 Hello everybody. I'm super super excited. I've got the beautiful magnetic Magical shanti back with me today. How are you shanti? I'm really good actually. Thank you so much for having me back with you so often this week I'm having such fun with you brice. This is so cool. I know I know I know I know I always have fun with you Shanti, you're like the coolest ever like you're just so freakin cool And you're so wise and I know our last episode we did you shared more about your personal life Which we were just saying before we hit record like such a positive response We've gotten from people from your story and and and who you are and how you fell into what you do the magic of Who you are and one of your one of your many gifts in this world, which is the healing I'm so grateful honestly, and I must say I'm overwhelmed by the response as well you know I was saying on The australia channel the other day, you know and when we have so many of these these these Overcomers from australia and one lady in particular speaking. It's so beautiful for me to see the support That these people get from the general public, you know, and there's only nice things to say I mean I must I was overwhelmed by the kindness and Really the beautiful comments I've been receiving from your viewers as well. So thank you so much everybody It really is so wonderful when you're sitting up. Yeah, bury your soul I know this is gonna be a well This is one that I actually have wanted to talk about for a really really long time And I couldn't think about a person do this better than with Sean team Catherine was gonna join us But she yes, she doesn't have a whole lot of I guess experience with the body Of Also for her so I and I want to put this out here, too I'm not a therapist This is just gonna be me talking about stuff that I've worked through with my own self Of course Shanti is a healer so she can come she also can talk about her experiences With body morphic dysmorphia dysmorphia disorder I mean it's it's a well, let's lay layman's terms what is body dysmorphia disorder? What would that be for the layman's watching right now? What what is that? Well, let me just start by saying a Collage student I a number of months ago on my channel actually spoke about this as well This is one very young sassy gorgeous lady. I want to just say as well. So it's great to be talking about it again Well body dysmorphia really is in a nutshell and in layman's terms is when you have such a distorted View and opinion of the way you look Physically that you can look at yourself in the mirror and really think there is this monstrosity looking back at you yet your friends or your mom or your Siblings or whoever will go what the heck are you talking about? But we really have a distorted Vision or an opinion of the way we look physically So we therefore then go to great lengths to try and change the way we look I mean all we have to do is look at how rich plastic surgeons are right and we look at how many women Have gone for one surgery after the other and you look at the way they look after five or ten or twelve surgeries Compared to the way they looked when they before they even went. I mean I'm amazed that they even think they needed surgery to begin with, you know, and I mean that sort of stuff So it really is a distorted Opinion or view of the way you look so you would generally seem to think that you are a hell of a lot uglier or Malformed or disformed whichever way whichever the word is In your opinion of yourself than what you actually are so that's what it is And I've struggled with this guys and there are different extremes of this disorder and I have it I know I was doing a little bit of reading before we signed on about it And there are people that literally can't leave their house because they're so horrified by how they perceive themselves to look I was never that bad, but I did I struggled I have struggled a lot with what I would see in the mirror wasn't what other people Would see and it's a psychological thing and I know for me. I could probably trace it back to my childhood You know, I know that my mother's mother was Gorgeous and so I know that there I remember my mother saying once and I hope my mother doesn't want me saying this that when she Was growing up it was hard Because her mother was so gorgeous and so there was always that lingering my grandmother was awesome Like I wasn't she wasn't like this bitchy gorgeous person. She was a beautiful human being but she was known for her beauty and Even she died when I was eight so she's been dead for 21 years now But even before she was very young she's 61 when she passed away of cancer But even in my 20s when I would go back to their town people would stop me and one of the things they would say Was oh your grandmother Maxine was so beautiful. They were people would talk about it. And so there's that lingering Understanding of value and beauty, which I don't think that's what they meant. I think it was just a compliment and then of course In my 20s I when I lived in my 20s I got to the point when I lived in Los Angeles that I would weigh myself every single morning I would weigh myself and if I got over like a hundred ten pounds I would freak out and then on my 27th birthday I realized that this was becoming a problem and I've never been a really overweight like I've never it just it Psychologically, there was such a me beating myself up That at 27 I threw my scales away and I have not weighed myself since and I'm 39 now And so that was part of cutting that chain and another thing I I you know for me I've struggled with and I'll be very vulnerable here with my breast I'm I'm again I'm not that big of a person But I have my breast or like a D a D cup and I've wanted to have a breast reduction For a long time and I don't really need one and it wasn't until recently I was telling you off of camera Shanti We were talking about exercises we do and just recently I've been doing the exercise of sitting in front of the mirror and just looking at myself naked and actually complimenting myself and Going you know what women pay good money to have breast my size and Look at that. You're 39 years old and you've got a flat stomach Like look at you know And it's and just really starting to to correct the language that I use around my own self because you said something yesterday in our episode like The way we speak to ourselves Yeah, that would be considered abuse absolutely absolutely we We're our own greatest narcissist, aren't we and that's why I said if The man ever spoke to me in the way that I spoke some of my thoughts To myself I Would be mortified I would I would never forgive it honestly But at the end of the day that really is a lesson for us because you know You also spoke just going back a little bit about your grandma and at the same thing I mean my grandmother was 36 years old and my grandpa Came back from the Second World War and he passed away. So she was this young beautiful Jackie O. Nasa's kind of lookalike 36 years old and we lived of course in a small community and driving around in a little Sports car type thing and of course then suddenly all her friends turned on her because now all their husbands were interested now We're going back a number of years. We're interested in my grandma You know, which was a big problem My mother was Extremely beautiful and still is I mean she's 82 you would never even think that and she's always taken care of herself But I remember one of the things For me as a child the one time that I love being with my mom she she had a Very she had a morning and evening skin routine and Nice to watch her every morning and every well not so much the evenings, but the mornings I have to stand there and ask to watch her Do whatever she was doing on her face, you know, and she always said to me it's as important to be beautiful As beautiful on the inside as what you are on the outside So for me that was something very important, but she was I mean she was a miss queen this and a miss queen that when she was young You know and and she was very well known in our areas to be the most Beautiful woman in the community and I always said my father was the six foot six gentle giant He was the biggest most handsome guy. My mother was the most beautiful. I had my life made So yes, and I remember as teenagers as well Four girls we were and I was the youngest of the four and my mother was always Deemed one of the sisters. She you know, she's just had a natural youthful demeanor about herself still does and she was looked as you know looked like one of the sisters however My father being of Dutch descent much taller and obviously very very big burned Um Well, I did my other sisters. Yes and no, you know, but I certainly took after that with a larger frame And prone to pick up weight So when I was in my teenage years deaf and I was a tennis player So I was always on the tennis court wearing short skirts and things like that, you know, and I was a tennis player and I just remember starting to pick up weight when I was probably about 16 17 years old I hated it I hate and you know, I was at a co-ed school with boys And then they started teasing me and they started calling me names, you know to do with my weight and stuff like that I want to tell you I still I still think about those days and it still burns the Pit of my belly. So I want to just say to anyone who's watching right here and right now If you ever say body shame or if you one of those people are body shaming someone else. I don't care how old you are Just don't Just don't because it is such an impactful thing to do and especially when the person is young and impressionable, you know um But then I I you know, um when I felt pregnant with my son and I had huge boobs. I had huge boobs I had such big boobs Anyway, and when I felt pregnant with my son I was a young mother um, I had even I was 21 It was the craziest thing because while I was pregnant I only gained Was it six or six and a half kilos? And I didn't try and I wasn't wasn't like I was going on a diet or anything I didn't I was eating but I then decided I wasn't going to gain 20 or 30 kilos while I was pregnant But I was going to just eat more healthy and I must say that's when my healthier life thought lifestyle Definitely came into play for me. Well, what was while I was pregnant? I remember eating a lot of fruit, but I craved fruit and I craved veggies and I craved lemons Lemons and and vinegar was like I just couldn't get enough of that so um by the time I had him when I had him I'd actually lost Six or seven kilos now I gained four and a half kilos at full term And when I had him I lost I think six or seven kilos when I put myself on the scale And my breasts just shrunk. It was the craziest thing So I was kind of like going in the reverse of everyone else And since then I must say I I wasn't I I wasn't as Round full-figured As what I was then But I always carried extra weight and definitely went through stages where I was more overweight Um, and I never liked my body Ever ever ever ever I want to tell you never people would tell me I I look good and especially in that I've good legs and what have you you just Compliment me and I would just lash out at you like what do you want from me? I mean if someone gave me a compliment if a man gave me a compliment I thought well, what do you want? I'm not gonna screw you excuse my language But that was my mind that the only reason that people actually ever complimented me Was because they wanted to go to bed with me That was it and it was like you stay the f away from me And I because and I sort of became completely the opposite instead of embracing that And enjoying that and maybe enjoying the the roundness the more voluptuous aspect of and I wasn't I mean I want to say I was never a huge or anything, but um Instead of embracing the voluptuousness and and rocking it the way that the voluptuous girls do nowadays But bearing in mind I grew up in the 80s. Okay There you you couldn't be thin enough. You couldn't be brown enough Your bikini couldn't be small enough and you couldn't be wearing enough sun sun sun sun tan lotion a shiny one The one that made me shadow And smell like coconuts or cocoa pita colada You it's so funny you say that because I I have the same real well So it's weird because I don't know if this is culturally for me. I have this memory So my dad's family kind of like your dad's family They're all really tall like uh, my grandfather was six five. My dad's like six three six four. I have a great aunt who was six feet Um really tall and I remember I have this memory I was probably eight nine ten years old And we would have this babysitter that would come babysit us and my parents would go out for the night And this memory is like ingrained in my head and I'll tell you guys why How this has to do with body dysmorphia for me in a minute But every time it got close to the time of my parents coming home This babysitter would go put a bunch of makeup on and one time I remember sitting on the uh The edge of the bathtub in the bathroom while she was putting her makeup on I remember asking her like Why are you always putting makeup on before my parents come home? And she responded to me because your dad is really hot and I remember Like this like really like just like, you know, that's your dad Some of you are like, oh, that's so gross like That's like so gross But it's like ingrained in my head and then growing up in in the south. There's such this like set for wives type of um Culture where like my mother would have been horrified if she was horrified once when I went to the grocery store I'm running clothes, you know always were lipstick and mascara But what started to happen to me as I got into my teenage years and into my 20s Was anytime anyone gave me a compliment about my physical appearance, especially a man It would put a lot of pressure on me I felt like I then had to live up to this expectation every single time or I would not be enough It was like the way I looked was the most in in my mind Now when I say this it's silly because I don't look at other people that way And with partners like I've never looked at a man and been like, oh you have a little bit of a belly or Oh, no, this is wrong. No, never. It's the essence of the person I you know, it's it's not I've never had that type level of scrutiny on a man But I always put it on myself And again, yes any time I would get these compliments about anything physical It would like really stress me out because all of a sudden there was an expectation To always look a certain way to always be a certain way And and and it's it's it's took a lot of or taken a lot for