 quite often if it's something that's really important we're obviously going to want to put more work into that process perhaps in that situation you're just leaving the person that you're dating after staying for like maybe a day or two and then they say I love you and do you love me and you say oh I'm not sure and then they leave you may be thinking oh god it's over this is horrible and you know that I love them and your brain starts going off and buzzing around and doing all sorts of somersaults and backflips for no reason and it could just be they are valuing you and what you're saying and they're trying to understand they try to put it into context and produce a response that would be most accurate to them and also as soft and as emotionally understanding as possible