 Welcome to Barbell Logic Rewind. This is the Barbell Logic podcast. I'm Scott Hambrick, and this is Matt Reynolds. We have a special guest with us today. Paul Paul Reynolds. Paul Paul Reynolds. Paul Paul Reynolds. It's my man. Thanks for being here. Yeah. Pardon me? I said thanks for being here. I'm glad to be here. So today we got Paul Paul Reynolds. So a lot of people, I think, listen to this show. They came because we talk about barbells and they learn how to do that stuff better. But over time, we've ended up talking about just life, just being decent folks. And our Friday episodes are often a lot about that kind of thing. And so Matt said, you know, we got to have grand paul in here. I'm hoping I can get him to sing some Marty Robbins after a while. Marty Robbins, he's so good. We'll get there. So Papa, I want to hear about your highfalutin bougie growing up in Springfield, Missouri. I know you come from a royalty family, lots of money. Now, what was growing up in Springfield like for you? Well, we were not highfalutin in royalty at all. We lived at 242 North National. That's the first place I remember living. That's right across from the quarry wall. It's a park now they've filled in the quarry. My dad used to work down there in that quarry by breaking rocks with a sledgehammer. And he got 50 cents a load for a carload of rock that he would break and then send up to the kiln. And that was before I even started school. Like I say, we were pretty forward. My mother was a nurse and my dad broke rock. And I just played and had a good time. You had two brothers and a sister, right? Tell us about your siblings. My brother, Jim, was four years older than me. And my sister, Pat, was six years older than me. And my brother, Les, was seven years older than me. And my sister carried me around when I was a baby. She thought I was her baby doll. And all of my life, all of my life, she was a very protective of her little brother. When you got around me, you better not mess with me if my sis was around. Or she'd take you down. She'd take you down, take you out. Aunt Pat's awesome. How long ago did she pass? It's been about six years now. Oh my gosh, she goes by so fast. Aunt Pat was a firecracker. She was about five, one, or so. Five, two, right. Five, two and a hundred pounds of nothing, right? And she would murder a man three times her size. She was head security for a major department store. Like a region, she was the regional security man. Yes, she was. Right now they're for a single store. Or several stores. And she has lots of stories of carrying out guys my size out, pinching them by the ears, and whooping their tails all the way outside the store. And then I can remember, we went fishing. You guys started to go fishing in Canada. And what year, you remember, what year did you guys start going up there? About 1969. And went just about every year until... 40 years. Yeah. 40 years. And I got to go, my first year I got to go, I think you had to be 13 to go. So when I was 13, I got to go. Those are the rules. Yeah, right. So it's a coming of age sort of thing. And Aunt Pat was there. And I just, I just remember her holding her own against all these, you know, all these big guys. Just this little, I mean, she was a firecracker. She'd put you in her place. And she was great though. She was awesome to deal with. And then... May I tell you one story on her that for her? I mean, you know, she can't do anything about it now. It was so much fun. We were having a fan picnic one day. And she and I went to Walmart to pick up some goodies to take to our family picnic. And when we got to the checkout line, there was a man right in front of us tossing these things on there to be checked out. And he said, now this item here is on sale. And the young lady said, I'm sorry, sir, but that's not on sale. And he grumbled a little bit. And then the opportunity said, now I know this thing is on sale. And she says, sir, I am so sorry. That is not on sale either. And he threw everything he had up there and started cussing and then walked out of there. And then we stepped up to the counter and I looked at these two ladies behind the counter and I said, do you think he was tough? You evaluate on us. And about that time, he came back in around a sign. He had just disappeared around behind a sign. And he come around and he started right at me. I'm the only man there are three ladies there, including my sis and two other ladies by the counter. He started right at me and saying, you think that's funny? You think that's funny? He kept coming close to me and my sis stepped between me and him and said, hey, jerk, out the door now. And he looked at her kind of funny and took one more step towards me and she hit him right in the knees with the cart that she was pushing. And she said, did you hear what I said? Jerk out the door now. And he went right out the door. These two ladies behind the counter was shaking. And she looked them said, never mess with my baby brother. And how old was she when this story occurred? She was about 80 years old. And I'm guessing for knowing at Pat that the term jerk was cleaned up a little bit for the podcast. That's very possible. So and then Uncle Les, your oldest brother, right? Or is Jim the oldest? Yeah, no, Les was the oldest. Yeah, so he became assistant chief of police in Springfield. That's correct. And one of the funniest guys you'd ever meet, this guy could, oh, his stories were