 Hello YouTube family and this one we're going to be speaking about why people hate you for no apparent reason because I know only to you and they play on this a lot but yes I know only to you there is a reason you could say there's more than one reason but it really all comes back to this now before I get into it please hit that thumbs up button down below to show your support very important as it helps the YouTube algorithm to get this message out there to other viewers and survivors who may need to see it also hit subscribe and click all notifications to be notified when I upload a new video or when I go live in the future I'd also don't forget you can book a one-on-one coaching session with me just go to my website it is narkseviver.co.uk now let's get into this message people hate you for this reason they hate you because and they're not they don't even really know you they don't know who you actually are all they're seeing is your image what's on the outside what's on the surface that's what they're viewing and they're seeing things about you these qualities these abilities these things that you have sometimes it may also be your possessions could be your house a car it could be your clothes it could be a friend a relationship partner someone that you know it could be a person but what it comes down to is this you have something and they're looking at you and they want it they want to take it they want it for themselves because they come around you they're witnessing you and they can see that you've got it you've got this thing that they want as I said that could be a quality and ability a characteristic trait a skill it could be a possession something material a house a car a person relationship partner friend it could be your job it could be your business but you've got something and it could be a number of things it could be that you are the full package it could be your physical appearance maybe you're particularly attractive you look good you go to the gym you work out you take good care of yourself maybe you get your eyebrows waxed or threaded like it manicures pedicures you like going to the store buying new clothes you take good care of your skin your hair so it could be that you could be the full package and you take care of yourself to such a degree on such a level but it's very difficult for anyone to compete with it's very difficult for anyone to do what you do and especially when they see the finished products I mean that's really overwhelming for them they see the years of hard work that you put in and then you show up they went to set you're before them and it's like you got it all you look good you take good care of yourself got a nice house a nice car you're intelligent you've got the experience the knowledge the wisdom and they're looking at that and it's like how can I ever measure up to that is what they're thinking how can I even achieve a fraction of that level and in that moment it kind of hits them where it's like pretty much what goes on in their mind is I can't I can't ever be that I can't ever amount to that and that's really the process that goes on in their minds and that is the reason why they hate you so it's pretty much a lack of belief in themselves a lack of hope maybe a lack of help and support as well even though you may have done it on your own so essentially they feel inadequate they feel like they're not good enough to become that amount to something on their own in their lives and yeah they look at you and it's just very overwhelming for them they feel like they could never amount to that they could never be on your level and they don't look at how for so many years you may have put in the work to become that it may have taken a lot of time a lot of your effort your energy and for them because they are very arrogant and entitled it's like they look at what you got and it's just I want that now never mind they haven't done the work they haven't earned it they just see it and they want it yes they want to be you they literally want to be you they want your energy your drive your passion your enthusiasm your qualities your abilities your hard work they just went out all for themselves but actually those who are highly narcissistic they're just looking at the finished product they're not thinking about the qualities the abilities the hard work the dedication that it took for you to get there they're not thinking about that at all they're just looking at what's on the surface and that's what they want and that's why they will often try to mimic it or even steal it from you but they don't recognise the hard work that went into creating it so even if they do try to rob it from you in many ways they're just putting themselves at a disadvantage because all they've got is something superficial something that's on the surface they haven't got the foundation the structure that it took to build it so essentially what they then have is like a house of cards that could collapse at any moment it could quite easily fall apart but yeah they act this way because of the lack of belief in themselves they don't believe that they could ever achieve it and I could talk about this from experience well not that but I can talk about my experience where I remember many years ago and I've always been this way my entire life I'd look at people who are who I deemed to be greater superior to me because they've done the work to get there to be the person that they are and it was never like I wanted to be another person I never felt that way at all I mean of course as you probably experience yourself have come across people where it's like they wish I would be anyone other than myself they wish I would be that but when I come around people it's like who are greater why do you do greater than me superior they've worked hard and maybe they got things that I want to on some level things that may be similar to what I want and this could be something where it's like it could be if they've got a nice house a nice car maybe they go to the gym they work out they got a nice body other than I'm thinking I want to be fit I want to be strong you know as anyone thinks that's completely normal to admire qualities and other people whatever the qualities may be or even their possessions and that's actually very healthy it's a good thing to admire respect these things but I was never looking at someone like okay I want to be you I want your life I was never look at anything like that but in fact how it was for me is that as I mentioned yes I have there was a time when I would look at other people's qualities possessions and I'd be thinking I wish I could achieve something that I want I wish I could achieve that level of intelligence wisdom but hard work I wish I could develop those qualities I wish I could have a nice home for myself I wish I could have a nice car but for me it's different because I always had the belief in myself from the very beginning from day one I mean literally my entire life I always knew I could do anything I could be anything I could have whatever I want I always knew this at the core level even though of course yes many times many people try to beat it out with me they try to beat it down but they never managed to succeed and I've always been this type of person where it's like I can do anything and I can accomplish anything if someone else can do it I can do it too I've always had that mindset and for that reason I guess that's why I've never really looked at people and hated them I've never really envied them it's never been like alright you know how narcissistic people are thinking whereas like they want to be you and they want to take your life and you'll know when you're dealing with these types of people because they're always trying to force things on to you it's like they could achieve something it could be real or it could be imagined it could just be in their heads I mean most of the time it is if you've dealt with narcissists you know what I'm talking about it's this grandiosity but then when you get away from them and then you look back it's like what is it that you've actually got what is it that you've actually achieved you haven't even done anything in your life it's just in their heads and you kind of share this illusion when you're around them they're very good at brainwashing people because that's how they survive they can't actually do anything else but yeah that's typically what they do and they always want to force things on to you I've noticed that so much in my past like I was working a job before I remember I would come across so many weirdos in this job like one thing that really sticks out to me I remember there was this elderly couple in a home where we went to install a TV and I mean they're the nice home it wasn't anything special it was to me it just seemed like an average home but when I went in there we went to install this TV and they were really weird they were just acting strange towards me it's like they were insecure about the TV we installed there and I wasn't even thinking anything of it I didn't think about that big but then the woman there she came to me and she was like talking about her son's TV I'd say how big that is and she was like oh yeah my son's got this TV it's this big and I was just I was kind of shocked I can't say that I was envious or anything it was more confusion because in my mind I was thinking God if you knew you know even though I'm working this job at the end of the job I go back to my home with my father which where I live is lived at the time it's a five bedroom mansion with four floors a multi million pound home with about I didn't even know 10 15 TVs brand new TVs some of them are 80 hundred inch which we change every few years so for me it was just kind of confusion but I think she took it as though you know she had one in that moment maybe not even knowing about anything about me I was just kind of used as a tool and object and that's what these narcissists do a lot they want to like force these things on to you as though yes this is what you want you want this and in your mind you might be thinking you know it's just so obnoxious it's just so out there and they get a confused they mistake it because they're forcing it on to you and you just went out of your face but then they're taking that revulsion that disgust so no oh you're envious you do want this and really it's just like no you just don't want it being forced down your throat all the time but they never actually make that connection and of course narcissists they live in this delusion so I thought I'd share that story maybe that could be helpful for some of you I mean that's just one of so many experiences that I've had but that was a good one for possessions you know with the TV and it's just funny how they like make these outlandish assumptions where it's like you know what a TV a large TV I was like 22 at the time what's a 22 year old going to do with a TV most 22 year olds having got their own home I mean this is just it just sounds ridiculous but this is exactly how these people think because they have these fantasies in their heads where it's like they kind of it's kind of like you have to want this to make them feel secure to make them feel like they're worthy they deserve to be on this earth because they're very insecure about that and everything's just always about them because they're that insecure it's like they just can't rest unless you're constantly attending to them but yeah this is why a lot of people will hate you for this reason got a little cat coming towards me looks like they're gonna hold yeah they hate you for this reason I mean they're literally looking at you like it took me such a long time to realize this and to accept it because I've never thought this way myself I mean as I said when I see people who I deemed to be greater than me it was never like I'll never be that great I'll never achieve that for me it's more yes I believe that I can it doesn't mean that I look at billionaires I think oh yeah I can be a billionaire if anything I'm not that narcissistic to even want to be a billionaire and I don't need to get to that point to then realize that that's not gonna make me happy because of course I already know that I understand it I've achieved enough things in my life and realize that those things didn't bring me happiness to then know that the next thing isn't gonna bring me happiness either and that's just how it goes just keeps going on and on you achieve more more things but we got to stop basing our happiness outside of ourselves that's what