 Free things you should never say to a narcissist There are certain things that you should never say to a narcissist Your words have power and when you speak certain words it can either empower you Or it can be used to give your power away to someone else Which is why it is very important to think before you speak When you are around a narcissist with normal people You don't have to worry about this You can have a normal conversation and allow your words to flow naturally But with a narcissist You do need to be very careful with what you say to them Because everything is a power game with a narcissist They're always competing for power and your words tell them whether or not they have power over you They're always looking for signs to see whether or not they ever hold on you And when you say certain things you're feeding into it You're strengthening the attachment Especially when you're trying to pull away Which is why when you're around a narcissist It's best not to say much at all Do not reveal your emotions Don't let them know how you feel Just keep it neutral Because that is the only way that you can keep your power That is the only way that you can stay sane when you are around them Which is why they're always trying to manipulate your emotions They're either trying to seduce you or they're trying to make you angry or upset Because whether it's positive emotions or negative emotions they get from you. It doesn't really matter The important thing is that they caused it They enticed you they provoked a reaction from you Which in their minds equates to them being powerful Because they influenced you in some way They caused a reaction So that must mean that they exist That must mean their false self is real Because if it was not real How could you respond to it? That's how they're thinking But if you remain neutral No matter what they throw at you Their false self will begin to crumble And then you can take back your power These individuals are power hungry They have a strong desire for power And certain things you say Tell them that they have power over you It tells them what they need to do next It tells them what they can get away with Which is why you need to avoid saying these three things to the narcissist One I hate you After everything the narcissist has done to you You may hate them And you may want them to know that you hate them Because you think that it will affect them in some way You think that it will bother them But narcissists are not like normal people If you tell them you hate them They're not going to take it as an offense It's not going to make them want to change or act right It's going to make them feel powerful It's going to tell them that they just need to keep doing what they're doing Because they recognize that your hate is keeping you attached to them And narcissists want their victims to attach to them So they will try to make you hate them even more They will do things that will scar you for life Because they know that will keep you focused on them They know that will leave you unable to think about anything else Which is why you should never tell a narcissist that you hate them Because you're just putting your cars on a table You let them know your hand And then they're free to do whatever they want without information Which is never going to be anything good It just tells them what they need to do to keep hurting you To keep you attached to them It's not going to make it stop It's just going to make it worse So never tell them you hate them Never tell them what's bothering you It's not going to solve anything It's just going to give them a map of your mind It's going to tell them where they need to strike To harvest the most gratifying response from you To, I love you Never tell a narcissist you love them I don't believe that anyone could really love a narcissist I believe that we think we love the false image Until we realize that it isn't real But I don't think that anyone could love the narcissist for what they really are Which is why we desire for them to change Love is about acceptance And I don't think any of us could say That we can accept the narcissist as they are But I'm not here to tell you how you feel If you feel like you love the narcissist Then maybe that is love for you But I do not recommend telling the narcissist you love them It is not going to improve your relationship It is not going to make them want to be close to you It's just going to tell them they've got you just where they want you They see love as a weakness They see it as something to exploit And they will use your love to hurt you They will use it to play games and make you jealous They will rip your heart right out of your chest And kick it around on the floor Like it's something to be ashamed of They will never respect your love They just see it as a tool to get what they want And when you try to love them It tells them that there must be something wrong with them Because they don't feel that for you It just makes them even more envious of you But at the same time They see it as a weakness They have to see it as something that's beneath them Because that's how they cope With not being able to experience that which they truly desire Because deep down all a narcissist really wants is love at acceptance That's why they abandoned who they really are Because they thought that was not good enough They created this false self because they want to be admired and respected They want to feel like they belong somewhere And you may be thinking That's great So all you have to do is give them the love and acceptance that they want Maybe then everything will be normal But it never works out that way When you try to love a narcissist It just makes them hate you Because they needed that love a long time ago So now every attempt you try to make things right Just makes it worse Because you just reminded them of things they never received Which reminds them of how unfair their lives have been 3 I feel happy or sad Never tell a narcissist how you feel Whether you feel happy or sad Angry or upset Never let them know Because you're just giving them a roadmap to your emotions You're telling them what they need to say or do to get a certain response out of you And then they're just going to use that to manipulate you They will do things that make you mad Then they will come back with things that they know will make you want to give them another chance And then they will just repeat this over and over again Because it does something for them It makes them feel alive It makes them feel important It makes them feel powerful Because they're getting a reaction out of you Narcissists love to play with your emotions They love to see you going through it When you tell a narcissist how you feel You are giving away your power And narcissists cannot be trusted with power They will only abuse it They will only use it for bad things They're not going to use it to improve your relationship They're not going to use it to make you happy They're just going to use it to play with your emotions And mess with your mind Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching.narcsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon