 good morning everybody JR Fisher here goodness gracious it is Tuesday and we are the 25th of May today's great day for me it's my anniversary we've been married for nine years now and been together huh let me think 10 11 years so I've been together 11 years married nine so that's good day for me we'll see how much work I get done today today may not be that productive I'm gonna try to get some stuff done I want to welcome everybody here if you're new please do me a favor and subscribe I need 14 subscribers right now to hit that 5,000 mark so if you would kindly subscribe I would really appreciate it don't forget to ring the bell turn on all bell notifications so you're notified each and every time I go live or if I upload a video I want to welcome everybody in here that chat box is all for you it's for you to ask questions every day I have kind of agenda today I want to talk about mentors but if you have anything else you want to ask about starting running and growing online businesses put that in that chat section there I'll be happy to answer all of it for you and I want to welcome you let's see here congratulations you too thank you so much Richard I appreciate that yeah we got a we got a dinner plan for this French restaurant you know which means I guess I'm gonna pay a lot of money and get small portions but I'm sure it'll be good it's really all about the company the food is just secondary it really is so yeah and today I've got to I've got to finish my final I think I'm gonna do a BSL for an upsell to my survival academy which will be the upsell for you know selling some of our canned meats we've got a lot of packing still to do we're trying to get ready for a move to Texas the house is getting closer I got an email yesterday they're gonna put the final coat of hate on the inside so that's getting real close so yeah everything's looking really good there we're pretty happy about all that and I'm happy to see you guys I mean every morning it's great to see you guys show up here to listen to what I got to say I'm missing James today where is James at James brain I don't see you out here buddy I'll mention your group at 6 p.m. in my other group thank you so much Richard I appreciate that yeah I just need 14 subscribers and I'm sure I'm gonna need more after that but right now I'm going for 14 subscribers so that I can hit that 5000 mark and become brand with YouTube branded it used to be called fame bit I forget what they call it now but it's it's basically for endorsements and that type of thing so guys let's talk about mentors let's talk about mentors today and you know it's it's funny I've been online gosh for many years but once I started training people on how to make money online I started getting more and more people that wanted me to be their mentor okay and it's it's kind of interesting that people will see a stranger and they'll say hey I want that person to tell me what to do I was never big on mentors I gotta tell you it's never been my thing I've had people I listened to I have not had really a one-on-one mentor that you know guided me through anything and I will share with you that even though this is about mentoring today you don't need one to be successful you don't however I know some of you like the idea of this and it really doesn't have an end game okay it's an ongoing process that really requires you kind of checking your ego at the door you know because a lot of people think they know so much and it's funny every time you know I get in a gathering or something and somebody wants to learn from me they end up talking more than they ever let me talk and they'll tell me all the things they're gonna do and all the things they've done and you know all the things they've accomplished and I don't know what they're trying to do by doing this now maybe just prove to me how great they are but I want to share a story with you here's a story I want to share with you this is an old Zen coin about an aspiring swordsman who approaches a master okay and I'm going to read to you their conversation it says how long would it take me to become a great master under you he asked and the master says 10 years he says I don't have that long I want to be good soon what if I worked very hard and dedicated myself completely to the task he says okay 30 years but that's even longer the student says with some perplexity I'm telling you I am in a hurry and so the master replies precisely students in a hurry end up taking longer to learn what is right in front of it I think that's so true and I like in that to the conversation I say where the person I'm talking to will often talk more than I do and they do that I don't know for what reason I don't know I know if there's somebody I admire and I think they've got a lot of knowledge I'm going to shut up that's the first thing I'm going to do you know students have been missing the point of mentorship for centuries okay and in the beginning I probably did too a couple less forgiving mentors and a couple situations breaking down different ways of doing things I ended up blowing my first opportunities I know that and people I met regardless almost every day I get these emails I get these messages of young people who want a mentor and I think I think the first start should be apparent I tried to mentor my kids and do the best I could you know I didn't know it all obviously but I did the best I could there and the cool thing about that now is they come back to me and they still ask for advice which is really humbling to me that they will even come and ask me or even talk to me you know and ask me for advice what they do and I think you know a mentor is somebody that kind of finds you you don't find them so let me go through some of the steps here number one mentoring is something you do not something you get so that's kind of a backwards way of