 All right, let me see Let me see said Stand right now Well Crystal you made it in there. Let me see if this work. I think it worked. I think it might have worked. Oh Hey YouTube Now y'all see how technology work anybody technology can go wrong Cuz um, I'm trying you know, I use my cell phone y'all know that You know real ones like myself really don't do social media But y'all see I come on here and try to do this social media do not like social media Okay, but when Lord tell you to do something you got to do it Okay, the girl would fail say she signed up real quick. So this chat Is only for The bless tribe members because I got to try to condense it because when it's open to everybody You have all these people right and I can't read that fast and then people get upset with you when you're missing a question so remember to put on Hashtag cue in front of your question Now some of y'all put them read things. So I see that so let me see Personnel Was ready now y'all got to forgive me I can't hardly breathe a night just eight and the shirt too tight on what happened with this shirt But it I must have put on the wrong shirt and it's sucking me in feel I got a waist train on so y'all got to forgive me That night I might take some deep breath Tony I saw my ex recently. He spoke with me, but was acting very distant Okay, I've been on here two minutes Why is that he also told me he loved me after the breakup, but then took it back why it You know, sometimes y'all ask these questions It's kind of hard to tell you the truth on stuff like this It just really means he chose wrong. He does not feel like you're his wife He does not feel like you're the one and he doesn't want to be with you, but He kind of wants to keep you on the team Keep you there kind of wonder and send mixed signals kind of keep you stuck Just in case what he's trying to get to where he's trying to go doesn't work out. He can come back to you But it just really means you got to cut them off all together and move on with your life That's really what it means The rest of the stuff doesn't mean much now see I Will talk she put the hashtag Q in there. So I've seen that that popped out to them What are what are the best characteristics of a godly man? You got to learn the characteristics of God so when you Study your word and you read your word and you're gonna see the characteristics of God So you're gonna see humility The fact that Jesus came in on a donkey that he came in walking when he could have came in on a cloud You're gonna see sacrifice. So when a man will Does not have much time, but will make time You're gonna see giving the way Christ would take in Taking them loaves of bread and them fish and feed the multitude You're gonna see forgiving the way he would forgive Everyone for their sins. You're gonna see compassion. You're gonna see grace. You're gonna see pure love So understand the characteristics of God So then you will know the characteristics of a godly man. That's the key to it So you could go right to Matthew Martin looking John Read the same story in four different ways from four different vantage points and And you'll see through that and then read Ephesians and read the book of Proverbs and then you'll know the characteristics your man supposed to have Should I automatically turn down a guy who has a soul tie or could there be a chance? Um There are every every man you meet will have a soul tie. So just Understand that so you you if you turn down a guy who has a soul tie You're gonna be turning down every man because every man gonna have a soul tie Unless he's a virgin and he's never been in a real Relationship with a woman because a man can have a soul tie meaning just be emotionally bonded Emotionally tied to a woman even if he never lied down with her So understand that The key is that he's doing the work to Minimize it that he's doing the work to create distance and to heal his heart and to grow. That's the key That's the key La la bless you. Thank you so much for it for your question in the super chat there Tony I left my fiance because he constantly undermined me for his mother Put her wants and desires first Hmm, you did the right thing you did the right thing the good the good book talks about a man Cleveland to his wife for saking his mother and father and Cleveland to his wife So when you meet a man and he doesn't understand that separation He doesn't understand the hierarchy of a relationship and how things go and that he has to have Structure in his relationship and everybody else outside of that has to come second And they have to know their place in regards to his queen his rib his woman then you got to keep it moving because men like that will just kind of have you as like a pawn on their chessboard and Really be playing to their mother's insecurities and her issues and will Use you to get mom in a place to where mom feels like if Mom will actually start to do more for him and give him more and make Concessions and do things that she wouldn't otherwise do because mom doesn't want to be replaced and he knows that So he'll kind of pawn you in order to get more from The woman who can do something for him now at the same time for some men It's legitimate for some men. It's not a game for some men It's just that he cares loves and respects her that much to the point that He's not ready to be married because he's still Smelling like similar, you know, he's still in that space and he's not ready for a relationship So it's something different. So you got to understand that and let's see. I'm looking for A question y'all put that hashtag cue in front of you Question y'all got to forgive him Right, what would be the reason that a guy would date you but not want a relationship with you after Relationship relationship with you and after you stop dealing with each other he gets in a relationship with someone else Am I the reason it's it's You can look at it like you the reason or you could look at it like he's not the one so It will be better to say he's not the one see the thing about it is a man Who's not your husband? You can't make him be your husband. So you got to understand that so it's essentially is a man will light out with any woman but get in a relationship only with a woman that he feels that This might be the one for him or that there's something that he can gain from that situation So just understand that it's not necessarily about you as much as it is y'all just aren't compatible And and you have to understand that and be okay with that How do you feel about divorce according to the word of God to the word of God? God hates the divorce. I feel the same way about it I trust God on it But at the same time you have to know that God is a spirit and you got to know that God knows your heart and God knows your Situation you have to know that it's not God's intention for you to be in a marriage that is completely breaking you down breaking you down and it's Taking you away from God is so you have to use Discernment and don't get so caught up in your interpretation of the written word and Leaning on your education and comprehension. You serve God in spirit and in truth So you have to know what's being said to your spirit about that union because you