 Amen. All right. Judges chapter 14. So we're starting the life of Samson. So in Judges chapter 13, we remember the angel coming to Samson's father and mother and basically prophesying, you know, the birth of Samson. We talked about how Samson would be a Nazarite from the womb. He was to have, you know, he was to be born into the Nazarite vow. We looked at what the Nazarite vow is in the book of Numbers. We looked at what that meant. That's going to come into play a little bit this evening. But we see that, you know, Samson was a Nazarite from what we saw the prophecy of his life in Judges chapter 13. For the next three chapters, Judges 14, 15 and 16, we're going to look at Samson's actual life and how he prosecuted his life, you know, as, you know, one of the most famous judges in the book of Judges. So it's interesting though because between Judges 13 and Judges 14, we see that, you know, Samson kind of comes into the picture, you know, he was just born in Judges chapter 13 at the end and then it comes into the picture, he's a young adult. He's already grown up and he's looking to get married at that point. So we don't really see how Samson was raised. We don't see how he was raised as a child in between Judges 13 and 14 but we can pick up some clues. We can pick up some clues throughout Samson's life and especially in Judges chapter 14. So look at Judges chapter 14 and verse number one, he's been raised, he's a young adult now. We don't know how he was raised but let's get some clues here as we read Judges chapter 14. And when Samson went down to Timnath and saw a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines. So he goes down and he sees, he's down in this Philistine city amongst these Philistine people and he sees a woman of the daughters of the Philistines in verse number two and he came up and told his father and mother and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines now therefore get her for me to wife. So a couple of things first of all to notice here, first of all it doesn't say that he knew her, it doesn't say that he met her, that he talked to her, that you know he loved her or anything, it says he saw her twice. Okay so it says he saw this woman and he goes back to his his parents and he says get her for me. Okay so first of all look at verse number three. He sees something so that's the first point I want to kind of point out. He sees something and he says I want it and he goes and he tells his parents get it for me. Okay look at verse number three. Then his father and mother said unto him, so here they're going to say to him, they're going to say you know why are you going and looking for a wife amongst the Philistines? I mean the Philistines, they are not Jews, they are not the Israelites, they are not you know they do not worship the one true God, they are heathens. You know Dagon and all these false gods and idol worshipers, they're very violent people and they're actually oppressing Israel at this time. And look at verse number three. Then his father and mother said unto him, is there never a woman? I mean that kind of implies that you know this is not the first time that Samson has you know pointed out a woman of you know some other nation. Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren or among all my people that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, thank you father for the good advice, let me rethink what I'm doing here. Thanks dad. No, look what he says. And Samson said unto his father, get her for me, for she pleaseth me well. So twice he just orders his parents to just you know get me what I want basically. So look, apparently we can already kind of see that Samson has been raised here to realize or to think that he's he's special. Okay, so apparently this angel you know coming to you know his mother and his father you know saying that this is going to be special and he's going to be a Nazarite from the womb and he's going to do these great things. Apparently that has you know not been portrayed in a humble way to Samson by his parents. We kind of have a spoiled type situation here. I mean he orders his parents around like their servants here. Okay, I mean he has no respect for them. It reminds me it reminds me have you ever seen these kids that call their parents by their first name? If I had ever you know if I had to call my dad by his first name I mean I'm sure I could have done it but then I'd have been laying on the ground bleeding. You know what I mean? It's like you just it's shocking when you see that kind of thing because it's just such a lack of respect you know but you'll see five-year-old kids just like hollering at their parents by their first name. You see that today. That kind of when I read this that's what it reminds me of. He just has no respect for his parents. He orders them around like they're his servants. So obviously Samson knows that he's somebody special at this point and he's been raised you know his parents are probably even older at this point. He's a young man. His parents are probably older people which makes it even worse. But look at verse number four. But his father and his mother knew not that it was of the Lord that he sought an occasion against the Philistines for at that time the Philistines had dominion over Israel. So the Philistines were persecuting Israel the Bible says that we saw that in verse or in chapter 13. Then Samson went down and his father and mother to Timnath and came to the vineyards of Timnath and behold a young lion roared against him turned back to Numbers chapter six. So we see something else here. We see it for another clue here about Samson how he was raised and how Samson is is prosecuting his life. You know you kind of have to look at these clues in the Bible and realize that you know nothing's really put in the Bible