 All right guys, just got done speaking. Next up here is Braddock from Love Systems. I met him back in February, late February of 2008. I went to Vegas to meet him at the Lawson Museum of Conference. He's a really cool man. Great stuff. Herman's speaking and I heard that he was just kind of, you know, once he's in there he's like, he's been in the community for a while, working at it, he's come a long way. I learned to speak but I was like, you know what? I think he's got my event. He's got an awesome job. He's into it. He's all about learning to learn one thing. It's a great guy to come out and have. I saw him at Hard Rock Casino too and I saw him feel he was just awesome, stellar stuff. So without further ado, here's Braddock from Love Systems. I can come to that. Awesome man. All right guys, I put together my notes basically on a college game. Anybody in college or about to start college? Good. Hopefully this will save you two or three years of hard egg. This is, man, I wish I was somebody who gave me these notes when I started college. It would have been sick. My story, in high school, I went to a really small town in Oklahoma and I was kind of a cool kid. So I thought that was that little fishbowl. I thought that carried over everywhere I went. And I was, there was a rude awakening. I got college and then I wasn't that guy anymore. And yeah, so the first year of college was a nightmare. I mean I was basically, basically my first year of college was a nightmare. It was like, I didn't talk to any girls I didn't know from high school already and worked up when you were there. I'd rather play football, I know you. So I basically just puppy-dogged him around and tried to meet girls. And though girls hadn't meet, I wanted to meet my brother. I was like, fuck, what's going on? Well, there's a couple things that I finally, I was like, I'm going to break this down and figure this out. And it came down to, by the time I mapped it out, oh my god, I dated so many girls in college by the end of four years. It was ridiculous. It took me a while. It took me about two years to build this thing. The way I'm going to give to you guys, but a lot of it was because of trial and error. And I feel all of this process is pretty tight shit. It'll explode. So let's see. Some of the terms I'm going to give you came from the book. They're from my social circle seminar, which we, which me and Mr. M, one of the other lessons in the structure. We came up with a lot of the stuff. So you may have heard some of these terms before, but I'm just, I'm using that name. But I've tailored it into game. So a lot of these come from the, from the book. Tipping point, if I heard that, I'm not going to level up. The first one is a social connector. Write that down. A social connector. Anybody have a guy friend that everywhere you go, he seems to fucking know everybody. You're like, how does he do that? Well, the more of those people you can get in your life, the faster, the easier your life is. Because that'll help you build a massive, massive social circle. What I want you guys to think about in college game, you guys are not in college with supplies, too. It's very similar to my social circle in general. You don't want to be in a small fishbowl like college running around, shooting out routines, peacocking, saying a bunch of weird shit, and you get pigeonholed as that guy. Because if you do, you're going to burn down. The only girls you will get won't be the ones you want. All this is tailored to get the hottest of the hot girls on your campus, not to get the 60s and 70s. This is the intent. Okay? So you've got to get your mindset switched. We're getting away at college. You're not going to run around running routines and cold approaching. I'm not saying there's not a component cold approach still used, but that's not what this is. Okay? Social connectors. You want to start looking for these guys. Guys and girls are adding it as quickly as you can, or just knowing them. You can make loose affiliations with them. You don't want to be best friends with them. You know. You exponentially increase the people you know. Next term is a value connector. A value connector is not necessarily like with a social connector just knowing them. A social connector's currency is people. They meet people and introduce people all the time. That's all they do. They're not necessarily always high value in and of themselves, though. A value connector is someone that is a DHB by their mere presence. So like in college, if you can get close to the football players or any of the athletes, if you can get close to the highest ranking frat boys, really hot girls, or pre-selective guys. Guys that are looking that are good with girls. The cool kids, basically. A lot of this stuff is annoying as shit, and I hate it, but it is one of these. You can either bitch about this stuff or you can learn to play the game, right? Value connectors. But they're a DHB just by being associated with them. Next term, gatekeeper. A gatekeeper is someone that has a high situational value. So a girl that has, let's say, an ugly girl that's friends with that really hot girl you want to get to know. She may not be a value connector by knowing her, and she may not be able to introduce you to a lot of girls, but meeting her could be the bridge to the really hot girl down the road. In my social circle seminar, in a true cold approach out of college, gatekeepers are a little different. I'll befriend a bunch of girls and slow burn them and get in with them that way that I can slowly infiltrate like the hottest girls group without trying to cold approach it. It's one shot, hit or miss. If you can infiltrate through a gatekeeper, you can slowly, slowly get in there and not have to just roll it enough with a coin, right? The key thing to write down with a gatekeeper, you guys are going to, I'm going to slide through this in about an hour, but I want to give you some of the most important stuff. With a gatekeeper, one of the things you need to write down is disqualify yourself hard. Disqualify yourself hard as somebody that doesn't want to date her. So what I'll usually say to a girl that's a gatekeeper, I'll be like, wow, you were fucking amazing. You remind me of my best friend from high school. You remind me of my best friend Sarah from high school. Or I'll say, wow, you know what? You were awesome. I've got to hook you up with my friend Mike. You would love it. And Mike doesn't even exist, right? But by me doing that, I bring her a value that instead of just trying to extract something from her and trying to get something from her, and also because I don't want her to become attracted to me. So you need to disqualify yourself. That way, when you go for hot friends later, she'll hand them to you on a silver platter. She'll talk you up. But if you try to game her, she'll become attracted to you and then she'll either block off her friends or when you do make the switch, she'll piss her off. The next term is social dead ends. Social dead ends are any guys that you know right now that have just read the game that are now on your college campus running around Peacock's and running 55 routines on campus. That is a social dead end. A social dead end is someone that kills your... Just by mere association, his presence, they thin slice you together. They think, okay, they must be in package deal. He must be like this guy. His mere presence kills your value. If you have a bunch of social dead ends, other social dead ends are like the really maybe a high value guy that puts you down all the time or just destroys your value, right? So even though he ended up himself as high value, when you're around him, he puts you down so much that he pressures you, right? Let's see. Other problems with a social dead end is the kid that's just really miscalibrated. So you're trying to network, you're trying to work your way in. You're in some frat guy that you don't necessarily like, but he has really good parties. You're at his house, and you're trying to make that connection happen. And this kid's trying to outfill this guy, and he's trying to like... I would say, don't outshine the master, right? So if you're in some frat guy's house and you want to get to know him, you don't want to be sitting there trying to hold court and take over the room, right? I love this stuff. You read him. Words is great. You got to learn to know when to turn it on and when to turn it off. So you're in a room with a guy who's trying to make a connection. Don't outshine the master. You're not trying to crush him. You're trying to get access to his house so that you can get all the girls there. Right? Who gives a fuck about Chris and this guy? Let him do like he's a shit. Does that make sense? If you've got a friend blasting that guy, then it's ruining it. Okay. Another term is thin slicing. This comes from Malcolm Buddle again. It's from Blink. And basically it's a rapid cognition. It's basically like making a snapshot judgment about people. Right? We do... everybody does this. But it's like, if you saw me walk in with an Uzi and a machete, you probably don't think I'm speaking next. Right? But that's a thin slice. I might be speaking next. Does that make sense? If you see a guy in three piece business suit, then that guy's probably a business guy. That's