 Hi guys, welcome back to my channel. In today's video, I'm going to be answering the question, do I like being adopted and kind of like what it's like telling people I'm adopted. I think I filmed this video and then I ended up accidentally deleting it, so that's cool. So I'm just going to be like talking extemporaneously, like a lot of my videos, and you guys really seem to like that. Before we get into it, make sure you're following me on Instagram. So starting off, do I like being adopted? Well, I think the best answer I can say is I don't know what it's like to not be adopted, so it's very hard to answer that question. But from my experience and family, I do love being adopted, obviously. Again, my mindset is I could be somewhere else right now on this planet, and I don't think I would have probably had the same opportunities and education and love. So yes, I do like being adopted. I think that sometimes people's experiences could scar them or their viewpoints could be skewed because maybe they ended up with a family that probably wasn't the right fit. And I do understand that that happens sometimes. That's the answer for that question. But diving on into like telling people you're adopted and how it might be a little weird and a little uncomfortable at times and my advice, I've always been a very open person. So when I introduce myself, that's kind of like part of my identity is being adopted. I mean, like, you know, my spiel of like, Hi, I'm Alex. I'm adopted. And I have two moms, you know, that just kind of rolls off my tongue just to like get it out there. And I think that if you are experiencing times where like, you are hesitant, and then you feel like you have this secret, then I think that could really like take a toll on you. And if you feel like telling someone, then I think that you should. So I think you should be you should listen to yourself like intuitively, do you feel like you need to tell that person now clearly, I don't go up to like random people, you know, at the grocery store and say, Hey, I'm adopted, like, no, that's not how it works. But if I'm going to be, you know, let's take my job at the TV station, for example, like I will tell, you know, my boss or someone I did freelance for that I have two moms and stuff, because I'm going to be spending, you know, a good amount of time with that person. And I want them to know who I am kind of where I came from, all of like that. So if they have like an issue with that, then you know, I can be prepared to be hated and stuff. Okay, yeah, I just kind of like, I feel the need to tell that to someone. Now, if you're feeling hesitant to tell anyone about like your personal life or like, you in general, don't feel the need to and that's something that you yourself have in control. So if you don't feel comfortable, obviously, you don't need to tell someone when it comes to my experiences, though, it's kind of obvious when I'm out with my parents, one of my moms, two of my moms, so it's kind of like blatantly obvious. So it's not like I necessarily have to tell someone verbally, if like, we're all out together. And typically when we are out together, my mom just says, Oh, yeah, we adopted her when she was one, if like they have questions or whatever. And then I don't have to do it. I'm like, Oh, thank goodness, because like, sometimes I don't like talking to people. Yeah, so my parents kind of take care of that if we are out, we also always make the joke of like, Yeah, we look exactly alike. And sometimes when like, Valerie's eyes get small when she smiles, you know, we joke around saying that like, Oh, yeah, we look so much alike. Typically, when we are out, we don't have to do an explaining because people can put two and two together. When it's just me, I'm just kind of like, you know, I have to be the one to say, Yeah, I have like two moms, and that sort of thing. I think it was harder for me to say that I was adopted and stuff. When I was a child, because you never know, like what the other person or the other kid is going to say. And I feel like that's part of the reason why I don't really like a lot of people my age. I know that sounds weird, but like, even as a child, like it wasn't like my favorite thing to like hang out with like people my own age. But other than that, when I was like a little little kid, like I never wanted to hang out with people my own age. And I think it was because I grew up in an office, like Valerie had an office space and like, there's only adults there. I know this is kind of getting off sidetracked. But when I did start like with kids, you never know how kids are going to react. So like, I don't know, I just remember at one of my like grade school things, this one girl, I still remember her name. I think her name was like, Oh, I think her name was Emma. And if you guys are watching this, if you like know me personally, it's not the Emma you think it was like some girl that went to my old school. So this girl, she was like, thought it was weird that I had two moms. And then this other girl named Lindsey, I don't feel like bad saying their names because like, no one really knows them except if you went to like my old school. Yeah, she also thought I was weird. So those two people like thought it was weird. But other than that, I haven't really gotten a lot of hate, but I would always be nervous to tell anyone like my age like about me like that. I don't know. But then again, I was just like, whatever, because if you're gonna like me, I want you to like me for who I am. If you don't like me, I want you to not like me for who I am. So yeah, those are the only two encounters that I've had with like telling people my age, which it was a little uncomfortable to do. And I would get nervous about that. But luckily, like it wasn't that big of a deal. And I hadn't had a lot of hate from a lot of my peers. Luckily or else I think I would have been scarred. Okay, so I did want to touch on one more thing before I tell this little story time about hate that I got, but it wasn't because I was adopted. So the question that a lot of us adoptees get asked, do you want to meet your real parents or where are your real parents? And that question, I don't know if it's just me as an adopted person. It drives me at the wall. And I think I touched on this in another video of mine. So I'm not gonna harp on it too much. But it's because people aren't like educated enough to know that like your real parents are the people that provide for you that teach you things that are there when you're crying because someone hurt your feelings. They're not because an egg and a sperm donor like came together. No. So please, I know that's like one of those things, but please educate yourself when you say real parents because, yeah, that's a little bit, you know, us adoptees, we get used to it and I don't take offense. I just educate. So I just say, well, my biological parents are probably somewhere in China. When people ask you that, that's when it's just like annoying. And the fact that it's like, I wish I wasn't adopted because I don't like getting asked these types of questions because it's just so annoying. But that's why you're put in that position to educate the other person and just to kind of like, you know, show the person or tell a person without like, you know, being rude about it, just like, oh, my biological parents because they don't know and that because they haven't had that experience, you can't expect someone to know that. But I must say, as an adopted person, that question, it makes me like wish I wasn't adopted because it's just one of those annoying questions. Also, I touched on this in another video as well. But when people say, oh, where are you from? And I go Columbus, Ohio, they're like, they like look at me like I have three heads. And I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm adopted. So sometimes I actually do forget that I'm adopted, which is kind of funny. So that is also another experience where I don't like to be adopted. So I'm like, oh, yeah, I could just have to explain this whole thing to a complete stranger, like a taxi driver or something. It's a little like a nuisance. But you know, it's if it I can educate or enlighten or make someone stay better because of a story, then you know, that's all great. So I'm going to move on now to this little story time of a very negative experience I've had with having gay parents. It's not necessarily adoption related. So yeah, there's a lot of things that like are in this video. So I'm just gonna get on into that. I was applying to be a freelancer slash little mini employee for this guy who does video production. And this was like a long time ago before I got my little freelance gig with another person's production group. I came across this little Facebook ad for this media production company. And it was this like one guy who was kind of old. I was like looking at his stuff. I'm like, Oh, that'd be great. So I messaged him. I was said I was interested. I sent my resume. And then we get on this call or whatever. I said I did YouTube. And he was like really, really nice. Yeah. So this guy looks at myself checks out my YouTube channel. It was really cool. And I was going to get a zoom like meeting with him. And he was showing me some of his work. We get on this call and like I do my spiel kind of and this guy happens to be like super religious. Like not that that's a bad thing. If you're super religious, good for you. Like I'm glad. But his beliefs were kind of like against gay people. But he claims he was like, Oh, I get along with like a lot of gay people, but I don't believe in it or whatever. It was like super weird. And it was just like the most negative experience I've ever had, especially, you know, we're in the 21st century. So like that was like kind of shocking to me that my worst experience happened like when I was an adult. But he was like, Yeah, just like I don't believe in that stuff. But I think like it's okay. I don't know. He was just justifying that like it was fine, but like that he didn't believe in it or agree with it. And I was just like, um, that's really awkward. But he was like, it's great that they like adopted you. I don't know. But his work is like really bad. Like when I say bad, like it is so bad. Like it looks like he doesn't know how to work a camera. So that's probably why he thought I did amazing work. Because even though I'm not the best like at video production and like audio and stuff, like I'm gonna tell you my stuff looks a lot better than his. So no offense to him. But that's just like my viewpoint. But he was just like a little negative with that. So I just remember he wanted to continue on like talking to me and maybe work with me in the future. But I just said like, Oh, I'm I appreciate your time. But I'm thinking about looking at something else or just I made some dumb excuse to like not partake with him anymore just because he was honest with me. I was honest with him. But that experience like really left a mark on me in a way. Yeah, that was probably my most negative experience, but it was because I had gay parents not because I was adopted. So I think that is going to be it for this rambly video. I hope you guys enjoyed it. Make sure to give it a thumbs up if you did enjoy it. Subscribe to my channel for more content of all sorts. And I'll see you guys in my next video. 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