me a lot of like Self study and really sitting with that In order to even try to process it And I think the thing with this dysmorphic disorder is that it never really goes away It's always kind of there, but it's learning to like you were talking about yesterday with the healing learning to use it to kind of Right above it Absolutely, you know definitely and I think also, you know in my teenage years we were I was a boarding school so um Obviously having a bunch of girls together in the hostel Um, I remember we were always on diet. Yeah, we were always weighing ourselves We were always I remember buying pants that were a size too small for me So that I could particularly diet and fit into them come the time of the school social Or dance or whatever it was and to me. I remember thinking so clearly if only I was thin My life would be perfect And my mind thin girls were happy girls You know, I remember that thought was so stuck in my head that I To this day I remember it like it was yesterday And it certainly took me a while to get through that and as I I must say when I met hannis who is my my austrian fiancee um I was 24 And I remember him Just looking at me thinking I was amazing And I I would say I would say no don't look at my big hands It's a you don't have big hands. You've got the most beautiful strong hands I'd say don't look at my big feet you go There's a beautiful feet. Look at your toes. He said I've never seen toes like that And wow your your feet are in such good condition like he's never seen a woman with such nice feet He said you are strong. He said you are strong and suddenly That shifted so much for me From me to suddenly because I'm 5 9 I'm 1.75 which is not abnormally tall at all I've also got a six foot sister and a 5 11 sister, you know Um and definitely but my father I remember when we were teenagers he would he would say to us um You are beautiful. No daughter of mine will walk with her shoulders hunched He would insist we walked with us. He said pull in your stomach and push out your boobs And that was that was my father's what he would say to us So, you know, even though we had that from him, but I also know my dad. He did not enjoy Anything that was fat. I remember that completely although he never ever body shamed us I just felt it in my being and when I picked up weight There was a critical eye on me when I'm right or wrong to this day I don't know but that was my perception of it You know, so there was never a physical Talk around it, but I also remember my remember my mom always Watching her weight. So there was just this whole emphasis on the way you looked And then I definitely believed that was very much an 80s thing And I think anyone who was a teenager or sort of grew up in that era will probably Conquer with me there, but honestly when I then when I was with hannis My perception of myself changed a lot I felt more confident. I felt loved. I felt appreciated And that's when my confidence in myself grew as well as a person Just to be valued and appreciated by another human being The way that he valued and appreciated me did a lot for my confidence and then I I definitely wasn't skinny then if we're talking weight or whatever like that, but I still Liked just feeling better about myself And you know as I went along on my healing journey and as I understood more about What my body truly is And how to appreciate Why I chose my body To look the way I do because you know I truly believe we choose the way we look as well, you know Our spirit is what it is before we incarnate onto this beautiful planet We choose to look the way we do Definitely we choose to have the issues that we do And it didn't take me long into my healing journey to understand and realize That I chose exactly this I chose to be this and then I could start looking at myself differently And I know I'm certainly not one of those people who's going to appear on a vogue cover. No, I don't want to appear on a vogue cover My beauty comes from a very very different place. It's an essence within me And it took me a long time to come to terms with Who I've been in past lives? Okay, because I had to come to terms with that and not want to hide that anymore because I was scared of Jealousy, you know, I mean if I look at my astrology chart it explained a lot So then when I made peace with all of that and it wasn't about even who I was in past lives because I really don't even Agree was looking at that because it's who I am now, but I understand that there were past life stuff That came That was playing itself out in this lifetime And I had to make peace with those aspects of myself before I could fully enjoy the experience of being shantel And now I love being me. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be anywhere to anything else I don't say I don't have a bad day and what have you but I've lost all the excess weight that I've needed to want or I was out being on diet. I never go on diet. I don't know when last I weighed myself Um, I started doing stuff like yoga and pole pole fitness Um that for me, I've got to say as well when you start doing stuff like that It gives you a certain level of confidence within yourself as well So for me just to wear my booty shorts Go to yoga Hop on the pole with other three or four girls in the studio No one really cares what you look like. We're all just enjoying the experience of doing You know pole fitness, which was quite challenging and that was a beautiful experience, you know, I didn't also taught it for a while I don't anymore, but it was just stuff like that, you know That really got me to appreciate who I am and yes, I'm way into my 50s I've got a flat belly. I've got strong legs I've got strong arms. I've got a strong back I'm who I am. I've got wrinkles on my face. I don't go for jabs and I'm very happy I definitely don't want to go for the Well, it's so funny because we've talked about this So in my journey I because I was born in 1983 So I came rolling into this world in the jazz or size in the low fat in that world And I do believe that greatly affected my perception of things because my mother would do the Richard Simmons videos And the jane fondas and she had the firm and she was constantly exercising and there is a positive I think my sister and I were very much influenced that exercise was a necessary part of life for help purposes But I saw my mother going to the weight watchers meetings In fact, I my favorite thing from a memory Of going to a weight watchers meeting with my mom as a kid like sitting against the wall coloring Was it was right before Thanksgiving here in america And I remember the leader said now remember if you gobble gobble gobble you wobble wobble wobble And I still remember that to this day if you gobble gobble gobble you wobble wobble wobble I was I was a kid. I was like sitting in the back That's like my memory for weight watchers So I still and everything's giving I'll say that to my mom I'll be like remember if you gobble gobble gobble you wobble wobble wobble It was always such a part of our life and my mother came from a family of four girls My sister and I were two girls My dad had two sisters and so there was a hell of a lot of girls around us You know and uh, and it wasn't until my cousin will was born that there was actually a boy That was born. I don't think anybody knew