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The more you comment, the higher your chances of winning and all you have to do is to do that using the hashtag Y254 at four on our Facebook page and on our Twitter platform at Y254 channel and at Ram Maguko and you stand a chance of winning these gifts. Airtime, bags, pens, t-shirts, nim them right here on Y254 because Y254 is standing four. Happy anniversary and thank you very much for keeping it Y254. Good morning to you. It is the 6th of May 2021. My name is Ram Maguko and this is Power Talk. Thank you very much for keeping it Y254. Thank you very much for keeping it Power Talk. Now today we have a lot in store for you in our conversation and today it's all about a month's ego. Last week we had this particular conversation but it was from the perspective of men. Now this morning it is a month's ego from the perspective of women, of ladies. Joining me is to have this conversation. I am with Susan Grace, a media personality. Karusana Susan. Good morning. Thank you. Good morning. It's such a pleasure to be here. People were burning last week. They cannot relate how that conversation was going. Wali Nika Sirisha Sana. I'm also joined by Emma Jerry. She is also a media personality Karusana Emma. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Hey, what's up? I'm not sure what you are doing. But I'm happy that men's conference is here. Women's conference. And we are here. And remember just because of this particular conversation that took place last week, we have a rejoiner. The men spoke. They gave in their view, their feedback, their opinion and regards to this amount's ego. Today let's hear from the women what they think. But in case you missed last week particular conversation here is how it went down. As a man, when you grow up, you are not like your dad doing something. You learn from your father. You've seen men in your culture handling themselves in a way. So when they grow up, they know this is how a man should be handled. When you want to date, you are doing it in nonsense. You are doing it in nothing. What you are doing is to date. When you grow up, you are doing it in nonsense. Approach a lady. If she is ready to date, married to you, you are good to go. And dating will never contribute anything to your marriage. That's what I mentioned to you. So remember men's conference. Remember men's conference. They are the tools and the tones. That's what they are doing. They are the tools and the tones. They are the tools and the tones. This is what they are doing. If you go to a women's conference, you are doing it automatically. And I am telling you. You will be married to a man. If you have a wife, you will be married to a man. And if you are married to a man, you will be married to a woman. That's what I am. ni makosa. Pa timi mwenye ni kichitore. Yes. Ni endeni pike. Trust me. Ata kula yosiku ata ukali. Ata pomoa koro koro inye. Na hajui. Una nipata. Because ni mefanya kwa hiiari. But one thing we must all agree Ram is that when you date a woman or when you marry a woman you're not just dating or marrying that woman. You are dating and marrying the people that raise that woman. The whole family? Yes. Nafikishwa maali apu kofadda meshas. Mutu ako ako hapa. Una muna hivi na hajali. Ha tambui. Ieya yu kofa hii. Una rusha ana rusha. Una nyamaza ieya na indele. Bati ako hapa. Amegu fikisha apu kofadda meshas. Ako hapa. Analisa mafondo kwa. Fadda meshas. Well, make sure that you give us your take in regards to this. The hashtag as always is Power Talk Show. Aman's Ego. Now today allow me to play the devil's advocate. I will stand in for all men. And I'll ensure that I talk for the boy child because the ladies are here to give in their perspective and reactions to that conversation. Hashtag Power Talk Show on Twitter. Hashtag Y254 at 4 at Ramaguko and at Y254 channel on Twitter. Make sure that you participate on this program on our Twitter platform and Facebook as we continue. We shall sample your feedback later on. Suzan, naschae nizena nizena nani. What are the people you are advocating for? Are you saying? They are like... For nothing. It's just morning. Let me just ask this particular question. Nizena, Suzan. When you watched last week's show and they were saying that men do not need pressure from women. You need to let them be and allow them to be themselves. How difficult is it for a lady to just do that? Unajotu maiman hazan ego. It's not difficult. We're going to let you have your space but we got married for a reason. So if we get married it's not about what's convenient for you it's about what needs to be done. It's what's convenient for the marriage or the relationship. And what about when it comes to cooking? Why can't you allow a man kama atraki kupika? See, we just cook. I don't have a problem but don't throw it in my face at it's your responsibility to cook so you better cook. But it is. It is my responsibility, yes, but don't enslave me to it. There are times I'm tired I need to rest. Emma. First of all, I am very angry and thank you so much for making me angry because through this anger first of all according to me according to Emma there is no where written in this world's books whichever book we can read that is the responsibility of a woman to cook. So who's responsibility is it to cook? First of all we need to understand our positions and we need to understand who we are and from day one for instance when God created the world He created Adam and then said it is not good for this man to be alone but I'm going to create for him not a cook not around a woman not all those things but a helper. Thank you. Okay, when you talk about helping in