incredible. He had bigger ears than you, which is saying something. That's hard to imagine. But you guys became, you guys were really close. Yes, yes, we were. Not when we were younger, she was seven years older than me. So we weren't very close when we were younger. But when we were both married, we spent a lot of time fishing together and bowling together and spent really too much time away from our wives. We loved our time bowling and going to the lake and stuff like that. So yeah, we got very, very close. Did he help get you on? You became a police officer in Springfield, Missouri. Yes, I'm sure he had something to do with me being hard very quickly. And then how long did you work? What was working like a police officer life? Three years. Three years. Yes. 67, 68 and 69. I was on police force. Any great stories from the police days? The story that sticks in my mind so much was it was a beautiful summer night. It was about 11 o'clock at night. And I had a reserve officer riding with me and we were in about the 200 block of South Glenstone. There was a service station inside there and they had a soda pop machine. We'd pull the soda pop out. I was sitting on the machine drinking some soda pop and I got a call saying there if it had been a shooting in the 1700 block of East Cairo and my lieutenant come on here and said car three stay away from that location until I get there. Well, we were only half a block away from that place when that happened. So I disobeyed those orders and we jumped into the car and drove right up the street and there was a lady lying with her feet in the street and her body on the parkway. And when we pulled up and stopped, the older couple came out of the house and said that's our daughter and said the man that was running from her was dragging her up the sidewalk by her at the hair of her head. And she jerked loose and she started to run and he shot her three times in the back with a 22. Wow. And then they said he just left here just now in a two tone white and blue Plymouth and turned south on Glenstone. I jumped in the car and radioed that to headquarters and a friend of mine that was driving in the next district south happened to be at Sunshine and Glenstone when that happened and this fellow run the red light right in front of him. He pulled in behind him and the guys pulled over towards the curb real slowly right there in front of the plaza and put that 22 rifle to his head and killed himself. Good. And the story has no ending to it because we know no one ever knew what the situation was. Were they having an affair, what was going on, no one knew. Wow. But all we knew was both of them were dead. Yeah, that's crazy. There is some justice sometimes. I know right. It's crazy. Amen. So then you, did you start at Eagle Sheet Metal after that? Was that your... Actually I'd had two years of apprenticeship in Eagle Sheet Metalworks before I went on the police force. Okay. So when I left the police force, I came back to Eagle and spent another 38 years at Eagle Sheet Metalworks. As everybody does in that generation, right? Everybody just worked one job forever. What was that like, 38 years? Did they ever get monotonous and old or was it just like this is what you did? Yes, yes, somewhat. And every job gets monotonous and somewhat. But I was good at what I did and I worked in the feed mills for my company most time. A lot of times I'm the big MFA feed mill in Aurora and quite a bit of time in the feed mill and MFA feed mill on Booneville Street and did a lot of work for them. I saw my 38 years. You see your metal all over the top of those buildings and it's just kind of fun to be a part of it. And he said that everything gets monotonous after a while, work-wise. And it does, you know, I think a big trick is to trick yourself into enjoying what you're doing. Cause my dad told me that whatever I did, I'd hate it in 10 years anyway. So go get paid and then try to find a way to like it, you know? Yes, sure. You bet, you bet, you bet. You got to do a lot of crawling up 100 feet above the ground and walk around on pipes. Yes, yeah, I worked high. When I first started it was spooky to me but after a while it became second nature. I was just as comfortable 300 feet in the air on a swing as I was standing on sidewalk. I just didn't. I'm still not comfortable with it. I walked across, I was in Haiti last week and probably a lot of our listeners don't know that was in Haiti on a mission trip, working with kids that had kind of been saved out of slavery. And at one point we were walking the neighborhood and trying to kind of see what we were getting into. And we had to walk across a bridge that- A rope bridge? It wasn't a rope bridge, it was like a sheet metal. Like the metal was, you know, like a 16th of an inch thick sort of metal. And there were holes all in the sheet metal. And underneath is the river which is just loaded with trash. And it was way down there. I mean, it was at least 150 feet down. And the boy that made fun of me, I walked across and I was praying all the way across the thing that I wouldn't fall through. Cause I knew a human my size hadn't been across that bridge. No, you're the size of five. Yeah, probably ever. As a matter of fact, as soon as I walked across it, the Haitians started clapping and they were like, all right, we can party on this bridge now. So we can cross this bridge. So you got to tell us the story about meeting your bride. Because it's