 Hey, hey Tony Gaskins here and remember I know I told you I wanted to do a couple stories Just kind of to hear from a couple people not sure how many of these I'll do but had another one come in that I saw and Miss Bianca she was available and able to get on Zoom with us. So I thank you so much for that miss Bianca and I really want to hear from you and kind of hear your story now now Let me ask you are you look a little young? So are you in a generation where you're not afraid or shame to say your age? Oh, yeah, I'm 30 years old Okay. Wow look 22. That's Tell me about you know what What brought you to my channel first and then what kind of led you to want to speak up on your story? Okay, so my mother recommended me your channel She would send me like these little links on it was actually your Instagram that I saw and then she was saying that you had a YouTube channel, so I was like I got to get into this because My train of thought was exactly what you're talking about, but it's not a common conversation So I felt like at the time that I was like the only one that was thinking this way And maybe it was me that was off, you know, maybe times have changed and that is why I can't meet a guy That is, you know like minded in the sense of what you're talking about and so I really appreciated that I was like, let me go ahead and subscribe because this is exactly what I'm talking about This is what I need. This is what I need to, you know Just make sure that I'm confident in so when I'm going to meet a man that these are the standards that I have and it's okay To have those standards. Mm-hmm. That's amazing. That's amazing So now tell me about this dating story. I cannot remember at all if you put a synopsis in the email or not But um, so what what year was it and you know kind of take me through it. How did you meet? Okay, so this was last year. This was last year May I live in Florida and I met this actually my homegirl was telling me about Facebook dating and she was like girl, you got to get on it. It's better than like Pof and all these other web site or apps. So I was like Facebook got a dating let me try it So I go on there I get set up it seemed to me like it was a little bit better because it's you might they have a higher standard on Facebook dating you have to have your picture. You have to have like a whole breakdown of your profile Everything had to be filled out, you know, this means they have Facebook So they have social media that you have access to and you can also link your Instagram So you can see, you know, if they're not hiding nothing that you'll can see if they have a family and things like that so I liked it at first I got on it and I did get some messages. I Saw this guy on there who messaged me, you know, we had mutual likes to each other And then we started to get acquainted and right away, you know, he asked for my phone number He was ready to meet up right away. So I was like, okay, cool. No problem So I think we met up like two days after talking Online, but it was like when I say texting and he was texting me back to back The conversation was for hours every day. And so I was like, okay, he he definitely got time, you know He's not hiding anything. So I was like, all right, let's go ahead and meet up so we met up at a red lobster in our city and It went very well, you know, there was nothing, you know, that was a red flag for me He had his phone right side up. So, you know, it wasn't looking like he was hiding anything He wasn't getting any notifications. No, his phone wasn't ringing. Everything was great He was very friendly to the waitress, you know, he gave her a nice tip You know, he was, you know, very attentive to our conversation Spoke well, you know, he said he believed in God like I do We did not curse, you know, everything was good. Everything was good, but you know, this was the first day And now, you know, I'm telling the story hindsight is really 2020 So after that, um, he I had to go home, you know, I have two kids, by the way, I have two children And I had to go home and I have responsibilities and he wanted to stay and I like, let's go out here, you know Let's hang out some more. I'm like, no, you know, we'll meet up another day. There's always another day So eventually we did meet up another day. We went to go get tacos like the next week And it was also a great time, you know, we start talking about You know, God, because I really that is my faith and, you know, I want to talk about God every chance I get I always want to have a conversation about it. So we did talk a lot about God, you know, he's saying that he was celibate as so was I and, um I have to say during that time I was listening to the podcast in the dark And he was saying the opposite of what I was doing And so at that time he was saying that, you know, if you have kids like he was just talking about on your live If you have kids How can you be absent it, you know, like you can't do that? And so I was Second guessing what I was doing. I'm like, well, is this realistic for me to do because I do want to do that. I want to have a different, you know, dating experience in my life I'm tired of the same cycle. So I was like, well, I don't want to have to give it up. That's what I, you know, That's what I was already doing how I got two kids. I don't want that. So I was like, I wanted something different But listening to that man, he was saying to Do the opposite So I was considering it. So eventually fast forward, you know, um This had to be like a month later, you know, I invite him to my apartment I have not seen where he lived yet But he did come to my place first And my children were asleep. So he didn't get to meet them that day. But um He was, you know, here we're watching a movie having a little date night and um, he didn't want to leave So I was like, okay, you know, you could spend the night. It was like one o'clock in the morning You could spend the night. I guess you could sleep on the couch and I slept in my bed And so the next morning, you know, I'm thinking all right, it's Monday, you know, it's time to go to work I work from home and I figured he has a job. So he has to go to work. So he's like, oh, no, I don't have to go to work today I'm on vacation for two weeks And so I was like, okay. All right And so we didn't really get to talk about what he did for work. He was kind of vague with it um, but I did find out later that he's an uber driver and There's nothing wrong with that but you know, just say that So uh, eventually he did meet my kids and he was very loving to my kids. My son is nine. My daughter is five And he was like, you know, your son looks just like me. I'm gonna be a great father I want kids, you know and all that stuff and I'm like, okay This was like a month and a half Like six weeks into it And he sang down like, you know, that was really nice to say but you know, my kids have their own dad So I was like, all right, cool. I guess um, and then eventually, you know, it started to Become an everyday thing. He was here every day. He did not want to leave He was just like, I love spending time with you. You know, this is great You know, I don't want to go home and all this other stuff And so it started to get a little bit uncomfortable for me because He was in my space and he wasn't really helping out around the house, you know He was messing up my bed, you know, and to be honest, he had like a A body odor that was strong, you know, he would sleep in and I could smell it In the kitchen and he's in my bedroom. And so I would have to go in my room So like, hey, can you can you go take a shower because What you could smell It just smelled like, you know, like old gym socks. It just didn't smell Everybody has a smell, I guess and his just didn't smell pleasant But it was strong, you know, like he would get up out the bed and my bed would smell like it I would have to wash my shoes It was bad. It was bad and I didn't know how to have that conversation, you know, I really You know, I don't know how to talk about it. It's kind of an awkward conversation Yeah, so fast forward, you know, I realized Now now at what point did y'all start sleeping together? So we ended up sleeping together around the six week mark And that advice you heard from the dark played on your conscience Yeah, well, yeah, so I would listen to that at home and you know on my phone and The let's call the man the dude at the time, Eddie So he would come and be like, oh, you listen to him like, oh, yeah Like what he says and this and that he was like, you need to take his advice. You need to do what he says I'm like, really? Because I would watch it and like you were saying to watch it for entertainment But it really started to affect my personal life I really started to think that what this man was saying was true It was golden and this is how I need to live my life. That was not so It was not so So, um, fast forward to now we started having deeper conversations, you know, hold on Listen folks. Listen folks. You can't make this stuff up You cannot make this stuff up now y'all see me on live I got off live and came on here. Me and Bjork ain't never talked before. We had no problem Conversation, I literally cut off live and came with folks. You can't make this stuff up I know Go ahead. So around So around six week mark y'all living together peace thing All right, he doesn't have children, you know, I asked me if he was, you know, ever had a relationship or whatever. He said that he Was married, you know, oh, he was he's Cuban and Brazilian so he was married back in Cuba And he said that his wife passed away in a car accident So I'm like, wow, okay. I'm sorry to do that. Wow. Okay So then eventually, you know, we started having deeper conversation and he wanted to ask me, you know How much do you make a month? You know, what are your bills like? So I'm like, okay You must be asking because you're trying to pay So we had that conversation, you know, I told him how much I make a month You know, I love my life. Everything is going well for me. I just moved to this area. So I'm loving it and He was like, oh, I make more than you and I was like, how you make more than you do over and so And so he was like, oh, I make, you know, like six thousand a month And I can give you, you know money to pay the rent and all that stuff. I was like, okay, I mean I'm not gonna say no. So I was like, all right, no problem. So he was here, like I said every day Every