 Good morning, my name is Virendra Sethi and I am one of the coordinators for this course, college to corporate. And today is the 6th face to face session and I want to welcome you all. For those of you who are already here, hope you had a good holy yesterday, happy holy. And for those of you still joining in probably are dealing with the after effects of holy. So, may be taking some extra time to take the color off. I think we should maybe start with some interaction with some of the centers, YouTube is also live. So, if you have any questions please post them on YouTube, we will try and answer as many as we can through the team that is assisting us. So, they will take down the questions bring it to us and we will try and answer as many of them as we can online. Otherwise, we will try and answer them to the best of our ability offline. I have in terms of the structure today, we going to be for an hour and a half addressing issues of what are the essentials for success. And professor Fartak and I have been doing some work on this thinking about how best to leave you empowered to be able to now take on some of the learnings that have that would have happened or may have happened during these 6 sessions and the work that happened in between these weekends. So, that in ongoing you have success as a part of your discipline. So, I have some slides which I will share with you and but I really like to hear from most of you today to see how things have been going, what openings have come up. You should also know that when we are teaching this course from here, we are also very keen to learn how is it working, is it working, not working, what aspects have worked, what have not worked. So, that we can ongoingly upgrade our own modules and our own approach through the reaching out and teaching. So, the important thing is you know how much have you learnt. So, that we can jointly claim credit for it and there may have been expectations also which were not fulfilled. So, I would like to hear them also either today or through the feedback that we will ask for. So, I will give you some more details about what is to be expected between now in this coming week. In the meantime, I think it will be good if we can listen to some of you and see what is been happening for the preparatory work that you would have done from watching the videos. So, maybe we should go to a center now to listen to what you have to say. Is there someone taking questions down from the YouTube? So, do we have a number of how many people are on the YouTube right now? So, hello YouTubers, good to see you. We also trying to connect up with the remote centers to bring about some live interactions. I think people are still settling in coming in, but if you are on YouTube and you want to pose a question please feel free to do so. We will begin to answer your questions. Sushant, are there any questions on the YouTube? You have it here showing up, are they? Good morning everybody saying good morning. All right everybody good morning on YouTube. So, for those of you who are on YouTube would be good if you have some questions from the work that happened. Maybe I can use a few minutes to clarify if you have some questions. Are there schools now? It is called the Holy Effect. So, there is a lag between this and YouTube is it? Yeah, how much approximately? Is that right? That much. So, is there some center that we can go to? Okay, I will talk to them. Good morning. Good morning. Madam, how are you? Good morning, sir. Good morning, how are you? I am fine, sir. Happy Holy. I am fine. Happy Holy, sir. Same to you. So, are you coordinating the effort at your center? For the students. Yesterday was Holy. Yes. So, many of them went to their next. Yes, yes. I appreciate that. In fact, we will have an extra session the following Saturday. But I just wanted to, since you are here and we are waiting for other people, I just wanted to ask you if you have some suggestions or some observations that you might want to share. Okay. And everything is fine. Students are giving the test. They are completing their assignments. Everything is fine. Means, we are appreciating the efforts taken by IIT Mumbai. Yeah. So, madam, actually I want to use this opportunity to say thank you to you, because it makes a difference when you are personally there and that they actually get to do the exercises and the preparatory work. I think it is very important. Your presence makes it all the more, students have a direct access to you. So, they do the work because you are there. So, I want to thank you for that. Thanks for being partners to fulfill on the commitment of the course. I want to thank you for that. Okay. Great. Thank you. I will come back to you. Let us go to another center then I will come back to you. Because people have not come yet. We are still waiting. I think they are saying it is the holy effect. I want it to be the H-O-L-Y effect, but apparently only the I effect. There are about 16 people on YouTube. Yes. Excellent. Any questions there? No. No, very good. All right. Maybe we should just talk to them. All right. Arvind Gowli College, Satara, good morning. If you can hear me, please wave your hand. If you can hear me, please wave your hand. Okay. Excellent. Excellent. Thank you. So, would someone like to share what is been going on? How was the last week? The work that I did. Good morning. Sir, last week, we are coming out of the planet. I have a question on taking notes. What is the importance of taking notes? Is that what you are asking? What is the importance of taking notes? You are asking that as a teacher or asking that as a student? Very good. All right. So, what do you think is the importance? What do you think? You must have some thoughts about it. There is no right answer to this question. It is very personal. So, what do you think is the importance of taking notes? Sir, we both have to learn and review all the things that we can take in the form of notes, but some students are not taking it seriously. So, what was your part of the work going through you? I am sorry. I did not hear the last sentence. Yeah. What was the purpose of that student? Personal issue. Some people will take very copious notes. Some people will take only short notes and a few others will never take any notes. Hello. Can you hear me now? So, I was saying that note taking habits will be different for different people. Some people will take very copious notes. Some will take only short notes and there will always be a few who will not take any notes. Why is note taking important? As I had mentioned earlier, ordinarily whenever you listen to any lecture session or anybody speaking, your mind notes important points automatically. However, human memory is short and if you were to revisit those points later, even a few days later, certainly after 15 days or month or two months, then often we tend to forget the salient points which were mentioned during the talk or during the lecture. It is at that juncture that you will find notes to be important reminders of whatever transpired during that time. Unless you have an exceptional memory which happens with very, very few of us. I am tempted to relate an incident that happened with me in a course that I taught in 1974 on analog computers, I think. There was a student in the class who would sit in the first bench, used to hear chappals, take out the chappals and keep his leg hanging and he will intently watch whatever was being said and what was being written on the board but never would take notes. As a teacher, I was concerned because I was sure that like all of us, few weeks or months later, everybody may forget what was being stated and even in the class when I was writing copious equations on the board, how would he remember those equations and how would he remember the derivation that I was going through? This was my concern. So this is what happened in one of the classes. I had written some equations one after another on one side of the board, then on the middle of the board, then at the end of the board. There were three segments of the board. Then I wiped out the portion from