one of my favorite stories is when you guys first met. I'd love to tell that story. I was starting the fourth grade, which would have been 1942, 43. We just had moved back from Portland, Oregon. We'd lived out in Portland, Oregon during the wartime, just one single year and came back to Springfield. And we bought a little farm out north of Springfield and I started Plendon Valley, which is a little one, one of them little one room school house you still hear about. And there was four or five girls, five girls and two boys in our class. And one of those girls was Shirley Ann Stafford and Shirley Ann had blonde hair, hair that hang way down below her waist. And she looked like an angel. And I was pretty well smitten the first time I ever looked at her. But I thought that she was a way out of my class because her dad owned a grocery store and we couldn't hardly afford to go in a grocery store. So I just assumed that they were millionaires. They owned this grocery store. Well, found out a few years later, of course, that they were just barely eking out a living in that little store. But anyway, I didn't think about her being a girlfriend because of course she was far in my class. But we played together, rode bicycle together and spent some time together. And in the summer between our fourth and fifth grade year, there in front of her store was an ice house where her dad kept block ice. And there was an ice pick stuck in the wall there and she pulled an ice pick out of that wall and she carved AS plus LR. That was Ann Stafford plus Lynn Reynolds. And my cousin said, I know what that is. That's Ann Stafford plus Lynn Reynolds. And she said, yeah, I like him, but he don't like me. And I said, oh, but I do, but I do. But the relationship started right then, this summer between our fourth and fifth grade year, we started calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. And it's lasted all the way through grade school, high school, we graduated in high school in May of 53 and was married in August of 53 and was married to that lady for 60 years, eight months and nine days. And as I share so many times with people of my thing, I tell them about our relationship. I would love to tell them that it was a beautiful, wonderful relationship the entire 60 years, eight months and nine days. But actually after being married to her by six or seven years, I got pretty hung up on myself and my brother and my bowling and my golf that I enjoyed so much became more important to me than she was. And I really did not treat her well for so many years. And then one day God broke my heart for the way I was treating her. And when he did, he really showed me through his eyes the way I'd been treating her. And it truly broke my heart. How old were you when that happened? Well, it was 1992. So how old would I have been? I'm born 1935. So it's, you know, anyway. 63? Yeah, sounds about right. But I have all my knees. If you've seen the movie, Fireproof and Caleb but got down on his knees next to that bed with his wife apologizing to her, I have treated you so badly. I've been so selfish. I went right through that same conversation long before that movie was ever made. Looking her in the eye with tears run down my cheeks and saying, sweetheart, I will never treat you that away again. Nobody or nothing will come between you and me unless it's Jesus himself. And I've told everyone she would love to believe that but I treated her so badly, so long it had to be proved. Right. So it probably took two to three years before she knew in her heart that I meant exactly what I said that our relationship was that beautiful and it just got more beautiful all the time. Every year God made it sweeter and sweeter until the Alzheimer's disease started taking her away which was somewhere around 06, 26 that she really started bothering her and bothering her and of course got worse and worse and worse and worse. And finally she got to point where she, I took care of her every day but she got to where she was in the ambulance. I had to put her in a nursing home which broke my heart but the nursing home was only about three minutes from my house so I could get her out of bed in the morning and feed her breakfast and again at noon I would feed her lunch and spend time with her. And it was even before I put her in the nursing home she had ordered me out of the home a couple of times. She said, you're not my husband. He's probably dead, I haven't seen him for years but when she was in the nursing home I was the only familiar face that she knew. I would walk in, I'd start down the hall and y'all know how a nursing home people looks. She'd be sitting in a wheelchair and she'd be like this and all of a sudden she'd go. And the nurses in the aid just say, look at Shirley, look at Shirley, look at Shirley. And I get closer to her and she'd hold her arms up to me and hug me and I'd kiss her and she'd say, thank you Jesus for bringing my good man to me which was a gift of God to me and blessing to me but then on the 11th day of April of 2014 I went in to see her at nine o'clock in the morning and the hospice nurse had called your family in. This is the day she's going home to be with the Lord. And so my family came in including Matt here and daughter-in-laws, the grandkids and great grandkids and the grandchildren brought a couple of guitars and we sang hymns and praise songs and had a service and the people in the nursing home was gathered