single day he was here and it eventually came out to where we started arguing because It was just we didn't know each other enough And the little things would get to me like I said, he did not clean up. He would make a mess So I would it was like I had three kids. I had to clean up everything And then at the end of it, you know, he was always like telling me what to do And like you need to stop spending so much money on groceries You need to stop buying, you know All these shoes and clothes for yourself and for your kids. I'm like, well, if I don't buy it, who gonna buy it? Are you offering and then he was like, no, no, I'm just saying and so I was like, I don't I don't really respect the fact that you're telling me what to do and my money And then you can't even contribute to you know to the household So that became an argument and I was like, look, I think what you should do what we should do is you should go home And we should just, you know, slow down because I feel like things are going too fast And I don't want this to be a train wreck, you know, so I was like, you should go home And he was like, I'm not going home and I was like, what do you mean? You're not going home And we was like, if I go home, you know, we won't be together. It's like you leave me And I said, well, why would you say that? You know, let's say because You know, you know that space of us apart, you're going to go meet somebody else, you know, you're beautiful Guys are going to approach you and you're going to meet somebody else and we're going to break up So I was like, well, that wouldn't happen. But I mean, all right, so he stayed even longer So then it became A regular thing we would argue all the time. He said, you know, I'll give you money for this I'll give you money for that and it never happened and it just became like I'm sick of this I don't want to live like this. This is going nowhere. This already went too fast for me. I want to stop it before it gets worse and He wouldn't leave. He literally would not leave my apartment I had to call the police on him for him to get out of my apartment And he eventually left because he heard me call and then he was like, all right, she's serious He eventually left and then um, maybe like the next day He was texting me apologizing. I'm sorry, you know, I didn't mean for this to happen this way. I'm just afraid to lose you I'm like, we just met I'm just afraid to lose you, you know, and like, can we please start over? And so I was like, no, you know, I do not see a future with you at all So I would like to just end it here. And so he said, well, can we at least be friends? And I was like, sure, we can be friends, you know, problem We can be friends. You cannot come into my house. You're not sleeping together again You know, none of that So he was like, okay, and so eventually we started communicating again I forgot to add that I told you that he believes in God like I do but it was not the same belief He was a Jehovah Witness and he was trying to Convert me and so That was awkward. Um I don't really know too much about Jehovah Witnesses He was the first person I've ever met that was a Jehovah Witness and I'm not knocking anybody for their religion I just know my and mine is that I worship Jesus Christ, the Son, the everything, the whole three, all three of them, you know And so that was a little awkward and um him trying to convert me. I felt I felt uncomfortable and I felt like we're unequally ill So this not gonna work So fast forward we're friends now and I was in the pool with my kids and I um Go to get my phone because I had playing music on my phone to go change a song And I saw his text and he was like, oh, I'm at the bar. I'm you know, just taking a bunch of shots because we're not together I'm depressed You know um, I miss you Um, if this is not going to work out between us, I really just want to end it right now and I'm just like what? That's not what Jehovah Witnesses do you can't do that? I said no, sir I say well, don't do that. It's not it's never that serious remember We just met about now. It's like two months. We just met two months ago Your life was fine before you met me. My life was fine before I met you so There's no need for you to do that. Yeah And so he was like no no like you don't understand he was like are you're in the pool? And so I'm like, yeah, you know, I'm in the pool with the kids And he was like I'm about to come I'm gonna come over there and drown myself And I was like don't play with me. I said do not play with me You do that. I'm gonna get out the pool and I'm gonna walk away So he did come To my area and he did go in the pool fully dressed socks shoes everything And he jumped in the water and so my kids are there and I know I'm sure people really do this, but I knew I just knew that he was looking for attention And I was like, let's go. I was like y'all let's go and so I told my kids let's go He got up out the water because he heard me leaving. He was like, where are you going? I said I'm going home because you acting stupid. What are you doing in front of my children? And he was like, well, I'm just you know Sad that you know, we broke up and I really thought that we had a future together, you know And I'm