 Hi, she was seven. So I wanted to make a video on a topic that I saw on Facebook today I thought it was pretty funny. So I thought I'd make a really good video Okay, so this video is going to be about work husbands. I saw this meme this morning on Facebook about work husbands and It's like when a woman has a job and she goes to her job There's always this guy there that likes her has a crush on her She kind of likes him. So it's sort of like a work marriage. Like they they hang out They go to lunch together. They talk about all their problems with this guy You know Stuff like that. So, yeah, and you know, they kind of start crushing on each other And this is the this is the guy the woman Dresses up for and looks good for at work every day And this is the girl that motivates the guy to get up and dress and look nice to go to his job They might not ever have a sexual relationship, but they might and You know, they just like like each other, you know And a lot of men don't realize this that when they're their woman it goes to work or has a career or something like that There is some guy there that likes her most of the time Every job that I've had I've had like a guy that worked there with me Who was cool who probably had a crush on me, uh, I might not have had a crush on them and at other times there was Jobs that I used to go to that might have had a crush on the guy And you know, we became friends and stuff like that. So there's always that person there that's at someone's job That could easily slip into, you know An affair a relationship like if they're not married or something like that. So A lot of a lot of guys will you know, say well You know If i'm with a woman, they're gonna have to work They're gonna have to get out and go and get in job and work and work and work Well, if you're spending more time at a job with someone Eight to twelve hours a day with another man You're going to Probably feel closer to that person than your own spouse, you know, because y'all spend so much time together and You know women and men who work in close vicinity together Feel close automatically. So it's not like they're strangers so When I say like a lot of men, um Are okay if their wife stays home and doesn't work a lot of the time is because of that reason They know if they are in the work environment And they're spending more time with other men who are probably getting paid more or Some kind of superior over them that they're going to be getting different, you know treatment more recognition Um compared to this man and all this kind of stuff, you know So a lot of men don't want their woman to go out and work Because of this a lot of men Forget this and say well, you need to go get a job. You need to help pay have these bills While the woman is at work, you know, her boss is flirting with her her Um co-workers are flirting with her taking her out to eat doing all the stuff you not doing And then you wonder why the woman comes home and upset and mad have to come home to you And she's just left a corporate office where men are well dressed or paid drive a nice car And now she has got to come home to you and your hands out for half the rent guys So y'all have to realize when y'all are with a woman a career woman or a woman that you ask to go out and work She might be discussing you because she's constantly comparing you to other men who she wishes Wishes you were like and the same thing goes for women like women sometimes men go to work and they have work wives, you know They might see this lady. She's got it all pulled together. She's got her stuff in order. She's paying her bills She's independent or she's married and paying her bills and it seemed like she has the perfect life blah blah blah blah blah but And she's probably going home looking at her husband like, you know She He doesn't listen to her or she's over him because she has a good job And she looks down on him and she looks up at the other guy because he's In the same field as her and understands her and can talk to her about work and blah blah blah It just it's back and forth. So there are such things as work husbands and work wives So y'all remember that and I don't like I know like a lot of the women in the field that my husband works in They don't look like much so I'm not even worried about that. Um Um But in certain fields, you know, you have to understand that there are going to be some attractive men and some attractive women um And even before I got married I had work husbands. Um, like when I worked in the, uh, Funeral industry Uh And they weren't like romantic work husbands. They were like friends, you know, they were just cool And because a lot of times they will partner you up with a person at work, you know, it will be your A partner or your co-worker that you have to work with so you can't really help but to not Feel close to someone A lot of times people work by themselves because they're like the boss or the manager and they have all these little Uh people beneath them that have crushes on them because they're in a higher position and they like them So then you have to deal with that, especially if your man is a boss or a manager or if your woman's a boss or a manager you're gonna have like you know Stuff like that happening. So you have to think about those kind of things and Either deal with them know that they exist A lot of men are like blind to this and they can never fathom their woman, you know, being in a work marriage But it's true And uh, like I've had people comment on the meme Especially guys and then like what what the f like like y'all didn't know that women have work husbands Breaking news and this one guy even commented that um He lost his fiance to her work husband and they actually Ended up getting married, but he divorced her later on but yeah, he lost his fiance to her work husband Anyway, if y'all have a work husband Uh, put it in the comments if y'all have a work wife put it in the comments. Tell me If the president if the chance presented itself for you to you know, be involved with your work husband, would you Uh, do you have a crush on your boss? Do you see someone in your office building that you want to get with? Uh, even though if you're attached to somebody already, do you get dressed and go to work And look good for that special cute guy or cute guy at the office or cute girl at the office Do y'all have that type of motivation to go to work? I know I used to I could not like unless there was a cute guy there to look cute for To exchange, you know back and forth with I didn't want to go to work And that's just the truth Um I mean, of course the money. Yes, you need the money But this just makes you want to get it get up early look extra good beyond time It's true. I mean, I think it's true. So, um It's funny because I was trying to, um work Actually, I said I'll I'll go get a job. Oh, yes I'll go get a job and at such and such funeral home and My husband already knows how a lot of those guys are at the funeral home And he was like, well, uh, you don't have to