what to do with him because all of a sudden here's a boy, but um So it was a lot of like estrogen everybody's always on diets everybody's you know down here We have the sphanks, which is like a girdle you can wear to keep your tummy in and all that kind of stuff But I I in my early well in kai school I ran cross country and then I was running up all through my 20s And I over did it. I got to the point where I over exercised because I was punishing myself There was a punishment there and looking back There was no need for that because it wasn't like I had done anything wrong or like I was overweight or anything like that But it was like this indoctrinated need that exercise was punishment You had to fit into a certain size Exercise meant this you were not a good person unless you actually went through this And when I lived in Los Angeles, I was running and I and I found yoga around that time too So it was kind of this like both happening But I was running out in Los Angeles and I I felt something in my foot And I just kept running. I had to keep running and it ended up fracturing a bone in my foot In Los Angeles and I remember going to the doctor and the doctor was like you were overdoing it You were overdoing it your body is breaking and that was the first time I'd ever had that realization that you could actually Overdo it on your body And that's when it actually prepared me more into yoga at that point But now and I really hope as we move into this new timeline that things like because exercise is such a magical thing to do If you do it right If you're doing it to learn your body to learn feel the energy flow to learn where all these Magical places are inside of you that are activated by heat and sweat and contraction of muscle Not because you're punishing yourself to fit into a skinny gene or to be loved by a man You know and I know for me the men I've been with in my life. They weren't judging me as hardly as I was judging myself You know they weren't they weren't looking. I mean I never got kicked out of the bed. Let's just put it that way Exactly It was all me to myself and now as a teacher, you know, especially I'm sure you see this shanti with with students and clients I see that in people especially women. I know men I know men do struggle with as well But for especially women, I see that sorrow of self self-hatred Yeah, and it's absolutely it's heartbreaking to see that You know a brice you're mentioning and I think we've spoken about that before but you know in part of my our mentorship programs and Really and and this this is all of the all of this stuff that I teach has never been taught to me by someone This is knowledge that I've had from within and has also been part of my Journey and because I've had such issues with my body um In my younger years Part of the assignment is that they have to take time and look at themselves naked in the mirror Spend time with that. Do you know and especially? Okay, let me start by saying that I'm surprised how many men because I've quite a few men going through my programs as well Have we had also have body issues with themselves? It's amazing, you know I also kind of had the perception that men don't have issues with their bodies. It's just women but definitely especially women and women for example would would would have After having three kids and now their breasts aren't the same as what they were when they were 16 And I mean I've constantly heard. Well, I don't look the same as what I did 10 years ago And my belly this and that and the whole thing is is not, you know, you're looking at that So you got to shift your perception So instead of seeing your boobs is now being these I don't know whatever you see them as I don't want to Say those nasty things that people say about their breasts. It's like well these Breasts fed my children You know had it not been for them my children would not have been nurtured and fed and healthy happy Little kidlings today, you know in your belly you that's where you carried your children You got your stretch marks your stretch marks are your badges of honor You know and oh, I've had a scar there in this operation. I'm going that scar saved your life You know So instead of looking at your thighs and thinking well, there's way too much hail damage or whatever on there No, those thighs those legs carry you forward So instead of looking at it in a critical way, we start appreciating the function of the body because without this body You could not express who you are on this planet. This is a third dimensional planet We come here in our beautiful meat suits. Yes, we need to we can't be little flouncy Puffs of golden spirit on this earth. No one would see you right you get very frustrated I see I see I see deceased ones that are hovering. Yeah, and they get very frustrated because they can't be seen anymore Trust me. You need a body and even though. Yes, is your body a temporary vehicle? Of course it is but by gosh, it's the most beautiful intelligent vehicle you could ever possess so instead of seeing it as this horrible ugly thing That doesn't deserve anything nice You got to start learning how to appreciate appreciate your 10 flexible fingers Appreciate your elbows that I have movement Appreciate your legs that carry you forward And even if you have a missing limb or something appreciate The experience and the gift that this Experience of having a missing limb Is giving you what is it teaching you? Yeah, so there, you know, there's always a flip side to this coin And when we start appreciating our body for what it truly is And the purpose it fulfills and that it is the manifestation of your spirit Your body is your spirit in physical form And without this body you could not express and you could not fulfill the purpose of your soul That is it in a nutshell And when that sinks in You will start looking at your body in a very different way Appreciate your eyes that see your ears that hear your nose that smells you know instead of wanting to run off to the plastic surgeon and have your Whatever, I don't know what people do. I mean look I can appreciate if you've got a Definite malfunction and and it's really holy for sure then go and have it sorted out if that makes you feel better Yeah, but just for cosmetic reasons, I would think twice I would it's such a beautiful way of coming into self-acceptance And I'll tell you my body is so not perfect because in this life I've so needed to learn self-acceptance without the help of a knife or a slice or a Liposuction whatever your body will naturally when you love and appreciate who you are Your body naturally Finds its form and in the way that it is but it occurs within the Mind and the spirit first you've got to find that alignment in your spirit first And then the body follows you So I when I was in the shower this morning Thinking about this show we were going to do today and I looked down I was watching the water run over my body and I was looking down at my stomach and You know I have lines for abduct like my core is strong And but I have a scar going across my stomach from my appendicitis I had when I was 12, but you're right that scar shows that I survived I have a scar on my back from surgery. I had when I was 17 that scar shows I survived I have a scar on my left butt cheek that we talked about from a brown That's I have two