 Hello, my YouTube family. Welcome again to another NARC's Viva Life video, when narcissists go crazy. I'm sure you all know what I mean when I say that. Not the good kind of crazy. Not where they're like confessing they're in dying love for you. Or where you're having a party. You're having a great time. It's not so much of that kind of crazy with the narcissist. So in fact you probably already know what I mean. When they go crazy. Of course I'm speaking about their narcissistic rage. We're going to get into this deep tonight. Tonight where I am. Right now at least. But yeah we're going to get deep into it. I'd really just explore the rage of what is going on in their minds. What causes this to happen. So if this sounds good to you. Hit the thumbs up button down below. Show your support. Just get this message out there to those who may need to see it as well. Hit subscribe. Click on notifications. Then you will be notified when I upload a new video or when I go live. And if you would like to book a one-woman coaching session with myself. You can go to my website to book it is NarcSurvivor.co.uk Now we're going to dive deep into this one. It's definitely a hot topic for a lot of people. We just want to understand what is going on. Because I know what it's like. I've experienced this myself. Since childhood. I've seen the rage in many of my family members. And even relationship partners as well. And it is a horrible experience to go through. It really is. But you know what I remember throughout all of these experiences. And I'm sure many of you will relate to this as well. It's really insane how they can rage over the smallest things. They can turn molehills into mountains. And it could be something so trivial, so insignificant. It just doesn't even matter. And yet they'll blow it up all out of proportion. They'll turn it into something big. And we go along with it. We agree with it. We look at it like, okay maybe I've done something wrong. And then we feel a lot of shame. We feel bad about ourselves. We feel like we're not good enough. And we need to be better. And that's just it. I've said it before. Pay attention to how you feel when you're dealing with them. I can tell you exactly how you feel when they are raging. That's how they felt. Just before they raged at you. They felt like they're not good enough. They're inadequate. They're no good. They felt shame. As Dr. Ramani has done a video about herself. She calls it the shame rage spiral. So there is no rage without the shame. Where they're extremely self-conscious. They feel bad about themselves. But that's just it. When NASA says they can't be vulnerable. They can't open up. They can't be intimate. They can't connect. They can't do any of that. And they will never be able to do that. If they could do that then it's not a narcissist. Because narcissists can't do it. And they can't do it because of the shame. That they can't deal with. They can't reflect on. And that's why it comes out as rage. I mean a normal person. But just look at yourself when they rage at you. How do you react? I know myself. When my parents would rage at me. A narcissistic relationship partners. Honestly I would just feel like I'm nothing. I would feel like I'm not worth anything. I would feel so bad about myself. And I would just put my head in my hands. And I just want to hide myself away from the world. I just wouldn't want anyone to see me. I just wouldn't want to talk to anyone. Because I'd feel like I'm just not good enough. I can deserve enough contempt. Like I deserve to be treated that way. I don't deserve any love or respect. That's exactly how it felt. And I'm sure many of you have felt that exact same way. And do you know when narcissists see that? When they see you being vulnerable. You're opening up. They're projecting their shame onto you. They're raging. And then you react to it. You feel bad about yourself. That just makes them hate you even more. It disgusts them. It repels them away. But I know myself. If I saw someone like that. Who was hurt. Who was full of shame. Maybe after dealing with a narcissist, whatever it may be. I would want nothing more than to love and comfort them. I guess that's what I do on you every day. Because I know a lot of you. Like myself. You may be feeling the shame from dealing with a narcissist. Feeling like you're bad. You're not good enough. You're deserving of contempt. And that's why I make these videos to raise your spirits. And to remind you just how great you are. Because remember they're rage. They're shame. It's got nothing to do with you. It's not your fault that this person hates themselves. And that they can't regulate their own emotions. It's not your fault. It's not your problem. And it's not like you just ignored it. And you didn't try to help them and be there for them. Many of you did. And I know that my own experience is I would always try to comfort the narcissist. I'd want to be there for them when I started to wake up and I could see that they're the ones who are hurt. I'd want to comfort them. But then what do they do? They just push you away. They don't want to be around you then. They just want to hurt you, provoke you, make you react. Get into your skin. Get you upset. And then it's like as soon as they get that reaction out of you as soon as they push you past the pain threshold then they calm down. Then there's no problem. Everything's fine. Because all they really want is that reaction. They want you to respond. They want you to agree to it. That it's you and