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God bless you Bless you and pop in pop in early with with the also Becky now wherever you are that $2 That's $2.40 over here. So that is something that is something. Okay So y'all your whole money stronger than the US money God bless you Shakita. God bless you God bless you. So put the Hashtag Q in front of your question. I see Ashley Beverly. Okay. I got you Hey, just want to say I am in love with a woman's influence It is changing my world and I want to thank you. Hey God bless you that that really blesses me because I was very nervous about the book I was really nervous about the book because I wrote it and when I finished writing I didn't remember what I wrote and I'm like this just didn't feel the same Right in this book. I probably wrote it in five or six days Maybe three days. And so that's how I write is just a flow You know, I'm letting the spirit speak through me and I just was like I felt like I was too real in this book And so I really appreciate you saying that and make sure y'all leave a five star review Wherever you listen or read it or wherever you got it from I Forgot what I wrote in the book. I couldn't tell you anything in the book But that's how I write. I write. I don't write from my mind. I write from my heart and it's just a flow and I can't tell you anything in the book unless I look at the table of contents And I know some people they know what page it was on well on page 72. I said not me What is a grown boy a grown boy is A man 18 or older who still acts like a child or a teenager in a lot of ways Hello all subject with relationships you feel like the world want to go back to what it was Not sure what you mean by that but I'm I'm good in this space right here now Just finding the peace and the blessing and everything but I know the money people they ready to get back They ready to get back. Please have sherry on more. I really enjoyed her being on the live with you. Hey, thank you I told her we probably gonna do it once a month She said she could probably do once a month She she really you know Some for her to step out of her comfort zone And and it's different when you get out here You're gonna have a lot of people that appreciate it then you have people that got a little stuff to say I had a block of couple Latest, you know who mentioned her name in a light that I really I really didn't appreciate and I tell people all the time If you mention my wife don't even have a typo You don't even have a typo in the queen comment if you comment on a queen. Don't even have a typo. I might block it If just one word off and it hit me the wrong way Because I can't do nothing in real life. So at least all I could do is hit that block button But that one thing I don't play by I Don't play by my and so I had a block three or four women you know who just Energy came off the wrong way. I don't play by it And so I protect her from that cuz it's cuz it's whirling being out here being a public figure It's nasty people people want to say stuff and take shots at you and call you out your name and criticizing critique you like I did a hour-long video yesterday and I got some YouTube send the comments to my email now for some reason and People are listening to an hour-long video and Don't say anything that they got from the video, but one one or critique one sentence And I say boy, that's the nature of people So I you know, I shield my wife from that until she said hey, I'm I'm ready to go all the way out there Coach rock God bless you. Hey brother Tony. I purchased a life coach certification yesterday I will be joining my mentor when I complete the program stay blessed. Hey God bless you brother. My mentor gonna bless you I Knocker God bless you a woman's influence. Thank you for that blessing. You got the book and you sent my blessing A woman's influence has blessed me. I have the audio on repeat and the hard copy of the book is on its way You and Queen cheree have blessed me and this money is for her by the way. Hey, thank you I'm thank you send me a blessing. I'm gonna send it to her I Said I sent her y'all blessings because some of y'all sent her a blessing to my cash out And I and you can ask her next time she get on here. I literally cashed out the tour Nikki God bless. I have a question about defining my niche as a coach But it's an elaborate question is there an email I can send this question to Just want to clarify something wait. Well, Nikki, you just mentioned the coach Q&A So pay attention to your email. We just did a Q&A So for the elaborate questions, I do a Q&A for the coaches every every month so if you took the coaching certification on Tony gaskins academy.com then you'll get an email so log into the academy make sure your email is right and Because I'm unable to answer me email because I'm long-winded and I just don't have the time to type my answers So that's why I do see what I'm doing right now How long this answer is if I was typing this it'll just take me way too much time And so you got to catch a Q&A um But in the course the Q&A that we did today. I Will be uploading that audio into the course. So make sure you check there and I Can also answer it in a video That so you can send your question in and I could shoot a video and possibly add it to the bonus section of the course on Tony gaskins academy and if you took the course live then in Person then just send an email in and asked to be added to the online one Emanuel six. God bless you. God bless you. Now. Let me grab some of these questions. I saw skate by me Alexis, thank you so much for that Aspire, what does it mean when a guy you are talking to ten months refer to you as his lady friend when introducing you to other women? He is mentor Mentoring in business It means that you kind of almost a girlfriend it really mean that This one hanging out with talking to right now, but it's not that serious You know, it's not that serious. And so if you want to shoot your shot Sister You can shoot your shot because it's just a lady friend That's what it means when a man is really serious about you and he all the way in he gonna start to introduce you as his queen His woman like this is my my girlfriend You know, this is my woman my man He gonna come up with a little name my ace boom cool He gonna come up with something like that when the God bless you I have so much experience knowledge and passion on my purpose as a personal trainer and coach But content for social media doesn't flow to me. My income has been stagnant for six years advice When the content doesn't flow you may need a business consultant Like myself and you may need to get some ideas once you can use fiber I tell people all the time, you know fiber is really putting a lot of people out of business because you go on there and get 50 quotes drawn up for For $60 and you just posting one a day. So, you know you got a Think outside the box Insta rested in someone at church. Should I let him approach me or should I start? So or should I just start talking to him let him approach you You might be new you must be you might be new to me. Okay. I thought I got a video on that But a woman should never approach a man because the man is the one who got to get on one knee To say will you marry me? So if he's the one that got to get on one knee to say will you marry me? He needs to be the one that approaches you to say you look like my wife If he don't approach you he is taken or he doesn't want you But a man sees he sees you if you see him he sees you Man, we we see everyone we see everyone What does it mean when a guy contacts you via messenger that you knew in childhood telling you you were his childhood crush being slightly flirtatious It means that he want to make up for lost time. He want to touch what he what he let get away When y'all would love But that don't mean anything. You need to leave them right there. Okay. Well, nice to know We'll keep it right in childhood but Don't even entertain it because a lot of times y'all women y'all fall for that He touch you and he's gone by this business Wonder manual six. God bless you. I see you post Now put that hashtag cue in front of you Uh, Robin. That's funny Hi, mr. Gaskins. I'm wondering why guys approach and then say they want to take me out But then they want me to plan the date. I don't feel I should have to do that Uh, well Lorenza, you know You could do a little something. Okay And that's actually a good thing for you Because when you plan the date now, you know what it's gonna cost And you planning something that you Are comfortable doing so it's a way you have to look at it. That's why I gotta that's why I try to tell y'all ladies You know, don't get so caught up trying to be catered to in this day and age like Start looking to bring something to the table. So he approached you and say I want to take you out If he say You know, what do you want to do? Can you plan the date? Don't take offense to that? You know and just and look at it like oh, you want me to do everything Now if it's different if he says hey, I want to take you out and then he say hey Um, this first one on you you paying for it. I mean he came now. That's totally different But the thing about it is because listen Ted Bundy nephew could come up and talk to you And he on the same thing his