 Hey, hey, thank you so much for joining me on another episode of talks with Tony I Got an email here. You know, I was just talking to my videographer and we were talking about these emails it you know, it's quite a few of them and I'm reading these for the first time with you all and so To keep my work down so I don't have to hire a whole another staff to vet all of these emails You know, I want y'all to understand some of these are long some of them are short So when you hear an episode Make sure you catch up on the ones you've missed go back listen to the one before You know set an alarm in your phone to be reminded We're gonna try to release these every Wednesday and Sunday if we're able just depending on my schedule So to this email, thank you for all that you do. Hey, you're welcome Please help me with this. I was introduced to a church about four years ago by a guy. I was dating Things got so toxic and abusive me and him were separated and he left the church I continued to go to the church. I began to grow and meet people But there was one person in particular that caught my eye a minister in training very smart tall handsome educated Family-oriented you name it the only thing about it He's married. I admired him from afar because I knew he was something I couldn't really have Fast-forward about four months ago. We decided to do some business matters together I don't drive anymore because of a vision impairment. I developed so he came to me Meeting up with him was very Racy the very first time He stayed over for hours and we ended up kissing. I Didn't think much of it fat. You didn't think much of it. Okay, it's good about them Fast-forward again We still touch base on a business level then one day. He told me how angry he was with his wife She had been out all night and put him in a position to be embarrassed and questioned by the church He asked could he stop by after church because he didn't want to go home and I said sure Well, I ended up having sex with him Two weeks later. He showed up at my door drunk and we had sex again It was even more intense this time now. I'm stuck. I still go to church But it's clear there is a thick tension between me and him He keeps trying to make me feel like it was my goal to sleep with him And the business stuff is up in the air all the while his wife knows He has a history of cheating but thinks he's been delivered Am I foolish because I also feel like if they were ever separated and he wanted me I wouldn't deny him help Please Yeah, I'm gonna have to do okay, okay, I'm answering this But I'm I see I'm gonna have to do another video to on Instagram If any pastors if you a pastor and you watch my podcast you watch my YouTube Email me today and bring me into your church to do a relationship seminar Every cent every member need to be there This absolutely this absolutely This absolutely is just it's so painful. It's so painful You know for this to be happening in the church with a minister in training who is married Now I want everybody who listen to this who fell out with the church You're not Christian you're against God this have nothing to do with with Jesus Christ They have nothing to do with Christianity this has to do with human nature and our sinful nature Now Sis this where you played yourself When you see a man this to every woman and me a videographer was talking about this, you know With these lessons this for everybody not just the person who wrote in this for every woman when you see a man That you are attracted to and you know, he's married stay away Stay away from intimate relations if you're gonna do stuff It needs to be a business Transaction like if you paying him to wash your car because he has a mobile detail company And he wash your car is sitting in the driveway. He wash it you cash app him or whatever app him and He gone by this business. That's different I'm married So what you describe Now ain't tall because I'm just five ten I might not be educated either But very smart. I don't see that but maybe wise family oriented Handsome I don't know if I'm handsome by knowing ugly. So what you describe? It could be women Who feel that way about me? I'm a Christian just like he is. I'm a minister just like he is I just minister outside of the four walls I'm married just like he is So here's the thing Just what I do When me and you do coaching it's by phone Women say can we do Skype? Can we do it in person? No, I don't do in person I don't do because I got too much sexual energy. I don't do in person coaching You got to pay me a whole lot of money to do in person coaching and and and I know if you paying that you you serious by some coaching and But I don't do in person coaching because I know I got too much sexual energy Not me coming on to you, but I just know my swag turned up And so and I know this from living my life over over the years just Dripping swag ooh, I can't sit in person with you for an hour and You not feel a certain kind of way and so especially in an intimate setting and we talking deep and and making love to the mind That's what communication is. So I set those boundaries I'm not doing Skype because I don't want to look at you in the eyes for an hour So no Skype no in person. I coach by the phone. Yes as one of the top coaches life coaches in the world I coach by phone, you know why to create boundaries for safety For reasons just like this You lust after the man in church So you in church sinning Lusting after the man and Then you do business with them. How did these you say so fast forward about four months ago We decided to do some business matters together How did that come about Y'all just y'all one just walking past each other. Oh Oh, excuse me bump into you. Let's do some business together So no