 hi she was seven i'm back how y'all like my look it's kawaii fairy cake kawaii look okay y'all into it all right whatever if y'all like this look go to my beauty channel all right so today we're gonna be talking about nice women women who are too nice okay i i think i did a video about this a while ago but i think i need to redo it because a lot of women are too nice and they think that being nice is going to get them what they want in a relationship or the type of man that they want that's just not true it's actually the opposite okay a man who deals with nice women a lot of times they take advantage of them they know that they'll always be there so they treat them any type of way they know that they'll always forgive them so they'll mess up on purpose because oh she'll take you back oh whatever she's too nice she's never gonna you know so women that are too nice tend to have more issues in their relationship women who are mean not not mean but strict or knows what she wants and not afraid to say it have less problems in their relationship why because that man knows if he messes up and that woman is not nice or forgiving that this is basically over and she'll dump him and go do better okay now if you're a woman that's too nice oh whatever he's just gonna keep doing what he's doing never improve he doesn't have to because you don't demand it okay um and i told i think i told the story of my last video um i have a friend she was really pretty you know she dated all the athletes and you know just rappers and stuff like that but she was too nice and now she's she's single she never landed a man because she was too nice okay um they would totally take advantage of her lie to her she would believe them treat her like that treat her like you know garbage and she would still always go back thinking that if she would play the submissive sweet role and do whatever they ask that they will say oh that's a good wife because you know she's submissive but it wasn't that way she was the the what you call the doormat so you know the women that they would end up with would be demanding and they would have standards and they would say no i'm not gonna put up with this you know they had standards and they had self-respect you know men don't want to marry a woman who doesn't respect herself you know if you let someone treat you any kind of way and get away with it you know you're setting yourself up to be in an abusive relationship you know what i mean so that's not good uh as for me i was always straightforward i spoke what was on my mind i said what i meant and i meant what i said okay because that's how it was raised like my mom she means what she says okay she's gonna tell you point blank the truth she's gonna be like look you don't look good in that outfit you can take that off you know she's gonna come straight up and tell you you know uh so she has no problem telling men exactly what she needs them to do how she needs them to be what she expects out of them in a relationship and i learned that from her you know ask for what you want ask for what you want and if that person is not willing to comply then you can both save time and move on okay so a lot of women are afraid to ask for what they want because they think that the man is going to say oh well i can't do that and they'll lose the man and be single again but what if he says yes and what if you get what you want and what if the whole relationship is totally different because you stated exactly what you wanted instead of just letting him do whatever he wants or treat you any kind of way what if you set the standards and the rules and the relationship from the start and while he was still infatuated with you and just wanting to get in your pants and you set the rules up in place so that throughout the relationship it's just the expectation and what's done okay you can't wait until you slip with them you can't wait until um you know you're in about two three years and then start changing stuff you gotta you gotta tell it from the get go you gotta be like look this is what i need in the man a partner a mate can you do this and they're still infatuated with you they're still in love and that honeymoon feeling so they're gonna agree to it they're gonna start doing it because they know it'll help you know get you closer together so that eventually you'll sleep with them so he's gonna be doing all little things that you've expected and after two weeks of doing something it basically becomes habit you know so if he's used to doing certain things for you that's gonna continue on into the relationship especially since he's invested time and money and effort into you while he's in love or while he's infatuated because or while he's in lust this is going to set inside of this subconscious mind to set the tone of the relationship okay so ladies that's why it's very important to tell them what you want straight up in the beginning okay because okay for example men only think about sex most of the time they just want to get in your pants right so while they're still infatuated with you that's when you make your demands you know that's when you say and you don't have to be like rude about it you can just say it in a sweet way like you know you know i really love going to this place do you want to go this weekend you aren't going to trip uh you know get them to do stuff for you uh he might think he's going to get lucky on this trip even if he might not he's still going to go for it right um but make your demands you know i love when a man can like just take care of me that's just so such a turn on i love it when you know uh that's my dream relationship where a man takes care of me and like makes you feel like secure do you tell them that straight up they're going to try to do whatever they can do to make you feel secure whatever's in their price range because not everybody's going to be able to afford the same things you know they might take you out to dinner they might take you to you know a concert or something they might try to spoil you the best way that they know how or can but you need to put that out there that you expect more because if you don't they're just going to give you whatever you know what i mean and you if you're not you know if you don't accept whatever and you get mad and they say oh well she's crazy she's like oh you know you didn't tell him what you wanted so how are they supposed to know they don't read minds so this is why you need to tell them um and they'll be more willing to do things in the beginning of the relationship and like i said it will become habit and then your man is doing the things that you want him to do and it'll just be automatic okay and don't just take take take you know say well do you have anything special that you know you just you know would love your woman to do or how to be or whatever do one thing don't do don't get don't get don't let him get great one thing okay give him one thing that he wants and make sure you do that you know very well so he can keep doing whatever he's doing for you okay because it's um it's only going to increase what he wants to do because now that you you know you're giving him something in return now he wants to work on getting something