the one side of the board and started writing another. I filled up that entire segment, went to the second segment, wiped out whatever was written and wrote another set of derivations there. And suddenly I came across a problem with the sign of a particular term in that equation. Things were not matching and I got a bit confused. I had prepared well for my talk but I did not know what happened then and I was just going through the signs and trying to balance the equation. All the students in the class were intentionally watching including those who had taken notes. Everybody was furiously busy looking at the previous notes and so on. When suddenly this boy who had not taken any notes, he said, sir, this sign of this particular term is wrong. And I tried to trace back to the previous board and to the previous board. He says, no, sir, the mistake was not there. The mistake was on the first segment which you have just wiped clean. There in the assumption that you had made, the sign of this term should have been minus, not plus. You proceeded with the plus sign and continued the derivation. And now you got into a problem because that sign should have been minus. And I looked at him and I said, oh, is that so? What have you written in your notes? He says, no, sir, I have written it here. And then I checked with some other students and those students confirmed, yes, sir. That was a mistake. Later on it turned out that the boy went on to get the gold medal of the institute. He had an exceptional memory and it was not a short-term memory. Even later when I met him, he could very easily recite individual incidents that happened or individual points that were mentioned in any class by anyone. Unfortunately, most of us mortals are not like that. This was truly an exceptional intelligence and we keep coming across this in the IIT system or even elsewhere in the country and in the world. However, for a majority of us, our memory is short-term. For a majority of us, it is impossible to recall what exactly happened two months later in a course and that is where the importance of notes is underlined. I would strongly suggest that everybody should get into a habit of taking notes whenever there is an opportunity to listen to anyone, not necessarily as part of this course but as part of any other important presentation that is made by anybody on any subject. In particular in a classroom, I think it is absolutely essential that we take notes. Taking notes is an art by the way. Initially, you may try to write down everything that the teacher is saying which is wrong because the teacher is speaking and therefore the spoken words being faster, it is impossible to capture all of them in the written form. Indeed, if you do that, you will miss out on the important points that are being made because the mind can either write very well or can listen very well. Doing both things simultaneously is not easy but that is what you need to practice. The best thing would be to learn to take short notes. Short notes representing the ideas that have been presented. Please keep these notes very well organized, preferably one notebook for a different subject. After all, this is the habit that is inculcated amongst us by our schools. We have a different notebook for every different subject. Collection of these notebooks represents the entire wisdom that we have collected from the teachers during their lectures and other. In short, taking notes and referring to those notes later is a very, very sure mechanism of recalling things of importance that have happened. I would therefore suggest that note taking should be an important habit that you should form. Let me also tell you that it is relevant not only while attending classes. Whenever you are attending meetings or whenever you are attending presentations in corporate life by your corporate leaders, it is useful to take some short notes to remind you of what has happened. Otherwise, the following may happen in your lives. I remember one person meeting me after six months after the talk that I had given and he told me, oh, Professor Fadak, what a wonderful talk that you had given. We really enjoyed it. I politely ask, thank you very much. What exactly did I say in that talk? He stretched his mind and said sorry, sir, I don't remember what you said, but you know you said that very beautiful. The point is a beautiful lecture should not only be remembered for its beautiful oratory, it should be remembered for the points that have been made in that lecture. And I won't blame that person. I won't blame anybody because all of us tend to forget points. In this context, if you have to make a presentation or if you have to talk to a group of people in corporate life or even within the school, I would strongly suggest adopting the following mechanism which I learned from a great industrial leader, Mr. Azim Premji. I don't know whether any one of you has had an opportunity to listen to Mr. Azim Premji. Whenever he gives a talk, whether it was a convocation address at IIT Bombay or whether these are general talks given to industry associates or whatever, he always begins his talk by saying today I shall be talking about these four points or three points or whatever. Then he will recite each of those points, just listing them. One, I will talk about this, two I will talk about this, three I will talk about this, four I will talk about. Then he proceeds with the talk, identifying each point again explicitly when he talks about that point. In the conclusion, he will once again politely repeat. So today friends, I have talked about these four points. Number one this, number two this, number three this, number four this. Forgive me, most people who attend these lectures even without taking any notes, invariably remember the four points that he has mentioned because he has repeated them and he has stated them at the beginning. He has mentioned each point separately while speaking about that point and he has repeated that entire list at the end. I found it to be an extremely good method of ensuring that people have a larger chance of remembering what exactly he spoke about. I have found this to be very useful and I have tried to adopt this method of listing points whenever I give a talk. However not all teachers will necessarily do this. The teachers will always say something important in the class. Your mind will actually detect it when it is being said and when you are hearing it but unless you note down the chances are you may forget these points. So I will conclude by saying taking notes is an extremely important exercise and recalling the points that were made in any talk can be facilitated only when you refer to those notes and reflect upon those. Thank you. Thank you. So a couple of things I wanted to also say. One is that it is one thing to be sitting as a spectator watching cricket and quite a different thing to be on the field playing cricket. So the note taking is actually your engagement. It is how engaged are you. There will be things that the teacher or the speaker may say which you understand probably then you do not need to do anything about it because you already understand it. However the mind is a very interesting way the way it works. It will trigger some thought in you. If you do not record that thought do not bank on it being there triggered again. It is one of those magical things that happen. Once that thought gets triggered I think you need to honour it by just putting a few words in your sheet of paper to say. Now there may be other things that you do not understand. So there will be unanswered questions. So you can design your own template to say this is the key words of what got discussed which is also probably in the text book. So I can go back and refer to it. But there are two other sections which are new ideas, new thoughts or things that I did not understand. So this is your way of getting engaged. Your participation you provide a committed listening to the speaker in doing this work. And then my at the end of the day or at the end of every week one of the practices that I have found useful is that you look