a thin slice. It's a snapshot judgment. What happens if you walk into a party and you have five cute girls with you and three pre-selected cool guys? What's your thin slice? He must be one of the cool kids. What if you walk in with five yorks? We were peacocked out like a mystery. And in your college party, you look like an idiot. What's your thin slice? It's your idiot. It's your idiot. What happens if you dress like a kid that lives on a farm and wears clothes two years behind schedule? It's not that they don't like you or people will be mean to you. They thin slice you. So especially in a small fishbowl like college, you just get categorized. That's an ugly side of life, but it is what it is. Right? So I'm not saying you got to dress like everybody else or be like everybody else. I'm just saying that people just realize that people aren't thin slices of you. And you get categorized like that. The next term, getting sticky. The sticky phase. In social circle game, okay, like the difference. The reason we have all these DHB stories and all these ways to demonstrate value when we do cold approach, like when I teach my normal boot camp, is because when I walk up to a girl and I'm cold approaching, I have 30 seconds to make some kind of impression, which will buy me a minute, which will buy me two minutes, which will buy me five, which will buy me 30, right? In that 30 minutes, I'm going to show her all these things, because it may be the one child I've got. But in social circle, if you're going around trying to thread DHBs and all these stories, like in cold approach, I'm trying to jam value down my fucking throat. So because I have 30 minutes, I need her to know it later. Right? So we develop all these routines and all these ways to thread stories and intelligent stories. In social circle game, you don't need to do that. You need to become the DHB, right? You need to surround yourself. You need to become a badass, thin slice. Does that make sense? Instead of running around trying to talk about who you are, you need to just be cool. So the other people are telling people how cool you are. You don't have a this size, you're going to get multiple encounters with this girl. So why would you try to employ your little one hit? Right? Let the buzz get created about you. So getting sticky, it's an old advertising term that says, for you to recognize Tylenol, you need to see and hear through some medium, whether it be advertising on radio or on TV or on a billboard, you need to see Tylenol six times before you finally go, headache, oh, Tylenol. You go, headache, hear some Tylenol. Does that make sense for your sticky? Well, I just take that with social circle as well. Like, realize that when you first meet somebody, the sticky face could be one encounter, it could be 50. I really high value girl that knows everybody and has a million friends. You may not know her until you're 30 or college and you may have met her 20 times and she's the only the fuck you are. That's okay. Like, I'll get to the model here in a minute. Basically, I'm not going to try to game her until I am sticky. Does that make sense? She doesn't recognize me. I'm trying to, like, come in hot and try to get sexual and make a bunch of jokes or try to push the attraction too far. I'm not even on a radar yet. It's a mistake. It's a mistake. I learned the hard way to college a lot. Right? So, essentially, you want to get sticky before you try to make a move. Understand in college, understand situational value. Understand situational value and respect it at all times. But the good thing is, okay, like, you know, like, you guys have read a lot of stuff on the boards or a lot of the old writing stuff, a lot of A-Mog wars and stupid shit like that. That doesn't really apply in college as much. It does, in a sense, but not the same way. In Cool Approach, we will never see that girl again, so I got to bring the heat. It makes sense? And I'm going to push all in. I'm going to go try to blow that dude out. If I do, it works. We've done it. No big deal. I'll start with the next girl, right? Because I probably won't see her again. That would be a giant mistake, though, in a social circle game, or a college game. Because if you go all in and lose, you do have to see her again and again and again and again and again and again and again and the guy that fucking destroyed you, right? And he pulls his value, and yours goes, ooh. So live to find another day. Live to find another day. So basically, understand situational value, understand when you have it, understand when you don't. When you don't have it, I'm not saying you can turn into a meat pussy. I'm just saying, maybe you fade back a little bit that night and wait for a better time and strike when iron's hot. I'll be really outside the box here, but it's your mind going, I've had it, I think I know what it means, right? If there's three football players in the room and there's that one girl I want and she showed interest last week, then the three football players showed up, I'm not saying I'm going to run from her. I'm just saying I'm not going to try to outshine these dudes because you're going to look really try harder, right? You're going to look really reactive to them and you're going to look really goofy. Makes sense? So just because they're in the room this time, well, we know that girls are very emotional and their emotions change from second to second. Fine. He wins the battle, but I'm going to win the war. Makes sense? Let them win the battle, not necessarily a retreat, but just kind of go chill for a while and then they're gone for the next day, the next week, the next month. When the iron's hot, when I have a great time, I'm going to strike then. Makes sense? In college, or in social circle in general, build your army before you attack, right? It's been the first six months of college, even longer, I've never turned it off. I'm going to go out in a mass and fucking army. I want everybody on this campus to know my name. Everybody. I knew, everybody would go in, my roommates would be like, God, you fucking annoying. I had to stop and talk to everybody, everybody, everybody would win. Because I want to do that because that way, anywhere we want to go, I knew somebody there. I didn't know one person, there was three people that did this in the frat party. I had to lean on the person and to lean on anybody. And if that guy walked up with five girls, I didn't try to game those girls. I said, hey, what's up, man? How's it going? Dot, dot, dot, who are your friends? Makes sense? Instead of me trying to game five girls on campus and running around being that sniper, right? I just moved to the Navy and moved everywhere I went. Right? Okay, things like this. Cold approach versus my long-term college game strategy is let's look at it like a sales, let's look at a sales analogy. Anybody done cold calling sales or door-to-door sales? It's a fucking nightmare in it. Right? The problem with door-to-door sales, even if you have the best product in the world, the customer doesn't really want to talk to you. Right? The girl doesn't want to talk to you about cold approach. She doesn't know the fuck you are. So you knock on this door. They're already doing something. They don't know you are. They don't know what your product is. They don't want to know. So you have major value limitations. Just the mere act of knocking on the door says, I want something. I want something. Hi, I need something for you. Does that make sense? That's cold approach. We have a bunch of strategies, disqualification, and other things that help us remedy that. But it's to remedy that. It's not, ah, it sucks because if you have a really good social circle attraction, it can never be equalized in cold approach. Yeah, you can say, well, this one time, I don't care. I'm telling you, you give me a social circle setting and let me be in there long enough and let me get all the attraction switches on a girl over months and months and months and just keep hitting on her. You can make girls fall in love with you. You just might hit the attraction switches without ever saying one DG story. It's all visual. She gets to see it all. Does that make sense? So, so cold approach is like do it yourself. My long-term strategy is like mass marketing to select demographics and then letting them come to the store. If they come, they really want to buy something. They have your works done. That makes sense? And the ones I didn't get to come by store, I need to market more. I'm just going to keep marketing on them until they come to the store. If you think of it in those terms, how much is it easier to sell something when they come to your store with carrying your flyer in high or to walk the product to their house and go, hi, I've got the best product ever. Hi, can I have some of your time? Hi. All right? Do y'all see where I'm getting out of this? So, basically, here's how it looks. First, you go out and you market first. You build a brand. I build a brand. I build a brand. Here's who I am. Then, once they come to your store, you make the product scarce. Now, here's where the old-school disqualification and teasing and playfulness comes, right? You are, first, I got to go and get you into who I am. Now you want me? Now I'm too cool for school. Not literally. I'm being