 When the narcissist wants another chance, I'm sure many of you may be dealing with this Where you may have already given the narcissist so many chances And typically they do the same things again and again It's like they're never going to stop Even if you confront them and you tell them what is wrong Once they know that it's getting to you it's hurting you They will typically save that in their back pocket for a later date So that they can use it again as ammunition against you It will typically make things even worse. It's not going to make things better When you confront them and you tell them that their behavior is wrong But whether or not you decide to give them another chance, that's really up to you And you may not know for sure whether or not you are actually dealing with a narcissist So some of you may believe that they can change And what I would say to that is How many chances have you given them already? I mean of course everyone deserves more than one chance Maybe two or three But when you're giving them 10 chances 20 chances And it just keeps going on and on At some point you need to know when to stop You need to be able to recognize that it's not going to get better It's only going to get worse Because what you're doing then is you are enabling them You become an enabler Because you already know that their behavior is not right You already know that something is wrong with it and when you're around them And they keep repeating the same things You are enabling their behavior to continue You're making it possible Narcissists will always want another chance They're very arrogant and entitled They think they're the best thing since sliced bread And they expect you to see it as a privilege just to even be around them And because of that yes, they will feel entitled to your time and energy And typically they don't tend to look back at all of the things they've done to you They will provoke you to react and then they will focus on your reaction They're not going to look back to see what caused that reaction And this is just how it is with narcissists. It's like this toxic amnesia But they don't even seem to remember what they did wrong It's this denial projection, blame-shifting, gaslighting And even the double bind as well where it's like no matter what you do, it's still wrong Because they always feel like they're wrong That's why they had to create the false character and the illusion So that maybe then they can't be wrong anymore And that is why you will find that you can never confront them on anything Because they always have to be perfect They always have to be right They have this blackaway mentality Where whatever they think of their minds that becomes the truth The problem is it's always based on their emotions So the truth can change from one moment to the next What's the truth now May not be the truth tomorrow It could be something different by then So considering all of this Should you give the narcissist another chance Myself I would say that it's probably not a good idea I would say that you just be setting yourself up for even more abuse Because that's all that they're going to do to you There's only two things you're ever going to get from a narcissist And that is abuse or manipulation You're never going to get anything else other than that And yes they will lie to you, they will future fake They will try to make you believe in a possible future with them But it's never going to pan out in the way that you might think And to be honest I don't think you should want a future with them anyway Because it's not going to result in anything good They need you far more than you need them And if you go no contact, you move on Eventually you will realise that you never needed them You're perfectly fine on your own But they want you to believe that you need them around you They want to make you dependent on them Because by doing that then they can keep you around And then they can get supply from you Which validates their false character and the illusion So that's all that that's designed to do It's all manipulation Making you think that you need something around you when you actually don't You don't need that around you at all But what you do need is some time by yourself Self reflection Because doing that will empower you But yeah as I said it's really your choice whether or not you decide to give them another chance That's your decision I would say that it's usually not a good idea It's just going to set you up for more abuse And the longer you stay with them the worse it's going to get I mean you just got to look back at the time you've spent with them already How long have you been with them so far? Some of you may have been with a narcissist for five years Just look back at those five years that you spent together What did you experience with them throughout that time? Are you willing to stick around for another five years for that same amount of progress? Because that is how it's likely to be Which is why sometimes it's best just to cut your losses It's best just to forget about them and leave them in the past Because if you are dealing with a true narcissist Nothing good is going to come out of that They're always going to be the exact same way You're never going to feel good or comfortable around them But many of you You think that if you stick around Maybe they've had this false epiphany And they've given you this fake apology You may think that now things are going to change Things are going to be better But most often they're just telling you whatever they think you want to cure And a lot of times yes they do get it wrong But they will feed you whatever they think will keep you around But it doesn't mean they're about it for real All they can do is give you the false character Once you've seen who they really are All they can do is put that mask back on And pretend to be something they're not Pretend to be about something that they're not really about They're not about change They're not about being anything better They're not about growing together with you And you should know by now that they are just about keeping you down Because that's all that they can do You generate this powerful energy From within you And when they see it they just want to stamp it out or take it away from you They don't want you to have that And a lot of you may be isolated They don't want you to be around any other powerful or influential people People who could be a positive influence in your life Because they see it as though that's taken your power away from them Which is why they want to be your only source of influence So that they can be the judge, jury and the executioner They can tell you what's right, what's wrong What's good and what's bad They can be the be-all and end-all But you should know by now that that isn't any good for you That's not going to make you better That's not going to improve your life That's just going to make matters worse for you But I know many of you may want to stick around and see if things do get better But typically they won't, as I said, all you're ever going to get is abuse and manipulation They're just going to keep lying to you and deceiving you Because they have this very fragile sense of self And they need to protect it at all costs And of course they do that through you They filter everything through you They live vicariously through you And that's why it's all about just stripping you down, isolating you Taking away all of your passions and interests Anything that you like, anything that you've got going on Anything that makes you you If it makes you you, no, they don't want that around you They don't want that around you at all But what they do want around you Is they're suffocating and overbearing presence To where you just become this extension of them, this reflection You're whoever and whatever they want you to be Because they want you to think that something is wrong with you That is the whole point of the devaluation Is to keep you down and make you question yourself Because by doing that Then they can strip your power away from you By making you think that you're not right or something is wrong with you They're not going to do anything to empower you as an individual As your authentic self Because that is a huge threat to their false character and the illusion So of course they don't want you to do that But as I said yes this is what I advise you to do Take some time to yourself Go for a walk somewhere You could do like what I'm doing right now As you can see I'm just walking on the beach Or you can walk in a forest like I did earlier Just try to find some time to yourself Where they are not constantly pressuring and suffocating you When you have some alone time Then you will begin to find that confidence in yourself again It will empower you But being around narcissists Yes they want you to see it as a source of validation and empowerment But that is actually disempowerment That disempowers you I've said as I've always said Your power comes from you being alone From isolating yourself Not forever but just for a certain amount of time When you do that You will find the source of your energy and power from within So yes that is what I advise you to do I know a lot of you can't go into contact for whatever reason But I still recommend that you take some time to yourself Even if it's just a small amount of time each day That will help you It's not good when you're just experiencing abuse and mobilization day after day It's destroying you Of course as I said it helps when you take some time for yourself Even if you're just watching one of my videos It can help to inspire and motivate you But be very careful watching these videos when you're around the narcissist Of course they don't want you to do that They don't want you to see me or listen to my voice Listen to my message Because it goes against them It goes against their narrative It goes against what they want you to believe about them Other people and the world around you So yes be very careful when you are watching my videos Yes it may be good for you You may enjoy it It may inspire and motivate you But it's not going to be any good for them They're just going to tear that shit apart They're going to pick apart everything that I or another YouTuber or coach says in the video And they're just going to give it a different meaning or interpretation Other than the message that I'm actually trying to give to you So yes let this be a source of influence to you Let it motivate and inspire you And I know that it will for a lot of you I know that it will uplift you It will make you feel better It will make you recognise that strength and confidence in yourself And of course yes that's what we all want We want everyone to feel uplifted Thought I'd just come out here For the end of the day Enjoy this view at the beach As I said before not everything is perfect for me Of course there are ups and downs But I'm still out here living my life And I'm enjoying every minute of it Even though at times it may not seem like it But yes this is what I advise you to do Go to the beach if you have one near you You should be using it And if not you can walk in the forest Go to a lake Just be around nature I know it will feel good for you After everything you've been through with this person All of the things they put you through Sometimes it just feels good to be free To be able to be yourself and do what you want to do So yes of course that is what I advise for you Anyway that's it for this one As always yes of course There will be more videos soon And you can hit the subscribe down below To receive the notifications for my future videos Other than that please give it a thumbs up as well If it was helpful for you And as always I will talk to you in another video very soon