at what happened during the week and then claim to have learnt. See if you do not claim to have learnt the exercise of a teacher teaching is kind of left incomplete. Your learning and your claiming to have learnt is when it completes it. Never mind exams will happen and tests will happen that is not important. That is important also but not from the context of your growth and development. There is this other very important aspect of you having claimed to have learnt. And now you being at the source of it. And sometimes it also helps to meet in groups and ask either ask the teacher look you know go to the next lecture saying sir madam I did not understand this or meet offline outside the class. But that kind of an engagement is what notes taking provides. If it was just copying the lectures and it is also available in some books. So you do not really even need to go to the lecture sometimes. So the difference between the book and you attending a lecture is the person standing in front of you who has the experience, who has the background, who has seen the same subject in 10 different ways. So that they can actually honor and appreciate your question and answer it for you in life in a life situation. So that is my appreciation of notes taking and you know I welcome you to that. So that was a long answer to your short question at Satara right. So is that are you satisfied with the answer? Yes. Okay very good. So thank you for asking that question. We will go to the next center please. Okay hello you are from where now? Hi good morning. I can see you but I cannot hear you. Can you hear me? If you can hear me do a thumbs up. Sorry I cannot hear you. We can see you but we cannot hear you. Can you raise your hand if you can hear us? Setting. There may be some problem with the mic setting. We can see you very clearly but we cannot hear you. We have a problem in hearing you. There is a problem with your selection of microphone. If you could ask someone to set the selection right. In a view settings selection of microphone. I will come back to that center a little later. Let's go to YouTube. Alright good morning. Hello sir. Good morning. Good morning sir. Yeah so I would like to hear what happened in this last week. There were some exercises that were given. Some videos that you had to watch and some stories that you were asked to think about. So would someone like to share? Share my personal experience regarding the stories that have been shared by Mr. Deepak Pataksar. Sir it was awesome stories. Sir have shared with us and really we have learned a lot of things via the stories. Okay thank you. The stories like personal ethics. I personally like that. Then the story regarding that labor. Delight to your laborers. What I wanted to know is that I had given an exercise at the end. I had requested all participants to recall such stories that happened in their own lives and write those down and submit them. And I had said optionally people may even prepare a video, a short video reciting that story and submit that as well. But the minimum that was required was that every participant should reflect upon one's own life and recall one such story. Write that down and submit that story along with a few liners at the bottom saying that this was the learning from that story. I understand that this has been a long weekend and it would not have been possible for many students to choose between the celebrations of and the tasks that is to be done as assignment. So what we have decided to do is to extend the last date of submission of this particular assignment to 10th of March. In fact, we proposed to hold an additional session on 10th of March the last face to face session where people who could not attend this session due to the holy celebrations would be able to attend and would raise questions if they have any. But I am happy that you liked this story. This is the feedback I have received through a large number of emails as well. The main purpose I believe is actually met that I have always believed that stories are very important because ease of recall that all stories have. And once you are able to recall a story, you automatically recall the moral of that story as well. That is why I substail or so many of our heritage you see have a set of stories. However, coming back to the point that you made I am delighted that people like those stories but don't forget that there is an assignment waiting for all of you. I think it was only written in the transcript form in the last session. I will ask my people to rephrase that and make it a specific assignment. But I will repeat the gist of it. Each participant is requested to recall such incidences in one's own life select any one story and write it down. The written story along with a small learning from that story is an obligatory assignment to be submitted as part of the qualification for this course. In addition, those of you who so wish may optionally record the reciting of that story in a video and upload that video as well giving us a link. There will be a provision to submit a link. Also there will be a provision to submit and written version of the story which is a requirement for the qualification. Thank you so much. I am very sure that all of us have such stories or such incidences occurring in our life which teach us something important. Once again, thank you very much for mentioning that you like the stories that is the feedback that I have received from or in fact I am now wondering although I am retiring from IIT. So, maybe while teaching any course I must make sure that I should tell one story in every class a short story which people might enjoy and people might remember. Thank you. There are two aspects of it. Our intent is to be able to share stories so that it actually brings makes you present to a certain way of life, a certain set of practices in life. The real work is in you doing the thinking on your own and being present to these stories happening to your life on a daily basis. So, first place to start and we will do some of that work today, first place to start is maybe you should talk to your father, talk to your mother and ask them what stories do they have which you never had a chance to listen to and it would be fabulous if you can also and you do not have to restrict yourself to just your mother and father. I am sure there is your uncles and aunties and other people and you will just in doing this exercise you will realize the miraculous people that are around you and your appreciation of that not as a manipulation trick not as a way of buttering them up or something like that, but seriously if you could listen to their stories from a place of that you can actually appreciate and you can look at the distinctions and the insights that are available in what they shared and have even them being recorded. I you know a lot of times I feel that we do not adequately or do not sufficiently appreciate it, appreciate the people around us you know. Sometimes we say respect by touching feet and you know doing namaskar but really I think the gift of honor and respect comes when you can listen to someone and truly appreciate and you know even imbibe that or you know emulate that distinction or that learning that is probably the biggest gift that you can give is the mark of respect I am reminded of another story about showing respect so I must share that with you. It's a short story. It happened when me and my colleagues were young teachers we had a very senior person who was head of the computer center Professor Jimmy Isaac. Very popularly known amongst people as either Jimmy or the boss. In those days we had a large hall in which five or six of us faculty members used to sit on different tables there was a batch of armed forces officers who were doing their m-take and their senior most person officer was sitting in front of me discussing some problems that were given as homework or something like that. When suddenly Professor Isaac walked in into that hall. When Professor Isaac walked in this person squad leader Raghavan I still remember he immediately stood up in attention and expected