work once you just stay home and blah blah blah blah blah blah And I was like, no, I could work evenings You know and he was like he wasn't having it because he already knows how many are he already knows that If if I were to go and work at some funeral home One of the owners one of the managers one of the funeral directors would try to like, uh, try to date me And I'm not trying to be conceited, but that's just what how guys are, you know, it's just true um So you never know, uh, I I still have like, uh You know some good looks left after all those years, you know, I still got something But yeah So I'm just trying to tell y'all a lot of guys don't realize that This is one of the things that happens When you send your woman out to work And you know, she sees men who are in better positions than you are She starts comparing you but You know, sometimes it's not all bad You know, sometimes the benefits are better than the risks like the woman might be loyal to her husband and she might just Be nice to her work husband And keep the peace, you know And things like that, you never know, um But yeah, like don't send me to somebody's job Please don't and I'm not saying I'm not a good woman or a good wife or anything But don't send me to someone's job Because I will try to um Like I will try to be nice to everyone. I will do this. I will do that if If I'm presented with a work marriage proposal, I might just accept it and go to lunch with some guy and let him pay Blah blah blah blah because then I'll start to rationalize in my mind. Well if my husband's sending me out to work And he wants me to work and earn money and stuff like this, you know, I think I deserve lunch You know, I'll start to rationalize why I should do this because I don't want to be at work in the first place You know So be careful the kind of women you marry because sometimes If they're not the kind that wants to work and you tell them to go out and get a job They might just resent you for and you know Look for work husbands on purpose. Okay Anyway, I have drank like two glasses of I mean two glasses two cups of coffee and Okay, I got an email from somebody That just got a christmas card from me. Oh, that's so nice. Anyway So, yeah, y'all have to y'all have to realize Before you get married to someone and before you start any type of relationship with someone Know who you're marrying. Know the type of woman that you're marrying. Know the type of me and you are married Know that and discuss it before you get married Like say to your fiance. Look, I don't want to work. I want to be a housewife. Do you have a problem with this? If they say no, if they say yes, then you know where you stand, you know Because and if they ever ask you to go get a job, then they already know You know, you don't want to be there and things might not go as planned And men if you're getting ready to ask a woman to marry you make sure you know where she stands about work Say, are you gonna are you gonna work? Are you gonna go back to work after you have kids? How do you want to do this? What's your plans? How do you see this going if they say I don't want to work I don't want to go back to work after I have kids I'll work up until I have kids when we can say it and stuff But after I have kids I'm not going back to work If you don't agree with that then do not marry that woman because if you send her back to work And she resents you for it. She will take it out on you in some type of way Okay, you might not know about it. You might be clueless to it You might not even suspect it and you might not even remember that she didn't want to work After she had kids But she does and she she'll try to tell you and she'll be like, you know, I'd rather stay home Well, maybe we need we need your income because I can't handle it by myself, you know If If you say that to her and she has to leave her child let other people raise her child while she goes to work Pay the day care comes home. She is going to take it out on you and you're not even gonna realize it. Okay so I'm just saying now if you have a career woman and she's just all about work and she puts you to the side for work And she says, you know what? I gotta get this work done work work work work She's all about her career. Then that's fine. She's going to give you know 100 on her job. She's not You know, she's not gonna jeopardize anything But her job, you know, she's not gonna jeopardize anything for her job because that is her main focus It's not you. It's not the man It is her job Her main focus is you know, getting up higher getting pays getting raises getting bonuses getting this getting that It's not you. Okay, you're just there to fill the void Uh in her life where she thinks she's supposed to have a man husband and kids Okay, but really she just wants the career and a lot of people say I can balance it and have it all but Somewhere somebody's suffering. Okay, and that's just the truth Somewhere a kid is suffering not getting enough attention somewhere a husband is suffering not getting enough attention Somewhere a wife is suffering because men do this to women all the time They just focus on their career somewhere a wife or child is suffering from not getting enough time for their father I mean, it's true. Um, there are lots of women out there who have workaholic husbands And they don't even know their kids favorite color. They don't even know what toys they play with their favorite cartoon They don't know none of that because they don't have time to sit and talk to them Enough to ask those type of questions. So you have to understand the type of relationship you're getting into And these work relationships As far as you know, work husbands and work wives because this is the real world and we have to be honest with each other And we all know That there are those people that at work that will say, hey, let's go get a motel at at lunch Hey, let's do and and it becomes an affair at work And the wife and the husband will never find out because they're at work, you know, they're not staying out late You know, they're not um Going on Well, they couldn't be going on work trips, you know, business trips and you'll never know, you know It's the easiest place to have an affair So That will make y'all think twice about you know Marriage before you get married Asking the right questions, you know, where do you where do you where does your career? Uh lie, are you a family man? Are you a career man? Are you going to sacrifice your family's time for your career? And you have to be a woman that will understand that like women who are married to doctors They don't get to see their husbands a lot Their husband has to leave in the middle of dinner movies when they have a page on call or whatever So you have to be able to be comfortable with the type of situation Before you get married Don't say while you didn't tell me be honest up front and know these things Okay, and know that if you marry a woman who does not want to work She will acquire a work husband Okay, and I'll see y'all in it. Bye