 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here Hopefully I got the live set up right this time Last time I had it open and everybody was right at me, but hopefully I got it for the blessed tribe Let me make sure Want to pop in this Saturday night me and wife been watching Netflix been everywhere You know, it's been tough for her being in the house because she normally have this really really busy schedule She's been making up grocery runs for us We come out the grocery store and now she can hear me while I'm talking now So y'all got the in case of shoe flight my head or something We come out the grocery store and she's like, oh, I Forgot a plate and we get all the way home and she's like, oh, I Forgot a cup so we've been back and forth to throwing a tour of You know the stores for everything And get really really settled down so I want to pop in do a Q&A Not sure where I'll be, you know what I'll be doing tomorrow, although I'll be in the house Let's get on into it now Why would he tell his son? He's going to marry me when he gets back on Making things right between us and he's going to have a sister But lack efforts to make the relationship. He refused to change You know sometimes questions like that you can't really answer just because Sometimes just that particular man, that's not something across the board for for men So sometimes you just dealing with a man who's just kind of A degenerate in a in the nice word just meaning just He just in his own lane. He just does stuff. He didn't have any type of Union in his life. He didn't have an example He doesn't really have an idea of what it does to people's hearts when you lie and mislead He just was raised cold and so he just doesn't understand What he's doing what he's saying he said he wants to marry me yet He is loving y'all put a hashtag Q in front of your question so I can Identify what's the question and y'all ask me a real question now Don't don't ask me a rhetorical question You know put a real question in there so I could get your real answer and don't just type of question Just to be typing, you know how sometimes y'all just be typing just to be typing type of question that you really need Answer not a question. You already know the answer to and you didn't want to be in the in the chat now Because I don't want to waste everybody time my time So ask me a real question that you've been wondering about Hello my ex from four years Won't respond to anything like nothing. He's ignoring me period. What do I do? How do I get him to talk to me? Why you want? Why do you want him to talk to you? What what you really have to ask yourself is how do I how do I start to love myself? How do I? forgive myself for The mistakes I've made in my life. How do I forgive him and move on with my life? How do I? Love myself and set new standards for myself. How do I identify my worth? Those are the questions you have to be asking you should never be looking backwards Never hit the rewind button on life never Pause your life and then start going backwards when and especially reaching back to a man The man should be chasing you coming to you. You never go back to a man It's always the man needs to be coming back to you because Men are hunters men aren't go-getters So it's a huge issue when the man is not coming to you when the man is not pursuing you My ex called me a few times after me calling once with attitude saying he got to go through all this To reach me I answered on the third call. He was upset. How do I tell him? We're just friends again You just got to tell him and and you also got to recognize the red flag if a man calling you and that's your ex and He coming back with attitude Whereas instead of on that third call being like hey, I'm sorry, you know Oh, I see you really busy. Wow. Hey, glad I caught you. Hey dad. I finally caught you. How you doing? That's that's what his energy should be like he coming back. Man. Where you been at? I've been trying to call you. I don't had to call you three times. You just not instant phone Man, I got to go through all this to get in touch with you That's when you put your track shoes on and keep on going You can't let somebody come back into your life and they coming with the same attitude they left with That's that's when you know you you about to Be in for some trouble now you see two Bella telling y'all Please don't post your question while he is speaking wait when he starts to slow down and that's a Good one Hey, would you ever like to collab? Just for a broader perspective for your audience Do you work for them? You asking do I like to pull out but no, I don't collab and the reason why I don't collab is because I only live with Myself so all I know is what I'm doing behind closed doors and I don't I don't align my brand with people That I don't know that I don't spend time with I never met any other Relationship coach in person Spent time with them sat with them talked to him. So I don't I Don't collab I speak for for me And myself cut and that's why I tell my publishers all the time sometimes They'd be like a get some blurbs on the back of your book from different people and I and I this what I hit them with I Say, you know what? 20 years ago it would have been real great to get a blurb or forward from Bill Cosby, wouldn't it? If I was an actor it would have been really great to get a forward from Harvey Weinstein, wouldn't it? So I just don't take chances on humans. It's just me and God. I'm sharing God message I don't even do panels just because everybody's saying something different So the audience leave confused because this person said do this this person said do this this person said do that on you I Ain't got nobody I don't have anything against anybody But I feel like every messenger got their own message got their own audience It's no need in trying to talk over sit on the same panel talking over each other Confusing the people who listen because everybody's saying something different My ex and I broke up amicably I Have distracted distance myself, but I respond politely to text he initiates But I respond politely to text he initiates But he messages me daily morning and afternoon. Why is that? because you keep responding and He has a soul