by accident okay. Samson went down and he came you know through these vineyards to the vineyards of Timnath either where he met this woman or saw this woman you know but first of all what's he doing walking around in the vineyards of Timnath in the first place. I mean the guy is a Nazareite from the womb look at Numbers 6 and verse number third verse number three. The Bible says again this is recap from last week he shall separate himself from wine and strong drink and shall drink no vinegar of wine or vinegar of strong drink neither shall he drink any liquor of grapes nor eat moist grapes or dried. So he's that have he's to have nothing to eat or drink from a vine at all. And yet he's hanging out in a vineyard okay he's walking through a vineyard here all the days of his separation shall he eat nothing that is made of the vine tree from the kernels even to the husk. We'll go back to Judges chapter 14. So he's going through the vineyards meeting you know meeting women okay meeting this woman or seeing this woman doesn't even say that he's he's met her or talked to her look at verse number six and the spirit of the Lord so then he runs into this lion okay so we're going to see another problem so we see that he's in the vineyards and then we're going to see this lion that comes along and look at verse number six and a young lion roared against him it means it came after him attacked him and the spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him and he rent him as he would have rent a kid that's a that's like a goat a small a small goat okay a kid and he had nothing you know he's basically like he tore this lion up like he would have torn up a lamb okay I mean a lamb a kid is like this big I mean lambs when they're born are like seven pounds they're tiny and it says that he tore the the the lion up like you you like you could tear up a lamb okay or a kid and he had nothing in his hand with his bare hands he did this but he told not his father or mother what he had done so he kills a lion with his bare hands okay so first of all we see I mean look I mean that's not normal okay I don't know how many of you have ever been in like a fight with an animal before okay we used to have we used to have these these great Pyrenees dogs I'm going to tell another dog story okay so we had these great Pyrenees dogs they were like 150 pounds they were they were protectors of the the flock of sheep but these dogs were huge they were huge they were good at their jobs and they were dumb and they kept getting into porcupines and everything that they would see they had that they thought they had to kill so they get one of them just wouldn't stop getting into porcupines I thought I was just gonna have to shoot him because it's like he just wouldn't stop getting into porcupines he'd come back to the house after a night of running around or whatever and you just have a face full of quills a mouth full of quills is 150 pound wolf basically is what this is so you know what we had to do it took three of us to hold this dog we'd take him into the barn or the garage and we would set him into the corner and I would lay on his front legs as he's on his side Garrett would lay on his back legs and my wife would pull the quills out with a with a Leatherman and we did that I don't even know how many times a lot my wife loved it but the point is it took three of us to hold this dog down there's no way one of us could have could have held this dog down to do this Samson kills a lion with his bare hands when I'm trying to get you to understand there's there's supernatural strength going on here okay so this is not normal for a man to be this strong okay it's the first indication that we see of Samson's greater than normal or you know super normal whatever you want to call it strength okay look at verse number seven look at verse number seven so he kills this lion okay he kills this lion and then the bible says in verse seven and he went down and he and talked with the woman well okay at least he talked to her now and she pleased Samson well and after a time he returned to take her and he turned aside to see the carcass of the lion so now the lion has been laying there and it's rotting it's dead and behold there was a swarm of bees and honey in the carcass of the lion so inside the lion like it doesn't take long for a body of an animal to rot away be eaten away by wild animals or whatever and this these bees made a honeycomb inside this this carcass and he took thereof in his hands turned back to numbers chapter six he took therefore in his hands and went on eating and came to his father and mother and he gave them and so he took the honey out of the carcass and they did eat but he told them not that he had taken the honey out of the carcass of the lion well that you know thank you right i mean thanks for the honey but hey i got it in some rotting carcass of an animal you know i wouldn't want to know that part right so he doesn't tell his parents but look at numbers chapter six look at numbers chapter six again we see that samson is just not taking this nazarite vow thing like seriously at all look at number six the bible says all the days that he separated himself under the lord he shall come at no dead body turn to leviticus chapter five you say yeah but it was an animal not a man in in in numbers chapter six it's talking about a man well it's really talking about you know being unclean okay look at leviticus chapter five look at leviticus chapter five and verse number two where the bible says this or if a soul touch any unclean thing whether it be a carcass of an unclean beast or a carcass of unclean cattle or the carcass of unclean creeping things and if you'd be hidden from him he shall also be unclean and guilty so leviticus five is teaching some some rules some some kind some