 Hi, I'm Matthew Kos from commitmentconnection.com and today I have another question from a woman in our community who asks how do I know if he's the one? Now that's a very good question and it's very challenging to to know if somebody's really the one or not I mean, how do you really know and You know, I suggest that it takes a little bit of time to figure that out even if you feel just this amazing Emotional attraction for somebody right off the bat my suggestion is that you slow things down a little bit and make sure that That person is actually somebody that you want to be in a long-term relationship with I know way too many women that come to me and they complain because things were so hot and amazing at the beginning and then all of a sudden it blew up and fell apart and so Initially the first thing that I think that you should look out for is common values And I talk about this and a lot of different programs and in other videos on my YouTube channel But you need similar values commonalities I forget about that one because commonalities, you know It can be cool to have somebody who shares a lot of similar interests in you but ultimately most people break up because of a difference in values or Because of too many negative emotions, but a difference in values is usually one of the most important things You need to find out if his values are in alignment with your values and if they are then he makes Potentially somebody that could be a great long-term partner for you another thing to look out for is That you both potentially have the ability to grow In a similar direction with each other, you know, if you guys are on completely different life paths It's probably just not going to work out because You're gonna grow too far apart from each other at some point and then it's gonna be really really hard to reconnect and You're both probably At least one or the other of you and probably both are gonna find somebody else that does have a similar growth path and end up with that person instead So that you know just to be clear here. There's no science that says that There's ever a yes or no 100% certain answer and that's part of the beauty of life You know part of the beauty of life is taking risks and going out and trying things and you know finding people that may or may not work out and You know and seeing if it works and and just you know being smart about it though and and making sure that you know You're in alignment with the the person that you're with so that you know, you have the best chance of Creating something that is lasting So that's it for this video if you want more information on how to attract a quality man into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you subscribe to my youtube channel. I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon