 Well, hello there, my beautiful lovely internet friends. Welcome back to my channel. My nubbin on the table is not like a gimmick This is genuinely how I sit whenever I have something in front of me because it relieves a lot of pressure from my hips for whatever reason So this is what we're working with today first and foremost the main topic of today's video is a pretty heavy one Check the description down below for a content warning. This is a topic I'm very passionate about and I believe needs to be spoken about but it's not gonna be for everyone and has the possibility of making your day a little more gloomy but secondly I have a very large announcement a project that I have been working on for months in the background with one of my good friends that I am So excited to finally introduce to you to finally show you guys to get you involved No, it's not merch or anything you're buying or anything like that all the details are at the end if you're interested What we're talking about today is a bit of a blast to the past not many of you know this But when I first started on YouTube, it was not Footless Joe It was a channel called Trauma Talk where I talked about figuring out how to live again dealing with PTSD after a number of sexual assaults that occurred to me how that sort of fractured who I was and the Process of like coming alive again and figuring out how to live But the way that our society deals with subjects like sexual assault Still has a lot of really big problems in it And I don't think that there is a better way to possibly illustrate that than the way that a very large and well-known YouTube creator Responded to the allegations of a lot of people saying that Russell Brand had assaulted or used them So you may be familiar with this creator's face if you also spend maybe too much time on the internet Just pearly things I have been aware of Hannah for quite some time You may know her for hits such as women are too stupid to vote Maybe she just said women shouldn't vote. I'll fact-check myself on that one She's like the anti-feminist of social media and has just found a way to make money by pandering to a very specific Community of men online doesn't matter if I think that's sincere or not Her words still matter because she has millions of viewers tuning in to listen to her here are some highlights from her interview on Pierce Morgan super big name This is all very mainstream and also from her podcast about the allegations against Russell Brand Russell Brand has had a ton of accusers come out against him and it's always the same thing It's like ten years later these chicks that had consensual relationships Convince themselves that they were I mean, I'll give you guys like Six months to report it. If you don't report it within six months. I where is the confusion? How do you not know if you were assaulted? What that means is feminists got in their ear and convinced them that it was Well, and you're telling me that a guy that has women throwing themselves at him 24-7 had to rip somebody that doesn't make sense to me. Well, I don't think the thing that she said That that made my blood pressure spike and decide to do this video was the whole I'll give you six months I mean, I'll give you guys like six months. Okay, I'll give you six months. Well. Thank you so much for your generous Time-offer pearl. That's not how this stuff works, unfortunately the first thing that becomes abundantly clear is that pearl has a great deal of ignorance on the topic of victims of sexual assault and abuse it is Incredibly common for it to even take years before a victim of this type of crime Comes forward even to like trusted people in their lives about what has occurred let alone authorities the reporting rate for sexual crimes Is very low and it is very common for it to come years and years later now in the vast Majority of cases. This is not because someone has been convinced or they talked themselves into no something really did happen I should totally ruin my life by bringing this public accusation forward I should totally re-traumatize myself and Absolutely destroy my life by bringing this thing forward and being publicly crucified for it It's because oftentimes it takes our brains that long to understand what has actually occurred So I'm gonna be sharing some of my own personal experience in this when I was I did report It two weeks later my experience with our legal system Was very traumatic no justice was served coming forward to the police was a very bad experience for me It took me two weeks of being in shock and being like there But there's no way this person that I love that I care about that I've spent almost a year of my life with There's no way that they would actually do that like that couldn't that couldn't happen to me there This is a misunderstanding. I'm overdramatic. I'm overreacting. Hi, it's editing Joe here quick note One of the biggest factors in my head for not coming forward sooner was also that I didn't want to ruin his life Yes, you know, he did this thing against me, but I don't want to ruin his life over it There was a lot of motivation to protect this person that I loved and cared about even though they did this atrocious thing And that's also a really common response It took me two weeks to come forward go to the police start that process And then it was a process of years of therapy to work through that to understand that there was still so much There's no way that could have really happened right because it is so mind-blowing that that kind of a violation can occur and additionally realizing that someone can truly Take control of you that that kind of violation can occur it can oftentimes be easier for our brains to believe Hey, that was my fault. I misunderstood. I did something wrong Yeah, this horrific thing happened and everything in my body says that wasn't good, but it's not that big of a deal I forget if I've ever actually talked about this publicly or not. So here we go That was not the first time that had occurred to me There was another time and that was never reported to police because it took me seven years talking about