a lot of hateful people do they're looking at it like if I just had this quality is possession that you have I mean you look pretty happy yes finally then I could be happy too that's literally how they think and it never works that way other than they engage in unlawful activities they cheat they lie they steal just to get that only to realize that they're still miserable and if anything now they're even more miserable than before they did that because they just did something very wrong which caused a lot of shame which now they can't get rid of so that's typically how it goes for them I mean they're literally looking at us like you've got it and I want it that's how they're seeing us that is literally the the process that's what they're thinking it's kind of like a reptilian brain I mean not kind of like that's what it is they're like reptiles they just they see something shiny something that looks good but it's all surface level it's superficial they're not thinking about anything of meaning substance the hard work that it took for you to become who you are they're not thinking about any of that or they're thinking about is it looks good and it could elicit attention admiration validation from other people to where they may then stroke their ego and make them feel good about themselves that's how they're thinking and of course those of us who are more mature more responsible we're not thinking that way I was never thinking that way when I had all the nice cars dinner nice hotels traveling the world I wasn't thinking oh yeah now I can go around bragging about this now everyone's gonna be envious everyone's gonna be jealous of me I'm gonna make them all feel like garbage because I'm the man I was never thinking that way never I was looking at it from a more mature and responsible way and if anything those things after I worked hard it was more just to provide me with a sense of freedom and comfort that's all that really was and also I would say you know when you achieve a certain level of success yeah in some ways you should hope that it does attract the right kind of people to you other professional people other people who have worked hard unfortunately a lot of times it doesn't it attracts narcissists it attracts people who hate you and they'll pretend to be nice they'll pretend to be your friends secretly that it's want to destroy you they want to take away everything you've got because they're jealous they're envious because it's you and not them and they wish it was them they wish they could be you they wish they could have what you have they just want your life and it took me a long time to get to this realization because I never thought this way even though I don't think this way but you know just understand it from their perspective from how these hateful and envious people see it this lack of belief that they have in themselves where it's like you have something they don't have it they want to take it from you because they feel like they can't build it on their own but for me I always felt like I can do it on my own like I can do anything on my own but actually I can do better on my own rather than being around other people for me it was more the opposite I felt like other people are just holding me back from becoming the incredible person that I can be which most of the time that's how it was I've asked what I've advised before for a lot of you when you're around dysfunctional families friends the toxic that is holding you down holding you back just get away from them and then watch how you grow watch how you become successful but you can't do that around them because they're not successful because they have no belief in themselves and they do not want to see you succeed just so then they can reflect on how they fail to do that in their lives that's why they were to hold you down they were to hold you back because they know it's never going to be like that for them they know that no matter what they do they're never going to develop those qualities those abilities and that's why they typically just set up for trying to steal your life your possessions they settle for trying to steal all of that because they know that they're never going to be able to achieve that on their own that's why I've got a good move again now wherever I go a lot of people follow me well you look there's a nice sunset here but not quite sunset yet but oh there's cats following me but I don't mind these cats are welcome to follow me around hopefully it will help to protect my energy but yeah this is why people hate you they hate you because they can't be you they feel like they got a bad deal in life that's literally how they feel they look at themselves they look at their lives they look at what they've done what they've achieved and they reflect on their lack of belief in themselves of what they how they feel that they can't achieve anything so they look at themselves in their lives and they compare it to other people they're constantly on social media look at everyone else's life and they just feel like they can never measure up they can never be good enough a lot of them are depressed they feel like they're never going to be anything so then they look to celebrities could be people in movies their friends whoever it may be and then they're like alright let me take on this person's identity but then they see someone else so then someone else and then they take bits and pieces of all these different people to concoct this false character and that's how they then lose all of their power their energy which can no longer be generated from within because they've externalized it and they pretty much sold their souls so now it's all just about taking from other people that's really the only thing that they can do about point that's where they become so envious because it all started from a lack belief lack of belief in themselves that's what got them to that point and when you get around them it will make you sick what you're aware of it you can feel it you can sense it you can tell it's like yes this person wants something from me this person wants my attention my energy potentially my resources as well I don't know sometimes I've been there you may feel guilty you may feel like you could help them to become the person they want to