 Hello, hi everyone. My name is Matt Coast and welcome to our live live stream our live live stream called how to make a man see you as a high value woman that he wants to have in his life forever. As I said I'm Matthew Coast, I'm here with Helena Hart, say hi Helena. Hey everybody! And so today we're gonna be talking about how a man sees you as a high value woman because there's a lot of women out there, really amazing women, you know, and they have a lot of things really going for them and yet they continually end up in these situations where they are taken for granted, the man just doesn't really see how amazing and great that she is. And so today we're gonna be talking a lot about how to get a man to see you as the high value woman that you are. So Helena did you want to go ahead, actually let me introduce Helena to you quickly. Helena is our head coach here. She's awesome and amazing and beautiful and she has lots of really great things to share. She's got a really cool story which sometimes she's a little nervous about sharing but it's really good she's helped tons and tons of women in their dating lives. You should see some of these testimonials and just talk to some of these women that have worked with her before and she's just it's absolutely amazing to hear some of these stories that she's had where she's helped all these women kind of get out of these weird stuck situations and get into situations where they feel empowered, they feel strong, they feel confident, they get into relationships that they've always wanted. They attract these awesome guys that they've been looking for their entire lives and you know it's obviously it's about them and them kind of creating what they want but it's also kind of a lot of Helena helping guide them through what's keeping them stuck. And so I'm always just so happy and honored to be here with Helena and have her working with us and she's just absolutely amazing so thank you Helena and it's passing it off to you. Thank you so much oh my gosh I'm so I'm so excited to be here I'm feeling a little bit under the weather today but I definitely wanted to still come on because this is such an important topic and the reason why it's so important is you know you can be you know beautiful and smart and successful and just have it all together on the outside most of my clients are that way they're just such amazing sweet just great catches but if you if a man doesn't see you as a high value woman you know he's just not going to want a serious relationship with you he might be attracted to you and he might really like you like he might like being around you like might like your personality and like hanging out with you but he won't put you in that category so to speak of someone that he wants in his life forever someone he wants to commit to a serious relationship with so if that's the case you'll constantly be like fighting to win his love and approval and I've certainly been there myself most women can relate to that and it's a really painful place to be just feeling like you're not good enough for him and whatever you do it's just never enough even if you've given everything to a relationship and shown a man like everything you have to offer and him really not wanting to commit to a relationship with you or telling you things like he loves you but he's not in love with you or he's confused and doesn't know that he can give you what he wants it's just such a it's such a painful place to be and I've definitely been there so on the other hand if a man sees you as a high value woman he's just going to see you as that one woman that he can't live without that he's never gonna want to lose and the more valuable you are to him the more you're going to stand out you know from any other woman that he's ever met in his life and eventually it's like every other woman in the world kind of fades into the background and he'll see you as that one woman that he wants in his life forever so today I'm gonna show you how to make a man see you that way and you know make it's like you'll become that one woman that he never wants to live without and I'm gonna give you a three-step system that you need in order to you know make a man see you as a high value woman and all of the steps are really crucial you need all three working in combination with each other for this to really work and also stay till the end because I'm gonna be giving you an opportunity to talk with me one-on-one about your unique situation you know because this working with so many women all over the world I know every situation is different and a lot of times it's helpful to you know talk to someone one-on-one about exactly what's going on with you Matt did you want to add anything before we get started before we continue yeah we're also doing question and answer so yeah that's right I'm doing some question and answer at the end so if you have a question for us then we can answer it at the end okay great so I I can't see the chat or anything but is just I'm so glad for all of you to be joining and I wanted to share a little bit about myself for those of you who aren't familiar with my story and like Matt was saying I kind of like cringe even thinking about it sometimes they're telling you know talking about it because it's just the way I turned things around was so different so this was about nine years ago I believe yeah 2009 I met a guy and things were started off really great as they normally do and he was really into me and the chemistry was just like off the charts and I was so crazy about him and I thought the feeling was mutual or it was at least at the beginning and about I would say three or four months into it you know we were dating each other maybe like you know once a week or something like that on the weekends and I got some advice from very well-meaning friends and co-workers and you know they told me well you need to tell him that you're not seeing anyone else and like basically kind of like ask him if you're exclusive or ask if we're in a relationship and they totally you know meant well for me but when I so I did that we spent the night together I remember in the next morning I kind of brought it up and I said something like hey just to let you know you know I'm not really seeing anyone else I'm not looking to meet anyone else like in my mind it's just the two of us I'm thinking he would be thrilled that I was you know exclusively kind of committed to him and what he said was something I wasn't really prepared for but he was he said something like you know oh this isn't a relationship we just have chemistry we just have a good time together and I was totally on the inside totally devastated and this was before I knew anything about this work I didn't know anything about what feminine energy was what being a high-value woman was I was just completely clueless obviously my self-esteem was not very good because I remember just kind of becoming really sweet and understanding and saying oh okay well if that's what you want that's fine that's totally fine with me too like completely kind of stuffing what I wanted down just because I wanted to be with him so bad that I was like ignoring my own feelings and needs and desires and and he obviously got the sense that I would kind of do whatever it took to be with him even if it meant ignoring what I wanted for myself so I remember I had a family event to go to afterwards and I was there and all my relatives like cousins and everybody was there with their husbands and children and I was showed up by myself just so devastated over what happened I kind of held it together for a couple hours drove home and just totally fell apart I was like crying in bed for like days and just not going out not living my life because I was so devastated over what had happened with this guy I thought that things were going so well I thought we were moving towards a real committed relationship and I just had it all backwards so that's what really drove me to learning everything I could about men and the way it works in dating and relationships and I've started to like just devour this stuff and study everything I could and I really just turned things around the way I felt about myself on the inside and you know I I heard from him again a few months later and he you know I met up with him and things were totally different I mean he just saw me I made this one shift in myself and he actually saw me totally different I mean you could just feel it I could totally just feel it in its face and in his energy and at that point it's like I didn't even want him anymore it's like he was this he was a nice guy and we you know we still kept in contact but he was really just the same unavailable guy he always was the whole time although now this time I could actually see it and I was kind of putting what I wanted first so that is sort of what led me to this work and to you know learning everything I could about how men really think about love and relationships and I've just seen so many women go through the exact same thing it was pretty interesting and I love just helping women turn their love lives around as well and I really believe that there's a better way for men and women to come together and stay together in relationships there are more single women now than ever before and women who are really struggling to get into lasting committed relationships even