might have gotten a union That wasn't even authorized by God and what you have to realize is that Everything is forgivable So even if you make a mistake the same way you were asked for forgiveness For this that in the third you were asked for forgiveness for that same situation If your heart says I cannot live like this and you have to part ways You have to understand that God is capable of forgiving And he understands so it's grace Hey, Tony, I've been talking to this guy for four months now. We haven't went on a date Now we haven't went out on a date yet. Does that mean he's not feeling me and then He is 55 years of age. Well, you ain't say how old you are So that kind of Um Leaves a little vital information out y'all been talking for months y'all and went on saying and If y'all in the same city and you've been talking for months and haven't went on the date That's a huge red flag got it going about your business now if y'all Which the fact that you would say we haven't went on the date I would imagine y'all in the same city or y'all close enough to go on the date because you wouldn't expect the date if he was in another State so that's a red flag You got to go on about your business because he's not there for you. He's not there for you married husband married husband Okay, left and now trying to friend request me and now sister-in-law called my phone. How should I handle this? um It's typical it's very typical you got to ask yourself Do you want to go back or do you want to move forward with your life? Is it over or do you want to make it work? Now if you want to make it work that means you need to put in place some stipulations That he has to go through and that he has to You know Come over get done get some things done Like when I got my wife back We had only been married two months and she left for three days Sent me a message and what she was telling me is listen I told you I wouldn't be with a man who was going to be in the streets hustling And I thought that because I married her that I had her and that I could go back To the streets and that she'll be cool And because I'm trying to make money and she was like no, I'm not with it So when she left them three days when I begged and begged and begged her to get her back She gave me some stipulations. This is what you got to do This that in the third and so I was like, okay, let me do that did that got her back So if that's your choice that you want to make it work Then you need to know what it's going to take to make it work If you want to move on then you got to block him Block the sister file your papers gone by your business because you cannot Be one foot in and one foot out don't play with it Why is it so hard for guys to just do right? Oh, well, can it not be that simple? Yeah You don't have you had to ask God about that one you talked to him as what he had in mind What are some what are some advice for a 21 year old dating in college and I work in a law firm But see most of the black guys dating outside their race Should I try to date outside my race? You shouldn't try to date outside your race unless you meet someone outside your race And it happens to be organic and y'all have chemistry But never like what I was trying to say in my other video the other day that I shot is A lot of guys dating outside of their race for the wrong reasons It's not that they bumped into somebody and the love was blind the feelings were mutual And they hit it off with somebody of the opposite race Especially a lot of black men a lot of black men dating out of their race because of What they're dealing with internally and how they view their own and what they think about their own and then Some is it's an experiment and it's stereotypes out there things that have been said about Others that they believe and that may be true and they want to test it out Now when it happens to where it's organic and you meet someone and they're of another race and y'all hit it off Hey, that's cool. That's what they mean when they say love is blind But don't go say i'm going to date this person Because they are of another race or of this race like that because you you're going to set yourself up It needs to be real organic pure from the heart from the right place not out of Frustration not out of desperation into that Carrie god bless you. Thank you for that blessing He left and I still help him and more And I still help him and more You will have to get you some baby powder and slap yourself Everybody can put you a little water in there wet it if you want to But you're going to have to uh smell the Folgers in the morning. Carrie come on out of that If you're posting your question while he's talking, he won't be able to see them wait till He's looking directly at the comment section. Thank you bolec for reminding me Thank you. I appreciate it I divorced my husband We was together 13 years married eight years He's in prison did a lot For work Change in the last two years. We have four together. He wants to come back and do work. Can it work? He's 57. I'm 35 Lord bless you. Lord. Bless him. Bless him. Lord bless him Lord bless him. Okay 35 57 22 year Y'all got four together So that really mean he got five Because you his daughter that what you got to understand now when you dealing with a man that old He with you to re-raise you he trying to raise you Y'all got four. Okay was together 13 married eight Okay, that's what I need you to understand Anytime a man with you longer than three years and don't marry you for him It should have been two years because he old as matthewsla So you have to understand that when he that old he knows better now if he was 25, okay 30, okay 55 That's too old to not know what you want. So he was with you What's that five years before you married you? So that's her red flag Next red flag is you had to leave him The next red flag is he locked down The next red flag is he 22 years old and you you should never be with a man that's more than five Five or seven years old and you really five anything more than that you really taking a huge chance Now it can work out of seeing some work. That's between 10 and 15 now 22 Keep going. You got to keep it going. Now unless he's gonna get out and do the right thing, but That's that's a tough one. Listen to me my ex father of my four I teach them to do the right thing always They see me treat him with respect and sometimes help him, but he doesn't always reciprocate that behavior Should I stop? Yeah, you yeah, you should stop. You don't have to But now Stop helping You should still respect and be cordial and be nice, but stop helping See, you can't help somebody that's not trying to help themselves You can't help somebody that That you know like that and they won't reciprocate because At that point now you just being used and you can't do that So when you are Helping someone and doing for someone what they should be doing for themselves And you're helping them and you're giving to them and your children watching that And they see that he's not doing and giving and reciprocating now You look like boo boo the fool to them. So you're sending them the wrong message Now they see like whoa Mama slap crazy Whoa Mama looking like who shot John and forgot to