cleanliness rules about being unclean touching dead animals touching dead you know bodies all these types of thing and what makes somebody unclean okay so in leviticus chapter 11 just a few verses down so it says look if you talk touch the carcass of an unclean animal you're you are unclean that's what the bible is saying okay so let's look at what an unclean animal is in leviticus chapter 11 in verse number 27 we see that an unclean animal we see the lion is covered in leviticus chapter 11 in verse number 27 it says and whatsoever goeth upon his paws among all manner of beasts that go on all four those are unclean to you whoso touches their carcass shall be unclean until the even and he that beareth the carcass of them shall wash his clothes and be unclean till the even they are unclean unto you so i mean here in leviticus is talking about what you should eat what you shouldn't eat and it's talking about what you should touch and what you shouldn't touch as far as the dead carcass so look the lion went upon its paws the lion was an unclean animal and samson was eating eating out of his carcass he wasn't just touching the carcass he was literally eating out of the carcass of this animal he's not really taking the nazarite vow thing super seriously in his life okay those are the first two indications that we see of that you know that he's not you know he's not really following the nazarite vow go back to judges chapter 14 so we see what do we see so far we see he's kind of a he's kind of a spoiled brat he's kind of you know he's disrespectful to his parents he he sees something and he just wants it and he's not really prosecuting the nazarite vow like the angel said that he should do look at judges 1410 the bible says so his father went down under the woman and samson made their a feast for so used the young men to do and it came to pass when they saw him that they brought 30 companions to be with him so samson was probably not broke i mean he was uh you know a high you know leader in his country and you know he basically hires a bunch of friends here or somebody hired him a bunch of friends so they basically brought 30 companions to be with him at this at this wedding feast okay verse number 12 and samson now here's where it gets interesting and samson said under them i will now put forth a riddle unto you if you can certainly declare it me within seven days of the feast and find it out then i will give you 30 sheets and 30 changes of garments but if you cannot declare it to me then you should give me 30 sheets and 30 change of garments then they said unto him put forth thy riddle that we may hear it so i mean first of all i mean the first part of verse 12 seems fine i mean i i mean i don't know about you but i like a good riddle i love riddles but it kind of turns into like a gambling bet here is the problem okay so they start basically they're at this wedding samson is you know he supposedly wanted this woman so bad and he immediately gets into this gambling deal with these 30 you know people that were hired by somebody to be his friends okay and we'll see how good a friends they turn out to be okay so they're basically they're gambling they're gambling on this riddle which is really you know it's i mean it's a trick by samson because it's an impossible riddle for for them to get you know they would never be able to guess this riddle and he said unto them verse 14 out of the eater came forth meat and out of the strong came forth sweetness and they could not in three days expound the riddle so here they had seven days to get through this riddle or they're going to lose 30 changes of garments which you know that was an expensive thing back then clothing was expensive verse 15 and it came to pass on the seventh day that they said unto samson's wife entice thy husband that he may declare unto this us this riddle please please will you ask your husband please if he could tell us the riddle but they kind of took it a little further than that they said lest we burn thee and thy father's house with fire have you called us to take that we have is it not is it not so so they basically they basically come to his wife and they threaten her life and the life of her family if she doesn't find out the riddle find out from your new husband you know i mean first of all you can kind of tell i mean let's just go to verse 16 and then i'll pause for a minute and analyze this situation but look you say oh poor samson's wife poor philistine gal here right well i mean she's not so innocent either look at samson's wife and verse 16 and samson's wife wet before him and said thou dost but hate me and lovus me not thou has put forth a riddle unto the children of my people and has not told it to me and he said unto her behold i have not told it my father nor my mother and shall i tell it thee so basically she doesn't come she's not honest with her husband you know she's not honest with samson you know it's clear she's using she's using manipulation here she's manipulating him and by the way women don't ever do this with your husbands not that you ever would but don't ever be this wife that is like oh you know if you don't do that use this extreme language if you don't let me do this or let you know whatever you don't love me or you must hate me or some kind of extreme language like this you know it's it's a form of manipulation and that is what samson's wife was doing to him here is she was manipulating him look it's clear that samson's heart is not knit to hers and her heart is not knit to his we'll get to that in a little bit but it's clear that their hearts are not knit together here okay i mean look this is a shallow relationship and i'll define it for you a little bit better later but she could have just went if she was honest and you know she trusted her husband and he trusted