though like I mentioned it looks like they have it together on the outside and every other area of their life is like totally amazing but they still seem to struggle when it comes to attracting the right kind of men and maintaining relationships with them and I've really found or we've really found that you know men and women are kind of like they are naturally attracted to each other like on a biological or primal level but we've been socialized to act in ways that push each other away you know we've kind of been taught all the wrong information about what's really attractive to men and you know how to really inspire their love and devotion and commitment so um do you want to add anything there Matt before I move into these steps nope okay um okay so just I just for a moment of everyone watching just imagine what it would feel like having a man see you as this super high value woman that he never you know wants to let go imagine that like you're the woman that he's been looking for his entire life and he's just feeling this like irresistible urge to love you and and just want to be with you forever where there's no question about his um you know availability or loyalty or desire to be with you how would that change what's been going on in in your love life so that's you know that's what happens when a man sees you as this super high value woman and that's what I want for all of you so let's talk about how to make him see you that way I'm going to share the three-step process to making a man see you as a super high value woman I'm just reading off my notes here because I don't want to I don't want to miss anything because this is such valuable information so here's the main thing you need to know when it comes to making a man see you as a high value woman and that is a man can't value you any more than you value yourself okay so I'm going to break this down into three steps the first step is you need to start thinking of yourself as a high value woman this looks like you know doing some inner work to really raise your self-esteem and loving and accepting all the parts of yourself even the parts that don't always feel so good and that you want to hide from others so you know just like a man can't love you any more than you love yourself or he can't respect you any more than you respect yourself so just like so many of my tools and concepts that I teach it all starts with you feeling great about yourself seeing yourself as a high value woman because if you don't do this it doesn't matter how great you look on the outside doesn't matter how successful you are it doesn't matter how sweet and funny and what a great personality you have if if you don't start seeing yourself as a high value woman a man won't be able to be there I mean it's just that simple so what you want to do instead is really start thinking of yourself is as this high value woman that any man would be just lucky to be with not in like an entitled or egotistical way but just in a really confident way really really confident way and you know the benefit to this is is men will kind of start to see you in this holy way you don't necessarily have to say anything specific but a man will just be able to feel it in your energy and in your vibe it's really amazing you know because the truth is like I mentioned you could you could have everything going on for yourself but if you don't feel great about yourself deep down and if you don't like have compassion and love and all you know for all the different parts of yourself a man's going to be able to pick that up and it will um he'll see you as someone where he won't feel safe to come close or he won't feel this desire to come close if that makes sense Matt did you want to add anything there nope okay um okay great so that brings me to um to step two and um it just kind of goes along with the first step and that is if you put a man on a pedestal this is certainly what I used to do it did it you know back in 2009 and there was this I had a series of relationships where I did this maybe you can relate so if you've put a man on a pedestal or you see him as like the goal or the prize in your mind on some level even a very subtle subconscious level you have to switch that around in your mind and start seeing yourself as the prize again not in like a way where you're really entitled and you expect everything from a man and you're not really the willing to give anything but you want to switch it around because when you put a man on a pedestal even in very subtle ways you kind of can't help it it's sort of human nature we get this urge or this uh this like almost like a compulsion to like go after him you can feel how masculine energy that is even just thinking of like having a man on a pedestal immediately I just feel like I want to lean forward and like prove myself to him or win his love by doing all of these things that don't work like trying to convince him of what a great woman you are or what a great partner you would be by talking about it and you know trying to like force your way into his heart and it just doesn't work when you put a man on a pedestal it decreases his attraction to you and it decreases your perceived value in his eyes even if he's a really nice guy and even if he likes you and was attracted to you at the beginning it's just kind of human nature men feel like uncomfortable almost when they um when they get the sense that we're way more into him than he's into us and we're trying to like make things happen improve ourselves to him so what you want to do instead is just switch that all around and start seeing yourself as the prize start kind of imagining yourself on a pedestal so to speak where um similar to the first one where you start seeing yourself as someone where a man would just be lucky to to be with you and um when you do that it's really it's really amazing men will start to see you in a whole new way um this if you have one particular man who you've put on a pedestal just that little shift in your mindset where you're not trying to prove yourself to him or like win him over he will completely you know he'll be able to feel that was the minute you stop doing that he'll be able to feel that because everything is energy right you don't even have to say anything if you've been accidentally chasing this man and then you stop doing that you know you stop even just in your mind feeling like you have to convince him that you're a high value woman uh when you turn all of that around he will absolutely start to come back towards you especially if he's the right man for you and just you know he'll start to um he'll start realizing what a valuable woman you are and you know it's just the truth is it doesn't matter how sweet and wonderful we are and giving especially giving when we put a man on a pedestal and we're doing all of these things um it just it feels like pressure to a man it really does again even if he's was interested in you and attracted to you at the beginning it just feels like pressure to him and it makes him want to back up and create some space for himself and create some distance between the two of you so it's very important to turn that around if that's something that's been going on if you have that pattern going on for yourself just like I did you know nine years ago so did Matt did you want to add anything um yeah let's uh I just want to talk about focus real quick because one of the things that we kind of talk a lot about here is where your focus is right like where is your focus of attention like where's your energy what are you uh kind of putting your energy on right and a lot of times what's happening here is women are like okay there's this guy and this guy I want to make him want this relationship that I want with him right and um I totally get that and especially if you're heavily invested in some man at this point a lot of times women are really invested in these guys that they've been seeing for you know months years decades sometimes and they look at the guy and they're like okay um how do I get him to me you know give me the relationship that I want and and I think that's the wrong place to focus you know I think that is kind of um I think you'd be uh you you're doing yourself a disservice by putting so much focus on him and I think you'd be a a lot better off if you shifted your focus onto something else right like whether it's onto yourself and and making yourself um you know experience the things that you want to have in your life or whether it's putting it onto kind of this relationship you have and kind of setting things up so that you can have this relationship um and hopefully this man if you know he wants to be a part of it will be a part of it um and uh you know and and sometimes you have to look at it like okay well it's not necessarily going to be this guy right and um I know that's hard for a lot of women to hear especially in um you know if they they are really invested in a man um but if if he is in a place where he doesn't you know want what you want you know and and it some guys are there even if they met a woman that was just absolutely amazing and and you know he even saw her as a really high value woman um you know guys have their own issues too you know guys have issues about their own insecurities they have issues about their own self-worth they have issues you know maybe they went through