 Okay here we are day three and a man that's coming to the stage right now all the way from New York as you can see on this PowerPoint is from date hotter girls.com and also contributes to TSB magazine really fun guy took the trip all the way down here to Orlando to speak at the 21 convention for the first time he's got 45 minutes to better game but he's gonna be up here for 60 so make sure you take advantage of every second ladies and gentlemen give it up for Rob Judge. Alright awesome guys thank you for coming out a lot of you probably have no idea who I am so I don't want to spend a lot of time up here introducing myself all you really need to know about me is like Peter said my name's Rob from New York City my favorite color is green I like coffee love women and I was probably in a worse place than any of you sitting here when I started out so that's pretty much the bare bone facts you need to know and I just want to get right into the speech because I don't have a lot of time but I want this to be a speech that impacts all of you that you what you can listen to what I had to say right now and take this out tonight and translate that into better game so when I was kind of preparing this speech I I was thinking about it like what would be the best things what would be the best things to talk about and it's always tempting to to go over like the amazing things to say or like the smooth strategies of the under the radar attraction techniques you know the classic the classical what you call game and it's so tempting to talk about that because you know what everyone rags and that stuff but secretly that's what we all want right it's so easy it's so simple just to learn some turnkey tactics go out to the bar and use them but I'm not going to do it because it won't help in the long run and this is what my speech is going to focus on it's gonna focus on two things effectively communicating yourself and effectively communicating with women because if any of you know Zach and myself if you've read any of my articles if you're familiar with us you know that Zach and I are two normal guys we're just regular guys I'm not like a pickup superhero I don't go out and talk to the whole club my whole my whole philosophy on meeting and attracting women it's about enjoying the woman it's not about being social it's not about impressing guys it's not about learning a bunch of pickup tactics I don't give a shit about any of that that's just ridiculous in my opinion the only thing I care about is to see the girl that I like the girl I'm attracted to the girl that could potentially change my life and know how to how to have a good chance of picking her up of getting a number of getting around a date making her my girlfriend that that's that's all I'm interested in and I hope that's all that you guys are interested in too because that's all I'm gonna talk about today so the way to do that the most effective way to do that is to change your mindset in my opinion I look around this room none of you need to add anything to your personality you're all probably awesome guys you're all probably funny witty and you know that you have this party of personality already developed the way you are around your friends I'm sure all you have cool friends all you go out know how to have fun kickback but the problem is when you see that girl in front of you all of a sudden all that drops out the window you forget how to be that cool charismatic fun guy that all you already have so my opinion is it's not about adding things to your personality it's not about adding lines or tactics or strategies it's only about changing the way you think the way you view the world so that way when the girls in front of you it's not this big epic battle it's not this epic affair so um you know really values that's your perception what you what you value is the way you're gonna see the world so like I said like you're all already a cool funny awesome guys around your friends but the way you're looking at things it makes it hard to translate that when the girls in front of you because really attraction and I've seen this play out over and over again it's just a self-fulfilling prophecy the way people treat you it's just a reflection of how you see them and how you see them it's just a reflection of the values you've been taught and the problem is a lot of the values that society teaches you or even the pickup industry teaches you it's not conducive to success it doesn't put you in that headspace where you're walking up to the girl assuming that she likes you you're walking up with all these all these doubts all these issues all these things going through your head that's just gonna hold you back from being able to communicate your personality so the thing is some of the stuff I might say might be offensive to you you might you might get butt hurt over what I have to say up here because you know I did I know when I first started out I had a very I read all the books and read all the theory and I went out and practiced this stuff and I had a very concrete way of how I saw or how I thought attraction worked and I remember I used to like hear people say stuff that contradicted what I thought worked and I would get like pissed off I would like go on message boards and like write like two page responses to people like telling them that like a direct game couldn't work and that's just ridiculous and you know it I got so offended but what I didn't realize is if I had just looked at things objectively I could have taken that like that that that opposing viewpoint and translated into success I'll tell you a story it's funny when Zach and I were first starting out with this stuff and we were really trying to like perfect our our theory and our philosophy and try to really you know get to the bottom of what attraction really is I remember there was this this time we were in this this pub in Wall Street you just imagine like it's a hustle bustle people are running around you know waitresses are everywhere and I remember I saw this waitress I was just absolutely like drawn to she was absolutely beautiful and I was watching her walk you know walk around and Zach and I was sitting there and this is when we still very much believed in that you had to like go indirect and go under the radar and tell her a bunch of stories and do all the stuff before she could like you and I remember I said to Zach I said you know what there's no way I can go up to this girl and do all the stuff but I have to meet this girl I have to approach this girl so I'm just gonna go up to her and I'm gonna tell her she's hot and she should give me her phone number and we'll see how it goes and Zach was like oh shit man don't do it but I was like no no I'm doing it I'm doing it so got up and as I was getting up I remember I turned around to Zach and I was like look if I if I get kicked out just meet me outside and I was dead serious I literally thought if I told the girls attracted to her I would get like my ass kicked or I get kicked out of a bar or you know or like mystery was gonna like appear out of a cloud and be like don't tell your gay first you know I just literally thought this was like this is my belief system that I thought that this could never work but you know I was going to try it I went up stopped there told her she was hot and surprisingly she was happy about it and gave me her phone number and this was like this was like amazing to me this was this totally contradicted everything I learned up to this point and it was it was so hard to accept that it was so hard to throw away all my old values and this is why I understand what all you guys are going through and I understand when guys go on message boards they flame each other and they have these like dick wars over over whose methods better and whose theory you know like we all laugh about it we all make fun of those guys but I understand where they're coming from I came from there too so again if I say stuff that's offensive or challenges your values I just ask you to be patient with it to give it a try keep an open mind alright because ultimately why are we all here what why are you guys sitting here to get girls that's the answer and so funny answers so fucking obvious but at the same time so many people don't do this to get women they do it to be more social they do it to improve their their their pickup skills they do it to impress guys I'm gonna go all you know we're gonna we're gonna look at all those different things you know throughout this talk but I just want you guys to just make sure you know why you're doing this you're doing this because you love women it's out of a love for women a genuine curiosity a genuine attraction to women and wanted to improve that and that's awesome and that's that's why you're all sitting here so just keep that in the back of your mind as I as I you know go through my slides here so you have to say no to dick logic dick logic is what I what the term I use for on stuff that makes perfect sense to guys like when you read this stuff you're like oh this is awesome I can't wait to go out and do this but it does not appeal to women okay it's advice by men for men maybe if you're picking up guys you don't try out some dick logic but if you want to meet women forget it okay and dick logic I'm gonna throw a couple of examples out here I don't think you need to go out and demonstrate that you're pre-selected before a girl could be attracted to you I don't think there's some girl like if I see a girl I'm attracted to you I don't think oh I need she needs to see me with like 13 girls before I go up and approach her I don't believe you need to get this state to get girls I think that's absurd what you need to go talk to three girls before you can approach the girl you like you know like that's just if you if you put that theory into your head again it's a self-fulfilling prophecy if you believe oh I need to do a warm-up set or oh I need to do a certain number approaches before I could feel I could feel natural or normal then that's that's the way you're gonna feel but I don't believe that shit I think that's all dick logic I think that's stuff that guys have said to you and now you believe it but I think it's bullshit because I know myself when I believed it it was true but once I threw that out once Zach and I because I watched Zach's me and Zach would go out and I watched Zach go up to the first girl he'd approach and go home with her and I'd be like where's where's the three warm-up sets where's where's uh you know also the where's the pre-selection all the stuff and I realized this is all stuff that just men made up and it's just absurd so I don't believe in it and again like I said before this talk is all about just getting you to that point where you can just see the girls you want to get them and without all this all this nonsense in between you know and I'm breaking up the bromance guys like the bromance over it's all about getting girls not getting high fives from guys like I don't care about if I'm loved by by the layer the internet you know whatever I'm just all about all I care about is that I'm with girls that I find attractive and to be quality women so again so focusing on women focusing on women that really that really sifts away a lot of the bullshit it only it matters about two people there's two people you need to effectively communicate those two people are first yourself effective communication begins with yourself it's what I'll say before it's your values the way you see the world because if you can effectively communicate with yourself if you're in tune with your personality that that's that that's a starting point and then you just translate that to her so two people yourself and her the only two people you need to effectively communicate with alright so let's let's spend a little time just just solidifying how to how to effectively communicate with yourself so empowering mindsets seeing girls as girls you know it's I see it or I know I'm from New York and I see it over and over guys are going out like to go into the fucking Middle Earth to do battle with women like look these girls are not Gandalf like they're not like the dragon you have to slay okay this isn't this isn't a military operation like I see these guys come into the club I'll be sitting there at my favorite my favorite rooftop bar with like my girlfriend or or girl I'm talking to and all the sudden I see like the fucking door kick in and like eight guys like swarming the place and they're going like in eight different directions and they're they're like oh wingman you know you these like three letter acronyms