all of us to stand up. After all that was the army way of showing respect and the discipline whenever a senior person walks in. He was probably shocked to see that everybody was continuing to sit wherever he or she was. In fact the worst was that Professor Isaac went to my neighbor and says hey Buji boy where is that report you were supposed to give it to me by today before 11 o'clock Buji boy was actually sprawled completely on his chair relaxed not only that he had a leg on the table now that is ordinarily no way to sit but Professor Bujare was a was Professor Bujare I mean he was just sitting like that. To the chagrin of this squad leader Professor Bujare did not at all even take his leg out of the table and at least sat properly he just continued to sit like that in fact he started tapping his table with that leg and said hey boss you have not seen your table the report was submitted just past midnight yesterday and it is lying on your table Jimmy the boss smiled and said thank you and went away afterwards this squad leader started berating Professor Bujare standing erected attention he said excuse me sir was very improper and Bujare completely failed to understand what was improper he looked at him physically and said yes he said sir the head of the department walked in and instead of standing up all of you continue to sit down and you had your leg on the table and that is not acceptable behavior so Bujare of course did not understand any significance he looked at me and then I explained to squad leader I perfectly understand that sitting with the leg on the table is not the correct way of doing it but if you are talking about showing respect please reflect on the conversation that happened Professor Isaac asked Bujare that he was to submit a report before 11 am today and Professor Bujare's response was sir that work has been completed and last night just after midnight a report has been placed on your table perhaps this is our way of showing respect in retrospect I would like to tell you what I learned from this story I think two things both of which are independently important one your gestures and postures so certainly when somebody senior walks in it is polite if the person is senior enough to stand up or at least sit properly certainly it is not advisable to sit in a workplace with your leg on the table academicians may occasionally take such liberties but it is not a good thing that is the first learning I have secondly the learning which I had from my own statement to this squad leader was that perhaps the real way of showing respect is to do the task to the best of your abilities ahead of the deadline do it well and should be able to proudly say sir I have already done it I think in any workplace a combination of both things proper gesture proper indication of your body language that you respect the person is important but equally important if not more important is that you are able to deliver a given task ahead of time well done and confidently say sir the task is done I believe that is also showing equal amount of respect alright yeah really this one was live okay you had a question please some other I think the other center is now ready over to you cannot still cannot hear you can you hear us if you can hear us please raise your hand yeah but I cannot hear you at all I can see you very well but I can't hear you young lady we will have to both practice sign language in order to for you to tell us something and for us to understand because we can see your beautiful place and beautiful smile but we can't hear anything at all maybe if you could just ask the coordinator to ask your question in the chat session on the a view then we'll be able to see that chat session and we'll be able to answer that question we'll wait for you to type in she's participating from youtube no so there's nothing to I saw those not much to comment on that we can you know do it offline okay I think we should go to the ppt now and because we got less than an hour okay so to that young lady in that remote center I'm now requesting a professor to complete an important presentation that he and other colleagues was a parthen others have prepared together we believe it's an extremely important set of points that are being made so I requested him to make a live presentation of course this recording will later on be available and the ppt will be uploaded separately but I believe these are very important points that he wishes to make in the remainder of this session I will request him to complete that presentation and take on any more questions if they are still there including the one from I request the young lady to is that what are the difficulties faced by freshers when they move from college to corporate very important question from Baba Gulam Shah Bacha University Rajori Rajori is in the Pooj district I believe Pooj Rajori is what I hear okay the question is what are the difficulties faced by freshers when they move from college to corporate well the entire course is actually about answering this question so I doubt very much whether this question can be answered in a nutshell but I have tremendous confidence in professor Viren Setti's ability to come up with uncanny answers for uncanny questions so thank you very much this question is noted I will request professor Viren Setti not only to answer this question and then take up his presentation which I request all of you to listen to very carefully because as I said important points are made I need to leave now but what I will repeat is number one because of the problems faced by many students in attending the session today we are going to hold an additional session on 10th March the same time for the benefit of all those who missed it plus to conclude whatever we have done in this entire course I think an extra session will be useful and therefore we will be meeting on 10th second the assignment submission is being extended for the story writing and storytelling part and this can be submitted up to 10th which is the next date of interaction third we are proposing to provide an additional quiz I think professor Viren Setti will mention that for the benefit of those who might have missed an earlier quiz because they joined it so thank you very much and over to professor Setti for further deliberations over and out thank you maybe I should go to Rajori one time just to complete this conversation bye sir can you hear me if you can hear me put a thumbs up very good now you should know I can't hear you so anytime I am saying something and it's okay if you have to say okay just do a thumbs up so I know that you got my response okay so let's practice it did you get it excellent alright so I think one of the you know in raising this question as to what are the difficulties that the freshers would experience when they go from college to corporate this entire course okay the context for this course has been that there are difficulties now the issue is that you haven't experienced those difficulties yet so you know it's more gyan coming to you with no context of how to hold that gyan or what to practice because you haven't dealt with the problem it's a very critical part of learning a lot of times when you go to a class and you know what is being taught or what will be taught on that particular day and you have done the work to find out why it is important to learn that or what are the things that you already know about it and what are the things that you don't know about it when you go with that kind of preparation for the class the entire class becomes alive and you begin to you know relate with the teacher and with the material being taught in a very different way okay so I am going to suggest something what I am going to suggest is that you talk to so again I am going to ask you a question at Rajori okay so the question is this the question is are you in touch with your seniors people who graduated one year ago or two years ago or three years ago are you in contact with them yes or no if it's a yes say yes up if it's a no put down yes you are okay excellent now I am assuming that that's the situation with