life events recently or even a long time ago where they just it's taken them out of the game right there's this big thing it's called the black pill right now where a lot of guys are giving up on society right it's called mig tau you'll hear about it if you hang out on our channel you'll see these mig tau guys get on here and whine about women and you know how bad their lives are and how big of victims they are and all that kind of nonsense um and you know if you meet a guy like that where he's been blackpilled he's at this place where he's totally given up on women and society and life and everything and he just wants to you know hang out in his mom's basement and play video games and um you know eat cheetos all day long then you know i mean it's like okay well what are you doing you know what are you doing trying to get this guy to completely shift everything in his mind uh to want this and and i think you're better off uh focusing on things that you want in life you know things that you're you're actually looking for this relationship that you want you know your own happiness your own fulfillment your own satisfaction with life did i run off on a tangent there no i love that and i would like to even add on to that when you do that when you take your we always talk about the importance of taking your focus off of a man and putting it on yourself when you do that and you're just like um you know focused on being your best self what happens is the the right people who are supposed to be in your life just naturally gravitate towards you and the wrong people naturally fade away and you don't have to really micromanage it it's actually very relaxing kind of feminine energy place to come from you're just focused on yourself you know um being happy you know creating a great extraordinary life for yourself and and everything else just kind of falls into place organically from there so i love that that is that is great should i move on to step three yes okay step three is definitely one of the most important ones and that is um once you you know do these first two steps you start seeing yourself as a high value woman if you've put a man on a pedestal switching that around what you want to do next is start behaving in a way that can ruin with your belief that you um you're a high value woman and you deserve to have the love you want and it's absolutely possible for you so this there's so much that goes into this because everyone's situation is different right um this could look like you know responding to a man as a high value woman would respond responding is a very feminine energy quality right so what you want to do is uh watch what a man does and see how that makes you feel so it's the way you respond to the acts so you're the high value woman and you don't have to do anything or say anything specific to make him feel it except respond as a woman as a woman who knows her value and you know knows her worth would respond so let me give you some examples because i know this is like a big concept and again you know every situation is unique but you know like like my situation back in 2009 you know if i had known some of this stuff back then if someone were to say something like oh well i don't see us being in a committed relationship this is we're just kind of having fun this is just chemistry i would have immediately you know probably said oh wow you know thank you for your honesty i guess i had a different impression of what was going on and actually what i'm looking for is to be in you know a real committed relationship so doesn't feel like we're on the same page here and you know maybe i would have moved on you know right away from there rather than feeling completely devastated and trying to just you know do whatever he wanted to do to keep him right so um you don't want to tolerate bad behavior obviously or anything that doesn't feel good to you you know you don't want to just wait around hoping that a man's going to change his mind about you and uh not open yourself up to men who are available and who do want that same relationship that you do so it's it's about responding and i do want to mention that it doesn't mean you have to be the most you know self-assured confident person in the entire world 100 of the time i certainly don't feel that way a lot of times especially when i'm doing something new i can feel i can feel nervous and anxious and um insecure even but it so it's not about always like pretending to be super confident even when you don't feel that way uh it's it's about being authentic so a woman who truly knows her value has no problem being authentic because you know what that conveys is that you know she has options first of all if you're really um authentically be able to express yourself and express who you are and what you want you're kind of conveying on this subconscious level that if that's not what a man wants or if you're not on the same page it's like there are so many men out there who would be just thrilled to to be with you so it's not about pretending to be um calm and collected when when you don't feel that way um and this is kind of another embarrassing thing to share but like i don't know i think it kind of applies like i called matt like an hour ago or an hour and a half ago um because i wasn't feeling good and sometimes i get i feel like emotional when i get sick because i don't like i don't like feeling nauseous and i totally like called him crying total i felt like a total mess like i don't know you know i'm not feeling good i don't know what's going on and you know i didn't for one second worry that he was gonna like start seeing me as a low value person right i mean was that i mean what did that energy like repel you or push you away immediately low value i'm just kidding yeah i mean we're you know i i think there's a lot of value to being real i think there's a lot of value to you know we all have stuff and anybody that pretends like they don't is just doing that pretending whether they're consciously aware of their pretending or not and if you're sitting there pretending like you've got it all together and um you know people kind of see through it and they go uh there's something weird going on with that person and um they're i don't think they are who they say they are and and guys pick up on that as well you know i think a lot of women think that guys don't pick up on anything but a lot of guys do pick up on stuff like that they'll they'll pick up on the fact that um you know there's something that you're hiding uh i i was just with a friend i was uh i was in seattle a couple weeks ago um i'm not sure if you guys know mike fiori but i was hanging out with him and uh his wife and you know their friends and stuff and it was interesting because like uh you know as a guy he's very perceptive and he could pick up on things that were was going on with me and he's like hey what's going on with that and i'd like and so i'd open up and start talking to him about it and it's you know it most guys aren't like that though they won't be like hey what's going on with that right they'll just see it and they'll see that you're doing something weird or hiding something from them that at least they perceive and and they're like oh well you know like what's going on there but they they probably won't ask you about it and they'll just feel like it's weird you know whereas if you're um if you open up and you have this range of emotions and you're a real person it's um it's actually kind of refreshing because we as a society have this mask that we kind of put over our faces in order to uh try to pretend like we are what everybody wants us to be you know and so we walk around in the world and we've got this mask over our face and nobody's really connecting with each other and so when you pull that mask down and you let somebody seal see the real you with all the you know the words and all or whatever the the phrases um it's refreshing you're like oh man yeah you know like you have things that are going on with you real things um and at the same time that's it's real you know that's that's life that's all of us and when somebody can see that and experience that it can be a very very beautiful thing yeah I totally agree and if you're not able to confidently just be authentic and express yourself in the correct way of course you don't want to do this in a way where there's like this expectation like I'm not feeling good so you need to do something or change something so that I feel good it's it's not about that at all it's the opposite it's about being confident and feeling you know confident enough to express yourself and be authentic if you're not able to do that um like Matt was saying what happens is men can feel the disconnect they can feel like this there's an incongruence like um you know oh she's feeling something I can tell she's upset or I can tell she something's going on with her but she's pasting a fake smile on her face or she's becoming an understanding but I know deep down she's really pissed off or whatever it is if they can feel the disconnect there it makes them feel uh like distrustful of you on a deep level they feel like you can't trust yourself and um this is always is going a little deeper here but if a man feels like you can't trust yourself and you can't express that that's how he that will make him feel like you can't trust