kill So you got to realize that and stand your ground be firm because it'll be nice be respectful But don't don't go further than that Hey, and thanks for all you do how to co-parent with my ex who is a soul tie And toxic as well. I feel like he uses our daughter to get closer to me. Um You right, I got a whole video on that. I got a whole video on that. I believe Do I y'all let me know? I think I got a video on co-parenting. You might have to watch that because get kind of deep but To sum it up you got to make it a business transaction when it's over it's over So you make a business transaction you set boundaries and this what it'll look like for me Call my phone you call my phone between the hours of 5 p.m. And 7 p.m Because I get off at 5 I don't work nobody's job. But this is just an example You call me between 5 and 7 p.m. Okay when you when it's your pickup We're gonna meet at the park because I might got My new boo at the house. We're gonna meet at the park doing the drop-off there at the park And they already ready bag in the car And when I'm doing the drop-off Here go A letter just a summary of how they doing in school. So we really ain't got to do all the chit chat Here go a letter here go everything you need to know. Boom. There you go So just like that so understand that and set your boundaries so that It separates you see people putting the name of the video in there. So Y'all y'all go and click the videos and look click my video look all the way through and you'll see What's all in there and look on now if y'all go to my main page and you Click on playlist go to my profile you click on playlist All of y'all members Click on Members only you're gonna see a members only playlist. I posted a video for the members of the blessed tribe today answering the question on co-parenting and absentee and so La Carmen You that question will help you with your question So y'all go Look at that and I posted for the blessed tribe look only 19 people to look at it So that's why a lot of time on try to just do videos specifically for the blessed tribe because Don't nobody see it But so that's why I posted to my main page and then all y'all can see it and I just do these q and a's Tony I asked my ex to change his address and all y'all single ain't nobody in no current relationship Y'all notice how when when people in that relationship They man say listen you not finna be on there Listen to that man putting putting all this in here now Everybody single Everybody's thing. I need to do some more stuff for singles then I'm gonna have to do some singles retreats And then as soon as I do some some singles retreat do some stuff for singles then here go all the couples come out of woodwork Can you do for some for people in relationship? Like I ain't been seeing y'all before So, uh cc land god bless you. I really appreciate lord lord bless cc land for that blessing Now I saw somebody question up here early. I was just getting ready to answer event What does it mean in a relationship? When a woman doesn't want to get married we were together seven years Just want to confirm that ending the relationship was the right thing to do you did right? You did right y'all weren't married already So you might well end it Because if you ain't married by three years go on about your business go on about your business Misha met a guy Misha. Thank you Bless you. I see up here with the sticker met a guy a few months ago Spoke for a few days wasn't interested. So blocked him. He called today from a different number. I'm kind of creeped out. Okay Okay, let us say He ain't letting this thing go That guy a few months ago spoke for a few days Wasn't well what you got to do is just tell him hey you know Unfortunately, I'm in I'm in a situation So I'm not going to be able to talk to you and you dating the lord you dating yourself You dating this hip book a woman's influence that y'all need to pre-order So just tell him you in a situation and go on about your business sometime man need to hear that and So he could move on because he could he could be thinking you came into some hardship came to some hard times and he just You know, that's why I happened Okay, risa this that was you. I almost missed your question. I asked my x to change his address. He changed He changed some but I seen his phone bill He added his x on his plan Change his address But I seen his x I seen his phone bill. He added his x on his plan. Why did he change some bills and not the others? And he moved on Reese you probably gonna need a a coaching session The key word right there Reese is that's your x That's your x you can't even worry about what your x doing why he changed He he not changing all his bills and doing all that for you because he don't want to be with you So he trying to give you enough to Make you feel like he's doing something for you But he's just trying to keep you stuck. He don't want to be with you So just go on about your business Stop worrying about him. What are you doing? And move on with your life because he's not trying to be with you What do you think about these books like 48 laws of power? These are the only type men I seem to like in a track Not sure. It's real healthy Now the type of men that are in the 48 laws Um, now the 48 laws it's true You could google 48 laws of power for those y'all who ain't read the book. You could read them a lot of them true And once you read them, you see that that's what people do to you on job interviews In networking and meeting new people in this business world a lot of people play like that I don't like the laws because a lot of them trashy a lot of them Disrespectful sneaky and conniving. So I don't deal like that. I deal genuine You know, I write long responses if I got the time I answer right away I don't take nobody else work and claim it as my own I don't move like that. So understand if you get what a man who he needs laws of power That's no different than these other men who doing these different You know tips and strategies the wool woman you're gonna get What you don't want trust me just get you a honest genuine Secure man who is securing who he is and he can operate from that and he don't need all these Different little laws and strategies to try to look like a man or be more than what he is and the wool people Ex cheated and got a girl Pray I am a virgin and we plan to wait until marriage. I blocked him I still wish he would reach out somehow to apologize, but he hasn't will he ever reach out? Um, don't hold your breath. Do not hold your breath. He may never You got to move on with your life. You got to give yourself closure You got to realize that He don't deserve you and this what y'all have to understand you've you've read this before that rejection is protection And so Oh, okay, Reese. I see what you're talking about the bills In your address you ask him to change Them from your address since y'all broke up you ask him to change from your address to wherever he is But he changed some He probably changed them all but some just still coming to you because they ain't updated in the system Or they had already sent the bill before he updated it or he changed the ones He remembered a new how to change and didn't change the other