 What he represents is patriarchy. We're here to do work as men, as patriarchs. There's nothing more natural than being a father. Welcome back to the 21 convention's 2nd Patriarch Edition 2020 over Land of Florida, being held for the first time ever at 21 Summit. Brand new. Our next speaker is the founder of RebuildingTheMan.com, also known as Bond, and the Fallen State.tv. Without further ado, please help me welcome for the first time ever to the 21 convention stage the amazing, the esteemed Reverend Jesse Lee Peterson. Welcome sir. Thank you guys. I appreciate it. Can you see me? I'm so black. Thank you guys for having me here at the 21 Summit as an honor to be here. And it's also amazing to see men finally working on men issues, coming back to their natural state of being. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to talk for a few minutes. I want to hear your questions and comments so that we can all be in one agreement. All right, we got to get on track again. What I've been doing for the last 30 years, I started an organization called Bond, the Brotherhood Organization of a New Destiny. And we are rebuilding the family by rebuilding the man. And 30 years ago I started Bond because I woke up. Well, God woke me up and he allowed me to see that it wasn't about color. It wasn't about slavery. It's not about racism. It's not about male or female. It's a warfare between good and evil, right versus wrong. And black people were, at that time it was for black people only. Because I realized that they were mad at the white man. They were blaming everybody. And it wasn't going to help because that wasn't an issue. And that there had been lied to by politicians like Justin Jackson and at that time Lewis Farrakhan and all those people. They were using black people for their own personal gain. And to me what I woke up, I realized it's abnormal for a man to have another man over him. But I noticed that a lot of black men, they had the women over them and then they had other men over them. Other men telling them how to think, how to be. And that was abnormal because when I was growing up in Alabama under plantations, I was born under plantations. I was raised under Jim Crow laws. And we never had another man over us. My grandfather, my father, but no other man once I became an adult. I had no other adult man telling me what to do. Oh, woman. And so when I saw black people complaining about that, I'm like, wow, these men are weak. You're not supposed to have, there's an order to life. And that order is God in Christ. Christ in man, man over woman and woman over children. Any man that has another man over him or woman is a beta male. Do we have the beta males here? You guys know what a beta male is? Well, I'll find out later. Do we have all alpha male? We need alpha males, not beta males. And so what I did was we had this meeting and I was telling black people, you got to forgive, you got to overcome. You must be born again. And it's not about the physical, it's about the spirit. We are a spirit created in the image of God and that we needed to return to him. And so after a while, the message started getting out of what we were doing. I was speaking at different schools around the Los Angeles area and when I would go speak in there, the liberals would get mad at me, the teachers and others. So I got a call one day from the Los Angeles Times and they had heard about what we were doing and they wanted to follow me around, kind of see what my activities were. So I was invited to the school to speak and this particular day he was with me, this reporter, and the kids asked me if I thought homosexuality was normal and I'm like, no, it's abnormal. Don't hate it, but don't accept it as a norm. And the teacher that was in the room had a fit and she made me leave, she stopped the meeting and made me leave and the kids got mad and they said that, why are you running him off? You let homosexuals come in and talk to us about how to be a good homosexual, right? And so the LA Times guy wrote that up and then I ended up on field, Donahue, Geraldo and I started my radio show right after, this was like 30 years ago and so over the years I've been banned from two radio shows, I've been kicked out of talk shows, I mean I've been through it all but I love it, no problem because if you can't enjoy the pain in the same way you enjoy the pleasure, you're not going to grow in life. And the one thing I noticed about men today, they were so soft like a woman, they can't endure. And God said that we have to endure. He said that tribulations work as patience in your life, right? So if you can have the same attitude that you have when things are good and when they go bad, if you can have that same attitude you can overcome anything. And so a lot of words got out, I mean people talk about the organization and so I started getting calls and letters from other races, white people, Hispanics and others and they were like, wow, we want to be a part of this. We need the same thing, we need to kind of help so I open it up to everybody and today we're dealing with men and women but particularly men around the world and the story is the same. The cause of the fall and how to overcome it is the same and it doesn't matter what color you are, how much money you have, how rich or poor it's the same. It starts in the home and so what we've been telling men is how to overcome that fall estate. I have a TV show called Fall Estate TV and we show you how to overcome that and we deal with it in the radio show. Because of that order of God, men are representatives of God on earth. Even in your fall estate you may be a weak representation of it but you represent God and you just don't know it and that's why when you're born again of God you come back to Him and the light of God shines through you and you have an amazing impact upon the world. Men don't realize how important they are and that you are hated. Boys and men are the most hated species on this side of heaven and the reason for it is because who they represent? They represent God and even knows that and so evil is used in the women and weak beta males to destroy the man and it starts in the home with your little boys when your mother turned you away from your father and 99.99999.99% of women, mothers and grandmothers turned the boys away from their fathers and when you turn them away from your father they turn them toward them and the mothers recreate you in her image by making you become angry the moment you become angry at her pressure that she's putting on you, the control sometimes she's too motherly the moment you become angry at the mother you become like her you take on her mindset and her emotions and you react and overreact just like a woman because you have your mother's identity and then you become attracted to what you hate and every woman that you get involved with is mama all women become your God and if you notice when you hate your mother you can't stand up to women and deal with them in the right way that's why God said you must be born again the worst thing that could happen to boys and girls but especially to boys is to be turned away from your father your earthly father because when you're turned away from your earthly father it turns you away from God you cannot know God you cannot love God unless you love your earthly father because the earthly father represents God he is the son of God and so when you love him you automatically love God and you're born again when you forgive your father for not protecting you from your mother and forgive your mother for turning you away from your father recreating you in her image God will forgive you don't ask for forgiveness God has never said to ask for forgiveness you can't find that in the Bible anywhere but he said go and forgive and I will forgive you he has to set up that way most people are not going to forgive you if you go to someone and say hey I'm sorry forgive me they're going to see that as a weakness and they're going to try to use you with that it's like with men and with women and they apologize to their women whatever and you gotta prove it to me and you spend the rest of your life trying to prove something to her and you can never prove it she used that as a weakness to control you but the beauty about forgiveness when you go and say I'm sorry for hating you in that very moment God forgive you and you're free you start to change you start to wake up he renews your mind you come back to your original state before you were traumatized by your mothers you come back he renews your mind he take away all that emotion or stuff and you stop being a woman and you naturally become a man a son of God and real men are not into emotions they don't have a illogical mind they have a logical mind it's the woman with the illogical mind and it's the man's responsibility to help the woman overcome that to bring her out of her hell into his heaven but the unfortunate thing today is that men are going into the woman's hell and they'll catch it hell I've heard some around the world I've heard stories from men around the world it's just hard to believe I was in a fall I say too so I know what it's like but with the millennial men it got worse they follow women around they move into women apartments they get with women who already have children who already been married they get with women who are older it's like I've never seen these things so messed up some of this stuff I hear from men I'm like wow when I was in a fall I say at least I knew some of this stuff was wrong I knew never to follow a woman every time you listen to a woman you will suffer because it's not the order of God every time you get every time you get with an older woman you will suffer because it's your mama you'll get it anybody ever got it with an older woman what wow beta anybody got with a woman who already had children yeah I can't hear you it's okay to admit your sins that's when we get it of freedom here's what I want to tell you I'm writing about it right now never never never never but never never when you wake up when you return to the Father you won't anyway because you gotta be guided by the light and the light is within the light of God is within us and he guided us because God really loved his sons he loved all people not as you are though you must be born again it talks about when you're first born through the flesh you're of the flesh right then when you become an adult you're born of the spirit of God of the Father now you're of the spirit and a lot of people never do that they go down to the front of the church and they confess Jesus as Lord and Savior but nothing change they don't change at all because they have not had that born again experience you really can be born again but only God can do it and he only does it for those who are seeking first the kingdom of God in his right way you have to really be seeking you have to look within everything that you want in life everything that you need you can't even imagine what's in store for you when you enter the kingdom of heaven from within everything you want it's not in a college or a university it's not in women it's in you your whole life is already laid out for you and once you return to the Father your life will unfold for you it really will it'll just unfold it'll be like magic that's a horrible word to use but it's so amazing I can't find the right word but never get with a woman who already has children who's already been married who's already been through a divorce or anything because it's like buying a used car right you're just going to have trouble the rest of your life it's just a reality but when you're in that fallen state falling away from the Father you're into the woman you're looking for love from the woman and women don't have love to give because your mother took away your identity so you're trying to find it through the woman and they don't have it to give women do not have love to give the love comes through God through Christ through the man through the woman through the children if you notice because that order is broken and the woman is the head of the man the love that she's given out it doesn't work just think about it you become emotional you become drug addicts you become alcoholics you become criminals you become liars and thieves and slut makers we having slut makers everybody's a slut maker right well you can't help but be a slut maker because the woman is your God so you're looking for something through the woman that she doesn't have and women don't have love that stuff they have is not love, they come from anger and we have anger it awakens your nature it causes you to want to have sex with everybody it causes you to it brings you into darkness that's what anger does but when you overcome that you have self control and you can wait and do it in the right way and so you got to overcome this guy because you can't make yourself change you cannot make yourself stop being a sex addict you can't make yourself stop being a drug addict you can't make yourself stop being anything but when you wake up when you come back to the father he will cleanse you of your unrighteousness and then all that stuff you picked up in the father state will fall away the drugs the line the alcohol a lot of guys are into watching pornography on their cell phone I've never seen anything like that he'll take that away from you but you can't do it yourself because everything we do in life is spiritual it's all about the spirit it's not about the physical at all everything is about the spirit even black life matter you heard of black life matter this bunch of fat black radical lesbians I just love saying that it's not they don't have fathers they've been turned away from their fathers so they've been turned away from God it's not about black life matter they're looking for the love of a father just as men who have fallen away from their father have been turned away that emptiness, that void that you have is yearning for the love of the father and nothing got to fulfill it nothing but a return to the father it doesn't matter how much money you gain your friends the way you live you're still going to have that void until you return to the father and once you return to the father there is no fear no doubt, no worries no insecurity you have perfect peace absolute perfect peace and it doesn't matter what you have to go through it doesn't move you because you're with the father and the father love you but if you steal up the mother you have fear, you have doubt you have worries, you have insecurity suicide of thought because you're living out of your imagination and nothing in your head but lies it's a setup, it builds you up to let you down so today I want to really have you guys ask me questions or let's talk so I can see what you're going through and show you how to overcome it alright, you can overcome anything and once you return back to the father you live by faith and once you doubt because you're going to