English helping that means you're already doing something but I'm just coming to give you a hand. So as a man what I'm doing is to make sure that we have food on the table have brought food as a way to pick it No, no, no what even the one who is bringing in food that is you pick it What I'm trying to say is first of all we need to understand our positions we need to understand who we are and again we need to accept who we are for example men who grew up in a family so like the head nurse sisters those men they know how to cook like in one now me too tu redangan ni kusatu adabut when you decide you don't want to do some things because the question would be before I get married to you why are you sleeping hungry wuluku na kulaku hoteli wuluku na pika wuluku na shangu wuluku na brush viatu wuluku na wuluku na mamboga kuluku wuluku na madodo wuluku na wanga they forget everything including where their socks is na ni anavanga your socks they forget everything that is meant for you but again we choose to understand you but again don't sit on us like it is like as a man kama ni responsibility but this is not a joke so I think is just a smart joke because whatתי say na ni m ngaifah i backstage lakia ask me a kweksha have you ok no go to the kitchen and cook I have seen men who are better cook women than women but this perspective not what i mean because it is a responsibility of the woman to do a полizzon do ma We used to stay at home as housewives but now we wake up in the morning as we go to work But don't you feel as though at the same time men have this desire to want to feel like they are the king If someone is the king and the leader of the family, is it just to give them that time But don't push it He has gone through hell at work And so have I He needs to find his wife Don't push it I don't mean to cause it Even when I was working Because okay let us stop this thing of like because now I did this now you must do this Can we just stand as two people who are living together to make each other's lives easier So imagine, maybe let's say for example, so do it in a job Especially that way that we are in this media industry You understand? Let's say for instance, maybe I'm working until 10pm I have been working at a job at around 6pm Seriously My friend Will you blame your husband or your fiancé if someone else comes to cook for him? House girl It could maybe be some girlfriend who is admiring him Aku ya nyumbani ampegesimu Laki nipiada kipikewa akuna shida Depending on Okay let me ask you That's it No, it doesn't mean because you have a household Imanishi Okay maybe whatever is coming in your mind when you talk about a household But what I believe in is Do we believe in each other? And again in this relationship Or rather in this marriage Do we know our positions in this marriage? It's okay, let's first say for instance Both of us we are working We need to come to an understanding Like baby are coming from work You are tired, I'm also tired So how can I help you? Okay You have been working for a long time Men for a very long time You've made women feel a bit inadequate Because you have this list Based on the society Society may say It's the lady to cook, it's the lady to wash It's the lady to look after the kids It's them to do everything Nini kwa mwa nga nga ume na suma bibiangwa na fani piki e So you've got what the society you've been raised in So you've made women feel very inadequate Because they can't cook for you every day Do your laundry every day Let me tell you something Kuna mtu last week Alisa mati where come from We come from somewhere We also come from somewhere It's not like we come from the caves We have do's and don'ts When you're a cultured man If you dip in your culture Go back to your culture Find yourself a cultured woman At least Mtalaeniana But don't be cultured Coming after a modern woman And then making her feel that she's not adequate enough Because she has her modern way of doing things Is in modernization the reason why we have increased Rates of divorce nowadays No Why is that divorce cases have increased Nowadays compared to back then You need, you need, you need Me nangela responsibilities A modern woman is more open to alternatives For physical labor Yandata sama tu taftawashin masin Doa si fuwe Yandana taka House help doa si piki Go back to your cup of tea Go back to the village Find your cup of tea And will you blame me when they go back to the village Ati? Because I don't have a village And they will cheat on you And then you will start crying and saying I'm not saying me, I'm saying you as a man They will say all men are dogs Mulu kwa pa mki sama tisi jii Ati where I come from Niki niki sama nipikiwe Take your legs Will you blame your husband Will you blame your husband If they get something outside that you cannot provide for him Because You're modern Why did he settle for me? If a man goes out, let me tell you If you see a man going out The problem is not the woman Because one thing If you are married First of all we know why we are married We are not just here because people at a certain age get married There is a purpose in it So when we are getting married Do we know the purpose of marriage Do we know why we are together in this marriage Again Women, we give back What we are given I sent that comment Women, the way we behave If you see a wife behaving in a certain manner Don't look at the husband Why? Because women We respond to what we are given And actually we are so good because we normally multiply it Don't just give back what you give us We give it We normally give it a very good multiplication For example today Ram If a man gives me a sperm After nine months I'm going to give him back a child Today we are going to say How when the job unechesombili kama waif Jio ni be guaranteed apatadina Na yono kichima Again, if you treat me well as a woman I will give you back a good measure Press down and shake it together And running over Now hapun dosiza ni natakakuskia I've given you that You've given example of 200 chilis If you take a jio ni I'd like to come back and see food Is it wrong If a man demands that They've given you the 200 They expect that food Is it wrong to demand that According to me it is not wrong My point is understanding your position My point is each and everyone of us We should understand our positions Let me know my position as the wife My position is to give you that 200 Your position is to multiply that 200 Then you'll be a happy family Not every time Not every time you'll have to give me money Let me tell you how women are It's metaphorical Sometimes you'll go to work But imagine As a woman who is using her common sense You'll find food But now I'm going to use my own ways My own nice and romantic ways I'm going to use my money back The one I used to make for you dinner That is women for you But the point is do we understand Our position in this marriage Of which hapo? Because she has men to make kubaliana We have the men We have our own ego We will take them out We will buy them the gifts that they want We're not about buying gifts How will you get the money? We do our part as men All you need is peace All a man needs peace Respect Or honor And the small things that make us feel As though we are the men in the house Let me tell you something Ram Ego sikitumbaya It's not bad to have ego But the way you project it Is what makes it good or bad I may say that I will cook for you So if you just be like baby I've left some money on the dressing table I'll put together a meal for her But if you come through in it In my face You see now that's a problem Ego is not a bad thing It's just the way you project it to people I own you We're going to have a problem So we agree that at the end of the day If I don't project that attitude Because such attitude comes Due to fights and disagreements But when a man does his part To provide for the fight When he does his part Then we should not have a disagreement When it comes to cooking Yes, if you genuinely do your part I will genuinely do my part But there are times I don't have the capacity But Ram So just help me Law your ego, you won't die You won't become lesser than mine And then it's not about competing It is complimenting each other Let me give it another example I don't have the ability to provide for you I cannot provide But I'm told That I'm lesser than a man Because Mr. Kariuki Or Mr. Maina there Has bought the wife a prado Or some many gifts I'm told that I'm not a man That I'm lesser than a man Because when I say Is that right It's not right because you're directly Belittling someone It's a woman intentionally Belittling your ego If Kariuki is providing for you Then why are you with Ram So watch it Because it's rude And it's very I don't know, I don't find it nice Life in this life Life in this life Life in this life Life in this life Life in this life Life in this life Life in this life But it depends on the partner That you have married I'm telling you Ram Out there there are some successful marriages Where the man is not even working But the woman is the one that is working But the point is this is a woman Who respect this man Let me tell you one thing Ram I know of a couple That the wife aunts more than the husband But what happens with this Actually I learn a lot from that woman What she does at the end of the month Is my salary Put you as here This is now the match we have What is the problem with some women When unakaliwa wanayako Kwa sababu una patapesa Oni akaliwe Why would you allow a woman to sit on you Because you as a man You have forgotten your position Let me tell you Ram Whether you have money or you don't have money As a man never ever forget your position As a man And you just now You just forget yourself No Whether you have money Yes Ram When You know Other than the day he agrees And Emma When a man feels at home She will dominate that place But when You begin to belittle him Due to the fact that He cannot perform in any area Be it in the bedroom Be it financially he cannot perform Be it that he cannot perform even Amongst his mates then Don't you feel as though that is a problem That can even lead to cases of cheating Because he does not feel at peace In his own house Anakaliwa Some men even get beaten up by their wives Sad, that's true Then what is the solution to that Because aposhida the reaction of the women That's what I'm saying now It's the way she's bringing out her ego I see ego as Being utterly confident in yourself Like you are Self-aware and you take pride in that So like I said The way you project it now also Aposhida We all have egos We just don't see others because people just choose to Mask it So when a woman brings out her ego By belittling you Are you going to stay Or are you going to leave You can't leave Your mates will say You are worried about your mates Your mates are not being beaten That is part of a man's ego We are worried about what people feel about us Then man up Be the man I know your position Ati ati Ati dating does not contribute to marriage It is during dating And nobody 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I'm seeing We need you li piwa me comment Apoivi bazenga tash Kei e, namba 2 Na ame name 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 No My brother Keep commenting Comedian oling Taduaro I'm also seeing here Let me refresh that Remember the more you