be I've tried to do that I try to start a business for someone before you can't do that though all that's going to happen is they will pull you down to their level because they'll still have this lack of belief in themselves all that's happened is they've external externalized this I've made it so that it's like okay I can believe in myself with you here as long as you give me your energy your attention now I feel like I can do it but then at the same time they kind of have to push you down because then they start to see it as a competition they begin to view you as a threat this cat's feeling quite comfortable you with my bag it looks like it's got a little moustache I used to have a moustache as well last year more cats joining welcome to the clan this is the NARC survivor group for cats I don't know by these guys over here come on you're either with us or you're against us but seriously though this is it this is where they you this is where they can't stand you and it's so obvious you're going to know when people hate you because it's like they're always undermining you they devaluing you they're talking down on you and notice this as well they always minimize your success and accomplishments your hard work while exaggerating their own that's so you know that they're insecure about it because a person who is secure they can appreciate it they can value it in another person I mean as long as you're not one of those people who just force it down people's throats so they constantly bragging and boasting and it's like you know just shut up just go away I've got other things to do other things to think about maybe I want to think about my own work my own accomplishments rather than just everything revolving around you so that could be a case as well as long as you're not doing that then you know people can hate you for that reason as well if you're always there and you just won't leave them alone you won't go away I mean that'll make anyone hate you and yeah no situations you may feel like you dislike yourself but really it's just because they're around you and they won't leave you alone that's really what the problem is there but with these types of people people who hate you I mean you're just minding your own business you're probably that type of person who likes to keep to themselves you don't like to be around too many people as I said in past videos you like being on your own you like your own time you're not bothering anyone you're not interfering you're not disturbing them and it's like people are coming to you they're after you of course you must think at some point it's like if you hate me then why do you want to be around me why do you want to be in a relationship with me why do you want to be my friends why do you want anything to do with me and of course it's not even that they really hate you it's more they hate themselves they hate their lack of belief and ability the lack of belief in themselves and their lack of ability that's what they hate that's what they can't stand and they're reminded of that when they're around you but then at the same time they want to be around you because they're released they're a parasite a bottom feeder and you've got what they want they're hoping that by getting around you your qualities may rub off on them or if they're highly narcissistic they may not even be thinking about that at all and it could just be what surface level or rather even if they are highly narcissistic they are still thinking about that because if you look at cannibals they will often consume their victims they will eat them because they want them to become a part of them they see them as strong independent confident whatever it may be whatever qualities they have and also even prisoners of war they were once consumed once they were captured in the hopes that they were consuming their qualities their courage their strength and that's a big part of it so I know a lot of you empaths chosen ones you have that courage you have that strength and they don't have that quite clearly you can tell from their behavior they can't leave you alone the row is after you they want what you've got they can't create it on their own if you enjoyed this video so far please hit the thumbs up button down below to show your support thank you together NBS the jealous they just do not want you to be you they do not want to his support and encourage you what you're trying to do on your journey they do not want to support or encourage that because they already see you as being far superior to them you're far greater so they want to keep you down they want to discourage you they want you lead to lead you to a different path that's more negative degenerate where it just takes value away from you rather than add in value to you they're trying to lead you down that road rather than leading you somewhere that could be beneficial for you but of course many of them probably can't even do that anyway even if they tried because you got to look at it like if they could do that they would probably go off and do that instead of coming after you and trying to bring you down I mean you got to look at it like this if you knew alright I've got this amount of time this amount of energy effort resources if you knew that investing that in yourself would bring you more of a return rather than spending that hate it on someone else and trying to bring them down then you'd probably be doing that you would be investing that time effort and energy into yourself just as many of us are doing right now to learn more about this so that we can protect ourselves she never know where you might run into another one as well but as for narcissists it's all just all about constant hate to bring in people down coming after us never leaving us alone because they see it as though their time is better spent doing that to create the solution as though they are greater than you and that really gives the ultimate delusion that is insane to think that if you keep someone else down that makes you better than them and though it does not if anything to any real person anyone who is conscious and aware they will realize that no that makes you the fool because all you're doing is lying to yourself by keeping that person down by elevating yourself at their expense because if