 What's up guys eyes like here in the realized car, and I'm a little bit sick, but that's no excuse I've got another video for you guys. I've been reading this book NLP which pretty much is an acronym for neuro linguistic programming and Neuro linguistic programming is pretty much a Body of knowledge that some people came up with that helps you deal with your thoughts and your mind and your emotions and pretty much Tools to help you live a life, and I've just recently started to get into it And I've got a tool that I think is actually pretty good. It might be resourceful for you guys, and it's this idea of Associative and dissociative thinking now. Let me break that down. Okay, so when you have a memory or when you have a thought Perhaps it's a way I thought about a certain situation you're in and how you dealt with it A lot of times the default mechanism that your brain goes to is to see yourself in a first-person view So you see the thought as if you were actually reliving it and This is usually the most accurate way of seeing it because this is how it is in your memory The problem with this is because you're seeing the thought in the first person a lot of times on some of the facts are Have been Messed up with through by emotions as we know emotions influence certain things Because of whatever emotion you be feeling you might not be able to see what actually happened I'm forgetting the word. I'm trying to use here, but you get the point So dissociative thinking or dissociative approach of revealing your memories is to go back to the memory and try and see the memory From a third-person objective from a different vantage point So you'll see the memory as if you're someone else watching yourself now your brain has the capability of doing this because of Course your subconscious mind picks up a lot of information picks up all these data points That's why you can remember the way home even though you be thinking about some random shit because the information is already in your head It's in your subjective mind. So the memory or the information memories in your subjective mind You just need to consciously put yourself in a different vantage point Try see what it would have been like to watch yourself as if you were someone else And what this does is it dissociates yourself from some of those emotions that you would feel if you were remembering it from the first person so back to the case of the argument perhaps you go into an argument with a colleague at work and You think this guy is an asshole and jackass all this if you review in the first person those emotions tend to come up because you're remembering what you felt at the time and it's just coming back if you dissociate yourself you allow yourself to see it as if you're someone else and Detach yourself from these emotions and then you can see the facts as they are and make judgments from them. So That's a very useful tool, especially when going back to painful memories or certain things you did that you don't really like to think of instead of just shoving the memory Deep into your mind and not thinking about it was just too painful You can use this tool and dissociate yourself from it and see from that lens So I think that tool is very helpful and the same thing can happen in real life in real time as well if you find yourself in a situation where Perhaps someone's making you angry or perhaps you're feeling nervous try just dissociate yourself try picture That you'll see yourself from a different vantage point perhaps from above maybe from the side and What tends to happen in some of these emotions will go away because you're putting the focus somewhere else You put in the focus in this conscious projection of what it would look like So you won't have the focus on the emotions you're feeling right now So dissociative thinking is very very useful and that's the first tool from NLP that I actually recommend some of the things in this book are Still need to be tested by me before I give you guys my recommendations But that dissociative thing is something that I've actually been doing To a certain degree for a long time and that you guys can use it gets you out of your ego And we all know about the ego tends to make things complicated And I hope you guys are received some value out of this video as Usual like comment subscribe and all that good stuff. Peace. I'm gonna show you how to be part of the notification Gang sort of simple click subscribe and then you click on this little bell here boom bam boom That's it and you get notifications as soon as the videos are up. Peace