation right now you're safe but what we want to do is we want to get off the centerline and so what I always tell guys is collarbones collarbone so I have my left collarbone right and this is her left collarbone and so I'm gonna go there and it's almost like this kind of like kissing angle if I do that I can get closer all right and there's three planes there's this plane where I'm coming in and out right this isn't the Dan Rose sex God method this is plane one in and out there's plane two which is going from side to side when we're moving this way swear to God this is not Dan's gonna sue me now all right there's the angles that we're at and these are these are things which are gonna convey feelings which we don't think about but we feel right and you're gonna think they're weird but we do feel them all right and so when we're talking to somebody and nighttime opener give me one hey so I gotta ask you why did why does Florida have so many palm trees right and so I'm this close right you see that all right and it gets it gets I didn't put the awesome part but if you do that that's when the fucking I don't want to reign on stage here but not in the stripperware but but if I'm here right if I'm here dude come on man be a good you can call me on stage when you're doing what are you doing the squirt thing I'll take you afterwards oh yeah all right okay so check this out so if I'm here this is much different right and there's a feeling that that happens here right and and if I'm here if I'm angled here it can have like a different feeling right all right so these this is just your space right of how you're gonna communicate sexually so I got two guys who are on my workshop you know they're kind of tall and thin and have this lanky vibe to him so there's sexuality sexuality is always a low energy you see me doing all this high energy stuff but there is this kind of like how they would approach and say like hey so so why why are there so many palm trees in like Florida and they'd be mellow and they'd have this stance and they'd have this kind of like good feeling to it right it wouldn't be too pushy it would be mellow more soft spoken and that would be their sexual vibe you know when you talk to savage savages like that and how he when he talks ultimate do so man but if I do it I'm a little bit more like right and so I angle out and I go no no you're gonna talk to me you're gonna talk to me it's always a little bit of a secret right and if you could see we're gonna switch sides if you could see my face I'm gonna I'm angling out you know so it's more here but I'm crossing I'm going towards like the left boob you know right if we talking woman geographics you know as I'm crossing it over here but it's like it's a little bit more like secretive it's like so it always have that sort of feeling it doesn't really matter what I'm saying Florida palm trees I'm holding back on the awesome but it's the feeling that communicates now the next thing is so when we approach we want to do that I also have a guy in my workshop it's a little bit bigger he's got a big presence all right he's got like some some alpha shit so if he starts going like a yes what about it it's gonna intimidate the fuck out of women and actually she said that right this girl is like dude you're all over me really she wanted that but we'll talk about that later tonight but so he has a bigger presence so I said when he comes in like guys have a little bit of a you know bigger vibe to him or might have some more intensity whatever it is they need to add a little bit a little bit of a soft side a little bit of vulnerability because quite frankly that dominance is good it's a sexual threat but that sexual threat needs to have you know some sort of passiveness to it so he comes up he's like hey hey I want to talk to you that's the moment where his sexuality conveys now you might not see it with me because I don't I don't have the same moxie as this motherfucker but you know he comes up and the girls are like whoa and it's one second you know it's like hey so why does Florida have cool pump oh man you just you just that are that's cool that would be the point of sexuality for him if you guys do stuff like this tonight I guarantee you where you get a little bit closer right and you feel how these different angles feel and you feel how these different planes feel it's going to have an essence of sexuality now let's get into some touching stuff right so everybody always talk about something before well we on time Peter yeah yeah all right okay so I just want to say that I can feel his sexual vibe no matter what he's doing coming from here but when he pulled when he pulls me in and when he made the eye contact it like it goes up it increases like I can feel it intensify right here right there so but this is interesting you know what else is interesting years ago I didn't tell you this Orleans I didn't tell you this but I actually saw a speech that he gave and I got this from CJ a long time ago but they said when you this is some body language shit when you get your bare belly to touch a woman's bare belly it like I mean actually the real trick to take things from zero to 60 you know sexually is get a woman's hand on your hard dick and that will fucking make things go crazy but if you actually get bellies to touch like she's just not gonna like it's it's gonna be felt you know there's no doubt right but so look that doesn't mean you go you go like hey how are palm trees in Florida really what you do is you go how are palm trees in Florida right right but see look at that man you'll walk okay you walk okay you said you were constipated we got Greg later don't worry he's gonna pinch it but but you would actually if you're let's say you're dancing or something or you're doing whatever with a woman and and and you guys are talking if you have any moment and she brought up a few things which are really really important pull a slight pull if you notice you don't need the thumb you can have it you know but it can just be this it can just be this just be that right and probably hear down right that's good enough you're talking to all man you're also talk to you what the fuck that if you notice when I'm doing this it's to get your attention it's like it's dominant it's not really a super sexual thing it's just attention it's dominance like hey hey dude what are you doing I called you on stage fuck man you're embarrassing me people are gonna ask dream for their money back you know or whatever but if I if I want to be sexual and say hey dude come here come in you notice my tonality changes I would do what do you think it right now so it's that's what's happening right and those are actually what's happening there is it's just little sexual spikes it's little bits of arousal and for a woman we can go all into sexuality but for a woman sexuality cycles for a guy it's like our dick gets on like what's you fuck me I mean you come on come on did no I just want it come on do what you don't like me I mean whatever you know we do all that stuff you know fucking so then then we learn games so we don't have to do that stuff but a woman cycles and when it cycles really fast it starts to have this slow boil and then we're right here you know our dicks out and they're down here and then all of a sudden they're like way above and they're like why won't you fuck me for ten hours what the fuck my pussy's like a baboon's ass right now right see that's that's what this is right but but so when we're talking to women and we're talking to them one thing that you can do tonight is a couple things this all this shit that's like hey we're friends we're cool bros that's like this RSD I'm a natural dude I'm dominating man because I'm better than her I'm better than her and you know Tyler's great I one of the reasons why I still teach is that guy in all this stuff not really necessary it's like when we just want to get attention but when we want to get sexual I would say lower your tonality go hey no no no but I want to ask you something I can literally fucking talk about whatever and just just do pay attention now look at me fuck what the fuck dude all that stuff is sexuality right all that stuff is communicating it now that doesn't mean her pussy's going like fuck me fuck me fuck me and she's gonna go with you to the car and you know she's gonna open up her asshole and shit out your calm on some other guy's face or something I got I got an e-book for that though I do but what that means is it's gonna start the cycle of sexuality right it's gonna you guys all laugh now but when I ask you for like routines but see we need a woman on here to be little fuck yeah who wants to come down alright so um everybody whip your dicks out we're gonna do a bukkake show on her no it's good though cuz the if you like listen to Alexis K. Tyler the spirituality is in the seed right the seed of man anyway so but check this out when we're touching in these ways around the hips around the waist right we get our hips to touch in this way and if we can do that even you know this is kind of awkward being far away that's gonna mean more than this right and this has a completely different feeling you know I'm like oh dude we're doing whatever even if I put on the sexy voice you know if I'm like yeah we're talking about you know da da da da and Lance Armstrong's one testicle but if I talk about Lance Armstrong's one testicle here there's a bit more of a feeling right because it's one fucking testicle right and then we have another chicken there Francis Adams is gonna do some stuff but what what what what most people are doing is they're doing all this shit and this shit and pulling and grabbing and all that stuff but when we're just slightly giving that pole right we're not pushing we're slightly giving that pole and we're getting to a point where it's more of our stomachs can touch crazy shit happens all right but check this out remember how I said interest intent choice you know if I'm going like this I'm oh man da da da dude so what the fuck dude oh my god if I'm doing all that shit I got to stop it because I got to let her have a choice right that's key all right and what a lot of pickup guys when that comes to seduction is we don't allow a choice to happen we think we're gonna keep doing stuff even when it comes to LMR even when it comes to pushing for the clothes and we're going like oh man dude but I just want to fuck what's your problem no I don't judge I don't judge man I don't judge what the fuck we're gonna keep trying and the key is is that choice it's the compliance that is what being sexual is from