 Oh, okay. Man, this is a technology lesson. I'm finna go back to doing my lives on my cell phone. I just ain't built for this. All this hill clicking around and all of this. You gotta go to school to figure out how to work these things. Now, let me see. All myself trying to be fancy. Got the phone on vibrate. Y'all gotta forgive me just in case. Just in case. Let me see here. One more second. C-I-C. All right. Now, let me see now. It's Monday night. I believe set up on here. Y'all give me a second. All right. I wanted to pop on here. Oh, you know what? My little flyer did say Instagram live. I'm gonna change. You know what? Because I posted on Instagram, but then I said, you know what? I'm on network. And the flyer I posted. The flyer I posted was old. So that's what it was. It was old. And see now, when I don't want y'all to pay attention to the directions, that's when everybody want to pay attention. And then when I need people to pay attention to the directions, that's when going nobody hit me. So y'all know how that go. Y'all forgive me. I'm trying to get my love. Technology, right? And I ain't gonna be doing all this technology for much longer. Let me see. That's confusing, I know. Y'all forgive me getting this little thing working. I think I got it figured out now. So that's what it was. I'm sending people to Instagram live. But that Instagram live ragged it. Now let me ask you, can y'all see each other? Can y'all see each other in the chat? Can y'all see a chat on y'all end? No, no, we're on here. It's just a flyer posted trying to get fancy. Posted a flyer from five years ago that I had a graphic designer make for me when I was going live on Instagram years ago. And I still had that flyer and I didn't realize it said Instagram live. And I got a call from Instagram and they told me, they said, Tony, you know, now you can try the reels. You saw that they work. And I said, hold on. I got to make use of my time. YouTube got an advertisement system over there. So if I'm going to be taking time away from my family, I need to be where the advertisement system is. Okay. They'll pay key lights on YouTube. Y'all just want somebody sitting on live for free. And I said, hold on, I got to make use of my time. YouTube got an advertisement system over there. So if I'm going to be taking time away from my family, I'm going to be sitting over there for free. I'm like, you two helping keep a light on. So I had to come over here because I couldn't be sitting over there. Instagram over there. So I'm trying to see now. I'm trying to see how this here work. Now, in W don't get blocked with that line here. Don't tell my head this real. What do you think it's a hologram? It's like, come on now. The moderators is that. I don't think the moderators on here tonight. Now, let me see. Okay. So y'all could see each other on the chat. So on my end, it's a man can't make you a mod because you might be working for the ops. So the moderators, I didn't, they didn't ask me to be a moderator. What they did is that I just kept seeing them supporting, I mean, all my comments positively supporting, you know, stuff like that. And I just selected them, but I don't own, I don't let nobody request that you might be with the ops. And we might have to slide. Do that. God bless you. Now, if I see you on here alone enough, you know, you prefer that we cancel our. No, no, that's up to you. And below us. But, um, that's up to you. What you this up to your preference is just, I'm going to tell you what's going on right now. We're going to talk about this here topic, but I'm going to tell you what's going on right now with this here. Social media. It's like, somebody said McDonald's ain't the only ones making hamburgers and people took that too literal. So I'm going to tell y'all what's happening right now when you have a, if you got a brand and you easily accessible, like people could find, uh, an email address for you through your website. So every day, about 10 different apps, new apps, new software. They send an email to me. And they say, Hey, we got this new software. So I got on Patreon because Patreons email me and said, we want you to sign up. And then I set up a call. But then it's another thing that wrote me. Hey, we build your own app. Then it's another company. Hey, we got this out where you could chat with your people and go live. So it's like everybody doing the same thing. And then you two have the memberships, but you two take 30%. So if you're trying to use your memberships to produce content, you two taken 30%. So it's like, after that, it's like man, somebody to tell you if you're going to pay your dollar and they give you 70 cents. And you really don't know. So it's like with Patreon, I think they take eight, eight percent and then another three percent for payment processing. So you got about 11, 12%, which is better than 30%. So that's why I made sense to start Patreon. But it's just because some people don't like YouTube. Some people don't want to join the bless tribe on YouTube, but Patreon, they like it. It's just different, different things for different people. So, you know, totally up to you. Now let me see. No, Lisa. No, no. Yeah, I'm pretty sure I know every out company and all of that. You know, sent me the sprinkle of Jesus. I didn't got to pay for it after not got it. That's great. But my head is spinning because I don't like social media for one. I don't like social media. And it's a million different networks popping up and it's a million different companies and everybody doing the same thing. And I'm going to tell you what these people do. These tech people, they love just raising money, raising some money, building something to be out of business in a year. So the thing is, is you've been on shifted your whole audience to somewhere and then they go to closing your doors on. And that's what happened. The first time I built Tony Gaston's Academy, I built them myself using somebody's software. Next thing you know, they're talking about we going out of business. I had and got all these people on Tony Gaston's Academy and had to shut it down and then go to another software that I'm using now Tony Gaston Academy use the software now that has raised probably over a hundred million dollars and publicly traded. And so therefore I know they're going to be around Lord but I wanted to pop on here and talk on this topic. And tomorrow is my birthday. Thank you for the birthday. Wish and share. Thank you for posting that cash up on them. Now God bless it. My moderators do that without me asking them. And that's just, it just a blessing that we have people that be doing that. And somebody else similar to Allah here in there. And I pray over it say thank you, but I appreciate y'all showing the support when you able. But I want to do this topic because I don't think anybody sent me a video this many times as I seen this video that I was sent. And the video is the young man and he's saying something about he's talking to a woman and she's successful and she all of this and then she said the only thing I need now is a man. And he said, well, who gonna want you after all that success is sound like what it said. And somebody sent it. I mean, not somebody everybody sent it to me. So let me see. Let me see. Hey, thank you for that cash out. God bless you now. Okay, somebody says I got a good job. I make very, very good money. And she says the only thing I need now is a man. It's like, yo, who wants you? Who wants you? Once you have achieved these things, you have unfortunately disqualified yourself. Oh, shit. And what it is is because I'm not going to hate him for that shit. I can't make a position. And then now he say, once you have achieved these things, you have disqualified yourself. And the one guy who say the women gonna hate him for that. I can't wait to put this out ready to expose the man. And then the second guy they show God bless his heart. God bless him. Yeah. He had an interesting look on. And now the first guy is just the thing is a lot of guys now they growing these beers. They growing these beers and they go to hiding behind these beers. And it'd be a lot of insecurity under that beer. I'm going to tell you because as a man, it'd be a lot of insecurity in security behind the beer. I ain't saying every guy with a beard is insecure, but I thought about growing my beard. And it just don't make sense to me. It just just the cultures that's building in there. Just what's going on. It just it just is something you do when you can't shave. And so because of that, some men getting the beard for the right reason. Some men getting the beard for the wrong reason. See, I'm break this thing all the way down because I need you to understand. And that's why I tell y'all you always have to look at where a person speaking from. And the world put us in different boxes. And when the world put us in these boxes, it's like, okay, somebody looked like Roger Rabbit or sound like Roger Rabbit sound like Daffy the duck. He going to get picked on. If somebody yay