one of y'all had to get in position you got in position or he got in position so What you felt for him? All this that you described very smart tall handsome educated family oriented you name it Sister when you feel like that about a man. He sees it He sees it in your eyes It's Oozing through your poor he felt all of that sister. He felt all of that So now he knew you was open a man. No when a woman attracted to him. We know it. We could tell it and some men What you describe he know Most women attracted to him nine out of ten women attracted him Because a man who attracted to one woman is a lot of times attracted to other women Same go for women. If you're attracted to one man, you try to the other man So he already knew so you or him got positioned y'all start do some business together. You came dry Because of a vision impairment So he comes to you where y'all at what you mean come to you Uber, where do you live? Where do you live, sister? You have uber So you were supposed to get on uber and Get driven to Starbucks So y'all could sit and talk but oh no, y'all don't want to do that Because y'all to look like y'all in sin if one of the church members see you So it sound like he came to your house Yeah, he came to your house because he came back later when he started knocking you down So you let the man come over to your house. You don't even know him. It was very racy Y'all stop talking about business plan and y'all talking about open-legged plans and y'all kiss You say you didn't think much of it. You didn't think much of kissing a married Married minister in training that you supposed to be doing business with Sister look me in the eyes if you listen to this on the podcast you might want to get on my YouTube look me in the eyes You need your prayer warrior You need your prayer warrior You got it. You got a spirit on you You got a spirit on you Spirits attract spirits Your relationship with your ex who introduced you to the church was very very toxic That was it was very abusive and toxic because of your spirit Your spirit fueled and reinforced the abuse now it and and this time saying this because this ain't every woman some women's spirit is perfect and clean and Get abused but this would let me know your spirit off Because you was being abused Relationship broke up you stayed at the church that the man introduced you to Most women ain't gonna do that if a man introduced a woman to a church and that man become abusive and she got to leave that man that woman leaving that Church because she don't want no parts or anything that that man was connected to you stayed at the church That mean you got a spirit that like to wallow in your mess So you stayed at the church and then you got with another man Who is married and a minister and you knew it and you scouted him out You had your binoculars on and saw the man scouted the man out knew he was what you want a tall glass of water I want to lick them from head to toe and you still put yourself in a position You know what you was doing sister. You know what you was doing You need deliverance You need deliverance. Hey, I'm your big brother I'm gonna just tell you the truth because ain't a lot of people ain't gonna tell you the truth I ain't gonna make no excuses for you. You know what you were doing The man flipped it on you and said it was your goal to have sex with him sister It was your goal to have sex with him You know it and I know it because if you know you're attracted to a man and you know he married You're not going to invite a married man special a married minister to your house To your house and then kiss him and then not think nothing about it If your spirit in the right place When y'all kiss you would have never talked to that man again You would have called him or text him and say unfortunately We're not gonna be able to move forward because my spirit is grieved from what happened and you are a married man And I realized that the way I feel about you and the way I view you I'm not gonna be able to do business with you You know what? It's a woman that told me that before she said Tony the way I see you and the way that I'm attracted to you From doing coaching sessions with you I'm not gonna be able to continue coaching with you because I know that I am very attracted to you and You are a married man a woman told me that I Respect that woman to this day because she had to tell me that she could have baited me and she could have played On my weakness played on my insecurity. She could have played on that in me of a man What's in a man? She could have played on that and she could have took me down. She could have took me down There's some women It's women out there You know like yourself that will do that that will know the nature of a man and still you take part in being a part of the lust in a man It ain't just he need to hold himself accountable You got to hold yourself accountable too because as a woman why you letting the married man come to your house Come on now You're on for that y'all supposed to have two three of y'all in the gathering if he gonna come over it need to Be a group gathering a life group y'all need to have three four members in there So it's not just you and him so then that right there happened He made up some his wife was I all night his wife won't know I His wife one out. That's what he had to tell you To get you to drop them guards even further His wife one night because if your wife was out all night and it calls you to be in a position to be embarrassed and questioned By the church you're going home to get some straightening with your wife And you're doing everything you can try not to go outside her head because you that hot But you're going to get some straightening immediately He lied to you