 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd now today We're gonna be talking about how to be attractive even if you're nervous guys. Tell me all the time They tell me hey, I walk up to women and I'm nervous How do I get rid of this blah blah blah and you know being nervous is not if you could be confident all the time That would be great, but it's not always feasible Okay, there are gonna be times where you walk up and you're nervous I'm a perfect example of this you guys like I get nervous talking to people all the time Okay, definitely not as much as I used to in fact I'd say probably more often than not I'm not getting nervous But there are times especially you know when I was filming footage for the practical approaching system You know I was walking on the beaches of Santa Monica just talking to random girls And I hadn't gone out in six months to do that so because of quarantine and everything so I was very very nervous So what are some things that I did during that time to still be successful? You know I still ended up getting the tons of phone numbers and I ended up having like eight girls coming back to my hotel That night and two of them were models. How did I end up doing this even though? I was nervous, so I'm gonna tell you exactly how I did this even though I was feeling Experiencing bad emotions how to get over them and how to still be attractive in those environments I'm gonna give you some practical tips and some like kind of like mental stuff that you guys can do to help out with this Okay, so let's get right into the video The first thing that I would say about nervous guys is that nervous guys when they look unattractive It's because they're kind of twitching or they're moving or they're looking down or they don't commit to what they're doing When you're talking to a girl or when you're approaching somebody or when you're doing an activity even if you're nervous I don't care how you're feeling inside do it 100% don't half-ass it just say oh, I'm nervous I'm gonna only kind of wave to her a kind of wave you might as well not have waved at all You go all in or not at all Okay, and women can sense this the hesitation that comes along with it the That kind of thing it really creeps them out that they're not into it at all. It doesn't look attractive Okay, but what does look attractive is a guy showing courage So what I invite you guys to do is not try to make yourself feel the absence of fear is Deal with the fear one of the pillars of being a man is Being courage has been courageous. Okay men have to show courage There are gonna be times where you're scared and that's okay, but what's not okay is letting the fear control you Okay, so if you're nervous be nervous, it's okay, man There's nothing wrong with being nervous. All right when I'm nervous. I tell myself, huh? I'm nervous I'm gonna walk up there and see what happens. Okay. I'm okay with the fear I'm okay if she walks away or ignores me I'm okay if I have a bad interaction what I am not okay with is I am not okay with me not taking action Just because I was a little nervous just because I was scared and I know for some of you You kind of get that gripping that that that fear that takes over your body where you're just so nervous Where you can't even make a move Do what you can in those circumstances if I'm in that position I do what I can if I'm too scared to have a conversation with a girl I'll wave if I'm too scared to wave. I'll smile if I'm too scared to smile I'll look up and try and make eye contact do what you can in that period of time and work with what she got Okay Now the other thing that I would recommend as well too is that nervous guys when they hesitate and they move They kind of twitch. Okay, try and reduce the amount of extraneous movements to your character If you're just if you're standing there and you're doing like weird like itching things that don't really make any sense That signs of Not just nervousness, but insecurity. Okay, so if I'm nervous, I just take a deep breath Breathe it out And just be cool for a while. Don't move around a whole lot. If you're hard-speeding you're hard-speeding It's okay part of courage is learning to deal with the fear that you're experiencing but not letting it affect your actions Okay, so if you're a guy who's nervous it does not prevent you from being attractive what prevents you from being attractive is not Exercising the courage women actually think it's kind of cute when a guy gets nervous and talks to them Even though I walk up and like I seem really confident I tell the girls later like yeah, I was super nervous to talk to you. You're really pretty and they're like Oh, it's so sweet. Like you seem so confident. I had no idea It's because I used courage I didn't move around a whole lot when I was talking to them like some guys are twitching I just kind of stay there and concentrate on not moving a whole lot and then when I do move I kind of use my hands, but I keep my feet planted and you know my shoulders relatively Secure so all of that stuff can help But I would say the biggest thing is what I had talked about earlier, which is look dude Sometimes I walk up and I really don't want to do it sometimes. I'm shaking sometimes I'm like I'm feeling actually quite ill and sick before I do something so I concentrate on the things that I can do and I do 100% Not 98 not 99 not 99.5. I do it 100% and By the end of the day there's times where I'm literally just like high-fiving girls bringing them in giving them a little hug And then you can get a if you're in like a festival or if you're in the kind of a crazy environment You can get a quick make-out to like there's a lot of things that you can do I don't do that as much as I used to But you know when I was like in my early 20s. Yeah, I would do that shit all the time and But I would work up to that I would get to the point where I could do that sort of stuff and yeah sure at the beginning I was very very nervous to do it So don't focus on things too far into the distance focus on what you can do now and don't let your nerves and your fear Control what happens to you? I remember there was another time like I'll give you an example about where I had to exercise you know Fear or get over my nerves right right then and there I was at a restaurant and there was a very very pretty girl ahead of me And I was just by myself and I hadn't talked to anyone all day I had been working and I just started and I was like dude You should say something like she's really pretty and I was like starting to get nervous and I was like I don't know like starting ruminating all of these things in my head and I was like alright What can you do right now? Just what can you do anything? Just say hi. So I was like hi, and then I went like this Okay, and then I was like okay cool Go right now Now ask her where she's from. Hey, where are you? Where are you from? Are you from the area? Okay, cool. Nice. I'm from I'm from the area as well, too Right now ask her what she's up to. Are you just ordering or are you just waiting here for somebody? Oh Okay, cool. You're right here or somebody. Yeah, I'm actually waiting to order food I really like this place and then we started to talk okay I did the things that I could do didn't move around a whole lot didn't didn't psych myself out didn't let the fear control me I used courage and yeah, did I look a little nervous at the beginning? Yes, but that's okay What's not okay is letting this fear dictate you in your life and never taking opportunities because you're scared Any opportunity worth taking should involve a little bit of fear any challenge work worth embarking on you should be a little nervous for Anything that's gonna help you improve is gonna be a little bit uncomfortable at the beginning Okay, this is part of life learning to manage this discomfort learning to deal with it will make you successful Not just with women but in life in general and the crazy part is women recognize this And they know that that it's part of the game. And so that's why I think in my opinion Them feeling a little you're you feeling a little nervous a lot of times They'll think is cute and if you do it in the right way as opposed to Half-assing it or hesitating and you embody the the fear and the nervousness and just go out there and be courageous You know, they find it flattering they find it to be a compliment. Okay, so Being nervous isn't the problem. It's not having courage. That's the issue So I invite you to be courageous you guys. All right, cool Well, this is something that I teach guys in my programs all the time So if you're interested to get coached by me personally is a form down below. Thanks a lot y'all