comment The higher chances of winning Said Falmino Apoivi kalistus Mukongo Bazenga Keep commenting I'm seeing there's a competition between some 2 people Tariyo I said 4 male presenters Of Y254 Newton OG Thank you very much for your feedback And your comments Make sure that you also participate On this conversation of the day Remember we were talking about power talk Right here The male ego But from the perspective of ladies That in studio here I'm with Susan Grace And Eman Jerry Keep participating with us And power talk show At Y254 channel And at Ram Aguko Y254 Thank you for being our loyal viewer Keep commenting These gifts are yours So before we take that break We posed a question about dating and marriage The man last week said That dating is a sham That you should not Just date For the sake of it And he said That when you feel you are ready for marriage Go Approach that lady Propose to her Maria Mambea dating Kwa chana nayo Yes Ram Dating is very important In a relationship Because the question would be How are you going to know me First of all You cannot know everything about someone Maybe during that period of dating You know someone well But again It is very important Now that is where you get to learn Not everything But some few things about your partner Now that's what gives you Now a way for you to decide Can I live with this Can I stay with this Okay Many people Maybe you want to date Because now I know you Because you are beautiful Because I have fallen in love with you Let me tell you one thing We don't get married because of love Not only love that makes us get married There is destiny and there is purpose So first of all If I am dating you During that period You will be able to know my purpose in life You will have to understand my dreams in life Because it is not It is not people that marry each other It is visions that marry each other Because the question will be For example Why is it when a man is proposing The man is the one who has asked the woman Will you marry me But is it a man or the woman who marries who But why would you as a man Come and kneel down and ask me Will you marry me The interpretation for that is So you are asking me Will you vision marry my vision That's not why we get married So during this dating period Is not when we understand So I have vision Because I have vision Now so we agree So you are saying that dating is The right way Yes, so you have to date If you want to marry Do you agree with that And most particularly If you are the one who said yes to him Why is it that when he shows His ego It begins to become a problem Yet you knew who you are saying yes to Okay But when we were dating Did he bring out the ego Because if he did, I would not have said yes You know men sometimes have this thing Where they pretend to be one person As soon as you get married to them Now this is like this other side That comes out When you come on among women Where they can hide themselves even for years And not show you their real faces But you see a man can be very nice And then as soon as you get married So you ask him how But Ram is a nice guy So bring everything to the table While we are dating Let me see if I can stomach it Or if I can't So if I can't, don't even propose Don't humiliate yourself Now When you are in a family gathering You are in a meeting But You would like to be given Some opportunities to do one or two things But he says no Is it wrong When the man takes charge of a situation And says Babe or my wife Do not talk here Let me handle that Let me stay on the other I find that cute It's very manly But it depends Regardless of the conversation No it can't be Because if it's something that's directly tied to me Unona kama this marriage Where the wife is not able to give The husband a child I'm the issue So how can I not talk I understand it's cute But let me also talk on my behalf So it depends on the situation If I need to talk I will talk Regardless of the fact that he says no If he says no And me being quiet I'm not going to listen to the no I have to express myself Even if it's before his family members Of course in Tamambia Kando I have to say something Tamambia Kando I'll whisper I'll just say it You see You are changing I'm not changing If I need to talk If I need to talk I will talk If I need to talk I will talk If I need to talk I will talk If I need to talk I will talk But I think also There is what we call The two of you being an agreement For example if you are going out As I have said for the family gathering If it is from their side Of course as a person From a different family I give you that respect as a man But before we go out there Can we first of all talk as a couple Like maybe this is what we are going to do In the family gathering So what do you think about it Maybe I share with him Like maybe it will be important If we talk about this and this It's okay when we get there But when you get there But at least can you be in line With what we had already discussed As a couple When we get married It becomes us It's never you It becomes us Another example also When you are in an argument Is it also just okay To just let him As I have said Whatever you said it's okay Is it bad to just let it go Must you always want To prove the man that he is wrong But what if he is wrong But he can't accept that he is wrong Because of his ego Is it bad to just let him be again Okay but you know we married As I said earlier It is not competition See competition But now there is this famous question That has helped me and my person We normally ask ourselves Yes we are arguing We have this issue Do you want to be right Or do you want to be happy Baby I want to be happy Because now