thinking about this in other words like all relationships this is a process it's not an accomplishment a mentor is flexible and often informal relationship that can vary from you know person to person from field to field you might even refer to yourself as an apprentice after the fact but it looks nowhere like this official mentorship that you're thinking about yeah while you're looking for mentorship never actually use that word okay when people say I want you to be my mentor I'm like I kind of cringe I'm like I don't even want to hear that don't ask anyone to be your mentor don't talk about mentorships no one goes out and ask someone they're attracted to to be their boyfriend or girlfriend it's still do it it's kind of creepy in a way that's like a label that's eventually applied to something that develops over time but you don't just go up and say be my mentor it's a weird thing okay a mentorship is the same way it's not a dance it's not a contractual agreement it's just it just kind of evolves when somebody's helping somebody else I've mentored a lot of people over the years but it was never like I'm gonna be your mentor it was like hey you know you need help with that project I'll help you out of hey I saw your sales page I've got some suggestions there that's more of what's gonna happen in life so you've got to quit this idea of I want to go find a mentor that's gonna walk me through all the steps and I'm gonna be successful it ain't gonna happen that's not like that okay anything that would be even close to that would be if you hired a consultant which is a whole different type of relationship let me get a sip here real quick so what you think of it that way number two here's important part give as much as you get if not more to quote Cheryl Sandberg we need to stop telling young people get a mentor and you'll excel instead we need to tell them excel and you will get a mentor nothing could be truer when I was doing coaching I never really said I want to go out get a bunch of people to coach I went out and found people who were really look like looking like they were gonna be successful or had already been successful and the reason I wanted successful people is I know they would continue to be successful I knew whatever I contributed to them they would actually use they would apply and they would be successful and heck it would make me look good right so I don't want people who have never accomplished anything I don't want to help those people I just don't want to because I don't know that they're ever gonna do anything I say as a matter of fact 99.9% of the people never do anything you can't believe how many people buy my courses and never even watch the videos let alone apply the information you know the people that buy the course is one group the core the people that actually watch some of the videos is another group the people who watch all the videos is another group the people that watch all the videos and actually apply some of this stuff is another group and the people that buy the course watch all the videos and apply all the stuff that's a very small portion of people it's a very small portion of people so figure out what you can offer a mentor okay so that you could become a mutual not lopsided exchange you know let me see some of the pillar of entrepreneurship is to learn to give before ever taking 100% that's true in life I think that's a really life lesson always give before you take executives entrepreneurs and creatives are always looking for the next big thing they want to help you succeed because along the way you can help them okay so if if I mentor somebody who's working hard and doing what they're supposed to do they're gonna make me even look better and I'm gonna learn because I'm while I'm trying to help them I'm learning stuff even if it's just energy that you bring it to the table okay I mean some people don't even have energy even if it's just thanks and satisfaction but you got to bring something to the table you can't just be a person there okay you've got to you got to be contributing to that mentor the mentor cannot want your success for you more than you want it for yourself and I see that a lot when I was coaching people is that I want them to really be successful and I would assign tons of work to them and a lot of times they just didn't do anything that's why I got busy and I was doing this I'm like I don't even want to hear that they were so I got some stuff going on in my life that is the stupidest statement I've ever heard you know when I was managing sales people used to hear that a lot I've got a I've got some personal things I'm dealing with who doesn't have personal things are dealing with tell me who is it in the world that doesn't have personal things are dealing with our whole life is personal things that we've got to deal with so saying that as an excuse for not doing what you supposed to be doing it's crazy it's a crazy thing to say you better show up every day hungry you better be dedicated you better be eager to learn you better not have excuses okay you're never going to attract a mentor with excuses you know different things like articles and links to information can benefit your mentors what do you bring into them that you think would help them out you are less busy than they are generally a mentor is a pretty busy person so your time is better spent looking and searching for some of the information that you need help with also having other mentorships and pursuing your own interest on the side I think is important I mean you don't have to have one person helping you out you can have four or five different people helping you out I know on any given day you know there's people that I help out on a daily basis it can be my wife with her business it could be a friend who's working on their business it can be an unrelated business I