scars on these fingers I'm a scar going across this finger these two fingers right here because when I was a little kid I was getting out We were going to get a Christmas tree and I was getting out of my dad's truck And I was holding on to the railing and my sister slammed the door not knowing my hand was there And I have two scars there But when I see that now it kind of makes me laugh because it brings me back to a very happy time of childhood And those scars remind me of of that time of childhood. I was lucky to have your fingers And I can hold this over my sister's head for the rest of our lives now I have a scar on my ear. It's you can kind of see it right here I had a hunk on my ear that had to be cut out when I was in high school because it was precancerous And but they caught it and they took it out and that little scar reminds me that I survived You know and I was and I was looking at the muscle marks of and I was thinking about at 39 like The life I've lived I've traveled the world. I've been everywhere and this body is what brought me through that The the mounted even though I've abused it. I've run it to the ground. I've I've broken bones I've done all that stuff. It still is here with me and it's functioning and and it's it also carries all the molecular information And like so does our ancestors Our ancestors were survivors and we carry that with that magic within us Do you know and I mean our bodies are so forgiving I mean our souls are constantly renewing and reproducing themselves You know if you for example I mean if we just look at the liver within the body and the levers is the solar plexus It forms it's one of the organs that belong to the solar plexus, which is all about your personal power or not okay, and the liver is If we look at for example In the western world one of the one of the poisons that we tend to abuse the most is alcohol Right because it numbs something and in the liver Is where we store our anger, right? So when we keep drinking it's not the addiction that we should be looking at It's the source of the addiction So that would and and if we look at the the alcohol often mostly and not only but i'm just Just pinpointing something here now The the organ most affected would be the liver And yet when we decide to say, okay, I no longer choose to drink I'm not choosing To to take responsibility for my emotions or for the things that are causing me pain And that are making me angry because angry And sad Are good friends. They're best friends So what is making me and I always say anger is a mask for fear or pain So when we start looking at that anger We take away that mask. What is the fear and what is the pain that is driving that anger and That's often going to be sitting in the liver and the liver is so Forgiving unless you've really really really hammered it hammered it hammered it hammered it hammered it hammered it But you will you know when you decide, okay, I'm choosing to do it differently now I'm choosing to cut the crap in the toxins and Not just from the alcohol but from the bad foods and everything that i'm ingesting at the same time I'm choosing to have my two leaves of water a day stuff like that You will be amazed at how forgiving your organs are They will they start dancing every little cell in your body Starts taking on and let me tell you cells are listening your cells are the most intelligent beautiful They have they have a consciousness of their own So when you start keep telling yourself how ugly you are ideas you are how fat you are How how you don't like yourself your body is going to respond accordingly And give you more of what you you telling it But the minute you start turning that around and start saying wow, I just I really appreciate my liver I really appreciate my bladder for the function at Fulfills my heart my lungs because if you look at your car, right? I mean it can look all nice and shiny on the outside So we can do all the makeup in that Dead at a put in foe. I mean I saw that I was mortified these little influences all of 21 or 22 having these Fake teeth put in it's like oh my goodness. What's going to happen when you 14? Whatever you're gonna not have any teeth in your mouth, you know So it's just like stuff like that But when you you so need to look at what's inside so Open up the bonnet or the what you guys call the hood of your car And look at the engine. Do you know without that your car wouldn't go no matter how shiny the outside, right? So that's the same with our internal organs and our insides So we when we start understanding Whatever we put in is what we're going to get out Yeah, at some point At a some point show I'm sorry my laptop is um Okay, there we go No, I and it's so funny like I I eat very healthy And it's not because it's anything to do with some stereotype of being a yoga practice or anything like that It's because when I eat healthy when I eat plant-based and for my dosha It's like magic. I feel better my body responds in a very magical way And I my colon works better, you know if you want yeah if you've ever Constipated people are typically not happy people, you know, like that stomach to have it functioning not that women do that but Yoga people only talk about our, you know, colons and periods Yeah, that's all it's a normal it's a normal functioning part of the body And let's think about that because that's all about letting go, right? Your colon your bowel all of that and when people have the IBS and bowel issues and what have you What Shit, have you not let go of and I'm sorry. I don't need to be the need to be graphic and gross But that is exactly what it is your body will constantly be talking to you and if you start listening You're gonna have a very different Body experience really really really it's just a beautiful thing when you start appreciating your body and no longer looking at The external yes, of course. I like to wear makeup. Okay. I like to do my hair. I'm a girly girl Believe it or not. I'm a real girly girl But at the end of the day it means nothing right when I'm not feeling good about who I am So it's just it's something I like to I like to take care of myself I like to take a shower twice a day. I like to you know, I like to Paint my toenails. I like to go for a massage. I like all these things, you know But at the end of the day, it's really about how I'm feeling about myself because if the internal organs are not functioning properly There's nothing that that that is going to change I mean, we all know what it feels like to be in pain when you're in pain You can't meditate when you're feeling uncomfortable. It's just like the most hideous thing you walk around Looking glum your energies low you look flat, you know and constant I'm amazed at how many people actually live in that constant cycle of Not feeling good. I people who drink every day I'm amazed at how Normal it becomes for them and our normal it becomes to wake up with a hangover Or or it becomes part of their life and the minute they stop doing that. It's like their whole life changes and if we just look at also How the beauty industry caches in on our vanity external vanity that is Yeah Wow Yeah, and that's really because the beauty industry predominantly is about our insecurities Yeah, they play on that and like your life's going to be so much better But you're right and so