uncle was on and so You let him plan the date. He may say he want to go through a walk on the woods He want to go on a walk on the woods now you out there in the woods with these boots on And next thing, you know, you start hearing the music from the from the crazy movie That thing, you know, he's chasing you and you want in the woods And why because he's playing the date. So when a man say playing the date, okay We finna go get this for let me know Okay, we finna go to talk golf. Then we finna go to our fly Then we're going to Dave and bust us. You see what I'm saying? Now you do what you want to do because you know, there's a well lit area This where you want to be at this the food you like to eat So that's a man actually giving you some agency. That's him letting you play to your strengths because men are not event planners Women are the event planners. The most successful event planners in the world is going to be women and so A man knows that so he essentially just letting you play to your strength And but I want you all to understand that across the board Like don't get offended when a man wants you to do something You know that there'd be a team Rhonda God bless you Rhonda And join the woman's influence your wisdom and insight is so valuable. Thank you. Thank you so much Now y'all, please remember to leave five star review now Because because my haters gonna be on there trying to leave a line one stars So y'all, please remember to be a five star review Joanna God bless your blessings Tony. One guy recently dated said there are no rules about who calls who in dating What's your opinion? Was he lazy? Thank you um, there are technically no rules But when you know a relationship coach like myself, then you know Of that the man should be initiating contact He don't want you to know that But he knows that innately he has the man is supposed to pursue you Now as a woman, you're not supposed to be telling a man what you know So do you know a man is supposed to pursue a woman? Uh, or do you know that the man is supposed to the ratio is three to one You're not supposed to be telling what you know. You're supposed to watch what he do So if he says there's no rule on who could call who and he's not calling you Then take it for what it is. Yes, he is lazy Yes, he is lazy Lorenzo, I see what you're saying. It feels just like a lack of effort That's all um You just miss reading it. I mean because it's not really effort The plan of date is just that it's not as gifting. It's not what he does And what you also have to realize is a man just like how you criticizing him for this What if he plans the date and you absolutely hate it? Now he never gets a second date because he did something that he wanted to do instead of something that you wanted to do And now you criticizing him for saying Can you plan the date then if he planned the date You'll be criticizing him for where he took you and what he ordered to eat And what the waiter had on you see what I mean? So It's like he just came in if you sitting back to just critique everything he's doing So look at it and understand What is he asking you to bring to the table? All that is just a little brainpower if he's saying paid for it. That's something totally different soul mom Oh three god bless you you've mentioned You've mentioned boyfriend About not dating You mentioned before okay now y'all need to spell some of these words now because I thought that bf Was boyfriend. That's the bf stand for boyfriend. Okay. Let's get that across the board. You mentioned before About not dating younger men But i'm only approached by younger men. So With who is approaching me. How do I navigate dating? For one, that's a compliment. Let them keep approaching you But understand that's also the numbers right now. It's the numbers. So that means you got to go more places Do more get out more be around more Also, it's not against dating It's not about dating younger men. It's just that you don't want to go past five years But listen, that's a rule of thumb If he come up And he's very polite in his approach. He feels very mature He may be 10 years younger than you But he could be five heads ahead five years ahead of you mentally. So there are exceptions to the rule So understand that it's exceptions to the rule. So if that's all that's approaching you Then that could be because lord won't Judah have somebody in your life that's going to keep you young Because of your energy and and how you vibrate in the world, you know, how you show up in the world They they took somebody blessing down Roxy weather spoon. God bless you. God bless you. Let me see if I could find that person because Regina God bless you question I have been talking to a man six months and he says that he is not ready for a relationship And he needs to get himself together financially and spiritually Let him go let him go. You ain't got time to be wasting You ain't got time to be wasting a man got three months to get ready for a relationship If he still ain't ready for no relationship go on about your business And and because you're not meant to be his wife. They mean when he get ready That's when he gonna meet his wife. He met you Prematurely and you gotta keep on going Misty in pharmacy tech school writing a book and several of your classes just became a notary recently lost 40 pounds I'm on a roll, but I want to do more any other ideas possibly streams of income God bless you. You're doing real good. Your book will be a stream of income You also can coach and mentor, you know, you could be a career consultant You could be just a confidence coach. You lost 40 pounds. You could be a health and wellness coach That's another whenever you got it's hard for a person to lose 40 pounds So that's that's a health and wellness coach right there just helping somebody Holding them accountable on their weight loss journey. So Remember the life coach certification use the coupon code my mentor My mentor that's the coupon code And then after you finish you join my mentor dot life like this morning We just had our life coaching Q&A where I'm answering their questions and really helping them get going and um So I put it in there Recently broke up with a boyfriend of one year He wants us To go back together no change in him saying i'm overreacting for wanting more. He's happy and doesn't require much I'm the one that's unhappy He required much you just getting cheated on and that's probably what led to the breakup So his attention is not in the relationship because he's spreading himself then so Keep going. You know keep going. Don't don't settle for somebody that's not going to bring the same level of energy that you're bringing So, you know, keep it moving keep it moving Cho'anna God bless you Tony I met a man who had issues with his manhood It was soft not working. Why does he chase women? I can't hold hands for the next 30 years You know, I don't understand why men do that But it just goes to show you that it's more than Even in that man's mind that life is more than that so Because when you're making love to the mind It really does something Now there's probably something out there for them. I see the commercials and hear the commercials about that So it probably something out there for them But if you don't like them as a person either Then even the medicine ain't gonna help them But if you like them as a person they got they got medicine out their form Share God bless you Tony gasses academy.com coupon code is my mentor for the life coach certification God bless you. Share glad you was able to make it Help me out in there Tony my co-worker is 40 years old and Christian and there is attraction However, we seem to keep missing each other and I'm older than him I am unsure if we will ever connect That's good That's good, you know, just stay unsure Don't try to force it If it's meant to be it'll be How do you feel about facebook dating? Would you consider it a dating site like the others? I have not seen facebook dating. I've heard about it I think facebook crazy for that, but it just showed they need some money They trying to build some extra streams of income and I'm sure they got the the the legal jargon in there to protect them But it sounds like a lot of lie unnecessary liability they taking on But I don't I wouldn't consider it Just like the other Dating apps just yet because it's still kind of new But trust and believe this the scammers about to get on there If not already the scammers on there now And let me tell you about these scammers now these online scammers and it's men and women now it's men and women And what these scammers do is they'll see it And How you go to work for eight hours? They'll they'll sit and talk to people for eight hours If you get in 30 minutes or if you get in the hour They'll talk to you for eight hours They'll talk to this person an hour a day this person an hour a day this person an hour a day or 30 30 30 Or 2020 2020 And get all of you to fall in love And probably about a month in They're gonna need a business investment. They're gonna need Some money for emergency surgery for their mama They stuck in another country and need something to get out that country because they want to come see you and They ain't gonna get everybody they ain't gonna get you because you on here with me, but