the opener you know to actually going into a physical sexual act has so much to do with a woman's choice it has so little to do with what I'm putting out there but if I were to say you know what do you told you look you got that dress on and it looks like you're ready to go strip it you just need some glass shoes but that's but it's cool we can talk you know giving that choice you know with that interest in intent is that's what's going to start allowing you to have those sexual experiences not those things where we're had we're taking sex not when we're worried only about dominating not when worried about all those things and even you know with whatever it is the opener to our comfort stories all that fucking crazy hocus pocus and then when we start getting all nuts and just look at you what the fuck notice this is a pole man this is not grabbing the hair I'm actually pulling it to me if you do this shit girls will freak out but if you're you got a little bit of a finesse they'll go for it but if you like oh man dude what the fuck what the fuck and you're doing this if I do not let her have a choice if I don't let her feel that if I try and control it that sex is gonna turn into this and I see it happen all the time I'll get sexual with a chick I'll get really sexual with a chick really fast right from meeting her and you got the flim go on man I know it is I know it's gonna be like the back of your throat after we fucking it but because that's what actually happens the California Pimp taught me that it's kind of truth to that but anyway the thing is is if I get somebody sexual and I get somebody to feel sexual and I don't offer a choice if I don't offer a definition if I don't make them feel good about it if I leave them with that within minutes of me departing from that situation or staying in that situation that's when it becomes creepy like if I start going no man are you are you confident about like I haven't talked to you in a while but like the hottest part of you is what answer it yes my vibe your vibe so all of your vibe can be felt with like your tits your pussy all that stuff right and how so how do guys get sucked into that it just radiates really is a radiating right now yeah so if I let that if I keep going right if I keep going with that if I keep pushing it and just let it go then it's going to turn into judgment but I got to define that some way all right so if I define that and just say you know what that's awesome man you need to go and fucking make that radiate over all these guys faces or just pick one pick one pick one pick one and at least have them jerk off to you and tell you about it and send you a picture of this come that's what I get all my stripper friends to do to their clients but like that that would be good enough for a definition because it doesn't have to sustain right it doesn't have to be something which is out there floating wherever just like how with the pickup guys we don't have a definition so what is it our definition is to go out and dominate that set and that's great we may need to do that but if our end goal isn't to be sexual it isn't to connect it isn't to enrich and be a part of people then what the fuck are we doing it for you know and I'll say this you can you can you're good get everybody give Erica a hand right slap those pussy lips together come on woman come on afterwards everybody can smell the puddle here on stage for $5 but before I get into that and I really appreciate her coming up and I'm always like giving her a hard time and all that stuff but she says she's a tough girl she's like three condoms on a wart-ridden dick you know it's tough but but look see one of the things that I love coming to this convention right is because it is about working with people you know I coming up here and talking on stage is one thing I speak every week I speak every week at this at a correctional facility actually about like drugs and alcohol and all that stuff and you know I know DJ Fuji gave you the rundown on what a sponsor is but you know talk to me about that but but but the thing is is I love the interaction between a human in when I first came to the 21 convention in 2008 I was that was about two years ago right and it was July I think I spoke on the 27th right and that moment in my life is a really big moment in my life because that's when there were a lot of things happening I was getting sued by a company I'm still getting sued by that company I was getting thrown under the bus by a whole bunch of other picking people there were there was a whole bunch of crazy stuff I got really good at pickup I mean it is a part of my life which I all that shit that I'm talking shit on I've been times 10 right I've been when it came to you had to fuck chicks in the bathroom of a club I did it when it came to having like multiple girlfriends I did it when it came to you know turning chicks out you know I did I took things to a crazy level and the reason why I say that is because I allowed the community to find me and about like two years ago maybe maybe a little bit around that time there were people who were actually at that convention this year who helped me in a massive way people who were attendees and they taught me a different way of looking at things they taught me that and dude I'm not religious I'm