 Every time you say yes, but you mean no, I'm going to tell you now, it accumulates. If you're a people-pleasing person and lots of us are raised that way, it's really hard to set boundaries. The first word a child learns is no. Not yes, it's no. But sociologists tell us, and I think it's true, the older you get, no is harder to say. Because the more you say no as an adult, the more you're worried about the social implications. Do people think I'm not kind? Do they think I'm not supportive? Do they think I'm not loving? So we say yes, but we mean no.