funny. So my grandmother who was this beauty queen Would often tell my mother when my mother would be frustrated. Well, if you can't change your looks change your personality Because at the end of the day the personality the essence of who you are we spoke about this I think before like I think on when we were talking about the affair of the poisons about You know when you're initially attracted someone yes, there is I have a type There's a type of man that I'm attracted to but at the end of the day It's the essence of that person that really attracts me Um, and it's not it has nothing to do at that point with whether they have a little bit of a beer belly or You know Whatever, you know, it's it's and it because in body is always changing as well But it's we were talking about this 10 flexible toes when I was a little girl My mom's family is from the coast of South Carolina So we would always go in the summer times with my mom's sisters and we would stay there and And we'd stay on the beach and we would have like this Living babysitter that was with us, you know, so our parents could you know not have to worry about the kids but um Miss linda one of our babysitters used to always do this little rhyme with us She would say I have 10 little fingers 10 little toes two eyes a mouth and a nose Put it all together and what do you got? You got me babe And that's a lot and she would have us say that every single morning We all ate all eight of us would sit in the stairs and we would do the the rhyme with her Every single morning I think you've got to write that out for us bros and then you're going to make a little picket and put it on the I'll see if I can find a picture of all of us sitting on the stairs We have so many pictures of us most of times We got little baby butts because we just run around naked all eight of us But um, but um, yeah, she would do that and I guarantee you all of my cousins and my sister So the seven other kids involved in that I guarantee you they all remember that 10 little fingers 10 little toes two eyes And mouth and a nose but it all together. What do you got? You got me babe? And that's a lot You know, I'm sure my sister says that to her kids now and that was miss linda miss linda every single morning That's how she started our morning off And in the summer Cute ass to miss linda what I know Yeah, and miss linda she was a breast cancer survivor life yourself and I remember she had um, she'd one of her Breast removed and she had would wear a fake a fake replacement But she was so it's almost like she probably I don't want to speak for her I was young but it seems like looking back She had gone that probably had brought her through a lot of transformation as well Her own battles and so the fact that she took that responsibility to really Start that every day with us now shanti You were saying you you kind of do this with your courses where you have people look in a mirror and and And I was going to challenge people to do that because I've been doing that with myself You know how no one else has to be around it's just you I did it this morning after our shower I literally sat in front of the mirror naked and like told myself positive things And I was literally like you're 39 years old and you look better than some 27 year olds Good job Yeah, absolutely And so is that a good place for people to start if they're like us and they start I would I would definitely say the first thing you do is you When you get into the shower and when you get into the bath just as you're washing your arms Thank your arms bagging and holding As you're washing your legs your legs that carry you forward your feet that Keep you strong and stable Your breasts that fed your children your belly that held your your children Your back that is strong and supportive Your eyes that see your ears that hear or if you're putting lotion on your body, you know Use that time for positive affirmation as opposed to what you look like or what you think you look like okay, and Use it for appreciation of the function of what each and every part of your body does, you know Anyone who's had arthritis or something Yeah, would I would absolutely appreciate holding the steering wheel something that A normal person that doesn't have that Take so for granted, you know the fact that you can move your neck around We've had a stiff neck My gosh, I'm one of these fortunate people really I've seldom had pain in my body But man, oh man there on the occasions that I do I can serve like a sore back or a pinched nerve Can you imagine someone walking around with excruciating back pain the whole time? And if you are one of these people Who have constant pain in your body? Then I want to say this to you Pain is not there to crush you or to kill you It is there to take you to a deeper level of awareness So what I mean when I say that is that Which part of your body is the pain in if it's in your back What does your back mean? Let's think about the back It's the support in your body Right your spine supports your back is all about supporting you So where do you feel unsupported? That's the first question you ask yourself Is it your husband or your wife or your parents or your children or your whatever that is not supporting you? Well, then I want to say to you the minute we blaming someone it's very very very unproductive And to blame someone is probably the most One of the most harmful things you can do to yourself So then I'm going to say to you the all comes back to me So bring it back to myself and say where am I not supporting me now it might you might you know If you're not getting child support for four of your children, it doesn't mean that you It's not that literal what I'm saying is maybe you unsupporting you're being unsupported with yourself in the thoughts you're thinking In the thoughts you've always thought Where do you think god or your creator or your source is not supporting you? Are you having quiet time? Are you praying? Are you meditating? Are you asking yourself within what the solutions are? There's a solution for everything If you have any form of cancer Cancer is always trauma-based always always always always and if you're a child Well, that's a different thing but we can talk about that in another day because that's very often generational and that could be a different type of but i'm talking about a Grown person i'm not expecting a child to be watching although you Maybe one of your children does have something like that, but if that's the case i'd rather speak to Off-air not not this Not on this platform But cancer is something that is trauma-based in my situation. I had in my right breast Right is the masculine side left is the feminine side breasts are nurturing your breasts are all about nurturing Okay, you nurtured the children your your babies drink whether you had kids or not as immaterial They're about nurturing So I was very angry because I felt unnurtured by males in my life When I had that And when I clicked in do you know that within 24 hours the lump went to half its size? Wow, I believe it I believe it. Yeah, and every single time And then what happened it would come and go for somewhere between four to six months And every time it came up. I knew there was going to be an issue around masculinity Or my own masculinity within my life because I was a felt, you