bid, he's going to get picked on. If somebody looked like a certain cartoon character or certain animal, he going to get picked on. And that start to break these men down and men get broke down. And then there is this thing to where we being put against each other. And when a man is operating from a place of insecurity, then it's going to make him want to demean a woman and have a woman that's less than him when he feels insecure. Now I'm going to tell you what this is. It's really just the green grass syndrome because me being a husband going on 15 years this year made 15 years. I've been married. And my wife has not worked the jobs in about 15 years, at least 1314. And the reason why is because our first son was born premature, two and a half months early. And so I wasn't making but $9.50 an hour. And so when our son was born premature, I went back to the streets to start hustling again. And my wife left me because I was calling myself going to make some extra money. And she said, no, I'd rather be broke, but she had to be with our son every day because he was in intensive care unit. Then when he came home, he had to have around the clock care. He had a tube in his stomach. And so my wife couldn't work. And then after the tube got out of his stomach, we just got this fragile baby. He got asthma. He got allergies. He got all this going. You just couldn't take and put him in somebody else's hands. So she had to be home with him for the first two years. And then when he started school, she tried to go work. She was still getting her master's degree. And she got her master's degree. But she had to call out of work like two or three days a week because he just was so sickly that he would get sick. So she was working in the dentist's office while she was in school getting her master's still. And she got fired. And then so from there, after she got her master's, the next thing is we got this sickly son. The next thing is med school. But for her to go to med school, she would have had to study like 16 hours a day. The way she studied. She already studied eight hours, 12 hours a day just in getting her master's in medical sciences. So that's why my wife didn't work. She was very capable of it. She got a master's degree. She could have went on to that next level. But having a child who was very sickly would be sick three out of the five working days a week. It just didn't make sense because she is his caretaker. She understood his body more. She had the wherewithal to be there for him. Whereas me, I wasn't as knowledgeable. I wasn't as skilled in providing, taking care of him like that. So I worked. And then that's when I wrote my book and then I became a speaker and then I became a coach and I started building my business at my brand. But my wife, she would always say, she's like, oh, you want an ambitious, you know, you want like one of these boss women. And when I was young, I used to think that that was attractive. I thought a boss woman, like the woman who made all this money and had all this success, I thought it was attractive. And so I don't understand what this guy's talking about. Like, who won't you after you've achieved all that success? You disqualified yourself. So I'm sure the conversation was longer and he expounded upon what he meant. But just by saying you disqualified yourself, I'm guessing he's saying it's just not enough men who make enough money to feel comfortable with her. I don't know if he was speaking for himself. But when you think about it, so I thought that was attractive and to be honest with you, a lot of men today still think this successful woman in business is attractive. And that's across the board. And because men are looking to pull their resources, they're looking to come together with a teammate. And men today don't want to be used because this hypergamy, which hypergamy, this hypergamy popping up so much, and I know the correct way to say it. I just like saying it the other way. This hypergamy popping up so much and it's being so promoted that men starting to feel used and they starting to feel preyed upon and these women going to get these, a lot of women getting these nips and tucks. And so they got the aesthetics, they got the body and the looks and then men taking and falling for everything. The men taking and falling for them. And now some men they don't care about taking care of a woman. Like they don't mind it. They want to take care of a woman. But what a man pays for, he owns. And that's the problem with a lot of women who get a man who is taking care of them and doing everything for them is a lot of time they get treated like property instead of like a person. And so it's this grass is greener syndrome and that's what's happening. And so when a man has a woman who doesn't work, it's a lot of times, especially finances get tight that men are like, man, I wish my woman work. Man, I wish my woman was using her degree or entrepreneur on Instagram selling makeup palettes and making that seven figures. Man, what we could do. And a guy want that. And then when a woman is working and she got a bag, then the man insecure. And he, oh, you make more, oh, you thank you to man or you wet a pants or you don't want to listen to me and what my plan is for our financial future. Because you saying you work for this money and it's your money. And so it's the grass is greener. We always want what we don't have. And I've had to find peace in what I have. And that's the mindset thing that a man has to get to is get into the place to where he can find peace in what he has to say, if I have a working woman or if I have a woman who is a stay at home mom, I'm going to appreciate her and understand that what she earns in the marketplace monetarily doesn't define her as a woman. So some men believe that a woman who's earning six figures, seven figures or even 50,000 is better than a woman who isn't earning. But when you look at what a woman who isn't working a job and what she's doing for those children, that is priceless. You can't really put a price on it. And I see the difference. So I'll see working moms at the school. When you go in the school, I'll see moms who got to work 40 hours a week. And for the most part, their children clothes be wrinkled. They nails be dirty. There's no women who do it all, but a lot of times women who do it all don't have a husband because a husband is a handful too. And so it's like, as men, we got to pick what really matters. It's like, does a woman earning money if she want to earn okay? But if she is okay being a stay at home mom, the way I had to shift my mind and look at this thing and say, my children being, her being able to be there like today, yesterday with my youngest son, our youngest son's birthday. So today at 11, 20 a.m., my wife delivered five dozens of doughnuts for his whole grade. He's in second grade. So the whole grade. And then they only use four dozen. So the other dozen, she took it to our 14 year old for him and his friends. And at 11, 20, if she was working this tough job that got her out of town, she couldn't have did that. If she was working 40 hours a week at a corporate job, she couldn't have did that. And so she did that today, but it may be something tomorrow that she'll be doing there. It may be some Thursday she doing there. So I have to realize that being that we have the opportunity that that makes sense. And I told her baby, you want to go to med school? Go ahead and go. We could, we could work anywhere. And she said, no. She said, now that I have an option, like if I had to do that, I do that. But she said, now that I have an option, now that you earn enough that I don't have to work outside. I could work in our own businesses. So she helped with the structure of the business, the emails, the logistics. She helping in our businesses. And even with that, just having mommy brain, she can't always do that. Like she can't always be on top of it. There, like it was one time, one time the inbox got, it was 300 emails in there, unread. And that's what she was helping with. I had to go in there and do it. Just because she was ripping and running because we got two very active sons. They in three sports each at a time. They in everything at school. All the extracurricular school does right now. My wife is at a banquet. While I'm working, my wife is at my son's who was a freshman, but he's a starter on the varsity soccer team. At his school, they had a soccer banquet. But our youngest son that need to go to bed. So I put him in bed at 730. See teamwork. So if my wife was working this, this job right now, it'll be different. It'll be hard. Now it's going to come a season to where it's going to be different. Okay. The kids out the way and she won't work. And I'm going to be all for it. I'll be all for it. And so I don't understand the mindset of a man saying a woman who becomes successful is has disqualified herself after getting all this success. And what I have noticed is that a lot of times and we'll have some, I'm going to do this here. If you want to