you've got the belief the confidence in yourself you've got the ability you've got the energy to actually make something happen for real but why don't you just go out and do that why don't you just make that happen for yourself instead of investing that time effort and energy into bringing someone else down I mean that just tells you all you need to know the fact that they think that by being around you by keeping you down by just by being in your presence they recognize that that's more beneficial for them that's more profitable than them going off on their own and trying to make something happen by themselves which reveals to you I mean unless they come out around you trying to build trying to cooperate that's different of course those are the people that you want to keep around you and I would hope that yes we could find people like that it's like we can do more together than we can do alone I mean that's great if we can but these types of people they're looking at it like they can do better getting around you cheating you deceiving you hated on you than going off on their own and doing something by themselves so this is why they hate you they hate you because they can't be you because they can't have what you have they can't have your life they can't live in the way that you live they can't experience life in the way that you do that's another thing as well that I forgot to mention and I've experienced this myself where I have come across people earlier on in my life where I looked at it and I was like why are you coming after me why are you stalking me why are you harassing me when you're quite clearly more developed more successful than I am maybe even more capable as well and what I realized is it can appear that way sometimes and they may be in some areas some aspects of life but then in others they're not and they're envious or jealous of you for that and not only that but some people it's just that you could experience happiness joy even with the little things in life and they can't so they could have it all but then they're still envious and jealous of you and your happiness and fulfillment because while they may have everything they're still not happy they're still not good maybe they still want more or maybe and this is the case with a lot of people today they cheated their way to get there they manipulated people so it's always on their conscience they feel a lot of shame they sold their souls and now they can't be happy with anything and sadly it's extremely rare that you will find someone who is successful and didn't sell their soul someone who is actually happy with their success and with the things that they have that's a very rare thing these days I've got all of these cats around me this is definitely an enjoyable moment surrounded by a group of cats few things that I like more because they're just very peaceful they're just good company to be around whereas these types of hateful people that are so is constantly nagging begging they're just so desperate they always want something or they just can't ever leave you alone they're constantly pestering you they're always in your ear they're always over their over your shoulder suffocating you and before you may not have been conscious or aware of it you may have felt a lot of shame that they were deflecting onto you they may have felt like there's something wrong with you it's like you can't make that connection that this person is actually not leaving you alone because there's something wrong with them that they're desperate they need something from you something that you have that they do not possess and if you're like me because I have spent many years get to know myself and I know that I do possess certain qualities as you may notice in my videos such as my confidence my humility my persistence my resilience I'm the type of person where it's like there could be a million people against me and I would still not give up I would not cave in I would not feel like I'm wrong unless I am actually wrong then of course I would accept it and I would try to learn from it but I know I know what's right and what's wrong I mean of course I do I'm not survivor be making these videos five and a half years so yeah I have that confidence and I have that confidence before as well I confidence that belief in myself that's what got me this far so you may have that as well you trust yourself that's why they failed to gas like you you always managed to hold on to the reality no matter what they say no matter what they do to you they can't take that away from you and not only that but you are pure you're uncontaminated because when you see abuse when you see things that are toxic unlike other people who are going towards it they love the drama the gossip the chaos you're going the opposite way you don't want to get involved so you remain pure and uncontaminated remember these are all qualities that narcissists do not possess that's where they come out around you because they want that they're hoping that maybe that will rub off on them not because they actually value and appreciate it because they're thinking okay maybe I can use this to manipulate people to deceive them the hide behind it this mask so they're seeing these qualities you possess and they're wanting that for themselves but it's no good in their hands anyway anything that they have it just turns to shit it really does I mean I've noticed I'm in a 35 years old in my experience from everything that I've worked towards and achieved pretty much anything that I touch it turns the gold I give it life and I'm sure that's why so many narcissists come around me because I have that life but these types of people anything they touch it turns the shit it just falls apart and really anything anything that they get involved in they just shut it they turn it into something bad and I'm sure you can all relate to this you know exactly what I'm talking about whether it's like it could be a movie you're watching and then they they have to resonate with a character and it's like they see themselves as that they internalize it or it could be a song a celebrity you admire it could be even when they try and steal your identity they're trying to make it their own and then you want to become something else then be it around them