tired. He's not ready to move on. You know, he's not ready to go his own way and a lot of times a man to keep reaching out is because he wants to be able to keep you there keep you stuck and He may also want you back, but if he wants you back, it won't just be text He'll be calling you. He'll be trying to set up a date He'll be showing you how he's changed showing you the book He's reading showing you the seminar ticket. He got showing talking to you about his coaching session He'll be doing something to show you. I'm a new man. I'm a change man So that's what you have to realize a little tone. I just joined the bless drop tonight But been a student for a couple of months now and appreciate how you allow God to use you and bless others Hey, thank you. God bless you. God bless you and y'all don't have to thank me You know y'all cuz y'all don't have to thank me, you know, just get post your question on here I you know y'all don't worry about that, you know, I appreciate you God bless you I don't want you to Y'all to get caught up on that. Thank you, Mr. Tony gas for addressing about the collab and you married and living a true Godly life the mother people not living true or is married. So continue to Follow God and family. Hey, God bless you all up It just something the Lord told me a long time ago, you know, just stay focused Go on about your business My ex-boyfriend came back after one month breaking up I Meet up with him and I haven't been sexual with him. He tries, but I tell him I'm not ready. Do you think he'll wait? I See it's a kind of common theme of dealing with exes and I get it because of soul ties We kind of deal with exes, but you got to be real careful with that Because if a man lets you go, it's a reason he let you go. And so when you go back You taking a huge Gamble and you got to you know be very careful with that that you don't end up Giving yourself back before you know it's real And so I cannot tell if he'll wait or not just because I you know, I don't have enough info about him I told me I was dating this guy for 34 months Then he ended things Okay, you could put that in years now What about three years and he ended things That's good. That's good that he ended it because a lot of guys If a guy is with you three years and he hasn't married you he doesn't want you He doesn't feel you're the one he may have a soul tied with you He may like you he may have some love for you, but he doesn't feel you he doesn't feel you're his wife And so I'm actually glad that he left because what a lot of guys do is will keep you there and keep you stuck But we'll start dealing with other women and then you get your heart in you locked in you all in and now It's five years six years seven years next thing, you know, you having this child somebody else having a child That's what a lot of guys do they just build a roster they build a team instead of Jess, you know Focusing on you. So you kind of got to be You kind of got to be focused and realize that it's good that he left So now you can start healing your soul tie forgive him and move on with your life My ex and I broke up in November and not even two weeks later. He was in another relationship Could this mean this woman was already in the picture and why is this even still bothering me? Well, y'all just broke up in November. So So tie bother you for easy 12 months, but easy Six months. So it's been four months. Yes, you got You could easily have you another eight months of being bothered. So and And it does not mean that he was already with her. He could have met her Two weeks out. He could have met her the day after, you know So a man just jumped right into a relationship regardless just because men don't like to be alone So a man typically on average the average man gonna deal with a woman right away See shades God bless you. Thank you for your blessing Tony may God continue to bless your heart We love and appreciate you the truth hurts, but we didn't have it any other way. Hey, thank you I appreciate you showing that appreciation and That day you took it a step further I Planned to date again once I move into a warmer client climate like Florida or Georgia Can you tell me good locations you think for young single women? No children not Smart to date now when I'm moving, right? You're right. It just wait you getting ready to move Don't don't get caught up in the long distance stuff and I'll be honest with you a lot of time people say What's good location? It's really It's really no real science to it because men are everywhere and men are looking everywhere like literally Just okay Selena just purchased my lifecoat certification. I'm glad you signed up. God bless you So I have a client she met her husband at the mailbox. He was visiting his aunt She walked out to her mailbox. They met at the mailbox. So men everywhere like it's really more so about you It's really about you, you know where where you got your mind at what you're thinking what you're telling yourself How you taking care of yourself? It's really about you, but you could go anywhere a man gonna find Ashley God bless you. Thank you for that. Well, my ex leave me alone if he sees me with another man I've blocked him. He still reaches out says he loves and misses me same lies. I'm not revenge dating I'm in just hate to lose he may leave you alone if he sees you with another man That's one thing that will make a man kind of fall back If a man doesn't fall back after seeing you with another man, then that's when you know, he really gone here He's gone here because the same man knows and understands how men move and how men work The same man knows that men are territorial same man knows that some really bad things can happen to him if he Crosses the boundaries with a man's woman. So if he sees you with another man, that probably will be the thing that make him fall back Thank you Roland God bless you. Thank you for your blessing. What do you think about a man? That's in contact daily with someone he used to be friends with benefits with she lives out of state also and has a boyfriend now He has a soul tied with him he has a soul tied with him what y'all gotta realize is What you got to understand is that The the mind is the largest sexual organ So a man Conversating with a woman that he's in that he's attracted to or used to be used to deal with that man It's it literally feels like a release when he's talking to her like he doesn't have to be in the physical act You know in the bedroom he literally can feel like he's having the release when he's talking to her That's why I always talk about making love to the mind and because it's a very real thing just like good Conversation just being in touch like can give you the chills that feel the feels so you don't have to So you got to understand that so if a man talking to a woman and she out of state, that's real And he used to deal with her that's real serious because that's emotional You know and if he's in a relationship then it's emotional cheating if he's not in a relationship then it's really a soul tie Like he really has that hey, thank y'all for them blessings I see the orange up there Maintaining I see your God bless you is it possible to heal in the city you were hurt slash That in I have to I can you can't say that word in these videos So y'all got to be reading the question. I have to move back due to my recent divorce. I Have a three-year-old son and Will need help with childcare while I work go back to school and put my life back on track Yes, it's possible to heal it's possible to it now with God anything possible now if you on your own That's a little harder But when you got prayer and when you got to a holy Bible and when you have that type of faith in that type of confidence that comes Supernaturally from your creator anything is possible if you on your own It's you you can lean on man-made things And hopefully the men and women that you lean on are inspired by their creator So, you know courses take all the courses watch all the videos read all the books Go to the live seminars when you're able to when we get past this 19 But then you able to get back into a you know a seminar and You can heal but you have to believe that you can heal you have to tell yourself that you're gonna heal but you can't You know, you can't tell yourself that it's gonna be too hard Your Torah God bless you. Thank you for that blessing blessing Lord bless everybody who sent a blessing in there I'm praying blessings over and even those of you who are not able or don't want to God bless you too God bless you for being here. Hi, Tony. I would love your perspective I am in a relationship with a guy that is five years younger than I for about eight months now Okay, we got a whole English teacher in here tonight. It's a this question. He'll written good. I like this He is an amazing boyfriend, but not quite an amazing man yet if you understand what I'm saying Yes, I do your Torah. Okay, you graduated journalism and broadcasting. I really like the way you wrote that question now. Let me see He five years younger so you at the max the max you could date Younger is five years and what you got to realize now always tell people take it all the way back take it all The way back to grade school when you look at like, you know Filth, you know, like kindergarten when you look at them five year olds and you hear how the little girl talking You hear how the little the little boy talk. They don't to totally different levels Like you you go up to a little boy. He's like And then you go up to a little girl. Hi, how are you? My name is Alexis and my mom put me in this beautiful ensemble today great to meet you Are you Tatan's dad and I'm like, whoa, and then the little boy come up And I'm like wow, so that's why I always tell women you need to date a man. Honestly your age and up to Five to seven years older than you when you date the guy younger than you That's pretty much about your your little brother And so it's gonna be hard and and what you have to realize too is when you older than a man You fit inside of the fantasy So a lot of men just have that fantasy of just being with an older woman You also represent mommy a lot of men looking for a mom that they could sleep with you also represent Stability so if you ahead of him in life if you make more money than him If you got a place got a apartment got a house, you know I got the means to get that you represent stability And if he in the world and he's shaking and he's scared to be out here in the world as a grown man And to get it on his own Some of those things could be You know enticing to him for the wrong reason So you got to be you got to be mindful and you got to give it a little period You know and that you give it a little timeline say I'm gonna get it six months I'm gonna get it's 12 months if it ain't right then I'm out of here Shakira a got a lot of blessings coming in at the top So y'all I got to give my attention up here now cuz cuz it's just like VIP line at the club now So y'all hold on now. Let me put it into the VIP line up here. It's a key to God bless you. Good evening Gaskins family and the blessed tribe thanks For the content a bless you Shakira. I feel like I've seen your name before I'm playing the Lord, you know Poet in your life Amanda Gale long-distance relationship for eight months. We met for the first time last month Long distance for eight months met for the first time last month Now Gale put in a regular chat. How long y'all how far apart y'all live We studied the Bible nightly Much to my surprise. He wanted to have on the first night, okay So he wanted to come together the Bible called they came together. No the Bible say and he knew her and Tried several times. Okay I'm gonna tell you like this right here, you know For me personally as a Christian my relationship with God is my relationship with God I really don't me and my mom me and my wife don't read the Bible together, you know We don't we don't pray together. I pray for her. She prayed for me But for me as a man who's serious about God, I really don't try to I keep that intermittent personal You know, I don't really do all of that So I'm always leery of a man who who want to do Bible study and want to be praying all the time Because for one, it's not even in a man nature But to be all expressive with something that a space that's vulnerable and when you in the presence of God, you're vulnerable and You you sharing your your your