come into the thing, but a lot of times we will have these men who they get a woman and the woman has money and they get jealous of the woman because a man, unfortunately, most men equate their self-worth with their network. And I feel this and I experienced this and I know this real because in society, that's how we define this man. If you don't make X amount of money, you'll pee on your bomb. So then a man says, oh, if I make X amount of money, then that make me a man. So we have allowed currency to define a man versus a man's character defining a man. And that's a societal issue. And then, but the downside of that, the way that shows up in the world is now that a man defines himself by how much he earns. Now when a woman earns more, he feels less than because it's kind of a thing like being black in America and out earning white people. When you were set behind 400 years and then your legs were broken and you were turned and you were told to run this race. When you taking past a race who have the color and in advantage, it can make certain people of in the races of advantage feel less than when somebody who is of a disadvantage marginalized race surpasses them in on the economic ladder. And so what happens with men is that's the same thing is men are defined by how much money they make. Women want men who make money. And if a man don't make money, that's what they're seen as a peon. So then now you take women who could not vote, who did not have a lot of rights, who didn't have rights even over their own body and now women, so many women are out earning men. So those men are taking that personal and saying, oh, I'm less than a man. So I think that's really what the guy was saying. He tried to clean it up and clarified after the other guy got so excited about that what he said out his mouth. He maybe tried to clean it up and clarify, but really what he was saying is a woman who got all this money disqualified because now every man is going to feel insecure to be with her. And women ask the question, Tony, are men intimidated by women who make money? And when I say no and not being intimidated, I'm talking about a man, like a real man, not a grown boy, not an immature, not an insecure and being intimidated like afraid of. But now intimidated in the sense of him beating up on himself and feeling less than that this woman earns more than him instead of looking at the market, instead of looking at the world. So if I realize, if I see this woman and she is a life coach and she's a speaker and she make more money than me and she's bigger than me, I don't take it personally and say, oh, she's better than me. I also look at the seasons because it's a season of empowerment for women. It's a season of women's empowerment. It's a season of black women and women of color being elevated being, you know, poured into is a lot of grants and funding for women businesses today. So I see a shift happening. So I'm not going to take that person and feel less than because I see also the circumstance in the situation is changing. And the first will be last and the last will be first. It's her time. It's her season because men had the time in the season all of this time. So it's time for her to win. She deserves to win. She deserves to be blessed. She deserves to earn seven figures. She deserves to make that personal as a man. And I think that's what a lot of guys doing. They taking it personal and they starting to feel less than like, oh, who make the money now at the same time. It's a lot of women who will take and make that money and then get that revenge. I make the money. You don't tell me what to do. I wear the pants and there's some women that will take that that stance. Now I remember meeting the woman who she was half a million a year and her guy made like 35,000 and she let him control the finances. But guess what? When you spending somebody else money and I said this to my wife today verbatim and this I'm transparent about my life now. I'm transparent about my life. I said to my wife today, I said, baby, I say, listen, you have to see our money as your money too but it's going to affect how you spend it because if you spending it like it's my money you're going to spend it differently but if you spend it like it's your money too then you're going to spend some save some invest some but if you spending it like hey, let me spend it or else his mama or his sister going to spend it now you racing to spend all the money so that somebody else don't get it that's a real conversation that have to be had when a man is working and a woman isn't working or a woman is working and the man isn't working. So when the woman was working and making all this money and the man was making less than 10% of what she made he was spending all the money in the club buying bottles because he saw it as this her money. I'm finna trick off and live and he was drowning his sorrow of feeling less than but not looking at it and looking at this totally different. It's not like she earning half a million and you earning 35,000 and y'all do the same exact thing. She earn half a million because of the industry that she's in. So look, Rihanna then become a billionaire from music. She became a billionaire from cosmetics Kylie Jenner then become a billionaire from keeping up with the Kardashians. She became a billionaire from cosmetics. Kim Kardashian then become a billionaire from keeping up with the Kardashians. She became a billionaire from cosmetics. Kanye West then become a billionaire from rapping. He became a billionaire from Yeezy. So when you look at cosmetics and you look at fashion now you know those high earning industries. So if a man taking got a woman in one of those industries he could be a doctor. He could be a lawyer in New York City making big bank and still get out earned by his wife selling makeup on Instagram because of the industry. And so as men we got to stop taking the earning so literal and so personal and it was it was actually Lil Wayne I think that I heard say in a song or in an interview that a man's self-worth is determined by his net worth I think that was Lil Wayne said that and I have not let that thing go and I know when my finance is tight around he'll mean muckin around he'll look at me because we let that define us and so that's the thing and I'm gonna let me post this in here I'm gonna post this in here I'm gonna see some men are just afraid of being treated like a woman whose man makes more than she does is supposed to thing and that's that's right now that that right now that that happened that happened let me see what she say I bet the devil stay at home mom I would say it's not a job it's an activity that takes you being proactive throughout yeah I don't know who or maybe somebody said it's a job or something but you know that's semantics it could feel like a job because when you you you want to clean up booboo all day for fun that ain't proactive so it could get to feel like a job and get to be real tedious you chasing around to yo and you got to be on every second of the day so you know that's kind of semantics let me see now that made sense now that's all it is and it's the thing we take finances so seriously that when the man got the money the man we taking put our foot on the neck of a woman and then when the woman got the money the woman taking put her foot on the neck of a man special woman who'd already been marginalized or oppressed now I have seen women take and I've seen men it just depend on how you raise and it depends on how you view it so if money defines you if money defines you like the other day my wife bought these pair of shoes she looking for a pair of shoes go with the outfit and she bought these pair of shoes and they were some Chanel boots and she the lady showed up past Chanel shoes that were $1,800 so those didn't work they didn't fit so when she showed another pair of boots she thought of the same price range the lady rung it up without telling her the price it was $3,200 so when my wife said I'm gonna just let them come in and I'm gonna take them back so when she said that I was like I didn't need to go back but then as a husband that's my queen I wanted her to be a doner she was going out of town to a wedding when she stepped in that thing she represented me so I wanted her to step heavy you hear me I wanted her to step heavy we ain't stepping in those Steve Madden's cause the Lord them brought me past that I ain't knocky or not if you stepping in Steve Madden God bless you listen Chanel is an iconic brand so I wanted her to step heavy so I told her hey just keep the shoes I mean think about it yeah you might wear them once every quarter so the cost per wear is very high but that's a shoe that you gonna have for the rest of your life cause of the quality it's made with and it might be a collectible item one day so cause all her stuff it go up in value so that's how I looked at it but guess what my wife she took the shoes back she said no this ain't a proper way to spend money so I respected that because she