if we say Who is right and who is wrong So the question is Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy I want to be happy So the question is How should a woman deal with this particular man Call him out By the way I know I am wrong Do you want to be right Or do you want to be happy But I am telling you again A man who can tell you baby I am sorry I know I have wronged you And I am sorry They are there They are those men out there But if you want to be right Or do you want to be happy Do you want to be right Or do you want to be happy I want to be right and happy But sometimes being happy You can't be wrong No taking responsibility As a man does not make you less of a man As a man does not make you less of a man As a man does not make you less of a man But you want to prove me wrong by belittling me It's not proving It's not proving you are wrong But there is something I have learnt Ram Connectually I learnt Yes we are having this argument Yes we are having this argument But he is your spouse He is Nambiana baby It is me you are talking to So for example For me and my guy I know I am using him a lot What do you like about me Tell me two things you like about me Nambiana Baby tell me what you hate about me What you don't like about me And this is very hard No you have to tell me that one thing But now you see this is the issue that a man wants A man just wants peace But sometimes Okay He may be right Or he may be wrong I also want peace But a man wants peace He doesn't want to fight He doesn't want to fight But you want to talk about it Sometimes he just doesn't want to talk about it We are talking to a man Because he is a man Don't call him You just keep it to yourself Let her talk Let her call you out on your mistakes They always say that In every argument You should allow a woman to win Is it bad because of his ego To just say Okay sir you are right It's good for him but for me I wouldn't say But now you wouldn't be satisfied Because I am going to be one An argument you call him An argument It is normally for them that will bring you both To a conclusion God is good for you But now who is the winner I want to win Let's find out Where did this theory come from That the woman is always right Where did that theory come from I am not always right And if I am not right As long as you are living in this world You cannot be always right We all have our weaknesses So women also need to understand That they would always be right That's true In this scenario where you feel you are right And I feel I am right If it's black and white Gray we come on common grounds Will you allow the man to just have his way Because when an argument is won At the end of the day all the man wants Is to be told you are right If it is going to make you happy Then let me just calm down Okay anyway both of you I am always going to be right As long as you know I am Chinese So me as a woman Sometimes I just want to say I am sorry Sometimes I want to say I am sorry Sometimes I am sorry I am sorry I can't run But you see if I know something The same thing might come up again I send it in But it depends what it is by the way You cannot just say that You just calm down for the sake of coming down Ego Even as we have ego But we respect men by the way But they are sitting on our Shimbosan But if here What will you do? When you've You've gone to A restaurant for example And the man Decides to say that He will pay for the bills He will never allow you to pay for the bill Is that something you'd feel Is romantic? That's cute That's okay But if he comes kumata say And do you I don't mind To kumata say He will never allow you to pay any bill Is that something you'd feel He will never allow you to pay any bill Is that something you'd feel Is that something you'd feel If he comes kumata He will pay for the bills If he comes kumata He will pay But he says I will always pay the bill And if I cannot pay for the bill I will just wait for the day That I will be able to pay And then we will go out Kiburi Kiburi Kiburi That is pride Let me tell you Ram We are here to help each other We are here to help each other Just accept We may help He doesn't want you to pay for the bill He cannot pay at the moment We may wait for another day We are going out and I will pay He is going to refund me Refund me but I will go out and I will pay Then again this story is not going to date Don't go out all the time So I will just wait until he comes to pay At the end of the day Some ladies also say That Udaki wana ume Okay let me just use tam Ya ya ya Ya gate trauma Udaki wana ume mayembe By that I mean A man who will also Put his stand And I give his points Some ladies want such kind of a man Muya rasi mama angurume Udaki wana ume Siba wanyu Siba wanyu You want a man Who can roar in the house But the problem is when he roars You begin to say That he is a narcissist Ay I don't think so Tosa awa piha wajeliyu We can't ask for hot tea And then say it's burning you But it's in that how some ladies behave But it depends upon what you are Okay for example let me give you a scenario That was a day That from the minute I could date Chaliangu Ako ikwame ni gomba nisha So he ever raised his voice to me So this particular day I had gone somewhere and I was supposed to call him And tell him about my progress So I did not call him So when he called He was kind of like scolding me I was like hey for the first time finally I mean I gomba nisha Imagine I really felt nice So you would feel nice if a man Shouts Okay not to let him shout Let me feel So what we are getting today So what we are getting today From her From her I know we are together in this No what I am feeling today Is sometimes a