heart your fears your worries And so for a man to even be opening that space with a woman that's not his wife That's a red flag for me as a true believer It's a red flag and then now you see you dating the devil So he reading the Bible with you remember that Satan knew the word of God Inside not he knew it better than some of the folks who wrote it. So You dating the devil so he read the Bible with you doing Bible study Then he come to meet you and the first thing he won't he try and several times to get you in for an occasion He don't even believe in your in your relationship with God He don't even believe you real and for a lot of men that is It's a notch in the belt Because this what you got to realize when you could get a woman to sin against God for you That means you are her God When you could get a woman to turn her back on God in the sin against God for you That means she places you higher than God in her life and so for a lot of men that is a ego boost and That's why a lot of men want to do that. It's not even about you It's really him first God and you had a power to show him that God is real But you can't even help lead a man to Christ if God ain't real in you. So now You ain't say if you turn them down or not You say he tried you a whole lot tried you several times now Hopefully you turn them down now if you end up on your bike now if you end up on your bike You lost that one in and the whole body took took a L the whole body took a L with you And he'll be sitting there like No, I knew it. I knew them old fake Christian more fake Christian But and that's why I try to tell y'all Okay, 14 hours away. So that makes sense and you did not get to him. God bless you You kept the Lord real real and present that you did a good job Kimberly Renee. God bless you Lord pour out in the light Pour out in the light What does it mean when a guy continues to try you over a three-year period after being Respectfully turned down after every advance. I ended communication quite some time ago But he still tries when I see him in passing It's just a man. That's just a man. That's all it just He just shooting his shot. It's just fun He don't he expect you to turn them down, but he also knows the plight of women He knows that women a lot of women are desperate lonely Jazz frustrated ready. He knows if you done been there before meaning On your bike, he knows that it's like riding a bicycle And he knows that if you just having that itch and he happened to show up at the right time and shoot this shot He could be the lucky lot old winner So it you came really just keep turning down and and just laugh it off But you got to make sure you commit in your mind to know that you never gonna give in because if you ever give in the whole Female race loses Here he'll lose faith and trust in everyone Britain I see you. Okay. Now I can start back letting letting the other line in the VIPs I didn't got them in the club. So we're gonna come on back Free for 11. I got back with my child's father. He chased me for four years. I Finally gave him a chance, but we bump heads now because he feels it's okay to go all day without hitting me up What should that tell me? Okay, that's another rhetorical question. I told y'all about the rhetorical question now and it's a thing I know sometimes that y'all really be wanting to know that but Read your question again Read your question again But let me break this down for y'all though. So hold your questions real quick I hold your question. I just case. I don't see it. Let me break this down for y'all You got bite with your child's father key word is child father You didn't say ex-husband. So you got bite with a ex-boyfriend Okay, until otherwise stated now. Let me know if there was your husband But if it so if it was your husband, I'm talking to y'all who this was your ex-boyfriend So you got bite with an ex-boyfriend and it was a boy ex-boyfriend of four years Okay, anytime a man make you wait longer than three years. That's not your husband. He don't want you So you got back with him and then he's still Getting into it with you and he came back This what this means it mean he came back to make sure you stuck So he could put his finger on you Know where you at know what you doing, but he don't hit you up all day So he doing everybody else but you and he didn't want you in them for years And he still don't because he's not a man because he doesn't know who he is He doesn't know what he wants. So here you are moving forward getting ready to meet your husband And then he come back just to get you stuck To make you restart your whole clock make you start all over because misery loves company He doesn't know who he is where he's going what he wants and what's in life for him So he come back to you to make sure that you won't get nothing No blessings either and just gonna keep you there and now you stuck angry mad frustrated headache word about him and He taken up your time and energy and effort because he got you on the Q&A asking about him and That's what he wanted to have you stuck mixed signals confused So that's what you got to realize killing God bless you not killing nine Key that every time come on here key to be cinnamon bless Lord Poor I don't know like love you if you could hear me Lord bless the whole key because he'll be showing up key Now I'm gonna hear your praise report when the Lord show out in your life now Hey, Tony and bless try so glad I caught y'all. I don't know what kind of own is that out of savings count You got one of them Navy Federal Credit Union credit cards with that limit on it Because you be black you keep me in bed. Can you keep me in bed? Sharon God bless you bless you. I've been with this guy for one month. We did everything wrong. I haven't had in nine years That we were together he keeps me in limbo Every other day saying we are not going to be together now. Hold on now. Let me read this again cuz Mr. Merz You know this guy for one month. We did everything. So you've been with him for one month You ain't had you know in nine years That we were together he keeps me in limbo every other day saying we are not going to be together help since I can't fully understand cuz I don't know if you talking about the the one month guy For the nine years guy that we were together He keeps me in limbo every other day saying we are not I don't understand Why are you in the limbo listening to a man saying y'all ain't gonna be together? So as you waiting on his phone call every day to tell you y'all not gonna be together Or is this the guy you've been with for a month? That's telling you every day y'all ain't gonna be together Y'all did everything wrong and So now everything wrong mean you was on your back Now so so jump in the chat if you a member of the blessed tribe. Okay, you haven't had now have you now? Y'all let Sharon talk y'all everybody stop talking y'all everybody stop talking y'all let Sharon talk now Sharon not you ain't had you none in nine years Let me see Trying to see But this night but with the guy with one month now have you and him had y'all some Y'all let Sharon talk to me. What's sharing it now? That's nothing. What's correct you and the guy had y'all some in the one month and then in who telling you That y'all not gonna be together one month guy or X. Okay, it's only been one guy Okay, now is the one month got telling you y'all not gonna be together Yes, Sharon. You probably need you a coaching session here Okay Yes, we had that in one month. Okay. Okay. I see so you hadn't had you done for nine years Here come this tall glass of water in the Sahara Desert. You had to hop on so you hop on Okay Surfboard like Beyonce and now he nice the one month guy telling you we ain't gonna be together Okay, now, I think I did I think I mentioned this but you missed that one I Think I missed you might have missed that one where I was talking about This what happened when a guy come in your life He keeps using scriptures to say we aren't going to be together one day That we are aren't going to be together one day and the next day we are not okay. I think you may are Okay, now here go the fornicating Bible quotas. Yes, you got to run from this kind of man I'm telling you I used to be one of them as soon as a man go to quote in scriptures and Then want you on your bike? You got the you remember back in the day people used to say man Let me get from around you for that lightning strike. That's how that's how I got to be the lightning real the lightning real but His life in the go down. So that's like That's right there So when a man quote in scriptures and he got you on your bike You got to get gone because he playing with the Lord and you can't play with the Lord That's the kind of man. You got to get far from and then this what you got to realize This what you got to realize is When I'm when you have been abstinent for nine years That's what the devil coming to do That's what the devil coming to do he's coming to knock you off Your horse he coming to say a A on Your honor Lord. I see you got a blessing for I see you got a blessing for but hold on hold that blessing Let me tell so like I test Joe now Now you remember Joe pass the test with all you let me do to him All I'm gonna do with her is I'm just gonna throw tall glass of water in her path So hold that promotion hold that new job. Okay, hold up that blessing you got for let me show you She ain't a faithful servant Hey, Jimmy come here See the past see over there Go get on boom come right to you in 30 days He got you on your bike now That's what you got to realize when you're on your bike. What happened is Demand the way a man process this the man says, okay, she slept with me in 30 days It's 12 of these in a year. So that means she's leaving with 12 men in a year That's just how he do them out. That's just how you do them out. And so and You say y'all been talking 30 days now, you say it happened on day 30 So if it happened on day 7 now, it's 52 of those in a year. So he say whoa She's living with 52 Okay, yeah, we ain't gonna be able to be together system But he didn't want to be with you to begin with Because a man who really want to be with you and even if y'all do that y'all go all the way He's still gonna be there. He's still gonna be there He's just gonna be happy. He's gonna want more of it, but he gonna be there. She needs pinks and God bless you God bless you part of the life Fitness mom She didn't have in nine years and then met him and had in one month They have been together now fitness mom got tired of me waiting. So she jumped in with a blessing fit mom now you now you now don't do no charge back fitness mom because you see I know already figured that out what you can't tell me. So don't be writing Google for no charge back now Oh, yeah, excuse me. That was a fries on the charge at 12 all because I mean to do that. So Don't try to pull that back now How can I flip the switch from liking guys who don't like me to actually liking someone who likes me You know, that's a tough one cuz it's a double-edged sword It's a double-edged sword because now I'm just doing our tonight y'all just doing our okay Cuz I still got some more Netflix to watch with my wife She let me take a little break. So we was in there was watching was on episode two of that new show and Now this is what you got to realize it's a double-edged sword because You like who you like But for the same reason you want who you want, that's the same reason the man who liked you That's the same reason they want you so that is why It's a catch-22. I don't know really what a catch-22 is but it sound good right here So that's why I'm gonna call this a catch-22 Because you want him and the reason why we do this is because we seeking approval So if we could get this person that we want and they want us back that means Wow, I made it. Yes. The one who want me want me. Yes So I'm worthy I'm somebody and then that the man wants you For the same reason. So now if you go with that man who want you if you don't want him back then it's still a lose lose because He's doing the same thing you doing. So you got to get somebody who you want them and They want you but listen The one you want is Never going to be everything. I mean the one that you need to be with is never gonna be everything Because it's always some unrealistic preferences that we have Because we just looking at what the the movies show us. So I'm fire 10 You think my wife had five ten on her list the preferences absolutely not she five eight So five ten one nowhere on her list, you hit me So I came in two to six inches under what she was petitioning the Lord for But I was good enough and I liked it her too So that's what you got to realize is that's what you got to have that happy medium It ain't it ain't ever gonna be all the way 100% every little thing you want God's daughter. That's a good name. Thank you Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you Tony for doing the work of the Lord and helping us become the best version of ourselves on a daily It's appreciated. Hey, God bless you Lord. Poor that poor life Crystal Lee you caught me right on time. What do you think about a man that still feels like he needs To take care of his ex-wife that they share children with Honorable or There's some underlying feelings. He was the breadwinner Well technically according to the Bible when he divorced her unless he divorced her for anything other than infidelity she's still his wife Biblically speaking she's still his wife and she boob on she's in adultery according to the Bible now Of course in this day and age folks do whatever they want to do But that's really what it is is he made a vow to her until death does us part And he just feels the need to keep it and if he feels the need to keep that and still take care of her The only way it could really be Overlooked as if they are under the age of 18 the children they had and it's not about her It's about them, but if it is About if they over 18 and he's still given to her, but yet he didn't left her then You'll be getting in a sticky situation. It just ain't worth it. It's just two-minute men out there for that Okay He joined that there when the baby was born. He didn't say Don't call him till I get DNA I Don't control things he do pray over me to bless us with a baby before religion Said he would sacrifice some for religion. He's not moving forward with divorce until DNA To core God bless you God bless you gonna need some coaching for that now Gonna need some coaching for that there you visit my mentor dot life. I can't even you all them words You said the video will be gone in a New York minute. I go to stand all the murds So yeah, you're gonna visit My mentor dot life. Yeah, you got some issues and to be honest with you I want you even need to hire somebody else cuz the way what you dealing with Sound like he cuckoo for cocoa puffs. So I only want him to know my name You should you should put you a fake screen name on here cuz he watching this he's gonna be looking for me So so if you don't tell him, you know me because he got some issues That man be looking for me then I got to lay them down send them to meet the Lord early and I'm trying to stay in the free world Should you wait to have concrete evidence if your intuition is going off about a female on IG? Well, you got to make sure that it's intuition and not insecurity So if you have Insecurities from your past from past relationship that you have not addressed Then you got to address that and make sure it's not that you know And we all have certain type of insecurities and you got to battle that and you got to be confident with it A lot of time we could silence it in our own mind But then it still may affect us and we may show it by being you know kind of silent But you have to be able to differentiate between Intuition and insecurity now if it's intuition, it's okay to go ahead and ask that question Corella this side of heaven. Yeah, you is blessed on this side of heaven Lord bless a part of like your tenfold Everybody who doesn't send a blessing in Lord him tenfold For those who didn't send a blessing in but thought about it. I'm praying the Lord bless you too bless you Multiply your thoughts It all count the same. We I really appreciate y'all showing love I recently went to your page Tony Gaston Academy to see how I can start a start a coaching course and how to write my first book What are the steps to do so? Tony Gaskins Academy calm you're in the right place you could take the life coach certification course on there and And you could take the birth your book you just got to get started. It's really no steps You go on there click by now it'll have you log in You can use the coupon code healthy the word healthy. So above the buy now button You'll see a little blue link says have a coupon question mark click that blue link type in healthy h e a L Th y healthy type in healthy it'll give you a nice discount and Then you hit by now And you take the course do life coach certification. That's gonna help you you get clients Or you can do the birth your book for it first whichever one you want. It really doesn't matter which one Tiana Tiana Forgive him for saying your name wrong now. That's why I call you both from now Thank you for your wisdom. God bless you God bless you and and thank you to all the new members of the blessed tribe I see when you pop up here in the green like lovely Jones Tira Tira Inspires hey Tony should I keep my child father? slash X blocked in order to keep peace around Around us our daughter is too. He barely comes around her anyways. He likes to argue in our relationship is very Mm-hmm. Yeah, keep him blocked keep him blocked keep him blocked keep him blocked and let him You know, especially if he doesn't come around. He's not trying to come around Just just keep him out the way if he's not serious and when he comes he's bringing bad energy He's bringing negative energy Let him go to the courthouse talk to the courthouse about what he wants Let the courthouse send you a letter that you need to come on in show on up y'all go in the courthouse and talk in front of the judge let the judge mediate and and decide the you know The parameters around visitation and all of that. So don't don't even Get caught up in dealing with somebody like that Karima God bless you bless you 11 years Single haven't been on a date in over six years or more. I want to start meeting people But it seems I'm still getting the same result It's all mindset you don't have to do coaching you're gonna need coaching Karima when you when it's been that long It's been 11 years and six years you ain't been on a date as mindset It's something that you telling yourself That's showing up in your walk in your look even in your profile picture I could see the way you looking at me the way you looking at me Looking at me like mm-hmm. Yeah, what you got to say. That's what your picture look like You ain't got no smile on you give him the side-eye in your profile picture and Look like you're cut somebody your profile picture look like you're cut somebody So it's really just you all you know nonsense And when you know nonsense, but but you don't balance it with you know gentleness and positive self-talk and Really addressing all the past stuff That's when it shows up in a man reads that and he say whoa Nah, I don't want to get You know for late Just for making my first mistake. So it's really just a it's a it's a miss It's a miss reading you could be sweet and just as nice and dear-eyed as Bambi But if you don't understand perception of the opposite sex and like what men read and What's being given off? Then it'll keep you stuck right there Christine will you God bless you God bless and I hold on season question Gea, I see this new knowledge has given me a new attitude I feel myself being overly confident and not afraid to get back on the dating scene. How can I stay calm humble? Overly confident is humble humility produces confidence in security produces arrogance So to be overly confident and ready to get back out there That is humility and a lot of people don't understand that so so you actually in the right place You're in the right place doing the right thing You doing the right thing I saw tear a question Now, let me see when does the discount expire? Yeah, I don't know. I don't know When the discount expire so write it down healthy Now when the 19 gone I'm putting healthy to speak positive to speak life in the midst of this here 19 spread now when this 19 gone That this count might be gone with it. So you know Just try to make work Key, God bless you. You didn't popped up in here again I'm gonna have to get you stock in my company now. I had a five year memory that I posted again today from you Wow, you've been supporting five years basically saying don't be so heavenly minded that you're no earthly good Love your wisdom and statements blessing to you in the tribe. Good night. God bless you Lord bless you bless you Lord. Why didn't he like? Why didn't he like open all the doors and kill it? She she'd be coming in She'll see my old blessing twenty nine dollars 1999 and then she's sending another blessing when she can get ready to say bye Then keely understand this don't feel like you have to do that every time now Yeah, I'm just trying to do you like post do you like when you're trying to get somebody some money? It's like oh, no, no, no, don't worry about that. And he's like him. Yeah, man. They like oh, all right All right, and so the dollar on that second time they gonna take it. That's how I am So don't feel like you have to do that every time But please believe my soul ain't gonna send no refund so God bless I thank you Question is it okay to block my kid's father to heal my heart and we have shared custody I don't know if you just got him But somebody'll just ask that same question now So you have to scroll back and watch this and hit a whole answer, but As long as they have a way to reach you like what if you want to block somebody then you need to have a mediator So I'm gonna add a you know caveat to that last answer You need to have a mediator because if y'all sharing custody then y'all got to be able You know to connect somehow so maybe it may be his mom Maybe your mom he may have to call your mom or your sister or somebody and then they call you and say hey Johnny want to you know, come on over Johnny say getting ready to come on over What time y'all want to do the drop-off? We'll meet at meet at the park at seven o'clock. So you still could keep block, but you need to have some kind of means What do you do when you are in a marriage where your husband just Makes bad decisions and you end up in crazy situations like living with your in-laws for the fourth time Wow You need to write a screenplay to be honest with you You need to turn that into a movie try to make you some money back off of that cuz That's some serious love down you hit me somebody land me in my in-laws house four times I'm gonna talk to God. I'm gonna go to God about that one say Lord. I look I know what your words say about divorce, but listen You say you're forgiving God and you'll throw it in the sea of forgiveness and remember it no more I'm gonna need you to do that for this divorce cuz Man, he'll drive me crazy. That's that's I'll be talking to the Lord about that to be honest with you cuz that right there That is something he just don't have any Regard for life. He's not really thinking about you Miss Brenda you hit the money sign in the chat or you can send to his cash out so if you're a A Female celibate over 30, but most people approach you say you look under 30 and that affects who approaches you is it likely To find celibate godly men over 30 or under Well, you got to appreciate Looking younger than you do and to you just gonna have to pray a little more and That's a good problem to have it's better to have that problem then For people to think you look too old or older than you are and what you got to realize too is if you look under 30 then sometimes It's also Older men eventually gonna be Common cuz sometimes men like women who younger so it just really what it means is you have to increase your rate of Interaction so that means you may just add things to your schedule So you you and this meeting on Tuesday this meet-up group you in this life group on Thursday night on Saturday You and your bowling league on Sunday you in church and you know you serving so you giving yourself Monday Wednesday Friday you in the gym every morning before work or evening afterward you increasing Your rate of interaction with men so that way you meeting more men and you got more Opportunity and you also may need to get some feedback because you know if you dressing like you know One of the teenage from one of the sitcoms and and you're not putting on the right Situation, you know, you might have to throw your red lip on there