situation one what he said it was But he knew you had the feel that he was off with his wife So did you a drop in guard some more? He came on over and he knocked you down goal accomplished. Then he did the Jedi mind trick and flipped it on you Flipped it on you then the next thing you know He stopped by two weeks later drunk. So now this minister in training he playing with God all the way Let's say as a human wife going through. Yeah, they going through. Yeah, cuz he got a history of cheating So his wife might have stayed out all night But she might have stayed out all night trying to send him a message for his cheating Because what he doing to you he doing with other women to better believe it better believe it What he doing with you he doing with other women you one of a few you playing the fool You playing yourself you need a prayer warrior in your life. You need some deliverance He need deliverance to you, but he ain't right in me. So I'm talking to you. You got to work on you You need some deliverance and So him and you both of y'all wrong and you know what? It's a hot corner in hell It is a hot corner in hell for you if you don't get your life together If you don't repent you you go to church you believe in God then you believe it's a hot corner in hell for that right there Because both of y'all guilty Both of y'all guilty you just as guilty as he is for knowing better and not doing better. Come on. I system Come on now. I got to talk to you like I talked to my little sister. She's two years younger than me Got to get to your blood raw. Hey, you say am I foolish? I don't I don't know if I'm gonna call you foolish. I don't know if I'm gonna call you foolish Do you have a Jezebel spirit? Do you have a Delilah spirit? Samson in Delilah. Do you have a Delilah spirit? Do you have a Jezebel spirit? That's what we got to get to what kind of spirit are you operating from it ain't about foolish Because you know exactly what you was doing you ain't you ain't a fool by far, you know exactly what you was doing So it ain't about foolish. Are you evil? Are you operating from an evil spirit? You a single woman With no kids if you get married To a man Would you expect your sister in the sisterhood who go to your church with you? To have enough self-respect to not allow your husband who has cheated on you in the past And you know have a history with cheating Would you hope that she would have enough self-respect to not allow your husband to come into her house? Listen to me sister this deeper than what you think it is This so deep because you don't sow seeds that you're gonna have to reap the harvest So when you get married Nine out of ten times get what's gonna happen this very thing This very thing you gonna wake up to find out that your husband cheating on you With another woman who operating from the same spirit that you operating from right now You're gonna get a husband. That's a tall glass of water tall glass of chocolate milk And he gonna be out here meat slanging on you With women who got the very spirit that you operate under See the thing about it is in the church. We get so caught up talking about don't judge me don't judge me be easy On me be soft on me. No Accountability is painful Accountability is painful. I think it was a possible that told us a whole lot of brothers and sisters Accountable and he said don't worry about them getting mad getting a feeling cause sorrow leads to repentance You need to feel sorry because you need to repent you need to feel stupid you need to feel foolish You need to feel ignorant you need to feel evil you need to feel all of those feelings To drive you to repentance to know that you got to change your life because you better than this Because you know better than this you wouldn't raise to be this woman You won't raise to be no side woman being a temptress being a hindrance to the kingdom work If he gonna sin and do what he doing let him do it, but let him do it with somebody else so that it's between them Don't put your name in the mud don't erase your name from the front from the book of life by living in willing sin So sister listen repent Cut them off completely and truthfully you need to lead a church You need to lead a church the church don't don't don't need you the church Yeah, it's another church that can benefit from your renewed spirit Repent renew your heart renew your mind and go serve someone else, but you can't serve back right now You can't serve where you're the messed up at that that bad So either you need to leave you need to leave the church because you've been through one bad relationship in your state of Church now you in another bad relationship You need to lead a church you need a fresh start with a renewed heart a renewed mind and a renewed spirit And you need to cut this man off You ain't got to expose him to his wife, but you need to cut him off You need to block his number and you need to never talk to him again because you talk about if he's separated with his wife You wouldn't deny him That right there sister is the problem with women in the world today Y'all don't y'all don't love each other y'all don't kill nobody each other. It's every woman for themselves Men we got more respect than that for one another And it might be because we know life on the line. We know a man to kill you So I don't know why y'all women do this to each other, but it's wrong. It's wrong and it's nasty And you need to fix it sister This is what I'm telling you if you got a question for me Please send it in now be ready for this real truth that I'm gonna give you because y'all know I ain't gonna pull no punches on you now But please send it in to me. Thank you so much God bless you. Send it in to inbox at Tony gaskin calm. We'll talk soon