not them. And this is how you know exactly what you're dealing with. This is how you know. Because a narcissist is going to be like that. But they're so petty. They're so immature. They've got to point the finger. They've got to rage at you to make it like it's you and not them. I could just quite easily say it online video to all of you, to all of the thousands who've got to watch this. I could just say, I've made so many mistakes in my life. I've messed up at times I felt like I'm no good. I'm nothing. I'm a loser. So many times. I've made so many mistakes. But I take accountability. I learn from it. I try to be better. And I'm sure many of you have been through that as well. So many times with a narcissist. Maybe every day in some cases where you're feeling bad about yourself because of how they provoked you. You start looking at yourself, questioning yourself, feeling like you're no good. And then it all starts again. The cycle of abuse is like, all right, I feel bad. I'm no good. What have I got to do different? What have I got to do better? It just goes on and on day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year if you've been with them that long. And no matter how much you change, no matter how much you try to be better, it's like it just doesn't make a difference. There's nothing that you can do to please them. They're unpleasable people. They're never going to be happy with anyone or anything. There's nothing that you can do or say that's going to make it better for them because the problem is not with you. If it was your problem, you would have fixed it a long time ago. But you can't because it's not your problem to fix. It's them. And that's why no matter how many times you look at yourself, you self-reflect, you take the blame, you accept accountability for things you haven't even done wrong. It's not going to change anything because then the next day it's going to be something else. They're going to blame you. They're not going to take accountability. They're just going to pile it on you again. So nothing's ever going to get resolved. And as much as many of you may love and wish long and yearn that the narcissist in your life will be like, just as I said, just as I express myself, that they could be vulnerable, that they could just come out and admit it and be like, I feel like I'm worthless. I feel like I'm no good. I get it. I realize, I accept. I've made so many mistakes. I've hurt you. I've hurt many people before you. Now I want to change. Now I want to be better because I don't want to feel that way again. As much as you may wish that the narcissist in your life could be that way, it's just never going to happen. It's never going to happen because they do not accept themselves so they're never going to accept you. They're only going to try and push and provoke you and change you into something else. Anything other than yourself because they're not themselves. They don't want to be themselves. They can't be vulnerable. A long time ago, they abandoned who they really are and created a false self. This false self is meant to be perfect but then they're hypersensitive to any perceived injury or insults and that's where it all falls apart. It crumbles and then they rage once they feel that shame. This is actually why they want to sensitize you to even the playing field. You notice how they always try to get you hyper-aware of things they say, certain things they do. They might emphasize certain words or they might use indirect conversations with a talk to someone else but it's just a conversation just for you to try and get you to listen to it. All of these things, it's to sensitize you to even the playing field, to make you just as sensitive and hyper-aware as them. And yes, while they may shame you for that that's what they're like. They're always scanning the environment for threats. They're watching everything you do. That's what they're like. And many of you may look at it like why have they got to rage? Why have they got to get mad all the time? I mean, when they get angry they just want to push you away. They want to hurt you. I'm sure some of you, when they provoked you and you get mad it's like all you may want is just to be close to them again. You may just want to give them a hug and for them to hug you. I mean that's typically how it is in a normal healthy relationship you want to come back together. You want to end the fight, the argument. And especially before you go to sleep at night you don't want to let it go on until the morning. You want to make up a narcissist. They won't just let it go on until the morning. It will go on for days, even weeks. And they can hold grudges for life because it's not you, it's them. And no matter what you do, it's not going to change anything. They're always going to be that way. They hold grudges. There's all of this resentment. They get mad, they rage. That's because they hate themselves. That's really what it is. And because they don't self-reflect. But we have this awareness that I know I do myself. Like of course sometimes maybe if I want someone to call me someone to text me back and they don't for a moment I may feel a little bit angry or upset and that's normal, that's healthy as long as it doesn't lead to toxic behaviours but then I recognise no, I feel angry or upset because I'm self-conscious because I think I'm not good enough. Now that's why they're not calling or texting me back to see how it works because studies show when we feel offended by a person's words or actions it