most of the colleges with most of the students in college now that there is some contact with students who have just graduated and if you do not have contact with them make sure that you request your teachers so that you can be in touch with them and you know I always think it's a pleasure for some of the senior students to receive a call from some of the students who are still in college and they have a lot of questions and you know they recall the time when they were a student and they had questions and there was somebody who can help them in answering those questions so my suggestion is that you should call up your seniors and you know maybe I would say call up about ten people okay ten is not too large a number don't do it in one day do it over a period of eight to ten days call one person a day and ask that person as to what he or she experienced moving from college to corporate or it's one of those things you know you can ask them what did you wish you would have paid more attention to when you were in college so what do you regret or what is it that you feel I wish I had made I had put more attention or made more efforts in this particular thing well I would have been better prepared okay so once you have done that all the work that we have done till now from the session one to now and what we will be doing in the coming week all are available as recordings all the quizzes all the assignments all the preparatory material are available to you as a resource ongoingly now so my suggestion is to bring the definition of what those problems are and then we look at this entire course content to see you know how does it hold good for you now okay so it's a probably again you know I did not fully address your question because it requires you know six to eight weeks to address that question but I think what will help is if you can create the context for it create the questions create the need for such a course by interacting with your seniors who are already in the corporate or in the work professional world okay so are you satisfied with the response okay good alright thank you very much I'll go to another do you have if you have another question please post it and then I can respond to it but now I should I think time is of the essence here so I want to go ahead with my presentation and but before I do that I want to go to another college to ask them what they got out of this conversation about interacting with seniors okay so I'm going to go to another college okay so thank you very much bye bye okay RC Patel Institute Sheerpur I'm back again hello everybody okay so what did you hear from the last conversation what did you get from the last conversation one of you please share about having conversations with your seniors to find out what is it that you should really get trained for so there was a question which was posed there was a question that was posed which said what are the kind of difficulties that somebody would experience when they go from college to corporate okay so the conversation I had was you must talk to your seniors people who graduated 1 year ago 2 years ago 3 years ago talk to them at least 10 of them over the next 8 to 10 days and when you're talking to them ask them what is it that they wish they had paid more attention to when they were in college what is it that they should have put more effort into practicing training themselves so that when they walked into the corporate world that they would be a little more at ease okay so what do you hear about that can you hear can you just tell me what do you hear about that what is it that you can possibly do now so let me ask you a direct question will you talk to at least 10 people in the next 10 days 10 seniors or no I want to be able to hear that answer that's a promise okay very good very good alright so now I'm going to go to my power point presentation okay okay so we're looking at this session where we're looking at essentials for success and professor Sundar will come at 1130 and he will share with you about reading and writing okay as an ongoing activity every successful person has a practice that they read and write regularly okay read good books and write well those are the two things that will be a very important aspect very important component of you as successful people okay today what I'm going to talk about is a little different it's about structure of relationships okay so in the after in the 1130 professor Sundar will talk about reading and writing here I'm going to have a conversation with you about structures for success in terms of relationships alright okay so go to the next slide so again welcome back and thank you for being committed to your growth and development and this is inside of honor and respect for yourself and the people around you who have taken this initiative and I keep saying this because our entire course this is the background and this is the commitment that we have it's an appreciation and honor of you alright so you know we've already had structures that we have used in the past without knowing and without much appreciation actually okay so before you went to kindergarten before you went to nursery there were certain kind of structures you don't even probably remember them because you were too little at that time but your parents your grandparents your uncles aunts other siblings they were around you to take care of you okay and then you went to primary school and primary school again you know you have to get into a line the teacher will make sure they take care of you all kinds of things are available primary they deal with children of that age group in a particular way and then you go to secondary school which is from class 6 to 8 you deal with that particular way my son is in secondary right he's in class 6 right now and he actually tells me how different it is to be in secondary compared to primary he likes secondary much better he thinks there's a lot more freedom and there's a lot of things that he could do now which would not be allowed or not be permitted when he was in primary school and appropriately so because a child has to develop to a point where they can take care of themselves before they can get that freedom so the responsibility and the freedom go hand in hand and which is what I'm slowly gradually going to point start pointing to okay higher secondary of course now you know your big people adolescent post adolescent pre adult stage so you know you are already big people however don't forget that you go to school at a certain time in the morning you come back from school at a certain time in the morning in the afternoon and then you have classes or tuition or homework to complete in the afternoon your parents or your tutor or your coaching classes somebody is always there where you have a timetable and you follow that timetable you may go to sleep all tired that's okay that's like any great player any great player I haven't come across any great player that does not sleep with some part of his or her body muscles making because that's what it takes to be a great athlete and a great player if you're a scholar if you're a student well the same story there'll be a certain structure that you are managed during the day now the difference is that up to higher secondary up to class 12 there's the family if you're at home if you're in a boarding school there are the teachers the wardens etc all of that put together you still don't have to do much of structuring for how life is going to go it's all set for you as long as you fulfill on that structure you are the chances are that you'll be successful okay that's handled when you enter college that's when uncertainties begin to happen there's freedom about you know about when you will go to college how many lectures you will attend attendance is required sometimes they say 80% required so you think 20% is not required all kinds of crazy things you and I begin to do when we enter into college and lot of times people also experience that the there's the up to class 12 there was a certain level of performance and in college that at least for the first one or two years