overcome the doubt and you're going to live by faith and faith in faith all things are possible you would never doubt again I'm going to show you how to never have doubt again any man that has doubt is a woman a woman women live by doubt, not by faith and it's the man role giving to him by God to bring her into his world so she can overcome the doubt but men have been taught to be like women, oh you need to feel you need to think you don't love me, you don't help my emotions you're not supposed to help a woman emotions, you're supposed to help her overcome it you're not supposed to cater to it it's hell having emotions do we have emotional men? no, only one okay, only one told the truth so so here's what I want to do let's, we have a mic somewhere so let's get into it I want to hear from you what are you dealing with and I have questions for you who want to go first alright, can you go turn the mic for me can you hear me is it poppin to turn the lights up out there I know I don't want to change this thing yes sir, go ahead so like you're talking about return of the father was that like was that a process or was that something just happened to you in your later years it's not a process it's the moment you start to question things and examine yourself when you realize something is wrong with me something's wrong in my life, I'm not I don't have peace I'm subject to everything I overreact in that very moment, you start to see and what you're going to see is that you have become just like your mother where you going? no, not yet, come back we ain't done yet don't be a baby to me sorry to be a nice guy you're going to see that you have all these emotions and doubts and fears and you can't see your way clear what happened to me is that when I moved to California in 18 from Alabama it was like going from an empty place to a big city and I had grown up on a plantation so when I went to California I made a lot of mistakes I had fear, I had doubt I had worries, I had insecurities and I would work different jobs but I still didn't, I didn't feel like a man, I didn't feel secure within myself, so finally I went to different churches around there in Los Angeles and I would ask the preacher, what's wrong with me I can't deal with women in the right way and I was a slut maker all the way I would make a slut like Natygon Norm, right and I remember I would go to church and during the church service I would say you know how the preacher said oh praise the Lord I was doing all that and they were like don't sin anymore I'm like wow that's good, I'm not going to have sex today out of wedlock I would feel it all holy and I would feel it all good and so I'm like I'm not going to have sex today because I'm leaving church and I feel it, I'm not going to do it and before I could get down the road I'm trying to think of the woman house to go to, I'm not going to do that but I would end up doing it anyway but at that time I didn't know myself so what you need to do is to know yourself and you're going to see that you're insecure you think and act just like a woman and in that you'll be able, God will show you that you got to go and forgive your mother so that God can forgive you and change your nature and forgive your father for not protecting you from your mother because the responsibility of a father to protect his children from the mother and to help her come out of the hell that she's in but the men don't know that because their fathers have not been good as Apple so you got to get to know yourself first then you start to open up, God is with you and he will allow you to see and your whole world will change and you got to doubt every thought because every thought is a lie there's no such thing as a true thought have you forgiven your mother you heard me say that I think I need to do that have you done it yet? I haven't you have not? no and why not? I've tried to ask myself why I haven't done that I mean why I just had my first child you married? yeah you had your first child? yeah when you married to your mama she gonna mess your child up you have a boy or girl? girl but you know, real men make boys first that was hoping but have you noticed that the millennium men are all making girls first? I'm like, what the my first child was a boy and if he wasn't going to be a boy I'm going to send him back real men make boys first and so you realize you married to your mother? I'm kind of realizing that now yeah, she control you and because your weakness she going to destroy your child she going to do exactly to you I mean your child what your mother has done to you to protect your child what would happen if you went and told your mother I'm sorry for hating you for screwing up my life you're asking me what would happen if I did that? yes I think it would be good because I would be able to move past resentment I have and those little feelings what do you resent her for what did she do to you? my parents got divorced not too long ago and just the way she's kind of spiteful behind my dad's back I never really had a good relationship with her there's other factors that go into it but I've just never really been close to my mom and I just kind of after my parents split I moved to Texas and I was just like well guys just said fuck it I just don't want to you know you said fuck it? millennial millennial second language is cursing they call my show they're like fuck it they say all kind of words but I just laugh at it because I told you I understand it but you gotta face your mother God said go and forgive and I will forgive you and you're gonna shake in your boots when I went to forgive my mother it was the hardest and I was 38 at the time it was the hardest thing I ever had to do it was like trying to face Hitler I wish I would have rather faced Hitler than my mother right so she came to her appointment to visit her sister and God allowed me to realize I needed to forgive her so he could forgive me and I was going driving over there and the closer I got fear would just overtake me and when I started to walk into the house I could barely make it up the stairs it was like two or three steps but I realized my mother had turned me away from my father she was kind of me but not really me and I resented her and whomever you have anger at they control you and so I realized that's what was going on so I went into the house and I told her let's go to the room and talk and she was telling me oh don't do it this is the wrong time she's on vacation and I knew not to listen to that so I took her to the room and I said all my life I resented you and I'm saying it now like it was easy I could hardly breathe all that was wrong but I'm wrong for hating you for it I realized now that you couldn't help yourself and I become like you she recreated me in her image and for me my mother apologized she was like oh I'm sorry I didn't realize that I had done that and she told me about her life and exactly what she had done to me her mother had done it to her and she didn't know she had passed it on but in that moment my life changed and I've not been the same since my father and I asked him why did he protect me from her but he couldn't handle her because it was like dealing with his own mother and I understood that but I woke up and it's just amazing what my life has become everything that I'm doing in life right now I never imagined doing it not for one thing and likewise it's in you too he has your whole life inside but it can't come out until you forgive and the light of God can work through you yeah thank you for saying that just kind of a maybe realize a lot of things about myself that I need to work on and I think that does hold me back from a lot of those things yeah like what for example you need to work on honestly taking responsibility for a lot of my actions and that's one thing that really has kind of hit me and kind of you're saying when someone you have control you I feel it's like a weight I'll just say on my soul and I just kind of I feel like I could do better as a father and your wife needs you too women need men the world is going to hell in a handbasket because men are not leading the way women are leading the way and they can't see what they're doing because they're into the mind and emotion it's the men that's needed that's why everything is falling apart to know that once you wake up you're going to catch pure hell from your wife because she's not going to lose that control over you and she's going to like oh you don't love me you used to cater to me you used to hug me, you used to do this right but what she's saying is you're not letting me control you anymore I don't know how to handle that you're going to change this you're going to catch hell from her because she's losing that control over you so she won't be able to handle it and she would be like I'm going to leave I'm going back home to mama and then if that doesn't work she'll bake you a cake and if that doesn't work she'll give you some sex and you should take it all but don't change eat the cake but don't change and when you have sex just have a quick bam bam thank you ma'am did you notice sex should last more than two or three minutes, two or three seconds did y'all know that but the women have men licking and lapping and going for hours now the women are like worship me, worship me and the men just worship him when really the only purpose for sex is to make a baby you're supposed to if you see the kingdom of God in his right way God will put a woman into your life you would date her without the sex because once you have sex with her she'd take control over you it's like a drug and you wake up to it, you become emotional and you feel like you can't do without it she has control over you so you don't really see the woman that you're marrying and then once you marry her the morning after the night of you wonder what in the world happened it's like a drug so you were high and you didn't see what you were getting before marriage you would see what you're getting into and if it's not the right woman for you, the right wife or the mother for your children you'll be able to walk away from it without tripping why did your father protect you from your mother I think he didn't take responsibility as a man maybe it's because he didn't forgive his mother I don't know you were married to his mother he couldn't have her so when father leaves home they leave the mother of the children they leave the wife, they don't leave their children but the mother tells the children that the father didn't take responsibility he didn't love you he was mean to me he was abusive, he was this but they don't tell you that your father loved you and I didn't get along he couldn't have them me I was just like his mother but he loved you but because of anger in her heart he just didn't know how to handle her and you really need to talk to your father so you can love him again and you'll be fine otherwise your wife will wipe you out you're not going to last that's my freighter you're like beta, I can see you're beta can't you tell he's a beta you know you're a beta if you say so you don't see that you are I haven't really thought of it like that are you interested in this whole movement trying to become a man or a better man oh that's another good point once you return to the father we can't make ourselves become a man learn how to operate on a tractor or whatever it's not going to make you a man you are a spirit created in the image of God and once you return to him he would develop you into a man you would naturally become one and you would be the son of God and you would be a man no one can make you be a man no material thing or no person our earthly father is supposed to be a man and when we look at him growing up we would become like the father but because the father is a weak they've been wiped out by their mothers they don't understand it and so only God can make you be a man because you could buy the biggest house you could have a great job but if you're not born again of the father you're still going to be weak and you'll forgive your father as well and you'll be fine and as soon as you realize you resent your mother for what she's done to you you should go and forgive her and God will forgive you it's not a process it's just a fact of knowing yourself and waking up you've got to wake up thank you alright so face your mother alright well and you're going to be nervous I'm sorry I was a drunk I'm sorry I gave you a hard time because you couldn't help yourself you had her spirit, her identity you were just like your mother you just apologized for hating her for what she did to you she couldn't help herself and everything would change alright thank you what do you think about that it's probably some of the best advice I've received here and that needs to happen it's overdue it needs to happen God said we must be born again but born again of the spirit and we can't make ourselves be born again we just have to see that we are wrong for having anger anybody here has anger oh good any male that has anger is a woman hi ladies it's not normal to have anger it's not normal when a man has anger and he gets with a woman it's like a lesbian relationship lesbian because the man the woman needs the man to overcome so that she can overcome and if you are angry and she's angry there's no love, there's no light she really needs you to be strong and once you forgive your mothers you will overcome the anger it's not natural for men but the women have told boys and men that oh it's so hard you should feel something you should be emotional they have taught you to believe that you should be emotional and it's just not true not true at all you should have peace that's what I really want I can see someone like you has that and you can just tell someone like you has they're everything together my life was messed up I was beta beta beta male I was so beta man and this woman can make me cry but not now but before but God will change you man when you go and forgive you're going to enter into the kingdom of heaven your life will change you won't feel the changes you'll just notice things that used to upset you don't anymore when people talk about you allowing it doesn't matter when your family turn on you it won't matter anything else before God we can't love ourselves we cannot love our families we can't love our things we only love Him and everything will start to work out for you and so if you don't have things that's fine if you want me to walk out on you that's fine it won't bother you because you love God with all your heart soul and might along with nothing else and you will have an amazing life it would be fine but you gotta be born again alright thank you you're welcome any other question that was good I think that's good for now I'm telling you I'll probably have more in the future and it's okay to know that you're a beta because the ego doesn't want to face it but the moment I had the moment I saw that I had anger in my heart I was weak