her she could have just went to him and said look these people have threatened to kill me these people have threatened to kill my family if you know you know and i'm sure samson would have taken care of the problem i mean it's samson i mean come on you know so she wasn't honest she manipulated samson and she cried and she wept and she wept before him the seven days while their feast lasted verse 17 and and it came to pass on the seventh day that he told her so she just she breaks him down she breaks him down and he tells her because she lay sore upon him and she told the riddle to the children of her people so she breaks him down he tells her and she immediately tells the 30 people and the men of the city said unto him on the seventh day before the sun went down what is sweeter than honey so honey was the answer and what is stronger than a lion so honey and a lion were the answer now nobody could have got that because nobody knew that samson killed the lion with his bare hands nobody saw that he ate the honey out of the carcass nobody saw that and he said unto them if he had not plowed with my heifer so i mean he basically said he doesn't say look did you did you um pressure my my new wife because i'm really upset that you've pressured her and threatened her no he's like if you've not plowed with my heifer okay i mean look there's there's not a lot of respect for his new wife going on here either okay he says if he had not plowed with my heifer he had not found out my riddle so first you know it's just not a great relationship start here between samson and his new wife okay there's not there's not a lot of love and trust going on here from either side okay i mean this thing was doomed from the beginning okay from either side she lies to him she says he's sad you know that he won't tell her she deceives him manipulates him and you know he didn't have a lot of respect or concern for her either okay he treats her basically i mean you know if you're not plowed with my heifer that's him treating her like a piece of property that's that's how he's speaking about her okay so i mean they threatened her you know they said lest we burn thee and thy house thy father's house with fire look at verse 19 so samson he's lost he's lost the bet one way or another i mean they cheated but he lost they figured it out verse 19 the bible says and the spirit of the lord came upon him and he went down to ashkelon now if you remember gaza ekron goth all these are the ashkelon these are philistine cities these are philistine cities to the west of israel and he goes to ashkelon that's kind of to the southwest and slew 30 men of them and took their spoil and gave the change of garments unto them which expounded the riddle and his anger was kindled and he went up to his father's house so look i mean he paid the bet i mean he went and murdered 30 people and then he paid the bet so i mean he was kind of you know he basically goes and he kills 30 philistines takes their clothes and then gives them to these 30 philistines that came to his wedding okay so i mean what what can you say about this first of all you know look at verse number 20 this is how it ends in verse number 20 but samson's wife was given to his companion whom he had used as his friend so i mean the end of the story show i mean first of all gambling i mean the whole story shows you that gambling is not really a harmless exercise okay i mean even look even bets among friends i don't know how many times i've seen this but bets among friends have the ability to cause great resentment and problems first of all i mean this this is extreme this story but look at this bet look at this bet both sides wanted to win so badly that they were willing to kill over it they were willing to murder people over this bet both sides were from the beginning the philistines were willing to murder this woman and her whole family and samson was just going to murder 30 you know philistines and you know give pay the bet should he lose he probably never thought that he would lose but just on the idea of betting just a little side note before we get into the rest of the sermon i mean just think of the stupidity of betting especially amongst friends i mean you you can't really win because look first of all if you lose if you lose you lose all your money and then you're upset but then if you win you've taken your friends money i mean what kind of friends are these right i mean obviously we see that these weren't really friends in samson but people look people are constantly betting amongst friends today i mean all this fantasy football stuff all these you know these card games people are playing you know uh you know on on the weekends or whatever i mean they're just taking each other's money nobody's winning there nobody's winning somebody's always going away and look there are always hard feelings there are always hard feelings in those situations you know you think about i mean think about the bigger picture of gambling with casinos and just the whole gambling industry i mean this one is a phenomenon that just i i don't really understand because i mean why i mean think about this why would you give someone your business that hates you think about that you would never do that with any other business you would never go to a furniture store if you walk in there and they just hate you and they're just you know they just mean to you and they just hate you and they would just like to see you die you would never do that i mean it would be it would be crazy to even think about doing that but with casinos that's exactly what people are doing you say what he's like they don't hate you there they don't hate you at the casino what are you talking about everyone's so nice to you there everyone's so nice to you at the casino what are you talking about look