went to dinner the other night with a couple people really good friends of mine and his wife is negotiating the sale of her business and I was helping her negotiate the sale of her business and I consider that a mentorship I was telling her how she ought to approach it now in this situation she couldn't use it because some things came into play but that's mentoring okay and then maybe next next time we go out to dinner she'll mentor me in something I don't know but good morning James there you are J.R. internet service out until a couple minutes ago man we're missing you I was actually saying where's James at so if you go back to the beginning of the video you're gonna hear that let's see here Richard says if the mentor takes one step you have to take one step never expect them to take two steps it's understanding what taking action is all about 100% you got to do something you know I would often ask people I was coaching I said what did you get done well let me tell you what I'm working on now I don't want to hear what you're working on what did you get done what did you complete well I'm working on this I'm working on this I'm working on no what did you get complete what one thing did you complete and that's the thing I would tell you is you need to complete things if a mentor if you let's say you get a mentor and don't call them by the way if you get somebody to help you out make sure that you're always showing them that you're moving forward that you're getting ahead that will also motivate them okay so it comes to my next thing here is keep your problems to yourself number three keep your problems to yourself passion can be a form of insanity and dysfunction because it makes people selfish and emotional a lot of young people will get upset when they read this excuse me and it is these very words that I would want you to work with they're likely too sensitive to take feedback when they're young it's really weird it's like you know somebody gave me some suggestions the other day and they said I hope you don't take offense by this and I just laughed I'm like I quit taking offense when I was in my 40s and the funny thing is as you get older you start to realize that it everybody else's opinion is just that it's just an opinion I don't care what people think I really don't I mean it's nice when they give me a compliment and all that makes me feel good for a second doesn't change what I'm gonna do so it's really important that you keep all your problems to yourself a typical youthful insanity is sending out let's say a 3,000 word emails at 2 a.m. you know it's embarrassingly something that somebody who doesn't have any life experience would do it's hiding your mistakes that's another thing that young people really hide their mistakes because they're scared they're scared of getting judged it's quitting because you failed but behind you know you've fallen behind what you were supposed to do don't feel discouraged because things are working out don't argue with feedback I had that a lot you know when I would I would give people you know five or six things that they needed to do and then it's a well this doesn't work and I've tried it this doesn't work I've tried it and I would wanted to say hey maybe you didn't do it right maybe that was it maybe that's your problem you aren't doing it right and you're not listening right now that's a big problem these are weak emotions if you indulge them and you start telling yourself well I've tried to sell online it isn't working I mean that's the most absurd thing in the world think about that I've tried to sell online it doesn't work well how in the world does the internet exist then if it doesn't work you're just doing it wrong well I wrote I wrote emails and emails don't work well why are so many emails out there why they're email companies could it be that you're doing it wrong you need to check your ego at the door you really do your personal life and what you got going on is irrelevant and I know a lot of people are gonna say well you don't understand my situation no I don't and it doesn't matter what your situation is because everybody's different everybody's situations different so I don't care that your situation is different it's irrelevant it's irrelevant guys your situation and your personal problems don't matter James was a James threw something in here real quick I was getting on a roll here but let's see what he's got to say James let me check my weather here he says it's gonna be 93 today summer has hit there we've only got 84 but we are gonna be sunny I didn't forget to smash the like button yeah guys don't forget smash that like button hit that like button they only need 14 subscribers by the way so if you would subscribe I would appreciate it too so another thing you need to do guys is as you're going through this process I would say step back and see what's going on see what you've done see what time you've wasted you are not gonna go find a mentor you're not a mentor is gonna find you I can't count how many times I went to a meeting or a meet-up or a cruise or whatever they were a bunch of business people and I saw somebody working on something and I looked at it and I was like man I could help them with that I see they're really eager they're working hard I could help them with that and I became their mentor because and it wasn't really like I want to be your mentor wasn't that type of thing it was like hey I think I can help you out with that I went through that once before and I see that you're really eager energetic person and if you change this one thing I think you get some really good results and I would work with them on it I've had people look at my stuff and say hey you know that sales page now I went to it and you know here's what I noticed and they would tell me something and that could be somebody who's a lot older