 to never look at yourself as less than anybody else so inferior and never look at yourself as superior to anyone else. We are all equals. We just have different skillsets, different abilities and we're at different stages in our lives and our development. Everybody however is equal and I look at everybody as equal and I find that a very beneficial mindset to carry around. Taking that assertive stance into negotiation situations is about focus. It's about learning to act now rather than delaying things and putting them off till tomorrow or getting stuck in a decision making process in your mind where you're just stuck in that loop and it's going around and around again. Make a decision take an action. If you need to roll a dice, you know one in three I'm going to do it, four to six I'm not going to do it at least that will create forward movement for you. Stay focused and controlled. I'm just going to run through these quickly because a lot of them relate to the previous slide as well. Be direct and specific when you're talking with people. Get across the message you want to get across. Be certain of your facts. If you're going to state something as a fact be sure that you're right because you don't really want to end up with egg on your face later on. And that would degrade you in terms of the other persons or the other people's opinion of you. Be polite, courteous, be persistent if there are people getting in the way of your goals of what you want to achieve. Stay focused, stay strong and stay persistent in getting your needs met. Avoid harboring grudges. If somebody's in your life and they're not working, if you're not for me you're against me and if you're against me I don't need you in my life so cut out the dead wood. That can be a challenge to do to start off with but really by allowing your mind to focus on and have those people in your life they're taking up a space that could be filled with people who could be a lot more beneficial to your life and just holding onto relationships friendships that aren't serving you is actually not going to just keep you in the same place it's going to hold you back and pull you down. Don't get sidetracked from where you want to go and never grovel or apologise. You are who you are. If you make mistakes you can admit to those mistakes but you don't have to apologise for your behaviour in those circumstances. Here's another tip and it goes back to that superiority thing or inferiority thing is avoid judging both yourself and others and that can be a really challenging thing to do to start off with what you may notice about yourself is when you're observing people or you're meeting people for the first time you might hear a negative statement in your mind about that person unfortunately all judgement and criticism is self-judgment. You're judging a part of yourself in that other person. That's the way the mind works and if you can avoid that happening, if you can retrain your mind the way I did it to start off with about ten years ago now was that any time I had a negative impression about somebody I had to come up with two positive statements in my mind immediately after that negative statement to correct it your mind gets pretty bloody tired of doing that if you have to keep doing it it's a great way to retrain your perspective and we'll move on there are some words in language that we either use verbally or in our minds but are really toxic to our progress and they're words that I would encourage you to look to avoid using so don't, ought, should, must but, try, wish and hope are words that are of no benefit to you whatsoever I can have hope for somebody else because I can't control that, it's outside of my control but I never hope for something for myself if I want it to happen, I want it to happen and I would do my best to make it happen but I'm not going to hope for it it's like saying, I'm going to try high intensity training if you prompt your mind with that suggestion but you're going to try something that's all it's going to do, it's going to try and try is a very weak word whereas if you say, I am going to do it you're giving your mind a direct instruction the issue of words like don't is the mind doesn't work particularly well with negatives so if you say, I don't want that to happen all the mind is really hearing is, I want that to happen you're setting yourself up for something that you don't want to have happen to happen we could go into loads more detail about this but for today, I just want you to be aware that there are words that you may, some of you may or may not be using and cleaning up your language can be a great benefit okay, so we're going to move on to the nutritional aspect of the talk now and nutrition relates to stress because when you're feeding your body well and correctly you're providing your body with more energy more usable energy and perhaps even more importantly you're providing it or avoiding providing it with anti-nutrients which are going to slow you down make yourself slipping into that stressful state far more easy to happen the book that I co-authored, The One Diet comes at nutrition from an evolutionary approach and I assume that some people in here are aware of paleo evolutionary approach to nutrition can I see a show of hands for people who are aware of that approach and people who are currently engaging with that approach as well, okay so from about 3 million years ago to today as a species to about 10,000 years ago which is about 99.6% of our development and our DNAs development our diet consisted of meats, seafoods, fresh fruits and fresh vegetables those really are the foods our bodies are designed to thrive and perform at their optimum on conversely nowadays, cheap ingredients are undermining our health the more we've become removed from the food chain and awareness of how food is produced what food can do for us the more ingredients are slipped into our diets that are of no benefit and no help to us whatsoever and primarily those are rapidly digested carbohydrates grains, sugars and sweeteners which are pretty much prevalent in anything that comes pre-boxed in a package that stuff is loaded with cheap ingredients which makes a lot of sense for the manufacturers because they can sell something with a high profit margin unfortunately it's doing us as a society and as individuals even more importantly a disservice and you have an issue which is of greater importance in the states but is creeping into our food here chemically altered sweeteners like high fructose corn syrup which from an evolutionary standpoint we have no experience of our bodies do not know how to handle and they've been in the food chain for just 20 years tiny, tiny amount of time