the performance begins to drop a little bit it's suddenly you have found freedom but you've forgotten or you didn't realize that it actually went with the responsibility for fulfilling on your success okay so without pushing it too much I just wanted to point to it that in college things begin to change you're entering into adulthood there's not such a strong structure that is given to you and so you have to discover and reinvent the structures that would work for you okay so you are probably just around the end of college now so what should you expect okay I'm just going to point to it to say what's the road ahead what kind of difficulties you might experience so that you can you know be ready for it alright so let's just talk about that I'm going to give you some bad news I'm going to give you some good news and if somebody asks me what would you like to hear first bad news or good news I usually say give me the bad news first so here's the bad news the bad news is the applicability of what has worked till now for you okay the application that you there are many things that you know how to do the application of that now becomes limited many reasons for it can't get into it but this is one thing to expect that everything that you were good at everything that you knew how to do because the structure was available suddenly is not going to happen because the structure is gone missing it would be more likely than not that it will leave you with discomfort and dilemma so sometimes we feel that you know we're growing up to an adulthood we're having to be responsible or our own independently responsible looking after ourselves not just ourselves other people around us too etc etc so it leaves you in a state of discomfort and dilemma this is not the same discomfort and dilemma that came in class 11th and 12th because of hard work where you were tired but there was no dilemma there was no discomfort it was of a different nature but here structurally things have shifted you are now left almost like you know in the waters on your own that discomfort and dilemma begins to come and nobody's got the right answers for you the kind of questions you're asking it's not that they've not been asked before they've not been but you know people have found their own ways of answering them and you'll have to answer these questions yourself and how you would do it is a part of the learning that you'd have to go through everything that has worked till now is not guaranteed to work anymore so that's the bad news that's part of the bad news let me now tell you the good news the good news is that you got the bad news and you got it enough early enough that you can be ready for it as an adult now you get to participate in creation of life on earth this is a little different till now you were being the obedient student or you being the obedient child or you were doing the right things etc etc or you would found out that even if you were rebellious certain limits you could be rebellious and get away with it etc etc but as an adult now you are going to be expected to take care of life on the planet so you're now responsible for yourself as well as people around you I'm going to you know Professor Fatak mentioned about stories I need to share a story too I was a little boy I used to you know look around all the bad news that would be always around there'd be people dying of hunger and there'd be you know wars going on on the planet and I was it was very very clear for me very very pukka for me that all adults are idiots and they're idiots because if they had any sense why would there be war on the planet and why would there be people dying of starvation okay I mean come on sense now you should just know that when I moved into adulthood I became that idiot I am now that idiot who has to deal with that there is still war on the planet and there is still people dying of hunger so just know that it's not all sorted out we expect adults to sort it out well then now you and I are adults okay so welcome to that world welcome to being responsible for causing life a particular way on the planet last thing I want to say in the good news okay is that you can laugh at yourself before others can join in and I think this is a phenomenal ability if you can begin to laugh at yourself before anybody else can say that to you and you can say you know I didn't get that or I missed that or you know I made a mistake over there and you can laugh about it and then others also can join in you know it's perfectly a very empowering way to move on with life alright so those are the parts of the good news that I wanted to share with you and I think I may have touched upon this but may not okay so let me ask you this okay if I were to not forget about corporate right now okay let's just deal with family what is your relationship with your parents right now there is a certain relationship with your parents okay so there is a certain relationship that you have with your brother sister or cousins you already have that in place there is a certain relationship that you have and there would also be a certain kind of a relationship you have with your friends and notice I put friends in inverted commas because the kind of friends I am talking about is not the time kind of friends that we typically we do we have friends for having fun for party for musty for whatsapp you know exchange of you know jokes but when it comes down to being friends for a certain partnership I am not too sure whether that's in place yet because they may be there has not been a need for it okay some of you I bet have been studying as partners as groups that's where friends come in and you become partners so I am going to talk a little bit about that so these are some of the existing relationships these are the immediately already available training grounds you don't have to be in the corporate world yet wherever you are is already available for you to get start getting trained okay so I'd like to for a moment stop and ask what is it that you are hearing in the conversation I've had because I don't want to go on without making sure that this is clear okay so can we interact with somebody please maybe we should go to very good so this is Arvind Gowli college at Satara hi Satara yeah so you want to say hello by waving your hand okay very good okay excellent so what's would one of you like to share what you just heard if not I'll move to another center let's go back to some other place okay can you hear me can you hear me okay so yes please go ahead good morning sir good morning okay okay okay okay sorry okay very good okay so okay very good okay so what I want to point out is that right now you're not in the you're still in college okay so you still would go home your parents are there your brother sister your cousins are there your uncle aunties are there and your friends are there so you're not in the corporate world yet so you would say I'm not going to get trained because not in the corporate world no that's not true actually parents brothers sister siblings uncle auntie friends they're all around you you'll be able to give you a glimpse of what training you need so now I'm going to go to the next slide and then I'll ask you some questions okay so let me go to the next slide okay so I have a question for you okay and the question is what if you related with your mother father as your boss okay so if you related your mother father your boss the question is what company are they running what are their measures of success in a company okay it will always be what is the company so for example if you were to work for a company that makes electronics alright then that the company is in the business of manufacturing electronics and they would have a certain measure of success to say this is the quality of the product that I have and I am selling X units today but in a years time I will expand my production to go to 2 times X and the number of errors or the number of defective pieces will reduce from 5% to 2% so those are my measures of success that there be no accidents in my factory everybody will be safe that's a measure of success