pretty gentle here, right? I'm just trying to give you a big picture. Now I'm too cool for you, so now I'm scarce. Now I'm a scarce resource. Now you really want me, right? Then sell to the highest bidders. Then sell to the highest bidders being what? The hottest girls, right? Which I'm going to get to my waterfall principle here in a minute. You sleep with the girls or date the girls, the hottest down, not up. The waterfalls don't run uphill. They run downhill, right? If you get the hottest girls, it unlocks all the ones below it. And some guy will be able to be on the board and go, whoa, Brodick said, I know my friend. He always, he can do anything. You'll do moving girls and work his way up. I don't care, okay? Don't pose, don't eat on me that, don't ask me, I don't care. Okay? I'm telling you, the generalities, yes, all these roles are going to be broken. It can't be. So once you make the product scarce, then sell to the highest bidders, the hottest girls, and then sell the hidden overstock to the eights and below under a different brand name. So you sell the hidden overstock under a different brand name to the eights and below. Does it make sense? So, you know how like when you buy like cheesy chips or whatever the fuck they're called? I don't even know. They're Doritos essentially. That's just, the dollar bag of chips is just an overstocked Doritos. Doritos sells $33. Does that make sense? Now, because guys are like, why would, I'm never going to delay doing your strategy. I'm never going to eat girls. You will because you're going to be scarce resource to the hot girls. That's a long-term strategy to get them. You're going to let go of the browser and grab the gold. But then with the eights and below, sell your overstock. You can get gaming. You can run routines. Be a dumbass. Go for a run. Bring the heat. Okay, my two long-term strategies for college gaming. One, I did this for about six months. I ended up getting out because I just didn't want to spend the money. It was okay. I didn't really like the guys. It was alright. I hate to admit it. Join a frat. If you can't beat them, join them. Get frat-fasting. They hand you all of this on a silver platter. It's done. My whole seminar is done just by signing the paperwork. It's a pain in the ass. You didn't have to do a bunch of it. You'll meet a ton of really cool guys and they'll meet a bunch of nipsheds. But it's worth it. It's totally worth it. If you can't beat them, join them. Run the Gauntlet of Bullshit for a few months for four years of an amazing social life. They're going to hand you. They would be like, okay, today you're studying what the faith is. Tomorrow you're willing to float with the Tritones. Tomorrow you're... I mean, it's just insane. You just be locked in a room with 30 hot girls. If you're good at game, it's like shooting a fish in a barrel, right? But otherwise, see, what I love about that is otherwise you would never meet all those 30 Tritones. You'd have to go meet each one of them individually. You'd have to meet every one of them individually. Or you'd have to work a gamekeeper game. Or you'd have to meet connectors. You'd have to just build connections with all those people. It'd be... It's an exhaustive process. I did it. It takes fucking two years. Three years, right? It's worth it. Either one's fine. Younger, sorority girls will date you just merely on affiliation. Oh, you're a Lamborghini? They'll park you out there. Oh, fuck. It's retarded, but it is what it is, right? Oh, he's this. Oh, he's that. College is like a mini Hollywood or it's like a hoot suit. Right? Oh, he's this. Oh, he's that. Oh, he's a football player. Oh, he's either clear chasers or, you know... Oh, I get to date and play the Lamborghini. Or I get to date or whatever. Right? Use that through advantage. Why fight that? Right? It's like guys go, I don't want girls to like me because I'm a dentist. I'm like, fucking stupid? Like... That's free. That's free. Two points. If we need to get 10, you've got two walking in. What are you talking about? Right? So, same thing with that. I mean, if an 18, 19-year-old girl wants to like you because you're in a frat, okay? Pardon me. It's better than me having to, like, do you want to like her because of that or you're one of them or just a stupid, right? Okay. Let's see. Being in really, really one of the better frat houses, I'm in a college situation is the highest situational value you can garner besides football player. Right? It's the highest situational value you can garner without being an athlete. So, let's see. Some of the problems with the frat thing, though, is a couple things to avoid if you do join a frat. A lot of guys from Georgie High School and they join a frat and they feel accepted so like have this undying dork allegiance to his frat and it's gay. It's like, we used to be like, oh my God, I think he literally beats off to the frat house. I mean, right? And it reeks of like insecurity and weakness to the girls as well. They're just like, wow, he's desperately playing. My brothers, I love my brothers. I knew anything from my brothers. My brothers, they're just like, I was like, dude, at least I got it. I was like, dude, I've done this to train here and I didn't relate to the house cleaners. I was like, what the? I guess it's shit, right? But then again, you meet some of the best friends. Some of my best friends I still have a friend from the frat. Let's see. Feel the frat house politics. Don't chase the members who are, don't chase like the cool members because they'll crush you. They'll be assholes to you because it's just like chasing it. Think of the coolest guys you meet in the frat or just in general. Think of them like a hot girl. If you chase too hard, they smell an agenda and they push you away. Right? So you want to be cool with them and slowly, you want to like think about coaching the really cool guys like you approached like a pissed off dog. Right? That you don't know who to bite you. So you're just gradually get to know him and gradually work your way in and don't try to force the encounter to too fast. Right? Make them come to you without self-communicating disrespect or aggression. Let's see. The balls will asshole frat the way. Usually there's like one guy that like, he never was cool in high school and never was like a leader never got to be the guy in charge. But since he signed up paperwork, as soon as he gets his pledge badge and he's a sophomore now, he's officially got 10, he's got 60 dudes he can boss around and talk shit to. He's never had that and he abuses it. Right? Do not align with this asshole. He also tries to get an army of like pussy guys to follow and he never has any friends until the next pledge class comes in. Right? Tell this guy what he wants to hear and just say the fuck away from him. He has no value at all now. Other than if he's your enemy he can be a real pain in the ass. Right? Bounce around a lot. Don't just get in one niche because you're nervous and you meet a bunch of new guys. You'll find like one little niche or one room of guys that are cool and they'll just like lock onto them. Make yourself become friends with everybody and spend a little bit of time with everybody. If you can make yourself do that you'll have like so much going on. You'll have by the time you're a junior you'll have people calling you all the time and you're like, I need to turn my phone off to study because you'll have a bunch of different niches like let's say this one goes bad you've got a whole host of options. You're not locked into this one little group with like another microcosm of like, oh shit this is the only five guys I've known for four years and you're not women's best off of me, oh shit. Right? Let's see. When you do find like if you do get with the cool guys if they do extend you to invite them I always take it like a football locker room. Like let the seniors come to you show them respect without kissing their ass and when they find like hey freshman you know, right? But while you're there don't lean on them don't be a leech don't puppy dog them don't kiss their ass but don't be disrespectful and don't try to be setting your attention just be cool. Just lay back. Guys to avoid in the frack oh wait, you're talking about that the guy that saw me you know your guys, yeah. If you have an asshole in your pledge class or this one applies to social circle gaming in general if you have an asshole like in your pledge class or like of your value or below or like even if you're just still talking about social circle situation where you've got like the amour or whatever you call it, right? Here's the best way to deal with that fucker. The problem is a lot of times that a lot of times that guy is the highest value guy in the group. So when you have that guy in the group you can't do like I'm going to I'm going to keep my frame I'm going to be I'm going to I'm going to show him I'm not reactive and I'm going to I'm going to tell him I'm going to be aggressive and I'm going to tell him to back off me or whatever tactic is written on the board when you try that shit they turn the jokes on harder and crush you deeper in the ground I've been that guy too all right I've been both guys so what I learned was I call it the the pendulum theory or I call it the hostile takeover the