sorry, let me go back a little bit when we were together for those little six weeks He had already told his mom about me. He had told his whole family about me, you know And his best friend he was always on the phone. Hey, I'm outside. I'm outside with my baby I'm outside with my future wife and I thought that was sweet and then, you know He was starting to tell me you should tell your mom about me tell your brother about me too. So I'm like, all right, cool You know, I didn't think nothing of it. I thought it was the things that you would usually worry about as a woman I did not have to worry about because he was so willing to talk about me to other people Bragg about me and say these things. So I'm like, all right, you know, that's cool So I did the same thing. I told my mom and my mom was like, no, he is not the one She's like, I don't it's it's not him I'm like, you don't you don't know him, you know And so she was already letting no, I don't even want to meet him. I'm good. I know he is not for you so Back to the scenario if he was going to go ahead and do that But he did not because when I left he left he got up and he got out the water And he was like, hey, can I come to your house? Can I rinse off? I'm I got chlorine on me I said no, you cannot because you should never did that you can go home and go babe. That's what you can do So fast forward finally all that is over. I go to the gym and he already knew the gym I was going to and I realized that he started to follow me around He started following me to the gym I would see his car parked in my neighborhood when I come home at night and I confronted him. I'm like, what are you doing in my neighborhood? And he was like, oh, I just want to see a girl home. I want to talk to you That's why you have my phone number send a text So he was like, oh, well, I just wanted to see you and I just please I just can't live without you And I just have to have you know, you start to get closer to me and I started to back up my way. No No, no, no, no Don't come close to me because I will run you over with this guy. Don't come close to me What is it that you want? I want to get back with you. I said, no, we're not going to get back Eddie. I'm sorry. It's not going to happen. We're not getting back together And then this what you're doing is making the even worse. You're scaring me at this point So he didn't get the message. He would bring stuff. I would come to my home and he would bring stuff at my door I would see roses my kids favorite candies at the door and stuff And it started to be scary I started to drive out of town like I'm going to another city and I would see him on the highway with me Behind me following me Yes, and so I started to freak out and then he was like Following the people that would like add me on instagram He started to add them to see, you know, if I moved on if I'm dating someone else He would send them messages Are you dating Bianca? Like who are you to her? You know her and I would know because they would tell me like, hey, who was this dude? I because you know, I'm just following you. I don't even know you And I'm just saying I'm so sorry. This is crazy. I had to go to The sheriff's office and get a restraining order on this man For him to stop But if but he still didn't stop He did not stop what I had to do was how old was he? He was 30 Okay, I was 29. He was 30 And now on the look scale, what would you give him if you had the radom or who did he look like if you had Pig a celebrity or like how how how did he look to you? Oh, he was attractive. He was you know dark skin. Um, he Had, you know, like brown eyes. He was a little bit taller than me when you say dark skin Do you mean like black person dark skin or like a yeah, he was black When was a black Hispanic? Oh, like me. So I thought Tina Yeah Yeah, okay. Well, I just am black because I'm I'm um columbian and jamaican. He's Cuban and brazilian So when I met him in person He had a really strong accent and I don't have an accent. I don't speak Spanish. So I was like, okay I was surprised. I was like a that was a plus because I thought that was really cool that he had an accent But he was a little bit taller than me. I'm 55 he was like five maybe seven Five eight, you know a little bit taller than me, but he was attractive. He was handsome brush cut, you know, cute guy He just looked harmless, you know, he would think but he started to stop me and he started to Send those messages that he's gonna, you know end himself and do all these things and I'm just like This is scary, you know, so it came to a point where The day that I kicked him out of my house and I had to call the police he actually took some of my items he took um some shoes of mine some nikes and um He said it was an accident, but it was not, you know, they're not your shoes. Um So I was like, I need my shoes back. He was like, well come get it. I'm not coming to get it So I sent my brother To go and get the shoes for me And my brother is older. He's only a year older than me, but he went to go get the shoes and He had to let dude know Don't bother my sister again because you don't see me again And that's how it had to end right there Now what's your brother? He columbian in jamaican tour