 It's a brand new morning right here on the Breakfast Plus TV Africa. We're back with fantastic conversations and incisive analysis of the issues that matter to you. My name is Kofi Bartels. You're welcome. And I am Mr. Bopu. Good morning. And thanks for joining us. All right. One hundred and forty-one days gone already. As far as the Astros track is concerned, Mercy, I cannot wait to hear what I guess we'll have to say. A mistake may be released by the Serap had a lot to, a lot of knocks of the federal government. And glad to see we have someone from Serap joining us ahead on the program today. But let's start off with our top training segment. Of course, as usual, we look at the big stories Nigerians are talking about. And today we start off with something quite bizarre, sad as well. Man dies after setting a strange wife ablaze. And a lot of Nigerians commenting on this, this happening in the southwestern part of the country, in particular, Oregon State on Saturday. And here again, we see another case of domestic violence. It's something that we have been complaining about. It's something that government has also spoken of. And we just hoped that, we had hoped that we wouldn't be seeing, you know, incidences like this. But women again, at the receiving end, a man known as Spongle, Adebanjo burned his estranged wife, Latifat, to death after she left him over domestic violence. And you ask, doesn't, is it by force, is marriage by force? You know, we keep hearing people say, oh, if you're in a man's house, and I'm sure this lady must have heard about this. Maybe on radio, on social media or something, or maybe on plus TV Africa, who knows? That if your husband is beating you or your wife is beating you, depending on which side the pendulum is swinging, you have to leave, go, take a walk. Don't stay in that relationship like that. And she left, she left. But the man, the husband says, no, you have to come back. And that resulted in setting the lady ablaze. The victim was said to have had four children in a previous relationship before meeting the suspect, the police in Oregon State have confirmed the incident. And they've released a statement about this. They've released a statement about this. The police spokesperson in Oregon State said the suspect stalked the woman, his estranged wife, Latifat, who have bothered him several times. Several times he was said to have gone to a house last Thursday and threatened to burn her alive as she fled. And of course, you know, the man went back to the victim's house on Saturday night, met her, he poured petrol on her in her room. He poured petrol on her in her room and then took a matchstick and put her on fire. But the woman managed to grab him, held on to him and said, this fire, where you want, this bomb, where you want, both of us go boned together. And she held on to him to make sure that they were burned together until people intervened. Now they were rushed to a nearby house where the woman was confirmed dead. And of course, the police also said that the man also ended up dying. So she died on Saturday, the man died on Sunday morning. It's bizarre, it's really a sad one, two lives lost, needlessly. Well, it's really saddening, very, very sad situation. Two lives lost, really. It's just a matter of how some people cannot handle rejection. And, you know, it's something to deal with. Some people are rejection, you want to talk about rejection sensitivity. And so they cannot handle that. And they would always want to, you know, turn around the other way to be hotful. Want to hot you other party because they can't stand, you know, what it is. I mean, you sing, you don't want to be with me. And because you don't want to be with me, you can't be with anyone else. Well, you know, this is part of life. People need to understand. Now, based on that particular premise, she had a right. He wasn't even, according to the report, treating her right. And she had moved on. It was also important for him to move on. But it's a big issue. Rejection is a big issue. It's an issue that people get to face every other time. I mean, people get rejected, you apply for a job, you don't get taken. That's rejection. You know, a lot happened five years ago is rejection. And some people don't know how to handle that. We don't know if we're going to have that as a cost or how we're going to sort all of this because it's part of life. People need to understand that rejection is part of life. I mean, I mean, it's not every time you're going to get a yes. She didn't even just reject him. She fled for her life as well. I mean, you're right. But in addition to that, she was running away. It was not letting go this way. It wasn't for no reason. She had a reason for saying, I'm not doing this again. She had a reason. And so what's the problem? She's rejected you. But it's not just, I don't want you. Mercy, when the guys come up to you, you can tell me stories. You can tell me stories of how they've cried, they say, I'll die without you. You know, you're broken. The day you put out a picture, like your namesake, Mercy did a couple of weeks ago, a message, you see people you never knew, people you never heard of. You don't even know their name. They'll start embossing you, broken my heart, you know. But at this time, there is a reason. The woman says, you've been beating me. So I think in this particular case, it's not like I'm