said no this this don't make sense I could did it at the 1800 which is a lot of money still but 32 she said no I can't do that I can't justify that so that let me know that she doesn't see what I'm earning as my earning and that she got to just race to spend it it let me know that she see this as we a team so I'm not spending your money I'm spending our money and it don't make sense to buy no boost at this level of income for $3200 and so I respected that and that's what let me know I got a teammate and not an opponent and so what's happening is with this money situation we got people coming in and being opponents now let me put the little link if you want to come on the video now y'all know don't come on here crazy now don't come on here crazy don't come on here grandstanding you know speak your mind and don't and don't get on the camera don't request to be on the camera just for no attention now just don't don't be the class clown just raising your hand don't even know the answer breath oh what what was the question again don't be the adult version of that now come on here have something to say I'll something to say fifty-fifty is unrealistic I seen a post where a couple were doing fifty-fifty and the guy wanted in and later told the guy he had to pay her lost income he was mad AC and that's what that's what happened when you get into the old kind of games when you get into the old kind of games that's exactly what happens is in love you cannot keep score because I'm gonna tell you like this right here I'm gonna tell you like this right here I can't see like me to feed my family I gotta get uncomfortable I gotta get uncomfortable so I don't like social media but for me to get my message out for me to reach people for me for people to see me so that they could buy my books buy my course I gotta get uncomfortable I do not like social media don't let me hit somebody lottery I don't play the lottery but I hit the lottery y'all probably won't help me no more and so here's the thing I can't see my wife doing what I do so if we keep in score I'm really putting up points on the score board but now when I look at what my wife do I can't do what she do not with the peace and patience that she do with I'll be stressed out I'll be losing my mind so when you keep score everybody lose and that's the problem with relationships is we keep in score when we're not made to compete a man is made to do what a man do and a woman is made to do what a woman can do and we can't compare it to but we try to compare it to and keep keep score and if y'all if y'all click the link that means it's going to bring you on the thing so y'all and then I can add you on here let me see here hey I can hear you you can hear me yeah I can hear you clearly also yeah so basically it's a very interesting topic and I could say that my coworkers and I spend a lot of time with questions about women earning more than men and vice versa I've had coworkers, male coworkers maybe just one who said that he wouldn't mind but when I think about it I don't think he would be comfortable being with a woman that made more than him now where are you at are you in another country or are you in America with the accent no no I'm in Jamaica oh okay you over there in Jamaica huh okay okay now y'all men are a little different too than American men well I think I would say that Jamaican men are pretty traditional but I think with men the old like my father's age you're very traditional but I think men my age are still willing to support the woman but I think a lot of them do like to have this conversation I'm not sure about if it's a general consensus in Jamaica because we're still very traditional down here um but I thought about it myself for example um would I be comfortable with a man making a lot more money than myself for example if he's making maybe $60,000 a year and I'm making $30,000 I've always said I wouldn't be 100% comfortable and the reason for that would be is um there are some things that maybe I don't want to buy for him but I just couldn't buy so sometimes you think about I guess because of society maybe your value in the relationship you know so um but I know that most men are comfortable being with somebody who is making less than them because I think it's the mindset across the board whether you are whether you earn a lot of money or whether you earn or men that don't earn a lot they see that as their role so I know that the majority of men are pretty comfortable with that um situation you're right you're right let me add somebody on here and I'll leave you on let me see now what it's gonna do unmute you um Amber I'm unmuting your mic I think you might have to unmute it on your side yeah I muted it I'm sorry I didn't know if you can hear me okay what's your take on this um well I was gonna I was gonna ask I heard the young ladies scenario I was particularly gonna ask how do you feel let me get in the car since it might be Wendy um like I hear what you're saying and I was in the comments and I'm just here for the wisdom I feel like you're speaking overall in general because there are just so many plays and takes on it but I'm trying to figure out okay where a man who isn't trying to seek an ulterior motive or who is genuinely a good man how does is there a particular place he feels his finances have to be in order to entertain a certain level of relationship or does that really not matter I know you can't speak specifically but overall in general because I'm just kind of curious you know I know like it apparently it probably doesn't matter but does it matter because I'm like if you make fifty thousand and that's all you need to make great if you're in the six or seven figures and that's what you need to make great but for a good man where does he feel like he has to be if anywhere well I think I think the challenge with that would be for example if you have a woman that's making a lot of money who can play herself to Paris I think maybe the man might wonder how can he fit into that situation I think I think that would be a challenge which you know I can definitely understand from the man's end right now let me tell you as a good man a good man does want to be it's really what society has put on him so if he's in Los Angeles then he may want to be at a hundred and fifty thousand and that still is going to go fast in New York same thing now if he's in Alabama Mississippi, Florida different places where Texas where especially Texas out there with them houses being way cheaper than they are in a lot of places in Florida then his earning is different but a real man a good man does want to be in a place to where if the woman gets pregnant or if they adopt and she wants to be full time with the kids he wants to be able to take care of the mortgage or the rent by the cars or take care of the card notes the insurance the health insurance the grocery the gas tuition for school or daycare he wants to be able to take care of everything and then be able to still afford a vacation at least once a year and put something up in savings and invest something whether that's in the stock market or what have you or into real estate so that's a lot of different pots he's trying to put money into now a real man also does not define himself solely based on the money that he's earning that's something that comes from insecurity so a man could be at fifty thousand and feel like a man and then he could be at five hundred thousand and feel like a man he's developing his character not just his currency and so that's where it is and like you say every situation can be different so it is a lot of generalities in it let me see how is it Jable yes hello hey what's your take on this well from experience I would like to state my opinion um I was in a relationship with someone they had basically had more financials than me and what I don't like about it it was like it was used as leverage so if I disagree with something or I spoke up about something I didn't like that he was doing he had taken it away from me and say okay well I'm taking this money or you can't be in my car or you gotta get out of my house so my opinion is I would rather just have my money my own money no matter if the man got more money than me or not because I know I couldn't depend on that person in my past so in the future it made me think I didn't want to depend on no other man mm-hmm and that is that's that's true that's true and I'm gonna be honest with y'all that's something that every man struggle with you know because I'm I consider myself a real man but it's times in my marriage where I have looked at me earning and thought that that meant something meant more and put you know stock into that and having conversation with my wife she'll have to let me know like sometimes it feel like you saying this your money and then we have to have a conversation on about it and I will tell her and she'll say so in talking about this as a married couple she'll say well you could go and just spend whatever and then and it's okay but she said if I