actually has less to do with that person and far more to do with us and how we feel about ourselves feelings of offence may bring up our shame and that's what we're reacting to and that's what an artist is looking for when they offend or insult you or even when they rage at you they're looking for a reaction out of you to get you to agree to it that it's you and not them or the other one who's not good when instead what you've got to do this is the process that I follow this is how you regulate and how you then heal any traumas that they have inflicted upon you when they do that you go and you take some time to yourself and you accept alright they said this they did this to me and then you ask yourself how do I feel about this and you just accept it the feelings that come along as studies have proven when we feel offended or insulted you accept yeah this doesn't make me feel good about myself forget what they may have done now I feel the shame I feel bad about myself I feel like I'm not good enough and why do we not feel good enough when this has happened the reason why is it's because well if I was worth anything why would I have to endure this why would I have to suffer why would I have to go through these words that I am receiving from this person or the actions that I have to endure why would I have to go through this if I was worth anything and that's really what it is at the core of it all because deep down as I've said before we do have some self love as empaths especially we have self esteem real self esteem where it's like we know we deserve more and I remember times in my life even going back as far as my childhood people did things to me but I didn't like because I believed I was worth more than that and it caused me to feel a lot of shame it caused me to feel bad about myself like I'm not good enough but that's good because that means we do have some self esteem because we're reflecting on it the thing with narcissists is they don't do that they don't look at themselves and feel bad and it's like it's me, I'm no good I need to be better it's not like that at all with them because they don't have healthy self esteem they don't have self love and instead they instantly get mad, they rage and it's not always just this these outbursts or these tantrums sometimes it is passive aggression they do things covertly under the radar just to get under your skin just to hurt you and get you to accept that it's you and not them healthy people don't do that and this is when you know that you're mature you're emotionally healthy but it's like, alright it's me now I need to be better but then that's a problem that we make as well thinking that we need to be better for them don't even try to be better for them you're never going to be good enough because they're not good enough for themselves instead you take that feeling of thinking yes me, I'm not good enough I'm bad and then you take it and try to be better for someone else or you use it to be better for yourself and then you just keep getting better when they do these things, when they get mad when they rage at you they want a response and I know I get it when someone's constantly pushing and provoking you it can turn into a reactive abuse because there's only so much a person can take because they constantly try to get under your skin they're always trying to irritate you because sometimes they want you to lash out at them so then they can point the finger and be like ah, see, it's you so instead what you've got to do is you've got to remain stoic don't react, respond observe, don't absorb but also know that when you do that they may try to ramp up the abuse because what they really want is that reaction out of you and then as soon as they get that they calm down but if you continue to do that over time you remain stoic, you observe you don't absorb you observe, don't absorb then eventually you're not going to be a very good source of supply for them and then they might leave you and go and find someone else because that's what they really want they don't want to be around someone who's calm, cool and collected they don't want to be around someone who's stoic I just like to say, I mean these narcissistic men they're just not really men at all, are they? because as men what are we meant to be an emotional, non-reactive men are meant to be stoic we're meant to be calm and depressed because a long time ago this should be hard-wired in us if we were getting chased by a bear or a lion we couldn't just panic we're meant to remain cool and emotional because when emotions are high intelligence is low so yeah, these narcissistic men they lose their cool so easily they throw tantrums like a two year old child and it's embarrassing when you wear them out in public and they act like that they can really embarrass you if you're at a restaurant or wherever you may be you don't want to be around someone like that but here's the thing as well and I may be unfortunately pointed out I flaw in some of the women who may be watching this and I'm not going to apologize for that because I'm here just to give you the truth and tell you exactly how it is they may not be you but maybe you know someone like this there's a lot of women out there who are drawn to these types of men you're attracted to them these men who are crazy they're not even real men they get mad over any little thing they turn molehills into mountains and you think that's chemistry you think you've got some kind of connection there's no connection there that person's