 If you take anything I've ever said okay anything I've ever done right now write this down in memory Okay in blood if you have to This will not change your life It will not change my life, but it's more important than either ours This has ability what I'm going to tell you to change human history and human future projection our future It is dealing directly with your children and you're literally family family tree if we know that these traits of fear mistrust anxiety that end up as adults Manifesting themselves in codependency Okay alcohol abuse Any number of a social anxieties can be resolved in childhood by having a Primary care provider present and available and consistently there you're going to change the world Study after study recently have been coming out showing that neglect is a primary source of abuse simple neglect Abandoning your job Who does that? Hardly anybody Here's the catch and it's significant and it's not getting a lot of news Children that are put in daycare for more than 20 hours a week Suffer the same male effects as children physically abused There's your neglect daycare Making a conscious choice Not to have primary care provider there for the first three years of life I'm not talking a life sense the first three years If we can change that equation Have each and every one of you today Just dedicate yourselves to creating that envelope for your child We can change the world right there and it starts with your children. I Can't prevent what happened to you I can't prevent what happened to me the anxieties we have because of it our parents may have not a known We may have been let met astray, but the consequences are still here We can change the world by the manner in which we treat our children in the first three years of life Okay, that is utterly fascinating to me and it's utterly attainable Okay, and again The world can be a statistic you and your child does not have to be All right Now you will have also heard other elements. What happens when it's not just neglect what happens when in Early youth you just don't go through a situation of Benign neglect okay, because and keep in mind a child doesn't understand when mother's not around or when the primary care Progivers around they're just not there. They don't they can't rationalize it. They're fearful They just fill a bin. Well, what happens when you actually have real honest to God trauma when you're truly fucking abused What happens then what occurs then? You know what the results are it's not codependency It's not substance abuse It's not any number of behavioral disorders No, we got a great one You end up becoming a sociopath You end up becoming a psychopath extreme narcissism Okay, any of those cult personalities sort of borderline personalities. That's where that stuff comes on non genetically I think there could be a possibility of a genetic component, but we know external factors social development This is absolutely true and utterly preventable All right now in an earlier speech that I that I gave previously I talked specifically about what to do about you know when you have a real world monster in your life when you are Dealing with a narcissist when you're dealing with a sociopath when you're dealing with a psychopath in your life And I'm telling you if you're going out in the environment and dating environment You're going to come across is why because you're going to be drawn to the same environment. They choose to excel in Okay, one of the fascinating ones is if you want to come across a sociopath Go to a nightclub I'm not kidding Go to a nightclub Okay, that is an approving ground for sociopaths and psychopaths Okay, they thrive there take that into account the next time you look at that environment and see how many people They are not just unstable, but deeply unstable Okay, the problem is you're going to be attracted to it like a moth to it for all these biomechanical reasons It's fascinating, but just keep that in mind if we're going to change the world. We can do it right here All right You want to strengthen your family tree and leave a phenomenal fucking legacy that I did better I knew better. I did better when I knew better and this is a gift. I give my child Right there first three years of your child's life dedicate yourself to make sure your life is in a position to be able to achieve that If you do that and drop dead You've made the world a better place. You've been successful