know I was a single mom My my the father of my son never supported financially, emotionally or anything. So I felt I had to be mom and dad. So it wasn't like My child got to see his dad on weekends and stuff like that I was single parenting and I was definitely too masculine with my child Because my child is super smart and he's super stubborn and he's super From when he was cave. I mean he was 10 days old and he was laughing. Okay laughing So he was one of these that was a very quick developer and what have you so he kept me on my toes So unfortunately what I did if I was giving him instruction. I immediately went into man mode You better do this if you don't do that then that's you know, instead of dealing with him differently That brought out a different aspect of his personality So in hindsight, I can see many things that I went wrong for example But that's what I'm saying. That was one of the reasons Why I had this. I was very angry about that. I felt Betrayed I felt like I had to do it all on my own and it made me not trust men It it was just a whole big And of course when you don't trust the man, what happens you attract men that can't be trusted Yes, yes That becomes that self-fulfilling prophecy, right? Right. Oh You know, eventually I got it So what I'm saying is everything in your life There's a there's a there's a core Issue around that now you need to support your body on four levels spiritually Emotionally mentally and physically So that's the four legs of the table. So you would definitely then want to look at Making sure all four legs of your table are equally balanced that one leg is not taking 50 percent of the weight The other one nothing, you know, and then you wobbling around you've got to have 25 25 25 25 That's the first thing you want to be doing So the first thing is to acknowledge and take responsibility For whatever's wrong in your life or in your body Take responsibility that you have created this Am I saying you need to blame yourself? Hell, no, there's no blame. Yeah There's no blame. We don't blame ourselves. We don't blame each other We just take responsibility for the fact that my choices in my life have taken me to this point Now how can I change it? What can I do to make it different or easier? How? That's the first thing and when you do that boom That's when your first leg the spiritual leg connects. You connect to source And then you start getting answers. It's amazing what starts happening Then you get up in the morning and you start journaling and you start praying and you start meditating You start meditating and you start connecting with nature and you start realizing the power of the healing power that nature has You start giving yourself one hour a day Where you start honoring yourself How many times don't I hear from people that they don't have time they don't have time they don't I would like a I've done if you tell me if you want to come to me for healing and you say you don't have time for yourself Then don't come to me Simple as that you make the time Exactly because you are that important So then with if I can I can work with you very easily and we'll have results like this very very quickly um If you choose to invest in yourself because you are the most important investment you'll ever make Yes Yeah, absolutely and guys I'm going to put again. I know I put in the last video I'm going to put all of shanti's links website links down in the description box below because I really feel like that's a lot of what Catherine I've been talking about with you shanti and other people like moving into this new earth this new timeline This is what it comes down to you fixing you And having people like shanti to show you the modality keep you accountable But you be willing to work on you and then when you work on you Everything changes. I mean my after I went through my trauma therapy and then I went spend a long time in India That trip was really long and and I did it on purpose Because there was nowhere for me to run I had to sit literally in sometimes cow shit My own shit, you know, like just depends on what Catherine David etchie but in india it's everywhere too And it literally had to have like a total like dark night of the soul Come to jesus moment come to christian moment come to you know And it was the most when I left after being that that trip was so long when I left India that time I came back to the United States a different person I was the calmest I had ever been at that point my life started to shift in very very positive ways I started attracting very very positive people into my life. I noticed the changes of of friends um It was and it was because nothing there was no magical pill I took it just wasn't like the universe just decided to change things up for me No, the universe changed things up for me because I changed myself Because I fix the work for myself and it's a constant thing isn't it shanti It's like you don't just do the work and then all of a sudden that's done You don't have to do the work anymore. It's like a constant revisiting constantly It's beautiful and it's a constant process of expansion You know as human beings we are yet to expand in other words shine our light brighter and become more confident within our abilities to be our own Bus driver. We're no longer a passenger in someone else's bus. We are now driving this bus so to speak So we become confident more confident. We become more healthy We become nicer to be around we become more joyful. We become more solution orientated You see the more In my life I see so many people that have so many problems and they just love to talk about The problems I sit with yang I mean, I'll be going somewhere for example and they're young beautiful women in their 20s and 30s and these this they talk about their health and how many operations and I'm going You know It's let's it's the more we focus on something The more you're going to get it When you constantly talking about the health issues you have and how many operations you've had now how many people that cancer in your family and You better believe you are talking yourself into that situation so reverse Choose differently And then focus in the direction of where you want to be and what you want in your life It's really not that difficult But it does take a mind shift and yes, we do tend to default back to what we know because obviously We are products of our environment, right, you know, and many families are you know, are God fearing And I didn't come from a God fearing family. I came from a God-loving family, you know, I was taught about reincarnation And when I was born I was taught about these things when I was born, you know, so for me it wasn't about If you did this then God was going to punish you and you had and I know that so many people Have had that and that is so ingrained in their psyche But you can uningrain it, you know You can go back and you can choose to look at life differently. You can start thinking differently You can start creating differently and I see that every day. I've got beautiful students And I don't even like calling them that but you know clients friends over the years You know and for me Bryce the greatest most beautiful moment is when I sit with someone And we'll be talking and it's the first time I've seen them for example And they've got this horror