they can make you hate yourself that's so bad that is just anything they touch anything they get involved in anything they participate in it turns the shit they ruin it and it will disgust you it will provoke revulsion it will make you sick just because they're involved in it and it makes you sick because you know they're not about growth they're not about development they're not about anything positive they just want to bring things down and use it for their own narcissistic tendencies to where it's all about them so it's destructive anything they get around it dies falls apart but this is it this is why they hate you because you're you you're this amazing wonderful person who did the work to become the person that you are today to where you are confident powerful strong your everything that you wanted to be and they get around you and they want some of that but it's not something where it's like they want to participate in it and they can help you build up you grow I mean you got to think about like this they know that are good enough they're inadequate they lack belief to create anything in their own lives for themselves so you really think we're gonna get around you and think oh yeah I can co-create I can help to build something with this person they're not gonna be thinking that way they're gonna get around you and think this looks good I want this for myself I want to take it that's how they're gonna be thinking because they lack the belief in themselves this is why it can be very dangerous to get around people who are insecure I mean not always there are times where you can help them I mean many of you you are confident it's just your in you they talk to your insecurities they made you feel insecure but that's not really who you are they impose the full counter on to you as soon as you get away from them you will start feeling better about yourself but yeah if any of you are feeling insecure then you're a good example of people who we can get around and improve and make better and that's why I do the work that I do but there are also a lot of insecure people out there a good example would be vulnerable narcissist covert narcissist they lack belief in themselves they're very insecure and they get around you and they don't really believe they can build you up they can co-create they can build anything with you they're not thinking that way they're just looking at what you've got and they want to take it they went up for themselves because they know they could never build they can ever create that for themselves they know that's never gonna be a reality for them that's why they look at you like a snack like a meal ticket like you can pretty much just put them in a very unnatural situation for themselves which they would never achieve without you without you they would never have that they would never get there there would never be anything but even after they leave you they don't amount to anything anyway they just go back down they go back to where they belong they go back to who they are but yeah this is why they hate you because you have these qualities his possessions maybe luck his qualities his virtues you have all of these things that they see in you and they don't have and they know that they're never gonna have they're never going to achieve so that's why because they lack belief in themselves they lack the confidence that's the process that goes on in their minds whereas with us when we respect and admire someone who they seem to be great seem to be greater than us it's like we still believe in ourselves we believe we can achieve more that we can achieve what they have for ourselves so we don't need to hate we don't need to envy them because we know we can do that on our own they don't think that way that's why they hate you that's why they can't stand you that's why they're envious of you that's where they're dangerous and that's why you need to stay far away from them because just being around them things are going to go down for you things are going to get worse and I've said this in a video before you need to be very careful with the company that you keep because you never know what type of people you may be dealing with they may act like they're your friend they're there to support you to help you but a lot of people know they're not they're just there to let you off you to take something from you you've got something and they want it but they never really gonna get it they're never gonna get your qualities they're never gonna get everything that makes you who you are they're never gonna be who you who you are it's never gonna be like that for them so don't worry about it they can't get what you have inside they can't take your soul they can't steal that from you even though yes many of them they wish that they could but you're always gonna have that you're always going to be you at your core you're always gonna be you you're gonna have you're always gonna have your qualities your virtues your characteristics the things that matter the things that means something to you are they not they're just gonna be the shapeshifters the chameleons that they are but they're little farce character while they steal bits and pieces from other people so that they can feel desirable and attractive powerful important whatever it may be and that's all that they're ever gonna be well for you you're always gonna be you that's why they hate all right so I hope you found this video helpful if you did you can give it a thumbs up down below to show your support very important as it does help the youth algorithm to get this message out there so that it can help other viewers and other survivors like yourself so yes very important please hit that thumbs up button down below and let me know your thoughts in the comment section let me know what you think about what I said let me know if you agree with it or not let me know why you think they hate you I'd love to hear from you I read your comment every day hit subscribe because notifications to be notified when I upload a new video or when I go live in the future and if you would like to donate you can leave a switch at the live chat a super thanks in the comment section or you can go to my PayPal it is paypal.me and also 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