they're gonna get somebody and so They're getting $8,000 right there. And so that that's why I don't recommend online dating because it's bad enough The people you meet out in the street let alone Sitting behind a computer screen or a phone screen talking about they want to get to know you Lakisha lately. How did y'all put y'all pick and change your name on here? um YouTube it You know how to how to it's probably when you log into your youtube is a settings button You know your profile click on your little blue picture and it'll be a drop down and say settings And it'll let you change your name and stuff AJ I consider myself to be a friendly person, but I don't get approached much when I go places. Why is that? to be honest with you it could be a million things and With a question like that you you really need one-on-one coaching because What I do with my clients who in that place I look at three different pictures of them And like a head shot a full body shot Where they dressed like they going to work or going out somewhere And then I help them understand what they're sending off perception So it could be your area where you live. It could be the way you dress It could be the way you carry yourself. It could be your energy It could be something mindset just what you're telling yourself when you walking around Me and read all of that After a few days, how can you get a man to take we are not a match? seriously What follows is borderline harassment text and date requests end up having to ignore and block seems a bit much Hey, that's a good problem to have, you know But again, it could be a bad problem to have but you got to just Get to there immediately. So as soon as you realize we are not a match Let them know that and then understand from there. It's just his ego It's just his ego because a man really doesn't want a woman who doesn't want him Like for real, that's his ego that want to get that woman that don't want him so that when he get you And he nail you how you on your bike Now he finna laugh in your face Got you told you so take that So don't ever play with it when a man says When you tell a man, he's not a man. Don't play with it and let them keep chasing you block them If you got to block them or just ignore them and use every text as like a vitamin like wow I'm really popular. I really got this thing going on like look at it like a vitamin And just let it amuse you let it entertain you and let it teach you about the nature of a man's ego And but keep it moving Gerald I've expressed to someone a few times back in january that I don't want to date Until july august recently. He's been trying to get me to change my mind. I blocked him. Was that harsh? Nope was not harsh was not harsh You got to protect your peace. You got to protect your space and when somebody cannot protect and respect Your peace in your space, then you got to do what you got to do You got to do what you got to do And i'm gonna tell y'all what what get folks blocked on my page If you always bring in a spirit of bad to differ If if you talk about you on here and you watch the videos, but I ain't never seen you in the comments Congratulating commenting supporting and all I see you doing is Disagreeing finding one sentence out of an hour to disagree with You got you got a negative energy and i'm finna block because I ain't got the time to be entertaining Negative energy now you could disagree But if you're going to disagree you need to agree with the same energy when you agree with some Don't be quiet and then open your mouth when you disagree and just want to sow discord and confusion You got the you're going to get blocked and so understand that you ain't never going to tell you That you're being too harsh to block somebody absolutely not Harry would you ever consider a platform where all the women showcase their brand for those who are just starting out? That's what my mentor is You know, it's a platform of you, you know showcasing your brand You know, that's that's what my mentor is But other than that, you know Anything you see that's a platform That's built it costs hundreds of thousands if not millions of dollars to build So when you look at my mentor dot life You're looking at a whole whole lot of money that it costs, you know So any type of platform And that's why these these guys out here in Palo Alto. They raise millions of dollars to create whatever they create But in a blessed trial you could showcase your your brand too Jasmine god bless you I broke up and blocked my boyfriend because he mentioned that the only woman he cared about was his ex during the argument I felt it was a red flag and left. Did I do the right thing? He also has a temper. Absolutely. You did the right thing. You absolutely did the right thing Busy bree. God bless you. Thank you for that blessing. I don't know if you meant to put a question with it Can you be friends with your ex With your ex have kids if y'all are both married and all four are friends Yeah, I mean if that's what y'all choose to do You know, it's it's it's a risk Because soul ties are real So if you you know, you may not feel anything for your ex But if you really really really really real with yourself when you see your ex and you talk to your ex You might be a little you might feel a little tingle You might get a little tingle in now now So you got to be honest with yourself And if you ain't getting that little tingle your ex might get that little tingle And then y'all partners that y'all with gonna feel a little iffy gonna feel a little I don't know so I wouldn't force it. I wouldn't force it Ty god bless you. How does a woman stand up for herself? Verse being a narcissist for instance, how can a woman evaluate whether her traits are Narcissistic or showing her worth. What is your advice? For that for one everybody definition or that n word Is totally different and To be honest with you as I've told y'all before it's a buzzword right now Is is buzzing so everybody getting in their head And you could calling yourself that you calling everybody you meet that When you think about that word The only person that's really that Is your is the president Like that that's gonna be the the biggest form of that that you're gonna see but in real life every day life What a lot of people is calling a narcissist is Every single man that I meet every man in a relationship And that's what a lot of people don't understand. It's like Words are subject to interpretation And it's based on your ability your education level to read and comprehend And what you think it is and so some people think that They're dealing with this type of person But that person has it would not be clinically diagnosed if you take them to a doctor the doctor be like No, that's not a narcissist. And so you got to be careful with labels and never Knowing your Knowing your Traits and your standards and your worth Can never be equated to being a narcissist Loving yourself can never be equated to that. So don't don't ever feel like that. Don't let nobody put no label on you K vickers. God bless you because you come disrupting my energy. I'm gonna block you You call me what you want to call me and when you call me at your block Okay, I'm gonna have my standards. You call me what you want to call them. I'm gonna have my standards So you can't live under labels and get caught up in that Rachel, God bless you. Why didn't they like Lord and my foolish for not accepting a proposal from my boyfriend? until He conquers his ego It shows up in times that I have to lead him or he gets something wrong within the relationship. No cheating issues Um Yeah, you tripping, you know, if he's not cheating on you if he's not, you know Abusing you or anything like that. Then yeah, you tripping because a man always gonna have ego Ego ain't going no, well, you know, it's just what is the result of that ego if he just get a little salty If he get a little mad he get a little upset then that's different. But now if he take uh If he takes and he curse you out Or he putting hands on you That's totally now. Yes, you shouldn't even be in that relationship But if he just get a little salty you have a little silent treatment for a second, you know, he upset then yeah, that's totally different um Y'all having a whole another conversation in here about the tarot cards and let me tell y'all not listen to Anything that other than the spirit of God, I don't deal with it. Okay So psychic tarot all of that Evine with the spirit of God and in the bible in the old testament tell you stay away from astrologers You know them tarot people them psychic people because Yes, they can be accurate, but they're not channeling the spirit of God They channeling evil spirits because only evil spirits want to tell you Want to read you about your future and All of this and what's gonna happen and All of that like I don't need to go to nobody for them to tell me what I'm feeling and what I'm going through and then And to shock me and I don't need to go to nobody to tell me what's gonna happen in my future because God hold my future So if you go to something, that's what you got to realize when y'all going and reading this stuff and y'all talking to these people This is a human This is a human It's all these people on here on youtube That that got these little pages