disconnected from themselves and you should not be attracted to that if you are that suggests that maybe you experience something like that in your childhood where maybe your mother or father was that way they blew up over little things they got mad, they raged they were very unstable emotionally and so that's familiar to you and how you feel like you're attracted to that and if that's you you need to take some time away from dating you need to take some time to heal because it's not healthy for you it's not good you get drawn into these types of relationships around these types of men because you believe that that is what you deserve you need to recognize that you deserve better you do deserve a man who can be calm and a pressure a man who is stoic alpha I know an alpha male is not one of those men who's always angry and looks like he's just ready to burst at any moment like a loose cannon that's not an alpha male, that's a beta male unfortunately many movies and media influences they push this fake image of an alpha male when real alpha males are nothing like that if you wanna know what an alpha male is I would say some good examples are Tom Cruise Jason Statham George Clooney watch some of their movies or their interviews see what they're like in real life those are real men men to look up to men that women should be attracted to because gotta think back in the cave men days you really think these men who just blow up over any little thing like any little thing that goes wrong they lose their cool they panic they go crazy, they rage you think somewhere like that could ever survive in that type of environment what do you think they would do if there was a fire an earthquake if something really went down do you think they would be able to remain calm do you think they would be able to soothe you to protect you to keep you safe of course not because they can't even remain calm themselves they're not even safe to be around themselves they're a danger to you and they're a danger to themselves so this is what a real alpha male is it's someone who can remain calm no matter what they go in through no matter the situation or environment but then of course we all have our limits there are times when we can be pushed over the edge but even then in those cases most of the time we're going to look at ourselves we're gonna self reflect and yeah even alpha males they can feel bad about themselves they can feel like they're not good enough that's what pushes them where they strive to do and be better because if you're always blaming everyone else and you're never taking accountability how are you ever going to improve how are you going to develop that strength of character and I really wanted to point this out about narcissistic and toxic men the reason being because from what I've learned from my research and also from what I've seen in my experiences although it's not always the case but most often narcissistic men are the ones who rage overtly the women are more covert more passive aggressive as I said it's not always that way and I have seen women who have raged overtly as well and actually funny enough I've seen far more men who have raged covertly but that may just be because it was around me and if someone rages overtly at me I'm not going to tolerate it it doesn't mean that I'm going to rage back because that doesn't help of course they want to pull you into that wrestling ring that's what they like they're like drama, chaos toxic and dysfunctional environments they love that so what we do instead is we remain stoic and it does remind me of a video I watched recently by Danish Bashir I'm sure some of you watch his channel as well I do love his videos and he spoke about a taxi driver in one of them something where he charged them a bit extra when he got out of the cab and then Danish pointed it out and then he spoke about how the taxi driver's face went red and you could see he was getting really angry I mean this is really how it is when you point out who these narcissists are all you've got to do is just bring the truth bring reality to them and they can't stand it they don't want to live in reality this is why they created a false self not so it can exist in the actual real world so they can pull other people into their false reality because that's where the false self exists and that's why they have to impose these false characters upon you because you can't be yourself in their reality they can't accept you as you are they can't accept that you're better than them you have self-love, you have self-esteem you accept yourself you have a stronger character you self-reflect you've got a true self, they can't accept that in there they've got to put a false character on you yeah, these narcissists will rage they will get mad they will lash out at you but it's because they feel extremely self-conscious they hate themselves and it really reveals just how weak they are because to think back all of the things they did to you if there's anyone who should be raging and losing their minds it's probably you after everything you've had to go through they're the ones when you do something they don't like or you don't do something that they want you to do then they blow up, they lose their minds even if you always did everything they wanted before that and you were always walking on eggshells around them and yeah, look at it the other way around they always do things that we don't want them to do and they never do the things that we want them to do and yet how do we react? we stay