think about this you could work your whole life you could work for 40 years you could work for 45 years you could save up 500 thousand dollars or you know 750 thousand dollars a lot of money you could save up you could build a business over that time and you could just toil and toil and toil maybe it's the family business maybe your children help you build that business your children's children work in that business then you could go into a casino and you could lose all that money in one hour can you i mean have you heard these stories before i've heard of these stories before you could lose 40 years you could lose a lifetime's worth of living in one hour and then you could go and you could kill yourself because you're so depressed and you know what they won't care they won't care you could go and say i'm so depressed i worked for 50 years for that money could you please you know give me my money back they'll say get out of here they'll call the police and they'll throw you out look the casinos look the casinos aren't nice big huge multi-billion dollar buildings because they're losing money to people they're gonna they're gonna take all your money and they don't care they don't care how hard you work for it they don't care you know how long it took you to get that money look they hate you all these billboards where everyone's all it's all lie it's all lie all these young good-looking people they're all like winning you know i always tell the kids i'm like yeah they're not going to show that guy jumping off the roof of the casino you know after he loses his whole life save savings i mean the numbers in the united states are pretty crazy i looked it up it's like you know typically people will go to a casino and just blow some money but 3.5 percent of people they say have an addiction that will basically destroy their life i mean that's not a small number 3.5 percent of people you know and what the addiction you know what it is let me just figure it out for you it's greed that's what it is it's uncontrolled greed it's unchecked greed it's it's people with no self control when it comes to greed and they ruin their whole life and those people they'll let you do it they'll take every penny you have and then when you want it back or you want to undo it they'll they'll throw you out and they won't let you back in they hate you and even if you win in a casino by the way everyone oh i'm taking the evil casino's money no you're not you're taking the guy's money who's going to go jump off the roof that's whose money you're taking you say i'm really good at cards yeah i'm really good i can you know count cards or whatever okay good job you're taking somebody's money he's going to go kill himself have a nice day good luck christian let me know how you're how good you are you know spending that money and how god blesses your life with that money no way it's not going to work for you it's not going to work for you the casinos don't look like that because they lose few things are stupider in my mind than this i mean it's hard it's hard going out there and working and making a living so look we see in this story people were actually killed over a bet i mean people were were killed over a bet samson lost his wife here over money over greed probably some pride in there he lost his wife over it so let's look at now now that we've covered that and covered the story of samson's you know attempted marriage here or his marriage i guess you could call it a marriage his wife was given away but let's let's look at samson's you know relationships and let's take some relationship advice from samson this evening now look teenagers young people i've said this before but the decisions that you make now see it's much bad decisions are much worse for you than they are for me okay because the decisions that you make now are going to echo throughout your entire life the decisions on on you know what you do for a living and all these decisions and and if you get into sin and you get bad habits that's why we're going through the good habit series you need to get some good habits as young people otherwise you're going to carry these things and they're going to echo throughout your entire life okay if i serve the lord until i'm 60 and then you know i get backslidden when i'm 60 look i'm not going to get backslidden when i'm 60 okay but if i get backslidden when i'm 60 you know then you know it's it's much less damaging to me my kids are raised at that point maybe even my grandkids are raised or partially raised at that point but look if you start getting into bad things and make bad decisions as a teenager it could define your entire life it could define your entire entire life so let's just i mean if you're under 25 right now let's take a poll who let's raise your hand if you want a miserable life anybody raise your hand if you want a miserable life so let's look at some some some relationship do's and don'ts from samson here okay so first of all samson was a spoiled brat here's another reason parents you don't want to raise a spoiled brat because you say oh you know they scream in the grocery store or they just want candy and all this kind of stuff it's going to cost major problems later in their life and this is one of them so look spoiled kids first of all they will lack self control they will lack self control living a life just pointing at something and wanting it right now i mean that is is someone that is going to be a disaster in their life if your kids grow up to be that way it's it was look it was samson with this woman he saw something he liked and he said i want her get her for me i mean it gets worse later in life as your kids grow up you know it might begin with small things though you know toys candy whatever and especially when a boy matures by the way this may actually turn