and they got the little stuff the look and they light it on fire and they on there And they read in somebody and they doing all this that is satan You hear me because what this person finna tell you You got to understand the mind Your mind does not know the difference between fact or fiction So when you hear this It could be a complete lie Just like miss cleo. Y'all remember miss cleo. Oh carla miss cleo. I'm a miss cleo. Give me a call I think miss cleo in prison Unless unless in the pathway because this that's about money You hear me and and People know that people live in worry and live in fear So then people they plan on that fear That you want to know the unknown you you want to know because you're uncertain So if somebody know they can have them a little ball or had them some crystals or had them some on fire and tell you You're going through a lot I see a man in your life um And something bad is gonna happen I could have told you that anybody can tell you that anybody can tell you that But they know that you want to have certainty because life is uncertain And that's and there ain't nobody double um kakura kakura Hey god bless you forgive me if i'm saying your name wrong but bless your part in the life broke up with a guy I was dating eight months Initially didn't want a relationship changed his mind three to four months in But I got fearful and asked to take it slow now i'm ready and he's not so I let him go you did the right thing You did the right thing And the fact that he didn't want a relationship In there you did the right thing. I feel like I missed somebody question That was at the top now see the way they do the question when you send a donation if it's like Over 20 they'll leave it up there for a while if it's under there It got a time limit on it, but y'all know sometimes I answer my question. I could be long-winded. So I try to see Ready to okay heaven sent. That's who I miss High toning should new coaches only market under their own name Or can they market under both the business name and their own name while referring All leads to their my mentor page It's a personal choice And it just depends on how you want to be remembered I'm i'm tonic askings Because I want to leave a legacy I want my name to be able to open doors for my sons And I want God to know that I did the work that he called me to do just like we know apostle paul See apostle paul company probably was The masochist role llc, but we don't know the name of his company. We know apostle paul We know jesus christ jesus company probably was cloud nine llc So We know oprah as oprah a company harpro productions But harpro productions is up under oprah So When you're building a personal brand you should do it with your name not a company name because People don't know, you know the company but with a name they're gonna associate a face and a person Uh, the toy of god bless you. I'm I'm a spiritual life coach and author. I took your certification online How do I deal with people who criticize me for charging to do god's work? um, you may need to change it from spiritual life coach, you know, because That is what if you just saying spiritual you can be a christian life coach and that's the difference because What it means is that your teaching your coaching is bible based And so what that means is people who want to Hear scripture in their coaching or may want to cope um pray on the call They can hire you but when you say spiritual life coach Then it's just too it's too mystical and it sounds too scammy So, you know, like the bible say when you trying to reach souls, you got to be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove So sometimes that's just Shifting your packaging, you know in the way you present yourself. I'm a spiritual life coach, too But I don't label myself that because people will look at it. They People in this world they they want christians to be broke. That's why they get mad when pastors take a salary And from running the church and running the church is no easy work. That's extremely hard work It's like running a fortune 500 business and people will get mad. Like I people tell me you'd be a pastor And I can't do that. No, I'm not going to be in the same place every sunday every Wednesday every Tuesday I'm not going to be doing all of that all the logistics dealing with all them spirits All them satans sneaking in there and you got to be dealing with that Like you deserve to get paid for all that all that headache you dealing with but people won't People love the church to be broke So you just got to Switch it you got to switch it and you got to move differently And so you a christian life coach But the thing about it is you limit yourself because a person may not consider themselves spiritual And now you'd have missed out on a client that you could impact their life because of because of the wording in your title So just put professional life coach, you know certified life coach, you know, and then you can Put a sentence that describes what you do. I help people set goals Write a plan and then hold them accountable. You see what I mean? And then it come out Rhonda for wavy blacks question Uh, well you ain't post the question Rhonda So when you do that you post a post a question because I I still can't see the question. Okay. She posted right there right on time that worked out. Thank you Rhonda for looking out Question, why do men who have baby mommas bother dating other people? Bother dating other people my ex and I were together for almost three years And he left me For her why? um Just because humans are selfish So he got a baby mama Who he has a soul tie with but it's a whole lot that goes into that because When you take and You got this baby mama He's trying to train her so by leaving It taking scares her. She's like, whoa, am I gonna be right a single mom? Push her more to a place or where she needs to be And and he's trying to train her and then he'll use another woman as a pawn And he'll be with you The really really drive at home the really really send a message to really really make her to make The baby mama upset scared and start to play into his hand And then after he feel like she finally got it and that she tired of being a single mama and him being a weekend daddy And her just getting child support checks instead of his whole check When he finally feel like she finna be submissive and finna be quiet Then he'll leave you and go back to that soul tie So that's what you got to look at, you know when you're dealing with a man And then the other thing that you did wrong is you allowed him to be with you for three years A man who then already been down the road meaning He didn't been in a committed relationship. He didn't had chair He didn't been in long term relationships at the 12 month mark. He needed to be on one knee Asking you to marry him Then at the 24 month mark y'all need to be married And so that's the thing you let him drag you out Um, kai god bless you my ex and I have been talking I watch your video and know we Either need to try it again or move on he hasn't said why he's back and only calls and texts like every other day How should I address this? He's back to Tickle his soul tie. So see you know how like on the movie When somebody who's on drugs and they go in they go to prison And then somebody else come up and say hey take this right here get the monk off your back That's where he's back for Because the monk on his back because he he's missing you because of the soul tie He he missed your voice. He missed your your energy your nature, but he don't want you He don't want you But it's just he wants your energy And so What you have to do with this is you got to let him know Like listen, this this not gonna work Like I don't want to because I don't want to block my blessings and you know It's in mixed messages when we talking every other day and I'm trying to move on with my life and this not You know this isn't working And so that's what you have to realize that's what you got to realize is that uh wavy black I'm crying my eyes out truth hurts. Hey god bless you. God bless you keep going So that's what you got to realize because if an ex come back and he wants you he's not going to be no every other day And it's not going to be no Texting he's gonna be trying to be on the phone and how you on that phone for an hour Trying to make sweet love on that phone And so you got the he's showing you he just come to keep you stuck While he's still doing what he's doing Miss till god bless you should someone date a person They are not attracted to what the relationship work I don't recommend it I don't recommend it because when you're not attracted to somebody now the person don't need to be your dream your fantasy attraction But you you need to be able to stomach the person and be like it's a good-looking person You need to be able to say it's a good-looking person, you know Not the most may not be the most handsome or the most beautiful in the world But it's a good-looking person. You can stomach that person Now if you're looking at somebody and you get a look In your stomach and you start to feel When you're looking at them You don't force it. You can't do that because You get a little throw up in your mouth. You can't do that. That that means that's not your spouse