around the door listening to our service we had. And it lasted from about noon on that Saturday morning until three 20 in the morning of the Sunday morning when all of a sudden she stopped breathing. And when she stopped breathing, I told my family she's gone, gathered around the bed, let's hold hands and thank God for her life. And we did and she was gone and I miss her very much but every single night when I go to get ready to go to bed the last thing I do is turn the thermostat down and her picture hangs right above my thermostat and I reach up and I kiss her and I say, sweetheart, I love you so much. I'll see you in the morning. And I have that promise of God that I will see her in the morning. What morning I don't know. He has told me it's done in my business. You take me when he's ready. Grandma was a, she was a like a perfect 1950s wife, like the kind of wife you picture, you know, I remember her Christmas and Thanksgiving was always, I'm sorry. By the way, his jeans did this to me. So are you guys gonna hear me cry all this thing? It's his fault. I've never been in the church service with my grandpa where he doesn't yank out the hanky and blow real loud about 10 times. And you know, amazing cook and the kind of thing that like the kind of life that we want to live. I can remember, you said that your marriage really repaired in 93. Is that what you said somewhere in there? What'd you say? 92? 96. 96. So I was 17. So you guys have been married? 30, 43 years at that point? Well, that's, we were married 60 years, eight months and nine days when she passed away. So yeah, so yeah, so that's about right. Yeah, so 40 years of just a marriage that was just sort of stuck in a rut. Yep. And I can remember the impact that that had, that your marriage being repaired had on our entire family, you know, because they were really the patriarch and matriarch of our family. We were very, very close family. Still are, don't forget it. Yeah, no, I know. They'll still whip me. Yeah, and so it just made a huge impact. One thing I love about going over to Papa's house is there's only been one change to the entire house since grandma died in my grandma's house. First off, I think it's fair to say grandma had some OCD. Is that fair to say, is that fair to her? Would you tell me what OCD is? Oh, like obsessive compulsive. She was the cleanest human you've ever met in your life. Oh yeah, there was no cobwebs there, no dirt. I mean, you could eat off any toilet, anywhere at all times. All her, they have a big library of books and she'd taken all the books and she covered them with contact paper so they would all match exactly the same, right? So they should deal with the different. Not only is it a true story, they're still in there like that, right? And so, and the house is still, she had bedrooms that she would do in color theme. So there's the green room and there's the red room and there's, you know, and I mean, it's still exactly the same. There was only one change that occurred after grandma left and it's that she had a piano. My grandma was this amazing piano and it's this thing that we always did as a family. We would come in and we would sing Christmas songs together and stuff at Christmas. Also around the living room, grandma would play Christmas that, you know, it's very, very, it's a wonderful life sort of, sort of thing is what it was. Of course, when, you know, when grandma passed, nobody could play the piano and see that piano has been replaced with like a 74 inch television. And it was right. I mean, the piano was the, was the center focal piece of the living room. So the piano was out, the TV's in, but other than that, it's all the same. And you joke, you joke that we'll go over, grandpa, invite me over and we'll, you know, I'll go over and watch the World Series with him or something. And, and he'll, you know, we'll have, we'll have cheese and crackers and drink a soda or something and he'll say, man, I just, I can still hear Shirley saying, Lin Reynolds, don't you let them eat in my living room? And so it's like grandma's rules still, still hold true. Yeah, I still think of that. Every time I fixed me a bowl of cereal and I go in the living room to watch the ball game or the golf tournament, I can hear her say, this is, I'll turn that corner without a bowl of cereal in my hand. Lin, Edward, don't tank food in my living room. Yeah, it's good. You have played golf your entire life. Yes. You're a big golfer. I was a joke about how many holes of golf are you playing a day now? Not nearly as many as I used to. Yeah. Now, now we're playing 18 holes and we're going home. But for many, many, many years, we played 36, 45, well, there has been days we played 72 holes in one day. 72 holes? I have had nine hole-in-ones in my time. The most average golfers never have a hole-in-one, but one good friend of mine from church said, let me see you play 36, 45 holes and you play five days a week, maybe six. Boy, that's a lot of shots at a par three. It makes sense. Some of them would go in. Eventually, some of them go in. Yeah, that's awesome. So tell us about your kiddos. I have three sons, Ron, Steve, and Dan. And by the way, Dan, on the 13th of February, turned 60. That makes all three of my sons in their 60s. I said, you know your old when? When all three of your sons are in their 60s, you're an old man. But I had 12 grandchildren, one of those grandchildren perished a couple of years ago, three