into a relationship issue with women like samson had here it didn't look it didn't matter turn to deuteronomy chapter seven it didn't matter to him that this woman was a philistine should it have mattered to deuteronomy chapter seven this woman was a was a heathen this is how i know this is how i know that samson wasn't looking for a spiritual wife he wasn't looking for a a godly partner to walk through life with him this is how i know exactly what samson was looking for when he saw this philistine woman and he said get her for me look at deuteronomy chapter seven and verse number one because samson would have known this when the lord thy god shall bring me into the land where thou goest to possess it and cast out many nations before thee the hittites the gurgishites the amorites the canaanites the parasites and the hivites and the jebysites seven nations greater and mightier than now and when thy lord thy god shall deliver them before thee thou shalt smite them and utterly destroy them see they couldn't utterly destroy the philistines the philistines were too strong and they shall make no covenant with them nor show no mercy unto them or they just they didn't have enough faith maybe to just pursue the philistines to the end the philistines were a constant thorn in the side of the israelites it says make no covenant with them nor show mercy unto them in verse number three neither shall they make marriages with them thy daughter shall thou shall not give unto his son nor his daughter shall thou take unto thy son they were to have nothing to do with these people they were to utterly destroy them and there especially god warns them do not marry into them and samson is just like whatever so look as children mature as children mature and teenagers as you grow older that the choice on who you marry needs to be based on more than you know what you want in the flesh look at verse number one what was samson what was samson looking at here verse number one and samson went down and saw a woman in timnath and he came up and told his father in verse number two i have seen a woman look she probably was good looking that's that's what it says he saw this woman he's like i want to marry her it had no spiritual connotation at all she's a philistine turn to first peter chapter three but god warned against this look there is more than choosing so we're learning what not to do from samson here so here comes the doctrine on top of the bible story remember our methodology first peter chapter three there's more than there's more to choosing a wife or even a spouse in general than the outward appearance the bible says look at first peter chapter three first peter chapter three is talking about it's describing a godly wife so young men if you're looking for a godly wife here you go it says likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands that if any obey not the word they may also without the word be won by the conversation of the wife so the first thing i want to point out is that the direction to the conversation of the wives in verse number two it says the word again while they behold your chased what chased conversation coupled with fear who's adorning let it not be that an outward adorning of the plating of hair and of wearing of gold and putting on of apparel but let it be the hidden man of the heart which is not corruptible even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of god a great price so here we see that a godly wife a godly woman is described as having you know chased conversation what are you looking for in a wife single man what are you looking for in a wife are you watching for chased conversation men young men is that what you're watching for is that what you're looking for are you listening to the conversation of young ladies and saying you know i'm listening for a young lady with chased conversation is that what you're looking for ladies young ladies how's your conversation is it chased you know what chased means chased means pure When you're talking and you're fellow-shipping and you're hanging out, do you have chased conversation? Do you have pure conversation? Because the Bible says that that's what a godly man will be looking for. You say, well, no man that I know would value that, well then you're not finding a godly man. Because a godly man will be looking for that chaste conversation. Look, ladies. Your entire future depends on your conversation. Single ladies. You see how we can narrow down these things that matter so much, turn to Proverbs 31. Your entire future, who wants a miserable life? Who wants a great life? Who wants a great and happy and joyful life and joyful marriage? Look at Proverbs 31 and verse 26, talking about the virtuous woman. What does the Bible say? Again, pointing to what? The Bible says she opened her mouth to blabber and talk about a bunch of worldly garbage. No, she opened her mouth with wisdom. When she opens her mouth, she opens her mouth with wisdom. You say, but you're a young lady and you say, well, I don't have any wisdom. Well, 1 Peter 3 also talks about a meek and quiet spirit. You say, oh, you're telling women to be quiet. No, I do this all the time. You know how many times I'm in a room full of men and there's men just talking like crazy and everyone's trying to talk over somebody else and you know what I do, I just shut up. If I have nothing valuable to add to the conversation, if I have no, let's say that I know the answer because many times I do, but there's seven other guys saying the answer. Why do I need to say anything? I can just be quiet. I'm just quiet. And then guess what? You know the answer and you're quiet. People think you're smart. Even if you don't know, works. Look, so if you don't have any wisdom, if you don't have any chaste conversation, your default, be quiet. That's it. But