not any of that shit but I will say that I do believe in I was talking to Jeff about this there are powers greater than yourself that could be handcuffs that could be putting drugs in your body that could be a mob of people that could be a bunch of people at a convention talking and interacting about something you know and don't forget what that power is don't forget that when you're you and you feel alone and you have guilt or shame because of lack of experience or you think that you've never been with a woman or you think you have a defect or flaw and you can't talk to somebody the best way to turn that into a beautiful experience what I would consider a spiritual experience is talking to another human being and every night when I go out that's what I do and that's my goal and don't get me wrong man my ego gets fucking involved like a motherfucker you know a couple weeks ago and I'll tell you this you know a couple weeks ago I I was talking to my friend Terrence I called him up on the phone I said dude man I just screwed this chick in a whataburger bathroom and he goes like fuck man how did you do that shit and I said well it just kind of happened man I mean she was down and I was then I just knew where to take it wasn't like some special technique but and I said I told him I go man I fucking hate that shit though I hate that shit because I hate those sexual experiences she liked it because she had never done that and it was cool but there's nothing great about the smell of shit unless it's coming out of my body right you know you know what I'm talking about right there's nothing great about the smell of shit in this cramped spot and you trying to do whatever and you know and you know and videotaping it and videotaping the people underneath to make sure it's in a bathroom no but there's nothing there's nothing to me sexual about that because what I value is the connection and to me the things that move people the things that make a difference in life are when we connect and come together it's not out of a fucking ebook and it's not just out of a product it's out of a service it's out of what people exchange with other people man it's what we do here together as men and if we talk to women man it should be a beautiful thing you know sometimes you got to practice your techniques but if it is not about taking that part of you which can be honest and pure and fucking in sexual and all those great things in connecting with them and having them feel it and having them help to find that with you and having the choice to do it then fuck man it ain't worth it it ain't fucking worth it and what's gonna happen is you'll go out and get a life or you'll keep coming back here and it'll be frustrating and mad piss you off and you'll look for the answer and something and it'll turn into it'll turn into anger and shade you know so my whole thing is look you guys got to start being proud of yourself start living proud start living a life where you can like you know don't be ashamed there's the sexual life motherfuckers but that's true man and what is that it's about being yourself man it's about being able to assert that so my thing is it's look go to the red mole.com Steve Mayeta search my shit sign up on my email list you'll get good stuff go to my YouTube page there's a ton of videos on there there's all great things and there's one last thing I'm gonna say is rather than sell the one last slot on my workshop like I slip that in there haha kind of sort of but tomorrow night there's a dinner from 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. I'm gonna be a part of that dinner and we're doing it because we need to raise money for Anthony it's not going to me it's 50 bucks to go to that dinner it's for the 21 convention it's for Anthony I get none of this it's my break time in between my workshop which is like from 5 p.m. to 2 a.m. every night I'm gonna be there from 8 to 9 30 and I'll be talking to you guys and work with you and the best thing you can do for me is the best thing you can do for yourself for me and the whole thing is shake my hand and talk to me it ain't on the stage that's not where we come up with these solutions man it's when we look face to face and hopefully there will be other instructors they're working with you but look we need to raise some extra cash we do that to make this convention the best thing in the world he puts his whole fucking life into this thing that's why when he's talking about all his crazy ideas I'm just like okay because he's fucking passionate man and he believes in something but let's be there it's at 8 p.m. I don't know what restaurant it's gonna be at talk to him about it urban flats Ratis will be there hopefully some other instructor Orleans will be there Fuji will be there and look these are all service-oriented people man look all of us got workshops of sale all that bullshit but look let's connect and let's actually make this thing a good thing you know there's a few people that walk out of this room and thinking that it's an all-right experience and there's people you know that come back and say dude this thing changed my life there's a guy in Afghanistan who still e-mails me all about that about the weekend he spent here so let's make that happen anyway thanks a lot and talk to me afterwards all right