hostile takeover so if you got this guy ideally you want to align with everybody I don't want to make enemies ever but I damn sure don't want to if you try okay there's two things with the asshole guy like usually it's really high value so people are they don't necessarily always like him but they fear him what I wrote here is people respond to value whether it be anyone of higher value or people that can threaten your value right you respond emotionally to that don't you so he may not even be liked but he might be feared and they're scared that he can he'll turn that shit on them so like when he when he's making fun of you even though they don't think it's funny but laugh ha ha ha ha at you to keep his acceptance does that make sense and so when you try to blast him they're going to look and see what the value is they're going to go with the value always it's not about loyalty it's about value it sucks but it is what it is right so instead of trying to combat him or trying to be addictive guys don't think well I'm going to I'm going to do Del Carter give him I'm going to try to give his best friend right away he just crushes you more for that too then he owns you because you're his bitch so now he knows you want his acceptance so he'll turn on the approval and turn it off whenever he fits his needs so the hostile takeover basically what you do is this be polite but not nice don't ask him the poor questions when he's around how do you have to go man and then leave him the fuck alone and then what I do is I get the fuck away from him when he's in the room I'm not not instantly I don't jump up and run but at a nice normal situation I get up and I leave when he's in the room I'm not it's what I call a dependency he's around I'm not then Garner's situation Garner builds strong alliances not alliances builds value with every individual in that group when he's not around and don't try to impress the group I will literally cultivate a strong relationship with you and you and you and you and you and you and you individually right so as he tries to do that my value is starting to go up and up and up again you know why there's no fucking clue and then his jokes don't resonate as much anymore they're not as funny and then when he tries to pull that shit it doesn't work as much because they like me and it's hard to look me in the face and laugh at me if me and you kicked it yesterday it had already time does that make sense and then it's the hostile takeover and then at some point when he sees the people responding to you better it'll extend all the branch take it but don't take it don't grab it be like that's cool yeah we'd be nice to don't act impressed don't be glad that he's being he's finally come around just be like that's cool yeah let's hang out let's do that polite but not nice right but do take all the branch because otherwise it'll take it as a sign of aggression okay the other long term strategy my favorite GDI was GDI single goddamn independent right non-frat affiliated when I was in college we were it was when we were invading Afghanistan so my five friends which was wearing a frat we called ourselves the northern alliance the rebel army right we were terrorists for let's say here the eagle on resistance because we'd love it how we would get once we had this setup we would go to the frat parties and take out the hottest girls and these guys would be they're not even at house how are they here we'd come in there to snag the hottest girls and be like didn't pay a shit for that have a nice night right so the basically the crucial here's how you if you want to be a GDI like you've got to get over this like hate of the friends okay and you just got to be like tip your hat to what they have and be like damn I wish I had that that's okay but because if you outwardly hate them that's the sign of what what's the problem with that what I say we all respond to emotionally value so we're like I fucking hate the frats do you hate them or you don't like the fact that they fucking own the campus and have all the problems I hate frats you all respond emotionally to something of value right or perceive higher value or perceive threat to value so you wouldn't respond emotionally like that unless you were like I hate them so when girls around they're like are you a friend they're like no fuck those motherfuckers fuck them I'm not a frat the girls are fucking I'm not paying my friends fuck them when you do that what do you do you're responding emotionally you're responding to God right if someone said hey are you playing basketball tomorrow you're like no fuck basketball basketball you're pussy right okay keys to being a GDI to being part of what about sports what about sports what you were saying earlier that before you got into frats you were like well there's football players and if you're not math you will end up frat that's the highest ranking so it goes I'm saying like what about like water polo players is that a bunch of crap I don't think so it's a nice little piece but I don't think girls like go to the water polo events and like get shit based and be like I hope when you guys fucks me you guys would speed it up you guys would speed it up you guys would speed it up you guys would speed it up no I fully no I mean if you are part of like a sport team that's obviously a highly valued thing to be you know like and the fact that it gives oftentimes what I noticed was it gives you alliances right like being on the being on the golf team means you ate lunch in the same cafeteria with all the athletes so you just got to know them really well and then you made friends with them and you go to parties and walk in with the football players right the key is to becoming a successful GDI the problem is okay you've got to you've got to compensate since you're not in a frat by aligning with the biggest power broker GDI as you can find aligning with a bunch of nerd GDIs is like essentially saying hi we're five guys that couldn't get in a frat at all and we all hang out because we're nerds but if you can find five power broker GDIs or however many if you can find a group of power broker GDIs without ever saying it it looks like those guys could have gotten a frat and chose not to that's pretty sexy that's a sexy stereotype right but to be like we either we don't like frats or to be like we couldn't get in a frat it's two very low value places to live right yeah GDI okay let's see must develop yeah the persona that looks and feels like you guys are so cool that you didn't need a frat but not that you don't like them you just didn't need it you're so social socially it just comes to you so naturally that why would I get in a frat without ever saying it verbally could have gotten and chose not to let's see we talked about this it's crucial you don't sound bitter or overcompensating right to add credibility to this identity the only way to add credibility to this to make it believable to be really good friends with all the baller frat guys so the thing I did was I tried to make really good close friends with all the guys in the top houses so I'd be seen at their parties they'd be seen at my house parties and why aren't you in a frat I don't know just never really want to be one but I was aligned with my four roommates were all cool really good with girls and they could have all been in the house they want but they chose not to be and then when we were good friends with all the top friends it made sense and makes it credible but because you're not in a house you're going to have to work double time on your networking and finding connectors you've got to really seek out and put in extra effort every week to find social connectors and I was literally out like six days a week you've got to really bust your ass in class I tried to get my schedule to where it was always Tuesday Thursday and I would have the worst Tuesday Thursdays ever then I'd have I mean I made almost straight A's in college as well but I did it because I just really good time management I would bust my ass during the day and study during the day and get all my shit done and just go out at night and go to class drunk at 8 a.m. a lot of times right but I'd have all my shit done let's see another thing you have to do is overcompensate by creating an outlet of fun comparable to a mini frat house rent a shitty house or a cool house near like where everybody goes out and make that like animal house we had a fucking basset hound an English bulldog you need a bunch of novelties people knew dog holiday oh dog holiday the basset hound that y'all shaved OU right we'd have never turned down a good time we all were like dude nobody studied this house this house is a nightmare so if anybody wanted if any girls or guys like hey can we come over and pre party we wanted to create a buzz of like this is the house to party at those guys those guys always have the party everybody goes there after the bars everybody goes there after the frat party right you need to create a house like that that's an atmosphere fun otherwise if you're just two dudes and a boring ass two bedroom apartment like you gotta understand it from a sorority girl's eyes like do I want to go sit at their house and watch TV and drink beer or go to a crazy fun frat party where I know everybody I know the movie it's just not the same it's just not the same right other than all of these we built a beer pong table and made like an OU football field out of it it was really cool people always hey it was just like it's the best way to isolate girls too it's like hey let's go play beer pong right let's see alliances are crucial in college we've talked about that let's see what if your social circle is fucked right now what if you're the one that's just fucked and you're like dude I'm low on the totem pole I like his pendulum thing but I've got four guys like that holy shit what do you do anybody change school maybe fuck maybe cut it and get a new one fuck all those guys start over college is huge I'd get all new friends this time do it right though start over and do it right this time don't try to fight for four years in a group of guys that don't like you that like you but don't respect you always make you look like shit and always make you feel bad and make you look bad in front of girls instead of trying to fight that and trying to create a new identity within the group which is doable but tough cut them and get new friends start over it's not that hard alright here's the way here's the way you look at here's the way remember my sell sell your what I say here become scarce and sell the highest bidders and then sell the overstock alright here's how it goes the waterfall I call it like prize trees or prize circles so let's say the the pythons whatever girls you like are like the house of really hot girls that are classy that are like marriage material you're like I would like to date those girls they're fucking all gorgeous and really good girls and smart whatever then this another house is like this group of girls they're kind of known for being slutty and crazy and like the party girls I'm going to treat both of those groups of girls completely different right the the higher class girls I might want to date I'm going to run my other game where I become I want to sell to the highest bidder in that group in the other group I'm going to just go nuts and try to the waterfall can go uphill I'll explain it so in your prize venues or in your prize trees of like all these girls are the ones I want respect this one too much pre-selection can be sleazy in these groups too much pre-selection can be sleazy so it depends on how you go about it if you get a name where he sleeps around all the time yeah that can get you pre-selection but with like the high self-esteem girls or the a lot of times what happens is kind of group think these girls get picked by this house and it's like they get pre-framed it's like when you're a py-fi you're this type of girl so they all act accordingly they might have been a slut in high school but they're going to change the whole way they react everything about them because of the house because this group of girls is like crazy and fun and all partying and the older girls do it they act accordingly they become crazy and slutty and fun and nuts right well with this group of girls though like I did but you wanted to look like that guy could have anybody but is unspokenly picky does that make sense that guy is flirty and playful and knows everybody and flirts with all of us but he's unspokenly picky that way when you do finally pick the girl out of this one like the hottest of the hot girls she's like he picked me he doesn't ever he doesn't pick anybody and he picked me does that make sense it's kind of like the difference between dating a slutty girl or like that girl where in your head you think because she didn't sleep with me early the same principle works both ways now be flirty but don't sleep around don't be making out with a bunch of girls when you're around those type of girls or when one of those girls is at a party you're at or something like that don't be seen leaving a party holding hands with some of the overstock make sense alright in your weaker trees or the trees with the fun party girls that girls are going to sell our overstock too it's the complete opposite in the slow to your houses you want to water the waterfall still applies but you do want to work from the hottest down but the sleaze factor they actually like the sleaze factor the more of them you sleep with the more of them want to sleep with you it's retarded alright so in the sleazy houses it's like you still need to respect the waterfall and go for the hottest girls first and work your way down but like as to where in this one if you started sleeping with all the girls the high self esteem girls would no longer be attracted and they would cut you off they'd be like no he sleeps around I don't want a guy like that as with this one they're like does it make sense so sleazy pre-selection and your slutty trees classy pre-selection I could but I don't in this one does it make sense okay buzz this is a key word this is like this is what you need to remember if anything from this buzz the definition to me is girls talking about you when you're not around that's what buzz is people talking about you when you're not around this is the ultimate DHV in college this is the ultimate DHV in college in social circle game in general it's just harder in normal life because you're not stuck in one campus it's hard to get buzz buzz creates value and scarcity buzz does most of your gaming for you in college right what's buzz created by situational value so like I was like a the football coach for one of these sorority teams right so then when I go to frat parties I'm like coach nick hey 20 girls run up and hug me being in a frat being a football player that's not inherent and who you are just by walking in the room that's what situational value is everybody understand that okay good pre-selection yeah causing attraction oh here's another one that creates buzz getting in those situations where you have pre-selection or you have situational value flirting like crazy but not acting not being like so you flirt a lot and then you know I'm going to see them again so you leave it hanging you leave it on a high note all the time so I flirt with all the girls but then not ask them for any of their phone numbers like narrow it down to one girl it was like god coach nick coach nick coach nick coach nick they talk about me when I went around I flirt with all of them but I don't really act I'm not going to act too soon does that make sense because I wanted I wanted the buzz to build like to a tipping point before I finally capitalize on it let's see once you have buzz just keep going out a lot and let them come to you how much buzz you have in each tree will determine your access to the hottest girls right so to get the hottest girls in this tree or this tree like over here or over here either one of them right how much buzz I've generated how much these girls talk about me when I'm not around will determine my access to the highest echelon of the girls does that make sense fuck DHV stories if you can create buzz you don't need stupid DHV stories trying to brag and tell everybody how cool you are the more you talk about how cool you are the less it's believable Donald Trump doesn't talk about how cool he is he doesn't need to people talk for him right this is the difference between cold approach and social circle right a cold approach you kind of have to tell how cool you are and you have to find subtle ways of doing it without looking like you're bragging here you don't even need to go there you just be cool be seen with have four or five friends that are pre-selected by girls so that girls go oh those guys get girls they like those group of guys you run with pre-selected guys you have high situational value and what I love about it more than anything when you have buzz instead of like DHV storing and hitting all the traction switches the girls will fill in the gaps of who you are with assumed high value traits write that down think about that after this that's such a so crucial when you have buzz girls will fill in the gaps of who you are with assumed high value traits so instead of you trying to tell a DHV story because you have buzz and because you're pre-selected and you run with all these cool guys and all the girls are talking about you you must be this this this this this it's assumed make sense? he must be a protector of loved ones he must be all the attraction switches he must be funny he must be cool he must be interesting he must be smart they'll just fill it in for you and that's why an asshole guy will be like date the hottest girl and you're like how the hell did he get her he's such a dick how does she not see it but he has so much buzz that she fills in the gaps and finds a nice side of him her focal points go to all his good things make sense? buzz needs two things mainly tons of repeatable high situational value why would I say that? because of the Kyle football coach one time it's nice but when the football season's over that's going to dissipate so I need to find another way I need to constantly find ways to have situational value or have a different value right? so if you were just let's say you didn't have cool powerful alliances and you didn't get to go to frat parties and you didn't know any frat guys but you were the Kyle football coach as long as you capitalized within that short window of two months you might get something done but after that two