calm, we stay stoic we don't rage, we don't get mad at them and that just reveals how much stronger we are than them it just reveals how much better of a person you are and how they're never going to be like you and yet, as I said earlier if you keep your cool, you remain calm, stoic they're just going to get bored of you they're going to get rid of you because then you no longer a potent source of supply they're not attracted to that, that repels them away they like the drama, the chaos the toxic environments the fights that's what attracts them to you that's what pulls them in, they like that when it's like a challenge, a test to gain power and control over you to get you to submit but that just doesn't do it for us for healthy, for functional people what we like is just that calmness, that peace that vulnerability that's what's attractive to us and healthy functional people they will be attracted to that in us that we can remain calm and depressed but when they're doing that around narcissist after a certain amount of time, they're going to get bored are they going to go off and try and find a new source of supply because that just doesn't do it for them they don't want a relationship like that I've seen that myself by family and in relationships when I just grey rocked them I stopped giving them supply they got bored of me, they went and found someone else what else for us what we really get bored of is just the toxic behaviour that never seems to end that's what we don't like and after you've been involved with someone like that it just really makes you crave someone who is more centered someone who can be vulnerable someone who does accept themselves that they're not afraid to show who they are underneath it all of course I'm sure that's what brings many of you to my videos and maybe this is for those of you who are only now watching maybe this is the beginning of your healing journey by finding me and how this content resonates with you because you've dealt with these toxic, chaotic narcissists maybe in the beginning you liked it and you felt drawn to it but now you feel repelled, disgusted by it you just want to get away from it and now you're drawn to my videos you're drawn to someone who wears more stoic someone who's more grounded someone who can be vulnerable and accept themselves so you're on the right track if you enjoy these videos and you enjoy my type of personality that must mean that you are healing because otherwise you just want to go right back into it into the chaos and dysfunction you'd want to be around narcissists again thank you for the donation there, Narcissist Hex I appreciate it those of you who don't know Narcissist Hex he is actually a diagnosed self-aware covert narcissist who is on his healing journey I actually did an interview with him about a couple of months ago so check that out if you haven't seen it yet and also he does have a channel of his own where he is speaking about narcissists and his videos too but yeah this is a good sign for you if you're watching these videos and you resonate with them you feel drawn to this content it must mean that you're on the right track and I say that because I noticed it in my experiences as well when I first found out about these videos on YouTube, these communities I remember there's this YouTuber who I watched a lot and I still watch her videos even today her name is Michelle Neves from Florida and before that I was drawn to more toxic personalities to the fights, to the chaos where I was always trying to go back and make things right to soothe and comfort them and then I became more awake and aware and I found Michelle Neves videos and I really felt quite drawn to her even though she's really the opposite of anyone that I was dealing with before because if you've watched her videos you will know she's very peaceful, very calm very feminine and at the point on it really changed me I mean just being exposed to a peaceful and feminine woman like that it kind of gave me that contrast it showed me the difference between toxic narcissists and someone who is more empathic so I think that's very important as well to have that contrast to see the difference when I created this channel and I started making these videos that's what I wanted to be for a lot of you I wanted to show that difference to you I wanted to show you that not everyone is like these toxic personalities and that other people can be more calm of course that doesn't mean that I'm perfect and that no matter how much someone provokes me I'm never going to react and I never get mad, I never get upset of course not but I can be vulnerable I can self reflect I can talk about my weaknesses, my flaws and of course I'm not just going about my day every day just constantly being vulnerable expressing my emotions, opening up of course not I rarely even do that on you but when there is a time to do that I can I've asked really what it's all about recognising that some people are disconnected from themselves you want them to show up but they're not going to show up because they're not even there it's just a void and this is why it's good to have that contrast to start feeling that attraction towards people who are not just physically present but more emotionally present as well to where they have empathy, they can connect and they can recognise your feelings, wants, needs, desires instead of just their own because that's what it's like with around these narcissists they feel a lot of shame and they rage and yet it's just all about them in