one So you can't really get too caught up in all the details there And then the mail came and then you opened it and looked at it and saw Her on there that could also be a reason he let that one come to you So you could see what you need to see to know Get that little steam and so sometimes being very petty when you try to Muscle a man you try to up a man you try to do all that. He said, okay. I'm finna get you Take that. I know your nose. I know you finna open this mail. He'll get your eye full of this So that's what that's all that is. Don't don't don't don't look too deep into it Um, you need god bless you for that blessing now listen He may very well reach out what you can't worry about and you can't wait on him So understand that the next thing you got to do is you got to give yourself closure You're gonna have to give yourself closure Because what you have to understand that rejection is your protection So what that means is is that The very thing that he did he cheated and Got another girl pregnant what that shows you Is that he is a slap dog He ain't no good He he Like the linen in your pocket So that's what you have to understand and you saving yourself And you waiting until marriage and he step out and do that and not just do that but go all the way to have To reproduce with the other woman that show you he liked this right here This how big he is and so Two inch tall man, you know Not worth your time not worth a lifelong commitment And the thing about it he might not be sorry about it. So you can't wait on apology. You got to realize Lord, thank you. I dodged the bullet you spared me. I didn't know what was good for myself Didn't know what I deserved who I was and was entertaining Somebody that was a distraction that was gonna derail my life my purpose. Thank you for protecting me. Let me move on He text me. I really miss you My name But I really don't think we'll ever see eye to eye. I told you I feel like I feel that everything to you And that hasn't changed What should I do you leave him right there? Just leave him right there, you know, he That's some reverse psychology. That's some, you know trying to What dr. Gary Chapman calls manipulation by guilt, you know, trying to make you feel sorry for him You know, oh, I feel like I feel it everything. I feel like I ain't gonna never be good enough for you Hey, you just need to self be for who I am and he come with all of that and and you will sit there Just like how you on this here Q&A and you like, what should I do? That's the purpose of that message to stop you on your tracks Send you a mixed signal how you stuck how you wondering and you like, what should I do? Keep it moving. You can go on about your business. Just keep it moving And and go on and he's telling you right there what this message means in manglish. It means It means listen don't want to be with you We're not compatible So I can't be exclusive and all in with you But if you'll stay stuck Then like a duck Then we can Be friends with benefits. I'll put you on the roster and you could be My sixth woman coming off the bench That's what that message means So you got to understand that a man need to be all in and all out now see when I finish talking I'm gonna scroll up to the question that's right the last question So because I'm doing all this scroll and I'll be the cut the whole video off on y'all All this is scrolling. I keep about cutting the video off trying to scroll 30 talk daily 37 year old For eight months long distance both divorced with kids last three months only text daily with small talk Last three months only text daily With small talk I asked for more talks and now it Decrease says he's not talking to anyone and wants relationship. Oh lord Sis lord Sis God bless you. God bless you sis Come on now Come on now y'all y'all don't do me like this now y'all ask y'all ask me lord. Come on now I'm trying to do your work lord Sis Y'all long distance. Okay I'll talk to you about these summer videos about the long distance long distance with a man I need everybody to understand this Long distance with a man is never real It is never real and the reason why i'm gonna say never because if I say It's rarely y'all gonna hold out for that iota a percentage what tony said it is It tony said it is 99 point Nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine percent of the time not real But That means that point zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero one It's real and that's the man that I got girl. He is that point zero zero zero zero zero one Listen, it's never real if it's long distance. It is never real And i'm gonna say never just so he got to go to the moon and bite to prove that it's real Listen man Do you wrong in front of you? Living with you You go to the mall With your man and he's looking at booty in front of you If he in a whole another city You don't have a chance Trusting that man Unless listen to me now Unless He smells like jesus. He looked like what you think jesus looked like He sweat olive oil, which is what we use for the anointing oil Okay, he speak in scripture in king jane version. Okay That's his second language king jane version And you when you talk to him When you open your mouth you got to pause and speak in tongues That's how much anointing he got to have on his life You hear me for long distance to be real Now don't y'all ask me about the long distance no more now Listen to me on this And then what you said For the last three months See I need y'all to understand How hard this is for me because this is what i'll be trying to get y'all to understand And y'all don't want to listen listen to me you say for the last three months Y'all been just texting uh Y'all been texting a little bit off and on He don't even call you and then when you said call me It the conversation decreased And and this is thing And he said I want our relationship And you kind of believe on You kind of believe on So if I would have said, oh, yeah, he like he like he's still texting you. Oh, that means he like you. Oh, yeah You'll be like, oh, okay. Okay. I'm gonna I'm gonna stay on in here. Listen Y'all got The cut this out When a man want you Tip let me tell y'all this right when a man want you you don't have to ask nobody Um, she needs things to trying to help de andria out. She's been Trying to get her question. Hey god bless you now count that nine that ten dollars. You just bless me with Count that as ties and offerings because you didn't even ask a question Count that as ties and offerings. Let me help y'all understand what I do with my ties and all so if everything can't be given to the church because If I see the pastor find two minute calls Then I become the ministry and I say, okay lord Where you want this blessing to go because I see pastor Keep trying to buy a new car every time I look up. So lord, where you because this blessing ain't getting where it need to go Lord, you know my 10 percent substantial. So lord, where you want this 10 percent to go? So I am a ministry I become the ministry and I bless and I keep track of my 10 percent And I give 10 percent of my gross earnings not my net my gross So that right there that $10 you just gave trying to help de andria add that to your