a psychologist. But we get to read a lot. I mean, we get to understand how people behave and humans actually behave. It's a very self-centered attitude, if you like to ask me. Some people would say it's a narcissist. It's a combination of you when someone is a narcissist and then coupled with the fact that they can't stand being rejected. It's very dangerous. But it's a sad one. You know, you know what really? You go, a woman who you was your wife. Exactly. You took petrol because she should be premeditated for him to have gone there. And then they have kids, so it's not even the first time, according to the reports. I mean, the lady has been complaining. It got to a point like you have rightly mentioned. It could be, you know, the level of awareness. You could probably have listened to radio station, TV station, whatever it is. And then she decided that, hey, I'm moving away. I won't be this marriage for this month to beat me every single day. I'm going to go. But I think that I think that what she did, according to that story, is that she moved away, but she was still around the vicinity. And if this person had threatened your life up to that point, I mean, one would be thinking that you should just go away, where he can't see you. Maybe she never expected, like they say, she never expected it. Maybe she didn't think. Very sad. She didn't think that, you know, I think the burden of blame is on the man. I mean, it's premeditated. Their crime is a tax that you look at it and say it was planned. They had to be petrol somewhere. You know, he took to the house, likely, and he poured this on the woman. He takes, don't just accidentally, you know, pour petrol on someone. You don't accidentally do it. So he knew what he was doing. I like what the lady did, which was to grab him and say, come. For better or worse. You're part of, you know, the very popular Nigerians who've reacted. But it's really very saddening. And we need to get to a point. For me, I keep asking myself, at what point do you even cross the line? This was someone you really love. I mean, how do you even get to that point when you started courting the person that you claim that you love and you have kids with them? Really, I don't understand. It's really, really, you know, crazy. Well, very sad. But I'm hoping that, you know, the living would actually learn a lesson and, you know, from the spiritual experience. Well, I said, we'll move away from that. Let's also look at another issue that's making the rounds in different spaces and making some persons react. We're talking about Nigerians reacting to this. It's the presidential flag bearer of the Labour Party, Pitao B. And there's a letter that you have here, Governor of Anambarasti dated May 8, 2007. You know, I'm laughing because everybody is talking about how to smile. Someone said, you know, I should give him a break. I don't know, but you know how to talk. They should look for ways to keep him out of the news. Then we'll give him a break. No, but you don't have it. Some people would say it's actually good. The fact that you're constantly on the news might just be a good one. So, yes, this is a particular letter. It talks about Pitao B rejecting an extra, you know, gift as a governor. That's what that letter is about. But let's just see quickly. You've just run through the content of that particular letter. And so, like I mentioned, the date is the 8 of May, 2007. And 2007, or? 2007, as a way back. You know, how the letter made it, you know, it's another thing. And so you have a DSR. Just go to it, a location of two plots of land, plots. 29 slash L255 and plot 29 slash L254. All right, to acknowledge receptive your letters of 7 of May, 2007, that it was like how many days after? It's like, what day after, you know, the letter was received? 13 to 2nd, 2007, with a reference number of EDA 19 slash volume dot 1 VI and all of that. It goes on to say, however, as I have made abundant clear, my being the governor is by the grace of God. And I believe family that it is wrong to benefit from that. I became the governor because I wish to serve my people and do that devotedly. I believe I have to distance myself from undue privileges of office. Consequently, as I thank you for thoughtfulness, I wish to decline the allocation based on the reason already indicated above. Please accept the assurances of my best wishes. Signature of it all be governor of a number of states. So yes, apparently, you have the fact that someone tried to give the governor a letter. I mean, you know, a gift which came in land possession and he rejected it. He made it to the internet and a lot of people have been talking about it. So in other climes, you have a foreign, there's actually something about foreign official gifts where if you are foreign, you know, let's say you're president of a country, you cannot. For instance, the United States, if you have a president of Nigeria trying to give you a gift, you can't really take that gift. It has to go through a certain process, you know? It has to meet up with a certain amount. You cannot accept it as an individual, the legislature, the people have to be in the know before it can be accepted. I mean, there's a lot. But if you also come down to Nigeria, I stumbled on a certain article that talked about, you know, public conduct of what you call it now, public offices, okay? Public conduct for public