 When the narcissist knows you're wise to their games when they know you're on to them When they know you're beginning to figure them out When the narcissist knows you're wise to their games They will love bomb you again Because it worked for them in the beginning That's how they lured you into their web so they will future fake they will give you false promises To remind you of the false character They will act kind and helpful until you start to question yourself Until you start to think that maybe you got it wrong it creates cognitive dissonance Where you have two conflicting beliefs about them They use it to maintain reinforcement To train you to seek reward from them rather than punishment So even when they're treating you badly You will still try to do more You will run endlessly on this hamster wheel trying to please them Which is exactly what they want But when they feel like you're starting to figure them out They will love bomb you again You may think that maybe they're not so bad after all You may continue to stay with them because sometimes it's good Sometimes they do nice things for you Which is how you end up staying with them for such a long time and losing so much of yourself and your life They are master manipulators They're often very charming and charismatic So they know how to lure you in And they know how to keep you under their control When the narcissist knows you're wise to their games They will triangulate you with other people They will enforce their flying monkeys And they will start a smear campaign Which is very easy for them to do Because they always have to be close with other people They always have to be involved They will do nice things for random strangers before they do anything for you So they've always got people under their spell They've always got people wrapped around their thumb Which means that they've always got people they can turn against you Because people think they're so wonderful So they can turn around And say you're the only one who thinks there's a problem As though no one else will believe you So you may feel like you're on your own You may feel alone and isolated Which is exactly what they want Because if there's going to be a discard They don't want you to have any support They don't want you to feel like you have anyone on your side And most often When people go through this They don't have anyone on their side The narcissist flying monkeys will turn against you They will do the narcissist bidding Because the narcissist has already told them all these things about you They've lied to them They've spread rumors They've told them that they were just trying to help you They've played the victim They've made false accusations against you They will often say that you were doing things that they were doing to you So now despite everything they've done to you You're the one who looks bad Which makes it easier for them to turn people against you Because people may think that they're helping them They may believe they're doing the right thing Narcissists like to target your family and friends And turn them into their flying monkeys Because they know that you love and trust them And it makes the narcissist feel powerful when they are able to do that It tells them that they are better than you That they are more intelligent They don't look at themselves to see that what they're doing is wrong They just think that if you were so smart, why couldn't you stop it from happening? They blame you for everything Even the things that they're doing to you When you may not have done anything wrong And those people just don't know the full story They're just being fed this narrative by the narcissist But you shouldn't waste your time trying to convince them You shouldn't waste your time trying to get them on your side Because that rarely works You will just spend more time worrying about it So instead, what you can do is set strong boundaries Don't give the narcissist any supply And accept that you can't fight all of the flying monkeys You can't convince them You can only be yourself You can only live in your truth You can only be the best that you can be So let them think what they want to think And just hope that in time the truth will reveal itself But you have to accept that for now People aren't going to see you how you want to be seen Or how you actually are And that's just how it has to be sometimes The best thing you can do now Is distance yourself from those people Because they're not going to help you And avoid engaging with the narcissist Because they may try to love bomb you Once they know that you're on to them Just remember that they don't have your best interest in minds They just want to gain control of you again But in time they will get bored And things will get better They only hang around for long periods of time If they're still getting supply Once you cut off their supply They're not going to waste their time Thank you for watching If you found this video helpful Please give it a thumbs up Share your thoughts in the comment section Hit the subscribe button to receive notifications If you would like to support the channel You can donate at papel.me slash narc-survivor You can book a one-on-one with me or our website It's narc-survivor.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon