 Wendy says how do I get him to talk? He only wants to talk about sex and only wants to see me for his needs. Well that tells you a lot about what's going on there Wendy. You need to make sure like I talked about earlier right you need to make sure that you are getting your needs met and so you need to set boundaries you need to set what the criteria is for you spending time with somebody your your time is your most valuable resource that you have and you don't get any more of it and so you have to make sure that you're only giving your time to men to people to situations that are worthy of you and so if you want something more than just a casual relationship with a man which is what it sounds like you want then you need to make sure that you aren't just getting into situations where you're only talking about sex where you're only going over at night where you're only doing things where you're hanging out and hooking up you need to set up a situation and create boundaries and create a relationship where you're getting more and if you're not getting those things you need to make sure that you're going out and talking to other men and creating abundance for yourself and getting into situations where you're experiencing that that way it's not like hey I have this one guy and there's this only my only hope is with this one guy and I have to make him love me and do the kind of relationship things that I want even though that's not what he wants clearly and he's showing you with his actions what it is that you want in the fastest way to raise your value and show that you're not going to put up with anything that's not worthy of you is to take your attention away that's the fastest most effective way to do this because all of a sudden he goes from getting all the sexual needs taken care of till all of a sudden it's gone and he's like whoa what happened and you're like hey these are the things that I need I need to be treated like a lady and like a person of value and I need to be prioritized and I want to have a real relationship and I want exclusivity and I want emotional connection and I want all these things right and if he's not willing to step up and start providing those things then you need to be able to walk away and go to somebody that is and if he decides that he wants to step up and do those things the only way that he's going to do that is if you pull away and create some space there for him to do those things otherwise it's not going to happen