any moment it's just all about their feelings their desires, their wants and needs but what about yours? I mean what kind of a relationship is that if it's just all about them and you're just left on your own being neglected they clearly don't care about you because you're left feeling like you're not good enough like you're no good and whether you're a woman or a man no one deserves to feel that way and you've got to think if they really cared about you where are they now? because just as I myself had to do along the beginning of my journey you're coming to these communities, these videos because you're seeking understanding closure and explanation validation and at some point you've got to ask yourself why are you not getting that from them? because they can't give it to you they can't even give it to themselves they're in denial, they've been gaslighting themselves their entire lives and so you're just left to yourself you're left to feel like you're not good enough like you're bad like you're wrong and you've just got to pick yourself back up that's why I get on you every day that's why this is my mission to motivate and inspire you and to remind you of your worth of just how great you are because they're never going to tell you that that's the last thing they want you to know but it's what you need to know and it's what you deserve to know you deserve to know the truth and the truth is that you are more than good enough for anyone just not for them because they're never going to be good enough for themselves but you're good enough for yourself you are good enough for yourself especially before you got involved with them you were doing fine you believed in yourself, you were confident you got around them you didn't feel that way anymore and that's okay, sometimes we get around people maybe we feel a little bit insecure that doesn't mean that it's unhealthy but if they recognise it if they try to comfort us try to make us feel good about ourselves they validate us it's not like that with Narcissus they sense any insecurities or they create insecurities because they want you to be insecure so that they can control you but that's just there, I mean how can you be around someone who feels insecure and feel good about yourself especially by knowing that you caused that because if you love yourself and you have high self-esteem you're going to want that for everyone else that's why when you notice their insecurities and you see them rage, they get mad you're always walking on eggshells you're not just going around pointing it out you're not always bringing it to them you were walking on eggshells for a very long time because you didn't want them to know what you were really thinking about them that you didn't like it, that you thought they were crazy you thought they were bad, you didn't want them to know that because that's what it's like when you have that self-love high self-esteem you don't want to make people feel bad about themselves but of course I know, I may have said before when you love someone you want to confront them you want to tell them if they're doing something wrong and yeah, that's what love is but you know as well as I do, you can't do that around them it's just gonna get worse, they'll rage even more they'll blow up over any little thing they can't be told of anything they're doing wrong the last thing they want is to see themselves they can't look at themselves you bring that to them, you bring the truth, reality they're gonna push that away and then they're gonna lash out at you but as for us because we love ourselves, we have high self-esteem if someone brings ourselves to us we're okay with that especially if it's something good about ourselves yeah, that makes us happy but even if it's something bad I've done some things wrong in the past I've made mistakes and I remember some people from my past who I haven't seen them for quite a long time because I've been travelling but I remember they confronted me on some things and even now when I look back back then I was much younger and even at that time I just maybe have a lot of respect for them it made me value them that much more it really did even though, yeah, I will admit at the time it got me it made me feel a little bit bad about myself it made me feel like I've been upset, I've offended a person who I look up to someone who I respect so of course I want to be better for that person but I accept it and I don't get mad at them because I know they're not bringing those things to me to provoke me or to upset me to make me dislike myself they're doing it out of love because they want me to be better they want me to improve and we really need more people like that around us and we also need people around us who we can be that way around as well people who where you're not afraid to go to them and tell them look, you did this this didn't make me feel good this hurt me, this upset me this nearly ruined our relationship of course that's exactly how it is with us you can't go to them and tell them anything you can't confront them on anything about themselves they want to accept it because they don't accept themselves it's not like something where you say you've got to prove of something they did and then they feel bad about it and they want to do better they want to change it's never like that with them with these narcissists you get around them and you bring up anything you don't like about them or something that they did instantly they're going to rage at you they're going to blame you they're