 You can't stop the narcissist, but they can. The reason why narcissists are so successful at what they do is because they have enablers. They have people who encourage and enable their destructive behaviour. They have people who make it possible for them to do what they do. And they are the only ones who can stop the narcissist. In some situations, you may be the victim and the enabler. In these situations, you will be unable to stop the narcissist. Because if you try to stop the narcissist, they will turn their other enablers against you. Everyone will see you as the abuser. It's really a no-win situation when you are dealing with a narcissist. Unless the enablers are on your side. Because only the enablers can stop the narcissist. But unfortunately, they tend to enable the narcissist's bad behaviour. They drive them. They help them to hurt more people. It's like the enablers can see that the narcissist is hungry. And they want to feed you to the narcissist. They want the narcissist to consume you. They want the narcissist to devour you. The enablers indulge in the narcissist's illusion. They prop up their false self. They let them cross the line. They justify and excuse their behaviour. Or they act like nothing happened. They exaggerate any mistakes that you have made. While minimising anything good that you have done. While they exaggerate anything that the narcissist has done for you. While minimising their faults or mistakes. If you try to stop the narcissist. You may find yourself in a lot of trouble. They will devalue and degrade you. They will stalk and harass you. They will assassinate your character. They will start a smear campaign against you. They will threaten you with financial hooks. They will do whatever it takes to destroy you. Because they don't want you to be good for anyone after they're gone. But the enablers can stop the narcissist. Because they're the ones who are allowing this behaviour to continue. So at any moment they can choose for it to stop. Rather than letting them get away with it. Rather than letting them indulge in the dysfunction. And forcing you to be a part of it. But they don't want that to happen. They need you to be a part of the illusion. They need you to sustain it. Even though it has nothing to do with you. It's all about them. But they cannot support the illusion without you. Because you're the only one who has the ability to maintain it. But none of this could be possible without the enablers. If they would just take responsibility for the destructive things that they are supporting. This would all come to an end. If the enablers were not cooperating with the narcissist. None of this would be happening. But the difference between us and the enablers. Is that they are running from the situation. They can't accept it. They don't want to deal with it. But you can accept it. You can learn from it. Because you're emotionally developed. You're able to deal with situations in a mature and responsible way. Or they cannot deal with it. The only option is to run away. And that is why nothing ever changes. Their behaviour never improves. But your role in this can improve. You may not be able to stop the narcissist directly. But you can make changes within yourself. And you're in the right place. Because all it starts is by understanding what you're dealing with. That doesn't mean that it's going to end pleasantly. But it does mean that you will be able to move on. And live your life. People who don't understand narcissism. May blame themselves. They may try to fix things. They may try to help the narcissist. And they may never leave the toxic relationship. You cannot stop the narcissist directly. Not unless the enablers are on your side. Only the enablers can stop the narcissist directly. But there is a way that you can expose the narcissist to the enablers. And it all starts by going within and healing yourself. It starts by accepting that narcissism is what you are dealing with. Once you come to this realisation. There is no way to go back. Once you understand the process. It will only pull you away even more. And this will only expose their behaviour even more. As they try to stop you from escaping. Their behaviour will get worse and worse. Until it becomes clear to everyone that this is narcissism. And then there's a possibility. That you may be able to leave this situation unscathed. It all depends on whether or not the enablers are willing to accept this information. It depends on the level of awareness and understanding. Regarding these types of situations. And also some enablers may be benefitting from you. And the narcissist being together. It may aid them in some way. In those situations. The enablers may choose to overlook the narcissist behaviour. No matter how obvious it may become. Enablers are known for sweeping some horrific things under the rug. This may not be the message that you want to hear. But the truth is that it's not so simple to just leave the narcissist. Especially when there are enablers involved. In some situations. Leaving the narcissist could cause more problems for you. Narcissists can be very vindictive when you try to leave them. They don't want to see you being good for anyone else. After they're gone. Which is why you need to be very careful about your words and actions. When you are dealing with a narcissist. You need to be very careful if you are trying to leave. Because you never know what they might do. The last thing they want to see. Is a happy healthy person. Moving on with everything that makes them who they are. If you try to leave. They will turn your life upside down. But whether or not they have the ability to do that. Really depends on the enablers. People often think that it's the narcissist who is in control. But if the enablers decided. That they are no longer going to tolerate this behaviour. The narcissist wouldn't have a leg to stand on. Thank you for watching. I hope this video wears in it with you. Please like. Comment. Share and subscribe. If you would like to donate. My Patreon link is in the video description. Coaching Inquiries. You can email me at coaching.narcdefiver.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.