ties Because that is a hundred dollar tithe that you just gave because that's $10 add that to your tithe because you helping your sister and I Now de andria i'm trying to find your message now, but when people pop up there with a little blessing I got to pay attention to it up there now Thanks for answering the question be blessed. Can you please do a video on tops family members in relationships? It ought to be good, but you know what that word that you just said the t word is actually Not allowed On this here network. So when you say when I say that or if I put that in a title So sometimes when y'all look at my video and you say tonic, um, this title Didn't really fully go with that video. It's because Certain words It'll get the video You hit me. So I have to try to come up with something you know friendly Which really ain't what i'm talking about and then still get the video I said boy Um fitness mom. God bless you. Thank you for popping and nothing. Now de andria I'm gonna find you now de andria just post your message again And when y'all see de andria post y'all don't post nothing so I could see it Oh this right here de andria Maybe this is saying de andria now unless there's somebody else now De andria god bless you now. You showed on up and showed on out Okay, you see what you had to do to get on in here because the comments were flying on me Remember god texts all day every day Wants to spend more time with me, but my schedule is busy. He's consistent Willing to wait said he doesn't plan on going anywhere Your advice since he doesn't really call Okay So you busy, but you don't have a whole lot of time to be texting So this what you need to do you need to look at his schedule and you need to Find his schedule And then you need to look at your schedule and then you need to see where y'all can fit where y'all could talk in that schedule If y'all can't talk if you're scheduling his schedule and y'all can't find no time to talk That means y'all unequally yoke That ain't that ain't the work of the lord the lord ain't author of confusion y'all Not meant to be now. This is the other question what you need to ask some other question that you need to ask is Is he gainfully employed? Okay, if he makes If he has a job How much what kind of job is it and how does that compare to your job? So if you make twice or three times what he makes Now him being willing to wait now, you don't know if this is pure and authentic If that's not the case then it could be pure and authentic The other thing what you've got to realize is You have to understand that A man We want what We don't have We what we want what we don't have So what that means is is you have to be able To understand that when you're not that available that a man going to want you more Because now you become a prize and guess what how somebody mentioned the 48 Laws that's actually one of them like to be it's sort of kind of one of them to kind of be Unreachable to kind of be distant to be short with people like Say less say less than what you're supposed to say So that actually makes you more attractive to him than always being available And he always could you know put his thing on you. He always can have all of your time So that's what you got to understand now is what y'all telling me That fitness mom ain't even the one who had the question So y'all really want that question? Y'all want that question answer, huh? Will in the way said he doesn't plan on going anywhere your advice So, yeah, you need to find somebody Y'all need to find a time that y'all could talk And and then in the time that you could talk you need to make sure he willing to call And if he's not willing to call then move on with your life Because understand this just like I told y'all long distance relationships are not real for a man It might be real for the woman any real for the man 99.9.9 or 99.99% of the time So just like long distance ain't real text is not real Text is not real because when a man texting you he could be texting four other women at the same time and the time that it takes for him to Text you back. You just think It's natural time. You think he he'll type three letters that that little bubble pop up How are you sitting there with that bubble up there? You think he typing and then he's responding to the to the other to the other one So that's why text ain't real. Another thing with text is The answers could be inauthentic because they could be coming from someone somebody else. It's home. Hey, she said this I should have responded this But because I used to do that. I used to be the ghost. I used to be the ghost text her For people. Oh, that's oh, that's what she said. All right. Say this back So you got to understand that Adam from Genesis knew that Eve was his wife when he saw her but did Eve know I would love your tape um Red bone y'all really just you know, that's something to where You know y'all just going too deep in the theology Yes, Eve knew and yes, Adam knew because they was the only two humans There was only two humans So Eve knew she wanted there for the goat and Adam knew she wanted there That he wanted there for the cow. So oh, she looked like me Oh, I've been sitting here talking to this goat for eight hours and now here goes somebody look like me We meant to be so yes, they they both they both knew they both knew and Yeah, you know, we we can't be too too literal with word because You know the word is also It's real, but it's also metaphorical. It's also parables So once you start doing that with one you'll be doing that with everything and You've got to realize this comes from a whole another language. Some words didn't even translate over So you that's why that's why I say serve God in spirit and in truth Not in not in reading and comprehension It say serve him in spirit and in truth because God is a spirit I am five years older than my boyfriend I am 26. He is 21 Do you think it will work out? We are both christian. We have been together three weeks He is black american and I am persian um if Are y'all in the same city? That's the next question. I'll ask you. Are y'all in the same city? Now and what you got to understand? What you got to understand? To a black man Persian is exotic Okay Whether you look exotic or not Persian is exotic. It's like a persian rub. Okay You know why everybody want them a persian rub or indian rub It's exotic. They don't want a florida rub. They don't want no california rub. They want a Indian rug a persian rug. So that's what you gotta realize. That's the first thing So the next thing is so that's a notch in the belt The next thing is you five years older. That's another notch in the belt A man who that young who 21 He want to be able to touch him something that's five years older So that's another thing. So what this means is it don't mean that it can't work It means you got to take your time It means you got to take your time You got to read the signs And somebody else just gave him another good point 21. He may not be mature enough. That's a third thing A man life don't start till he 25 years old anything he do before 25. It don't even count So at 21 He might not even know what he won't now. I met my wife at 21 but Look at the maturity that I