going to project their emotions onto you and make you feel bad make you feel like you did something wrong or in some cases if they're more covert they may hold on to it for a little while act like nothing's wrong and then they'll be passive aggressive they'll do things behind your back talk about you to other people start a media campaigns give you the silent treatment this is just what they're like and it's really sad that there's people like this in this world people who just can't even communicate with them normally because they're so insecure they just don't accept themselves at all it's like you can't be real with a lot of people these days you can't just tell it how it is without them getting butt hurt without them getting their panties in a twist it's sad that people are just so weak these days really they're just so easily offended and I can tell you the amount of insults I get on here every day I mean you all see it in the live chat every time I make a live video they say so many things but you know what narcissistic people are like controls they'll just say and do whatever they think is going to hurt you the most this is what they're like with us always trying to irritate and upset us and we still stay calm look at them anything sets them off and then they go out on this mission this campaign where it's like alright I've got to figure out all of the different ways to push their buttons to make them react to make them hyper sensitive, hyper aware to make them really hurt to make them really insecure about themselves so then we're on an even playing field and they're just like me I mean that is really sad that is pathetic that there's people out there who do stuff like that but this is exactly how it is and then many of you you leave the relationship you're so paranoid and distrustful it's like you then get provoked so easily it's different with us because we don't just start raising it everyone we just begin to feel really insecure then because we've been around them that's how it is if you're around someone who's secure in themselves and they have a strong identity then you're going to feel that way about yourself as well you're going to feel confident in yourself the problem is we get around these narcissists they're very insecure they lack a core sense of self so you get around them you don't even know who you are you lose confidence in yourself but then you get around me and watch my videos how do you feel at the end of it because I display confidence I display strength in my videos a strong identity, a strong sense of self I've been doing these videos now for five and a half years it's consistent it's a brand, it's something you can rely on it's like when you go to McDonald's I mean it may not be the healthiest food but with McDonald's when you go there you know what you're going to get you can go to McDonald's pretty much anywhere in the world you already know what the restaurant's going to look like on the outside, on the inside when you sit down and you have a meal it's reliable, it's dependable, it's consistent it's a brand just like with my brand, Narc Survivor making these videos now for five and a half years you get on here, you know what you're going to get although I'd like to think that my work is far more healthy than eating out at McDonald's but yeah I'd like to think that after you watch my videos you do feel more confident, more secure in yourself you feel validated after what you went through you feel inspired, motivated because that's how it was for me many years ago when I just left an artistic relationship I found Sam Vaknin, Michelle Neves many other YouTubers as well and they gave me that sense of confidence in myself they made me feel more secure but their videos were very comforting very consistent every time I clicked onto their videos I already knew a type of energy and the validation that I was going to get and not every video is validated I mean sometimes we have to take responsibility for things as well but either way is just you click onto the video and you know they're going to tell it like it is you're going to get the truth instead of always getting the denial from Narcissus the lies, the excuses at the end of it we just begin to crave the truth we just want normality thanks for the donation there, optimal score I appreciate it but yeah we just want normality that's what I'm bringing to you in every video that I put out just something that's finally normal something that finally makes sense because I know there's so much confusion so much gaslighting spins your head around in circles and it's like by the end of it you don't even know where you are you don't even know what time it is so I hope I'm bringing you that sense of comfort that sense of predictability because with the Narcissus it's like you never know where you're going to end up you never even know where you stand so that's what I'm going to be and that's what I'm going to bring to you in every video and if that resonates with you if that's what you're looking for to be comforted and sued, validated you're looking for that predictability things that make sense and being emotionally grounded, stoicism remaining calm if you're craving these types of things you know you're on the right track that's when you know you're beginning to heal when you feel repelled by these toxic and abusive Narcissus but yeah, that's my message for today speaking about why Narcissus go crazy the Narcissist rage I'd just like to 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