 as in war the victor only seems to win what is up everybody this is chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and i am back from my little vacation and over the weekend a couple things took place vidcon and tana con so in this video i'm gonna be talking about what really happened at tana con and i do want to stress i want to stress this so much like my channel is not a gossip channel my channel is not one of those youtube commentary channels i'm a mental health channel okay i work with clients at a mental health treatment facility i tell them stories all the time as cautionary tales i want them to look at it and rather than criticizing the other person i want them to understand what do they do in their life that is similar to this and maybe just not as extreme but it's causing issues in their life that is destroying their mental health so when i tell you these stories it is not to come down harshly on a person even though i am someone who gives a lot of tough love and i'm going to be doing so with tana mojo but like i want you to learn from it i want you to look at the situation and say oh wow maybe i do that and maybe this is affecting my mental health in a very poor way all right so what i do want to talk about today when it comes to tana con is something that i haven't seen anybody else touch on which is the malicious intent as well as the revenge aspect of this so on my way back from california today me and my girlfriend we were sitting there in the car and we were driving back and we were listening to a bunch of different videos about what happened at tana con like what happened how did this thing go to hell what is a thing that happened and a lot of it if you don't know like it just went downhill really fast basically what happened was the venue did not hold the capacity of people who showed up and a lot of it had to do with like over 15 000 people showing up for the free entry and here's the thing so a lot of people are talking about how nobody expected 15 000 people to show up and things like that and you know is it tana's fault is it the management's fault whose fault is it all right and one thing i will say is this when you put your name on something when you run anything it's your fault all right i have talked about this when i talk about internal locus of control and external locus of control if you start taking the mindset of everything is my fault you're in much more control and you you make smarter decisions all right so what people aren't taking it into consideration is why tana had tana con in the first place so tana has this like hour and a half long video about how she was poorly treated at vidcon very good like i'm glad she made that video like i don't think what vidcon does is right even though i've never personally attended i watched a ton of videos about it and like i think i think there's a balance but that's a whole another video all right but tana felt mistreated by vidcon okay cool but if any of you watch my video about 13 reasons why in the psychology of revenge this is what happened to tana this is what happened to a bunch of the other creators who are going to tana con all right it was pretty much a big f you to vidcon how do we know this how do we know this if you watch a lot of the videos about people who are poorly treated at vidcon right you could tell that they have this kind of revenge attitude this anger like when we get angry we want to get a person back this is part of our evolutionary psychology we feel like we need to get them we need to screw them over right so that quote i said at the intro of this video is something that i've dealt with time and time and time again pretty soon i'm going to be focusing a week on anger alone because i used to be the most angry person you would ever meet and one thing that i love doing was getting revenge if you got me i was going to get you 15 times worse but when i set back and i looked at it and i was improving my mental health i realized that time and time and time and time again this didn't work out for anybody especially myself so what people aren't addressing is the fact that tana scheduled tana con for the exact same weekend as vidcon now does that sound like she had no malicious intent surely she didn't have it for the fans okay i truly believe that she cares about the fans but she was trying to screw over vidcon she purposely planned it for the same weekend but get this the venue that tana got the one that was too small was right next to vidcon okay so it would be foolish of her or anybody else to say that she didn't plan and arrange all of these things based on trying to screw vidcon over she was hoping to get some of their audience she was hoping to get these people now when you start putting the pieces together like this the fault makes a lot more sense because the venue size is it possible that the venue size wasn't big enough because she purposely wanted to venue next to vidcon to steal their audience right now the audience size is it possible that the audience size was way bigger than what she expected because she was pulling in people who were originally going to go to vidcon and spend an insane amount of money think about that for a second all this was based on revenge and the thing is here's the thing a lot of people were hurt a lot of people were hurt in this not necessarily physically but definitely emotionally right they're pride they're ego let's talk about the creators like Shane Dawson what a good guy what a good guy like he he has been there you know talking on twitter saying like you know her heart was in a good place and stuff like that now i love Shane Dawson but i wouldn't say that her heart was in the good in a good place based on what i'm discussing in this video because her whole plan for this thing was to get back at vidcon so there is a point where the heart was not in a good place okay maybe when it came to the fans but the planning of this event wasn't so like there's a lot of apologies going around and stuff and you know uh maybe you can't plan such a big event in a month or two well why was it so rushed why was it so rushed because she picked the same date as vidcon imagine if she pushed it back imagine if she changed the location think about that for a second how many people would have showed up if she would have done it somewhere else i live in las vegas tan is originally from las vegas much bigger venues much more accessibility because you're not in a city where one of the biggest youtube conventions is happening that same weekend so just some things to think about now i was originally planning on making a video about her terrible response and i was going to say or make a video about how to properly apologize but thank goodness for shane dawson and i forgot the other guy's name james something my girlfriend told me but anyways tana came out and she did a series of tweets and she did a good apology and she took fault she took the blame and everything like that that's what you got to do when you apologize when you make an amend you have to take 100 fault and the best way to apologize is to put yourself in the other person's shoes like think about it would you want to hear like put yourself in that situation would you want to hear excuses would you want to hear passing the blame would you want to hear these things of course you wouldn't so when it comes to apologizing it's all about you and nobody else you know but her original apology came with like oh you know all these people were faking that they had vip there was this and this that's like calm down but anyways that's not the point of this video so anyways like i said this isn't like to you know harass tana or anything i want you i want you watching this to think about that think about has revenge ever suited you or has it all gone to crap like when we sit back and look like and we ask ourselves one simple question is this useful or is this not useful to me okay and we look at back at a revenge or anger 99.9 percent of the time it is not useful to us all right so i hope you take a lesson from this and you can step back and reevaluate some of the situations in your life like how can you do this and be the better person how can you do this without setting yourself up for failure how can you do this without hurting thousands literally thousands of other people in tana's case all right so i hope you took a little lesson from this video okay but anyways thank you so much for watching and if you like this video please give it a thumbs up and if you are new here i'm always making videos to help you out with your mental health click that little round subscribe button and a big thank you to everybody supporting my mission to spread awareness about mental health and to help people who like i appreciate you guys so much and if you would like to sign up and support this channel on patreon you can click or tap right 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