Might have to put your four inch to your six inch heels on there Might have to put on some colors to get out of the blacks and browns and grays You know, you may have to tweak something like that if you got all that going then It's just increasing your rate of interaction Jazz in God bless you God bless you Tony my ex and I broke up about eight months ago He blocked me and deleted me as a friend Just recently he sent me a heart emoji and added me as a friend again. What does this mean? What it means is When y'all broke up he went on to another one He used you for brownie points So he showed her that you blocked He showed her that you blocked and that he doesn't deal with you and he didn't cut you off Told her you was crazy told her all kind of stuff about you to make it look like he's a good catch And you just happen to be crazy, but he knows his self-worth and he left you And so what he was doing is letting her know you could get left too But what he thought was gonna be an upgrade turned out to be a downgrade Now he realized that because he's still a sorry no good man That ain't no woman gonna be good for him as long as he's sorry So now that that didn't fell apart eight months later Now he coming back to see what you doing to see if you still standing still because he needs me to hold me down He need he need a placeholder. He need Somebody to kind of be Misconvenient until he meet somebody else to leave you for so that's what you got to realize Because a man who won't you ain't gonna never block you Joya God bless you bless you Tony. God bless you Now hold on now you question flying in her now alone Six year relationship. We have a four-year-old keep saying we're not ready to get married yet We are 31 years old. We have a lot on the line including a house. Should I give him an ultimatum? That's a tough. That's a tough one to be honest with you I'll be honest with you kind of the shot yourself in the foot Just I mean you put you put the cart before the horse And that's that's one of the biggest mistakes. So to every woman who does not have a child yet Take that as a lesson Keep your legs closed. Keep your legs closed Take that as a lesson. You got the date intentional So you got to go in the situation and you got to say my legs clothes, okay? Number two, you got to say I'm giving him a timeline We need to be exclusive meaning he asked me to be his girlfriend within three months By 12 months, he need to be talking about marriage By the end of that second year y'all need to be engaged By the end of the third year y'all need to be married. So you gave him four years of dating and When you should have ran That's when you gave him a child So y'all been together six years you gave him four then you got pregnant had your child So now what happens is when a man cross three years, he don't want you anyways So if you so what you need to do is not get no house with him for one don't go on no deed together The most you could be on is a rent thing. Don't go on no deed Then the next thing what you have to realize is if you give him an ultimatum, it's over anyways If you got a give if you got a make a man marry you He gonna cheat on you if you got a make a man marry you. He's not going to It's a waste of time. He don't want to marry you. He say y'all ain't ready Then what you need to do is cut off all marriage benefits. You need to say, okay, this is what we're gonna do This was about to happen I'm finna get a job if you ain't got no job I'm about to get a job and I'm getting my own place and you get your own place And we're not sleeping together anymore. I'm putting you on child support. I'm putting you on child support and We'll set visitation and if you can't agree to that we'll go to court. You get it You could get the court visitation. So you got to remove all husband benefits but you can't be giving a man all the husband benefits and And you just a girlfriend and then trying to have some say so and some clout It don't work like that because he don't respect you and in the reason why he's saying that Is he just want to go through the motions and keep you there keep you stuck? Until he meet the woman that he feel like she's his wife MSC I Recently met my husband on my job. God confirmed he was my husband but one of the young lady he confessed that he was after because of Sex now. She is bitter. Why now she's bitter The first thing what you said is You said God, okay So What you trying to say is that God showed you a man That's chasing another woman for fornication They ain't God You talking to the devil The devil to confirm for you Your distraction the decoy that he want to get you off your path with the Lord The Lord ain't gonna show you a man that's chasing random women at work for fornication So see that's why I tell folk, you know, don't say God and don't talk about God If you don't if you're not gonna read his Bible and understand the attributes of God What God stand for and what he don't stand for so God ain't told you that does not now that don't mean it can't work But God ain't got nothing to do with it yet. You hear what I'm saying. So That's on y'all and then you could call God in he'll give you wisdom knowledge and understanding but God I told you that's your husband, you know, so you have to understand that because what the Bible say God is not the author of Confusion so a a God bless y'all. I got to get going. Thank y'all everybody that sent old blessing everybody that showed up on here tonight I might do a Q&A tomorrow being that we in this situation is giving a little more free time and Than normal, but I really appreciate y'all Listen back to it if you if you missed it, but I told why if I just gonna be on here hour I think she used to me going over and You know, I just heard maroon don't close So I think she going on in the other to get my TV ready to get back on Netflix. God bless you and No, no correct. I didn't send another six 49 what happened is when you send that big big blessing They leave you up there they leave you up there and let you get your your moment in the sun So Corella God bless you this side of heaven God bless you She came and showed up and showed out in the middle of this hill Situation we in God bless y'all. We'll talk soon