than me it could be somebody who's a lot younger than me it could be something with a lot more experience than they could be somebody with less experience in me don't get in this pigeon I've had mentors that were 19 years old that taught me things okay don't get in this pigeonhole because you're older you know more you may know more not saying you won't you may be you may be more emotionally mature that doesn't mean you know more okay so I don't care what age somebody is I don't care what country they're from I don't care what nationality they are I don't care if they're male or female if they are good in an area they can help me with it I'm gonna listen right I have a friend Sarah Crisp and you can check out her channel here on YouTube it's wholesale Ted and she's amazing with YouTube channels you know she's in her early 20s well she's probably not now probably mid 20s now but I did an interview with her on her channel and she sold some of my products she was an affiliate for me and I learned from her I learned what she was doing on her channel and she was I think 24 25 at the time you know and you know I was in my 50s so I it doesn't matter you know you've got to quit going oh that person is older so they're gonna know a whole lot more not necessarily now sometimes they do not saying they don't but you got to quit thinking of mentors the way you've been thinking about them before it's not going out and finding this all-knowing being that's gonna teach you everything and it's gonna make you successful nobody let me repeat this nobody is gonna make you successful nobody you are the one that's responsible for being successful some people can contribute information that you can use and apply and work on but think about this that same information could be given to 20 people and 19 of them could do nothing with it or do it incorrectly or quit doing it and not be successful and only one of them could take that information and maybe do something with it so it's really up to you it's not up to the mentor you know there's no such thing as a bad or a good mentor it's just somebody who's trying to help you out okay that's all it really is now when I was coaching obviously I charged for it and I charged a lot for it I started off charging $495 a month and you get two phone calls a month and then I went to $14.95 then I went to $2,500 and then at the end when I was doing my mentoring I got tired of doing it but I was charging $2,000 an hour $2,000 an hour and you say well what could you have that's so useful that would be worth $2,000 an hour I don't know but they paid me this was a major company credit card processing company and what I gave them work so you know this mentor thing that you've been thinking about it's not the way you've been thinking about this is not let me read some of your comments here real quick let's see here I've been informed that when the student is ready the teacher will appear that has never been truer and I know it's corny and it's an old saying and all that stuff but it's so true it's like you know a lot of people want help and just because you want help doesn't mean a mentor is going to show up you've got to be ready you've got to look like somebody that somebody wants to mentor you got to look like this energetic person who's really working hard who's determined who's going to succeed whether that mentor shows up or not the mentor wants to jump in there and help you because they know they can be part of that that's what the mentor really wants to do they want to be part of your success they already see that you're going to be successful when people look at you right now do they go oh my god that person that man that woman that that team is going to be really super successful I'd love to be on their bandwagon with them I would love to is that the image that you're portraying or you're a desperate person going I don't know what to do I wish somebody would tell me everything to do and then I could do it because nobody wants to help that person nobody wants to help desperation people want to help inspiration and hard-working successful people that's the kind of person I want to you know mentor somebody who I know is going to actually do something let's see I'm in big trouble if I can't learn from young people James nothing can be truer right buddy I mean I know that for a fact I learned from all people you know there are people I hate tying what's going on there are people in all age categories that know how to do things you don't 100% toddlers young kids have a way of teaching curiosity and being 100% unfiltered for example that's a very well-put way of saying that it's very true you know kids you know I train salespeople for years and I think over the years we learn to accept the word no it's a shame and it's a disease of salespeople where they accept the word no somebody was trying to sell me a program the other day and I gave them one objection and they were like okay they didn't even try to overcome the objection and I thought of several ways they could overcome my objection and I'll probably still buy the product going down the road but the point was they they didn't have a clue I just said I can't because of this this conflict and this date now they could have said well I can get you in the program you can start later into it and then we have another program starting and you can pick up the beginning when you go into the next program I go and get you signed up today but they didn't do that and they do have that offer by the way and and I thought wow you know this person is a terrible salesperson a little kid and he was just saying toddlers can teach you something how many times a little kid you're gonna ask for something I mean it's incessant they're going can I can I can I can I can I they don't know to accept no because that's not the answer they wanted that's