so any company there would be a certain measure of success there's a certain business that they're into the next question is are you as a member of that company are you indispensable what that means is can the company run without you if the company can run without you then you know you not needed you shouldn't be there but if the company's company's success depends on you then you are an indispensable member of the company and the last question is is your boss free if your boss is free that means that you have taken away your boss's work and you are doing the work so that the boss is free then you are successful okay so I am going to keep this open now and ask you to relate with your mother father as your boss and what is the company that they're running and what is it that you can be depended on in that company to provide success to the company okay so let's go interact with some center okay I am back to you Arvind Gowli yeah I don't know the first first question is I know mother father we are considering the boss for that question I am my answer will be can be for the letter mother and father are taking care of the jet chimes for that care they sometimes shouts on their children so as a boss shouts on their workers or employees and second question which company they are running so I think mother father are running their company as a family or house as a company and they are running this company and third question is what are the major success I think every company is considering what is the output of the company or what is the turnout or turnout of the company so as a family I consider the company then they are the children what they are running and the children are their turnout and their outputs so if the children are too that for their career then there will be the output or the success of the parents or the company that we are considering okay excellent very well said thank you thank you very much okay big hand for you for saying it very very elegantly I actually in listening to you I realize that now the business of your parents is going to change because if the business was to bring you up and have you have a successful career you are already at that point where that business is now complete so it is important now to go and talk to your parents and ask them what is the new business that they are going to start so that you can be a part of it so I will go back to you so let us hear what you have to say please go ahead okay sir did you say I will ask the parents that what should be the new business and also can I consider it to get new business also excellent now is that the normal kind of conversation you have with your father and mother if we consider your father and parents then there will be not the normal conversation between them that can be done with communication you know I think what you said is about sometimes parents shout at you sometimes boss shout at you so I want to leave that aside now don't worry about that what is important is if you have this conversation of creating a whole new future for the family where your mother and father are the boss and you are a partner you are an employee okay how would the conversations in the family change how would suddenly your parents who have cared about you and still continue to care about you who have affection for you as a child who have been taking care of you now don't have to worry about taking care of you because you have grown up okay so what is the new conversation that can be had and you can be a part of it can you promise me that you will have this conversation with your parents today okay alright very good now would anybody else from your group like to share please yes sir one second sure thank you good morning sir as a word as in the family as a worker of our company we have more work that is organized on our work because it is part of our life to improve the growth of our organization that will be beneficial to our family also and for me also my role has been more than other important fabulous so you know one thing which I am which I want to communicate in the background okay what I want to communicate in the background is that your readiness for corporate begins right now at home in how you relate with your parents does that communicate yes sir I definitely communicate with the parent on basis of growth of our organization excellent excellent now I have the next question you have brothers sisters you have brothers and sisters I have one younger sister younger sister what is she doing she is doing excellent alright so would you promise that you will have this conversation with her also yes sir definitely okay so I want you and your sister to now be operating like you were colleagues in a company so you know when you go to a company when you join a company there will be a person who is also working you are working and there is another person who is working okay maybe you are there and there is another woman who is there like your sister okay so can both of you interact with each other in the family as colleagues what is your organization excellent now what I am saying is different what I am saying is that at home now in the new business in the new business you are your parents are the boss you and your younger sister are now employees and both of you are colleagues can you begin to have conversations with each other in which you will make sure that the organization the new business actually wins I am going to talk to my sister I will share with her how to organization to work for different business excellent now because she is your younger sister probably you give her instructions yes sir okay so it's important that you relate with her as a colleague and listen to her because she is an adult in her own right no sir also take care of her coming also excellent so she if you you know she will grow you will grow your business will grow your family will grow so please start using this as a microcosm of training to get ready for the corporate okay thank you very much big hand big hand for you thank you very much yeah let's go to the next slide alright so I think I have already mentioned this but this was for your mother father but then there is also for your siblings your brothers sisters friends can you work with them as work friends and partners what are they up to important question is do they look out for you do they actually want you as a partner okay do they want you as a partner because you are so you know so useful you're so supportive you're so you know sharp you're so thinking you're caring all of those are qualities where somebody want you as a partner so the question is are you sought after as a partner alright so if you begin to do that your training will begin one last question who are the teachers for you you have teachers right now in college right you're probably your relationship with your teachers is that you know they will teach a certain lecture you attend that lecture if you have some questions you will get those but then really to pass an exam you're attending you are not using your teachers as potential trainers as potential mentors for you for the corporate world okay so I am going to again go back to the live session and talk to you and ask you as to what is it that you really how do you relate with your teachers so can we go to back to are we back to satara alright back to satara satara you the favorite one today come on so some someone tell me someone tell me who is how do you relate to your teachers somebody different somebody other than the other two other two participants somebody else share I can hear you please go ahead your relationship with teachers no I don't know I don't want to know what should be what I want to know is currently what is your relationship excellent now what do you ask about you probably ask about the subject right we can go back to okay can you hear me if you can hear me just do a thumbs up can you hear me if you can hear me please do a thumbs up so let's go back to hi how are you PVG college can you hear me alright so I am going to go ahead and go to the slides now the thing I wanted to complete in that conversation