 Up with this girl on Tinder. We went on three dates in four days. We kiss. It's cool. That's it Then I brought it up to Graham Graham investigates her Instagram finds a Photo with a guy and I click this guy's profile and it had her name as his Instagram bio with a heart I Face-timed her and I was like hey what's going on with this? She's like I was my ex. We broke up He's inactive on social media. Well Graham DMs the guy we call him and say hey Just letting you know I went on a date with this girl What's the deal with you and her and he's all that and it gets all angry. He's all we've been dating for two years I bought her a car. I gave her thousands of dollars. Yeah, we have been together in a loving relationship Check this out sends me a photo of his wall just Polaroids of them all on the wall and he said thank you so much This restores my faith in humanity. I always stores in both destroys the fact that someone go out of their way to give This guy heads up. It's the brocode if that's happening You got to let the other guy know play devil's advocate because I see both side and this is why I was saying if it was me And I was casually dating this woman. I don't want there's no brocode. I'm like don't tell me I'm already assuming if you swim with the sharks Don't be surprised if you get bit if a dude's dating a girl and her Instagram has a PayPal on it He didn't know right he was getting bit I knew of course. I was it needed what the dude needed was eyeballs and Eyeballs through us. Yeah, we should have been non-delusional that man is He was he was a young guy. I think this was his first relationship. He was obsessed with her. Yes I think that's a learning experience. He got to go through as a guy Get your heart broken like that and you move on Yeah But even better to learn to read people Because you got to be careful getting your heart broken too many times because sometimes it doesn't go back and you Stay in that permanent cynicism place. Here's the thing first off humans pursue short-term Meeting relationships lots of women and lots of men do ethics is a complicated question Because in every scenario if you heard her side Sometimes there's another side. I'll give you an example. I knew a very similar situation Wasn't to me but having my friend When the girl was confronted she said I'm dating a man that told me he'll kill me if I break up with her Said I will kill you. He was a jealous latin guy and so she's like, yes I'm cheating on him because I don't love him. I've told him 20 times He won't let me break up with him and I need to find another man So I can move in another relationship because hopefully that dude might even protect me. So there are other sides That's why I say the investigative journalist must To be the true ethical one must interview the girl now if she's a pure liar, that's fine But you wouldn't be surprised that there's an old proverb every man's story Sounds good until you let the other person speak in cross-examination. You never know. I tried to break up with a girl once She's known if you Google time, I won't say which one if Tyler was growing couldn't break up with her Tyler Just people put it up and like She would come drive up and be at my house and be like, I don't want to break up It's like and so finally I cut her off. She ended up actually going She had a nervous breakdown ended up in a home for six months. I felt bad But there's a situation where she I had told her we're not together And she's like we are together. I'm like, I'm a date other girls And she was like she would come a week later and be like you're cheating on me I told you you think we're together I finally blocked her from being able to come to the house. I told My butler guy don't let her in because he would let her in because she was always living with me. So Many sides human mating is the ultimate complex conversation. And so first off There's something called adverse selection Tinder is a ssg a self-selected group of women who tend to be more short term In general Long-term mating women are taken for long periods of time. So when you meet a girl, you know So you got to ask the right questions on our first date. I've luckily never really I mean, I could have been cheated on it's impossible But I don't have many horror stories Because I learned to read people and it's like you got especially as a man becomes a prince You're on your prince king. You better be extra careful I got a question though because obviously I read all the red flags. I was yes I I knew what was going on. I knew it was sketchy But a lot of your for his few jack's first words to me She's like a good girl like so honest loyal. She's like that's because you asked your conscious mind questions Never ask a woman or a man conscious. Let's get let's get on the conscious versus unconscious minds But I want to know yeah, because obviously hindsight 2020 But I definitely remember thinking that it was very sketchy and I was talking to my friends about it And I was hiding all the red flags from from some other people etc Why do people know what's best for them, but they don't end up doing that I knew it was probably not good to continue talking to her. Yeah, but you're unconscious mind. What's good For example, was she beautiful? Yeah Strong genes your primitive mind the whispers of 10,000 generations Are telling you the whispers of 10,000 generations people didn't live that long They're saying mate with her have a kid. She's beautiful. That means low mutation load low parasite load High IQ probably in her family IQ and beauty is also correlated. So your genes are speaking It's not even the wrong voice speaking You have a combination of the modern world hominids are like let's say 1.2 million years old Precursors to homo sapiens homo sapiens. They guess is maybe 300,000 years old From 300,000 bc approximately to 25,000 ish bc. We were hunter-gatherers and tribes relative promiscuity or I should say serial monogamy One man often had a couple wives women did sleep around had multiple lovers They've studied this doctor bus live with the ashe tribe in brazil. They're still pre-civilization rainforest people hodds those all these Then the 15 25,000 years became farmers The rise of real classic monogamy real classic wealth Disparities you still have like all three of those brains Genes don't change that you have the hominid brain That's why men will ruin their life have built their whole life career wealth family They're driving a dude cuts them off They sometimes get out of the car and murder that guy The guy didn't even see you through the win the primitive 1.2 million year old hominid brain You get out and kill why'd that guy do that because he just he was in the 1.2 million Then we have this hunter-gatherer mind That's why we don't like the nine to five job Hunter-gatherers even now to this day they work about four hours a day And they rest a lot and they joke a lot That's why the modern school system doesn't work in the the vast majority of homosapien time You learn from mentors you want to learn to hunt in the jungle the old grandpa the dad would be like today We're going hunting follow me young son. You're 11. It's time you learn and you weren't lectured in a classroom hall So sometimes you were with this girl using that You know hunter-gatherer mind sometimes we do use This mind which is like that woman's my property. That's what happened with the rise of farming So it's like she should only sleep with me And then you fast forward and we're in 2023 2024 and it doesn't make sense our behavior But it does to a scientist it does And so if your goal is to have a modern perception Then you have to override your primitive which is hard And nothing more dangerous to a man than a pretty face