 Today, what we're going to be talking about is how to always be positive and I don't mean positive in the woo-woo. Hey, man Everything's everything's great. Everything's positive. I mean from a practical standpoint. How can we make everything a positive? So if something negative happens, how can we turn that into a positive? Now if you like this episode, please do me a favor. Hit the like button if you have any questions or comments Please type them down below and also if you love this, please hit the subscribe button so that you'll never miss another episode Now I've had conversations with people who say things along the lines of it's bad to take You know to think that everything in the world is positive talk How everything is positive because negative things happen You shouldn't ignore the negative things and I'm not trying to tell you to ignore the negative at all actually I'm actually more than anything else telling you to focus on the negative and try to figure out a way to turn that negative Into something positive, but the easiest way to think about it is this think of your mind as a garden You're the only person that can tend to this garden. You're the only gardener of this garden It's impossible for you to take tomato seeds Plant them in the ground and expect that strawberries are going to grow It's impossible it will never happen Just like you can't expect to have negative thoughts come into your mind all day long and expect that you're just gonna have a positive life if You are tending to this garden if you're the only one they could take care of it You're also the only person that can pull all of the weeds Just like if you are in control of your mind and everything that pops up all of these negative self doubt Terrible thoughts that pop into your head maybe ways that you talk down to yourself all of those weeds need to be pulled We need to get rid of all of those weeds We need to focus on our mind as if we're the only person they can tend to this garden and take care of it as If we're trying to make the most beautiful garden that we possibly can't you cannot take tomato seeds Put them in the ground and get strawberries You can't have negative thoughts. You can't have negative things happen You can't have self doubt you can't talk down to yourself and expect that you're just going to have this positive life You have to be in control of this Your thoughts are not random your thoughts are things that pop into your head Based on the way that you thought in the past in the way that you currently still think So what do I mean by that you can't really control your first thought at this point Right now the thoughts that pop in your head those automatic thoughts Those are based off of the way that you've lived in the past So you can't necessarily change your thoughts right away You can't control that first thought but you can always control that second thought So if the first thought pops in your head is Extremely negative if that's if that's the first thought that pops in you can immediately go no I'm not going to allow that I'm going to turn this into something positive I'm going to take this negative situation and turn it into something positive I'm going to take this talking down to myself or the self doubt and and tell myself that I am good enough I'm going to actually prove to myself how that self doubt is actually wrong You have to think of your mind like a like a muscle really to be honest with you You go to the gym and you do a lot of bicep curls You're going to eventually get larger biceps And if you start to go into the gym you pick up a larger weights and larger weights Eventually that muscles going to grow What I am talking to you about is like a gym for your mind when the negative comes in how can I be so Strong how can I have the mental fortitude to turn this negative into something positive? I'm not going to ignore the negative. In fact, I'm going to put time into thinking about that negative and think of how I can actually turn that negative Into a positive. How can I take this negative and turn it into a positive? That's what you have to think about That's what you have to control So that's the first part of negativity is negativity that's happening in your mind self doubt that's happening in your mind Now I know some of you that are out there are saying well, you know, I do really good with my own positivity But I have a lot of people in my life that are negative. I have negative people in my life What do I do about that? Well, there's a couple different options number one I would say get rid of them if there's negative people in your life that throw their negativity onto you That make you feel like less of a person or that just really bring you down all the time if it is possible Get rid of them. You don't have to break up with them And if they're a friend that you've been friends with for a long time, you don't have to be like, hey I'm done with you But you could just try to stop hanging out with them or if it's someone say for instance, it's in your family Maybe you just spend less time with them because their negativity if you allow it to Can affect what comes into that that negativity is going into your mind and affecting the way that you live the way that you are So you either get rid of them or you spend less time with them That's completely up to you if it's a family member spend less time with them. It's okay If it's your parents you can still spend less time with them And if there's absolutely if you're if you happen to be watching this And you say well, you know what I live with my parents There's no way I can get away from that negativity. Well, if you can't get rid of them and you can't spend less time with them Then what you should do is see that as a challenge see their negativity as a challenge Just like you go into the gym and you lift heavier weights The more heavy the heavier you get the bigger your muscles going to get right the more Negativity that comes into you and the harder that you work of not letting that man that Negativity enter your mind and turn that negativity into positivity that that challenge will make your muscle your mind muscle stronger How can you take their negative and turn into something positive as well? See that as a challenge now also dealing with negative people I want to talk about your top five. They often say that your net work Determines your net worth How the people that you hang out with Will dictate how much money you make they always say that if you hang out with five Alcoholics you will probably be the sixth if you hang out with five millionaires You will probably be the sixth so if you hang out with a lot of negative people guess what of course their Negativity is entering into your mind of course it is harder for you And so maybe what you do is you take a pen and paper and you write down here are the five people That I spend the most time with These are the five people that I spend the most time with day in day out each day in each week And you look at them and you say is this person right here number one two three four and five and go to each one of them Are they bringing are they making my life better? Are they pushing me to be better or are they bringing me down? Are they pushing me to be the best version of myself or are they pulling me down to their level of negativity? Or their their level that I don't want to be on And what you do is you start finding out who you should spend more time with Who you should spend less time with or hopefully no time with if you can get rid of some of them And what you do is you now realize there's a couple open spots in my top five And with those couple open spots in your top five. What do you do? You try to find somebody to replace them How do you find that person? Why don't you start going to go to meetup.com? Find people that are interested interested in the same thing that you're interested in Go to networking groups go to go to different events or places where people that have the same passion and interests Go that have the same interests as you That could be a conference that could be a seminar you can find if there's different meetups you can go on Facebook groups There's almost a Facebook group for everything So if there's certain things that you like well, then you can go and try to find those people at those things that you like Because here's what you have to realize Your mind is like a garden You are in control of your thoughts. They're not random things and once again, you can't control your first one But you can always control your second one if that negativity pops in you immediately go. No, I'm gonna change it to something positive I'm gonna think of something positive and eventually your first thought will be much more positive Because you've been so diligent with that first thought and then that second thought You'll notice that you're actually gonna start to become more positive over time Won't happen overnight won't happen the next couple weeks But over the next couple months, you'll notice things changing because your mind is like a garden You cannot put tomato seeds in the ground and expect for Strawberries to grow just like you can't have negative input coming into your mind and negative thoughts and self doubt and all those things and Expect that your life is just gonna be positive and you can't hang out with negative people all day long and expect that you're going to be positive You have to get rid of those people you have to get rid of those thoughts Whenever the weeds pop up in your mind You have to pull them and you were the only person that's in control of it You have to guard your mind Diligently in your life will start to change you will start to be more positive And what you'll notice is that the more positive you are the more amazing your life becomes So once again if you like this episode, please do me a favor Please hit the like button comment down below if you have any questions any comments anything like that And I definitely hope that if you want to see more of these videos You hit the subscribe button as well, but I will talk to you guys soon