story that that has happened and I'll tell you I've heard some horror stories in my life Definitely as a healer And then I'll simply take that and I'll show them An alternative and they go I never thought about it like that before and I go, uh-huh And then they'll go Now I get it and you literally see the light in the eyes go on and that for me Is the moment that is priceless no amount of money could ever buy That moment that I see when someone Makes that turn and it takes that moment of switching on or switching off whichever way you choose to look at it And then yes, do we do they immediately zoom into their new direction? No It takes strategies. They've got to sometimes make major life changing decisions, you know sometimes it means ending a relationship or Whatever it might be but When that moment of truth Occurs that aha moment in the cells They know they have the tools And I'm there and I'll say well these are the tools and I'm not gonna do it for you As a good healer, I'll never tell you where to look. I mean, I sorry. I'll never tell you what to see But I'll tell you where to go look and what you see Is up to each individual And then I'll say, okay, what did you find there? That's how fun. I said, okay, let's work with that And then, you know, we we will take it from those moments then And it's just and that's why I say I've had people who've been in therapy for 15 years And they'll come to me and within three to six sessions They've made that shift completely because I don't just work here. I work here and I work here And I'll show you how to take that Lead and transmute it into gold and you can't do this without loving yourself Which means you love your body. You love this vehicle that you have chosen In this life You have chosen it and that's a beautiful thing. No matter what it looks like You can have one arm a leg a leg. You can be in a wheelchair You can doesn't matter. You've chosen this experience and I will show you Where to go and look for the the gift in that experience no matter what it is You will always find the gift And how can you not we're all we're all made by the same source, you know the same the same source that made the Rocky Mountains made you You're beautiful You and and you think about I think about all my friends the people I know in my life And I think they're all gorgeous, you know, you see the the light behind their eyes And I see how funny they are a lot of I have my best friend is hysterical Absolutely hysterical and I see that humor and how you know, he makes people smile And you know, I see how kind some of my friends are and they're not trying to be kind They just are and so you see that Light just shine from people and then it hurts me when I hear them talk bad about themselves because that's not It's not who they are and so for everybody watching I really wanted to bring shot down and talk about this because again I think both of us have struggled with this I think there's a lot of people watching who have struggled with this And I think we both want you to know that you're not alone. This is not abnormal This is normal This happens But you are enough and there are ways to start course correcting That's negative self-taught And I love what you said, you know, like you are enough You always have been and you always will be That is a golden mantra You definitely are enough and if anyone tells you any different Don't listen to them, but they're probably reflecting something that you feel within yourself Anyway, so understand that everyone who's being Shitty on some level is really a reflection of you on on some level too So stop thinking that he shitty thoughts about yourself. You know start thinking nicer thoughts start appreciating the little things about yourself It is it is every single life and every single person watching you have purpose You're here for a reason if you aren't here, this would all fall apart Like we all have a very important role to play in in whatever timeline we're in and so yeah, absolutely You're all badasses. Like, you know, tell yourself that I'm a badass. Like I saw a man today It was like I'm really tired of living through historical events It doesn't mean but I'm like I'm like no because you're here because this time because you're a badass Like you're you're a warrior and you're strong and your light is powerful And um and so so yeah, so start treating yourself like that badass warrior that um has purpose But again guys, I'm gonna leave all of shanti's links down below. Please. Please. Please She's amazing if you if you need some guidance if you feel like you really need someone to talk to and help you work through this stuff Absolutely. Uh shanti has worked miracles on me. She's so freaking talented and um and really really helps you in a very loving You're like you're able to give tough love in a very loving way You know and that takes that takes That takes a very talented person to do that And so you guys I I'm dead serious all the links to shanti are going to be down in the description box below Everything she does she did for me over zoom. So it is possible wherever you are in the world To work that out with shanti because we have the magical magical Zoom here that that can uh can be used by any Just zoom in and zoom out. Yeah, she's a portal with you. So All right. Well, I know it's getting late for you shanti. Thank you It's middle of the day But uh, I told shanti. I don't know if I said this on air I might have said this off of air to you in mornay when this is over I want you guys to come to america and do a tour and just do like a healing tour Just bring it. I'd love to And I love because my son was at university in uh in at life university Here in georgia in georgia. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, so you've been to Atlanta I haven't no He was there because it was either he wants to come home or I was gonna go there and he always chose to come home Instead. So whatever air ticket was available. He chose to come home, which was fun But I I've always but somehow I've always said I will go back there and it's amazing with you there Listen, I'm going Atlanta, I mean the deep south. We are a bunch of weirdos down here We we we what the saying and didn't deep south is we don't we don't hide our crazy If you put it on the front port you give it sweet tea like, you know, this is the this is the land of still magnolias and All sorts of I was telling I want to go to louisiana mama We'll go to the whole southeast. We'll do the whole southeast. Yeah And I was telling you a morning about the haunted places being going Oh, I just lost her guys I just lost her. Let's see if she's gonna come back in anyway guys I think her internet just went down So that was about it for our episode But if you go in the description box below and find all of shanti's links you can get in touch with her Please make sure to subscribe to both of her youtube channels One is aquarius rising africa and the other is solutions by aquarius rising africa again The aquarius rising africa is the more dramatic channel Where they go into deep dives and talk to survivors and all that kind of stuff where the solutions Channel is more of the solutions and finding a healthier approach into our new timeline. All right guys I hope you're all having a wonderful day and I'll talk to you soon. Bye Thank you