everything started to change he showed me how to forgive and I started to change so it's okay to know that you're weak you gotta admit that you're angry in order to overcome it alright thank you man anybody else come on down guys beta mouse let me see the guy with the anger right here yes one thing I want to tell you you can read about these things you can write about these things you can hear me and others talk about these things and if you don't go and forgive it's just a waste of time because you can't learn this you discover this you become that way you can't learn it you can read about it, shout about it, pray about it you can pray until the cows come home and nothing gonna change but once you get to know yourself and just be still and allow God to guide you it's amazing be still and know him he's with you and he loves us he's outside everything that you're looking for is within you everything yes sir if I worked on my forgiveness and anger will how should I look for a right woman or the God will put a right woman in my world never ever ever but never never never ever ever never never never look for a woman you're gonna find the wrong one alright the kingdom of God in his right way and he will add on to you and everything that he adds on to you is perfect it's what you you were meant to have so once you overcome your excuse me once you overcome your mother you're not gonna look for a woman anyway because you're just looking for fallah but once you overcome her you're gonna be completed that emptiness that you have that void in your life it will be completed so you won't look for a woman and if your heart desires to have a family he will add a woman on to you and it will work out but don't look for anything there are men going online ordering women have you ever ordered a woman online well I'm from Russia that's where they order that's where they order from online some men end up ordering women online and end up with drag queens has that ever happened to you well I never ordered one oh you never ordered one oh they don't do that in Russia they order them from Russia oh I see do not order women online God will add one to you I'm telling you it will be perfect you have little arguments but it won't be so drastic when you have to divorce you'll be able to overcome it and your kids will be saved and traumatized because the woman is no longer your God and you'll be able to protect your children from that but you have a woman that is sent to you by God so she won't be as traumatized either but don't look for a woman so you have anger right did she say you have anger sometimes did you know you were a woman I didn't know that any man that has anger is a woman really it's abnormal and don't let anyone tell you that anger is normal it is not normal it's a fallen state so how do you work on that by overcoming your mother you have your mother's identity so like I was saying this young man when you go and forgive God will forgive you and he will take your mother's identity away from you her mind and her emotions he will take all that away and so when you deal with peace and so when you deal with life you will deal with it with peace with courage and courage is not something that you feel it's just that you won't have fear but you cannot you will never be able to overcome anger until you forgive you must be born of a spirit so you gotta face your mother where is she she's in Russia do you talk to her do you face time with her because you need to face her so you can get your courage back so try to face time with her so you can overcome her you're gonna be afraid you're gonna shake in your mood because a woman is your God but you just say hey I want to forgive you for whatever she did right and I realize you can't help yourself because she couldn't help it and if she like it that's fine that's nice if she start crying that's nice you just look at her like you're looking at a movie or if she fall out and die because she doesn't want to admit it you just say oh mama's dead that's amazing and then look for the insurance papers and normally they're in the drawer right next to the kitchen and go and cash it in have a little cheek funeral and go live your life because the hardest thing in the world for a woman to do is to admit she's wrong her ego will not let her admit that she'll point out everybody else's fault she'll blame the kids but she won't admit she's wrong so your mother might not admit it but God will forgive you that's why he said forgive her forgive and he will forgive you so that's how you overcome the anger otherwise if you do get married the marriage is not gonna work it's gonna be difficult and your wife will become the mama but once you forgive that will not happen that make sense? alright anybody else? hey Jesse I just want to say thank you you're welcome man my question is a little bit complicated I'm sorry? my question is a little bit complicated how does a man have who has an earnest want of a relational relationship with God who knows he's got a lot of anger resentment how does a man forgive if he doesn't know how to forgive and that resentment and that anger is legitimate and there's no repentance and the father is dead the father dead? yeah I was disowned by my father oh okay you were disowned by him? yes sir I brought it to his attention that he was not in control of the alcohol the alcohol was in control of him and that his abusive behavior to my mother his wife was not condonable and I loved him and I wanted to help him but instead of understanding where I was coming from he'd rather reject the mailman and he rejected me he disowned me and I said no one will see me cry and not him and I spent many years disconnected and even on his death I did not cry amazing and now many years later speaking of the father our our spiritual father yeah I think my resentment my anger it's connected with what you're speaking yeah when you hate your father you cannot love God it's just impossible so how does one go to God when they know that on the external they look like a man but inside they're in a state of suffering yeah really good question number one use me number one why were you bothered that your father was a drunk and abusive to your mother why did that what did that have to do with you he raised me he lost his father at eight and he said when he was approaching my grandfather's age if anything happens to me you're the man take care of your mother take care of your sisters well you said you went to him about being an alcoholic and about being abusive to your mother right why would you go to him about that he wasn't abusive to you he was very severe with me as well and you know why because you identified with your mother your mother pretended to be a victim and she made you without you realizing at the time she made you identify with her so instead of just leaving you in the middle you had nothing to do with it it was between your father and her you identified with her and then you started to treat your father in the same way the mother was treating him and he didn't know how to handle the mother so he didn't want to he couldn't deal with the mother that was in you as well and that's why he didn't want a thing to do with you you became like your mother because by him your mother just wasn't some little angel tiptoeing through the tulip your mother was something to deal with and because he didn't know how to deal with her she made you think she was a victim and she was not and that's why your father didn't want to deal with you because it's like dealing with your mother and so what I would your mother still living? what I would recommend you do because unless you do this it's just not going to change you're going to die that way and your time gone and it'll stress you out cancer and all kind of stuff but you need to go and forgive your mother for turning you away from your father and making you identify with her she was wrong, that's evil women do that and they're evil for doing that your mother was not a victim so once you forgive her you're going to understand that your father could not handle her because he never overcame his mother and then you would naturally forgive your father because he's dead so you can't go to him but the understanding and insight will cause you to forgive your father and once you forgive your father then God will become your God again automatically but you've got to forgive your mother so you can overcome that that's all you need to do the only thing that got you locked in that fallen state is you have not gone to your mother and how does one forgive like to take it from the head to the heart and actually forgive I want that I want forgiveness and being headstrong, proud to actually let it go with all earnestness, all sincerity to actually let it go as if it never happened when that rejection is so you feel like a straight ugg just that kind of loneliness number one you need to get to know yourself and you're going to see that of yourself you can do nothing and of yourself you know nothing you can't help but be the way that you are so when you do crazy stuff and if you were married let's say you did crazy things and your kids hated you you wouldn't want your kids to hate you because you could not help yourself and so once you get to know yourself you're going to see all the stuff you've done you could not help yourself it's like a spirit made a home in you and it caused you to do the things you didn't want to do and prevented you from doing the things you wanted to do once you know that about yourself it will cause you to go and deal with your mother and forgive her because it came from her you stood on her spirit when you were younger so once you go and forgive her God will forgive you and he will change you he will make the change you can't make him because the sin you know how God said we have to overcome sin we must again overcome sin the sin is not the sex, the food, the alcohol the sin is playing God anyone who has anger and anger is really hatred anyone who has anger is judging and when you judge you're playing God and when you play God you shouldn't ever know God and so right now you have conflict because Satan is your daddy you're in that father state because you have this anger you need to forgive your mother so he can take that away from you and you will stop judging and then all those little things you picked up along the way the drugs the sats, the fear, the doubt and all that will fall away he will take that away from you the real sin is stop playing God we are not allowed the one thing that human beings cannot do to one another we cannot hate one another because if we do we will be separated from God so your mother made you hate your father and that separated you from God but then you became subject to her and you've been trying to find love through women and women don't have it so you gotta face your mother because you can't make yourself be with God you can want him and all that you can read the Bible about him you can quote scriptures until the cows come home you can go to church you can lift a whole of your hands and praise and write down it's not going to change anything the only thing that's going to change you must stop playing God and all the way you're going to stop get to know yourself, forgive your mother and forgive your father for not being able to protect you and all will be well you will see the change will come it will happen just like that immediately you will change and then you will grow in the spirit from child to adult and your life will get better and better and you will add on to you and whatever he has to store for you to do you will find yourself doing it it will happen automatically and nobody can stop it no one on earth can stop you from doing the things that he has to store for you but you gotta forgive your mother amazing huh thank you Jesse I'm telling you that's the only thing that's going to work I'm telling you guys by going and facing your mother you're born of the flesh now you must be born of the spirit nothing's going to change until you do that you got to come back to your natural state the state that you were in when you were a little innocent child before she corrupt you by making you angry and some mothers they seem so nice they spoil you they do all of this and that for you and then when you become an adult they want you to pay them back and they'll follow you to west hell you'll get married they want to move in with you and your wife whatever they want to call you every day how you doing baby and you're like little boy hey mommy but that's going to all change and when you want to help your parents you will do it naturally without the guilt they can't make you do it out of guilt you just do it out of appreciation if you want to you become yourself again but you got to go and don't let your mama move into your family house you know what I'm talking about she'll destroy your marriage or don't let your wife mama move in either she will destroy the marriage let's say your mother said I don't like living in Florida I like living in New York I love New York okay mama well my wife and I will move to Florida all of a sudden she want to move to Florida I love Florida I like to go down and don't let that happen but you'll see though God will guide you and you'll be able to do the right thing but you got to face your mother so all that conflict can be taken away from you are you able to face her it's difficult the previous speaker had a concept of a son-husband so I'm kind of working through a little bit of that really my anger is not so much towards the towards my mother it's more directed towards my father you just don't realize it the proof isn't important the reason you're able to not face her because you do resent her now you feel sorry for her you believe a lot that she's a victim and she's not a victim that's why you need to get to know yourself in your image and then once you forgive her God would take away that false love and give you real love and you're going to honor your parents you're going to love them in the right way you would be able to correct them when they're wrong if you want to help out in any way you would do it naturally you would be able to love your parents in the right way but in that father state you can't love your parents you can't honor them because you're afraid of them especially the mother about to say beta I've been on my own for 20 years oh right on man so was your mother perfect when she raised you? what did she do that you didn't like you wish she had not done or still she suffered with alcoholism and just being completely unavailable and she's still an alcoholic a functioning alcoholic well you need to forgive her for that go and tell her you know what you are alcoholic you went to your father with it so you need to go to your mother you are still alcoholic you weren't there for me I'm sorry for holding that against you because she literally cannot help herself her mother recreated her in her