dude this is not a military operation it's meeting girls it's the most natural awesome thing you could do with your time why make it into this epic battle like we're not going to Middle Earth for those of you went out last night you know it's like and you know I see a lot of smiles and that's cool because it should be fun it should be just a fun thing it's like when me when Zach and I go out it's going out my best friend to meet girls what could be cooler than that that's like that's all doing I'm going to do two things maybe three things hanging out my friends meet girls and possibly get drunk that's it that's all I want to do you know so again take this idea of pick up being this epic warfare or this battle this grand duel of women just just just eliminated they're just girls and not only that but they're girls that want to meet you and this is this is a belief that was so hard for me to accept but once I did my game my quote-unquote game skyrocketed okay because if you think about it and really I know a lot of people have brought this up but really just think about this for a second how much would your game change if you approach girls believing like truly believing they wanted to meet you how much would it change what you did what you said okay like really think about that how would it change the opener you know I would change the opener there'd be no fucking opener why would you need an opener if the girl already wanted to talk to you if the girls attracted to you why throw out like some kind of like wild opener what what I had to do anything all you had to do just go up and talk to her why do you need like strategies or like ways to talk to her ways to get her invested ways to like knock herself itself a steam down a little bit I don't see that at all why would I have to do that when I look up to girls I see them as girls that already want to meet me because it's so funny you know I have girlfriends that and I talked to them they tell me like it's so funny they know what I do and then they can identify pickup guys very very very quickly and my I just talking about my girlfriend Kelly last night and she was saying oh my god like I met one of those guys that studies that stuff you teach and so funny this guy was so cute and so funny but then he acted so weird like why does he have to do this stuff you know he was saying all these lines and doing a little stuff like he doesn't have to do this and you know that's a thing these girls are just out to meet you they're going to the club they're getting dressed up they want to meet cool guys so there's no so drop out all the stuff that doesn't that doesn't the if it doesn't promote you hooking up with her or you meeting her you getting her number let it go drop it out you don't need it because that's a thing much so much a pickup theory indicates that you don't believe the girl wants to meet you even compartmentalizing like a pickup into openers and and and you know vibing and storytelling and comfort and rapport that's actually just be natural it's not stuff to think about and when you compartmentalizing it and saying oh I need to work on this aspect of my pickup that means that you don't believe the girl genuinely wants to meet you cuz like she's not thinking about this she's not sitting there saying oh how could I build comfort with this guy how can I get into rapport how do I how do I transition into a sexual life she's not thinking this so why should you if you start thinking you're gonna make it weird you're gonna you're gonna freak her out all right cuz on a typical night out like again I see these guys in New York they act like fucking buffoons it's complete clownery they walk into the club right I mean and I'll give you a very specific story I remember there was this night that um the Zach and I were out and we saw this guy just outrageous like Peacock and his tits off you know high five and everyone spinning girls around talking talking a mile a minute merging sets doing all the stuff and he knew we were so he came over to us and he um he he started like machine-gunning questions that I was like how to get the 30-second make out how to transition into a sexual vibe with the threesome with the model you know all he always like really like typical questions you'd expect from a guy like this and I just looked at him and I was like I was like look I've our question on my best night on my best night how many approaches do you think I do how many I thought this was a really simple question I thought this was a really really simple question but this guy looks so confused I felt bad for us I thought steam was gonna start coming out of his ears you know it was just he was just like he was doing like mental math you're trying to figure it out and if I ask you guys that how many approaches you think I do on my best night exactly one approach my best nights one approach one girl one happy Rob that's it like there's no reason for me to do a bunch of warm-up approaches look literally I mean I'm not saying every night it goes like this I'm not saying every night the first boy approach is the girl that um that that you know I end up with you know for the rest of the night that's not necessarily always the way it goes down but that's the number I'm thinking in my head I don't go out thinking oh I should do three warm approaches then do my approach I don't go out thinking oh I need to demonstrate social proof I don't go out thinking oh I need to show I'm pre-selected I think to myself I'm going out to do one approach and if that one doesn't go well I'll do another one so so that's really like that's kind of thinking that like you really need to shift to if you want to like really make this completely completely normal if you want to be able to do this around your friends that aren't aren't your pickup friends because I know that like you're you're not pickup friends they see you running around talking to a bunch of girls and you tell them oh I need to talk to these girls before I can talk to that girl they're gonna be like why it's so weird and it is weird and if it's weird to like normal people it's gonna be weird to everyone especially girls and so this is um this is really this is really important um because I bring this up is on the myth of perfection and the reason this is so important is because