go and I spend something it's like I need to talk to you about it or something like that so then I told her I told her I said well the reason why that is is because I have money moving all around and so money coming out all the time so I don't care what you spend if you deem it necessary but if I got something coming out of that account and you spend something from that account then that account going into the overdraw or if I spend something it's because I know that I have a check coming in but if you want to spend something if you tell me the answer is yes because it's your money too and I know you're not going to spend us into the poor house so these are the type of conversation that got to be had but every human has a weird relationship with money because you either have a scarcity mindset or you have an abundant mindset and that's why every situation is slightly different like my wife she told me before the ninth grade she had been evicted 16 times I never went through that so she said it was some days to where they bought an 89 cent bean burrito and split it in half for dinner I never went through that so because of that she was okay with that bank account flatlining see I wasn't used to that because I had a mother and father in the home and whatever they had to do raw Peter to pay Paul I never felt any financial stress I always had shoes I always had clothes so now you got two different relationships with money coming into a marriage and this was going to be in every relationship very rarely it's going to be where two people male and female see money the exact same way and treated the same way but that's where they were able to communicate and get an understanding on how you see it and get on the same page and really okay so what my wife told me she said listen you know what's coming in you know what money is coming in she said you know I don't care nothing about you investing I don't care nothing about you saving like you could invest as much as you want to invest save as much as you want to save she let me buy Bitcoin which is crypto currency which everybody all the big people at the time were saying don't do it I bought in when it was $3,000 a coin now I sold me a coin when it was at $57,000 so that was a lot of profit but my wife she was okay with that and I bought a coin when it was $18,000 and then it went up now it dropped but even if I sold today I still would have doubled the money so her thing was you could do whatever you want to do on the spending on the investing I'm not going to stop that but just don't try to control me on their necessities and nickel and dime and I had to understand that we had to come to terms on that so can I ask a question yeah yeah so how does a man feel about a woman making a lot of money like a secure a man who's actually ready to show up is he gonna feel threatened by a woman now I see now I see this the thing it's very rare to meet the man that you're talking about and I see that in the comments all the time where women say oh well a man of God is not gonna care and oh a mature man but you have to look at what we being fed so these guys not listening to me they listening to the man in the dark who was causing a division who driving a wedge between the genders who creating a gender war and these different groups of men this mantle spear and this mixtow and this alpha male strategies is creating this generational I mean this gender divide so so the man that you describe it's gonna be very rare for him to show up but ideally yes a mature man who was ready and healthy and whole he's gonna be okay with his woman earning and it's gonna motivate him and it's gonna drive him and he's gonna wanna become a power couple unless her job takes her all over and it requires that he figure out a different way to earn his living so let me hear from Nia real quick hi everybody the main thing I kinda wanted to say in regards to this is like we don't talk about like how someone can be jealous of their partner and it may be really hard for a man if he is like dating a woman that makes a lot of money and she's able to like pop bottles with her friends going vacations and oh no babe I got this and she's able to I guess live inside of what he can provide and if he wants like he doesn't he doesn't wanna tell her that you can't do the things you enjoy because I can't afford it but he may not want to enjoy them with her because it's on her dime and it's probably harder for him to enjoy himself on her dime than as a woman it's easy to let a man take you out and pay for you because that's what he's supposed to do but for a man he's not supposed to let his woman especially if they're not married don't have children and they're not that close with one another that it's only been a year and you taking him to Turks and Caicos you know or you leaving him to go to Turks and Caicos with your girls and he just at the house you know like that's probably very uncomfortable for him and it's uncomfortable to admit like hey I'm jealous of you you know and what you're able to do that I can't do you right and you know what it all goes back just to societal programming so society took all the rights from women and men were made to work and men went to work and men provided and men that's where silvery started to come in where a man treated a woman as a weaker vessel so he did he did stuff for her and the Bible says a woman is a weaker vessel and so it played into society but you know it became toxic quick so a man's identity is tied up into how much can he provide what can he if you don't make money you ain't worth nothing and then vice versa and so it's a lot of ways where to where women start to feel like okay if I can't have kids I'm not worth anything because a lot of women will beat themselves up about that oh if I if I'm this age and I don't have a child yet I'm not worth it's all society when a lot of time the man might not even want little rugs but the woman will be beating herself up and the man does the same thing so that's why it really comes down to when you meet somebody and you're in a relationship getting into getting to the root because will you notice that a lot of women who say oh have your own have your own have your own it's because they never saw safety for a woman they never saw a woman be a homemaker and be treated as an equal they saw her being treated like a slave so that narrative comes from that pain and from that trauma but when you address that and you say listen you safe here like I'm not controlling you I'm not dominating you like I'm not doing this for me this is for us we we and seasons can change so when my sons get out the house I honestly feel like if my wife decide to start doing business I honestly feel like she gonna earn more than me because I feel like the the tide has changed and women support women and the things that women need women are the major consumers so my wife does a skincare line her skincare line gonna do better than my skincare line because she's selling to women and that skincare is gonna sell way better than me selling online courses of how to build a social media following or how to write a book because it's that's a niche audience where skincare that's every woman in the world you see what I'm saying so she gonna end up out earning me when Steph Curry sit down Aisha Curry gonna out earn him that year I looked at Forbes a few years back Beyonce I earned Jay-Z Jay-Z had to step his game up he had to start going all kind of investments because I remember Forbes reported Beyonce was 82 million and Jay-Z was 80 million and of course Forbes don't know everything but the fact that they had reported that she earned more is it's a new world Yeah I think one of the important points is mindset because it's very difficult like when you get married you already had a bank account the guy already had a bank account and sometimes it's difficult to come to terms with how do you actually spend the money and then also as you were saying Tony with that you being the breadwinner your mindset has to change and also if the ladies are making more money it's very easy I think and human to sometimes become resentful of the person who may not be the one that's bringing the money I mean it's maybe just a small thought that might come into your mind but I think and maybe some of these things can't be worked out until you get married I mean you can work on it while you're single but sometimes it's a different situation when you become married you just wanted to share something interesting I actually spoke to some teenagers like 16 year olds and they are actually afraid to be stay at home moms because they don't want to be dependent on a man and this is like 16 years old so the I guess it's nobody wants to be in a situation of insecurity and I think I'm not quite sure how maybe we might deal with that but I think that's an interesting thing to observe right let's see what the brothers say here a man should never be jealous of a woman to me that's really unnecessary to feel that way a woman has her qualities and a man has his qualities then y'all bring them together and build an empire it sounds good it sounds good but we see it happen and it's human nature and that's why I gotta be addressed on a human level and yes like what A B said when you get into something it's totally different than being on the outside looking in when you get into something it's a conversation that's different than what you had with yourself as a single person and our relationship with money is one of the most potent and important relationships we're gonna have our relationship with money a lot of times supersedes our relationship with humans and just the way we think about money the way we view money and it is it's hard and it's always there it never goes anywhere it's not like you just overcome it and you just get past it like this is something that even 15 years into marriage me and my wife still have talks about this still creating and shifting and changing you know the plans and how you address it how you go about it because it's always something and so this this something this what I'll say is when you think about character when you think about character you have to be able to evaluate a person's character male and female in the dating stage and in these conversations it's almost like you a therapist because you're getting to hear how this person's relationship with money is and then you get to identify is this person scarcity minded or abundant minded and then that gives you a glimpse into how they'll be in a relationship so for example if somebody says that they're a school teacher and they got on authentic Louis Vuitton and they're in their single now you know they miss spending their money because of that Louis Vuitton purse cost $1200 at the cheapest one but if she makes or he makes $30,000 they spending 5% of the income on one item and so now you know whoa this person really bad with money and then now somebody says that they are a doctor and the type of medicine that they're in they're making $400,000 a year and they will not buy anything nice nothing new that's also a different toxic mentality with money because they are scarcity minded and so you have to be able to pick up on these clues and pay attention to this to see if somebody is good or bad with money and I'm going to tell you one of the things and this is this song for the women now for y'all to think about because I see this a lot and I just saw the other day another relationship coach he not on my level I don't think he married so we're not the same but he's a white guy and he said that if you go out on a date a woman should offer to pay her half and I've been saying this forever and so many women say no hey offer to pay my half and I'm saying this from a a healthy male perspective to say this is going to disarm him this is going to let him know he's going to appreciate it and if he is raised right then he's going to pay but just the gesture is going to say whoa okay she's not a taker she coming to bring something but then so now this is the thing so it says she independent but then when he says no I got it and she said okay wow thank you now that shows she is ready to be interdependent so if she doesn't offer it says she is a dependent if she offers and then she refuses to let him pay it says she is too independent but if she offers and then she allows him to pay it says she is independent but she is ready and willing to become interdependent which is what marriage is so it's meaning letting a man be a man letting him be sure letting him be that but showing him that you're not coming in as a taker and so when I heard this guy say that I didn't say that that's one of the things that has really blessed me with my wife is she never put up like when we went through hard times if we had to move she was willing to move if we had to sell stuff she was willing to sell stuff if we had to go without if we had to have a car repossessed she was with it if her credit had to take a hit she was with it she did not allow financial hardships to make her look at me like less of a man and that is very very rare so that's a challenge to the women is my wife saw my character and that's why I bless her the way I bless her and give her the things I give her because when it was hard and when it was tight she never looked down on me like a real man because she understood stuff happens life happens but when I'm talking to her today I notice a lot of women don't see it that way they're like hey you ain't got no money you're a bomb but to your point Tony when you were going through difficulties financially I think it's important I think how your wife reacted was it's not Tony in a financial situation we're in this together so I think when you maybe she was thinking about it that made a difference in how she reacted you're right and you know what then that's what I mean that's the mindset that I feel is becoming more and more rare today and I think that's something to be addressed and then at the same time when you start to meet a man you got to make sure that he doesn't put too much stock into his money and that he doesn't talk too much about his money and that his money doesn't define him and that he's not trying to buy self-worth and we struggle with that sometimes as humans so there's something to think about and in the last comments y'all have and let me see if it's anybody else want to come up on here I'll put a little link in here so thank y'all okay though I want to say you know when I experienced this when I did accept men for who they was and offer their money and they didn't have the financials that they wanted to have when they did get it they treated me different and then chose the women that only wanted them for their money that's the truth that's the truth and that again it comes down it's societal programming it's just those men or that man equated his self-worth to his network and so that's why you saw the relationship coach who cheated on his wife who had more followers than me online but just technical term I'd say supporters but the reason being is because he got this money and he got this fame and he wanted the benefits from it he wanted to see what is how do women treat a man who drive a Lamborghini or a Rolls Royce because he had always saw that before he was married and that's where a man got to be rooted and grounded because I remember when I got my Impala on 22 when I first got it in 2007 I pulled up to the light and I ain't had no tent and I looked over and a lady was in the car looking at me waving I was like okay so what you trying to do and so it was like now and I'm already married but at that point I'm thinking about cheating because I'm like man I want to get the benefit of this feeling of a woman thinking that I'm more handsome because of my material assets and so that's what happened that's why the guy did that it's like he took and got money and like oh you get treated different when you got money and a guy got to be rooted and grounded so that a woman who want him for his money is not worth it but that also just a sign that he's not a real guy you know he ain't a real man so Tony my final question is does a man look at you differently when he sees that you're willing to be with him when he has less like he could possibly look at you in a negative light not looking at like wow she's down to ride when I don't have much but will he put you in a category like oh she was willing to accept me at this level versus a woman who only would want a man at a certain other level like does it make him look at you differently it depends on his character it depends now this is a gambling drinking smoking atheist man then he's going to look at you a certain way if it's a good man a real man a man of character he's going to appreciate that you were willing to be with him when he wasn't at his peak when he had a dollar and a dream but he had the character to get it all and that's why my wife could have it all because she was with me when I didn't have it and so people look like even on our financial level is sickening what I spent on her but it's because she was there when we didn't have it and I just see it as money it come and go like I trust God not my abilities not my work God going to bless me somebody bless me today and just out the blue say here Tony here go a blessing that's God that had nothing to do with my work that had nothing to do with me sweating from my brow so I know that we're going to be okay as long as I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing as the head of the household and I'm living right and doing the right thing so I bless my wife and I spent on my wife and I appreciate her like if I was single today and at the level of success that I'm at I'd be so scared to date what I would do if I was a single man today I would date a woman who earned six figures if I was at the financial level of success I would be scared to date a woman who earned less than six figures because I think that she just want me for my money that'll be my fear and that's not