months boom you're going to fall off the ground boom you're going to fall off the radar they're not going to see you they're not going to remember you right? so you need repeatable high situational value and then tons of face time and exposure tons of face time and exposure so I get to be the cool football coach and then I find out where they're going to be that night and I just mysteriously happen to be there right? then they're like coach Nick but I am chasing them but they don't know it does that make sense? I keep mysteriously popping up where they're at all the time but I'm not like I'm not pursuing them I just get to be the cool guy leading on my locker like in high school right? okay the actual model of how to get this done oh I'm sorry let me back up I'm going to skip a little bit yeah okay hot girl game in college hot girl game like these are things to not be ignored if you want to get hot girls consistently buzz is crucial obviously if you remember nothing else from on how to get the really hot girls buzz is crucial always follow always respect the waterfall hottest girls first work your way down and hey that sucks because the hottest girls are not the easiest ones to get to right? you get I don't mean go for the hottest girls like get them I mean I'm going to only date and sleep with the hottest girls I'm going to flirt my way up I'm glad you brought that up I might have to flirt my way up from the bottom up to create buzz does that make sense? I'm not going to go at the hottest girl flirting necessarily but I'm only going to act I'm only going to pull the trigger on really hot girls does that make sense? good good question so then respect this rule too with all your friends if one gets in we all get in if one gets in we all get in a lot of times there will be a covey of hot girls right? and what you'll do is one of you does at a frat party he meets this girl and it's going really well well so what happens is that lame guys or guys that aren't good at this stuff will she'll bring her three friends over and they swarm them and they run every routine and try to like get out home run right now everybody tries to get it done if these guys will just back the fuck off let this guy get in let him sleep with her let him date her a little bit then like early if these three mess it up with those girls it could end this encounter they'll pull her away or they just she just falls off the radar cause like oh we can't hang out my friends don't like your friends or she won't even say that she'll just fall off the map right? if you'll if you'll respect that if one gets in we all get in what you do is one of us meets a hot girl let me take her on dates let me sleep with her let me date her or whatever then when she's hooked to me and she really likes me she will see me as high value and I'm like hey why don't you bring your friends over let's all do this let's all do that my friend then she's like yeah that'd be fun let's do that now I bring her friends over and my friends they get to be cool they didn't have to approach the act of approaching in general is a position of lower value unless it hits does that make sense? anytime you open or you over extend I'm not saying if it works when you do approach like I almost always go direct now when it hits it's a fuckin' homerun when it misses you're done right? that's the problem with it so instead of us bum-rushing your friends my friends were on the couch watching TV or playing beer pong anyway oh this girl brought three friends over that's cool they didn't have to approach it looks more natural does that make sense? they didn't do anything they're not reacting to the girls they're trying to chase them they're just there if they happen to be cool like each other that's cool too then create a spider web the way this works is if you want to if you want to date or sleep with all the girls in one social circle or a bunch of them what you want to do is create a spider web so one gets in we all get in right? then I get this girl she starts bringing a ton of friends over all the time to our house I want my friends to not act for a while I want them to get friendly and not friend zone but I want to be flirty and playful and not just push the envelope so hard that it breaks to where the girls can't remember what they did on their Fridays before they started hanging out with Nick and his friends they've hung out so many times with us that's their Friday or whatever day you see what I'm saying? they can't remember their life before hanging out with me and my friends so that way let's say me and my girl end for whatever reason or I piss her off even maybe I just piss her off she sees me out with some other girl whatever if the spider web is set deep enough these girls remember me saying people always respond to value it's kind of an ugly thing human nature it is what it is, right? but even over that of alliances so early on if these girls just started to come over they kind of like you guys if I piss this girl off they will go with the value and the which will be pretended under this alliance of I like her we don't like you guys because you pissed her off so fuck you guys right? if the spider web is set right and they now love Friday at Nick's house so much they even like it more than their friend now when I piss her off they'll either be like I hope they get back together or I hope they start dating again or they'll be like well she needs to get over that because I'm friends with Kevin too and I'm not going to lose my friendship with Kevin that's not fair of her to ask of me because people align with value at all times whatever is the most valuable that's what they go with it makes life easier so they'll backwards rationalize she needs to get over that if the spider web is deep enough does that make sense? okay now and because of that so we've got one gets in we all get in we've got the value then we've got the domino effect right the domino effect is like the waterfall but it's essentially because I got her all of them will be attracted below that right? so I get her then her then her and work your way down the list does that make sense? now doesn't mean you're going to get a list of five girls you're going to get one, two, three, four and five in that order what I'm saying is you get number one or two then you'll get maybe number four or five what I'm saying is you're going to work down the list that way you're going to be attractive okay the actual gaming how this looks this is what me and Mr. M teach in our social circle seminar this is our five steps for any kind of social circle setting for any girl you're going to meet instead of running a bunch of gaming and thinking I've got to get in with this girl right now number one is neutral report what is neutral report? it's not friend zone but it's also not hot not gaming not pushing the envelope right? I mean neutral report is just basics hey what's up nice to meet you Sarah cool I'm not going to go back until you're not going to ask her 50,000 report questions the neutral report phase lasts until I get couple things have to happen I have to get sticky I'm going to stay in neutral report until I'm sticky so like you might meet a girl 50 times and like the first time you meet her hey this is my friend Sarah and she's like hi but she's like often where the Lambda Chi land where the Lambda Chi is a football player so that's one time the sticky phase there is no number of times could be one time could be 300 times right? so then what I'm going to do I'm going to keep seeing her out hey what's up you're Jessica's friend right? yeah cool that's two that's it I'm out nothing more than that see her again see her again see her again until she goes Nick that's when I'm sticky hi Nick when she remembers my name and runs up and hugs me then I'm sticky until then I'm neutral report right? during the neutral poor phase then the second phase is value and buzz value and buzz so I'm going to stay in neutral report until I'm sticky until I have high she sees me in high situational value situations and until I have buzz and you won't know that you have buzz because people you'll hear people talking about you you'll know you have buzz because she'll be like what we call IOIs or whatever right she'll start reacting differently to you you'll feel it once you have value and buzz make yourself scarce how do you make yourself scarce you don't act too soon guys in social circle settings try to pull the trigger too fast when it's like dude you didn't have to go for her number because you're going to see her again a lot of times I in college don't be dogmatic with this but a lot of times especially with the hotter girls I would wait until they were like we should hang out sometime until they said it to me when they said it to me I'd be like yeah you're right we should let's kick it what are you doing this weekend see the difference do you see how it's like but it's slow burn man the whole time I wanted to and I had to fight my urge to be like we should hang out sometime I wanted to say that but I wouldn't because I'm doing this to so many girls and I've got so many trees and so many wheels spinning I'm not worried about any one girl right I'm not worried about any one girl it's true abundance game that whole like cold approach abundance game where guys