him and you're not going to accept him and his feelings because men have all these different things going on as well just like we do right so a man has to see that you totally accept yourself and and embrace your feelings and feel confident expressing them in order for him to feel safe to do those things with you if you've ever had the experience where you you know kind of like break down or you cry in front of a guy and that he starts opening up to you right afterwards that's what's going on he's seeing like oh you know she's accepting herself she's not beating herself up for not being perfect now I know that that she's gonna accept me as well and this is going on on a pretty deep um subconscious level so a lot of times men aren't aware of it but they'll actually you know feel closer to you in those moments where you're um being vulnerable and allowing him to see that vulnerability instead of you know being perfect all the time men really are not looking for you know perfection they actually kind of fall in love with you for what you might perceive to be your flaws and insecurities not in spite of them so when you're able to do this the right way like I mentioned a man will feel more can come close and he'll really see you as a very high value woman because you know it's it's like she's oh she's confident enough to express herself even if she's might be a little worried that it's not what I want to hear it's just it's you know if you're not feeling good if you're say if you let a man know like oh I'm feeling a little anxious right now in my opinion my experience that's actually a huge sign of confidence and a huge sign of a a woman who knows her value because she's not trying to hide these things from a man so you know the truth is that you could feel really good about yourself you could have these first two steps down but if you don't start behaving in a way that's congruent with these new beliefs that you know you're a high value woman and you know you deserve the love that you want you know a man won't he won't feel it either so men respond to your energy and your actions and you know distance and and your energy and things like that much more than they respond to your actual words so it's very important that you're just behaving in a way that's congruent with these beliefs that you're high value woman and again it's not about walking up to a guy and saying you know I'm a high value woman you need to treat me amazing here's my list of requirements right that would obviously push a man away it's about it's about responding watching what he does and seeing how that makes you feel so it's the way you respond to the way he acts um so you're a high value woman you don't have to really say or do something to convince him of that except to respond as a woman who knows her value would respond so that is step three anything to add there matter should should I just keep going yeah I wanted to just uh kind of piggyback off of what you just said about the whole thing where you're like trying to convince him that you're a high value woman and it seems kind of counterintuitive when you're you know on this webinar right now and you're listening to us talk about you know getting a guy to see you as a high value woman but at the same time not doing anything to get a guy to see you as a high value woman right and it's it's kind of interesting though but if a guy if if you're a high value right and you go to another person and you know that you're really valuable and that you know that person should like you should think all these great things about you how are you gonna act right are you going to try to constantly seek his approval are you gonna try to get him to like you no you're going to not worry about it at all because you already know that he would and should and will and if he doesn't then it's weird right that's that's like coming from a high value person's point of view that's what it is right you're not you're not trying to force a guy to do something or force him to see you in this way because you already you already know that it's going to happen because you're just a high value woman and and when you do that people just pick up on it men women everybody around you will pick up on it and they will start to there's this kind of frame I talk a lot about frames there's this frame control thing where they talk about the person that's most certain about his or her situation is the one that sets the frame right so if you come into a situation and you believe that you're a high value woman if you you've done that inner work to get yourself into alignment you're going to start acting that way right and you're going to start um and and that that's going to flow into your other conversations and other people are going to start seeing it as a high value person so yeah I totally agree I mean we all know people who come off as like super confident but it's kind of like a false sense of confidence when they're constantly trying to draw attention to themselves because deep down they're actually deeply insecure I I know several people like that and they might come across as selfish right away but you start talking to them and you can pick it up right away it's like oh they're seeking that validation constantly you know outside themselves so really really important um okay so I'm just going to keep keep going earlier I mentioned that um I want to give you an opportunity to talk to me one-on-one about your unique situation um right now I have a couple openings for um clients new clients in my new program called the soulmate attraction system and um who I can work with are women single and looking to attract the love of their life you know even if they've been single for a really long time even if they're recently single and feel like they need to like you know get it together before finding you know finding a different kind of man even if you have a pattern of attracting men who aren't right for you I love working with women in that situation and I'm so confident that I can turn things around and it's working from the inside out and the outside in at the same time to attract that soulmate level relationship um also women who are in relationships already or there's one particular man who is maybe you know acting a little distant or he's been pulling away and you really want to deepen the connection and strengthen the intimacy between the two of you and just you know bring him back stronger than ever and you know any anything in between you know women who maybe have been um out of the dating game for a long time were you know maybe recently divorced or or you know haven't felt confident enough to start dating and put themselves out there um any situation like that and um women who I won't be able to work with would be women in like an abusive relationship where they want to stay with a man where you know he's clearly um abusive or something like that or you know a woman who just wants to get this one guy who's clearly expressed that he has no interest in her or you know can't give her what she wants but if you you know if you're really looking to attract that soulmate level relationship whether you're in a relationship now and you want to kind of you know deepen the connection or you're ready to attract a new man um the soulmate attraction system will really really help you so I'm going to be working with a small group of women one on one and um you know diving deep into their personal situations so you can start turning things around quickly um it includes a four private coaching sessions with me one hour sessions over the phone weekly q and a calls with a small group or in between your sessions email coaching with me I mean every day email access to me so I can answer your questions and get back to you quickly and um also a Facebook group so you can connect with the other women who are going through you know a similar journey so uh this is a high end program it's our highest end program that we have uh and I'm going to be giving you a lot of personalized attention and coaching to help you get those permanent lasting results and quick results too I've just seen women turn things around really quickly for themselves I've just seen it happen over and over and over so if you um if you're interested and you'd like to speak with me personally about your unique situation I believe there's a link um to fill out an application to do that Matt is there is that in the description there is there's a link if you go into the description below this video there's a link down there that you can go and uh check out more about the program and um fill out an application and you know if uh you guys are a good fit for each other you can get into the coaching program yes yes I would love yeah I'd love to yeah exactly once we hit 15 women we have to close the program because um I'm going to I want to make sure to give everyone a lot of really really personalized attention I'm going to be focusing all my coaching efforts and um if we end up working together I'm really going to help you uncover your uh the barriers and the blocks that are preventing you from either attracting the love of your life or bringing him closer and really getting that lifelong commit uh committed relationship that you want um even if you're feeling frustrated and hopeless and ready to give up I've worked with so many women coming from