 Hey everyone Welcome to another live video. I'm out here in Yorkshire Coast staying here for a couple of weeks and As promised We are going to do Another live hot tub video as we discuss this topic So here we go gonna head to the The hot tub now. It's that time again. It's another knock survivor Live hot tub video. I wish I just put my towel over here. Oh wait. No, it's gonna damp. Here's Nala the cat You are live on YouTube Nala What do you have to say to everyone? Here we are in Yorkshire Coast live from the hot tub Try not to drop my phone Okay, why don't narcissists leave you alone? Let's see what people are saying in the comments SGN 2011 I'm dealing with one right now Who was stalking me on social media and Sending me his flying monkeys to spy on me. I Had to delete everything because I was getting scary Right Callum says they don't leave you alone Because they want to hurt you When you discard them they make it their mission to destroy you at all costs So true Callum the way I see it is Imagine you threw out a watch By accident you just dropped it in the bin. You didn't realize it at the time And it wasn't a very expensive watch If you wanted to you could easily go out and replace it So If you throw that watch in the bin You're probably not going to go chasing after it, but now imagine If you threw a very expensive Watching the bin Maybe it was a Rolex or Maybe it had a lot of sentimental value if you throw that watch in the bin You're probably going to be chasing down the road after the rubbish truck You're not just going to let it go out of your sight and in fact the odds of you even losing that watch in the first place Probably going to be far lower Than if you've got a watch that's just easily replaceable and it's the same thing with these narcissists You see they know your value They know how great you are And that's why they can't just leave you alone Thanks for the donation David Narciss targeted you because you had value You had significance They knew what they were doing when they targeted you and the way they're looking at it is If they just let you go and move on with your life. It's like they're just letting this walking treasure chest just walk out of their lives Because they know your value. It's like they look at it like you're walking out With all of the potential Maybe all of the resources You're walking away with everything valuable Which may rightfully be yours But narcissists are entitled if you're valuable and you're trying to get out of there you're trying to move on They're not just going to let you go because they see you as Being the one who provides the value To the relationship and they know that they need you if they really didn't need you They would just let you go They would just leave you alone You are very important to the narcissist And that's why they can't just leave you alone So that is really the main reason why they won't leave you alone It's because they know your value And the last thing they want to see is you moving on with that value Without them Because they already know they don't have any value of their own Anything valuable that they get it comes from you and they're very jealous They see it as though you're taking it away from them They feel like they're rightfully on you and towards the end they've got to see you as a problem And if you're just moving on and you're doing better without them that's gonna make them regret the decision So then they can't just leave you alone. They've got to chase after you They've got to try and sabotage what you've got So what's everyone else's thoughts on this? Why do you think these narcissists won't leave people alone? She says they don't want to see you happy definitely Because if you're moving on and you're happy and you're doing well That makes them regret things Makes them think maybe they won't made the wrong decision and a narcissist is not going to I did then they're not going to entertain that idea They're just gonna do whatever it takes to sabotage you So they don't have to Have that thought in their minds Neo says they feel like they own you and Want to ride the coattails? It's very true They do see us as their property St. Luga says they are negative people But I also consider something else may be affecting them there are tests in life, it seems Definitely they are negative Think about You know what does negative mean? like in mathematics It's when you're taking something away They can't just leave you alone because they want to take something away from you Which means that you've got what they want Jeanette says they are jealous and also create jealousy division and strife very true, it's because they see us as their property and When we try and get away That makes them feel jealous then As crazy as it sounds They feel like We are taking ourselves away from them It's like we're stealing our own body mind and soul away from the narcissist Donna says they need new gossip to keep friends entertained Oh, yeah, they love gossip They love drama They thrive in chaotic environments Sophia says they are not finished with you mentally or emotionally You are still doing well. They don't like that Keona says they are jealous people fruitful lane Is asking why does the narcissist feel jealousy? There is room at the table for all Oh, if only narcissists had that mentality If they did they probably wouldn't be narcissists at all because the whole nature of a narcissist Is that they have a scarcity mindset? They think there's not enough to go around so They have to cheat lying steel to get ahead They have to throw you under the bus Thanks for the donation Nico Nico says they get their kick from controlling something They know is more valuable than themselves That's so true They really do, you know They want to control the thing that they are envious of That's just how it is, you know, you should take it as a compliment when these narcissists try to control you No one wants to control a bag of crap When it comes to something valuable Like if you have an expensive item a nice car You're gonna want to be in control of that You don't want to see that going anywhere Because you know just how valuable it is So when they try and control you in some ways you can take it as a compliment It should just remind you of your value Sylvia says they want to keep us thinking about them, so we can't move on Definitely I agree with that It's like they can't attach to us But they want us to attach to them Give them supply So many good comments here. I feel like everyone's on the same page here Just enjoying a non-alcoholic beer The weather isn't the best here right now. It is raining a little bit But I really want to make the most of this hot tub while I'm here So how is everyone doing anyway? What stage are you at? How are things going on with the narcissistic relationship Or have you managed to go no contact Sunshine state is emotionally tired Steven says good to see you NS I Commented on your earlier video They are ungrateful for things you do for them because they resent the fact that they are incapable of returning the favor That's so true They want to keep you looking at yourself and thinking you're not doing enough Because otherwise you'd look at them and realize that they're not breaking anything to the table And then you'd wonder what you're even doing around them Human cyborg says my cousins have become the flying monkeys They're against me, but I can't go no contact with my cousins. What should I do? You've just got to go limited contact if you can't go no contact just limit the contact that you are given to them and Remove any emotional attachment Observe their actions, but try not to absorb it Respond rather than reacting and just keep your emotions under control Don't invest too much of yourself emotionally Because they will only Manipulate your emotions and use them to take advantage of you Niko says left my narcissistic business partner one and a half years ago Second best decision of my life life is great now That's great to hear Niko Sandra No contact with mine in 18 months Congratulations Sandra. That's a great achievement. I'm sure it's something that will inspire many people here Tea Prada Divorce five years Every now and then I still feel grief. I'm determined to keep moving forward SGN 2011 I have not gone no contact. He texted me yesterday and this morning He said he was looking for my desk at work to write me a love letter, but my office is locked Texted me this morning a photo Yeah, they will hoover you. It's because they know you've got something they want a Narcissist isn't gonna go around anyone If they can't get something out of them Anyway, it is getting late here Probably not gonna spend too much more time On the hot tub, but there will be more premieres coming very soon Another two tomorrow. I've been working on some really powerful videos lately Which will be coming up over the next few days so look up for them and If you haven't yet do check out my Instagram Narc survivor YouTube There will be pictures of my travels throughout the Yorkshire coast As well as Other cities and towns in the area so Yeah, if you haven't yet Check out my Instagram. It's Narc survivor YouTube Follow me leave a comment and Also, we've got the support forum on the website as well Just head to www.narc-survivor.uk Click on the forum button And you can sign up there and You can get support from other survivors and I will also be answering your questions on there myself as well So, yeah, definitely check out the Instagram and the website Thank you all for joining me Out here In the Yorkshire coast in the hot tub