Yeah, columbian in jamaican. Yeah. Yeah, I'd have been scared too And he's he's like six three He was in the military and he got muscles. He goes to the gym every day. He lived there Oh, yeah, six three and he looking down at five seven. Yeah Yes So Man, so I'll tell you what it is One so he had his own place the guy had an apartment He had a room that he was renting That's what I was gonna say. It sound like to me. He was either renting a room Or living in that car that he drive for uber I'm sorry. Let me talk about let's talk about the car So whenever we go out, he always want to take my car and I was like, but why don't you take your car? Like why are we always taking my car? Why not take your car this park in the guest spot in my neighborhood? So I don't I don't want to take my car So one day was going out downtown and I was like we taking your car So he's like, no, no, no, I walk to his car and I said, let's go We're taking your car and he was like, no, I got stuck in here I look in his car. He got shoes. His whole wardrobe is in the back seat I was like, okay, so this dude probably living in his car, you know, no judgment But you know, let's just be honest And if you're I feel like if you're in that situation, then maybe dating is not something you should be doing at this time Like get yourself together. That's okay We've all had struggles. That's okay He wasn't looking for a relationship and that's the lesson to To the people is like a lot of times That's why I try to tell women all the time that the men who get on online dating They just not in the right space It doesn't mean that they're a bad guy. It doesn't mean that they're all crazy It's just not in the right space because as a man, it's such a reward To go out and be walking and to approach a woman It's it feels so invigorating You feel like a real man like nothing feels manly about getting online To do online dating And so that's why I say 9.9 out of 10 men that do online dating They own there for a weird reason And for him Somewhere to stay it sound like maybe If was he born in another country or was he born in cuba? He's in Miami. Okay. So being born in cuba It's like sometimes you could be behind the eight ball if you come from another country as far as credit for social security number Or you know that having a green card instead of having you know citizenship That's not what he said though. That's not what he told me like when he said all I make more money than you I was we were walking one time and he was on the phone with his best friend And I felt like this moment was like a setup his best friend called and was like Hey, can I get you know, $12,000 his best friend is jamaican I need to go to Jamaica I need to go get some money out to my whatever he needed for Jamaica and his Responses like yeah, I'll send it to you right now. I'm looking at him like you don't have $12,000 to send. Why are you playing? and he He went out of his way To show me the receipts the transaction that he sent the 12,000. It was like a week later He showed it to me, but it it cannot be real It cannot be real because he didn't have no money to pay for anything. I paid for everything And he definitely could make He definitely wasn't making $6,000 a month and rent in the room Right and got his whole if he wasn't doing uber. He was still on vacation after six weeks. That means he didn't he didn't work And uber drivers don't get a vacation Now they could take a vacation, but the point of doing uber is not the vacation And right the point to do uber is to grind, you know And so and they can't make money. They can make good money Especially when it first started but now it changed and so They don't make what they used to make and so If it was like this super lucrative thing, that's easy that everybody would be doing It's like they could make exactly what they grinded. They could make money. They're driving all driving all day all And so some had to be up with his paperwork whether it was his credit Or if he was a felon as to why he didn't have an apartment because uber drivers definitely make enough money to afford an apartment And then the thing about his uber may be right because the thing about his uber account is that he could not use his name or information As a matter of fact, he asked me to use mine to have a separate uber account But his initial uber account is his cousins. That's something like why can't she use yours? so He had to give his cousin too big of a cut And he wanted to use your information because he figured you weren't going to ask him for nothing because you're supposed to be his girlfriend But his cousin like man, I'm taking the chance. I'm doing this for you. So you got to shoot me x around the dollars That's why he wanted to switch to yours. And so he was living in his car He got a room before your brother came over He was living in that car because even if you got a room, you're gonna put all your stuff in the room Right, so he had been living in that car and that's why he didn't want to leave your place That's why he stayed with vacationing for two weeks. That's why that's also why he stuck like that Because like you say everybody got their own little scent, but it ain't gonna be a scent to where you