that place too and and I'm just here to help you get get what you want in your love life uh so that's that's what I have are we going to do q and a we are aren't we yes okay we're doing q and a so if you have a question um for us make sure that you ask it in the question section um I know that there were some questions uh from earlier there's um who was it um let's see I don't think there are any actual questions yet that we have here but there will be so um there was actually a question from our community from earlier that I want to mention that um uh that Ronke was asking about and she was asking about so I guess there's this guy that she was seeing who is a more of a feminine feminine energy guy and she was asking what do you do about a feminine energy guy if you're dating a guy that's kind of in that space in that kind of um situation and so uh there's a bunch of different things that you can do and it kind of depends on what you're looking for I think one of the things that you have to do in that situation is kind of get into yourself and ask yourself you know is this is this something that I want to be involved in is this something that I want to do a lot of women sometimes come to us and they're trying to um I don't want to say fix men it's like they men have become this do-it-yourself project right that they're they're they're working on you know and there's this guy and it's like okay well this guy would be great if and then they have this long list of ifs you know if he was you know doing this and if he just do that and if he do this and if he just do that right and then they start working on this list one at a time right like doing these little manipulative you know quirky things where they're like oh you know and they like hang out with them and they they try the whole like you know I'm gonna frame them into it and then they try like you know for the next one they try to do like a um I'm gonna shame them into it right like you're such a bad man if you don't do that and then they you know and this other one they try to you know tell this story and then they're like what do you think well you don't think that this you know there's one thing that I want you to start doing tomorrow so start doing it now right and um uh you know question is do you want to go through that um do you want to be in a space where you're trying to turn them into a masculine man if that's what you want you know and and are you okay with him being a feminine man right and and uh you know we kind of talk about feminine masculine dynamics here and a lot of times we talk about men in terms of being masculine right and what they're attracted to with this feminine thing but we only talk about that because the most of the women that come to us are looking for masculine men we're not talking about that because um all men are masculine right all men are not masculine and some men are feminine I have uh some really good friends who are guys who are feminine very feminine guys and it's okay you know and they're confident and um well some of them are some of them are and um you know I have good friends who have gotten married to women they're feminine guys and the women are masculine women right and it works for both of them they like it you know the guy like is like oh my god I love it when she bosses me around and tells me what to do you know and uh you know he's just into that he's into her being kind of the masculine figure in their relationship and and so that's kind of the first thing you need to figure out is is are you okay with you know potentially being the masculine figure in the relationship because you might end up being that way you know there is a possibility that he might switch right he might shift he might kind of step into his masculine space it's it's kind of a hard thing for a lot of guys because so many guys these days are like living with their parents until they're you know 30 or 40 or something like that and so a lot of times it's hard for them because they they aren't used to needing to take a role where they have responsibility and they're taking care of things and they're fixing stuff and they're you know having nice good jobs and you know doing things that a normal masculine guy would need to do who had left their home or had been put given a lot of responsibility early on in their life right and so um a lot of times those guys uh you know they might be resistant to being masculine because they they've been stuck in kind of these things where they've just gotten their everything taken full care of for them for such a long period of time um and it's like okay so do you want to be in a situation with a guy who's like that right and um uh you know and there is a shift that a guy can make right like a guy can kind of shift into his masculine and we've seen it we were talking to somebody about it on one of our other live streams where this woman kind of uh met this guy who was kind of in his feminine and she was kind of in her masculine and she did a shift into her feminine and it caused him to shift into his masculine right and they actually are much happier now that she's in her feminine and he's in his masculine and it's just it's something that can happen but will it i don't know it depends on him it depends on you it depends on a lot of different things and so um you know you can try that method if you want to be the feminine figure in your relationship a lot of women feel like they get really stressed out if they're in their masculine all the time and they're um kind of expected to be in their masculine which happens a lot especially these days with women who are working all the time which is a lot of women um and so you know what what is it that you want you know what are you trying to get here um is it okay that he's a feminine energy guy for you and if it's not okay um are you okay uh you know taking uh can he shift is he in a space where he wants to shift or it's okay for him to shift um and if it's not are you willing to be the masculine force and if you're not then you know it just it kind of depends it depends on the situation it depends on what's going on with you it depends on the guy it depends on what you want it's it depends on what you're okay with so did you want to say anything about that yeah did i totally agree we just i have had clients i've just seen it happen over and over and over again they they're the guy's feminine energy the woman doesn't know what to do she makes a shift into her feminine energy and he steps up and it's like this magical shift that happens um doesn't happen for everybody but i've seen it happen over and over and over again the only way to know if he's even capable of that or if he wants that is for you to stop doing all of the masculine energy things lean back into your feminine energy that's just not to make him do something but to see if he's even capable and wanting that and if and i do want to mention if you want it the other way around most women want a masculine man who knows what he wants and moves things forward you know if you want to try it the other way around you can do that but you can't have a both ways you can't be the masculine force in the relationship and expect a guy to do the all the masculine things like cherish your feelings and take them into account that would be you doing that towards him if it were switched so you can't have it both ways i know i would suggest you know trying to if you want to see if he's capable of stepping up trying to um trying to do that leaning back i can help you personally with that absolutely and seeing what he does but yeah you can't you can't have both way you can't be the masculine force in the relationship and expect that from him as well because deep down most women well pretty much every woman i talk to wants a masculine energy man um so yeah that's what i have to say about that all right let's um let's go on to questions here we've got chaotic kim great name great name kim um so how do you get a guide to stop dumping his problems on you or how do you avoid playing the therapist role i've fallen to into this trap in the past that's part one for question did you uh that's exactly what i used to do too my background like i have a master's in psychology so i'm like naturally just wanting to help people it's and i would do that with men in my past and and i totally get that tendency to want to like you know fix them and solve their problems and and while a man might like that it does nothing for romance it does nothing for his feelings of attraction or connection to you because that's a masculine energy thing right solving things fixing things um you know working on problems figuring things out so yeah doing all of that and if a man starts to like unload his problems on on you just listening to him just really listening to him like oh wow you know that must feel and you know express a feeling there use your feminine energy language without jumping into that role of trying to fix things and see what happens that's the short answer um i can give you weight if i knew more about your exact situation i could give you i know specific scripts but in general yeah once you you can really listen to him and be there for him be there with him um but when you stop jumping into that role just trying it you he might he might stop he might stop sharing so much it just it depends on the