 There are certain things that are done that disobey Allah swt, there are certain things that are done. There are haram What are these things we will try to summarize them in several points? Number one music You will rarely enter a a wedding that does not have music rarely You go into a wedding and music is not being played only a handful of youth that choose not to have music part of their weddings and they play something else and Ashid or Religious songs not so much music, but But the vast majority From various cultures whatever culture you go to many of them they have music and their weddings Some go far as to have to bring a DJ And their wedding Have a DJ play music and their wedding Some of them are willing to spend a lot of money on music at their wedding My dear friends music is haram Whether it's at a wedding or at a funeral Music is haram whether it's at work or at the gym or in your car or on your phone Music is music and music is haram and there are no exceptions There's no exceptions weddings are not exceptions to the permissibility of Music there are some people who think that music is haram unless it's at a wedding if it's at a wedding It's okay Raise the volume. It's fine. Who told you who told you weddings are exceptions weddings are not exceptions Music is haram wherever you go Watch tenebu qawla al-zor Allah swt says in the Quran and avoid vain talk a Hadith of the hellel bait say this is music. This is singing and music What let me know I mean like we move on and sort of Moomin on among the qualities of the Mu'mineen the believers what let me know I mean like we move on those who Avoid vain talk vain speech The riches about bait say this is music. This is singing Let me ask a question at your wedding. You're starting a new life with a new person Do you want Shayatine to be present or do you want angels? Ask yourself this question. Who do you want present? You want Shayatine Have all the music that you want and you'll have a lot of Shayatine. You'll have Shaytan and his army Dancing at your wedding But do is that what you want? Or do you want angels at your wedding? Do you want angels to be a present and have? Your marriage your wedding to be a blessed which one do you want you choose? Is this how you think Allah swt for finding you for finding you someone? That's suitable for you. That's compatible with you Someone who will complete your life Someone who will share the rest of your life with you. Is this how you thank Allah? By beginning your marriage your wedding day with music. This is how you thank Allah Yes on on the other hand there are some people, you know, may Allah bless them There's no music at their wedding Instead they they begin their weddings with Quranic recitation With Hadith Al-Qisab With religious Poetry and Anashid Perhaps with a lecture I've been invited to some weddings to give a lecture Some of you are thinking are you know, what a boring wedding to have to say it speak at that Wedding well Some they choose to have that They'd like to listen maybe to a word of advice on marriage on how a husband should treat his wife on how a How a wife should treat her husband Some choose that They want their wedding to be an Islamic wedding You know, I tell some people this When I speak about this about music out weddings some people say but say you know If I don't have music at my wedding my wedding is going to be boring Who's going to come to my wedding if there's no music and if they come thinking that there's music and Then there's no music My wedding will be remembered as the most boring wedding in history. I don't want that I want people to enjoy my wedding to have a good time out my way. I want to have you know good memories The answer number one, you don't necessarily need to have music play religious songs play religious and Ashid play Poetry and songs of a little bait of their members of imam Ali, alaihi salam. They could Ali and Ibad Their members of Ali bin Ibrat Ali is a form of worship Have that instead. That's an alternative that you could have at your wedding. Let's start this trend If one person does it two three four becomes a trend in the community and we can end we can put a stop To music at our weddings. This is one two Two so what Would you rather Have a wedding that's boring or would you rather have a wedding that disobeys Allah's monotone? You're disobeying Allah in that wedding. You're beginning your life with this Life partner of yours by disobeying Allah from the first day from the first start, which one would you rather have be boring or disobeying Allah I'm sure all of you would choose to be boring Even though you could make your wedding not boring Just because there's no music it doesn't mean that your wedding will be boring. So I love Muhammad Muhammad Now let's go a step further There are some that not just have music, but there's also what? There's dancing at their weddings There's dancing now let and I'm talking about And I'm not I'm talking about weddings that are not mixed Men are by themselves when are by the woman are by themselves Well, obviously men would not be dancing by themselves. That doesn't happen But women in some cultures in some countries Islamic countries women get up and dance According to a lot of scholars and Maraji and this is not allowed This is not allowed Some people think that as long as it's an all-woman