was that typically our relationship hi how are you can you hear me yeah I can hear you okay very good so what I wanted to complete was in that previous conversation was that usually our relationship with our teachers is limited to the subject matter okay once in a once in a while we could even you know go out for a cup of tea or coffee with them but you know usually our conversations at chit chat talk about the subject you know some other things we never committedly relate with them as mentors you know I never actually go and talk to my professor or my teacher to say what are the things that I should do so that I can get trained for the corporate world okay so I really request you to start looking at start addressing your working with your teachers as mentors they are your mentors they'd be more than happy make a request of them they'd be more than happy to mentor you but you'll have to do the work okay you'll it's work bottom line it's work practice practice practice a lot of work but they can mentor you alright so that's important alright let's go to the slides I've got another two three slides and then we will stop okay so the teachers who the teachers are for you so my invitation is to relate them with being your mentors okay that's who they could be for you you expand your relationship with them like you would expand your relationship with your parents with your siblings similarly you would expand your relationship with teachers and I'm saying all of this inside of that the training the readiness can begin right now you don't have to wait to join a job when you walk into an interview you should already have had this training alright so what I in the interest of time what I'd like to do is I'd like for you to take a minute okay and write down the promises that you're making with regard to your own training and development and to setting up structures okay so I'll let you do that in the meantime I'm going to make some requests from you and these are the requests okay so the requests are communicate to new boss by 5pm today who's the new boss your mother your father have a conversation with them by 5pm today as to who you are for them and who they are for you in this new business of called business called family which is now changing because the business till now was to take care of you till you grew up but the good news is that you have grown up now so now a new game a new business needs to be started and parents and you need to be equally engaged in it along with your siblings you must communicate to your new colleagues this is your siblings these are your friends by 5pm today about what the new game is request your teachers to mentor you by 1pm on Monday I know it's weekend you may not have a chance but by lunch time before lunch time on Monday make sure that you have requested at least 2 teachers to be your mentors so that you can keep getting trained alright one last thing which professor Parthasarthi from Amsterdam wanted to make sure that included okay is a part of this first is you got to keep practicing practicing practicing you should also know that there are others on the planet a lot of times it is only about me me now you are an adult now and you will need to deal with others around you as much respect as you respect yourself there are some people who are very generous but they are also sacrificing okay so I am just going to point to that you must include yourself in the list of people you want to take care of you want to take care of yourself as much as you would want to take care of people around you last one more thing one more slide after this but one of the things I want to point out is you have to learn to laugh at yourself okay somebody said God had no sense of humor no no no God made you and me that was his greatest expression of sense of humor that's supposed to be funny okay alright okay and this is what professor Parthasarthi and professor Ashish Pandey have been trying to emphasize and I would like to end this presentation with this are you mindful of your conversations of the minutes that every day go by of the thoughts that you have of the reading that you do of the writing that you do are you mindful or are you unconscious okay if you're unconscious then life is going to pass by things will happen but you will have no say in the matter they will have happen circumstantially if you're mindful you are free from the unconsciousness and you're fully alive and available for life okay so that's my invitation to you that bring consciousness to everything that you're doing in the work for the coming week we will also put this up on the website there will be the extended timeline for finishing up your story and if you can do a video recording fabulous there will be a quiz that professor Sundar will release on reading and writing skills our last session will be on March 10th the details of that we will put up very soon but please make yourself available especially people who joined late and missed out some of the things we will actually be doing a comprehensive overview of what we have done in the last six weeks there will be a comprehensive quiz that will be released on March 10th which is also available for people who may have missed a quiz or so that you can get your certificate by completing the requirements for the graded quizzes and last thing is make sure that the promises first of all you make promises and then next that you keep them alright it's about two minutes after 11 but I do want to take another two minutes to interact with at least one or two of you to be able to understand what you claim to have learned today so we'll switch over we'll go back to Satara because I think that seems to be they've gone okay anybody else okay this thing and hearing we'll deal with the leader because it's already been addressed in that he's talked about that there are slides around that okay so what's your name okay very good so can you take just half a minute to tell me what you got out of the last conversation so I know that it got communicated so I wanted to share about that you asked about how is your relation with the teacher so what I think is that the teachers are a medium of our personality development you can have our personality improved with conversation with teachers because with our friends with our family members we talk very casually so if we talk with our teachers formally so that will improve our corporate habits so that's a good thing for our personality development and a good medium excellent now I just want to also reemphasize that whatever you said that with your parents and with your siblings and your friends you have a quote unquote casual relationship I'm actually inviting you to now formalize it okay that becomes your training ground for what is expected now in the corporate and you are an adult now you know your relationship with your parents can't be that same as that of a 5 year old you're a grown up person now and you need to be able to honor them by you being an adult because you being an adult is you know is their success yes okay so that's how you would honor them alright and did you get my request for the promises yeah yes sure sir and are you promising just I'm promising that I will casual we talk very casually with our friends and family members so I promise you that I will behave formally with them I will behave like they are my boss my parents are my boss and my sisters or brothers are my colleagues in the corporate world so that will improve my personality excellent now this does not take away all the affection all the honor all the respect that is already there between you as the son and them as parents that will always be there but has an opportunity for you so you already knew how to walk but now you want to learn how to ride a bicycle so this is a new domain in which you can practice so that you can grow as a human being yes okay with that I want to say thank you very much it's been an honor and a pleasure working with all of you and we will meet you again in the next Saturday morning the details of which we will put up on the website so thank you very much and bye bye