could smell it from the bedroom to the kitchen Yes, that's a scent Not showering for weeks Yeah, at least a whole week he didn't shower And so that's what that was and now the thing too is He looked at you as attractive and he could see that he was attracted to you Whereas so it's kind of like he wasn't just looking for help. He also wanted his help to be pretty to him Yeah, but I will Also say one of the things that I know not to do I'm not going on dating sites again. I I'm not on there But one thing I do is that I'm so I'm such an honest person and like what you see is what you get That's exactly how my profile is and if you could say that I put way too much information But I put it all out there on facebook dating. So he probably read that and was you know plotting And that's my fault Yeah, he could have meant and what you put out there like what you make or where you work or whatever No, I did put you know what I do for a living. I put that I got two kids, you know You know, I love god. I go to church every sunday. You know, I take that seriously I I'm a different person today than I was even at that moment because I was listening to Things that just were not coinciding with what I was trying to do in my life And so once I cut that out and I'm listening to This here that is telling me what I was doing and what the bible says not just a human standard But god standard is the right way. That is how I live my life So when I put on facebook was that was you know, I'm a believer. I got two kids, you know I'm from florida, you know, I'm looking for something serious. I'm not here to play games, you know, all of that stuff You know my pictures and everything goes up there. Yeah, so Yeah, and then too when he is listening to men in the dark He's also going to hear that a woman with children is less than And that a woman with children should be desperate Exactly eyes will come thinking that you believe that and you feel that Exactly they will play on that That's exactly what happened. Oh, you got kids. So your standards got to be lower Because you say how you say you five five Yes, so you naturally easily could require five eight He what you said he five six five seven you could say five nine and be realistic And at five five because when you put on heels you might be five eight and so He being under that height threshold Assumed that you got kids. So your standards lower or or that you're not being superficial or that you're not, you know, judging like that so he was playing on that too and So here's some less. So some lessons. What do you say some lessons you have learned From that experience what not to do in the future Okay, what I learned from that is that to keep my standards number one. It's okay to have standards Keep those standards if the person does not meet those standards not saying that he has to be check off everything off the list But as a whole if you're just not in agreement with how this person is living their life Do not lower your standards for anybody I don't care if you feel like at the time I was feeling like, you know When I was listening to that podcast, you know, it might be harder for me to date Maybe because I do have kids Even though they are well behaved, you know, they can be perfect Just the fact that I have two kids will make it harder for me to, you know, have a great dating experience So I would then uh lower my standards. Okay, he cursed a lot. He's smoked. You know, that's okay But deep down inside. That's not really what I'm trying to do. It's not really okay So I would lower my standards just to think that that would be more realistic for me when no, god never said that That's what he said. That's what the podcast and box said. That's not what god said So I realized that not to lower my standards and to just focus on myself Not go out here looking On um for a man just waiting for god to present him because during this time after him I've I'm celibate I'm actually not, you know, trying to get involved because I like where I'm at right now God is working on me. He has changed me from that time just a year ago Not even but just a couple months ago to who I am today and I am so thankful That I went through that I learned the lesson. I'm here Thank you for allowing me to come on your platform to even give my story So that other people will see the signs and know to run that first moment, you know That first couple weeks when he don't want to leave your house. Let him go All right So in the future In the future, will you let a man in your house that early? No And will you let a man spend the night that early? No And then you let a man stay two or three nights that early? No No, those are the lessons right You're right those are lessons you really got to drive home because that way you don't get played by a man who's looking for help Exactly Because if if a man ain't looking for help he like his space too as a single single man And if a man is healthy, he like his space too So the same way you like your space. He will like his space too Healthy individuals. We like our space, you know, my wife go out by herself. I go out by myself I have my space. She have her space when you're healthy You like a little bit of space from time to time and