 This video is going to be a little bit different than usual. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And today's problem is how our lives are being dictated by our fear and caring way too much about what people think about us, especially when we have well intentioned motives. You know what I mean? But you know, like here's what I need you to do. I'm tossing in a clip real quick. It's going to be about one or two minutes. So bear with me and please watch it and we'll be right back. It's crazy to me how much I care about everybody's opinion. Like these two people in the fourth row have hoodies with my quotes on it. I care so much about what they think about me. You would not believe it while equally really giving no about what they think. And it's like this crazy bounty. I never let somebody else's opinion matter more than mine of myself. All right. So that right there is Gary Vaynerchuk. If you don't know about him, you better ask somebody. But if you need help overcoming fear, if you need motivation, if you just need positivity in your ears to drown out the noise of the people in your life, go check out his channel, go check out his podcast, read his books, whatever you got to do. But I wanted to talk about this because this is something that comes up so much. My friends, my family, my coworkers, you know, clients that I work with. I hear this all the time. People are so worried about what people think about them. We're being driven by fear. It is holding us back. It is killing us mentally, spiritually, emotionally, whatever you want to call it because we care so much about what people think. And like Gary said, like I hope you guys realize while I do care about what all of you think, I equally do not care at all. And here's the reason why and I want you to remember this. To thine own self be true. Okay, because I hate to burst your bubble, but you are never ever ever going to make 100 percent of the people happy. So once you get that through your head, you're going to start doing a lot better. So the only person that you need to get right with is yourself. Check your motives. Always check your motives and your intentions. Are you coming from a good place? Are you trying to help people? Are you trying to become a better person? Because if those are the cases, then you're doing just fine. If you stay on that path and you're being guided by your moral compass, then it doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you. That is the only way that I continue to improve and succeed in life and improve myself mentally, because I realize, especially with this YouTube channel, I know that some people just aren't going to like me, right? They're not going to like what I say. And heck, I've even had people come up in my comments, act and all ratchet, and then through a conversation, they're like, oh man, like this is a decent dude, like he actually does have good intentions, right? Like I talked to my fellow YouTube creators out there and, you know, they're worried about posting different things and what people are going to think and, you know, are they going to look at me this way or that way and this and this and this? I'm like, well, what are your motives? What are your intentions? Are you trying to get clicks? Are you trying to get views? Are you trying to use people to make money? Are you lying to them? Are those the things that you're doing? Because if you're not, then you're fine. Then keep going in the direction that you're going. And here's the thing too. Not everybody's going to believe you. Not everybody's going to believe that you have good motives and good intentions. And here's why. See, I can empathize with that. I understand that because I lived a very guarded life. Everybody in my life, growing up, was screwing me over. How was I supposed to trust that you weren't trying to use and abuse me, right? So when people come at me sideways and they think that I have bad intentions, like I get it, I empathize with them. I'm like, you know what, maybe they've grown up the same way that I do. Maybe they're used to people trying to use them. Here's a prime example. Here's a prime example for you. So some of you who follow my channel, you know, I've done some videos about Demi Lovato and her situation. So I made a video about the mean tweets about her and I made a response to it. So the next day I was on Twitter just kind of trying to check for updates. See how Demi Lovato is doing. I saw more people talking about these mean, you know, insensitive tweets out there. So I posted my video in a couple of places. I'm like, hey, I absolutely agree. I actually made a video on this if you want to check it out. And this one young woman, she came at me sideways about it. She says, I can't believe you're using this situation to promote your channel. Right? I'm like, huh, that's interesting. That's interesting because we live in this world where people are so used to people just trying to spam links and trying to get, get, get, get, get. But let me make it clear and I understand this young woman doesn't know me. But here's the thing. I'm not trying to become the next Jake or Logan Paul or YouTube millionaire. I have a full time job. I go to work every single day and I love what I do and I get to pay for my bills and support my son and all those things. But I love helping people so much with their mental health that I come back home and do this, right? So I share my content just to do a few things. Increase awareness about mental illness and addiction to decrease the stigma. I try to educate people and help people understand this young woman who's doesn't know me from anybody else. She thinks that I'm just trying to blow up as the next YouTube star. And I get that. I empathize. She doesn't understand my intentions. But here's the thing. Once people get to know you, they will eventually see that your motives are good and your motives are pure. When you are guided by your moral compass, you know that you are going to be fine, all right? So we need to drown out the noise. We need to quit worrying. What's my mom going to think? What's my dad going to think? What's, you know, my coworkers or people or, you know, these random people online, like, here's like, man, it breaks my heart seeing so many YouTubers talk about these comments and these comments and how it puts them in a dark place and these negative comments. Like, what? What? Like welcome to the Internet. Like, do you not realize that a lot of people are just Internet trolls and they're going to say whatever they can just to try to get under your skin by letting that affect you. You are giving them exactly what they want. Like, you should see me reading my comments, like, especially the negative ones or people who make fun of like my weight or my appearance or whatever. I crack up about it. Like, I'm like, whoa, like, you know, and then I empathize. I'm like, this person might be having a really bad day. I've even had people comment saying they were having a bad day. You know what I'm saying? So like, but the fact that I do care about what you all think of me, it keeps me moving in the right direction. Here's the thing that you got to realize. The only time you should care what people think is when you're doing something wrong, all right, because what that is, guilt, shame. This is the body. This is the mind's internal alarm system. It's letting you know that you're straying away from the right path. So when people are calling you out on things and you're like, oh, my God, they're right. When people are assuming things about you, oh, my God, they're right. You know what I mean? So if that's happening, then you really need to take a little audit of your situation and say, am I doing the right thing? Are my motives good? Are my motives pure? Was I being selfish, self-centered or self-seeking in this situation? Because if the answer is no, then you're okay. You need to start drowning out what other people are thinking about you, all right, because here's the thing. Nobody on earth has ever done anything amazing, anything great. It pursued their dreams by caring so much about what other people think about them, all right, and use that as motivation to overcome your fears when you want to try something and, hey, I'll burst your bubble again. Aside from not being able to please a hundred percent of the people, here's another bubble burst. You're going to fail. You're going to fail a lot. You know what I'm saying? But like, man, like one other thing that I love about Gary Vee is like, like learn how to like take that and use that as motivation. Like when you get knocked back and you're starting at the bottom, man, the only way to go is up. Like I've screwed up. I failed. When you take these failures as learning experiences, you will constantly improve. You will constantly succeed. Listen, everybody, you're talking to a recovering drug addict and alcoholic. I completely destroyed my life by the age of 27. And my life is amazing today because I was able to start at the bottom and just do nothing but upward trajectory, all right. So go out there and screw up and mess up and improve and learn because if you're learning from your experience, you're doing better than most of the people out there. All right. So check in with yourself. Check in with yourself and seeing how much of your life is dictated by caring way too much about what people think, especially people who don't mean a dang thing in your life. All right, but anyways, I just wanted to go on this little rant and I really hope this motivated or inspired some of you and do me a favor. Leave comments down below. Let me know. Let me know why you think you care so much about what people think. And also let's do this. Let's add a second part to this. What's the worst that's going to happen? What's the worst that's going to happen, right? If somebody judges you, okay, we all judge. So let's have a conversation. Let's get it going. Let's provide each other with some support down in the comments below. Okay, but anyways, that's all I got for you. If you like this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you are new here, I'm always making videos to help you out with your mental and emotional well-being. 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