That's somebody else spouse that like that look because he's beauty in the eye of a holder And if that look turn you off turn you a little a different way Then that's not the beauty You're supposed to be beholden somebody else going to behold that beauty and and think that that person look good So you got to understand that a part a part of a relationship is attraction And they ain't got to be the most overwhelming attraction, but it need to be something Devil skin god bless you god bless you Mon trees see She said I want to bless one person who is out of work due to this here situation With you and or your wife's book. This book is really blessing me and I want to bless someone else Hey, god bless you. Mon trees. Um email support at Tony gas and calm and And if somebody email in and came forward the book And needed the first person that's sending that email in and say they can't afford it now Don't block your blessings by you know, you can afford any you email in because you got a spirit to give me And and you taking somebody else blessing Don't don't do that because then you're gonna block your blessing the lord watching I know you discuss soul ties, but is there any love with soul ties? Or is it just not wanting to see the other party happy? Yeah, it could yeah, it's love with some soul ties Because when you in love you have a soul tie when you love somebody you have a soul tie But see the thing is it's different between love and in love So that's the thing so the the young lady who asked about her ex who came back and he called her every other day He may have some love for her But see You got love. I got love for this pen You see I'm saying I got love for this game of control. I'm gonna be mad. You throw this controller down and break it You know because I paid for it. I got love for this remote. You break this remote. I'm gonna be fire hot. You see what I mean Love can be very shallow Because it's defined by the individual It's subjective. It's not just one size fits all description So understand that while it's on to speak more on soul ties. I know you have A video You might need to watch that video three full times until you really really get it all the way in your spirit Keeley god bless you god bless you Keeley, that's a stimulus blessing that now you can gave me a stimulus check God bless you Hey bless tribe. Hey tony blessings on this Saturday. Pray all is Well for all just wanting to pop on real quick and send a blessing and say how much I'm enjoying your book Y'all have a great Saturday. Stay home and be safe. Hey, thank you so much Please leave a five star review now If y'all read the first chapter and like leave five star review And like I said, if you don't like it, you got a disagreement take it to the lord and prayer Don't leave it in my review. Take it to the lord and prayer He'll settle your spirit on it and and let you know what I meant right there TJ broke up with my ex months ago Now he's asking why we didn't talk to kids about it first Told him it's already over. Why bother now? Am I being petty? No, you ain't being petty You don't make no decisions based off no chair Because your chair you wrong your chair can't tell you don't chair. No, no, no, nothing about no relationship He want he want to ask the kids because he know he got they mind and he know they're going no I want daddy. Do I want daddy to be up? And so he knows that that's why he want to bring them in it to make it messy They kind of keep you stuck. But now you do what you got to do you make the move how you got to make the move And and that's right there And the kids they'll adjust Hello, Tony. I'm truly a single woman no ring no man, but I'm always told I look married or taken What does marriage look like? Is that negative feedback Now Men can lie, okay, but let's assume it's the truth Look married it just means That you either Walk into you walk too fast You walking like you don't want to be bothered looking like you don't want to be bothered Or it means that you look so classy and put together That he can't believe that a man has not taken you off the market yet That's that that's what it means. So it's one of the two things you you look like you don't want to be bothered Or it looked like you are a wife and he don't understand why a man hasn't seen that yet Uh The other thing the third thing is it could just be a conversation piece because men like the lie Men like the lie men like the flatterer or a woman Lady Kay. God bless you been talking to a guy for a year. No title And he said he doesn't do relationships when I ask him what we are Later on after I became attached found out his son's mom and him live together But he says only for the child. Wow He got you lady Kay. He got you He got you you got to chalk it up. You got to take that L You got to take that L with a woman with your big draws on big girl panties and Cut them and keep it moving. He got you. He got you Yeah, you got that one. He got that one. You got to give him that He showed he played you like a fool. But see this is the thing now. I'm gonna tell you how to get past this Remember by the three month mark you ought to have a title Will you be my girlfriend? Can we be exclusive? And then after that you ought to know if he got somebody There's no reason he should be living for another living with another woman and you not know that Because by that month four five six, you should have been been by his house You know, even if it just the pop in for 30 minutes or an hour You know, y'all should have been talked enough by then because y'all should be talking 30 minutes to an hour a day So by the end of three months, it's like you really really know this person That's 90 hours them been put in and then y'all ought to be going on a date every weekend even if the date is free And so it's no reason you should not know If the man is living with another woman If he really giving you the energy he need to give you So understand that there now And you just chalk it up and next time Don't go on Keeley Crawford. No stimulus. Just bless. God bless you. God bless you God in the show, bless Keeley, Lord, pour out in your lives and another blessing Let that 401k grow everything Tonya I have a boss that's telling me She doesn't see me in a certain position What should I make of it? Um, you don't make nothing of it. You make some of yourself And then she gonna see you in that position So you can't take what your boss saying because for your boss to say that that actually means your boss sees you as better than her And she's scared that if you believe in yourself, you could take her job So that's what it is. So what you got to do is continue to add value go above and beyond come Come 30 minutes early 30 minutes late do more than what you asked of get the next certification Get the next training keep adding value keep getting smarter keep getting better and show up because If if if you truly see a weak person, you're not going to tell that person you weak The only time you tell somebody they weak is if they strong and you scare and you insecure Because you want them to believe that they weak Because you know you could see they're strong You ain't gonna tell and she ought to be slapped and somebody gonna slap a knife. Don't worry about it You know, don't don't don't you do it? But life don't slap because for being nasty like that Y'all in them workforces. I I think lord, I work for myself Hey, I'm trying to help y'all work for yourself too nine. I think lord I retired in 2011. I can't do it. I used to have to go off on on bosses I used to have to read them to filth. You hear me left the right top the bottom They used to hear my mind. They used to hate me You hear me I don't play with it Asia god bless you recently connected With a that I met three years ago through mutual facebook group first time we spoke on the phone Two hours father of two that he has custody of text me daily, but only spoke once so far It's only been one week Um, he ain't got time for you. You ain't the one you just fun you fun You practice, you know, you practice Your practice, you know, like a Like a practice dummy, you know, that's what he that's he just Have a little fun with this hill woman. Okay. Let me talk with one just to feel Some feminine energy Let me hear her voice, you know, but he's doing that with Four or five of y'all in the group So you you can't ever take a man serious that text you That text you every day, but don't call you every day. You can't take them serious um Denisha Tony i'm 31 not where I want to be financially. I'm a supervisor at a bank I feel since I don't have my dream career I should stay single Is that wrong? Uh, yeah, if you pushing away relationships If relationships are not coming Then you need to be doing what you need to do to get in your dream career Sometimes it's just a choice and then action but No, you should not push away potential suitors But if you want to focus and suitors are not coming Then stay focused If you focus And the right man for you comes you still could focus on your dream career If he's the right man because he's gonna help you He's gonna help you and he's gonna inspire you and he may be in a position to where He can help you. He can help you lead that job Because he marries you And he paying the bills and he say pursue what you