this kind of stuff of speaking about it publicly of being invited to give speeches places about Surviving so it took me seven years of being in therapy to work through something else to realize that yeah I did say no and no and no and no and then eventually I just shut up But I'm sure that was like that was giving consent because I didn't like keep saying no I just shut up like I had all of the pieces in front of me knowing I said no verbally many times and then just going numb and dead And cold and silent that's not consent and I know that I would never think that is consent for somebody else But I could not believe that that is what had really occurred that that was the level of violation that that was also If you do any research at all you will find the majority of the time It takes people a long time to come forward because of how our brains respond to trauma I'm gonna put some resources in the description down below so you can continue to do your own research on this and hey Pearl if you're seeing this video I would love it if you check out those resources so you can be more informed and giving your opinions to your millions of followers and perhaps Not spreading super harmful misinformation the second thing my blood pressure was already spiked at this point But but the second thing that she said that kind of sent me over the edge was you know these men are rich and powerful They don't need to anybody women are throwing themselves at them all the time You know it's such a trope It's such a trope now for women to come forward years after the fact and accuse these poor poor innocent people of these things Does that happen? Yes, absolutely that has occurred. Does that happen commonly? No, absolutely It does not please go look at the research and statistics the idea that this kind of crime that sexual violation is about sex It's understandable that someone would come to that conclusion right like that's the point of the crime Except that it's not sexual assault is not Primarily about sexual gratification. It is about power and control these men don't need to take sex from anyone You know they could they could have anyone that they want It's a very ignorant statement to make because it is common for people in positions of power and authority Unfortunately to weaponize that power and control we just start to see this trope too many times where men that are rich and famous Get women that falsely accuse them of Stuff that happened years ago, and it all and it just seems like a bitter X And it's not a trope that women and let's be really clear on this people in general because this is not a gendered issue Yes statistically more women experience Cool crimes than men do but if you look into it The numbers are not that different and it is even harder for men to come forward about this kind of stuff Which breaks my heart because knowing what it was like as a woman It was horrific if anything it's like an exhausting old story that it's people in power who continue to take advantage of people What that means is feminists got in their ear and convinced them that it was assault They've expanded the definition of all of these words to make them subjective for example abuse is now emotional abuse now There's financial abuse, so they expand the definition so much that we don't even know What it is anymore like I said Pearl is kind of like the anti-feminist So it does not surprise me that she's bringing up feminism as the reason why people are convincing themselves that they were I think that is a very ignorant way of looking at things but throughout the rest of the video She talks about you know feminists have made up things like emotional abuse and made up things like financial abuse You do know those are real things right those are things that occur we have words for them now She talks about you know abuse used to be when a man would hit a woman and now it's all these other Yes, it is all of these other things because there's not just one form of abuse There's not one way that always occurs it is nuanced and I don't I don't think that that is that radical of a concept to understand When I hear people who don't seem to know what they're talking about talking about victims of soul They seem to think that that person who has been victimized should behave as if they are someone Who has not just underwent trauma there are changes in your brain that occur There are neurological physiological things that happen when you experience severe trauma like this and so often the Expectation that is placed on victims is to behave in a very specific rational logical Normal way when you have gone through something like this it changes you there are parts of you that just shut down when you talk about physical violation of physical violence of this magnitude it is such an outdated and Willfully ignorant position to take well that if it really happened He would just come forward to the police and he would just say it immediately and he would seek help because we know from years Understanding how this works that is not how this works You're not gonna think and behave in the same way as someone who hasn't experienced those things I feel like that is a pretty easy thing to understand and yet we continue to have these conversations and when I listen to Pearl honey You're the reason why It was so damn difficult to come forward and when when you're there absolutely I hope people who will believe you there were people who believed me those people were life-changing for me There are also a lot of people who will not believe you who will blame you for it We'll say horrific things about you that just Retraumatize what you've already experienced even very well-meaning people well-meaning people in my life said some pretty Horrific shit to me about what occurred let alone the people who didn't know me let alone Talking about this publicly years later on the internet with my first channel Trauma talk like I remember releasing a video here about getting a restraining order and what that process was like this video came out like years ago And I knew what the comment section was gonna be and I was not