 Now, post-nut is what we call full clarity. This is when you've achieved your nut, right? It feels good. Now, the things that that woman is, is going to now affect you in a major way. And a lot of guys underestimate these things, but they become important after you've achieved that. All of a sudden, you're worried about these things. All of a sudden, these things matter. Now, for the women's defense side, they're going to say, well, you should ask me these things, and why did you do this? And you should have told me, and I don't, it's your fault. If he's the little cray-cray, right? We deal with little crazy things, right? But is she marital material? One of the things I hold men accountable for is to stop talking shit about women after you've fornicated with them. That's one of the most worst things I can do. As a man, you don't want to pipe her down, but now you got all this smoke for her, and that's because you can't manage your pre-impulsive and clarity. So I always tell men, nah, man, nah. Don't talk about her now. She yours, okay? And you piped her, so she ain't no hoe. You a hoe, all right? Or where does that leave you? Go ahead and actually have accountability there. Physical health, obviously, we got a lot of overweight women in here. We're going to talk about that. Emotional age. There's several ways to manage age or measure age. Chronologically, you look on a calendar. Women they born, where they at now, okay? Then their physical age. There's a lot of people that are a certain age and say, well, you don't look 56. You don't look 46. You don't look 23, right? That's because we measure age by a calendar. It'll be actually trying to associate development with that age, and not everybody falls in that. So that is called physical age. Then you got emotional age. Damn. People do not match their age emotionally. Women typically stop developing that emotional age when they physically develop. They say women start maturing faster than men. How many people have heard that? They mature earlier. Yeah, but they don't follow that off. Go ahead and follow that shit on until 30 and 40 and see where we at, all right? Because what happens is when you start to achieve success, you tend to stunt your development. This isn't just for women. This is for men. Basketball players, football players, it happens to them on the men's side. They reach great heights at 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, and then they're still walking around like they're 16 and they're 40. Women do the same thing. In middle school, they'd be like, hi, teacher, I'm doing well. All right, I'll look at the girls. They're so mature. Well, it's not maturity. They just scared of looking bad, but we make that maturity. They're scared of the one to be just out there breaking the rules. We come in for physical education class. How about we score the triple double in PE class? We don't care about behaving well, but the women tend to carry that on. They call that maturity. Then they start developing after middle school and then the maturity probably stunts. So that then she's 40. And then when it's time to act emotionally, she might break down and cry like she's in middle school. And they'll say, I don't know why I'm crying. I know why, but I'm a misogynist if I tell you. This is what it is. And I'm going to tell you, you haven't emotionally matured. But it's okay. There's a variety of things that we pay attention to now. You could say number of sex partners. These become important after you pipe her down. You realize she's been in these streets. Now you're going to call her names. There's a lot of things that we talk about after the fact that we need to start improving on. You need to ask these people before the fact. Why not investigate this? Why don't you do your due diligence? Now I know women got smoke from in in a dating marketplace, but they got a right to because you're practicing this. Okay. You think these people are all good, but you're not really investigating them. No, I know it's hard. Did you see the booty? Titty's jiggling, right? It's hard. I know. But at the same time, if we manage our side of the game, we'd actually make the game a little bit more fair. So it's not all women's fault. We actually bring a lot of smoke to ourselves. All right, let's go down here. If you guys want to check that out, I talk about that quite often. This is the marriage will. It's a little bit blurry, but we talk about how men get involved in these marriages and why the divorce rate is actually a lot more than 50%. These are people who legally detach. They don't talk about the ones that the woman told them to look over that cliff right there. You see how far that is? Yeah, if I drop you, you assed out. She just showed you the ledge and you'd be like, God damn. So down there, I don't get to see my kids no more, huh? And I get to lose my house, huh? And the car, everything I work for, it's cheaper to keep her baby. Happy wife, happy life. We could just be roommates as long as... See, that's probably additional 25% of people, okay? So the divorce rate, marriage rate, divorce rate is way higher than it actually is, but people don't mention it. So I tell you how you got into that. The connection phase, she tickled your balls and you liked it. She gave you access. Hopefully you investigated her. Most men don't. And then you get into the investment phase and you're feeling good. You think you're doing the right thing as a man. We're gonna talk about that in a day. I'm doing the right thing by society by doing this. And then you say it's right of passage as an adult, as a male, I need to be here for my family. I need to get the house, the car. I need to make sure her hair is dead. She got the weave on point. I gotta make sure we go on family trips so we can get the fake book pictures. We gotta do all that. We gotta send the kids to the good school, moving to the neighborhood and whatnot. That's the investment phase. This is the phase that most women look to achieve in the transactional relationships of marriage because if you don't invest, very few marriages are gonna go past this, right? And she's gotta know you're gonna invest. This is the will you're on. This is why she says, do you have a good stable job, sir? What do you see yourself in five years, sir? What type of kids? How many kids you wanna have, sir? What neighborhood do you like, sir? Public or private schools, sir? These are all inquisitions to investment stage. As a man, we have to know this is coming up. If you fail in this endeavor, well, you're not gonna have a good long marriage, okay? Don't listen to this equal partnership bullshit. That's feminism. We'll go over that, okay? Now, next one is gonna be the bait and switch. Obviously, this is when they say, well, I would never do that to you. And I'll always make you ham sandwiches and I'll never restrict sex from you and I'll never go in to your children and I'll never take your children from you. I would never divorce you. I can't even understand why women do this. I can't stand those women. I'm not like those. And then she becomes that. This could be as simple as you like long hair and she chops her hair off or she blows up like the Goodyear blimp. Like she was thin and now she's not. Do you still love me though? Well, I guess I have no choice. Yeah, I love you. See, these are the things that's gonna happen. Now, do men, bait and switch. Women, women come on my channel. Ben, bait and switch. We're not talking about me. I know. You want me to always talk about you and then I'm talking about you. You want me to talk about? We're talking about you. I don't date men. So I'm talking about why I date women. I don't talk about what I know. Or a lot of things can happen in the bait and switch. Now in the bait and switch, she then says, well, the next step is disengagement, which is divorce and you either accept me or not. And then you get caught up in, okay, baby, or you say, man, F all that. I'm a man around here. I'm gonna stand on my two. I'm gonna stand on my square. You do what I tell you to do. Now you better hope that she says, okay, because if she doesn't, then you go to the next step, which is disengagement, okay? So more than 75% experiment with disengagement or they go all the way through, okay? 50%, we know legally. They say paper, but there's another percentage of men that say, I want to save for the kids. I don't want to lose my house. It's cheaper to keep her. So they stick around and they go through this and they avoid the disengagement. And then at some particular point, this is where men screw up amongst the other screw ups. That's the go your own way or the re-entry. What is the second marriage divorce rate? 63%, third marriage is 70%. It's damn near a guarantee. And those are the people who legally divorce. These are the people who say, there's not including the people who are thinking about it. Many people in second marriages, they essentially say, oh, fuck it, I'm screwed. All right, everybody knew I lost my first wife. If I tell them I lost my second wife, then it's a reflection on me. So I'm gonna just go ahead and put up with this bullshit. Okay, now these second and third marriages blow up quickly, like in two to three years. It's already done though. But you re-entered and then you started back here. Then you went through this. Now some wise men come along and say, oh, hell no, I learned once, that's it. Those are the men they call bitter and hurt. Oh, you just bitter and hurt. You just mad? No, I'm smart. Okay, I realized I ain't going through that shit again. And I'll just go ahead and find another way to live, which I then go back to the dating marketplace.