the truth but what is fear they say false evidence appearing real but in a lot of cases it is the truth and so because it's true half the time a person going to see it is true all the time so I'm going to tell you I don't know what that little man was talking about he looked a little in that chair I don't know what he was talking about I'll be honest with y'all the most desirable women are the women today are the women who are earning money men not looking for a broke busted and disgusted woman and I know women say oh they be intimidated well you got to understand there between a man and a grown boy and it ain't a plethora it ain't more grown men than grown boys it's more grown boys because of the program and the messaging on these podcasts and the youtube channels it's more grown boys but what you got to realize is as you elevate and you become who you're supposed to become you start to attract different people different people start to approach you because your quality in your dress the quality in how you carry yourself your clothes it changes when your income changes if your mindset has changed with your income now a man could see that he could see that there might not be a bunch of labels and stuff on you but he could see that's quality clothes that you take your nails serious you take your hair serious you take your outfit serious you taking yourself serious is because your mindset has shifted and now that man who is a serious man he's going to be comfortable approaching you whereas a man who feels like if she sit down to be with our kids and we are upkeep then he is intimidated and that's what you got to understand let's see so let me see now I'm going to clear this here stream so y'all I'm going to clear the stream and I'm going to get ready to close on up here and I'm going to grab a couple of comments and we'll address a couple of comments for about 15 minutes so y'all can put your all thoughts in the comments you know what let me add Nick had something to say or Nick let me add you I didn't see you Nick you had something to say on this yeah okay what's your take on it can you hear me yeah I can hear you can you hear me I can hear you I say what's your take on it so my take is this Tony okay so for instance I've always had a problem with somebody being over my money besides me okay and so I've always I don't know what that feedback is but that ain't me go ahead yeah being over my money okay but I'm not a selfish person okay I'm not selfish but yeah I don't need the it might be your computer or your phone or something that got this on I have everything cut off it's alright just talk don't worry about it yeah so but so I said if I get married then am I going to be okay with sharing my money yeah I don't have I can't hear it on my end you just can hear it okay so anyway and I've always said if I got married would I be willing to spend my money with someone right so I mean yeah okay but yeah so that's my take on I mean like I said I don't have a problem with sharing it but I'm kind of like on the border on the border because you know when it comes because I know how I spend my money but then when you meet somebody you're right you don't know how they spend their money and I save money I save money I invest money you know and all of that so you really do want to get to know people and find out just what they think about their money and how they spend their money hey you got a good point and I'm a mutual mic so I don't have that feedback you got a good point Neek and what I would say is I'm beyond switch off and this might be you know one sided but I I do not ever recommend a woman letting a man handle her money I do not recommend that that is the most dangerous thing because men are very money hungry men are very greedy when you watch American greed on MSNBC 99% of the episodes are on men I saw an episode on a woman who was over some pro-athletes money and that was that's the one I could think of right now all the other ones was men men are doing time for fraud men are money hungry so if you are a woman with a savings with a good earning your money should be your money because a man should be able to go out and earn money and make money and then and that's just it because men we wired to make money we wired to hunt we wired to go and get and so that's why I tell my wife listen your money is your money she wrote a book and any money she earned she got a little YouTube channel she don't really do nothing on there any money she earned if she do a little sponsorship with a company to post on Instagram I tell her your money is your money because I know how to go out and get mine so keep yours and I don't want a woman money as a man I want to get my own money now when I was a grown boy I wanted a woman with money and the reason why I wanted a woman with money because I wanted to spend her money and I'm gonna be honest with you that's just a grown boy mentality I wanted to kick my feet up and live off me a woman because I wanted to be that that bomb and that's what I did when I met my wife she didn't know it but all my clothes and shoes was from women it was from the women I had talked to from a polo to my Reeboks to my nice jeans it was from women and that's how I used to live let women take care of me before the dating apps before the dating apps and that's why I don't trust a man with a woman money because I know how I was and I know most men who are real men they go getters they hungry they ambitious and they're gonna get out and get they're gonna get out and get so thank you so much for that right there and now we're gonna get ready to close on out here soon but let me get on this company hey hi everyone okay so I there is a water to call in was because everything you said in this conversation was just a conversation I had with my mother and uncle and so I come from a traditional society I have lived in America but I'm originally Zimbabwean and so I think after hearing everyone and watching your videos and stuff I realized like it's two important things I think it's character and growth mindset because my mom is a traditional African woman my dad is a traditional African man my uncle who is giving me advice is traditional African guy but he lives abroad and one of the things he was saying was that to me you know as is me he was saying that when you get married or when planning to having your own is more about your own personal freedom and being able to not feel imprisoned by someone else and so my mom demonstrated that because when she didn't have her degree and stuff and when she didn't have her stuff in America she now admitted to me just this weekend how it was tough to do certain things she felt controlled even though it's a good marriage it's a healthy marriage and now that she's doing well the kids out of the house she just flew down to where I live to visit me and spent lavishly and all she had to do was you know tell my dad and then go but then one thing she did say to me and that I think is really important to share is that she still gives my father even though I think at this point she might surpass him a little bit in terms of earnings they're both successful but one thing I think is important for us to know is that she still gives him that respect as a man in the house and as her husband so she doesn't flaunt her money she doesn't make it a point to be like I have this but she also doesn't limit herself so I think it's a growth because she comes from a society where that's not the case it's all or nothing and now that she's had 20 plus years and she's seen different environments and different people she's at a place where she's okay with herself and her accomplishments but she still gets placed in her traditional mindset to my dad and I think it's a beautiful thing so I wanted to share that because I think but still at the end of the day what your videos and from just learning is that seriously character and growth mindset is so key because some people don't know like what they learn from their fathers and their mothers and their generations before but maybe if they're shown a different way through communication as you've said and vetting I think there's chances sometimes we cut people off too quick so I just wanted to share that because when this conversation was happening I was like Tony said this Tony said this this is great and it was just nice so I just wanted to share that awesome thank you so much thank you I appreciate that that was a good uh good addition right there now listen in enclosed and then wrapping up now I will tell you something I've noticed even like with my wife something I have noticed is that having money to call her own is so free even though earning money by her getting a paycheck from our money so on Fridays she gets a paycheck when she buys something for me she says I bought that out of my money and so we have a joint account but then we have my money that I can spend and her money that she can spend she don't like the term allowance but just hearing her say that and I struggle with that