live and operate with so that shows you that I was happened to be cut from a different cloth at that time I was still immature, but I had maturity in me So you got to be able to look at him and see if you sense A level of maturity that sets him apart from his peers Okay, y'all live in the same city. Y'all got a good shot Y'all got a good shot. Hey y'all. Hey y'all hold on Naka the question piling up on hold on because y'all popping in with the blessing. God bless y'all for the blessing. Thank you Tony is it vital to be on social media when I'm in a relationship with a man who has social media? Will he see the opportunity to cheat by DMing or liking other women's picks outside of business Yeah, it'd be good to be on social media now you on social media here You you here on social media. So you might as well you on youtube You might as well have your instagram might as well have your facebook everybody will have social media just to be Connected in the world. You don't have to go on there all the time But you never know Like you wouldn't know me if I wasn't on social media, you know, I transition into what I'm doing from the street life So social media wasn't even really being used by the guys that I was around Anybody use social media because that's how you leave a footprint and get caught up So it was something that I was like like I had a friend from from high school That was like hey man, you need to join this thing called twitter and then after that He's like hey man, you need to um get a facebook page And then after that he was like hey and my wife was like hey you need to get on instagram And so everybody else pushed me on social media So you never know what could for one can happen with social media, but for two You go on and send them that friend request now. He see you on there now. He's gonna move a little different He's gonna move a little different Angela god bless you god bless you. No question. Just want to thank you for being a blessing god bless you Lord poor I didn't answer the light you're a thousand fold Yeah, everybody who doesn't send a blessing lord bless them with a thousand fold return Tony I just had to give because you are giving such great advice and got me Rolling over here keely god bless you Now keely you was on here last time I was live and you were giving So the lord really blessed you with some change on you nine And who lord point out in keely like lord bless her again lord And you reason why you're rolling because you got a good sense of him because I don't be telling y'all any joke You know what I mean? I'm not caring heart So when y'all laugh at me That's because you got a good sense of humor. You just your spirit in the right place because sometimes y'all be laughing I'm like, what's y'all laughing at? So a the glory the god be the glory Um danger god bless you. Thank you bless you Now y'all got some good job now we in We in a A downtime y'all y'all sending even blessing y'all some good jobs and credit cards Y'all still spending the tax refund Hey, whatever it may be. I see the lord got a blessed tribe here for real Every guy I talked to only lasts for two weeks to a month I am starting to think I have a curse over me Everyone thinks I joke when I say I can't seem to find a good man because I'm a good woman Should I give up on dating I'll be honest with you When you give up on dating might be when you meet your husband Because when when you stop looking as a woman, that's typically when you get found Because again when you look and you actively looking A man might look at you and it looked like your tongue hanging out your mouth Even though your tongue and hanging out your mouth a man could see Desperation frustration A man could see all of that. So when you stop looking and you focusing on your purpose You write your book you start your company you start your blog you build your brand you whatever it is you're doing Typically love gonna find you when you too busy to be looking for it That's when because when you get into that space, that's actually when you look more attractive See y'all got to remember one thing about the story from Ruth and Ruth and boas Is Ruth was in the field working. She went she see it was women sitting on a cone With a ledge cross trying to look cute Boas walked right past them when he came out to his field. He asked the man. Hey, who is that out there? Out there working Out here in the hot sun out here sweating The world what the world going on who it is I ain't seen her and he was like, oh, that's rude. She in town with on Naomi and her husband Dead and so she out here working and boas was like, what? Okay, I like that I'm finna sit her down And he went that's when you get too busy. That's when you look more attracted to a man D'andrea brown just like the other person who says she too busy to text with the man and he keep trying to talk talk talk talking She's like her schedule too busy. She ain't even got time to be talking to him like that And he's saying, hey, I wait. I ain't going nowhere. That's a tractor to a man I love the blessed ride perfect name tony for a perfect group of positivity tony, thank you for allowing your calling by god. Hey D'andrea bless you bless you I really appreciate it. Lord gave me that the blessed ride. I don't know how he Lord dropped in my spirit It must was was ordained. That's why I ain't start no second group yet Because a second tier because I don't know what to call it because the blessed tribe just seemed so right On the Memberships they tell you to have four different levels Like one ninety nine four ninety nine nine ninety nine nineteen ninety nine But see I come from the struggle and I know One ninety nine doesn't cost me Thirty five dollar fee So that's why I made the blessed ride one ninety nine And that's why I tell y'all put it on your credit card because if your credit card ain't gonna ain't got it It's gonna reject it your bank might accept that one ninety nine If you ain't got it in there now you paying 25 on top of it Now you got to be calling on youtube line talking about it was an unauthorized charge So you could get that that fee reverse So that's why I I made it like this y'all so that Anybody in a mama can afford it without having to miss a meal And age thanks how to break things off Should I give him all tomato? We need to talk more Or not at all Block him Explain why i'm leaving Ghost him So your question sounded like I answered the question from you earlier um here Now when you breaking things off with a man Oh, you oh you the one said we need to talk more no no no no no no I think you the one in the long distance and y'all been texting for the last three Three months if I ain't mistaken If that's you Okay, that's you and okay Tell him I got to go You just I got to go ain't no we need to talk more Because you shouldn't have to tell a man he need to talk to you more He he he shouldn't have to Tell you I mean you should have to tell him you need to call me He should be calling you already leaving you a voicemail talking to your voicemail if he can't reach you He should be sending you voicemail modes. So with that right there you just send him a text. Hey This isn't I feel like we're both wasting our time and I don't