offices, which allows public officers to actually receive gifts from friends, family, and whatever you do. Okay, talking about the code of conduct for public offices. Exactly. For public servants, as insured in the constitution. The constitution. Of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. So it allows, you know, it allows on this other hand, you know, people to receive gifts from family, friends, and what have you. And some people have said that this dilutes the constitution of its ability to fight against corruption. And we understand when people give gifts, I mean a couple of times I see several movies, if it's like if someone gives you a favor, gives you a gift, there might just also be an undertone that will come back for a request. And so, especially when you're a governor. But I mean, it's very, it's something commendable. You're absolutely right to cite the code of conduct for public offices as insured in the Nigerian constitution. But there's a slight difference. And the difference here is that that code of conduct talks about receiving gifts from members of the public. It seems from what I observe in this letter that it's circulation of the internet, is it seems that this is his sort of gratuity or entitlement as an outgoing governor of Anambra State. So as you can see, this is signed by the managing director or source was addressed to the managing director of Anambra State Housing Development Corporation. And which, you know, it says that it's wrong for him to benefit from this. So it's a bit of his belief, basically. His own personal conviction, personal principle is like Donald Trump now as president of America saying I don't collect salary. This is due, it's statutory due to collect salary as president of the United States of America. But he personally said he doesn't want to collect salary. So Obie personally says that he believes it is wrong to benefit from his being governor. I do not know if this is beyond his statutory benefit. I don't know, but I suspect that. However, if this isn't one of those things, you know, that the MD wrote to him to say take this land and look at it to you, then of course questions need to be asked. But I wonder why the MD of State Housing Development Corporation would want to give the government land on his own, you understand. So if he was given to be as part of his due, then of course his own principles, you know, but the things people are saying about this because we're looking at what people are talking about too as well, some are saying, yes, you know, this is pit of pee. We need him as president, see what he did. And some are saying, see, these are not the issues. You know, when I rejected land when he was governor, not another issue, some are saying, when I carries his bag by himself or not, like Wickey said, Wickey said all his theory. His theory, you know, when he sits in, he applies business class to economic class, I think some will say these things are not the issues to be looked at. The issues to be looked at are the issues that are facing Nigerians and the solution to it. So we can say, okay, well, you know, this is corruption. Or maybe we need somebody who does not believe in taking government property and wants to be, you know, to reduce government spending and all that. Well, that could be argued. But I think that, you know, we need to look at now, what are the pressing issues with Nigeria? We have issues of unity, we have issues of security and the economy. We need to tackle those issues as well. It's all what they call me looking at, you know, unemployment, rising unemployment, rising inflation, you know, insecurity, we don't need to go into it, you know, and then all that. Unity is also important because Nigeria has never been more divided than this right now. So we'll keep seeing these things. It's all part of the campaign strategy to ensure that each candidate is presented the best light, you know, we keep seeing these things. I think we all know what we've done. But majorly, let's talk about today, let's talk about now, what will he do? So the point is, it's a good thing that you have mentioned the issues that we have. But over time, I remember that, you know, from time to time I have a chat with my cousin and we get to talk about, you know, the country and the things that are happening. And you just find out that there's no will. In his words, he would say, they don't mean it. They don't mean it. So if we have the issue of corruption, do we have the capacity to fight it? Who are the people calling the shots? Do they mean it? They don't. It's insecurity. Do they have, do we have what it takes to tackle it? Do we know the specimens who are causing and, you know, destroying lives and properties when you have governments other than with the responsibility of protecting life? Do they mean it? They don't mean it. So it's, the issue is actually encompassing. Lots of questions, you know, it sounds all like 2015 all over again, you know. All the beautiful branding and all that people coming up with things to say about candidates, you know they, but, you know, all I would say at the end, the last thing I would say is this is Steve Cupp, it would be, you know, they give shishi. We have to go. All right. Well, that's the much we can take on top trending this morning. We'll take a break when we return. We'll look into the front pages of a national dailies. Stay with us.