 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at commitmentconnection.com and in today's video we're going to talk about how guys test you before they date you. And I'm going to give you seven things that a guy might test you for before he will date you. And this is to look and see what kind of material you are as far as a relationship is concerned. So if this is your first time to my channel make sure you go and hit the subscribe button to get more videos on how to have the relationship you've always wanted. So the first thing that a guy is going to test you for is your level of enthusiasm for his hobbies and interests. Now I want to make some clarification here because a lot of women think oh maybe I should be into you know sports or whatever. For some guys that's cool, for other guys it's not at all. They're not interested in that. What they're more interested in is you supporting their interests, your enthusiasm for their interests as opposed to being interested in the same things as them. You don't have to and a lot of cases that might even be unattractive. For some guys it might be attractive, it just kind of depends on the guy. So the second one that a lot of guys will test you for is your level of sarcasm. And again this depends on the guy. Some guys want sarcastic women. Some guys don't. Some guys are not into sarcastic women at all. And so a lot of times a guy will just test and just say crazy sarcastic things to kind of see how you react to it. Are you gonna freak out? Are you gonna lose your mind? Or if he's not into sarcasm he'll see if you're sarcastic and then be like oh she's really sarcastic and I'm not really interested in that which I have seen as well with guys. So it could be either way. Kind of depends. Number three is that he's gonna test your personality based on what you are into and what he can find that you're interested in and you check out and you watch or you read or you listen to like what kind of music you listen to what kind of movies you're into what kind of books you're into and so on because it kind of tells him a lot about your personality and it can be fascinating too. So the fourth thing that he's gonna test is your sense of adventure and daring. So are you adventurous? Are you just gonna hang out and want to hang out in the house all the time? You know and honestly there's nothing like it's funny because there's kind of like this thing in our society and our culture like there's this one way to be and it's there's not you know there's a lot of guys that are like hey I don't want to go out and go out to bars. I don't want to go out into nature. I want to go on hikes. You know I want to hang out in the house and you know work on things or you know make food or whatever. I mean people are into lots of different things and so he's gonna test kind of your sense of daring and adventure against his and look at to see if it's a good fit or not because if you're like crazy on the adventure side and he's not then it might not be a good fit for him or you. So but that is a thing that a lot of guys will end up testing you for. Another thing that a guy will test you for is your sense of family with maybe his family and how you kind of react and interact with not only his family but also his friends you know. So if he brings you around different people and you don't like them or get weird or they don't like you I mean sometimes that's totally okay especially with family it's not it's not always a problem if they don't like you because you know family can be crazy so a lot of times you're like oh well you know maybe that's even a good thing sometimes but but he'll definitely ask you he'll definitely test you with that one. So the sixth thing that a lot of guys will test is like your boundaries and how far you go with different things and so he'll a lot of guys will even subconsciously subconsciously just push things in a certain direction to see how far he can take things with you before you'll say no if you'll say no and you know this can actually determine how a man feels about you and whether your relationship material or not and if you want a man to see you as relationship material and see you as a valuable human being make sure you have boundaries and that you stick by them. A seventh thing that a man will test you on is his your tolerance for his independence so a man you know and this kind of goes with the last one a little bit there there's this kind of this weird thing that a lot of women and some men even think is like when you're in a relationship like you don't need any time to yourself or something like that I've heard several women say that before in some of my groups and social media channels and stuff and and it's kind of ridiculous you know like the more successful a guy is the more independent he's been in his life the more he's gonna need some time to himself and or if he's a big if he's a big introvert he might need a lot of time to himself as well and you know he's gonna test to see kind of how you react to that are you okay with it can you give him space and allow him space and allow him to be the man that he wants to be without freaking out and getting crazy about it um and so that that's another thing a guy will test for to see if if your long-term relationship material thanks for watching this video if you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website