years ago, lifting weights, by the way, gosh. By the way, let me inject. So those of you guys that have read my article called Barbell Safety, that article was written because my cousin Kenny got stuck under a barbell on a Smith machine bench press. I don't know how to handle this with my family. I'm the weightlifting guy, you know, and they're asking questions. And so those of you guys that have read that article, that that came out in response to, to the death of my cousin Kenny and your, your grandson a few years ago. And so you got 12 grandkids, 12 grandchildren. I've got 17 great grandchildren and my 18th one will be here in probably less than a month. So I'd say the Bible says, blessed it is a man whose quiver is full. I'd say my quiver is full. However, it's still filling. So the question is, will you hang on long enough to get some great, greats? That's what I'm wondering. Your daughter just turned 13. They lost pushing anything. I've got two granddaughters now, 13 years old. If I live another seven years, I will be at 90 years old and I could have some great, great grandchildren. That's true. Not one of my favorite. I think my favorite memories of growing up with you is we would take these, we would take these road trips. So when I was a kid, we lived in Memphis. My dad had taken a church outside of Memphis to actually outside of West Memphis. Those of you guys have heard the story. And grandma and grandpa lived in Springfield. And so we would end up doing several road trips a year from Springfield to Memphis, which at the time that was before the speed limit went up. That was probably a six to seven hour trip out to Memphis. And now you can, you can hum it at about five. It's a little faster. And you always drove really crappy cars. You had a crappy old Buick, I remember, right? And then, right? Yes, yes. 76 Buick. 76 Buick, yeah. And he never, I remember grandpa never locked his car. I can remember grandpa taking me to Bass Pro as a kid. You know Bass Pro is the headquarters are here in Springfield. And that's kind of when you're poor, that's a place to go like hang out. And you go in. Yeah, it's entertaining. You go in, you can look at the fish tanks and turtles and all sorts of stuff. And so we'd go. And I can remember grandpa taking us to Bass Pro and he took his keys and threw them under the floor mat in his Buick and just shut the door and left it unlocked. And I said, grandpa, grandpa, you didn't lock your car. And grandpa was saying, hey, look around, look around the parking lot. Find the one car you're not gonna steal. He's like, that's why we leave it unlocked. It'll be fine. And so, but then he would take us on these road trips and the best part about the road trips was he would sing these songs. He would sing Marty Robbins songs. He would sing, who's saying Big Aaron and Sip? Is that Marty Robbins? That's also Marty Robbins. That was my favorite. You'd sing these old country. Is it called the other country? I mean, is that like early? What's the style of that? Country Western. Yeah, just cowboy songs. And so. Marty wrote more so songs. Yeah, El Paso. I think El Paso is my favorite. Yes. My favorite song. I would love to get, if you can, early in the morning, a few bars of, yeah, let's do out in the West Texas town of El Paso. El Paso. Will you do that? Yeah. All right, let's sing it. This is, and it was the one, you know, there's no, he didn't play the tape. It was acapella. All from memory. Oh yeah, he just sang it acapella. So it wasn't like a tape or an eight track in the 76 Buick was in. He would just sing this stuff. And so I would love to get a few bars. That was a part of our trip to Canada fishing. Always sing those Marty Robbins songs on the way. Yeah. Out in the West Texas town of El Paso. I fell in love with the Mexican girl. Night time would find me in roses cantina. Music would play and Felina would whirl. Blacker the night were the eyes of Felina. Wicked and evil while casting their spell. My love was deep for this Mexican maiden. I was in love but in vain I could tell. One night a wild young cowboy came in. Wild as the West Texas wind. Dashing and airing a drink he was sharing with wicked Felina, the girl that I loved. So in anger I challenged his right for the love of this maiden. Down with his hand for the gun that he wore. My challenge was answered in less than a heartbeat. The handsome young stranger laid dead on the floor. I believe that's enough, don't you? That sounds good, man. I'm glad. Thank you for saying that. Love Marty Robbins. It's so good. I noticed your lips was moving with every word. Out through the back door of roses I ran. Yeah. You bet you. I know everywhere to that song right. I don't know if I can hit the high notes though. You know, we have talked a lot about the. I got to talk more about Marty Robbins. That's a waltz. Aren't very many waltzes anymore, you know? Is it really that it's that one, two, three? Yeah, it is out through the yeah. Yeah, I'll be. I didn't thought about it, but not very many. You know, yeah, not very many. That's good. We've talked so much about the refining power of voluntary hardship via weight lifting. And I think both Scott, you and I both feel like there are some certainly some lifestyle aspects to this to this podcast that are just so closely tied to the those of us who are drawn to this lifestyle of voluntary hardship and doing what's right and leading our families well and leading our business