as a man and that's why I'm sharing this with men is if your woman is home with the kids and I don't think a woman should be home if you don't got kids because it ain't nothing to do like don't just be home just to be home that's when you acting like property be home for the kids and if you ain't got kids then if a man want you to be home and y'all ain't got kids that's a red flag to me because it ain't he don't he don't want you to be empowered he don't want you to have no say so no earning power no earning potential he don't want that's a red flag to me I think if you gonna be home it should be so that you can be there for the kids any time of the day when they need to get picked up from school they play that they doing at 10 o'clock in the morning that you could be there and as men I'm telling you for one you gotta stop as a man you gotta stop allowing money to define you you cannot equate your self-worth to your net worth as a man nor as a woman it's a go boat way but I'm speaking to men from male perspective and also as men if you earn money you still and you have a wife you gotta allow your wife some agency meaning allow her to spend how she wanna spend to have a conversation about the budget about the goals or what have you but if she gonna respect you and respect the household inside of that then you gotta trust her don't oversee her like she's a child and oh what you doing what you doing what you doing like let her get what she need to get but be transparent with her so if things getting tight then things got to be tight we got to have communication and if you express that without snapping without going off then the good woman you married she gonna understand because if she's not looking at the finances coming in and she used to y'all making ten thousand a month and now y'all that five thousand a month if you just stressed out and you spazzing but you didn't tell her hey our income is cut in half then she's still spending like y'all making ten thousand a month but if you tell her hey we was at ten thousand when the real estate was going good now we lost some tenets now we had five thousand a month so we got the budget we got to change how we doing this a good woman if you married a good woman she gonna say oh okay cool so imma chill on just getting this little extra stuff for the stuff that's not necessarily necessary and I put that on pause until you let me know otherwise and so as men we gotta stop using money as a control tactic and a way to control a woman or to demean a woman or look down look down on a woman and we gotta communicate like to say conversation rules a nation we gotta communicate we gotta open up we gotta express what we feeling express the pressure that you feeling as a man financially express that pressure and then trust your woman and love your woman to do what she feels she should be doing so if your woman wanna be home with the kids and adjust your spending instead of forcing her to work and if a woman wants to work then don't force her to be home because she gonna do what is best for her mental health she gonna do what's gonna help her flourish so as a man we gotta be mindful of that and we gotta understand that so when you do this and you have this communication and you realize that somebody blueprint my blueprint may not be your blueprint you gotta create your own blueprint for your life and for your relationship you also gotta understand your relationship with money and you gotta get to the root of your relationship with money you gotta understand if you got a scarcity mindset and you gotta address that you gotta confront that or if you got an abundant mindset you gotta understand your relationship with money and you gotta look at where was your mindset about money money shaped and you're going to find that it's your upbringing that it's your parents is the things that you saw and then you got to say is this healthy or is this unhealthy and you got to confront that and you got to be real about it. And so when we could do that, things start to change for the better. Things start to change. Here are the days that I prefer to work from home. They said it's a link but I don't see Tony Gadsden's Academy. I'm not sure what she. Now, the code right here is Big 38 on Tony Gadsden's Academy. That's your Q point code is going to be 38% off. And until Thursday, until Thursday morning, I was blessed to have a husband that had no issues with money. He trusted me and I trusted him. He was married to go 18 years, resting in peace. God bless you now. And see now, I'm going to tell you all. And this is the thing though. So I come from a different kind of family. I come from one of those families to where they don't mind accepting. They don't mind accepting. And so I think what that did is that put my wife at certain times in our marriage in a scarcity mindset because literally anything we had extra, my family was there when they hand out. And so she got to where like, hey, I want our money to be utilized by our household and she realized that as a man, I want an old man that wanted like a lot of men want to take care of their mama, want to take care of their sister, want to take care of their daddy, want to take care of their homeboys. And that's a downfall as men is we want to be this king. We want to be this everything to everybody. And when we got a wife and kids and when that needs to be our soul and only focus and the rest of the adults that we want to take care of, they need to be given a fishing pole and taught how to fish instead of keep being given fish. And so that was my fault as a man by giving so much externally that it sent my wife into a place of like scarcity to where she, she's looking to spend everything she could spend because she felt like if it was too much money left over in the account, I was going to go give it all away. And she was right. That was my fault. And I had to realize that. So now I had to, I had to come when I got to that point and say, listen, baby, okay, I don't realize the error in my ways. Like, listen, you don't have to race to spend his money. I'm not going to give it away. Like it's okay to let money stack up. It's okay to let it stack up for a rainy day, have a savings, have investment. You know, just have money, just sitting in the expense account. And you ain't got to dwindle it all down. I'm not going to give it to my sister no more. I'm not going to give it to my mama. I'm not going to give it to my homeboys. And I had to express that because y'all know now when y'all real about it, y'all know a lot of men want to take care of everybody. Want to take care of mama, want to take care of daddy, want to take care of sister, want to take care of friends, homeboys. And then before you know, not a household doing without. And it was time in my life as a young man where I would literally, I'm going to tell y'all how bad it was. I would send our account into the negative to give money to my mama to help them out when they just was spending how they want to spend. And my wife was not getting her hair done, not getting her nails done, going without. And my mom and my sister kept they had done, kept they nails done. And that was me just being raised in that society of, if you make it, you got to take care of everybody. And I had to grow and I had to get out of that. And I had to get to the place to where look, my household got to be taken care of. I got my own bills to take care of. Y'all grown, y'all got to take care of. Y'all said, oh, you got it, oh, you got that. Yeah, but isn't that listening? And it was some anger and it was some, some, some bad words said, and it was some division and some tension because we in that mindset of, oh, one person make it, everybody to make made it. So, you know, that's how it's been going. So listen, God bless y'all, appreciate y'all coming on here. We did an hour and a half. This here, y'all let me know if y'all like this little setup where the people could come on the camera. Y'all know this ain't my style. This ain't my style, but I'm trying to stretch, get more technical, put up full comments. So, hey, God bless y'all. Let me see how to get on out of here. Oh, and shout out to the Patreon members, bless tribe, bless business tribe, to the moderators. Thank y'all for y'all help. Really appreciate y'all moderators. Couldn't do it without you. So I really appreciate y'all for helping me on here. And tomorrow, I don't have a video for tomorrow and I probably won't be on here tomorrow unless my wife is out and gone. Then I may work on my birthday or I might just take a whole day of rest. But I'm gonna tell you, sometime working, it'd invigorate me. And again, that's how me and Bill working invigorate us. A lot of times me and the, oh, I'm working, I'm working, I'm working like, man, you having fun. Cause that's what make us feel alive when we working. But then sometime we take that and try to use that as a sob story. But really, it's me and love to work. So I might be on here tomorrow, ain't no teller. Hey, God bless you. We'll talk soon.