want to hold you up and I don't want to block my blessings So I would rather us let this situation go all together. You go your way. I go mine now when you do that Now not ten times he gonna Put his foot on the gas and he coming hard He gonna come hard But you can't you can't pay that any attention because he already had a chance Now he coming now. It's a game now. It's a challenge now. He's coming for the wrong reason Mary Benford God bless you so in a sea for healthy relationships and for godly discernment for us all Hey, God bless you poor poor in a life Lord should need some pinks to bless you Bless you now. Hold on now. Y'all plenty question too many questions in here. It's going too fast for me Lord Tracy trace. I see it. I think you were caught in the patient had a soul tie No With a married Had a soul tie with a married college friend married College friend he claimed he divorced Strong connection but stopped talking because of feelings and it wasn't right ghosted him still social media friends was our own Um No, you weren't wrong if he if y'all didn't have anything if y'all weren't together If y'all weren't like an item to where you owe him an explanation or that you should give him Some closure or that you moving on didn't know you weren't wrong But if it's bothering you and you feel like it means something to him or he's still trying to reach out Then yes, you could just say listen. It's not right. It's not gonna work. It's not it's not meant to be I don't want to be in the way in this here, you know Triangle situation. I'm just going to remove myself. So so you could flourish and I could do the same Question rephrasing co-parenting with toxic X and dealing with him Manipulating our young son By risking See this all here too many this uh Else the less you need uh, you need coaching all this. There's too many words. There's too many What I I told you about the certain words on here Even even that what you said double ed that word all that'll get my video Taking down that's they they've been on me. They've been on me because it's too much truth out here You feel me? So what you got to realize with what this right here what I'm sharing They have human review On here So the person reviewing it. I'm stepping on his toes He's sitting at Google. He like, you know what? Demonetize you you know what? I'm removing this you mean This what my girlfriend's been watching. You know what? Hey guys listen, okay? Okay, I'm here in Palo Alto. This guy Tony cast I'm reviewing his videos personally And that's what they're doing. I'm telling y'all that's what they're doing to him because it's too real It's too much truth in him man. See this Stepping on his toes. You hear me? So if he's sitting out there in Palo Alto Reviewing the video up. He said a word Got it Taking off youtube up demonetizing and I saw a guy Who he was frustrated with how many of his Videos was taken down he went and found a list and they got 1500 words That if you say One of those 1500 words Scoop Because I've been seeing it. I'm like man. I can't talk about nothing I'm like, I might have well Try to make Tony to but it's gonna cost me a quarter million And I ain't got it right now When it comes to co-parent, how do you get a man that feels he knows everything to hear you out And listen to some of your suggestions Um, you got to stop suggesting Suggesting some things you can't suggest some things you just got to show You know how they used to say I could show you better than I tell you So some things you just got to stand your ground. You've got to hold your ground and you just got to show it So don't don't suggest too much. Sometimes just do what you know is right. Do what you need to do and Go ahead about your business Get that out of phone 11 a I need to get that out from 11 All right, let me show you not this right here. I'll make it look like 11 Ha ha Me get the little oil out my face when I cut the light on Why it bought me this mirror with a light on it? Lady lia business Saturday really blessed me now Now I know what my nonprofit is and the name of my book Will book a session with you soon. Hey, God bless you if you if you was able to come up with your nonprofit And come up with the title of your book off that video Then the video did its job and it did more than I expected to do it And I thank you for sitting down and doing the work because that's a blessing God is breaking the spirit of pride of my future husband explain a man's pride A man's pride that's something you almost can't explain a man's pride is something that's so So deep so real it is one of the most Serious things you ever gonna come in contact with That right there will go to a man's pride to go to the end the world of back and be wrong Be wrong is two left shoes And will not come Down off of that stance That's something right there that You got to pray on and that you can't entertain that you can't play with it You you got if you see a man who he that's where he operates from Get gone you said that a guy shouldn't tell you if he's getting to know other Females, but if he is and ends up also getting to know your buddy Should someone be upset? How is this supposed to work? um well I didn't say that He shouldn't tell you what y'all did say he shouldn't tell you meaning that if he's serious about you He is not going to tell you it's not that he shouldn't tell you But if he's serious about you, he's not going to tell you But this what you can assume that he is But when it is confirmed to you that he is you know how they say what you don't know Won't hurt you when it is confirmed That he is talking to someone else. That's when you could say Okay I'm out of here because I don't compete and I know you talking to such and such. I can't do this I'll see you later and then you can move on with your life when it's confirmed That he's talking to other people Now if you don't know for a fact then all you can do is is assume that that he is Y'all gotta turn the light back off the light Got me sweating friend has been With a known guy. Hey, this is my last question. I got to get going now. Been an hour. I ain't realized I've been on your hour Friend has been with a known guy one month Guy loved bomb me, but hasn't been consistent. He says it's because she does things that make him not trust her She already spread. I told her You would say run Well, that's your friend question Now first you need to make your friend join the bless tribe if she go if she trying to get some questions in Now two you'll have to fast forward to the 63 minute mark on this video So she could see it and And get her answer Now this the thing one month And she already been spread eagle And one month Has been with a known guy one month and one month. He hasn't been consistent Listen to this a relationship that turns into marriage is a lifelong commitment So if a man can't be consistent for one month If he can't be consistent for one month You don't have a chance of him being consistent for a lifetime The other thing is is that men when you I told y'all about this stay off your bike now When you are here like this He is judging you whether you think is right or wrong whether you think it's fair or not You're getting judged. So what you got to