 We all have been there occasionally, thinking something was nice when all the time they were fake. Too often, it can be difficult to separate being genuinely polite from being fake nice. You can find it difficult to tell if a person truly likes you or is just interested in themselves and doesn't give a farting about you. This is because most people are very good at hiding their emotions. You could never tell what they are up to because they've perfected being fake nice. Admittedly, we all have that experience when we meet an old friend from high school and we give the biggest smile we can ever don. We have a horrid conversation with them and hope to keep in touch with them soon enough but we never get to it. Well, this is part of being fake nice but we never intend with this kind of situation to continue a long dead path. Contrarily, some people go beyond this, they naturally do not like you and never wish you any good but give up vibes that you are the best in in their lives. Not being able to spot this kind of people can hurt your relationships. Why? Most people who have been hurt by fake nice people in relationships they held often find it difficult to trust others even when they genuinely want to be nice to them in their new relationships. When you understand how to spot fake nice people, it can help you to know the relationships to take seriously and the ones to avoid. There are 15 signs you can watch out for to help you spot fake nice people. 1. It's all about them. Yes, we can be self-interested sometimes but fake nice people's lives are centered entirely on themselves. They are only nice if there's something in it for them. They won't show kindness unless there's going to be an advantage to them within it. Leiloi Gong, Fulfillment Coach and Founder of Life OSAs. The most common reason that people pretend to be someone they're not is to get something from people. This is usually admiration or connection or power or control or inclusion or something in that world. Fake people make sure everything is about them. This is why they all talk first because they love to be heard over others. They can so boast about how good they are so others think nice about them. But really all of their goodness is intended towards showing off and making a statement about themselves. 2. They're passive-aggressive. Fake people can tend to deride you even with compliments. They would put you down with what appears to be a compliment. They may ask questions just to insult you. For example, they can talk about how beautiful your clothes is but why it is just too cheap. They smoother your self-confidence and make you feel like you're nothing without you knowing it. 3. They don't listen when you talk. This is the love to hear their own voices. A fake person will hardly listen to you. They will ask questions but never care about your response. They may often pretend to listen but they are hoping you would shut up soon enough so they can continue their social media discussions or something else they are busy with. However, if the conversation centers on them, they might want to pay attention to you. They are never with you unless something is in it for them even though they are in front of you. If you want to really tell fake nice people during conversations, their reactions are usually not right because they are not interested in or paying attention to that conversation. They will change topics and questions before you have even responded to any. 4. Their body language puts you on edge. A person's body language can tell so much if they are fake nice or if they are honest. Through this, no matter how much they pretend, the body language can hardly pretend for long. It will give them away at some point. With the wrong body language, you can catch the lies of fake nice people. Observe their smiles. Is it half-hearted or real? Observe how they look at you. Is it sincere or uncomfortably long and somewhat demeaning? Fake people reveal their deception through their body language. 5. They constantly interrupt when you are talking. Have you ever caught someone who repeatedly interrupts you while you are still talking? They don't bother to listen to you because, well, they aren't interested in what you have to say as long as they can get their own opinions in. You may have spotted a fake nice person. The hallmark of fake nice people is a consistent inclination towards only what favors them, including conversations. No matter how nice they may appear, this kind of attitude is a sure sign they aren't even interested in you. 6. They like to show off. Fake nice people don't care if you've won the jackpot and you're telling them about it. However, if they've just got a new t-shirt, they want you to be interested in it. Since their attention cravers, they brag all the time about their achievements so they can stand out from the crowd. They love to softly display what they have and what they do publicly because they love to be praised. They will show off even when the topic is not centered on them. Fake nice people naturally push their attention to themselves no matter and they would gossip about others. Fake nice people always like to be liked. So instead of being straight up with others, they'll rather talk about them behind their backs so those people do not find out and dislike them. If they ever give to a cause or volunteer for a mission, they brag about it. They always want to appear nice because they always want to win favor with people although they do not care about others. 7. Fake nice people love to be in charge of the conversation and no matter how they control the conversation, it is often to talk about themselves and put you and others down. They will ask how your vacation was so they can tell how better their vacation was. They would let you know how much they got their new cuttings so you'll know yours was just too cheap and ugly. Their concern is to always be the center of attention because of their insecurity. As a result, they will rather put others down so they can be up. 8. They pretend to try to please everyone. Fake nice people always want to be liked. They want to be sure that they are in everyone's good books even if they don't like everyone. So they would try to please everyone. They would say nice things about you before your face even though they may gladly say bad things about you behind your back. Fake people are never comfortable in their own skin. Fake people will do their best to make people like them. They will do all kinds of nice things just to have people's heart. They will never be comfortable unless they are liked by others. If those people still don't give them the attention they want, they might feel uncomfortable. They cannot stand rejection and they hate it when their ideas are rejected. They are quick to make promises but are slow on committing to their promises. 9. They are too busy to help. Fake people are often quick to receive help from you but are too busy to help you. No matter how much you ask, they would let you know they are too busy. They would hang around you when they need something from you but would disappear when they no longer need you. Don't expect them to be there for you when things are tough for you because they are never willing to spend a minute of their time helping others. They leave for themselves and their own benefits. 10. They seek attention to validate themselves. Seeking attention is common in almost everybody. But fake nice people always want to talk about them or about the issues they bring up. They will try their best to be extra nice or funny so they will gain attention because they hate to go unnoticed. Genuine people on the other hand do not mind not being center of attention. They love to listen and they notice what is happening inside a room without saying a word. Fake nice people are constantly seeking attention and approval because they need to be sure they are liked by others. 11. They exaggerate and lie. Fake nice people never realize that they are always repeating the same stories. They never get tired of sharing the same old stories. However, they may start to exaggerate those stories just to further promote themselves. 12. They are never around or available. Fake nice people are always unavailable for you but they would be available if it involves themselves. They ignore your calls and never return those calls. They don't have time to listen to your chit chat when you meet them on the streets because they have to be somewhere. But if they meet you on the streets and they need to let something off their minds they want you to listen. To them, you are not important but they are. They can't attend your bed days because of work but you must find a way to attend yours since you are both best friends. 13. They respect power. Genuine people respect everyone notwithstanding their social standing. Fake nice people don't treat subordinates right but will ponder to the whims of those in power in a bid to get favor from them or to look good in their sight. They give up being nice to the person once they get what they want. 14. They act overexcited to see you. Fake nice people can pretend to be overly excited to see you. It's just a ploy to make themselves look good before you. Observe and you will be able to tell if that's what they are doing. 15. They always talk about misfortunes of others. Fake nice people never have any good thing to say about others. They would ignore the good in others and would talk so much about the wrongs in others. They love to share the failures of others and would dwell on their mistakes. They would first appear to be compassionate but really they would go behind the person's back to discuss their misfortune. It's on an act nice to others during their misfortune and speak cruelly to you about those people know that they are fake nice people. If they could do it to that one person they would do it to you. If this video inspired you like the video we love you.