situation that what do you have to say about that well they call it the the uh what is it the broken broken baby bird syndrome you know where you find a guy and he's he's you know a little bird and he's his wing is broken and you come in you're like oh let me fix that wing for you you know and then you like you know nurse him back to you know the idea is that you're going to nurse him into being this big you know strong healthy bird right um but that's usually not what ends up happening what ends up happening is he has this never ending list of issues that you know he ends up dumping on to you and and using you as this therapist for and um you know you just have to not get into that frame you have to not get into the frame of being this therapist right not getting into this frame of trying to nurse this broken baby bird back to health and instead um you know understand what the roles are that you want to have in a man's life right so uh you know what what frames do you want to come from what roles do you want to have when you're dating and seeing a man in a relationship with a man and if um there's a role that you don't want to be in don't get into that role right and a guy will see you and if he starts talking to you and you're like i'm not jumping into that role and he's trying to get you into it then eventually he's either going to stop doing what he did or he's going to walk away and be like okay well i'm going to find somebody that's gonna you know try to be my therapist and so just don't just don't get into the role yeah just like we were saying before when you go through these three steps you know do and do some of the work and and uh the right people will will step up and come closer the wrong people tend to fade away you don't have to like micromanage it okay so um angel angel says uh why is it that when i have interest in a man i can't just show that interest if i do he runs away do i really have to play the game to get ahead with someone uh they get interest when i am done great question great i'm so glad you asked that question yeah it's a common misconception that we get all the time like oh well you're supposed to just pretend that you don't care and that could not be further from the truth i believe showing interest is crucial and super important and you want to show interest you want to be open and receptive to a man and respond to him and say yes when he when he pursues you if that feels good to you um it's the way you're doing it that might be pushing them away um you don't want to fall there's a difference between showing interest and accidentally chasing a man on even on those subtle levels so that might be something that's going on that what do you think about that oh it's yeah 100 percent it's it's how you're doing it there's no doubt about it there's 100 percent it's how you're doing it and so what you're doing when you are quote and unquote showing interest is not actually just quote and unquote showing interest what you're doing is something else and it's a lot more than what you think it is which is probably what the problem is so a woman might be like oh well i was just showing him interest and you say oh well how were you just showing him interest and she's like oh well you know i bought him a bunch of flowers then i took him out to dinner and i you know got him a bunch of gifts and stuff and you're like oh yeah it sounds like you were um you know trying to take over the masculine force and the relationship or yeah i mean who know it might not be that extreme obviously but a lot of times what ends up happening is women just they you know they don't even know that they're doing it but they're they're because it it's become kind of this natural thing you know we live in a society right now where more women are masculine than ever before we are living in a society right now where more men are living in their feminine than ever before and they don't necessarily want to be in those spots but we're kind of socializing and kind of forcing people into these roles you know we're kind of forcing women into these masculine roles and we're kind of forcing men into these feminine roles and it's just you know it's it's kind of a um it's a product of our the way that we're treating people in our society and so a lot of times guys you know when i was doing the men's dating side it was i get that a lot right where guys were they didn't get that they were acting really they didn't know you know like a lot of women think that men just know what they're supposed to be doing right like oh well he should be investing in me he should be asking me about these things he should be approaching me he should be you know doing all these different things guys don't know that you know i know there's some um i was talking to another dating coach who was saying that guys just you know guys just know that you know that when you're growing up i'm like nobody taught me any of this stuff right i remember coming into the um the world when i was a uh you know a teenager and being like uh how do i connect with a woman right i didn't know i had to approach them you know i um had gotten all this feminist literature about uh how you know like oh you know you shouldn't you know do that you shouldn't you know it's coming off you know too much women don't want you to do that and i didn't know that women did want me to do those things they did want me to approach them they did want me to kind of take the lead and do all these things i was just being told by a lot of people that they didn't and uh so it's it's really confusing a lot of people are really really confused right now about what to do and that's one of the things that we're here for is we're here to help break through the confusion and um you know like Helena was talking about earlier if you want if you want personalized one-on-one help we're here for it i you know go down and click the button in the description below and Helena will find out if uh you guys are a good match for um working together so uh oh did i just bogart that is it your turn did you want to talk about this oh no you talked about it first okay that's right all right let's go back into some of these wow we got a bunch of comments um okay so we've got uh oh kata kim part two was saying i feel like men try to impress the women they really like and when a guy does this i think he's put me in the non-serious category um i'm not are you saying that when a guy tries to impress you you think he's put you in a non-serious category i don't i'm not sure what she's asking or saying right there um okay yeah do you know what she's saying oh well no but i can give you if he's trying to impress you that's a great thing and and that's good men who are interested in you are going to try to impress you they're going to try to list out all their things they can do and kind of list off their resume and it's a great thing um what you don't want to do is just try to like jump in and go toe to toe with him and and tell him all these amazing things about yourself you want to like lean back let him impress you let him win you over it's a really amazing thing if he's trying to impress other women if that's your question um yes that could indicate that he's he hasn't he's not pursuing you he's interested in someone else yeah i don't i'm not exactly sure what she's saying so we have karen here and she says my current boyfriend is hot and cold he'll distance himself and then when i lean back in my uh she said when she leans back in her feminism i think she what she meant was her feminine um he he all of a sudden is drawn towards again it drives me crazy as i want text messages and him reaching out during the work week yeah so yeah oh gosh i am so familiar with this type of man this is the kind of men i used to attract so if you're interested i would love to talk with you personally about this but generally speaking you know it depends on the you know we all have a certain amount of uh intimacy and closeness that we can tolerate and some men run hot and cold quite often they get close and it feels great and then it's too much for him and then he has to back off because you know if a man can tolerate like that much intimacy but you can tolerate more intimacy it's a mismatch there so it could be that he's not the right man for you it could be what you're doing when he does come close or when he does back off that's that's um messing with the energy exchange a little bit could be anything but in general um for some men that's a pattern that they repeat over and over and over with every woman they get close to and it has nothing to do with you and it's certainly not your fault it might just be a mismatch in terms of how much closeness and intimacy you can tolerate or there may be some things that you can do that will bring him closer and um make it so he doesn't back off for such long periods of time so yeah i would love to talk with you about your your situation yeah so uh littlest v-log says being feminine is about unlearning things we have been taught as women and just being ourselves which is hard because it leaves us vulnerable wow i could sit here and talk about this for hours um yeah i mean it there's there's a lot of socializing going on right now there's a lot of people uh we're just learning things that are not healthy for us you know if we want to be in great relationships with each