 Four things that drive narcissists insane. Narcissists are very controlling. They need to have influence and authority over you. They need to direct the course of events. They are self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They're very exploitative. They have to treat you unfairly in order to gain an advantage or benefit. They have to manipulate you. And when you're around them, you will feel like your mere existence is driving them insane. You will feel like you're bringing out the worst in them. You're causing them to show their worst qualities. They always find something to complain about. There's always something that makes them mad. When you're around a narcissist, you will feel like you can never be good enough. You will feel like you can never do anything right. There may be many things you do that drive the narcissist insane, but here are four of them which I believe to be the most important. One, disturbance. Narcissists are very controlling. They need to direct the course of events. They have a fixed way in which things are supposed to pan out. So they cannot tolerate any disturbance or problems that interrupt their event activity or process. Everything has to be about them. They have to get their pleasure and gratification. Everything has to go along with their agenda. They cannot accept any difference of opinion. They cannot let you do your own thing. If they need you at a specific time, you have to be there. You have to be ready whenever they need you. You have to agree with everything they say. If you don't, they're not going to take the time to understand your feelings or needs. They're just going to see it as an inconvenience. They're just going to see it as a disturbance or problem. If you think differently to the narcissist, they don't see it as though you're just a separate person with your own ideas and opinions. They see it as an inconvenience because they expect you to think just like them. They don't want you to have your own separate thoughts that are outside of their control because that gets in the way of them getting what they want. And all they care about is getting their needs met. Regardless of any inconvenience that it may cause to you, you can be an inconvenience to them, but they don't see it as though they could be an inconvenience to you. In their minds, you're just there subordinate. You're beneath them, so you just have to put up with it. 2. Complexity. Narcissists do not like anything that is too complicated or detailed. They need everything to be straight to the point. They cannot deal with any complicated processes or situations. They cannot deal with complicated people. They expect everything to be simple because it's easier for them to understand. If you are a complex person who has a different way of thinking or a different way of life, this will drive the narcissist insane because they lack empathy. They cannot share your experience. They cannot put themselves in your shoes. They cannot harmonize or coordinate with you because they don't even have an interest in anything complex about you. They're self-absorbed. They're only concerned about their own complexities and they expect you to make that your priority as well. They cannot deal with any problems, issues or crisis that happen to normal people living normal lives. They just look at it like that's your problem and you have to deal with it in your own time. But if they have a similar problem, it's a completely different story. They expect you to cater to them. They expect you to provide them with help and support. They are very hypocritical. They engage in the same behaviors and activities for which they criticize other people for. They claim to have moral standards or beliefs to which their own behavior does not conform. They fail to follow their own expressed moral rules and principles. They have black and white thinking where everything is either good or bad, right or wrong. They want everything to be simple. They want everything to fit their mold for how they see the world and when something complex naturally comes up they just see it as an inconvenience. They see it as though they have to adjust. They feel like they have to compromise. They cannot deal with anything that is uncertain or unclear, free, inclusion and diversity. Narcissists cannot deal with anyone who thinks differently than they do. They cannot deal with anyone who lives life in a way that is different to how they live life. They cannot include or involve people from a range of different social and ethnic backgrounds. They cannot be involved in a range of different things or people. They cannot include people who have different religious beliefs or lifestyle practices. It is natural in life to come across people who have a different way of life and sometimes you have to include people who have different experiences. It's good to accommodate people who have different ideas and opinions. People who have different lifestyle preferences but narcissists do not want to include or accommodate anyone. It bothers them. It makes them feel like they are losing control. They only want to deal with people who they think are like them. People who are in their club. Anyone who is different to them makes them feel uncomfortable because they always have to be right. They always have to be in control. They have to be the one who makes all of the decisions. They don't want there to be any other external influences because that threatens their control. That threatens their authority. Narcissists are very insecure so they cannot tolerate differences in other people. For freedom. At some point you show the narcissist that you were to make choices for yourself and they do not like the idea of that. They have to be the authority. They have to be in control. And they have to be the ones who make all of the decisions. They expect you to just do as you're told. If you don't they see it as though you're being rebellious. You're not going along with that agenda. When maybe you just want to make your own choices. You just want to be your own separate person. But narcissists have this need to be in charge. They need to have influence and authority over you so that they are able to control you. So that they are able to direct the course of events. And then everything can pan out in the way that they would like. They don't care that you have different ideas or preferences. Sometimes they don't even notice. Because they're too preoccupied with their own interests and needs. Which is why they cannot tolerate any differences. Anything that threatens their control will drive them insane. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.