woman wants to feel small Last time I was like I was like I was like But you are too complicated Because a man wants to understand you In just one way Man wants to understand you Do you want me to make you feel small Sometimes Because this is all about a man's ego Okay me personally The reason I am saying that is because I would want that man to always remember his position In that marriage I get her point I get her point When a man is too understanding Too polite I get her point Jump starting I get her point I get her point It's not every day So how will I know the difference Where do I draw the line You can always dumb as a man Men have wisdom You are a king and when you are king you have that But a man wants ladies to just Not be complicated Just be simple As if you are not Not as if you are complicated Men are very complicated sometimes Let me give you yet another example Sometimes Ladies do some things to provoke a man To anger And he displays his ego in that Isn't that wrong When you do things to provoke him To anger When you want to intentionally Naki guruma Oh she didn't answer Okay let's not talk about the kids Let's not talk about the kids That's Emma's opinion No Let me ask you Grace Because I'm sure you've done it before Have you ever done something to provoke your man I don't do something to intentionally As he tests the waters Because you test the waters then you start drowning No I'm really shy Of course But I really wanted to know How he will react to it But later he made himself clear I don't like pranks Because there's a couple of pranks And they stopped Let me tell you You are pregnant But then it was a prank We don't go to those extents We only prank them for birthdays But is it right to provoke someone into anger No let's not So your advice is to Everyone who's watching Don't test them You can't go poking a lion We all know We all know what's going to happen You know one thing that I love You can't go poking a lion I don't What has intrigued me is not the poking part It is a lion part Don't also go poking the lioness No Let's leave it at lion When he asks for money You want to remind him Time and time again That you gave him some money Isn't that wrong Isn't that also provoking him into anger Bruzing his ego That when you begin to fight You remind him You know they say Don't bite the arm that feeds you But if the arm is being too arrogant Let go of the arm Go feed yourself How will that promote peace in the house If I as a woman decide I'm okay with a man who's not financially stable And I take it in I should never at any point Throw it back at his face Nili kwa baya hites I did this for you, I shouldn't But if I do that Again it's just the ego being projected in a very wrong manner And it's okay for you to want to live Because that's toxic Sasa uta pumuakoza hamdawanhu Put it in this house Everything it's on the woman It's toxic for you to live So you would advocate for divorce Not any Kwa nipia you don't know the kind of woman she is And you knew the kind of a man he is Bikini luwa divorce kudiko wa wane It is better But alaku wana it is better But also why remind him of the things you did for him Ui wana wami nili toka nae man Ui wana wami wami wami But again there are those men Honestly Ui wana wami wami maybe when you are meeting Like muna pata ali kwa hana anything And you say do you know what baby I love you just the way you are Wuna penda wom say Muna gro nae e Muna pata mali muna pata do So immediately za me pata pesa Now he becomes someone else So na that's where another could realize Eh kumikuna kwa na warembu wuku inje Aya eh kumikuna iutredi na honga 4k But the question would be You tell me nye tukuna struggle Where were all these people The point would be how faithful are you to your partner Because I believe If I loved you when you had nothing Even when you have something You should not just drop me But we can love man 2 months No Who paid that And then the some women say You cannot take me out I'll go to some who can take me out Now what I can say about that one The problem starts from day 1 Because when you are falling in love with someone What is the foundation of this love Because the foundation is The thing that determines How tall the building can go If your foundation is wrong Even the marriage will not work So the question would be What did you love me For example like now I can ask a man Apart from Emma Amide personality Emma the actress Emma the church girl Which one do you love So can we be very very keen On the foundation that we lay When we are falling in love Because if our foundation is money How much money do you have How much love do you have You can buy a house You can buy a salon Money and pedicure You know a few things Will there be peace in the house I don't know because I don't know Because if you are falling in love Many ladies do You are still doing your nails You are still doing your hair You are still going out Before the man came So why is it on him No you just continue what you are doing If he wants to give you let him give you Let me tell you a different perspective Some women Project issues they didn't address Maybe growing up Maybe she grew up seeing the dad Being too arrogant to the mom Because he is providing If I ever provide for a man Ataniti So sometimes it's not really a bad people It's just a resolved issues But then we need to talk to the ladies To understand the men also We need to have that conversation Where ladies understand that I have a role To play in my man's life That even though my man has this kind of ego There is a way I should be handling This particular man But for her she saw it Her father projecting the ego to her mom So for her