realize is that when you on your bike Especially inside a one month what that means. This is what you have to understand. You got to understand Averages the laws are averages when you on your bike inside a one month Now he pulls back. He's not being consistent because He already got the prize and he was just getting down in the blocks You know, it's and I I wrote this. I think I put this in hill In uh one is influence make sure y'all um Pre-order that there now It's it's like this when when you get on your bike real fast what that's like for a man It's like He getting ready to run a race He's stretching. He's doing a little leg shake. He doing the leg shake. He doing an arm shake He he up right right here right before the before the hundred meters And then the ref Hop off the thing walk up to him and say here sir. Here's your gold medal Put it on his neck and he like Huh, what what you mean? We ain't even ran the rate What what what you doing? That's what it's like When you get on your bike too soon and you That's what it's like because he had he you give him the prize and he ain't even did nothing So now in his mind, you got to understand averages when you get with him in one month Guess what that means? That means you average 12 men a year Men also on average feel Less than So what that means is he's not giving him Self credit as mac daddy player for the Himalayas. He's saying listen. I'm just another dude You know and and she doing this for me. What about buddy who come up swagger with the raggle You know got all the drip hop if I if I'm there inside of a month then he there on the first night So if she meet that many good men that mean 365 men a year You see I'm saying now it don't sound realistic not to you But a man don't give a woman the benefit of the doubt He gonna take and give you the worst case scenario that he can give you when he just met you So when you slip up When you slip and fall On your back You need to get up and keep moving Get up and go on about your business. Hey keely. God bless you. Bless you God bless Lord poor. I don't keely like he didn't gave me two of these till blessing bless Allah So hey, hey, I got to get going y'all trying to spend a little more time with my wife and I'm with this here Us in still I've been with all day, but It's just you know, it's just a blessing So I'm gonna go ahead and try to catch me another move before she try to fall asleep Hey, God bless y'all. Thank you all so much for the love and support For those of y'all in the bless tribe for the new members who joined tonight For those of you who didn't get to join but you were watching the link in the description If you want to join the bless tribe so you can ask a question And I really appreciate you. You know what? I'm gonna grab Miriam right here because I know how that feel when you're trying to hit your buzzer beater Man, you keep missing it So this did my last question Why would a guy that says he is interested in you Would show you the DM he gets from other women He says is to show me he's an open book Now I learned this right here from my daddy right when I was growing up my daddy was was was talking to me I was talking to him one time because it was a young lady. He said Who she would always tell me When a man would try to talk to her And I went and asked my daddy I say why she always tell me this man try to talk to this man try to talk to her And he say listen here He said I'm gonna tell you like my daddy told me now this three generation He said I'm gonna tell you like my daddy told me He said you tell her stop telling you When the man try to talk to her because when the man that she won't say something to her She ain't gonna say a word to you So that's what that right there is When little ugly in his deal He's gonna show you because what that is is he trying to fake bill trust He trying to fake bill trust because it gets you from this right here To this right here And when you go from this right here to this right here That's what you get So when a man do that he trying to get you to drop them guards because you like oh Wow, he is so transparent. I've never been with a man that transparent Men won't do that and so now you drop your guards So you drop your guards the other thing is he's showing you ugly so But when the woman he think look good in them DMs He ain't gonna hear a word He ain't gonna hear a word about her. So he wants you to drop your guard So that when he get reckless you won't be looking for nothing and searching because he already done showed you some stuff So that's what you got to understand about that. That's why we do that The other reason why people do that is because of insecurity Women do what men do it and what that insecurity is doing I always say never let your insecurity speak for you But what that Insecurity is doing is saying hey Other people want me other people want me other people want me. So you need to want me Other people want me. So you need to want me more You need to work for me. You need to chase me You need to you know bow down to me You need to want to be with me because other people want me And that's why they'll show you somebody that's in the DM And i'ma tell you this one thing about women That I don't learn as a man the woman that Shoot her shot in the DM I've never seen her be worth anything It is not it ain't worth a conversation And I always realize this because of the woman that I married And I always check and I always could say okay. Well, my wife ever do this The answer no and I remember asking my wife, you know I asked her questions and and I could tell when she lying because when she lying her chest Her chest beat fast I could tell when she lying but I asked I said, hey, would you ever do that? What's she doing? And she went what no absolutely not And I know she went because I know she didn't do that when I met her I know she wasn't that type of person The shoot no shot to take the initiative trying to chase me trying to court me trying to all this and that She let me do for her and then she reciprocate equally Not greater equally And so the the women that I see in the DM Ain't worth the time of day. So a man telling you about a woman in his DM You really ain't got to worry about her unless he a no good man And it's because a lot of time the thing about it is men don't like women who chase them The man want to do the chasing Because that's in his nature. So when the woman chasing him, he like, uh That's not even attracted to a man A man want to be able to chase that woman like the man chasing the sister who ain't got the time that we saw earlier Hey, God bless y'all. I went over 12 minutes tonight We'll talk soon being that we on this here situation I'll probably be find some time to be on here tomorrow And and while we in this situation praying for all y'all be safe be healthy be smart Somebody even calls around me. I'm Running, you know, man had to come by my house today. I almost had him a mask and some gloves So y'all be saving careful what I'm what I plan to do is post a video Each day around noon and then try to do it live at night if I can Lord willing since since y'all sitting still and might not have to get up and go to work Hey, God bless you. We'll talk soon