 That's the thing that you guys need to be able to do is understand that it's okay to take a developing approach In fact, that's the right way to do it because one of the things that people will do as you start to dress better Is they will treat you differently That's one of the biggest strengths and the biggest weaknesses of changing your style Because it's the easiest thing to do if you want to start a new chapter of your life You can go to the mall You can pick up a few outfits for a couple hundred bucks and you can be an entirely different person To a stranger than you were the day before But the people who you know are gonna resent that because one of the things we value most as people is Consistency we value it in ourselves and we certainly value it in others. We're threatened by change We're threatened by inconsistency and we almost always treat it like it's hypocrisy as opposed to growth And so a lot of times it ends up being more detrimental than positive for you guys to make a too quick change Into something that's an aspiration of yours even if it's an aesthetic aspiration That's why it's oftentimes a lot better to do it gradually one step at a time I have a brother-in-law who we went and did and this is probably four years ago we went out and did a whole day kind of helping him get some new clothes and it was Something that was different completely different than anything you'd been wearing before and what it did is it told a different story Told a different story to his family to his friends to all these different people and it put him in a pretty unique and a pretty Tough position and it'll do the same thing for you If you're if you're up for it Then it's a good thing to do and to do it quickly and more drastically if you're not up for it Then you're better off doing it more gradually and more slowly because what it did is it raised the level of expectations that not Only everybody else had for him But the level of expectations that he had for himself So if those Expectations rise and you can use that as a catalyst for other much more important aspects of self-improvement Because as important as this is this isn't super. This isn't integrity. This isn't your moral compass This isn't your your relationship with your family. This can just facilitate this But if you can handle a drastic change in the way that people treat you differently because your Expectations are raised when you start to dress better make a drastic change and live up to those expectations and my brother-in-law wasn't quite ready for that and so he started to fall back to the way that he used to dress because he was Comfortable with the way people treated him based on the way that he used to dress so if you're not quite at that point and you know that you still want to improve which you wouldn't be here if You didn't want to improve then just do it gradually do it step by step and take that developing approach and then at the point When you start to figure out what you want to do that's when you flip the switch and you go into a deliberate approach Now I know what I want to do for a career I've known that for three and a half years and I've been able to double down I don't have to think about what would happen if I were in a different company or if I were in a different industry Or if I were doing something different because now I know where I am and then what I want to do I can take a deliberate approach and I can double down on it and the same thing happens with your appearance Once you know the general direction in which you want to head then you can double down You can start to get more deliberate and that's when you can really really start to dress well So how do you do that? How do you figure out what you want to do and how you?