then you come together and you have that together time so him moving in that fast definitely the red flag And you did right by calling the police. That's what a lot of women don't do They think they can handle it themselves and they wait forever and they don't get the police involved You also did right by having your brother go over there It's kind of right and kind of wrong because it could have You knew the guy and so you knew he was soft but Guy was not soft. It could have turned into something real big So that was that was a good thing that you slipped through it But in the future, I would just say call the police You know, just just keep putting the police on it because they got a badge and they got a gun And that's what you don't have to put your brother life at risk if you meet a man who's truly crazy Yeah And with you and with this guy You still got to watch your back because You still got to have your eyes open. I got cameras in my house since then I got three cameras at the front So that's good. I'm always gonna see if he whoever comes to my front door I could see I could see the parking lot where I could see my car Because that was traumatic. I mean he was following me for a long time And I did not know I had no idea that he was following me until after the fact And then let me just say one more thing. He told me that his wife had passed away. He was never married It was a lie. He had made that story up So it's like where is your mental add for you to come up with that? Like why would you even say that something like that? That's terrible terrible real terrible real terrible Probably thinking that if he say he's never been married or something He'll look like he's never been mature or never had a real relationship and that maybe you wouldn't like him because of that but Or he just he just And now this what I would say to to the people for one The video that the young lady was on Only has 11,000 views So it's not like a million people seen that video And then the amount of emails I got was only this many and Bianca that's your first name, right? And Bianca was like, you know the second or third email So I say that to say a lot of times women try to think like oh, that's just one story Oh, that's one in a million. No, this is a very small pool And we already the first two people that wrote me Has a wild story It go to show you this is very very very common when you get online dating And yes, it could happen when you meet a man in person But it's like he approaches you but it's far less likely because you read him initially And he got to be bold enough to have a confidence to approach you Right. So when I when I started dating Eddie, I asked him I always ask people if you see me in person, would you approach me? And people like, no, that's a well, why not? He said because I'll be too scared to you're intimidating I was like, oh, okay You see Listen listen people you can't make this stuff up. I don't like to hear that Hey, listen, I really appreciate you Bianca and I know there's so many more nuggets that'll come to you If we continue to talk, but just what you shared was huge. That was that was a lot I'm gonna be honest with you. I'm sitting over here scared. I'm like, man Man, you trying to find my address. Oh You heard No, but Men who do see it that it scared them away from online dating and they realize The jig is up and it's time to be real man. It's time to grow until the ladies y'all get off that online day Get off that online. They give you if you want me to man in person. Okay. Oh, well Keep working on yourself. Keep loving you work on your whatever career business Brains and body and when it's time a man gonna approach you and the thing about it, Bianca You're not intimidating at all You're intimidating to a man who don't deserve you Your spirit repels the spirit of a man who's not on your level And so now if you were six foot four a man might say, oh you're You five five he could look at you and see that, you know, you carry yourself well But a man who is confident Who is secure? He's ready He will have the confidence to approach you because you don't have a mean look Like if you don't have a mean look you have a very Kind of friendly look, you know, like a real chill girl next door Like you're not trying to be all Corella Deville and look all sassy And so That is a welcoming look So that a man who is ready he's going to feel comfortable now some men Will assume that you're taking Because you know that too. Yeah, you look like a wife. And so because you don't try to do too much And you have two kids so that shows a man You know try to Go that way like he wanted to see that but he wasn't ready. He wasn't man enough And so that's why you being abstinent is the right thing to do Absolutely and get into that place and Because you wife ready and you will be a wife If you hold on to your standards I guarantee you that if you hold on to your standards, you'll be a wife Yes, thank you. Listen I believe that Thank you so much for listening to my story my crazy story. I appreciate you giving me this opportunity. I really do Hey, no problem. I appreciate you making this happen for everybody. So god bless you. Take care We'll talk to you too. All right. Bye. Bye