else perhaps i don't know maybe like oh can you cook for me once a week or oh can you um you know do this and this and that and i don't ever advise women cooking for men unless they're married or living together and engaged like like really making wedding plans i don't advise women cook for men because that's not girlfriend duties that's wife duties okay so maybe uh you can uh cook something really nice and invite a bunch of people over and he can eat the food and see how you cook but don't just do it for him make it a big of special occasion invite friends and do a dinner party or whatever but don't cook for him individually okay if you're already playing wife there's no need for him to marry okay um so yeah pizza go out to eat take out salad whatever y'all eat make sure that he knows that you're not performing wife duties without a ring okay um but yes the beginning of the relationship is if your answer the relationship is too late you can't you're not going to get a man do what you want unless you put on some type of lingerie sexy outfit and go crazy and get him in bed and then ask him okay you're gonna have to appeal to his sexual nature to get what you want at um if you're already in the relationship but uh like if it's new like i said don't be too nice don't let them run over you demand what you want up front but do it in a nice way offer them one thing in return you know be it you know um i don't know like a massage or you know a manicure a pedicure just something sweet and nice that doesn't cost you anything but shows that you care and have time you know to actually do these things with you um so don't get caught up in men that make you feel all oh you know butterflies in your stomach because that's the type of man that you will lose all your standards for and those are the type of man who will exploit you so make sure you don't feel that way about a guy when you get into a relationship with him make sure he feels that way about you because if you feel that way about him you're gonna let him treat you any type of way and you're gonna accept it okay a lot of ladies have this problem where they have like this strong emotional love deep love for this person and they will stay in a bad relationship let them take advantage of them let them cheat on them let them hit them do all this kind of crazy stuff because they have this love and connection that's just your weakness that's not a connection because he doesn't have it towards you okay uh that's just your weakness and his way to exploit you so you need to understand that and you know relationships aren't about that connection feeling it's about you know compatibility do you work well together are you good friends together do you compromise well together uh do you have love for each other you know because like i said every time love between men and women is not unconditional it is conditional condition means if you don't do this i'm gonna do that okay unconditional means no matter what you do i'm gonna love you forever you can do whatever you want i'm still gonna love you okay like your the love that you have for your child okay that's unconditional the love you have for your parents unconditional the love you have for for a woman or a man is conditional if you cheat on me i'm gonna leave you if you if you do this in this business i don't want to be with you no more that is conditional okay so you have to go into the relationship thinking like that this love is conditional it is based on conditionals that's why i mean conditionals that's why when you get married they give you a bunch of vows they say you will do this i will do that those are the conditions that you're getting married under that is not conditional love if you have to list off a bunch of things that you got to do before i say i do that's conditions okay so remember you don't give your pure true love to someone that's conditional you just have love for them you know your true love is for yourself and for your children and for your family okay those people will be with you until the day you die okay they don't care if you mess up they're still gonna have love for you they're still gonna uh you know the most feeling i don't know some crazy families out there but most families someone in your family is going to love you condition unconditionally okay so remember that ladies don't don't let your heart lead you let your mind do the thinking and let your heart feel the results of your logical choice when you choose a partner and don't be nice make your demands up front get everything out on the table so that everyone knows what everyone expects give them a little something and return learn make sure you act while the relationship is new so that it becomes habit if you're already in the relationship it is too late you gotta try some freak stuff and talk to them while y'all are in the bed or doing something to get your way i don't know okay um that works though so thank you guys so much for watching and like i said um don't be too nice okay say what you want mean what you say don't get ran over make your demands up front okay i can't stress that enough and guys i don't know if y'all are watching understand that women need to tell them tell you guys what they want because they lose themselves they will accept things that they wouldn't normally accept they'll end up unhappy then they'll go cheat because you're not doing the things that they wanted their man to do in the first place and they might be too nice to tell you and they might go and sneak over here to this guy who's doing exactly what they wish you would do and instead of hurting your feelings and talking to you about it they're just going to go cheat so it's very important that women tell you what what they want so that you can understand and know what they want know the things that they like and know what they expect so that you don't get cheated on because they're too nice okay women are programmed to be nice okay oh you have to be nice you have to be soft you have to be you know this is what this look is about the the little doll-like look to be submissive this is the you know j-style Japanese like anime kawaii look but women are trained to be nice and not talk and not speak up and but if you if you do it in a nice way ladies if you tell them what you want they have to respect that you know a lot of men will say i love a woman who knows what she wants that means there's no guessing there's no games it's just straight up you know i first if i meet you you want me to pay your bills okay i know it's not going to work out already because i don't like old diggers if i was a man right uh if i have financial stability you say okay this is what i want a b c and d okay i can take care of your bills what are you gonna do for me uh okay well i can i can do i can do this this is that okay now we know what each other wants let's let's get into it but if you don't say anything and you're just you know expecting something then disappoint it because you don't get it you're gonna go cheat or you're gonna end the relationship or you're gonna be unhappy in the relationship so it's important to say what you want men ladies thank you guys so much for watching and i'll see y'all on the next video