wedding or it's it's Separated it's segregated Woman could play music and they could dance who told you Who told who said this which Marja said this? This is not allowed even if it's a segregated wedding This is not allowed Music is not allowed and dancing is not allowed according to a lot of scholars Yes, maybe you might find one or two that say that's a lot, but according to most scholars, this is not allowed This is we're talking about segregated weddings Let alone mixed weddings Let alone mixed weddings Men and women are together There's music being played. There's a DJ and there's a dance floor And before you know it they're they're Muslims at this wedding and they're dancing They're dancing. What sort of wedding is this? Have we forgotten all of our principles have we forgotten about about our religion and our faith? What sort of marriage do you want to begin? This is a place for shaitan. You're inviting shaitan. You're telling him welcome to my wedding come and do whatever you'd like This is your playground come and do as you please. Is that what you want? I know in some communities inshallah this doesn't exist in this community But there's some people listening to me online. I know in some communities. I will not mention names here in North America and Some communities there's mixed weddings. There's dancing and They videotape it and then they go and put it on YouTube For everyone to see that at their wedding there was dancing The husband the bride and the groom dance with his bride the father dance with his Daughter that's a bride. He's proud of it And he's willing to have everyone in the community see it It's on the internet isn't this a shame That's it we forgot in our principles our values our ethics our manners We came to Canada. We have to be purely Canadian and pick up all of the values and we have to have a Canadian wedding We came to America. We came to Australia. We came to the UK We came to Europe. We have to have a European wedding. We have to have an American wedding. We have to have an Australian wedding That's it. We forgot in all of our values This is not right. I hope that we can put an end to this dancing at our At our weddings Another thing that I have to address is mixed weddings mixed weddings Where there's men and women together in the same hall and the women are dressed up and the Fancy is clothing and the tightest clothing. There's makeup You know, and I wish it was simple makeup But there's like 10 pounds or kilos of makeup and Perfume and cologne and all that and they're mixed and it's perfectly fine And that's as if there's nothing wrong You know, if it's segregated Woman could wear whatever they'd like Go to a segregated wedding. There's no man seeing you Put on as much makeup as you want knock yourself out Wear whatever you'd like, but if it's a mixed wedding There's one hall Men and women are seeing each other They're sitting next to each other on the same table. This is wrong Just because it's a wedding. It doesn't make it. Okay Does it mean it doesn't make it okay? Just because it's a wedding They're mixed the makeup the hijab the or lack of hijab not the hijab with the lack of hijab This is not right This is not right. You know as some weddings There's some people that look forward to going to weddings because they know that people are going to be dressed up The guys are going to be dressed up and the girls are going to be dressed up Basically, it's going to be a fashion show obviously you're going to look forward to those weddings If it's a fashion show and it's mixed there's men and women going together That becomes a fashion show Do we want our wedding and our marriage to have blessings or no or to have lana from Allah? And from the angels Do you want angels to come and bless our weddings or to come and curse us and curse our weddings? We must end this culture my dear friends the culture of mixed weddings. This must end This must end You know, I might sound weird for saying this but this is this is the truth. Someone has to say this We have to end the culture of mixed weddings. We have two choices We have two choices either end the culture of mixed weddings There's a hall for men and there's a hall for women and you could do whatever you'd like Men could dress however they'd like and women could dress however they'd like and they could put as much makeup as they'd like or the other option is that have a joint Wedding a mixed wedding But ladies cannot dress up and no makeup You decide You decide which one's easier. Of course the thought of going to a wedding without makeup. That's unheard of That's unheard of so your option is Segregate them have a hall for women and have a hall for men No mixing This is the Islamic option It's not just about the mixing. You see some people say we'll say it. Are you saying that mixing is haram? Are you saying that at our homes if we invite guests we can't sit together The problem is not with the mixing. The problem is what comes with the mixing They're getting dressed the lack of hijab. There's no scarf. There's no hijab There's makeup. There's perfume. It's these things that come with the mixing But if there's perfect hijab the lady's covered She has a scarf on there's no makeup. There's there's nothing wrong with mixing So it's not about the mixing it's about the things that come with the mixing That's the problem