pretend like they're sniping off super models all the time if you hear that usually they're full of shit right not saying cold approach isn't awesome it's changed my life I'm fucking good at it and I love it but there's a time and place for that and it's not fucking college game so get that out of your head then once I make myself scarce I'm going to start breaking rapport because if you try to break rapport which he doesn't know you and doesn't like you and you try to tease her and be playful like that it's meaningless it's meaningless as a fat girl doing it to you you're just like a fat girl teasing me it's funny right you just don't care when you have scarce and you have value and then you tease he he he you're like people laugh at value right so that's why your boss can walk in and go man it sure is warm in here and everybody goes ha ha ha but to everybody else but the other guys the new guy that's in the mail room he says anything he could be like he could have a fucking guy running over the rimshot and still a fucking you know tumbleweed rolls by nobody laughs she has no value it makes sense so when I break rapport now once I'm I'm a scarce resource and I start teasing and being playful now she's like that's when you get the jaw drop and the punch in the arm do y'all feel that in your head or are you like oh fuck okay now that makes sense then the last part or the next part for is sexualization once I get this then it's when you start making like sexual role plays teasing more sexual touching her more holding hands when you see her a little bit letting go while you look really good tonight or you smell good or not complimenting I'm just saying it's more like I want you kinda but not I want you but like it's on between us not turning into compliment guy now sexualizing making sexual tension right creating sexual tension where both of you know that you're probably gonna make out soon and that you're probably gonna have sex but never never ever verbally saying it right then the last part isolate escalate and close we all know what that means so hey let's go back to my house and watch a movie hey let's go back to my house and play beer pong hey let's go back to my house and pet dog holiday I shave no union it's funny you should see it okay as well before be like pulling fucking teeth out right be like hey do you wanna come over I'm gonna give you a million dollars and Jesus is gonna be there and um I have to go oh no we have to we have rush tomorrow when you don't have value when you do have value they'll fucking oh I have a final tomorrow fuck it let's hang out when you don't have value they're like um no I have to um you know whatever get it okay in college do not peacock this is just kinda random stuff here I don't have much time I'm gonna rush through some good stuff do not peacock at the most when I peacock at all in college would be like I was gonna go to law school um I'd go for like a law school interview and I'd come to the bar meet my friends at the bar in a suit from the thing but there was a reason for it it wasn't like I wear a suit out randomly on college I wear a suit on campus like cause I'm a dick and I wanna stand out cause I'm a reactive nerd right no do not do that um but also don't be the dorky kid that like I said that lives two years behind schedule you don't have to dress like everybody else but dress one off does that make sense if you wanna stand out a little bit dress one off I would dress a little bit flashy a little bit interesting just a little bit right just a little bit cool than everybody else or a little bit edgier than about I mean like a fucking it's so small you can barely see it describe that mm like I'd wear a skinny tie sometimes or I would wear um it would look I just have to show you I guess but it's like look exactly without trying to say you know I hate the well generally like peacock but don't overdo it no no generally do not peacock at all and underdo it the default is like okay think of it like this if I could draw the okay think of it like this you've got a hot girl like somewhere in here is a line right and there's a bare minimum you have there's a in law school there's like clauses necessary but not sufficient right that means something like it's necessary to have car keys to drive a car but it's not sufficient does that make sense so a lot of times it may be necessary to have to meet this minimum standard but not sufficient just because you do dress okay doesn't mean you'll get the girl but dressing overly peacocked or dressing like shit could mean not getting even a fucking chance does that make sense so while I do agree with the fight club Tyler Durden let go and be you know be yourself and be all that stuff do it with some calibration you know what I'm saying if wearing if looking quasi normal allows me to access to tons of hot girls the fuck no I'm being I'm being it's my identity at all costs I read that somewhere what the fuck you know the fuck you doing you're missing out on really cool hot girls because you're trying to be something you're not instead of just being like alright here's my camouflage here's my stupid Abercrombie shirt this is camouflage so I'm getting this trap party think of it like that if you need to that makes you feel better you don't have to don't don't dress so boring that you just fit in but don't dress so don't try to peacock like a fucking idiot they don't think it's cool they just you will attract some girls you're right you will get some girls you will not get the tens so make sense you will get some girls and you'll attract some guys you'll get a group of guys that do that too and you'll be those guys and you'll get those girls but you won't get these girls so make sense and maybe you don't want those girls and maybe this sounds really superficial that's fine I'm just calling I'm calling a spade a spade it is what it is right let's see winging in college this one's this is badass right here okay winging in college now I'm not talking about the trap party let's just assume what happens in college a lot because everybody has roommates and girls have roommates it's really easy to get girls to come back and a lot of times it's to your advantage to get her to bring a friend so instead of inviting Sarah like remember my model here if it was like right in the middle here somewhere it would take at least that much compliance to get her to come over by herself it might be it might take all the way up to my hand to get her to come over by myself it might take this much compliance to get her to come over with a friend so it makes sense instead of being like hey do you want to hang out with the emphasis being on me and you you can be like why don't y'all come over and play beer pong y'all assuming there's a y'all it's so much more low key it takes a lot of pressure off of her right so when you do that here's the thing let's say I meet a girl tonight and she's going to bring her friend back to the house and I've got three roommates you need to work this out with your boys and make sure they understand it but a lot of times take the choice out of it when you bring so we've got three roommates back home and I'm bringing home me what does it look like everybody can go fuck I know exactly what that looks like a bunch of dumbasses going hey no me hey look at me no he sucks I'm cool hey hey and the girls just like wow I wonder if they want to sleep with me right so what you do is you call ahead and be like hey man hey Matt Sarah's bringing a friend over she thinks you're really cute you just make the choice for them and then you need to they need to get the fuck out of the dodge when we would bring girls home because over the course of it it's all going to come back it's all going to come back around for everybody everybody's advantage so my other two roommates would go to the rooms and get the fuck out of there or leave they would go away so it was instantly one on one me and it was two girls two guys right now right instead of fucking three dipshits fighting over one girl then here's here's this is awesome okay so then what you do is okay I'm with my girl right and let's see I've got my girl here and then my roommate and then his girl right my girl already likes me so the worst thing I don't need to hold court I don't need to hold court I don't need to I'm already DHV'd I got this solid I don't need to get tooled either he can't tool me or make me look bad but what we really need to do is catch him up he's got a short window from like two to four to make this happen so we gotta catch him up the worst thing he can do is dive into rapport questions with her hey what's up shut down board she's just gonna sit there and text I'm a theta I'm this right fucking sucks or the other worst thing you can do is just dive in and start fucking fireworks on her that works I've done both and that works sometimes you get laid but a lot of times she shuts down even deeper and now you're like fuck anything you say now looks like you're chasing right so here's what you do so it's me Matt two girls my girl already likes me so anything I say I'm gonna throw Matt softballs I'm gonna throw Matt softballs crusties man he's gonna be hitting home runs I'm just gonna be like Matt remember when we did this you were doing that I do dude something about Doc Holiday you