want to pursue And we're gonna put the money into it. You see what I mean? So sometimes your spouse can be your catalyst I wouldn't probably publish my book had it not been for my wife giving me $1,600 from her refund check You know, I probably would have sat on that dream Hey, Tony Tammy God bless you. Hey, Tony. Thanks for always being a blessing. I'm a hairstylist and shut down For the 19 any advice um If you have a following If you have a following on instagram or however you get your clients You could start doing some things to where You do some videos on how to how to do certain hairstyles. It's a good time right now to start your hair youtube channel So if you got somebody that lives with you And you know for a fact y'all both know y'all don't quarantine and neither one of y'all ain't got that 19 You could do that person hair or order you a wig And get you one of the little heads that you put the wig on and start your youtube channel doing hair It's a lot of people who are subscribed to my channel who have tens of thousands of subscribers on youtube From doing hair from there doing showing how to do hairstyles You've been an actual hairstylist. You probably better than The person who just self taught in a bedroom and That's why I've been telling my barber and so not Now me my stylist made a house call. You don't want to tell nobody that now because boy, they go off on you, but I had my barber. We need one of us ain't got that 19. Okay Covered by the blood. We didn't did our quarantine And boy folks. Hey, don't do that Because somebody a guy lost his life and I say look you just can't look at it like he lost his life From house calls. He could have been all out and about at stores doing all kind of stuff But you don't want you don't want to anything you do in this situation. Let it keep between you and the lord Because you know the lord got you covered in what you're doing, but other folks boy, they And then they're doing the same thing or worse Associate from college Hopped in messenger After 18 years last week two years older top airman. We are long distance He is getting his doctorate in physiology Says he wants a wife already By dirty talk once Already tested by dirty talk once Um, okay 18 years ago from college. So y'all at least Um 28 38 36 y'all as young as 36 and You know as old as 40 Unless y'all was getting degrees later So if he that old And he's single And he getting a doctorate and and he is And he doesn't talk dirty And y'all just started back talking He nasty And he can't be trusted a man who of age The fact that he's still getting a doctorate In his late 30s or 40s. Let me know that he is He unsatisfied. He the type to get bored. He unsatisfied. He want more. He want more that type of man Gonna want multiple women If he's the type of man to come send you a message and then get you on the phone and he talking dirty That mean he nasty So he's Nasty and he ambitious See a lot of y'all don't realize how I be reading stuff Sometimes I get questions on the q&a and they'd be like, you know, well, what if this what if that how you answer that How you answer that I do this here a day So I read in the stuff that you might not even pay attention to that you might not even read into I could read into it Um etna. Thank you so much. God bless you pour out in their life Tiffany b If you have a book out that goes into detail about your past do you still not discuss it? On the dates or wait until he asks Yeah, don't discuss it Because like what they say you want to keep information from a man put it in a book Now they said black man But it go for men too because 75 percent of readers are women So you could have that information in your book and he may never read your book But you sit and tell him the audible version You do the audio version for him now. He know your business that he wouldn't otherwise know The other thing about it is when he sit down and talk to you he could fall in love with you And then if he find out about your past he may not care because he didn't fell in love The goddess k advice how to communicate to parents Their relationship slash marriage affected you Didn't witness real love more so the results of settling Causes tension and resentment now that i'm an adult Well, what you're doing is They already know that So you really don't have to tell them that they already know that because they know they sell it and they know that you watched it The other thing that you have to do is you got to understand that they just did what they could do You know, they just did what what they knew to do And so You got to understand that you have to forgive them like my parents was the same way You know, they they was Not supposed to be together, but they forced it and they lasted about 20 plus years 25 years and And it affected me but i to a certain degree, but I can't blame them because they didn't see love either You know, they didn't know real love either. So that's how you got to look at it We're doing real good Me uh, I don't know if i'm saying any right or wrong. God bless you. Thank you for asking. We're doing good though We got me a little so dope today now. I think i was i think i was sleeping with my mouth open last night Well, my wife bought one of these dicing vacuum cleaners. I said man. Hey, i'm gonna vacuum this floor I feel like i got some dust on me Probably was snowing up last night Y'all let me find your question Sierra god bless you. Hey, tony I married a covert nark, but got out in one year The situation got my final divorce court delayed I've had a few convos with a guy And we have chemistry Would it be weird for me to reach out after my divorce is final? No, it would not be weird But what I would do is being that y'all having a convo I would let them know that you still technically married and you just don't believe in mixing the waters like that and so Let's circle back after things are Done. Hey caramel kids. Thank you for calling that done allergies now Because you know, you got some folks try to put that 19 on me But yeah, so that's what we finna call that allergies Hot lemon juice and ginger will help. Hey, you know, i'm finna do that. Y'all be mixing some stuff Why i'm gonna get lemon juice from And now the ginger now you talking about the ginger root And I got the boy that it's like some of these home remedies It takes so much work to get a remedy But i'm i'm gonna drink my old hot tea. See what I can What is hitting on what are some ways that married couples can deepen their love for each other? Um, you know what you got a date you got to treat it just like like yesterday me and my wife went on a bike ride That's something you'll do when you're dating And I needed to ride an hour. She wanted to ride 30 minutes because she had stuff to do and She got in a little feelings when I was like, well, I need to ride an hour So I just did 30 minutes because she wanted to be together Then I'm about to go give me something to eat because she said she was going to be cooking something for the boy She was going to be cooking something for the boys But I needed me a steak yesterday So I'm about to go get it and she got in a little feelings like oh why you need to be alone I'm like, I don't need to be alone. But you say you about to cook And so we got a little conversation about that. I'll say well come on here then if you ain't got to cook right now And we're going to pick up takeout then come on here and let's ride and I realized like she really She really loving that quality time of us going everywhere together riding somewhere together If we're going to pick up takeout or if we got to pop in to the grocery store for an essential That she wanted she didn't order us matching mask, you know So You got a date to keep that thing hot now. I talk about that in my book make it work That's another thing every married couple need to do if you ain't read my book make it work You really you failing right now I'm gonna look for a question. I'm gonna be on here 20 more minutes now. I got 20 more minutes and And lord willing my body feeling all right I'm gonna do a second live tonight for the night shift because some of y'all daytime some of y'all night time Some of y'all both times but god bless you What's your take on a man that post selfies on social media constantly? I'm gonna tell you that I Don't want nobody to get mad with me But I'm gonna tell you this When you're heterosexual man It's just some things you don't do and posting selfies constantly is one of That one thing about me being a hundred percent heterosexual. I just understand Certain things just ain't in my bloodline just certain things. I just can't do So anytime a man posting selfies constantly He'll switch hit him He hit from both sides of the plate it's either that or He just he's broken from childhood and he needed attention He needed attention. He think he looked good Somebody along the way told him he looked good and he wanted to hear women tell him that all the time that he looked good And so Yeah, but typically That man there Because that right there that come from That's a that's a lot of feminine energy because that's what you see a lot of women do So anytime you see a woman doing something all the time because a lot of women You go to their page and the whole page is car selfies When you see a man who his page got the same type of post schedule same type of post like a woman He dibbling dabbling little too heavy In that feminine energy and he might be hidden from both sides of the plate you hit me Trust me when I tell you now Because it's out here rampant today When guys go ghost on you, why do they still try to bother you on social media? This guy watches my ig stories and likes my pics, but doesn't respond to my texts or phone calls That's because his woman is loose with social media. She might not even have so that social media network So she loose with social media So he could get away with what he does on social media, but he can't get away with what he does on that phone that also means that He has cut you from the team that it means that he ain't got nothing against you Like I done worked with teams and organizations to where My contract expired and we don't renew but they don't unfollow me online You said I mean, I don't unfollow them online. Ain't no ain't no bad blood It just this ain't a fit or or we done ran his course And so that's all it is is He done cut you from the roster But he ain't gonna unfollow you because there ain't no sense in being petty. So you can't read read into it You can't read into it Um and a god bless you god bless you. Thank you for that for that word of encouragement Um jc law god bless you a nine I'll put him some words out sometime now Okay woe falf Simon said this her this the 12th time didn't post this question in fed up Question hello, Tony. I am a truly single woman. See that's the thing you reading You reading messages I already answered your question Tell my 12th time. What the world you over there doing? I know already answer your question Anybody remember me answering this question? Hello, Tony. I'm a truly single woman. No ring. No man But always told I look married or taken. What does marriage look like? Is that negative feedback? Somebody to post that question 12 times. I didn't answer the question in full detail So what you got to do is look back at the video go back through it And see and that's why I'll be telling y'all Y'all get so caught up reading the comments And I'm talking and I'll be talking to myself Let me look for a question. What is your take on a married man who takes a bday 50 of vacation without his wife? And says she wasn't a thought or consideration went with his two brothers instead um He's just tired of being married like the marriage and ran his course y'all like You know, he see you like the dog. He got from the shelter You know that where he feel like hey, I'm doing you a favor. Don't be asked to be for no state You know be happy with the dry food because your butt would have been in the shelter had I not looked out for you That's how that's how he sees you now and he doesn't he doesn't Treat you with respect and so you got to understand that And when a man does that right there Now it's different if it's different if he It's different if he goes on a trip with you And then he want to do something with his brothers too And he just want to be out get that male energy because he with male energy. It's different than female energy naturally, you know for me, it's not as much because My wife she likes sports and she talk about anything I want to talk about but for For some guys, it's not that case, you know Some guys may be he might like if he like motorcycles if he like rebuilding cars whatever he liked getting into They may want to talk about that and they can talk about that Now on the flip side when you because you said he said that she wasn't a thought or consideration You got a nasty no good sorry man. That's 50 year old husband. So in your case He went on the vacation with his brothers to get the prostitutes of that country To get there the booty of that country and they or they wanted from From the secret dating profiles was flew that to that country So when I'm and that's solely because he said that you his wife was not a thought or a consideration See a good man that's faithful. That's just going with his boys Just for that male energy to talk about what they want to talk about talk about their dreams What they finna do in retirement how they're gonna build the rest of their life. They may now dream Then a good man would never say My wife was not a thought or consideration. He will say baby. I just want a little time You know what the boys because we talk about different stuff and we go in and So with you he went to cheat He went to cheat Um, and you don't even know if his brother was down unless he took a picture with him But even if he took a picture with his brothers brothers don't mind Flying his side one or not or one of they women that they done paid to come out To do a little some strain for a piece of change brothers don't mind that You know, your your brothers will look out for you on that because you haven't been married for so long Um nine the dream six god bless you. I'm in the 14 day rule you talked about To because he said we could be in a relationship soon But we're dating for four months and he is contacting my bestie now Because I don't answer Should she ignore too now i'ma tell you now i'ma tell you now He should she should be ignoring she should be ignoring because some of y'all what y'all how about bestie Listen to me I'd have been now i'd have been that man Had that bestie just like this Some of y'all talk about bestie Your bestie will start to feel like god made a mistake and sent you her husband And now that she's talking to him she's starting to realize and feel like This actually meant to be her husband and i'ma tell you this right here A husband no I mean not a husband A man know it ain't no need for him to be talking to your bestie When a man talking to your best friend He getting off on that dumb Believe me when I tell you I don't have phone conversation with none of my my wife got two sisters Ain't even got her sister. These my sister-in-laws ain't even got their phone numbers You hit me I can't text them and ask them a question about what color the moon is you hit me Because we understand how it really go down a lot of y'all my wife ain't got none of Now She got my security guard number Just it's like they planning a birthday party or something like that, but they ain't calling having no conversation If me and her ain't talking if me and her getting to a disagreement she ain't calling him If if him and his lady get into a disagreement he calling me He ain't calling my wife because see men men nasty Men nasty. So why he talking to your bestie? Because you on your 14 days He want to put some on your bestie to get back at you for having the audacity to take a 14 day break from him Now somebody asked me about twin flames, but i'm gonna be honest with you Um, do you believe in twin flame past lives with your person? Now if past lives mean reincarnation, I don't believe reincarnation I'm a christian you gonna live and die one time. Okay And when you live and die you got heaven or hell And if that's a figment of imagination, then you ain't gonna know the difference anyway because you're dead So me me personally, I don't believe in no all that twin flame crap anything. I got the google I don't believe in it You mean if I can't see it and what I do in my life as a relationship coach talking to the thousands of people there a year Then I don't know. Nobody. That's something that he that he nutcases out here online Trying to get y'all caught up in to get y'all a term so that you have to keep coming back to them to hit the next term And so there is another thing that we would like to call um laptop trauma and with laptop trauma what this is is This means that you have been on your computer so much That you're now traumatized And you know what? Tony gaskins. He doesn't understand laptop trauma and he should not be talking about Laptop trauma because this is very real And so you need to talk to a certified doctor to understand laptop trauma And that's how they be and that's the same way they're doing the word narcissus They'll take a word that they ain't lived through and seen don't understand Didn't even pass reading the comprehension class in the 12th grade And trying to interpret a word Ain't talked to now doctor And then what the doctors do the doctors get on here with a term Because they see that it's money to be made because it's people who living in fear It's people who looking for closure. So they say, okay It's money to be made But let me come up with terms that people don't really understand So that you got to keep needing me That's why I do mine simple and plain. It's to the point. I ain't trying to Beat you across the head with no wealth to dictionary Because I want you to understand what I'm talking about if I'm using words That got so many different variations and interpretations and understandings You're gonna be so confused you just watching video trying to get an understanding And that's how they out here during the day They don't want nobody to call them out though. See love. God bless you. God bless you Pull out in her life Pull out in her life. See law. I'm praying the lord bless you. You like uh keely y'all be blessing me so much on him In light of the current situation My amicable divorce now alone. See love, you know, you know, I'm country now. So you got When you