she is like I am never letting a man Have power over me We will have the power over the man Will she ever find love I think also Most of us have been When I was here last I gave you my story I grew up without a father So in my life when I was dating men I was dating them looking for a father in them Until I realized This is just your boyfriend man He will never be your father So accept your past Accept it happens to you And just move on Let me go to Facebook Let's bring up that comment Up on your screen It's coming up there Why allow ego to cause I don't know if it's Right So she says Why allow ego to cause your relationship If men wouldn't allow ego Take better part of them Then the breakups and divorce wouldn't be Talked about if only men didn't Allow ego to consume them We won't have dysfunctional homes Not everything can be amended And men should not allow Ego to break something That will be As well amended That is we nijuli On Facebook There is Janet And I say man have Huge Gigantic egos Huge Gigantic Even if you don't want to Your reaction to what Winnie said earlier on About She said not everything can be Resolved It's true not everything can be resolved But you want to be right It's not about being right It's just about But if I am right and you are wrong It's black and white Who said that you are right Circumstances If I catch you cheating Am I right or wrong That's what I thought Let me stick on that Cheating What the man is looking for He cannot find that home He is finding it in Another woman's arms For example I have come from work I have gone home There is no food I am hungry I will go eat outside That need to cheating Number two I have come from work I have gone home There is a lot of noise And arguments and fights And I just want to go to bed and sleep Would I find peace in another woman's arms I have come back home Cheating is not dependent on what people do It's entirely dependent on you If you go home There is no food How do you address it You call out the woman And tell her, yo baby this has to change Cheating Someone can push you But you can't say they pushed you to cheat You decided to cheat Cheating is 100% personal It's you to decide To disrespect your wife or your marriage Let me pull up research According to research They say that when someone cheats It means that they have found They had a void That someone else Filled For example if it's in a marriage And there is a void there And then you meet someone else who can feel that void That's fine Then live your husband Divorce then go for where your void is being filled As opposed to maintaining your husband And also maintaining this other person Ram Once a cheater is always a cheater If he has that in the blood He will still cheat Because it's what I believe Marriage is not for two perfect people It is for two imperfect people Who come together to complete each other That means I have my weaknesses I have my strengths So why would you as a man Concentrate on my weaknesses And then again When you're going to cheat as she has said It's a decision you have made You can cheat You can cheat Nobody forced you You can cheat Then again Have you talked to your partner Have you sat them down Like this is what I'm feeling You're not giving me this and this What if a man has refused to introduce it to his friends Is it bad? It is my decision It is my role to make all the decisions in this house And that includes When to take things to the next step So then you did it yourself Yeah exactly What do you mean all the decisions? This is about us It's not about you It's about us Like in the first pen introduced I want to know your friends because Like when women were boys and it can be a ram You know what Today You know Josh If you find it cheating today You will go and tell him But if you can't cheat You and me That's how men are For example When you cheat You can cheat But what if You cheat You can cheat You can cheat You can cheat That is meant for you So I want to know the kind of friends you have Yes please Because show me your friends And I tell you who you are Show me your friends When women were boys and it can be a leader Like when women were boys and it can be a woman It doesn't work like that Your friends are the ones who cheat Show me your friends Introduce me to all of them Introduce me And ram is now Ram I want to meet your friends Ya we want to know your friends Let's bring this to a close Show me your friends I was with Emma Jerry and Susan Grace Ladies Bado Ejaisha It is not yet over Do you not have done that I have just said you are right You are not doing that I have just said you should have been right And that's what happens in a house When the ladies talk and talk and talk We are in a jamaaza too I love you Kisha Maza It is okay you are right But we respect men Thank you so much This conversation continues Make sure that you keep commenting On our social media pages Remember Y254 stands for Name 4 presenters of Y254 Name 4 male presenters Name 4 male presenters of Y254 And the more you comment The higher chance of winning gift hampers Bottles, you have t-shirts, you have bags You have pants and air time Worth a lot of money just for you Make sure that you participate with us We shall announce the winners On our next show next Thursday Okay Y254 stands for Yep hey alright Today it was all about understanding a month's ego And to bring this to a close I quote by Martha Shelly She says And I quote A woman who doesn't care What men think of her Ah that is dangerous This is the worst Conceivable insult To the male ego A woman who doesn't care What men think of her God bless you God bless the work of hands My name is Ram Maguko This is Power Talk