 It's it's guys. It's a guy's job to push things forward, right? That's what a man's job is is he it's his job to move things forward if we gave that job to women it Wouldn't like from from the initial phase for the most part It it wouldn't end up happening and it's guys Who it's their job to push things forward from a physical standpoint and move things forward and forward and forward And it's your job as a woman to make sure that you need to do is make sure that You're either Giving him green lights, right? You're opening the door completely for him to come through your You're either opening the door for him completely You're keeping the door shut and you're making him prove himself by saying hey I'm not gonna open this door unless you prove to me that You know, you're the right guy for me and that we both want the same thing And that you're gonna invest in me and that you want a real relationship if that's what you want or You're shutting the door and locking it completely and not letting him in and the problem with what you did in this situation Is that you open the door and let him come in and what you should have done is shut it and been like hey what are we doing here right and thought about it logically instead of just getting totally emotionally wrapped up into it and making sure that the situation was Clear from the beginning and what you would have found was that it's not and that it's a messy situation And you should have gotten into it in the first place and you should have locked the door