not the answer they wanted now we as salespeople we we go well that's not the answer I want either but they said no what else can I do well figure out why they said no what is it about the no what can you change about the no what can you do as as we get older we sometimes fall into the trap of accepting no you got to step back and see that there's more to it okay you know if you don't get a mentor that doesn't mean you can't be successful that's another thing I would tell you it's the person who looks like they don't need a mentor that's going to attract one the person that looks like they're gonna succeed in the face of everything that's going wrong you know like I would love to mentor Elon Musk right I mean wouldn't I look like a hero if I if I mentor Elon Musk wouldn't I look like a hero if I mentor David Goggins if you don't know David Goggins is you need to look him up because I know those people are going to keep going forward no matter what no matter what I tell them to do if it's good information they're going to take it and run with it that's the guy in a person I want to mentor and that's how you're going to attract somebody who is a mentor or somebody who wants to help you that's how you're going to do it you know and I can only help really hard-working well-adjusted dependable people okay that's the kind of person I can help I can't help somebody who has a lot of personal problems because we all have personal problems but the person who tells me they have personal problems are the ones that tell me that they can't handle life they can't handle personal problems that means they can't handle life you know I've got stuff that goes on every single day I've had some you know really horrible things in life and so is my wife and so is a lot of people I know but the really successful people just keep moving forward it doesn't matter they just keep moving forward it's irrelevant to them so the more time you spend on really trying to be successful the better your chances of a mentor showing up the better the chance of somebody looking you going man I like the path you're on can I walk down that with you I would love to walk down that path with you because man you're gonna get there no matter what I'd like to be part of that is that the kind of person you are or do you look desperate you look like the person is like I don't know what to do I don't know what direction gosh if somebody doesn't come along soon I'm just gonna shrill up and on you know that's the kind of people that normally approach me it's a shame it's a shame they don't get it they don't get that looking desperate will not attract a mentor looking successful will and you may say to yourself which they are not successful yet I haven't succeeded yet well why don't you try why don't you try why don't you just keep trying thing after thing after thing why don't you stay motivated why don't you keep working why don't you keep getting up early and stay up late once you start taking shorter lunches and really put an effort into it and then and then you'll get it it's kind of like it's kind of like and my wife and I were looking at the other day because we were watching a movie and this person who's very wealthy was getting comped free meal and free transportation is all this you're gonna get all these things you need when you look like you don't need it let me repeat that you're gonna get all these things you need when you look like you don't need it people want to give free things to rich people right so if you're rich in attitude if you're rich in effort if you're rich in desire you're gonna get that stuff from other people that's how it works if you're desperate right the beggar on the street is ends up with leftovers right the beggar ends up with leftovers what what other people have left over a very small amount of nothing okay poor people pay higher interest rates they get ripped off more they pay higher rent you know there's so many things that are going against them and they think it's the outside it's not it's the inside it's what you're projecting are you projecting that you are needy you know if you're very needy nobody wants you okay it's the same thing in a relationship you know if a guy's trying to meet a girl he's very needy very needy I'll take any girl I can get you know or a girl says I'll take any husband that will marry me you know you're very needy it doesn't look good it's not attractive okay who are you take a check up from the neck up that's what we used to tell the salesman they can check up on the neck up who are you really and the thing is no matter who you are right now you can change it tomorrow you change it this afternoon you can change it right after this video you can change it some of you are watching this video and you're not participating now you're not putting anything in the chat right it's time to change it's time to types up then they're saying hey this is what I'm working on this is what I'm gonna do let me express how motivated I am what my desires are I'm gonna put it in the chat are you just gonna sit back are you gonna sit back and watch the world go by you know I mean that's what most people do they sit back and watch let me read some of your comments you got some good ones all right let's see I always say Richard this is Richard Brown that when you're successful that's down to you and if you fail that's down to you too yeah of course everything everything is up to us isn't it everything is Richard Breen or James Breen excuse me I knew a sales lady that claimed the sale didn't begin until the prospect said no interesting interesting way of putting that let's see here and I always thought the close started at the beginning because I always brought up the objections in the beginning of the sale whatever objections I thought they would have I would bring them up I never hid from