remember when we shaped Furnim and let him tell the story let him have the fun let him be the center of attention without making it obvious does that make sense but if you try to DHV your friend it looks gay too so don't take that dude we need to come up with these elaborate DHV stories so we tell them the girls their pants will drop oh my god they'll be so impressed no no just demonstrate fun just be like let Matt show that he's fun you don't need cool stories the fact that he's not reacting to this girl and he's having fun is the way to do it then here's what we do me and Matt tease my girl because my girl will laugh so me and Matt tease my girl we get her laughing now it's a domino effect I'm not saying we totally ignore her we include her when it's okay I'll include her let me include her a little bit I do it because I'm not trying to sleep with her so she's not gonna have any autopilot responses to me she'll be natural around me so I'll ask her the chodey boring questions this guy I need to engage her though so she doesn't feel completely left out what you don't do is negate any of your friend's jokes he's just kidding he's just kidding you kill sexual tension when you stop your friend right or you apologize for your friend I'll calibrate for him though if he does over tease her I'll calibrate if he was like come on can't you take a joke I'll be like come on Sarah he's just come on we're just playing have fun I calibrate to his girl for him if he over teases I calibrate not him if he calibrates he's done right then what else we do okay so we tease me and Matt I throw him softballs then we start teasing including my girl just having fun getting her laughing then Matt can finally start once we get her once we get her laughing it'd be weird for her not to laugh she'd be she'd look like the odd man out she'd look like she was being a bitch because everybody's having fun about her it makes sense so then he can say stuff or he's like God I wish she would shut up like because she hadn't been saying anything the whole time she's like I'm just sitting here and be like whatever God so he gets back to playing but he's teasing her or he's like you haven't said much high fiver so what's going on what's your name or whatever you finally we start teasing then we turn all three of us turn the teasing and fun at her on her including her because the whole group's doing it she's going to be cool with it right once she starts laughing and having a good time and Matt then what I'm going to do is let's see okay then what I'm going to do is I'm going to grab my girl and not go immediately to my bedroom that's the worst thing you can do this girl will lock up I move my girl to the kitchen come on let's go get a beer or come here I want to show you something come on whatever I isolate my girl because she already likes me take her to the kitchen and then what I do is I'm looking to see how this is going right if they're touching and they didn't even know what we left nice and then what am I going to say to my girl I'm going to say listen hey they're actually hitting it off Matt's like the pickiest guy I know they're actually hitting this is awesome dude let's leave them let's leave them alone yeah okay let's go to my bedroom now the reason I say that is because I'm like we should leave them alone it's because what happens when you get a girl in your bedroom and your friends on the couch uncomfortable every time you get it going LMR of oh I got to go check on my friend I got to go check on my friend I want to do this I got to check on my friend I don't want to feel like this oh my god oh my god right so I need to do that for me and Matt this isn't going well they're not having fun we go sit back down it's not on yet right I'll just keep doing this until I see that it's on or until he goes and isolates himself because if I don't then he's going to get mad his girl's going to be knocking on my door going hey listen I'm going to I think I'm going to get out of here I'm really tired or let's go one of the two does that make sense okay let's see I got like a few minutes I'm going to see if there's anything really cool I can give you guys here's some traits of what I think of the guy versus the cool college guy lame college guy can I come can I come can I come I'd like to come he's a value leech value leech he never brings any fucking girls never has anything fun planned never knows what's going on always wants to know what's up sits there never has fun ready to go home early not having a good time or the guy that's really try hard polarities are bad in general but especially in game polarities he's either the way to he's always the like I want to be Tucker max man I'm going to be like I'm going to be let me show you how fun I am I'm crazy watch me I'm nuts let me do crazy shit I'm nuts everybody watch how crazy I am and he's just like friends are just like fucking tool but they don't want to tell him because they like him but he just stands out like a dick or the other guy is the try hard guy who tries to be everybody's friend too much he's too nice sure man sure cool awesome he'll just push him around right or he tries too hard for your rapport so you're just like what does this kid want or the guy that guilt people he's like hey man I mean you can't get another one can't you he guilt everybody right don't be that fucking guy be able to okay you can't hear no you say no why not why not why not he's high maintenance as fuck he gets his feelings hard easy want something for nothing always the one upper this is the worst fucking person I can't stamp people like this you tell him something and he's like you know that's cool but like when I did it X oh that's cool oh you live there oh you're in that house well my brother's actually in this house every fucking thing he says he just want to but you don't hate him because you know deep down he's insecure he's just trying to relate but all he's doing is crushing the vibe he's just like get him away from me you know what I mean you don't think he's cool or he's just annoyed then the other thing with this lame guy he tries to be interesting all the time and doesn't try to be interested people the favorite the favorite word and everybody's favorite word is their own name right when you get interested in people like intrusive or you're needy but like people try to be interesting instead of being interested balance it you don't want to be so interested that you're seeking approval all the time or that you can't be proud of what you do but you don't want to be like I'm interesting people will like me if I'm interesting enough that's not why people like you right okay then the cool college guy always doing things inviting people to random stuff all the time doesn't care who goes he's doing it anyway he's playing in real football he's playing in real basketball he's fucking going to this weird concert he's gonna go get drunk at some random house he's friends with he's got friends on all ends of the spectrum right he's always got something fun going on and he's inviting people just left and right right he's low maintenance as fuck he has no problem saying no and hearing no hey man you want to go with this no man I can't that's cool see you later man interested in people more than he tries to be interesting he lets buzz dhv him he never tries to dhv himself he lets buzz dhv him dhv is through actions and through buzz not through talking about things he does or things he has right vibes with people through shared experiences not through bragging or telling them how cool he is and then he's cool leading and he's cool just going with the flow alright so you know what that means like he's cool being like alright I'm center of attention I'm running this show and he's also cool laying back I'm totally cool being in your show I just want to have fun alright guys that's it for me a couple of things I want to talk about real quick some websites you can go to I teach normal boot camps like cold approach boot camps as well getting good at cold approach will make your social circle college game so strong because the fuel for this monster is people and if you can't meet people quick and fuel this thing it doesn't get big the better you are cold approach the faster this grows and cold approach is a blast anyway social circle is fun but you go to LA you're starting all over you go to Vegas for the weekend you're starting all over right LoveSystems.com that's our site we do normal boot camps I'm also launching an intergame boot camp or an intergame one day seminar in London and I'll be doing that all over the place and then I teach a social circle seminar that's five hours of this shit right here but it's not tailored to college it's tailored to it's pretty general I have a blog that I'd write crazy shit on and funny stories and I try to put some good stuff on there it's BradxBlog.com v-r-a-d-d-o-c-k-s blog.com and I'm writing an e-book right now on phone and text game and I'm not sure that should be in the next few months I'm almost done with it but we gotta do some stuff we gotta change it and edit it and stuff so let's see we have a LoveSystems routine manual it's good you can find all that stuff on the website if you go to LoveSystems.com you can see that our boot camp schedule is down there so that's it guys thanks