image she could not help herself thank you alright don't let Satan talk to you out of it he would say oh your mother couldn't help her she was it's not her fault don't listen to the thoughts because your thoughts are not your own and they are not from God you don't create thoughts God reveals things to you Satan talks to you so that's why God said bring every thought into captivity once you overcome that father say with your mother the thoughts will get away from you and you're a little by revelation rather by the words that's in your head that build you up and let you down you'll get away from that you are not your thoughts every thought you get is a lie that's why God said my children shouldn't know me by my voice he reveals things to you Satan talks to you and in that fallen Satan you can't help but obey Satan but once you forgive your mother you'll come out of it and then you're a little by revelation everything will be right there for you alright do you want me to go with you to deal with your mother? I live in Canada Jesse I live in Canada I love it I'll accept that offer I highly recommend you go and forgive her don't apologize just say I'm sorry for hating you for the way you are it's a spiritual thing we must be born of the spirit it's not physical and it's not normal for men to be emotional and have fear and have doubt and have worry and be afraid to speak up women are not special they're not queens they're just human beings like a man is to cry we're a human being right? so Christ is there to guide us and he's honest with us he doesn't hate us but he guides us likewise that's what men role is to guide the woman but if you're not overcoming your mother you can't guide the woman you have wrong need for her and she will use that need the wrong need to control you so you gotta overcome her and be born of the spirit alright? anything else? that's fine thank you Jesse then you'll overcome all that conflict you have I used to have it too I understand how it is but it will be taken away from you because it's spiritual you are a spirit you're not your body you are a spirit inside the body created in the image of God you'll tip off the old block your nature, your real nature is the nature of God but because you're in that father's state you have the nature of Satan but you will come back to that and that's what life is alright man thank you anybody disagree with me at all I want to hear it if you do yes sir can you go to the mic for me you disagree too? no okay what you disagree about I thought you said agree no okay so no disagreeers and what do you agree about I agree about the whole thing about I guess I don't like the word hate but being angry or whatever resenting my mother but I now realize that I guess I do yeah the best kept secret in the world is the anger of the mother the evil of her heart and she can't help it because it happened with the Adam and Eve syndrome when Adam believed the woman who believed Satan he fell away from his father and when he fell away from the father he believed the woman and the woman became his god and Satan became the woman's god and he destroyed everything so that if we believe in the son we can believe the father and so that's what's missing so that's why the women cannot help it folks it's not them it's that spirit that's in them because their father did not protect them from the mother and the spirit is being passed through the woman to the children from generation to generation but once you were born again a generation of love rather than hate and that's why God keep recreating human beings because he's trying to start a new generation a generation of love instead of a generation of hate but men don't understand that they don't know that they need to overcome their mothers but you gotta face your mother are you married I'm widowed you're widowed, you have children I do so how are they doing pretty good I think they're doing well honestly I had a very good marriage 23 years I listening to all of this here I realize that I kinda become kinda become beta we were talking earlier I took my food off the gas I don't know I don't know how it would have ended if she had not died but I kinda wish that I knew this the way it would have ended you would have been the boy and she would have become your mother and the kids would be screwed up probably they would be on drugs they would hate you they would be having sex out of wet law babies out of wet law it would be a mess because if the father's not protecting the children they can't see the right way to go the light isn't the father it's not in the mother I don't really know how I got there but I'm working on it when you think about having to face her what do you think about that my mother I'm gonna do it I love my mother I'm not a well I guess I think I do then if you love your mother you will have already gone and forgiven her and be honest with her about the way she is love is being honest without judging telling the truth being honest with one another but don't hate one another for what you see you have to be able to see injustice but don't hate injustice because you become like what you hate and that's what discernment is discernment is the ability to see it but don't hate it but so you don't love your mother yet I intend to go talk to my mother I don't know like you're saying that it is going to be hard but I want to go tell my mother this because now I realize I am angry about this about what she did probably there's more that I haven't really realized yet that's why God said when I first woke up I was in a different church they didn't have any help they had scriptures they taught me the Bible but that didn't change anything I didn't really learn them because I knew scriptures but that didn't change so I finally asked God to let me see myself because I didn't really know myself and the Bible says know thyself and that's when he allowed me to see changes started happening but you got to get to know yourself so you can see what's going on then you have to face it and overcome it and I'm telling you man you will never have fear again once you overcome your mother fear will be taken away from you what do you recommend in terms of knowing myself like this has been sort of a revelation for me I just never really I'd never realized this now you're getting to know yourself that revelation comes from God how do I continue that? by keeping an eye on yourself watch yourself don't be all in your head about things I have a silent prayer on my YouTube channel silentprayer.video and you know how God said be still and know yourself he wants you to calm down so he can catch up with you and reveal things to you so what he's going to do now that you have that revelation now because once you wake up you cannot go back to sleep once you're born again of God you cannot go back it's like when you're born of your mother's womb you can't go back into the womb right? even though some of you try by going through other women but you can't go back in the womb likewise when you're born of the spirit you cannot go back to sleep you can't go back to hell so now that you have this revelation you're on your way so I want to encourage you to listen to the silentprayer.video on my YouTube channel you're going to show you more about what's going on you're going to see this warfare that's happening within you between good and evil and that you can't do anything about it so you become the observer of it you're not your thought you're going to separate you from those thoughts because when your mother traumatized you you fell away from insight, from revelation and you woke up to the darkness of your imagination you start believing those thoughts and that's what deceiving you now but he's going to bring you out of those thoughts back into his present and he will guide you just keep an eye on that doubt every thought, do the silent prayer and you will be amazed at what happens you will become a living being and he will take care of you but just keep an eye on yourself speak up but don't resent but you got the key right now and the revelation that you resent your mother you need to forgive you'll be fine and so you're going to shake in your boots and it's going to be hard to face the mother because you resent her and that's why it's hard for men to deal with women because they have anger to what their mother and every woman is mama but once you do that you're going to deal with women and men in the same way with perfect peace you're going to be honest nothing is a big deal you can take it or leave it your whole world will change you'll become a son of God you got to face the man almost 49 amazing I know men in their sixties that I'm counseling with and they live with their mama and they hate her but because they hate her they can't get away from her and every time they try to lead the mother makes them feel guilty I'm your mama I took care of you your daddy was no good I know men who have sisters the mother encourages sisters to go off go to college and then turn the son into girls make the son stay home and take care of them that's how wicked they are but they can't help it so face your mother you'll be fine alright any other questions no okay anybody else? alright we got one final question good talk Jesse so I got uh you said our mothers turn us away from our fathers the mothers and grandmothers and we look for our moms and our women right? but you can't help it you really can't help it because you naturally become attracted to what you hate so you're attracted to that same kind of spirit even if you got with a man it would still be mama right on so my next question to that is why does this happen and how come our mothers do this to us and can this cycle ever be broken it happens because the mothers don't realize what they're doing because when they were little girls their mothers turned them away from the fathers too the fathers were not men of love they didn't have that perfect love they loved the woman more than they loved what was right and so the fathers allowed the mother to recreate the women in the mothers image as well if you notice a lot of women are just like their mothers they're angry and they're controlling or whatever but they're afraid they know their mothers too and so if the women forgive their mothers and love their fathers they can change as well so the women cannot help it and yes it can change when men change everything is going to change because God is going to work through you and if you should get married you're going to make sure that your wife does not traumatize spiritually traumatize your kids because you won't be afraid to correct her and you would do it and the men of the kids and the kids would see that oh the father is the one that has to love and not the mother and they're going to love you and grow closer to you and when they become adults they're going to get married and they won't pass that they'll pass our love to their children rather than hate and so that's what breaks that cycle yes sir it's come through the father they got to see you do it be it and do it and that's what would change when they love the earthly father they can't help but love God and so they're going to operate from love and when they get married to have kids they're going to pass our love to their children rather than anger that's how it changes have you forgiven your mother no no I just to be honest with you I never really took a look at it until today listening to what you had said I was speaking to another gentleman last night and he was talking about divorce and it was interesting because we were sitting outside smoking cigars and I said you know my mom was real bitter all the time angry and I said it's interesting enough that that's how my ex-wife was and then I was sitting right there exactly you said what you said and I fell out of my chair and I was like that makes sense so I probably need to go ahead and get that addressed not probably God said that there will come a day when I return the children to the fathers and the fathers to the children it's needed right now you've got to return to your father but you can't do it unless you forgive your mother and he will bring you in and forgive your father for not being able to protect you they will marry to their mothers they can help him well I go for a visit next month so I'm going to go ahead and get that done and don't let Satan talk you out of it alright because he'll say oh don't hurt her feelings she's going to get mad oh this and that right she has cancer or whatever right don't fall for it go and forgive and then you're going to love her with the real love you won't be afraid alright thank you I wish you well man thanks Jesse alright so let me just say as I said before you could read books you could read about another Robert reading but don't read to remember just let it go in one ear and out the other but you must be born again and being born again is spiritual only God can cause that to happen you can't make it happen I can't make it happen but I want to encourage you guys to go and forgive get to know yourself and you will see your mother did you up they just don't tell you the best kept secret in the world it's the destruction of the mothers but they make you think it's the father fathers love their children fathers don't leave their children they leave the mothers the mothers won't tell you that so go and forgive and God will forgive you and your life will change just like that and love your fathers they couldn't help themselves because if you don't love and love means don't resent when you don't have anger you have love there's no other choice when you don't have doubt you have faith but once you overcome that anger you will overcome doubt and you will have faith I wish you guys well do the silent prayer dive video give it a try do your hoop in the holland and praise your lord alright and once you do that first and then calm down and be still and know God he's with you already the kingdom of heaven inside of you the world out there is the Old Testament but the new world the new testament is inside of us the kingdom of heaven is inside of us and remember God said it's right at hand right it's inside of us and he only going to let those in who will seek in him only a few seek him not many but he'll let those in who are seeking him so get to know yourself and you will be fine alright I wish you guys well this was amazing I hope that just helped a little bit check us out at RebuildingTheMan.com we do a show every day we have the Fargo State TV and we have men and women calling our show from around the world they're going through the same thing even from South Korea wherever the parts of the world I never heard of the mama spirit that separates from the father is happening all over the world so go and forgive and you'll be fine thank you all for having me here I appreciate it he represents his patriarchy we're here to do work as men as patriarchy there's nothing more natural than being father