them because if you hide from them if you try to ignore them they still exist they still exist let's say your price is higher than everybody else's in the beginning of the sale if you ignore that in their mind they're going man that's an expensive item they may never say it to you and you may think well I didn't lose the sale because of price they never even mentioned price that doesn't mean they're not thinking about it so if I've got the highest price in the market I may start off with look it may look like I've got the highest price in the market but let me explain to you what my product does that nobody else's does and when you see what it does you'll understand that really even though my price looks higher it's much cheaper you know that's how I would handle price okay so whatever your your product is whatever your service is there are objections you need to look at your product or service and say what are the objections same thing with a mentorship why is it that somebody would not want to help me why is it that somebody would not come along and look at me and you know say how would I help that person what can you change because you could change anything you can literally change anything let's see here Richard Brown dependable that's a nugget from today yes he dependable my god beyond dependable and you guys are dependable you show up every day you know I try to be dependable I try to show up every day I don't start at five minutes after nine I don't start ten minutes before nine I started nine that's what I told you I want you to depend on that I want you to go yeah I depend on that I want to have information that when you leave the session today you go I can use that that's something I can use I didn't waste my time with JR I didn't waste my time again okay I don't want to waste my time your time is valuable it's crap guys I owe it to you yeah and you said well you're just doing it for free you don't know it's anything no I owe it to you because it's time time is not free your time is not free if you're listening to me right now it's not free you've taken it from something else and if I don't provide you with something of value that I've done you in this service so I think that's important I mean I study before I do these things for you guys right I read I look I research James Breen and Richard Brown excellent points as well high end says James Breen hi Tyanne happy to meet up with you guys you guys are forming relationships I think this is awesome you know introduce yourselves to each other who knows that one person in this chat is not going to help another and I can tell you when it's not going to happen when you don't participate it's when you don't put anything in that chat when you don't ever comment they don't even know you exist they don't know you're here right make sure people know that you've shown up when you go to a party when you go to a meeting whatever it is make sure people know you were there we're all so afraid of offending somebody or somebody making fun of us or somebody disliking us don't worry about it right I quit worrying about that my 40s took me a while but I did quit worrying about it I don't care you know somebody's trying to give me constructive criticism I'm certainly gonna take it if somebody's trying to tear me down and make me feel terrible I just ignore it it doesn't matter to me it's just what they're doing it doesn't affect me it's not who I am right as far as objections that come up with chatbots people may not see the value they provide that's right you're into chatbots aren't you the time Nelson is and if you have a channel guys post in there that you have a channel we'll check it out we'll subscribe to it people may not see the value they provide but there is a place for both bots and email marketing 100 percent I agree with you and I've used both and I do agree I don't I don't think chatbots will take over everything I don't think email can do everything I don't think phone calls can do everything I think there's a place for each one of these things and they're all gonna exist I agree with that happy to help great group and mentorship thank you so much Richard so I guess we're past I went two minutes over do I have a do I have a really time limit of 30 minutes I don't know what that does make that up or something maybe I just made that up I do want to thank you guys each and every one of you love each and every one of you I mean just just knowing that you're spending your time here means so very much to me if you're new here I would appreciate if you would ring the bell right turn on all bell notifications but you can't do that to you subscribe it won't give you this option okay you have to hit that subscribe button down there if you're watching this and it's no longer live you can still put comments in the comment section I come back by and answer those I think I got all caught up yesterday if I didn't if I if I didn't answer a comment that you put you know let me know in this chat box here but I did do that my mission is to help you JR in whatever small way to be successful with your channel thank you so much James I mean so much that really really does that means the world to me I really appreciate that and Richard says same thing happy to help great group mentorship I just read that one full page chat box full page chat box that's right guys thank you so much for being here I'm gonna go ahead and get out of here got a lot of work to do today got my anniversary got my anniversary dinner looking forward to that thank you so much guys love each and every one of you I really appreciate you don't forget to subscribe give me a thumbs up if you would let me switch over to my other screen so we can see what's going on and I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna get out of here I'll see you guys tomorrow thank you so much