look, the Bible says here that this is what a godly man will be looking for. Samson didn't care. Samson saw something. Samson the spoiled boy. He's a boy like Samson spoiled with no self-control. This is who he'll choose. He'll choose a Philistine woman. He'll see a woman and say, you know, he'll just, and then, you know, there's his life. So look, what comes out of your mouths, ladies, the words, look, for women, I mean literally, literally what the Bible is saying here that the things that you say will define the type of husband you marry. Have you ever thought about that? I mean, there are men out there looking for a godly wife. And if you talk about, look, ladies, if you talk about nothing but worldly things all the time, look, you do what you want. You do what you want. You talk about worldly things all the time. You talk about nothing but, you know, just, you know, silliness and worldly things and you're not meek and quiet. You know what you're going to attract? You're going to attract a Samson is what you're going to attract. And there, that's how you wreck your life. This woman wrecked her life by yoking up with Samson in like the first five minutes. So young people, I mean, listen up, there's a lot. There's a lot to learn here. I mean, I've seen this happen so many times to young men and young women. You know, all these, you know, these women talking about Mr. Right. You know, I've got to find Mr. Right. The guys talking about meeting the perfect girl. But the sad, the sad fact is this, the sad fact is this, that, that godly man, if you don't, you know, have chaste conversation, that godly man will walk in and he will look right past you. He will be looking, you know, I mean, that godly, chaste young man that's ready to support a family and be a great spiritual leader to his family. And what are you? A worldly young lady constantly talking about worldly things. He's going to recognize that right away, right away, you know, yapping up a storm about, you know, things that have nothing to do with the spiritual life whatsoever. He's going to look right past you. See, the problem with kids today, the problem with young people today is they're looking in the wrong direction. They're all, they're all looking around, where's that perfect one? Where's the perfect one? You know what they should be doing? They should be looking at themselves. They should turn. They should be looking in a mirror and getting that chaste conversation. You know, so when that young, you know, guys, guys, do you think you're going to get away with this? You know, Scott Free tonight, guys, it works the same way with you. That godly young lady walks in and she walks in the door and she's like, hi, you know, who are you? I'm so-and-so. She's looking for a husband that can support her and lead her and raise a family and lead her family and her children, the people that she's going to love the most ever in her life. And she's looking in and you're like, hi, I'm a loser. She's like, oh, what do you do for a living? Now or last week or what? Next week? What? What's the living? What was the question? What was your name? Did you like to get married to me and live a life of poverty and misery? I'm worse than an infidel. Look, look, kiddos, seriously, seriously, there are godly young people out there and they are looking for something more than just a pretty face. They're out there. They're out there. And when they walk in the door, what are they going to see when they look at you? What are they going to see when they meet you? What are they going to hear when they hear your conversation? Will they give you a second look? Because look, they're not these types of people, these types of young people. They exist. I know who they are. I can name them. They're not, they're not looking for the outward. They're looking for the inward. So I would be, I would be doing nothing but sharpening myself and looking in a mirror and sharpening myself and doing what the Bible says that I'm supposed to do. The first part of Proverbs 31 is talking about King Lemuel, it's talking about the man and what he needs to do. Stay away from alcohol, stay away from this stuff, start getting your life together and then think about praying. Here's all you got to do. Fix yourself, pray for God to send you somebody and it'll be done. That's it. You're looking in the wrong direction. All you kids are looking in the wrong direction. You look at yourself, you fix yourself according to what the Word of God says and then you pray to God and he's just going to make that happen. Because if you're a wreck, don't forget God loves the other person too. God's not going to send some godly young lady that just loves the Lord and have her marry some trainwreck. He loves her too. I mean, come on. You've got to think about this from a perspective other than just yourself. John 15.7, abide in him and then pray and then pray. That means you do your part, obey him. Then pray, God will take care of the rest. Look, then you've got a chance. Then you've got a chance at a great, wonderful life with a wonderful spouse. That's what God wants for you. No answer to that prayer, but you've got to look in the mirror. So there's two sides to the coin, folks. Who you marry, it's the one single decision. Maybe the one single decision that will have the most impact on your entire life on this earth. Look, you're saved, you're always going to be saved, but man, who you marry, that's a big one, folks. So don't take relationship advice from Samson, because he didn't have this one figured out. God still used him to judge the Philistines, and we're going to see that in the next couple chapters, but the man had some issues. So we can see, we can learn good things and bad things from these stories in the Bible. Let's bow our heads and have a word of prayer.