as well and being a good husband and good father and and good leader. Man, I don't think you can find a better guy than the guy sitting at the end of the table and I'm thankful. Thank you, Matt. Thank you. I love it. I appreciate you modeled being a husband and dad for me and to my dad, who is a great father as well. Yes, he is. He certainly loves my mom, loves my mom, loves his kids. And, you know, God has really blessed our family because of the way you've led. And I know you would look back and say that there were many years that you didn't lead the way you should have. But right. But I think I think that's part of it, too. It is. It is. He was able to come out of that. And he was very he was very open and honest with the family, not just with his wife, but with all of us and said, this is not I haven't been the dad and husband I should be. And so any and, you know, it was a change. It was a big change in you and it changed the entire family, for sure. By the way, I have the opportunity to share the same stuff that you're talking about. Well, I mentor about 10 different people that I meet with some of them weekly and some of them monthly and I share with them. Don't don't be satisfied with a pretty good marriage, a decent marriage. You don't have to do that. Yeah. You can have a wonderful marriage if you will just give your marriage to God. Yeah, mentor a bunch of young guys in their fifties and sixties. Yes, that's right. Is that almost of them are in their fifties and sixties, the guys you mentor? Yep. Yeah. Yeah. So in ninety six, you went to your wife and you said, I haven't done well, I could have done better, etc. Yes. And so did you I mean, you were aware of that, I guess, right? So you had a coming out and you made friends with everybody. I guess we didn't we didn't hide that fact at all. We didn't have that fact at all. They all realized that I was not treating my girl right, wondering why she was staying with me and and when when God brought me to my senses, I look back and I wondered the same thing. Right. Because let me tell you, if she had had friends that meant more to her than I did and hobbies that meant more to me, that I don't believe I stayed with her. So it was a God, the God thing that kept us together. And so I can remember before the change. I mean, you guys have lived in the house that you live in now. Since I was about three, probably, we lived in 37 years. Yeah. So yeah, I'm 30. Hold on. I'm 39. 39. So gosh, I still remember the house on route five. You lived on. I remember doing like Easter egg hunts and stuff out there. You were out on five, six acres or something. You have some it's makers out there, right? And so I can remember when you moved to the house. But all my life, I can remember as a kid walking in the front door of your house and you would be sitting in the recliner in the corner and grandma. And then there was a couch between. So there was a recliner and then a couch and then another set of like couches and love seats and grandma would be sitting over there on those love seats. So there would be an entire couch between you and grandma. And when things changed, I would walk in and grandpa would be sitting on the couch and grandma would be sitting on his lap. I mean, they'd be, you know, they were 70 years old and I'd walk in. And for the rest of my life, like I never walked in that they weren't sitting within four inches of each other forever, I mean, until that. And then, you know, he told the story as best as he could. But man, I watched this guy. How long was grandma in the in the nursing home? She was in the nurse home just just over eight months for eight months. Every day, every day he went and woke her up and served her breakfast. And then he would and then she's at that point, she was sleeping like 19, 20 hours a day. I mean, she slept all day. They didn't get up for breakfast. So they'd either sleep into lunch time, I'd get her up and feed her lunch. And then then get then get her up and feed her supper. She'd go back to bed in the afternoon. And I had this beautiful entry room there in the nursing home. And after we would eat, I would take her up there to that room. And I would take her out of her chair and put her on the couch and set beside her and hold her hand and tell her over and over and over how much I loved her and sing love songs to her and people coming in. Good to tell, good to tell how deep the love was. Yeah, I could remember walking in and, you know, grandma's head would just be laying on your shoulder. Yeah. Anyway, so it was it's such a sweet story. It's a sweet love story. It's a it's an amazing story of redemption and reconciliation. And, you know, what we strive to be. And I think it's important to note that, you know, none of us are perfect. We're not going to do it right from the very beginning. That's right. I appreciate the fact that you were open and honest about the your own downfalls that made a big change in our lives to understand what it looked like to take responsibility for your actions and move forward. And, man, I'm thankful for it. Thanks for coming here to me, me too. Yeah, thanks for telling the story and doing that. Thanks for having me, guys. I appreciate it. God bless you. So for the ones that stayed here until the end of this, you go clean up your stuff today. That's right. This man did it. Set your house in order. That's not easy. That's not easy. Yeah, I agree. Thank you, guys. Thanks.