 You know I've heard some men say hey, you know, I'm just one bad mood away from losing my kids She can just file for divorce and take my kids right men feel this And I know women that use that as power over there They can make their men do whatever they want Because they can take their kids anytime they want and they use it as a form of power And this is you know, California is infamous for that California divorces are just infamous for that kind of control The issue for men though Comes down not so much to these temptation issues and honestly for men. It's not the money I'll give an example for me when I when I got to when my ex-wife divorced me She was trying to transition my son to a girl without my consent. I've been fighting that. I spent over a million dollars fighting that I offered her $20,000 a month in child support and 50-50 custody for 50-50 time with my son because I knew if I had 50-50 time in my son He would reject a female identity because he's never presented as a girl with me She turned down that money to keep that control you see Okay, so for you can see that even in my case and most fathers. It's not the money. It's being secure in their posterity Men have an intense and I mean an intense desire To raise their children I mean, I'm just getting chills even talking about it because I know I have that feeling in mice It's it's I don't know if you're if you're not religious You might say it's some kind of instinctive reaction from evolution, you know, whatever it's deep and it's not something It's one of those things that men cannot control Okay, you can't control your mothering instincts, you know, we don't have those Right, we you know, I remember when I had children I just marveled at that at how the instincts that women had about the the needs of the children It was just absolutely marvelous. I can believe it. It was almost like ESP men have an intense desire to direct the ethical upbringing of their children and The inability to do that is a tremendous blow to their masculinity. It's it's it's probably the only thing worse would be castration So I want to tell you how the laws make men insecure in their posterity First of all, yeah, law fathers presumptively lose the kids. This may surprise you Right, but I'll give you example in the Texas statutes. We have something called the standard possession schedule About 80% of men who get custody kids get this It may be higher. It may actually be higher because we don't have records for some counties So this gives a man 24% of the time of this child. It's the every every other weekend Thing right so you've heard psychologists up here talk about anything less than 40% it's a single-parent home Right, so the father is really removed from the mental moral upbringing of their children by the standard possession schedule But the standard possession schedule since it gives 24% which is less than 25% Maximizes title 4d reimbursements to the state So it's no accident that that's the standard Here's the thing that custody arrangement is considered to be Statutorily at law in the best interest of the children So when you go into a divorce presumptively the judge assumes That it's in the best interest of the children for the father to have 24% of the time of the kids and the father has to rebut that presumption to get it changed and That rebuttal has to be powerful enough that the state loses title 4d money's a lot of title 4d money's You see where I'm going with this fathers are presumed at law to lose their kids Father's lose all privacy. Let me give you an example for me I've been under I've been in continuous litigation for nine years Every time you've seen me in there getting coffee Anytime you've seen me buying a drink in here during our little soirees in the evening All of those Transactions I am required to deliver to my ex-wife to be scrutinized my entire financial life all my bank accounts bank statements Credit card Transactions cash transactions any receipts that I receive have to be delivered to her So most fathers endure this because it's integral to child support calculations Suppose I want to reduce my child support The court is going to say yeah, but you bought lattes at that conference You could have given that to your kids that proves to me that you're not thinking about your kids No, I'm not reducing your child support. That's why women ask for these things and have the court order us to give it to them So we have no financial privacy that goes for my business that I have as well All my bank accounts all my client lists everything