other and uh it's i think it's part of a process you know i think we're going to go into this space where we spend a lot of time kind of in broken relationships and hurting each other and not figuring out what we want and then we're going to come back into a space where i think collectively we're going to start figuring this stuff out and i i see it i see it on the horizon so um yeah did you did you want to say anything about that oh just that i agree yeah it's it is scary because what happens when you when you lean back into your i was just having a coaching call yesterday with somebody who's you you stopped doing all those things that push men away you lean back into your feminine energy what happens is feelings will start to come up because a lot of times we are over functioning and leaning forward and stepping into that uh over functioning or masculine role to actually avoid what we're feeling so when we stop doing all those things feelings start to come up and it leaves us feeling vulnerable and insecure absolutely it's like you know i i had no problem leaning back and letting the man take the lead but in my past it's like i didn't want to then open up i felt this like every time i felt vulnerable i wanted to just shut myself down emotionally and i and everyone i think can relate to that so yeah this my work is about um opening yourself up in baby steps so you don't shock your system and trigger your defenses and and cause yourself to want to shut back down um so i can totally help you with that if that's something you want to work on it's deep stuff right there deep stuff um yeah and again if you don't know if you didn't hear me last time there's a link in the description below you can sign up for uh helenus coaching program and talk to her about whether it's a good fit for you guys or not so go check that out so double g hideout double g hideout says how can you get him to offer to help you it's a good question it kind of depends on you know what the situation is um it are you in situations where you need help with something are you trying to create situations for him to help you with something are you asking him to help you with something are you not asking him to you know help you with something there's a lot of it's a lot of questions there's a lot of questions that i have for for you double g hideout i have questions for you um Did you, did you feel anything there that I didn't see? I thought that would be something that you have so much to say about, but yeah, I mean there are ways to, it depends if he's gone distant and pulled away and you're trying to lead forward and have him help you with something as a way to try to get him to come back. Obviously, it works best if his energy is coming towards you already, but yeah, there are ways to invite him, like be an invitation, you know, maybe start small with asking his opinion or his advice on something, you know, and then, and then go with bigger and bigger kind of tasks as you start to, you know, then he will, you know, once he offers you advice, you really listen to it, take it to heart, reinforce him, show a lot of acknowledgement and appreciation. It's like reinforcing his approximations towards whatever it is you want him to help you with. If I knew more about your situation, I could give you, you know, specific scripts, like exactly what to say, but I mean, Matt, do you have any advice for her, just generally speaking? Well, I mean, it's, you know, we could do a whole live stream on that, to be honest. So, I mean, we'd have to know more about what's going on. Yeah, it's hard when we don't know the specifics. All right. So Sharon Tumpeo says, how to stop being manipulated by a man? I could tell he gets hurt, or he gets what he wants. Sorry. So how to stop being manipulated by a man? I could tell he gets what he wants when he wants. How do I turn the tables or stop this behavior from him? Could I have more tips on being feminine? Those are, yeah, again, big topics. But yeah, you know, one of the thing I'd say is, you know, what is it that you want, right? What is it that you're actually wanting? Like, why do you want to, quote, none, quote, turn the tables on him? You know, I could get seeing why you'd want to stop the behavior. It kind of depends on what kind of behavior is going on with him. You know, it's like I said, it's a big topic. We could sit here and talk about it. And we kind of need to know a little bit more about what behavior he's actually doing, you know, like, okay, he gets what he wants. How does he get what he wants? You know, how is he being manipulative? You know, how do you turn the tables? It depends on what you want. Do you really want to turn the tables? Like, why is that? Is that because you have some kind of desire to get back at him? Or is it because you, you just want him to stop doing it and you actually want a good, you know, healthy relationship? So it just kind of depends. And then the, yeah, go ahead. So great. You were going to answer the second part. Go ahead. I was just going to say tips on being feminine. I mean, we've got, we've got a whole, we actually do have a whole live stream on being feminine on our channel. So if you go to our channel and check out that, it's a whole live stream on that. Yes, it's, we have shorter videos too. What are they called? One is called like, what is feminine energy? One is how to be more feminine. You just search our videos for feminine energy or feminine magnetism. There's so many we could, you know, we get a lot of like really specific how-tos and examples. In terms of your first question, I've really found that we, I mean, again, just generally speaking without knowing the specifics of your situation, we kind of like hand people a script of how to treat us by what you're willing to accept. So if you're accepting, you know, step three of what we, you know, what I talked about today, start behaving in a way that's congruent with the belief that you deserve a great man and a great relationship. So that looks like not tolerating bad treatment. If a man is not treating you well, or if he's playing games or flaking on you, whatever he's doing, and you, you know, you might get mad for a little while, but you just, you still accept whatever it is because you're allowing him to continue to do those things. It's your, your kind of handing him this script of it's okay to do whatever you're doing. I might get mad for a little while, but eventually it's fine. I'll let you back in my life. And it depends on how extreme it is. But yeah, you don't want to tolerate bad behavior, you know, or anything that doesn't feel good to you. So that might include rejecting the whole deal completely and, and walking away. It just depends on the situation. Yeah, she said that he's playing hot and cold. And so yeah, I mean, really, it's about one of the, one of the ways is having boundaries, making sure that you know what you want, you know what you want to believe is acceptable in your life, and making sure that you set boundaries and stick to them, the, you know, what it is that you actually want to have and what you want to experience. And so if he's, you know, going away and coming back, and you know, it might, and it's really interesting because a lot of times we'll talk to women in our community and on our channels and stuff where they'll have these different situations that are going on with a guy, right? And they think that a lot of times they're immediate assumptions as they jump to these things like, Oh, well, this man is narcissistic, or, Oh, this man is playing hot and cold, or he's being manipulative, or, you know, he's doing all these different things. And a lot of times the guy doesn't see it that way, right? A lot of times the guy is just doing whatever he's doing. And then he comes to you and you're all like, Oh, he's you're being manipulative, right? And he's all like, What are you talking about? You know, because he doesn't get it because he's just doing what he does. And so, you know, one of the things that solves a lot of these problems, instead of like trying to find some new tactics or new techniques or something to kind of fix things, right? Or get him to stop doing this or get him to start doing this is to just communicate, right? Just talk to the guy and figure out what's going on with him, right? Which seems to be something that a lot of times the women in our community don't do. And it's so basic and it's so important and so foundational and fundamental to having a good relationship. And a lot of times, you know, all this stuff, what you'll find is a lot of times guys are most of the time actually the overwhelming majority of time men have good intentions, right? And they they want the best for themselves. They want the best for you. They want the best for the two of you. And just communicating and finding out what's going on with him and talking to him and having a real conversation about it will open things up. And all of a sudden you'll realize, Oh, well, this is what's been going on, you know, and, um, you know, and then you get to decide whether it's something that you want and whether you need to have boundaries and, and whether just communicating with him is enough or whether there's other things going on that you need. And so a lot of times it's really just about talking to a guy. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, I just want to mention if you can hook up your feelings of chemistry and attraction to when a man is acting loving and wonderful and coming towards you and giving you what you want, then you've really got something so much of the time when a man acts hot and cold or he pulls away at like stirs something up in us and causes us to want to lean forward and make him do what we want. And if that's something that if that's a pattern anyone has going on, I know I certainly did. You really want to turn that around. Yeah. So, um, Fiona says nice hair, Matt. Thank you. Appreciate it. Why do people play games with each with relationships? Can't we just be real with one another? Yeah. Yeah. It's a good question, Donna. Why do people play? Why do people play games in relationships? Why? What do you think? Why do people play games in relationships? Could be anything. It could come from a deep belief that you're not just being yourself and being authentic. If a man or a woman if you know we both do this where to see who you truly are that you wouldn't really get what you want. So they might think that you have to kind of manipulate the way the other person sees you or play games in order to truly get what you want. You know, if you have beliefs that you're not worthy or who you are isn't enough. I mean, it could be it could be anything really. Yeah, and a lot of times it's not intentional. Right? It's not like they're like, okay, I'm going to play games with this person and mess with their head. And that's that's one of the things that I learned when I came from kind of the men side, right? Because it was like, on the men side, it's the exact same thing going on there, right? They're like, oh, women are trying to play games with me all the time, you know, and they're always trying to mess with my head and they're always trying to do this and they're, you know, doing that and some women do, right? Just like some men do. And because usually they're coming from a space of as a human being, I'm not really worthy of that person. I'm not really good enough to be in that person's life and for them to and there's good reason for that, you know, I get it, you know, I've been there, you know, we were talking about it on the on our group community forum the other day, where, you know, a lot of times good men right, like that was the question was like, where are all the good men like there are no good men, men don't do the inner work. Men don't, you know, become confident and doing all this stuff. And the truth is, is that most people don't do the work, right? And the reality is, is that there are lots of people that have done the work. I mean, you know, tens of millions, maybe more, who have actually spent a lot of time working on themselves, developing themselves, you know, becoming more confident and learning about life doing doing all these things that people think of when they think of like doing the work, right? And even doing all that work, I was talking about a friend of mine who was a client originally originally he was a client of mine back about 13 years ago, when I was in the men's space. And he I was hanging out with him a couple weeks ago in DC. And you know, he's a great guy. When I met him, he was a great guy, you know, and he had he had to get he was a Marine Corps helicopter pilot, right? tall guy, you know, dresses really well, is just a really cool dude. He's got strong Catholic upbringing and very strong values, right? And all that kind of stuff and really just a really great guy cool to hang out with great. A lot of things, you know, he's just good, couldn't get a date to save his life, right? Couldn't get a girl interested in him to save his life, right? He would try over and over and over again, couldn't couldn't just get that woman to feel anything for him, right? And so it's like, okay, well, what do you do? You're a great man, you do great things, you're, you know, a good person, you have great values. But, you know, the opposite sex when we talk about the way that people are dating right now, when you go and meet a guy, you don't go, Oh, is he a great man or not? Right? Does he have good values and all this other stuff? What most women do is they go, How do I feel around him? Right? Does he make me laugh? Do I giggle? Do I get butterflies thinking about him? Does he, you know, seem amazing to me? Right? And so being a great man in terms of dating, like getting a woman hooked on you for a guy doesn't mean anything. Right? You can be a great man, have it completely together, have a great job, you know, all that kind of stuff. And you won't get a woman attracted to you at all. Because it's it there's other things that you have to work on in the men's dating space. It's this huge journey that we take guys through where they, you know, learn about social skills, they build their confidence, they get their lives together, find what they're passionate about, you know, go and, you know, get into a field where they're passionate about it or, or get a hobby that they are really passionate about, they go and, you know, they do a lot of different things, they have to build their social skills, their, their conversational skills. Because a lot of times these great guys don't have conversational skills. And if you don't have great conversational skills when it comes to women, it's really hard because there's all these players that are running around, hooking up with women, which is why you see all these women going, why are all the men out there players? Well, it's, it's just that the players know what they're doing, right? And they know how to hook you, they know how to approach. And when they approach, they're good at it, you know, and they know how to connect with your emotions and make you feel different things, right? And you get hooked on that guy and then you go, Oh, why, why can't he be a good man? Where are all the great men? Because I just keep falling for these players over and over and over again. While there's a whole bunch of great men out there that have no idea how to connect with women, right? And, and so there's this big disconnect, right? And so a lot of guys learn how to play games, they learn how to, you know, do all kinds of things because they're like, I can't get a woman if I don't play games, even though I'm a great man, you know, and so it's, it's a really painful thing in the men's dating space, actually. And it's a big issue of frustration for why guys do play games, right? If they are playing them in intent intentionally, which they don't always. But if they do, it could be that. Did you want to say anything about I totally went on a rant there? Just that there are so many, oh my gosh, if I could, yeah, the one thing to like leave you with there's so many great guys out there. And a lot of times women just aren't seeing them if they don't have that like framework in their brain yet. But one of the most common things that I hear from with new clients that they're like shocked or like I cannot believe how many great guys are out there. And the problem becomes like how to choose among them truly, like I have just heard that countless times. So I believe that there's so many great guys out there who want to be loyal and faithful and and would be thrilled to just have a have a woman, you know, by his side, there's so many, so many good guys like that out there, I believe. Absolutely, there are there's tons and tons and tons of good guys out there. And the question is, are you allowing them into your life? Or are or are you, you know, looking are you looking for the right things? Are you going to the right places? Are you allowing the right men into your life? Or you're allowing the wrong men into your life? And what are what are you allowing into your life? And and have you consciously thought about who you're allowing into your life or do you just allow people into your life? It's something that a lot of people don't think about. So we're kind of over here on time. So we're gonna end here. Again, I just want to say that if you want to, if you're interested in Helena's coaching program, there's a link in the description, go down there and click on the link, there's an application you can fill out and talk with Helena if that's something that you're interested in. And other than that, you know, thank you so much for being here with us on this live stream. You are definitely the best part of our community and we love you guys so much. And we love you coming to our live streams and being a part of our community and just being here with us and allowing us to do what it is that we do. So thank you so much for being here. And I hope that we provided a lot of value for you. Is there something you want to say, Helena? Oh, yeah, just thanks for staying. I don't even know if anyone is still watching this. Thanks for Yeah, we've got 133 people. Oh, my gosh. Okay, thank you guys so much. We just love you. We just we couldn't do any of this without you. We love connecting with you guys and and I would love to personally get to know you and work with you on your situation. So yes, fill out an application if this is something you're interested in. I'd love to talk with you. All right. Yep. So that's it. Thank you, everybody. And, you know, make sure that you leave a like on our on our live stream here and leave a comment and we will speak with you again soon.