disappointed Well, I was like deeply disappointed, but I wasn't naming names. I wasn't calling anyone out I was talking about what my experience of getting restraining order against someone who had raped me was like and I got comment after comment calling Me a whore calling me a liar saying this never happened to you as if they know anything about my life was it I wasn't accusing anyone in particular. It wasn't a public figure I was just sharing my experiences and I just had a litany of comments about what a lying sack of shit and a Slut and like that is also what you very Unfortunately have to expect if you're coming forward with with these kinds of allegations and honestly This is the downside of living a super promiscuous life for men is that they become rich and successful later and all their ex-girlfriends Magically believe that now they were abused seemingly often when a story breaks about a celebrity or a politician Being accused of something like this generally not one Accusation right like oftentimes it'll be one and then three and then seven and twelve the stories kind of multiply and people look at that and Squint their eyes like oh, that's clearly people are lying for attention for money because of media conspiracies Whatever one of the reasons why when someone brings an accusation forward other people tend to also begin telling their stories Is because you realize oh my god, I'm not alone I wasn't crazy that thing really did happen to me and maybe I've tried to bury it down Maybe I've tried to forget about it But I'm seeing that this person who hurt me also hurt another person There is strength in community in numbers in coming forward together for me the most dangerous thing about Being a victim of this kind of a crime was the intense isolation that I felt so isolated from anything in everyone I thought that the stuff that I was feeling there's no way anyone else could feel that but when I began Talking about it and connecting with people and realizing. Oh, it's it's not just me That is the thing that saved my life So when you see people coming forward with their stories after someone else has spoken up that makes perfect sense to me Psychologically and that dear friends leads me into the big announcement something I'm very excited and anxious to share with you and I invite you to join us live all the information is on Screen also in the description, but I'm starting a podcast with my best friend now I know I know I know every youtuber has a podcast, right? This was inevitable, but one of my very best friends Aaron from life of Palos you guys might be familiar with him He's also a youtuber here, but he and I have been besties in real life for like five years now We are starting a live streaming podcast called turbo dude. It's like being an alpha male, but better Don't be an alpha male be a turbo dude with us. Okay, we're gonna be talking about subjects not about amputation gender Relationships dating marriage topics like this like the stuff I just talked about today with Pearl There is a very large community of people online It's called like red pill community content think people like just pearly things and or take fresh and fit the whatever podcast That are talking about what I believe are things that need to be discussed because our society is not doing a great job Teaching people how to connect how to date how to have conversations about healthy relationships There's this big push for traditional values traditional marriage We need to go backwards because going forwards isn't working for us what it means to be a woman What it means to be a man everything in between and this is stuff that is fascinating me for years And so we are starting a weekly live stream podcast right here on my YouTube channel We're gonna be bringing in a panel of guests to talk with us every week Aaron and I had conversations about this kind of stuff for years and we weren't seeing a lot of good Public discourse that wasn't from the red pill community About these topics like a lack of perhaps a more moderate and nuanced and calm Perspective I also think we're both pretty level headed that we'll be able to talk to people I hope so who like very much disagree with us and to have a civilized conversation about them. Yeah Yeah, a little bit of class. Yeah I was really about to say that I was like Hopefully some class to this space because I do feel like it is lacking a little bit And so that is what we are striving to bring like I said details up above and down below and I can't wait to see you there So join us tonight live. This is a live streamed podcast It took so long to get the equipment right for this guy neither one of us have any background So I never go live with stuff. So this is kind of a big departure from normal. It's true I never go. You don't I don't but I'm ready. So join us tonight Pacific which is nine o'clock Eastern And I'm also very excited to share with you more of who I am as a full person because for like five years now I've created content around amputation disability mental health grief trauma, you know little things like that But it's mostly been about my life as an amputee. The reality is that is like that's a portion of my life That is not what I spent the majority of my time thinking about or what defines me as a human being So I'm very I'm so looking forward to hearing other people's opinions to sharing mine to be able to show you guys 31 who is interested more of who I am as a person and not just as an amputee because I am actually a person True story didn't know if you knew that. Thank you for joining me for today's video and this announcement Stay tuned for my next video where I'm gonna be watching people blow up prosthetic sockets to all my patrons over on patreon Thank you so much for your continued support and to you my dear viewer Thank you so much for spending a few minutes out of your day here with me today You could be anywhere else in the world doing anything else But you chose to hang out and chat with me for a few minutes and I truly appreciate that I love you guys. I'm thinking about you and I will see you in the next video. Bye guys