 Do this To make the narcissist Crawl back to you. I know a lot of you you've been involved with these narcissists and you're just thinking to yourself What is going on? What is happening with them? Because a lot of times you just don't understand it You don't know what is going on in their heads It's like a lot of the things they do it just doesn't make any sense And that of course is how you find my videos It's like one minute. They were love bombing you and they were so into you. They wanted to know all these things about you It seemed like they were trying to build trying to develop something with you I then all of a sudden they started devaluing you and Then they discarded you and that is the sign that is how you already know that yes It was just love bombing. It was manipulation because normal people We can fully connect We don't just connect Halfway and then discard someone we don't do that. But of course that is what narcissists do they Can't fully connect to you or anyone else And because of that they can't fully detach as well, which is why they often become stalkers But if you're watching this video You're experiencing something else The narcissist Has discarded you and it seems like they're not coming back. It seems like they've moved on to something else Well, that typically means that you could be dealing with the player type of narcissist the one that has Multiple sources or supply They've got a lot of other people on the side. It's not just you So they may be given their attention to other things things that you may be unaware of You've been giving them all of your attention You've been focusing on them They became like the number one priority in your life You were constantly blowing up their phone texting them calling them Trying to make plans trying to see them again You were doing all of these things. I know And then it's like they just left you they stopped responding to you and now you want to know how can I get this person? To come crawling back to me and it's really quite simple. All you've got to do is the opposite of What you've been doing It's really that simple because if you've been doing something you've been texting and calling them You've been giving them all of your attention Now that's not working Then that should tell you you need to stop you need to do the opposite Stop giving them all of your attention Stop texting them all of the time stop calling them Stop trying to make plans And instead focus on something else something that should be more important to you in your life Go within Reflect Heal Because when you start to do that. Yes, they will notice They are predators they can sense your energy Like a shark can smell blood So they know when you have detached from them They recognize it immediately And a lot of times even though they may have these other sources of supply When they notice and they detect that you have detached from them They will Come crawling back to you Yes, they will do that Unless it's the more psychopathic type narcissists The ones who just don't really care at all It's like they have No fear It can appear at times as though they don't really want or need anything From anyone And they may even spend a lot of their time alone. They may not even be entertaining other sources of supply And these types of narcissists they are often CEOs they're in management positions And it's like they just don't need anything from you And to be honest if you're dealing with someone like that You shouldn't need anything from them Because you're not going to get what you want Even with a regular type narcissist, you're not going to get what you want from them as well So the best thing you can do Instead of focusing on how can I make this person crawl back to me All you need to do is go within yourself and self-reflect Because when you do that Then you will feel stronger and more empowered in yourself These types of people They do enjoy the game they like playing this game of cat and mouse or sometimes it's like a game of chess Where they do everything they can everything in their power to get you to focus on them So that you lose your sense of self. You don't know who you are And then by doing that you have nothing going on in your life. You're just focused on them You're focused on whatever you think they want to see from you Whatever you think is going to get their attention Or they love it when you play that game because as soon as you do that They're already getting exactly what they want from you. Anyway, they're getting supply. They're getting your attention your validation So now they don't need anything from you, which is why the best thing that you can do is pull back Stop giving your value your power away And use it to strengthen and empower yourself I know exactly what it's like. I've been there not recently a long time ago Well, you've just given all of your attention away to this person Who you may love or think you love and think you want to be with But they're not spending too much time with you. They're not calling you back. They're not responding to your messages And you don't know where where they are what they're doing or who they're with And you're just constantly messaging them constantly calling them And you're not getting anything back in return But you keep doing more. It's like they put you on this hamster wheel where you're constantly trying to please them Constantly trying to make them happy But doing more and more. No, it's never going to be enough You will never be enough for them They're never going to be happy with you You're always going to be in a position where you feel like you have to do more And it's always going to be like that Which is why the best thing you can do to save your sense of self and Your happiness Is to just pull back Stop giving it all away Because clearly you should have realized by now that it isn't working It's not doing anything for you You're just giving them supply And as we know that's all they really want anyway They see us as objects. They don't see us as separate people with our own feelings and needs And that is why you always feeling invalidated you never get your needs met Because they just see you as this object This object that exists to meet their needs And this is what you need to understand Because even if you do as I've mentioned in this video As you've managed to get the narcissist to crawl back to you You're never actually going to get what you want anyway You're never going to get that connection that intimacy That feeling of being loved Wanted As so someone genuinely wants to be with you Because they see you as a separate person They recognize your individuality and They desire to give to share Something with you Instead of just coming around you to take something away But yes, that is all that these narcissists will do It's never Going to be a mutual exchange All you're gonna get Is more manipulation Which they will use to get you to attach to control you Because yes, they recognize that We can form healthy attachments But that doesn't do anything for them That doesn't do anything for them at all Which you can see in their behavior. It's the reason why they Always cut you off. They don't respond to your messages. They don't answer your phone calls They don't want to meet up. They don't want to do anything with you anymore And they begin to devalue you Because they cannot form Healthy attachments But I know I understand It keeps you chasing after them when you see it looks like they move it on And they will use this Intentionally to get your attention and make you chase after them even more They will post pictures on social media Or they will go to places where you know where they know you're going to be With their new supply so that you see them and they confront them So then it makes you think You experience cognitive dissonance Where you're thinking, hold on I thought they couldn't form healthy attachments They can't experience love or intimacy So what's this over here? How come I see them with their new supply And maybe they're hugging they're kissing it looks like they're happy together They're doing all of these things they never did with you It makes you feel like you're the problem. I know I've been there But it isn't you at all They are intentionally orchestrating this situation To Make you feel like you're missing something with them That's all that that is And That's just to make you crawl back to them It's still a part of the manipulation. It isn't real And as I've said before I mean, I know I have to repeat myself. I have to drive this home You're only ever going to get manipulation From a narcissist. It doesn't matter what it is whether it's the love bomb The devaluation the discard the hoovering the triangulation Smear campaign stalking harassment whatever it is All of it Is manipulation All of it is an illusion and That is all you're ever going to get from them And you've only got to look back at the past what you've been through already To recognize that Because just think about all of the things you've done for them Think about all of the time you spent with them and what have you got? You didn't get anything out of it They didn't intentionally give anything to you But in fact, you have got something you've gained a lot of Wisdom knowledge and experience Which is really great because Now you can take that And bring it with you into the next situation So that you don't make the same mistake again You don't fall for someone's manipulation love bombing And then maybe you will actually Find and develop something for real Because nothing is real with narcissists It really isn't They've got so many masks They've got a mask for you they've got a mask for someone else It's all tailor-made to whoever they're dealing with Which is why when you see them move on it looks like Finally this is something real It's not they've just tailor-made another character for someone else And yes the characters can change slightly They can be Whatever you want them to be Whatever they think will get your attention and that could be something good or something bad But one thing And I can guarantee you there's one thing they will never be Is real And that is why nothing will ever develop With you and them And nothing will ever develop with them and someone else It may look like it is in the beginning as it was with you Check back in with them after a few months See how things are going then I can guarantee you that it will fall apart Thank you for watching I hope you enjoyed this video and I hope it was helpful If it was you can give it a thumbs up down below to support our community There will be many more videos soon Share it Hit that subscribe button down below And for one-on-one coaching You can book a session with me on my website Where you will find all of the prices and information on there It is Narcseviver.co.uk And check out my Instagram as well. 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