hit me with a word like amicable It could go real wrong In light of the current situation my amicable divorce is held up Everything is filed and we both signed. How long should I wait to date? That's the only reason I haven't been over for a year Keep waiting you'd have been waiting a year This month or two months ain't gonna hurt you. Okay This month or two months actually can be divine. See love It actually can be divine to where in this month or two months you need to sew up a couple more things you need to Do a watch a few more videos. You need to take one more course You might need to read one more book. You might need to say a few more prayers. You might need to um Write a devotional you might um You might need to write a devotional to where you do one uh 30 days or 31 days of a devotional The way you do 31 days of somebody who's going through a divorce Something that they could read every every morning. Uh-oh If I'm about to die I got 20 but I only got eight minutes How do I improve on expressing my thoughts and feelings? During disagreements and relationships think about it like this you got a picture that you talk into Like a 12 year old and you you trying to get them to understand something And so that's how you know That's how you handle it you talk to them as if Or her as if you really want them to get an understanding. So you speaking slowly you speaking slowly and you articulating Because imagine talking to a 12 year old and you yelling and screaming. They're not going to hear you Imagine using words. That's too big that they may not understand. They're not going to comprehend So even when you talking to adults, you got to be slow and steady You got to be slow and steady Now y'all got a whole lot going on in here many chats, but I see y'all But I now y'all know nine um share and caramel kisses And two bella two bella ain't here today. They got that little monkey wrench by their name Now you will get blocked if you get out of line now It's a few blessed tribe members I don't had to block because they had a spirit of beg the devil spirit of uh discord It's a flu out. It's a few I don't have to block now Because because you got to remember now you got to know the devil gonna get behind enemy lines now the devil gonna get behind enemy lines So if they block it a Let me hands off with it Or share and you know share gonna block you Caramel kiss gonna block your hands off with it. You know, that's on y'all podcast law Now bff Is that your best friend? I know that the best friend talks down to husband for years Now he wants a divorce She says he must be cheating begged him to stay for kids and threatened to off herself Will he Uh, he he he might stay he might stay some men like that some men are going ahead and stay me personally By you're gonna have to talk to the lord you want to take yourself Go ahead. I ain't gonna live in no prisoner to you. So you could you you could deal with the lord when you get up there Uh, or you take your own like you ain't going up there then you so you could talk to the devil, but some men Will get trapped by that But um, he might see through it though and see that she talks it But you need to as her friend you need to be honest with her and say look this your fault because you talk to him like he worse than you know Dog boo boo on the sidewalk and so With you talking to a man like that. He's gonna want to leave make sure she know and understand that Hey, I got five more minutes now. I got five more minutes How should I feel about a man sending me A text pick of what he may think was a six pack. I'm so turned off though Now you shouldn't feel about that, you know, just get your little laugh Turn him into a meme in asia Turn into a meme and put it on the asian website. So they get them a laugh over there Like don't don't don't don't get caught up in the petty And you know that man trying he trying to get that keg into a six pack encourage him Oh, keep going keep going, you know, you're doing better looking better And then sometimes when a man asks stupid sometimes you got the java man look ego a little bit Um, yeah, what were you trying to send? I'm not sure what I was looking at Then he get the picture without you actually saying something Famous four two three god bless you Boy, I don't know like How I have a five-year-old daughter whose father never been in her life He reaches out every year asking how she's doing didn't disappear. Am I wrong? Am I doing wrong to my daughter if I don't respond next time? Um, you're not doing wrong to her You know, but if all he's gonna do is just pop in and ask that question That's just for his sanity And you got to decide if you feel like he deserved that If you don't feel like he deserved that because he don't want to be all in Then you don't have to answer it But I will answer it because it's obviously giving him his fix and what he needs Making him feel like he's doing his job as a daddy and he keeping his distance If you don't answer he may come knocking on the door and cause you some problems Because a man like that Who got a child and only check in once a year? That's a dangerous man. That's a crazy man. And so with that type of man If you telling him she's doing great. She got straight a this that and third Will keep him at bay and he gone by this business then keep keep doing that Because for him for a man to do that. He ain't no good a lady indeed. God bless you for that blessing Okay, I'll see you next when you had a question You talked about your wife not entertaining even talking about Yes during the initial stages of conversation of the conversation. What if you both get weak? Has he then pegged you as easy um You know, he necessarily pegged you as easy because he what you got to realize not every man going to read in the stuff The way I read in the stuff So if he used to every woman getting ready for the bed at that same time frame Then he's not going to see you as any different. You're just another woman But the thing about it is is he could meet another woman that She's not going to be with that now he's going to understand That this is another level of class and self love and self worth And that's where he compares you to and that's how you lose out But he may not see you as easy, but you got to also ask yourself why you're getting weak You need to talk to your life coach Read your book write your letter Um having accountability partners partner so you could stay strong Treasure god bless you accidentally told the man. I was abstinent Former player he brought up marriage and living together hypothetically how to go about it now Stay abstinent. Stay abstinent If he want to marry you say well when we get married then we could live together keep all your standards Keep everything in order. Don't move in with him if you're not married to him Don't get on your back because he get engaged to you Keep your standards And let him play himself La la rola god bless you bless for that blessing My ex and I started back talking after six months after he constantly kept hitting me up One day I hit him up first He only replied once and never heard from him till the next day I've been ignoring him for six days, but he still has not reached out what to do Close the door and move on with your life Now you realize that you went back to the wrong situation When you go back and y'all already tip for tat playing mind games Catch me when you can tom and jerry in the mouse and the rat and the cat You went back to the wrong thing So realize that now So you can move on because it already was six months apart So you you went back you tried it Go on about your business um yummy God bless you. God bless you Joya Bless you tony for the coach's call this morning. It blessed me. Hey, thank you so much I remember you asked a question and you from polk County, florida. 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Guyann said she she want to know what she said now to get put in time out because I thought I saw in time out so Guyann you got to make sure you have no uh You got to make sure You have no typos and what you're saying and sometimes with this chat, which I've got to realize too Sometimes a person could be typing something and they might be saying, you know That's stupid or calling somebody a name, but they talking to the person That somebody was asking about So sometimes I read something in the chat and I realized the person answering somebody else question or addressing Somebody no good husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend and I'd be thinking they're talking to me so, you know Y'all be careful in that chat Up I don't win overtime Period for kids. God bless you. Hey, thank you all so much for being on here. I try to do this 90 minutes So I keep my energy, right? so god bless you and I if my body feeling okay, I'm gonna do one for the night shift tonight probably round seven I got to see what the president and them doing with they live screaming I try to do it after they live screen because I try to watch watch them get up there and tell they love The stuff they be talking about But god bless you. We'll talk soon. Thank you for everybody who's seen a blessing and thank you for everybody Who's a member of the bless tribe because that's a blessing in itself. So thank you very much and we'll talk soon